January 15, 2025 • 21 mins
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(00:00):
Today's conversation is going tobe about comparison and how
(00:03):
comparing yourself to other momsis actually driving up your
stress level.
That's right.
It impacts how you show up as amom.
We're going to dive intoscripture today to help flip our
mindset so that we can have oureyes focused on God and have a
changed heart.
We're going to be at Matthew andI'm super excited to share with
you some awesome encouragementas we dig into scripture
(00:25):
together, it's going to helpreset that mind and give you a
different perspective to lookat.
So if you are stressing from.
Comparing yourself to other momsfeeling like you're not enough
or don't have enough.
This episode is for you.
Hey mama.
(00:45):
You're in the right place.
If you're looking to overcome,self-doubt using scripture so
that it can take root.
In your mind and in your heart,it's time to finally have
confidence that is going tolast.
Yes.
Even through the hard times.
My name is Caroline Thao.
I am host of the restored mindand I'm also a Christian life
(01:10):
and mindset coach.
So grab your Bible, break outthat journal and get something
to write with because you areabout to thrive.
Ready?
Let's go.
Mom life can be so hard and itcan be especially lonely at
times.
(01:30):
As a new mom, married to my bestfriend who just so happens to be
married to his career.
I was alone most of the time.
And trust me, it didn't feelgood, felt like, I didn't have
anyone to talk to you or to growwith.
But what I did learn in thatseason is that no matter what
community is so incrediblyimportant.
And I just so happen to have afree community that I want to
(01:53):
personally invite you to.
It is easygoing.
It has mamas, just like you whowant to grow their faith to
overcome.
Self-doubt.
They're searching for confidenceand they're working hard at it.
Come join us friend.
It's called building confidencethrough scripture for Christian
moms.
I've linked it in the show notesfor you and I can't wait to see
you there.
(02:13):
Mama.
It's time for you to thrive in2025.
as you might already know, Ididn't grow up in a Christian
home and it might come as asurprise to some of you,
especially if you're new here,but in my late teens and early
twenties, I started reallytrying to get to know God more.
I started going to churchbecause I simply got curious
(02:35):
about God.
And honestly I wanted to knowwhat more is there to life.
You know, and.
My husband and I dated.
And when we finally got married,we were expecting our first and
we decided that we would raiseour children up to know God.
Now that sounded like an awesomeplan, but.
The work is a lot harder thanthe plan itself because now we
(02:56):
have to actually do the work.
And for a long time, I had noidea where to start.
So I ended up observing othermommas at church and in
conversation.
And the more that I saw theirlight shining, the more that I
felt mine was diminishing.
See, I didn't read the Bible asoften.
Nor did I know much about God inthat season of my life.
(03:19):
i was still very new in my faithand had no idea who he is or
where to even start when itcomes to raising our children up
to know God, Then I found myselffeeling all sorts of ways, but
stressed was definitely one thatstuck out to me, especially as I
continued to compare myself toother moms who seem to just be
thriving.
(03:39):
I mean, they just knew what theywere doing.
At least it looks like that tome.
And of course that brought on acycle of negative thoughts.
And before I knew it self-doubthas stuck again to putting me in
a mindset spiral of negativity.
As a matter of fact, one of ourformer pastors at a church that
we used to attend.
What tell us that we're doing agreat job.
but out of my own negativethoughts from comparing myself
(04:01):
to other moms, I simply couldn'tsee it.
see comparison breeds so muchstress and negativity,
especially when you use whatother moms are doing to critique
yourself.
I think it's one thing to usecomparison as motivation to help
you with the next steps.
But most moms are usually sooverstimulated and so exhausted
(04:23):
mentally.
That they can easily fall preyto use a comparison to other
moms as a way of puttingthemselves down.
And they don't even realize it.
I know I certainly didn't inthat season of my life.
Having this comparison mindsetis when you constantly measure
your own life, your achievementsor qualities against others.
So in regards to today'sconversation, you're evaluating
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yourself based on how youmeasure up compared to other
moms.
The reason why you don't want tostay in that mindset is because
it'll drift you further fromGod.
