Your ex says, “They don’t act that way at my house,” and then the GAL or judge deems that you are the worst parent?
If you’re the parent your child melts down with, you might be blamed for being too soft, too emotional, or too permissive. But what if your child is acting this way because they feel safe with you?
We're diving into the misunderstood dynamics of how children behave differently between two homes, especially when one home is rooted in coercive control or emotional unsafety. I’ll explore why your child might appear calm and obedient in one environment but fall apart in another, and why this behavior is often misinterpreted in court or by professionals.
You’ll learn:
- Why “good” behavior doesn’t always mean a child feels safe
- What trauma responses can look like in kids—especially freeze, fawn, or performative behaviors
- Why emotional outbursts may signal trust in the safe parent
- How family court often gets this dynamic wrong, and how to reframe it
- What protective parents can do to validate their own experience and advocate for their child
If you’ve been made to feel like the problem because your child cries, resists transitions, or has big feelings in your care—this episode is for you.
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