June 8, 2025 • 35 mins
from just your local jersey girl to one of the state’s most influential voices- this week’s guest, meg longo shares what it’s really like to go viral and stay grounded.
we talk about how self-love plays a role in building confidence, navigating criticism, and not letting the pressure change who you are. whether you’re growing a platform or just trying to show up for yourself, this one’s for you.
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Julia Salvia (00:00):
Hi Meg, how are you?
I'm great.
How are you?
I'm good.
Thank you so much for being onthe Self-Love Archives podcast.
My name is Julia.
If you guys aren't familiar, Iam your self-love bestie here
to help you love yourself more.
And I'm here with Meg's things.
Yes.
To talk about yourself-love journey.
'cause I'm so interestedto hear, and I'm sure so
(00:21):
many other people are tofrom just where you were to
where you are now and thedifference in those journeys.
It's been
Meg Longo (00:28):
a wild, wild ride.
Oh my
Julia Salvia (00:30):
god.
Ride.
Oh my gosh.
Yes.
I can only imagine, right?
Yes.
So before youbecame an influencer
Meg Longo (00:44):
mm-hmm.
Julia Salvia (00:46):
What were you doing?
Meg Longo (00:48):
Ah, what was I doing?
I. Don't know what I was doing.
Um, no, I'm just kidding.
I, it worked.
I dunno what I'm doing.
I, I dunno what I did yesterday.
I'm like, I dunnowhat I did yesterday.
Yeah.
I just felt like I was oneof those people I graduated.
I just never knewwhat I wanted to do.
I feel like that's kind ofeveryone, unless you're like,
I want to be this or that.
Yeah.
But I, that wasn't me.
Yeah.
Um, but I worked at anon-profit for a long time.
(01:10):
I worked there forlike eight years.
So kind of did thenine to five thing.
You know, thecorporate girl boss.
Mm-hmm.
And I just kind of got to aplace in life where I was like.
Maybe 'cause I'm a Leo, I'mlike, I need to be my own boss.
I need to do my own thingor else I'm going like die
and be really miserable.
So, um, it's thatconfidence in your blood.
So I just decidedI'm gonna go for it.
(01:31):
So I actually came up withthis crazy idea to have a
mobile spray tan business,a body positive one.
It was called Spray Everybody.
And it was meant to make, youknow, women feel comfortable
when you're strippingdown to get a spray tan.
So I did that.
Julia Salvia (01:45):
It's definitely.
It's like that's,it's intimidating.
Yeah.
It's those two minutesof like, okay, I'm
supposed to get naked now.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
I know.
They're like, youcould go in a bikini.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I don't want those tan lines.
No, it's naked or nothing.
Yeah.
Meg Longo (01:57):
And I mean, look, when you go on spray tan pages
too, it's like all the samesort of bodies and I'm like,
you know, I am a curvy girland you know, so I wanted to
create that space and I did.
And um, I kind of justtold my husband, you know,
I'm gonna roll with it.
If it doesn't workin a year, I'll just.
Go back to corporate, whatever.
And then in the meantime,I'm sure, as you know too,
when you own a business, youhave to post on social media.
(02:18):
So I started posting for myspray tan business and then
I'm like, you know what?
I always wanted to tryto be an influencer.
I'm just gonna try.
Yeah.
You know, I havenothing to lose.
And I started posting just on myown, like other personal page.
And it just kindof took off oddly.
And now I'm not, I'm not spraytanning anymore, but I do
feel like that journey led me.
(02:38):
To doing this.
'cause if I didn'ttake that leap, I just
wouldn't be where I was.
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's kind of like
Julia Salvia (02:43):
just the way that the Yes.
The cookie crumbles,if so to speak.
Yeah.
Or like the path that ledyou to actually getting
yourself on social media Yes.
In a way that you wouldwanna get on social media
for to become an influencer.
Meg Longo (02:54):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Like I just.
I didn't even expect this.
Yeah.
Like people ask melike, how'd you get?
I'm like, I don't know.
Like I just, I took like smallsteps and I ended up here
somehow just 'cause I feltlike I was following a path
of what I really wanted to do.
Julia Salvia (03:08):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Oh, I love that so much.
Yeah.
It's going from like, I reallydon't know what I want to
do to just making somethinghappen that you actually enjoy.
Yes.
So do you enjoy it beforeI make an assumption?
I, no,
Meg Longo (03:19):
no.
I do.
I really love it.
I, I really love it and I.
I'm sure you understand too,like it just gives you time.
And I think in a nine to five,I just felt like I didn't have
time and I wasn't, I liked it,but I felt like I, okay, but I
need to do something for myself.
And now I wake up every dayand I kind of make my own
rules and my own journey.
(03:41):
And having that ownershipis just so cool.
Like, yeah.
I, it's something Ialways dreamed about.
So, and you
Julia Salvia (03:46):
get to do something for yourself.
Meg Longo (03:47):
Yes.
Julia Salvia (03:47):
Yes.
Because you get tomake up your schedule.
Meg Longo (03:49):
Exactly, yeah.
You get to choose
Julia Salvia (03:51):
like, okay, I'm gonna do this.
Yeah.
I'm gonna work forwith this person.
Yes, I'm going to do things.
And hopefully, you know, Ialways say like, hopefully
all influencers aregoing about it this way.
Like they're always doingthings that are aligning.
A hundred percent.
It sounds like you are.
Yeah,
Meg Longo (04:02):
a hundred percent.
Julia Salvia (04:03):
Hello?