At least it'll make you feelthat way, because then you begin
to decide what is good and whatisn't, but it's actually, God's
holy words like gives you theboundaries in which to operate.
(05:08):
See, when I was comparing myselfto other moms, I began to decide
what was considered successfuland what wasn't, It stopped
being about raising my kids upto know God more.
It became a competition betweenme and other moms and they
didn't even know it.
It became more about appearingto be put together as a family.
(05:28):
In public and.
Showing love and affectionoutside the home, more than
inside the home.
I had a conversation with afriend years ago and this
conversation had absolutelynothing to do with my mothering
journey.
We were just talking about,ourself as wives when we were
doing a Bible study together.
she has shared with me that herhusband asked her why her
(05:50):
friends get the best of her.
But he gets the worse and itmade me stop and think about my
own actions as well.
I did end up asking myself theexact same question.
Why does my kids and husband getthe worst of me?
While the world gets the best ofme.
I mean, if I were to truly showup confidently as a mom, I would
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need to reprioritize who I wasserving.
If I'm being really honest withyou in the season, I was serving
myself.
I was serving the world.
So, if I were to ask you rightnow, who you serve.
what would you tell me?
The world?
Your family or God.
This brings me to a passage inMatthew.
I want to spend time readingwith you and just diving deeper.
(06:34):
Okay.
The transformation is going tocome from God.
But I got you.
If you're needing encouragementor just someone to read
scripture with and just dig in alittle bit deeper.
I think this is going to be suchan awesome session for us to
spend time together andfellowship, especially with God
at the center of thisconversation.
So it's going to be awesome.
Also feel free to get thatjournal out and get something to
(06:57):
write with.
And as we are talking, just feelfree to write down anything that
comes to mind, write down theBible verse that we're going to
be in today.
And write down any questionsthat you may have so that you
can continue to explore it aftertoday's conversation.
Okay.
Now if you are new and you feeloverwhelmed when it comes to
approaching the Bible, I have anepisode just for you.
(07:18):
Episode 93 is going to be whereyou want to start.
So pause me if you have to goand take a listen to that
episode and then come back, orif you want, you can just go
ahead and listen to the rest ofthis episode and then go back
and reference episode 93.
Either way, it's going to be agood place for you to start.
So I hope that you've had timeto get your Bible and your
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journal along with something towrite with, because we're about
to get started.
So, if you could turn to Matthewchapter six, we're going to
start with verse 19.
This is where Jesus talks aboutlaying treasures in heaven.
And the reason I brought yourattention here is because it's
going to be a great reminder ofwhere your heart should be and
(08:00):
highlight the importance of whoyou serve.
So Matthew six, 19 to 24 readsdo not lay up for yourselves,
treasures on earth, where mothand rust destroy and where
thieves break in and steal, butlay up for yourselves treasures
in heaven, where neither mothnor rust destroys and where
thieves do not break in andsteal for where your treasure is
(08:23):
there.
Your heart will be also, the eyeis the lamp of the body.
So if your eye is healthy, yourwhole body will be full of
light.
But if your eye is bad, yourwhole body will be full of
darkness.
If then the light in you isdarkness.
How great is the darkness.
No one can serve two masters foreither.
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He will hate one and love theother.
Or he will be devoted to one anddespise the other.
You cannot serve God and money.
And in the footnotes, on myversion of the Bible that I'm
reading, which is the Englishstandard version, the footnote
for money also says.
In Greek mammon.
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Which is the word used in theking James version.
So it says you can not serve Godand mammon, and we're going to
get into that as well.
what I love about readingscripture is reflecting on it.
So take a moment and write downanything that stuck out to you.
As I was reading the passage,you can go ahead and pause me if
you would like.
(09:27):
There's so much to unpack hereand I could probably sit down
and dig into the meaning of thewords and draw connections with
you all day.
I mean, honestly, This righthere is what brings me so much
joy.
And I just feel like I'm gettingfed as I continue to dig into
God's.
Holy words, and my friend.
I hope it's the same for youthat as you continue to just
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spend time with his word andspend time with God that you
would be filled and it wouldsatisfy you.
Now I know we cant sit here allday and make connections and.
