I Married the First Woman Who Gave Me Attention

You didn’t choose her because you were sure.
You chose her because she saw you.
And in that moment, it felt like everything you ever wanted.

This episode of The Secure Husband Podcast speaks to the man who just realized:
“I married the first woman who gave me attention.”

You are not alone.
You are not broken.
You were starved for love — and you settled for a crumb.
But now? You’re waking up. And that changes everything.

What you’ll learn in this episode:
✅ Why emotional hunger leads to fast commitment
✅ How attention feels like love when you’ve been ignored
✅ What your younger self was really searching for
✅ How to stop feeling shame about your past choices
✅ Why healing helps you stop settling
✅ What a healthy relationship looks like when you’re secure

This episode is for you if:
✔️ You feel like you settled too early
✔️ You feel unseen in your marriage
✔️ You want more connection, respect, and emotional safety
✔️ You’re ready to stop blaming and start leading with peace

In this episode, we walk through:

What “I married the first woman who gave me attention” really means

How you confused being seen with being loved

Why this leads to pain once the excitement fades

How to speak to the boy inside you who just wanted to feel wanted

Why you need to lead from healing — not blame

How to build connection from wholeness, not need

You didn’t fail.
You made a choice from pain — and now you’re growing from truth.

Whether you stay, grow together, or move on…
You no longer settle.
You no longer beg.
You no longer betray yourself just to stay safe.

If you struggle with life, marriage and relationships and are ready to thrive,check out the resources from Certified Professional Coach Bruce Abbott at https://SecureHusband.com.

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