Meg Longo (04:04):
There's a little bumblebee.
Is that Good luck.
I hope that's good luck.
Julia Salvia (04:09):
So.
The journey that youhad prior to mm-hmm.
Becoming an influencer andthe journey you have now.
Meg Longo (04:17):
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (04:17):
Obviously there's a lot of big differences.
Yes.
But what's the differencein regards to how you're
loving yourself more?
Meg Longo (04:25):
You know, I think that you go to, yeah.
I mean, your whole life journey,you know, you're supposed to go
to school, you go to college,you graduate, you get a job.
You have to follow therules that everyone
else makes for you.
Mm-hmm.
And I thinkyou, you feel pressure just
literally from society,from family, from friends.
And when you live that way,sometimes you just end up in
(04:46):
a place you're, you wake up,you're like, what am I doing?
Like, yeah, why am Ilistening to what society
should tell me to do?
And I think now I'verealized that I am living
for like what I want to do.
And not in a selfishway, but it's just like,
who do I want to be?
Who do I wanna become?
What are my goals?
And I think I'm just soin tune with doing that
(05:08):
now, that it's really justsuch a major difference.
Julia Salvia (05:12):
Yeah.
It's, and I think that getsreally confused when it
comes to like self-love anddoing things for yourself.
Yes.
Is we are so conditioned tobelieve that it's selfish.
Yes.
When it is the, quitehonestly the opposite a
Meg Longo (05:24):
hundred percent.
'cause if
Julia Salvia (05:24):
you're not doing things for you, if you're not
making yourself happy, if you'renot filling your cup, then.
I don't, I just don'tunderstand someone has,
how people expect you to doanything for anyone else.
No.
'cause if your cup'sempty, what are you giving?
No, nothing.
The cup.
Totally.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Meg Longo (05:38):
No, I totally agree.
And I'm like the mostempathetic, like giving person.
Like I literally would die formy family and friends, but I
think it's a different thing.
It's like.
I can do that for thembecause my cup's filled.
Yeah.
And I feel myhappiest, you know?
Yeah.
Oh, I
Julia Salvia (05:54):
love that so much.
That's so great.
That's very Leo of you.
I know.
Meg Longo (05:58):
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (05:58):
It's, that's very Leo of you.
I know.
Leos are just allabout like confidence.
Yeah.
Just being like the star ofthe show and also doing things
like they're so loyal tofriends and family, so Yes.
Meg Longo (06:09):
Yes.
I love that.
I love, I really am.
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (06:11):
On top of the alignment.
Yeah.
Before you, yeah.
So.
What is the one specificthing that prior to this
journey that you're onnow, you struggled with in
regards to loving yourself?
Whether that's a physicalquality, a um, emotional
quality, what, what, what doyou think that would be for you?
Meg Longo (06:33):
You know, I think it really just goes
back to living for others.
I thought that I had to.
Get a job and be successful andlike this corporate girl boss,
and like that somehow would meanthat I made it or I'm happy.
Yeah.
And I just realizedlike, we don't know
(06:56):
where we're gonna end up.
We don't know how life's mm-hmm.
You know, we don't evenknow why we're here really.
You know, and it's like,I think about that a lot.
Yes, I do too.
And I'm like, I need to stop.
Let's go down the rabbit.
I, I need to take anedible, go to sleep.
Um, but, uh, no, I, I just thinklike, yeah, I, I was really
lit. I was living to what Ithought other people wanted
(07:17):
to like or what I should be.
Julia Salvia (07:18):
Yeah.
You're living for other people.
Yes.
Meg Longo (07:19):
Yeah.
And I, I think that the shifthas really been now, and I think
that really comes with age too.
Like I'm in my thirties now andI think, actually it's funny
when people find out I'm in Ithirties, they're like shocked.
They're like, how did you start?
And I'm like, you can doanything at any age, you know?
Yeah.
And I think in my twentiesmaybe I was just a little less
confident in going for it.
(07:39):
Yeah.
And now that I'm in my thirties,I'm like, you know what?
Like.
You only got so much time.
Let me do it.
Julia Salvia (07:44):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Because we're thinkingso much about what other
people want from us.
Yes.
And what other peopleare expecting from us.
Yes.
That we're like, I feel likeour heads are so invested
in, okay, if I do this, whatis this person gonna think?
Or if I do X, Y, and Z, what areall those people gonna think?
Yeah.
Yeah.
And we're, we're raised a alot of times in this world
(08:08):
where we are expected todo, like you said, like.
Go to school, get a job.
Yeah.
Get married.
Mm-hmm.
Have a family.
Yep.
When in actuality, like noneof our lives are linear.
Meg Longo (08:19):
A hundred percent at
Julia Salvia (08:20):
all.
Yeah.
No.
And most, most importantly,our self-love journey
with ourselves Yeah.
Is not linear by any means.
Yeah.
Meg Longo (08:26):
I always thought by now, like I, I, my husband's
my high school sweetheart,so I did luck out that way.
Yeah.
But we grew up together,but I thought by now I'd be,
you know, corporate like.
Top, you know, person andkids, and, and, and it's okay.
It's actually great that itdidn't work out that way.
Yeah.
Like it, it's perfect.
Yeah.
I think that it
Julia Salvia (08:46):
all, it all does work out the way that it was
intended to work out for you.
Definitely.
Yeah.
And if we are so tied tothis, you know, this vision
of what we think our lifeis supposed to be mm-hmm.
We're just gonna keep pushingback from the life that
we actually like, trulydeserve and what we want.