Dig into words.
Cause I know you've got otherthings to do.
So, what I want to do ishighlight a couple of things
that are going to be in keepingwith today's conversation.
And the first thing I want totalk about is treasure.
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The word treasure is somethingthat I think a lot of us can.
Agree that when we think oftreasure, we think of something
that is valuable, right.
Something that is worth a lot.
And maybe even worth the hardwork that you might be putting
in to get this treasure.
It can also mean that it issomething that is coveted.
(10:31):
And so when you think about whatyou want to achieve or you wish
you had, when you comparing toother moms, what could that
thing be?
What is that thing that you'recoveting.
Is it her routine, her freedom,you know, is it.
That she gets the help that youwish you had.
Is it the confidence that sheseemingly carries around with
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her?
Maybe it could be the amount offriends she has surrounding her.
Whatever it is.
Those are things that could becoveted.
And if I'm being really honestand vulnerable with you, my
friend.
All of these things I have atone point coveted seeing other
moms.
Thriving in these particularthings as a mom, I desire to do
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have a constant routine.
i was desire to have freedom soI could do other things.
And then of course I felt badfor wanting to do other things,
right.
So it's a vicious cycle.
So what is it that you wish thatyou had, or want to achieve as
you're comparing yourself toother moms?
And then think of that as acovet.
And when you covet, it means toset the heart upon something.
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The word upon here is going tobe used intensively or with
passion.
Like you really have a desire tohave these things you desire
earnestly.
And I really like how Strong'sconcordance defines this as
stresses the inward impulserather than the object itself.
Because if you think about it,what would happen if you got
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what that other mom has, whatwould happen?
Would that be enough for you?
Would you be satisfied for allof your days or would you
eventually find yourself wantingmore?
I know.
That most of you would say thatyou would eventually want more
because I know that I would sayI would eventually want more.
The satisfaction that we getwhen we get something that we
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covered.
It is so limiting.
There is a shelf life to that,and it's not forever.
And I think this is such a greatopportunity to take a moment and
write down self-reflectingquestions.
One of them being, what are someof the things that you are
coveting right now that is notgoing to give you.
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A lasting satisfaction becausethe things that you desire
earnestly or that you've coveredthe absolute most.
When you get that.
That lasting feel good, feelingthe impulse of getting that is
not going to bring you thesteadfast joy and the confidence
that you're searching for.
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And so it kind of flips thescript on you, right?
its like.
Scriptures holding.
A mirror to you.
And encouraging you to chooseGod, to choose the word of God
and to be in his presence, tochoose him.
So that being with him cantransform your life in ways that
you would never expect it.
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And so, yeah, I really likeStrong's concordance definition
and how it just brought out theidea or really the truth that we
probably chase the impulse ofgetting something.
Rather than truly appreciating.
The reward at the end, eventhough our mind goes directly to
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the reward.
Another reflection point thatwould make a really good journal
prompt and just help you.
Have a more intentional thoughtand gratitude towards what you
have in front of you with yourkids, the season that you're in
and even with your spouse.
Is to write down what you aregrateful for.
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Not focusing on the things thatyou wish you had or the things
that you want in your life andwhat you want to change.
But rather, really, what are thethings that you are grateful
for?
And it doesn't have to beanything that's really big and
profound.
It could be that you're going tofind these wonderful treasures
(14:34):
in your every day.
Mundane routine.
I really wanted to share thatwith you because it makes you
think about.
What you are coveting and it'salso a really good encouragement
for you to go back and, youknow, really make a decision on
what you consider as treasure.
To lay for yourselves treasuresin heaven, you have to let go of
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worldly mindedness.
And that as it relates totoday's conversation is the idea
that you need more, that you'renot enough because you're stuck
in the comparison mindset.
I mean, you're looking at thisother mom and she just has
herself together and you wonder.
Dang.
It must be nice to have that.
And then you start to thinkabout.
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What your life would be like inyour mind, if you had that and
it pulls you away from thereality of what is.
And so when you look at your ownreality, you kind of start to
resent that, right?
You start to think.
Well, if I just had enough help,I could get this done.
Or if my kids were just older.
Then I wouldn't be in thisstressful situation.
(15:42):
And honestly, I'm speaking fromexperience because regrettably,
I used to wish the years awaywith my kids.
I used to say, I wish that theywere at a such and such age
because then I wouldn't have tobe dealing with this and the
messy things that I didn't wantto deal with.
Mamma.
Those are the seasons that Iabsolutely miss the most.
(16:06):
So I'm sharing this with youbecause I don't want you to be
like me wishing and wasting timeaway when the true gift was
right here this day, right.
With your child.
And so it left me feeling like Ijust wasn't enough or that I was
always falling behind andlooking at other moms.
And it just, it was a verystressful situation.
(16:28):
So let go of worldy mindedness,let go of the, of the idea that
you think you'd need more ofsomething or that you're not
enough because you're doing afantastic job.
what are the treasures That Godcan give you that is going to
transform your life becausewe're looking for this
confidence that we want.
Right.
We want to show up withconfidence, but the confidence
(16:51):
that we typically find ourselvessearching for.
Is the confidence that's comingfrom the world, but when it
comes from God.
Our confidence.
Is sustainable.
It is constant.
Why?
Because God is constant.
He stead fast.
He doesn't change.
And so when you start to buildyour confidence that comes from
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Christ, you know, that no matterwhat.
You're going to be okay.
And your confidence in that willnot be shaken and the word
service, Is another one that Iwant to highlight in today's
conversation.
I really like how Jesus says noone can serve two masters, And
then he goes on to say, you cannot serve God and money or as
(17:35):
king James version.
Like I said earlier, and thefootnotes of the English
standard version says mammon andmammon is a Syriac word that
means gain.
So you can not serve God and theworldly gains of whatever your
mammon is because.
It is whatever you desire.
It is whatever you think isworth the gain.
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If you noticed and a coupleverses above 25, Jesus talks
about the eye being, the lamp ofthe body.
Take note that the word eye issingular.
not plural.
He says the eye is the lamp ofthe body.
This is said, very purposefullybecause it goes right into Jesus
(18:17):
telling us that no one can servetwo masters.
It is an incredible reminderthat to remove the comparison
mindset, to start stepping awayfrom that and not let it stress
you out, not live in thatmindset cycle of negativity of
always comparing yourself andthen putting yourself down.
(18:38):
And the comparing yourselfagain, and then putting yourself
down again.
To step away from that.
You have to stop and ask, whatis it that is taking your
attention away from God?
Because he says that if your eyeis healthy, your whole body will
be full of light.
And my friend.
God is light.
(18:59):
There is no darkness that canovercome him.
Ever.
So if your eye is healthy, thenyour body is full of light.
And that light comes only fromGod and Jesus even tells the
Pharisees later in Matthew 23,that the greatest commandment is
to love the Lord.
Your God with all your heart andwith all your soul and with all
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your mind.
So.
I think it's really.
Awesome.
How all of this is intertwinedtogether.
So as you work on removing thecomparison mindset, keep in mind
what you treasure and who youserve.
I also encourage you to set yourmind on things above start
laying up treasures whereneither moth nor rust destroys
and where thieves do not breakin and steal you have everything
(19:45):
you need.
So take a deep breath.
You're doing an awesome job,mama.
Don't use what someone else isdoing as a way to measure how
well your doing.
If anything, go to God first,open up the Bible and remember
who you serve.
Now, I know we talked about alot today, so I just want you to
recap and say that comparison isgoing to bring so much more
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stress into your life.
And that is something that youdon't need.
Okay.
I know you have a million otherthings going on as a mom of
littles.
As a mom navigating throughdifferent seasons as your kids
are growing.
So you don't need the addedstress of comparison.
All right.
And we also looked at Matthewchapter six, verse 19 to 24.
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Where I highlighted the meaningof treasure and serve.
So think about what you treasureand think about what you serve.
And I know.
That it can be so much harder todo in reality, especially with
life going on, but trust me, itis so worth it.
And as always, you can do hardthings.
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This is where we part ways, butI can't wait to be back on
Wednesday to have anotherwonderful conversation with you.