I
Meg Longo (09:03):
totally agree with you.
So I'm glad,
Julia Salvia (09:04):
I'm glad that it like, led you to
Meg Longo (09:06):
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (09:07):
You know where you are today.
Yeah.
Is there anything likethat you struggle with now?
Yeah.
In, in your self-lovejourney now that you are
an influencer and Yeah.
There are so many people kindof coming to you as like.
Basically like Yep.
Hey, has Meg's things been here?
I wanna know if she likes it.
Yeah.
And that could be, I cansee that as being like, you
(09:28):
know, a lot of pressure.
Meg Longo (09:30):
Yeah.
I mean, I think, you know, Ireally try, everything I post,
I post it 'cause I love it.
So yeah, I don't feelpressure in a sense of like,
if someone doesn't likeit, I mean that's on you.
Like whatever.
I think the hardest partof being in this public
facing role now that Ididn't know I would end up.
Kind of is really what you'retalking to, like self-love,
(09:52):
like people are starting tocomment on your voice, your
looks, what you're wearing,what you're doing, your life.
That was a challenge at firstbecause it's like someone's
just, I'm just trying to postonline and have some fun.
Yeah.
Someone's
Julia Salvia (10:05):
just trying to, trying to throw their
opinion in there and yeah,
Meg Longo (10:08):
and I think that that was definitely challenging.
I think I've gotten a lotbetter at it, but funny enough,
now the bigger I've gotten,I've found the worse it gets.
Yeah.
So really, I totallyunderstand that.
It's really so fun.
Um, but that really just goesback to people just taking, you
know, their unhappiness out onme and I have to remember that.
But of coursethat's a challenge.
Julia Salvia (10:28):
It's a mirror.
Meg Longo (10:29):
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (10:30):
Their unhappiness is a mirror a hundred percent.
So whatever, whenever youpost something and you're like
living your best life mm-hmm.
Whatever that is.
Yeah.
Whether you are, you know, goinghere, doing this, trying that.
Mm-hmm.
Like someone is seeing.
What you look like, whatyou sound like, what you're
doing, and what you are likecapable of, and seeing that as
(10:50):
a mirror for everything thatthey dislike about themselves.
Meg Longo (10:53):
Yeah, I, I agree with you.
And you know, it's like peoplecomment like mean things.
I'm like, then you go doit, like you do it, like I
did it, you do it, you know?
And it's like, no,you're not gonna do it.
You're just gonna be a troll.
So, yeah.
I've accepted it, but it'sdefinitely, I, and, and I think
really it's the experienceof being a woman as well.
Like we're already so muchof our weight and our worth
(11:13):
is put on how we look.
Mm-hmm.
And that's what weare inherently taught.
Yeah.
So when youpost online and people
are ripping you to shredsabout your body and all
of that, it's like, whoa.
Like, why do I feel this way?
This is, yeah.
You know, it's, and it'sdeep rooted in that too.
It's
Julia Salvia (11:28):
like some sort of standard that gets Yes.
Tweaked a little bit aslike the years go by.
Mm-hmm.
Because you, I mean,I'm in my thirties too.
Yeah.
So you could like imagine that.
As we've gotten as likeanybody has gotten older.
Like you see the beauty standardor the standard of beauty
change Little, it's constantlychanging by little changing.
Yeah.
But it's crazy to think becauseyou know, you go to a different
country and their standard ofbeauty's completely different.
(11:49):
I
Meg Longo (11:49):
know
Julia Salvia (11:50):
they have a whole different, like I know.
View on what'sactually beautiful.
Yeah.
And.
The thing is, at the end ofthe day, it's not, none of
it matters like beauties.
Exactly.
In the eyes of the beholder.
Mm-hmm.
And honestly, everythingis inherently beautiful.
Mm-hmm.
Meg Longo (12:03):
It's,
Julia Salvia (12:03):
at the end of the day, it's like, it's
literally a fucking opinion.
Meg Longo (12:05):
I know.
No, I, I agree.
Yeah.
It's literally an opinion.
I agree.
I agree.
Yeah.
I have to tell myselfthat too sometimes.
'cause it's like, wow, likethis is a lot, you know?
Yeah, yeah.
Oh,
Julia Salvia (12:14):
I'm sure.
Yeah.
I think I, I still, to thisday, to this day, yeah.
Being an influencer, likeright there with me, like,
to this day, don't know what.
What causes the audacity insome people, I don't know, to
feel the need to speak theiropinion in a way that is unkind.
I don't know what,even in real life too.
Oh, oh, yeah.
(12:34):
Yeah.
I don't know what part ofsomeone is like, yeah, let
me be really mean today.
Meg Longo (12:40):
I just think it's just, I mean,
there's so many factors.
I think it's just angerof where they are in life.
Yeah.
And that's really it.
I don't know.
Yeah.
And I wish them peace, honestly.
Yep.
That's
Julia Salvia (12:51):
all I can do.
Even when I'm drivingand someone cuts me off,
I'm like, wish you peace.
I wish
Meg Longo (12:54):
you peace, love, and light wish.
Yeah, yeah, exactly.
I wish
Julia Salvia (12:56):
you peace.
Jersey Shore traffic.
You wanna cut me off?
Yeah.
I'm like, God, we didn't, wedidn't get into an accident.
Alright.
Wish you Yeah, exactly.
Peace.
You're on your way.
Yeah, I know.
I hope you have agreat fucking piece.
I know I'm on the same page.
Yeah,
Meg Longo (13:06):
yeah.
But yeah, it can be difficult,but it's comes with it.