My friend go in peace.
Today's conversation is going tobe about comparison and how
(00:03):
comparing yourself to other momsis actually driving up your
stress level.
That's right.
It impacts how you show up as amom.
We're going to dive intoscripture today to help flip our
mindset so that we can have oureyes focused on God and have a
changed heart.
We're going to be at Matthew andI'm super excited to share with
you some awesome encouragementas we dig into scripture
(00:25):
together, it's going to helpreset that mind and give you a
different perspective to lookat.
So if you are stressing from.
Comparing yourself to other momsfeeling like you're not enough
or don't have enough.
This episode is for you.
Hey mama.
(00:45):
You're in the right place.
If you're looking to overcome,self-doubt using scripture so
that it can take root.
In your mind and in your heart,it's time to finally have
confidence that is going tolast.
Yes.
Even through the hard times.
My name is Caroline Thao.
I am host of the restored mindand I'm also a Christian life
(01:10):
and mindset coach.
So grab your Bible, break outthat journal and get something
to write with because you areabout to thrive.
Ready?
Let's go.
Mom life can be so hard and itcan be especially lonely at
times.
(01:30):
As a new mom, married to my bestfriend who just so happens to be
married to his career.
I was alone most of the time.
And trust me, it didn't feelgood, felt like, I didn't have
anyone to talk to you or to growwith.
But what I did learn in thatseason is that no matter what
community is so incrediblyimportant.
And I just so happen to have afree community that I want to
(01:53):
personally invite you to.
It is easygoing.
It has mamas, just like you whowant to grow their faith to
overcome.
Self-doubt.
They're searching for confidenceand they're working hard at it.
Come join us friend.
It's called building confidencethrough scripture for Christian
moms.
I've linked it in the show notesfor you and I can't wait to see
you there.
(02:13):
Mama.
It's time for you to thrive in2025.
as you might already know, Ididn't grow up in a Christian
home and it might come as asurprise to some of you,
especially if you're new here,but in my late teens and early
twenties, I started reallytrying to get to know God more.
I started going to churchbecause I simply got curious
(02:35):
about God.
And honestly I wanted to knowwhat more is there to life.
You know, and.
My husband and I dated.
And when we finally got married,we were expecting our first and
we decided that we would raiseour children up to know God.
Now that sounded like an awesomeplan, but.
The work is a lot harder thanthe plan itself because now we
(02:56):
have to actually do the work.
And for a long time, I had noidea where to start.
So I ended up observing othermommas at church and in
conversation.
And the more that I saw theirlight shining, the more that I
felt mine was diminishing.
See, I didn't read the Bible asoften.
Nor did I know much about God inthat season of my life.
(03:19):
i was still very new in my faithand had no idea who he is or
where to even start when itcomes to raising our children up
to know God, Then I found myselffeeling all sorts of ways, but
stressed was definitely one thatstuck out to me, especially as I
continued to compare myself toother moms who seem to just be
thriving.
(03:39):
I mean, they just knew what theywere doing.
At least it looks like that tome.
And of course that brought on acycle of negative thoughts.
And before I knew it self-doubthas stuck again to putting me in
a mindset spiral of negativity.
As a matter of fact, one of ourformer pastors at a church that
we used to attend.
What tell us that we're doing agreat job.
but out of my own negativethoughts from comparing myself
(04:01):
to other moms, I simply couldn'tsee it.
see comparison breeds so muchstress and negativity,
especially when you use whatother moms are doing to critique
yourself.
I think it's one thing to usecomparison as motivation to help
you with the next steps.
But most moms are usually sooverstimulated and so exhausted
(04:23):
mentally.
That they can easily fall preyto use a comparison to other
moms as a way of puttingthemselves down.
And they don't even realize it.
I know I certainly didn't inthat season of my life.
Having this comparison mindsetis when you constantly measure
your own life, your achievementsor qualities against others.
So in regards to today'sconversation, you're evaluating
(04:46):
yourself based on how youmeasure up compared to other
moms.
The reason why you don't want tostay in that mindset is because
it'll drift you further fromGod.
At least it'll make you feelthat way, because then you begin
to decide what is good and whatisn't, but it's actually, God's
holy words like gives you theboundaries in which to operate.
(05:08):
See, when I was comparing myselfto other moms, I began to decide
what was considered successfuland what wasn't, It stopped
being about raising my kids upto know God more.
It became a competition betweenme and other moms and they
didn't even know it.
It became more about appearingto be put together as a family.
(05:28):
In public and.
Showing love and affectionoutside the home, more than
inside the home.
I had a conversation with afriend years ago and this
conversation had absolutelynothing to do with my mothering
journey.
We were just talking about,ourself as wives when we were
doing a Bible study together.
she has shared with me that herhusband asked her why her
(05:50):
friends get the best of her.
But he gets the worse and itmade me stop and think about my
own actions as well.
I did end up asking myself theexact same question.
Why does my kids and husband getthe worst of me?
While the world gets the best ofme.
I mean, if I were to truly showup confidently as a mom, I would
(06:11):
need to reprioritize who I wasserving.
If I'm being really honest withyou in the season, I was serving
myself.
I was serving the world.
So, if I were to ask you rightnow, who you serve.
what would you tell me?
The world?
Your family or God.
This brings me to a passage inMatthew.
I want to spend time readingwith you and just diving deeper.
(06:34):
Okay.
The transformation is going tocome from God.
But I got you.
If you're needing encouragementor just someone to read
scripture with and just dig in alittle bit deeper.
I think this is going to be suchan awesome session for us to
spend time together andfellowship, especially with God
at the center of thisconversation.
So it's going to be awesome.
Also feel free to get thatjournal out and get something to
(06:57):
write with.
And as we are talking, just feelfree to write down anything that
comes to mind, write down theBible verse that we're going to
be in today.
And write down any questionsthat you may have so that you
can continue to explore it aftertoday's conversation.
Okay.
Now if you are new and you feeloverwhelmed when it comes to
approaching the Bible, I have anepisode just for you.
(07:18):
Episode 93 is going to be whereyou want to start.
So pause me if you have to goand take a listen to that
episode and then come back, orif you want, you can just go
ahead and listen to the rest ofthis episode and then go back
and reference episode 93.
Either way, it's going to be agood place for you to start.
So I hope that you've had timeto get your Bible and your
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journal along with something towrite with, because we're about
to get started.
So, if you could turn to Matthewchapter six, we're going to
start with verse 19.
This is where Jesus talks aboutlaying treasures in heaven.
And the reason I brought yourattention here is because it's
going to be a great reminder ofwhere your heart should be and
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highlight the importance of whoyou serve.
So Matthew six, 19 to 24 readsdo not lay up for yourselves,
treasures on earth, where mothand rust destroy and where
thieves break in and steal, butlay up for yourselves treasures
in heaven, where neither mothnor rust destroys and where
thieves do not break in andsteal for where your treasure is
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there.
Your heart will be also, the eyeis the lamp of the body.
So if your eye is healthy, yourwhole body will be full of
light.
But if your eye is bad, yourwhole body will be full of
darkness.
If then the light in you isdarkness.
How great is the darkness.
No one can serve two masters foreither.
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He will hate one and love theother.
Or he will be devoted to one anddespise the other.
You cannot serve God and money.
And in the footnotes, on myversion of the Bible that I'm
reading, which is the Englishstandard version, the footnote
for money also says.
In Greek mammon.
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Which is the word used in theking James version.
So it says you can not serve Godand mammon, and we're going to
get into that as well.
what I love about readingscripture is reflecting on it.
So take a moment and write downanything that stuck out to you.
As I was reading the passage,you can go ahead and pause me if
you would like.
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There's so much to unpack hereand I could probably sit down
and dig into the meaning of thewords and draw connections with
you all day.
I mean, honestly, This righthere is what brings me so much
joy.
And I just feel like I'm gettingfed as I continue to dig into
God's.
Holy words, and my friend.
I hope it's the same for youthat as you continue to just
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spend time with his word andspend time with God that you
would be filled and it wouldsatisfy you.
Now I know we cant sit here allday and make connections and.
Dig into words.