Julia Salvia (13:11):
Do you think that that's the
most difficult part I do.
Or do you think that thereare other things that are kind
of equally right up there?
I, I
Meg Longo (13:19):
think that's definitely, for me personally,
that's the most difficult part.
Yeah.
I think because I am like aLeo, so like, I feel like if my
friends and family are crossed,like if someone said that to
like my friends or family, like,I'll be like, I'll cut you.
Like I'm pissed, you know?
But it's like me, soI feel that anger.
Mm-hmm.
And it's like, I'm sureyou felt this way too.
(13:40):
You, yeah.
You wanna react andyou wanna hit back.
And I, I do sometimes.
Yeah, I know.
Well, yeah, I, I do too.
'cause I
Julia Salvia (13:46):
just love the wittiness of commenting.
I know about this summer whenthey say something so stupid.
I know, I
Meg Longo (13:50):
know.
I'm with you.
And, um, I think, yeah,I mean I try like not to,
'cause I'm like, okay, if Ido this, then I'm investing
more of my energy mm-hmm.
Into what they want.
Mm-hmm.
But um, yeah, for me reallythat's the hardest thing.
And I think, funny enough, Ithink 'cause I really started
influencing with like food.
Julia Salvia (14:09):
Yeah.
Meg Longo (14:10):
And when I started that.
Was like everyone's mo likewhy are you eating so much?
Why are you doing this?
Why are you doing that?
And I'm like, why do youcare what I'm eating,
how much I'm eating?
Like, and the thing isthat they don't actually
Julia Salvia (14:22):
know how much you're eating because
No, they have no idea.
Yeah.
Meg Longo (14:25):
It's like 10 seconds of me eating
abr, you know, whatever.
And you don't know
Julia Salvia (14:28):
who's sitting with you.
Like Exactly.
You could have 50 people,people with you, you know?
Honestly,
Meg Longo (14:32):
currently That's like an annoying thing too.
'cause I'm out at a restaurant.
Yeah.
And I always take ahuge group of people.
'cause I'm like, Ican't eat all this.
Mm-hmm.
And then I. Always like,how did you eat all that?
I'm like, A, that's rude.
Like what do you mean?
Yeah, b if I wanted toeat it all I can and
that's totally fine.
Yep.
And like c just stop.
Yeah.
So
Julia Salvia (14:51):
I had, um, I had a, a, I, um, I was, I was
out to dinner in the city.
Yeah.
And I really wanted to trya couple things on the menu.
Yeah.
And.
I honestly shouldn't have.
I opened up theconversation, that probably
wasn't a good idea.
Yeah.
Or actually no, whatI, you know what?
I don't think I did.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I asked this guy, I waslike, how big is the salad?
Because I wanted a salad,an app, and a pasta.
(15:12):
Yeah.
Yeah.
I was, I was hungry.
Yeah.
And he goes, I think thatmight be a little too
much for you, sweetheart.
I go.
Oh, I'll take all three.
Meg Longo (15:20):
Yeah.
Yeah.
I'm like, okay,I'm eating it all.
Yeah.
Despite you.
Yes.
I know.
It's just like, it's sucha weird question, like
how do you eat all that?
Like, I, I don't know.
I love pasta.
Like, what do you want from me?
Who cares?
Yeah.
I, I know.
Yeah.
So, you know, those kind ofthings are hard and, and I
mean, I think just navigatinglike, you know, my own schedule
(15:40):
and figuring out, you know,there's a lot coming at you.
Yes.
And that also another hardthing I think, and I'm sure
you deal with this too, youget a lot of asks, right.
And there's a lot of pressureand I'm a people pleaser,
so I never wanna say no.
Yeah.
But now I'm learning.
Okay.
Like I have to set aboundary, I have to say no.
I have to choose the things,you know, that really work for
my brand and what I wanna do.
(16:01):
Yeah.
But it's hard tolet people down.
Of course.
Yeah.
I think that's a reallydifficult part of this all.
Julia Salvia (16:06):
But I think at the end of the day, if this can
help you or, or anyone else,to be honest with you, yeah.
If it does not align withyou, but you do it anyway.
It's only hurting you.
Exactly.
And them.
Yes, a hundred percent.
It's not, you know what I mean?
It's so, it's it's betterthat you do say no.
Meg Longo (16:22):
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (16:22):
And wait for something else, or have
some, or do something else.
Yeah.
That's more aligning.
Meg Longo (16:26):
Yeah.
Yeah.
And I have that outlook.
Yeah.
I think it's justhard to be like,
Julia Salvia (16:30):
no, I know.
Because you never, you neverwanna let anyone down, you know?
Yeah.
It's like, and
Meg Longo (16:34):
I think a lot of people put so much weight
on, like, you know, if I,if I come to a restaurant
or I come somewhere mm-hmm.
There's so much weight on that.
Yeah.
It's like.
And it's like, oh, like, Idon't know, like, yes, the,
you know, it's amazing.
Like I have so much joy thatI get to like change people's
lives and businesses that way.
Yeah.
But you know, like yousaid, it needs to align.
Of course.
(16:54):
And it's just like,yeah, it's kind of like
this pressure sometimes.
Yeah.
It's like the pressure
Julia Salvia (16:59):
to like go somewhere and it's, you
know, you really like it.
It's really good.
Yeah.
Versus if you goto a place and you.
Personally, likeit didn't align.
It wasn't good.
Meg Longo (17:08):
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (17:08):
You could change that business's life
in one way or or the other.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And that's a lot ofpressure to like have on
your shoulders, you know?
Yeah.
Meg Longo (17:15):
Yeah.
And I really try,like I've never said
anything negative Yeah.
About a business or anything.
It's just not my mo.
Like I, yeah.
People like pour theirlifeblood into something.
I'm not here to be likea restaurant critic and
like, oh, this was bad.
Yeah.
So it's like for me, if I feellike something's not gonna align
with me, I'm not gonna go there.
'cause I don't.
Say anything negative,so then it's like, kind
(17:35):
of just doesn't work.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Have
Julia Salvia (17:37):
you gone to places where it just was
really not a good experience?
Yeah.
And you're like,
Meg Longo (17:41):
yeah, and I just don't post it.
Do
Julia Salvia (17:42):
you let them know?
Meg Longo (17:43):
Oh, yeah.
Yeah.
I let them know.
Yeah.
I just, I'm just like,I just don't post it.
Yeah, yeah.
Of course.
Because I'm like, I don't wanna,you know, I'll tell them what
I didn't like or whatever, but
Julia Salvia (17:52):
mm-hmm.
Meg Longo (17:52):
I'm like, Ugh.
I just, I don'twant that energy.
I just feel like it's bad energyfor me to be like, this sucks.
Like, I don't like this.
You know?
Like Yeah.
Especially knowing like how
Julia Salvia (18:00):
much, um, influence you have.
Yeah.
When you do go somewhereand how many people are
like, oh, Meg's things.
Once they went there,I wanna go there.
Meg Longo (18:07):
Yeah.
I, I just also, I just,I, I like my positive
vibe, my energy.
Yeah.
That's really who I am.
Yeah.
At my core.
And I'm like, it's not me to goon here and rip someone apart.
Of course.
It's just not of, yeah.
Julia Salvia (18:19):
What are your.
Speaking of like greatplaces you've went to.
Oh.
What are your top I'm,I'm nervous to say
like, I'm get in trouble
Meg Longo (18:29):
here.
Julia Salvia (18:30):
Okay.
We'll make it Okay.
Should we make it more specific?
Meg Longo (18:33):
No, it's fine.
I don't.
Okay.
Top five.
Okay.
I mean, Lita is likemy number one lately.
I love it there.
I love that.
It's my favorite place.
The cocktails are great.
Angelica's is likemy go-to for Italian.
I love that little courtyard.
You sit outside,it's just perfect.
Yeah, it's just such a vibe.
It's
Julia Salvia (18:50):
really cute.
Meg Longo (18:51):
Um, oh boy.
I love Gabriela's.
I love turning up at Gabriela's.
I love their food.
Am I at three?
Mm-hmm.
Oh God.
I have two more.
People like, I knowpeople hate on the block.
I love the block.
I always have a good time there.
I think their stakes are insane.
Mm-hmm.
So I'd say the block,where else do I go?
Oh, in Mezcal.
(19:12):
I love mezcal.
Okay.
Have you been there yet?
In Old Bridge.
Julia Salvia (19:17):
No, not yet.
Not yet.
The, not the new Mexican spot.
That place was insane there.
Meg Longo (19:20):
Yeah.
Um, mezcal that, thoseare my top five right now.
Julia Salvia (19:23):
Awesome.
I'm sorry
Meg Longo (19:24):
if I pissed anyone off.
I love everyone.
Julia Salvia (19:27):
No, I mean there's so many, you know what I mean?
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's like these are, theseare the five that you would
1000% go back to, to Yeah.
I
Meg Longo (19:34):
go all the time.
Yeah, yeah,
Julia Salvia (19:35):
yeah,
Meg Longo (19:35):
yeah.
Are
Julia Salvia (19:36):
you kind of like that person who like
won't go to something twice?
Meg Longo (19:39):
No, no.
I'll go back.
Yeah.
And you really
Julia Salvia (19:42):
like it?
Yeah.
If
Meg Longo (19:42):
I really like it, I'll go back.
Uh, all the time.
I don't care.
And I'll just refilm it andbe like, I love this place.
Here it is again.
Like I, I, whatever.
And it's funny 'causelike usually I'll just
attract new people thatdidn't see my first video.
Yeah.
So it's fine.
But I, yeah, I'm likea outfit repeater.
I'm a restaurant repeater.
I don't.
I'll do it.
I love it.
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (20:02):
Thank you so much to Love Bird for
allowing us to film in theirbackyard, in their space.
Yes.
They have reallyamazing coffees.
I mean, I've alreadydowned like their matcha.
So good.
It's so good.
This
Meg Longo (20:12):
is the honey bear I
Julia Salvia (20:13):
think.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Meg Longo (20:14):
It's delicious.
Mango Matcha Brew.
With Honey Cole Foam.
Julia Salvia (20:18):
Mm-hmm.
I love a good, delicious,I obsessed with Maca and I
honestly, it's their fault.
Meg Longo (20:22):
Yeah.
And I love these cups verycheap for like a coffee place.
Different.
Different, you know,gotta stand out.
I like it.
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (20:30):
So I wanted to jump back actually
to the people that arehating in your comments.
Who are these people?
Like, is there a specific likedemographic of who these are?
Because I have one in myhead that always, every
time I post anything.
Yep.
Especially when it hasto do with my body.
Always are up in my comments.
Meg Longo (20:48):
Yeah.
Okay.
So it, it's like a two-parter.
Mm-hmm.
So it's funny because Istarted posting like my reels
automatically to Facebook.
Like just, I'm like, okay,it's extra eyes, whatever.