Cause I know you've got otherthings to do.
So, what I want to do ishighlight a couple of things
that are going to be in keepingwith today's conversation.
And the first thing I want totalk about is treasure.
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The word treasure is somethingthat I think a lot of us can.
Agree that when we think oftreasure, we think of something
that is valuable, right.
Something that is worth a lot.
And maybe even worth the hardwork that you might be putting
in to get this treasure.
It can also mean that it issomething that is coveted.
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And so when you think about whatyou want to achieve or you wish
you had, when you comparing toother moms, what could that
thing be?
What is that thing that you'recoveting.
Is it her routine, her freedom,you know, is it.
That she gets the help that youwish you had.
Is it the confidence that sheseemingly carries around with
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her?
Maybe it could be the amount offriends she has surrounding her.
Whatever it is.
Those are things that could becoveted.
And if I'm being really honestand vulnerable with you, my
friend.
All of these things I have atone point coveted seeing other
moms.
Thriving in these particularthings as a mom, I desire to do
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have a constant routine.
i was desire to have freedom soI could do other things.
And then of course I felt badfor wanting to do other things,
right.
So it's a vicious cycle.
So what is it that you wish thatyou had, or want to achieve as
you're comparing yourself toother moms?
And then think of that as acovet.
And when you covet, it means toset the heart upon something.
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The word upon here is going tobe used intensively or with
passion.
Like you really have a desire tohave these things you desire
earnestly.
And I really like how Strong'sconcordance defines this as
stresses the inward impulserather than the object itself.
Because if you think about it,what would happen if you got
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what that other mom has, whatwould happen?
Would that be enough for you?
Would you be satisfied for allof your days or would you
eventually find yourself wantingmore?
I know.
That most of you would say thatyou would eventually want more
because I know that I would sayI would eventually want more.
The satisfaction that we getwhen we get something that we
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covered.
It is so limiting.
There is a shelf life to that,and it's not forever.
And I think this is such a greatopportunity to take a moment and
write down self-reflectingquestions.
One of them being, what are someof the things that you are
coveting right now that is notgoing to give you.
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A lasting satisfaction becausethe things that you desire
earnestly or that you've coveredthe absolute most.
When you get that.
That lasting feel good, feelingthe impulse of getting that is
not going to bring you thesteadfast joy and the confidence
that you're searching for.
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And so it kind of flips thescript on you, right?
its like.
Scriptures holding.
A mirror to you.
And encouraging you to chooseGod, to choose the word of God
and to be in his presence, tochoose him.
So that being with him cantransform your life in ways that
you would never expect it.
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And so, yeah, I really likeStrong's concordance definition
and how it just brought out theidea or really the truth that we
probably chase the impulse ofgetting something.
Rather than truly appreciating.
The reward at the end, eventhough our mind goes directly to
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the reward.
Another reflection point thatwould make a really good journal
prompt and just help you.
Have a more intentional thoughtand gratitude towards what you
have in front of you with yourkids, the season that you're in
and even with your spouse.
Is to write down what you aregrateful for.
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Not focusing on the things thatyou wish you had or the things
that you want in your life andwhat you want to change.
But rather, really, what are thethings that you are grateful
for?
And it doesn't have to beanything that's really big and
profound.
It could be that you're going tofind these wonderful treasures
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in your every day.
Mundane routine.
I really wanted to share thatwith you because it makes you
think about.
What you are coveting and it'salso a really good encouragement
for you to go back and, youknow, really make a decision on
what you consider as treasure.
To lay for yourselves treasuresin heaven, you have to let go of
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worldly mindedness.
And that as it relates totoday's conversation is the idea
that you need more, that you'renot enough because you're stuck
in the comparison mindset.
I mean, you're looking at thisother mom and she just has
herself together and you wonder.
Dang.
It must be nice to have that.
And then you start to thinkabout.
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What your life would be like inyour mind, if you had that and
it pulls you away from thereality of what is.
And so when you look at your ownreality, you kind of start to
resent that, right?
You start to think.
Well, if I just had enough help,I could get this done.
Or if my kids were just older.
Then I wouldn't be in thisstressful situation.