Yeah.
And I was literally jokingwith my husband today
'cause I'm like, I th and.
Oddly enough, I have55,000 people on
Facebook that follow me.
And I'm like, I think they alllike hate me because every time
(21:08):
I post a video, like I posta video the other day, three
restaurants I like, and thisguy comments like three, I'm
not going to, and I'm like, thenwhy are you following me bro?
Like, I don't get it.
It's usually like, unfortunatelyfor me, I don't know why.
It's like older generationlike males for some reason.
(21:29):
I don't know why.
Really?
Yeah.
Yeah.
They like.
Like them.
And then like I would saysometimes older women, but
not, like, not as much asmen, like men more oddly.
I don't know why.
What about you?
Julia Salvia (21:45):
I, I was just gonna say
because they're fucking
Meg Longo (21:48):
I know.
Yeah, that too.
Yeah,
Julia Salvia (21:50):
I know.
That's what we had to say.
I know.
Um.
Mine is actually older women.
Really?
Yep.
It's always older women fromlike the baby boomer generation.
Yeah.
Um, they always havelike grandkids and then
they're always Yeah.
Commenting on like, my body andwhat I should or shouldn't wear,
how I should or shouldn't dress.
Oh, that's, um, that's so whatannoying, what I should or
(22:10):
shouldn't fix about my body.
And then, um, religious people.
Meg Longo (22:15):
Oh yeah.
No, don't get mestarted on that.
Yeah, I know that it's always,
Julia Salvia (22:19):
and I'm just like, all right, you could go believe
in Jesus Christ, that's fine.
But like, yeah, I know.
But over here,
Meg Longo (22:24):
I went to Catholic school my whole life.
Mm-hmm.
And I'm not religiousanymore, so really knew that.
And I grew
Julia Salvia (22:28):
up, I grew up Catholic my whole entire life.
Yeah.
Went C, c, D, the whole bit.
I could get married a Catholicchurch if I really wanted to.
I know.
And I just won't be doing that.
Yeah,
Meg Longo (22:37):
no, I mean, look, everyone can do what they want.
But yeah, it's gottento a level where.
And it doesn't evenhave to do religion.
Like the people you're talkingabout, being that judgemental.
And I actually have thoughtabout this very deeply and
I think those types of oldergeneration women specifically,
I think, and I'm sorry if Ipiss people off saying this,
but I think they grew up in atime where they had to follow
(23:00):
the path of this is what youwear, this is what you do.
Yeah.
This is who you marry.
Shut up.
You, you don't matter.
Julia Salvia (23:06):
I mean, it wasn't Yeah.
That far ago.
No.
Like far, far, likethat long ago that Yeah.
Women were actuallyable to vote Exactly.
And women were actuallyable to buy a house.
Exactly.
Meg Longo (23:16):
So, or like do anything rather, and they were
Julia Salvia (23:18):
alive during that time.
Yeah.
You know, as a, a young adult.
Yeah.
So, so
Meg Longo (23:22):
I, I wonder.
So, you know, and that's mytheory, is like they see you.
You have your own thing going.
You doing things, you'rebeautiful, you're posting,
you know, your outfitsand your body and you're
not apologizing for it.
And it makes 'em uncomfortable.
Like, sorry.
Because you're doingeverything that they wish
they could have done.
Exactly.
Exactly.
And it doesn't matter.
Like you can do whateveryou want and actually they
(23:43):
can do whatever they want.
They just did it.
So don't take it out on you.
Yeah.
Mic drop.
Yes.
Period.
Yes,
Julia Salvia (23:52):
I have.
A card deck actuallythat's coming out.
Self-love card deck.
Oh my gosh.
And a lot of the questions inthere are basically to help
you get deeper with yourself.
Meg Longo (24:02):
I love that.
Oh, thank you.
I'm gonna buy it rightwhen it comes out.
Sweetest.
Julia Salvia (24:05):
Thank you.
Um, and I wanna ask youone of those, one of the
questions from that card deck.
Meg Longo (24:10):
Okay.
Julia Salvia (24:11):
So
Meg Longo (24:11):
let's do it.
I'm nervous, but I'm ready.
Julia Salvia (24:17):
Don't be nervous.
They're very like, thoughtprovoking questions that like,
sometimes like as I was puttingit together, I was like, oh fuck
Meg Longo (24:25):
yeah.
You're like, all right,wait, I need a minute
to sit with with myself.
I'm like,
Julia Salvia (24:28):
every time I look at a question and, and I say
that and I'm like, oh shit.
Like I'm like,that's the right question
to go on the deck.
I apologize in advance 'causethis is a really good one.
Okay, that's fine.
I can do it.
I know you can.
Yeah, we all can.
So what is something you feelas though you don't deserve?
Meg Longo (24:48):
Something I feel I don't deserve.
Hmm.
This is a good one.
How Leo of it is it of meto say I deserve it all?
No, I'm just kidding.
Um,
Julia Salvia (25:00):
it's really Leo.
I know, I know.
Um, you know what's interestingabout Leo's actually?
Yeah.
Since we've been, you know,pointing to it through our
conversation that as much asthey're the most confident
people internally, they havesuch a battle with themselves.
Yes.
Meg Longo (25:14):
Oh yeah.
Like overanalyzing.
Yes.
Julia Salvia (25:15):
Yeah.
I mean, I think.
Meg Longo (25:18):
Something I don't deserve that's in
Julia Salvia (25:20):
or something you think you don't deserve.
Yeah.
I mean, because you deserveeverything in the world.
Meg Longo (25:24):
Yeah.
Yeah.
I think when I first startedout, you kind of have like
imposter syndrome syndromewhere you're like, am I like.
I'm sure you felt thisway too, like comparison
is a thief of joy, right?
Oh yeah.
Like you see, you seeother people getting like
these deals and videos.
You're like, am I good enough?
(25:44):
Am I cool enough?
And, and I think when I firststarted out, I was like thinking
too much into that of like,yeah, who do I, what do I have
to post and who do I have to be?
And I thought like I didn'tdeserve like those types
of things because I wasn'tliving to like their.
I don't, not coolness,but like their vibe.
(26:05):
I'm like, oh, I don'thave enough followers.
I don't have enough this,I don't deserve this.
And then I think when Ishifted like, wow, people
really resonating with me.
People really do like me.
Yeah.
And I am deserving ofall this, you know?
And I think at first if kindof feels like that imposter
thing where I'm like, I don'tknow if I'm good enough as an
influencer to deserve that.
(26:27):
Yeah.
Um.
I and, and I thinkthat's something like
I've gotten better at.
Yeah.
Where I'm like, okay,like I can do this.
I do deserve this.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Because
Julia Salvia (26:36):
you do.
Yeah, you do.
And so do you.
Thank you.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So have you seen thefull severance series?
Yes.
And what did you think?
Meg Longo (26:46):
Um, it's my favorite show.
Julia Salvia (26:47):
Do you like psychological thrillers?
Meg Longo (26:49):
Yes.
Love.
So
Julia Salvia (26:50):
I like really do avoid.
Tv.
Meg Longo (26:53):
Okay.
Because
Julia Salvia (26:53):
I get so invested that whatever way
the show ends, this is whyI actually kind of enjoy the
fact that you could binge Yes.
But what really fucks me upis when you know you leave
me on a cliffhanger and I'mleft to deal with my emotions.
Meg Longo (27:06):
Yes.
And you're like, I wanna know.
I'm like, shit.
Yes.
Julia Salvia (27:08):
It's not even, I wanna know, it's like, did
you kill someone at the end?
Yeah.
Because like, I feel like youjust killed my best friend.
Like I got soinvested, you know?
Um, so you got the opportunityto go to Bell Works.
When they had the wholecast there, they had all
of the cool equipment andprops from the actual show.
Yep.
And everything.
(27:29):
The funny thing I thinkabout this severance series
and severance inherently mm-hmm.
Is that there'sactually like a lot of this,
um, self-love tied into it.
Yeah.
Watching it from this,like my perspective as I
watch the show, I'm like.
They are literally takingthe self-love from all of
these people psychologically.
(27:51):
Mm-hmm.
They're like, letme separate you.
Mm-hmm.
And everything youhate about yourself.
Mm-hmm.
And bring you backto the brain that you
would've had as a child.
Because like when we'rebabies, like we are not
influenced by anything.
Oh yeah.
You know, we're influencedby just our immediate,
you know, the immediatepeople were around.
Mm-hmm.
And I guess when you, when itcomes to severance, you could
think of like the immediatepeople you're around as your
(28:11):
coworkers and the peopleyou know, the boss guy.
Mm-hmm.
The crazy, crazy lady with grayhair, like Yeah, yeah.
You know what I mean?
Yeah, yeah.
Like you could think of thosepeople as like the immediate
people who are influencinghow you feel about yourself.
Yeah.
So it was really interestingto watch it and like watch it.
Like take all ofthat away from you.
Meg Longo (28:30):
Oh yeah.
And
Julia Salvia (28:31):
then here go back to your shitty life.
Meg Longo (28:34):
Yep.
Julia Salvia (28:34):
Because you think your life is better
in here when it's actuallyworse when it's not.
Meg Longo (28:38):
Yeah.
It's worse.
Yeah.
That's so interesting.
I actually love that viewpoint.
Yeah.
Because.
I, and I think when I, whenI posted about severance,
it was so surreal that Ieven got to go to that.
I was like, talk about, I'mlike, do I deserve this?
What in the hell?
How am I here?
But um, yeah.
It kind of ties back towhat I was saying before
about the nine to five.
(28:59):
Like I feel like a lot ofpeople and nine to fives
aren't bad, by the way.
Yeah.
Like I think if that was mylife, like I was happy As
long as you find one you love.
Yeah.
But you know any job,and it doesn't even
matter if it's this.
Some days you're like, I.
Need to turn my brain off.
Yeah, I need a break.
I feel like I'm just goingthrough life and I'm not looking
up, and I think severance that.
(29:21):
That's why the show reallyresonated with so many people.
Yeah.
Because you think,oh, if I turn that part off and
I just go do this, it's better.
But is it when you'renot really in tune with
who you are and mm-hmm.
Yourself, if
Julia Salvia (29:33):
you're not actually healing the things
that you need to heal?
Exactly.
You're just tryingto run away from it.
You're just trying
Meg Longo (29:37):
to turn it off.
Yeah.
Because that's
Julia Salvia (29:39):
what it comes to.
Yeah.
Every single person isrunning away from something.
Meg Longo (29:42):
Yep.
That they don't wanna deal with.
Julia Salvia (29:44):
Exactly.
Yeah.
And then they come to find outwhat they're running away from
and they're like, oh shit.
Meg Longo (29:48):
Yeah.
Wait, maybe I should havejust dealt with this.
Yeah.
Maybe,
Julia Salvia (29:51):
maybe it would've been better for me
to just like, go to therapyor something like that.