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And honestly, I'm speaking fromexperience because regrettably,
I used to wish the years awaywith my kids.
I used to say, I wish that theywere at a such and such age
because then I wouldn't have tobe dealing with this and the
messy things that I didn't wantto deal with.
Mamma.
Those are the seasons that Iabsolutely miss the most.
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So I'm sharing this with youbecause I don't want you to be
like me wishing and wasting timeaway when the true gift was
right here this day, right.
With your child.
And so it left me feeling like Ijust wasn't enough or that I was
always falling behind andlooking at other moms.
And it just, it was a verystressful situation.
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So let go of worldy mindedness,let go of the, of the idea that
you think you'd need more ofsomething or that you're not
enough because you're doing afantastic job.
what are the treasures That Godcan give you that is going to
transform your life becausewe're looking for this
confidence that we want.
Right.
We want to show up withconfidence, but the confidence
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that we typically find ourselvessearching for.
Is the confidence that's comingfrom the world, but when it
comes from God.
Our confidence.
Is sustainable.
It is constant.
Why?
Because God is constant.
He stead fast.
He doesn't change.
And so when you start to buildyour confidence that comes from
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Christ, you know, that no matterwhat.
You're going to be okay.
And your confidence in that willnot be shaken and the word
service, Is another one that Iwant to highlight in today's
conversation.
I really like how Jesus says noone can serve two masters, And
then he goes on to say, you cannot serve God and money or as
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king James version.
Like I said earlier, and thefootnotes of the English
standard version says mammon andmammon is a Syriac word that
means gain.
So you can not serve God and theworldly gains of whatever your
mammon is because.
It is whatever you desire.
It is whatever you think isworth the gain.
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If you noticed and a coupleverses above 25, Jesus talks
about the eye being, the lamp ofthe body.
Take note that the word eye issingular.
not plural.
He says the eye is the lamp ofthe body.
This is said, very purposefullybecause it goes right into Jesus
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telling us that no one can servetwo masters.
It is an incredible reminderthat to remove the comparison
mindset, to start stepping awayfrom that and not let it stress
you out, not live in thatmindset cycle of negativity of
always comparing yourself andthen putting yourself down.
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And the comparing yourselfagain, and then putting yourself
down again.
To step away from that.
You have to stop and ask, whatis it that is taking your
attention away from God?
Because he says that if your eyeis healthy, your whole body will
be full of light.
And my friend.
God is light.
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There is no darkness that canovercome him.
Ever.
So if your eye is healthy, thenyour body is full of light.
And that light comes only fromGod and Jesus even tells the
Pharisees later in Matthew 23,that the greatest commandment is
to love the Lord.
Your God with all your heart andwith all your soul and with all
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your mind.
So.
I think it's really.
Awesome.
How all of this is intertwinedtogether.
So as you work on removing thecomparison mindset, keep in mind
what you treasure and who youserve.
I also encourage you to set yourmind on things above start
laying up treasures whereneither moth nor rust destroys
and where thieves do not breakin and steal you have everything
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you need.
So take a deep breath.
You're doing an awesome job,mama.
Don't use what someone else isdoing as a way to measure how
well your doing.
If anything, go to God first,open up the Bible and remember
who you serve.
Now, I know we talked about alot today, so I just want you to
recap and say that comparison isgoing to bring so much more
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stress into your life.
And that is something that youdon't need.
Okay.
I know you have a million otherthings going on as a mom of
littles.
As a mom navigating throughdifferent seasons as your kids
are growing.
So you don't need the addedstress of comparison.
All right.
And we also looked at Matthewchapter six, verse 19 to 24.
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Where I highlighted the meaningof treasure and serve.
So think about what you treasureand think about what you serve.
And I know.
That it can be so much harder todo in reality, especially with
life going on, but trust me, itis so worth it.
And as always, you can do hardthings.
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All right.
My friend, you heard her.
Thank you so much for taking thetime to leave that review on
apple podcasts.
It brings me so much joy hearingfrom you, sadly.
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This is where we part ways, butI can't wait to be back on
Wednesday to have anotherwonderful conversation with you.
My friend go in peace.
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