Yes,
Meg Longo (29:54):
yes.
Yeah.
Not get severed.
Yeah.
That was a funny question.
I, I, I saw on TikTok, alot of people were like,
would you be severed?
And I'm like, absolutely not.
Yeah.
But I also thinkthat's because I've like
done the work of like.
Like, you know, if somethingis hurting, I, I, I do
the work to be like, okay,how can I deal with this?
Or how can I overcome it?
But like, to just be severed.
(30:15):
That's intense.
Oh yeah.
That, that seemstoo intense for me.
I can't do it.
Yep.
I need my one self.
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (30:21):
And it was really funny watching
this, knowing I'm hostingan event at Bel Works Yes.
Self love event andI'm like, oh fuck.
How do I, how do I talkabout the fact that this
is where this psychologicalthriller is happening, but.
I'm hosting an event that'sall about loving yourself.
Yeah.
Like this is an interesting,like conundrum here.
Yeah.
Where I, there's thisthing that's supposed to
(30:41):
help you with who you are.
Mm-hmm.
And a show that's beingfilmed here is like the
complete opposite of that.
Yeah.
So it's been really interestingto see the two tied together.
Yeah.
Um, but Bell Worksis such an amazing new space in.
Monmouth County.
Yeah.
And I think we'vereally, I think we've
really been needing it.
Meg Longo (31:00):
I know.
I love it.
I mean, they have therestaurants like walk around the
shop, like the farmer's Mar likeit's cute and you can like work
and there's kids running around.
I love it there.
I'm just, I think it'sperfect for your event.
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (31:10):
I'm just sad that I grew up down the
street and like literallyit didn't like I know.
I know.
I know.
Like of course we wouldsell the house and I
would move and I literallycould have walked there.
Meg Longo (31:21):
I know.
And now you're like, damn.
Well, and now.
You can manifest itthrough your whole event.
Yay.
Bring all the love.
Julia Salvia (31:27):
So it's a, it's called Bloom and it's
an immersive self-loveexperience and it's a very
much an elevated experience.
Kind of like an expo event thatyou would go to in the city.
Like we'll be in theJavit Center one day.
I know it.
Oh, a hundred percent.
I think to focus on, youknow, the small businesses
that are elevated,established brands that Yeah.
Are really rooted in kindness.
(31:48):
Mm-hmm.
Self-love and.
Just brands that havelike a good value.
Yeah, like a good, a, a goodvalue in regards to like their
team and the people that theyare, but also have a really cool
brand or really cool product.
Yeah.
Because I think we'realways searching for that.
Yeah.
And I love the localmarkets, but I wanna see
(32:10):
a bunch of different ones.
I wanna see somethingsuper curated.
Um, we really make sure thateveryone in the space is.
Inclusive as well.
Yes.
And also creating theimmersiveness of the experience.
It's like how do you bringbig, big brands together and
smaller brands into one space?
Yeah.
We had, um, Maybelline apart of our event last year.
(32:31):
We had, um, real essentials,a part of our event last year.
So many really cool, youknow, bigger brands as well as
small businesses and kind ofbringing them into that space.
You know, together is a reallycool experience and really
fun just coming from like theinfluencer world and being like,
okay, there's all these reallycool influencer events, which
I'm sure you've been to some.
Yeah.
You're like, this is so cool.
Yeah.
(32:51):
But sometimes they're lackinglike the connectivity.
Meg Longo (32:54):
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (32:54):
And the ability to actually like connect on
a level with these peoplein a way that allows you to
really get to know each other.
Yeah.
And create more of asense of community.
And I'm like.
Been there, done that.
I love the aesthetic of theseevents, but I wanna bring
aesthetic and the connectionand community together.
Yeah.
Make it deeper.
Yeah.
Bring it together in one space.
(33:15):
And I felt like just, I love it.
Thank you.
I feel like just what BellWorks is it's, it has that idea
already of bringing, you know,it's this giant building that
has so many different things.
It's a, it's a workplace, it's.
Has amazing restaurants.
It has the marketplace.
Mm-hmm.
Like on Wednesdaysand, and Saturdays.
Like they have eventsand they have a bunch
of small businesses.
(33:35):
And I think they do so manycool things that really provide
that sense of community.
So it was the, it wasthe perfect connection.
It's gonna be
Meg Longo (33:42):
great.
And it's so cool that youbring those big brands and the
small businesses, you lift themup to all in the same room.
It's really cool.
Julia Salvia (33:49):
I think everybody deserves a spot.
Meg Longo (33:51):
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (33:52):
In, you know.
In this type of wayto be able to connect
with different people.
Meg Longo (33:57):
Yes.
Julia Salvia (33:58):
And I think it's time.
I think we need, weneed an event like this.
We need a day like this.
Like everyone deserves aday to love themselves more
and be in an environmentwhere they get the chance to
Meg Longo (34:07):
And with people who are like open to that idea too.
Yes.
And meet and makenew connections.
I think it's really fun.
Julia Salvia (34:12):
Yeah.
Thank you.
I appreciate it.
I'm so excited.
I'll be there.
Oh, yes, you will.
Yeah, I will.
Well, thank you somuch for being here.
I really appreciate it.
Of course.
It was so good to get to knowyou, especially like on a
deeper level in regards tolike your self-love journey
and see like how you'vegrown from where you know you
were to where you are today.
(34:33):
And just seeing that how itwasn't, you know, it wasn't
a linear path, it wasn'teven a path you really
expected, but it came to be.
It came to fruition and.
You're loving yourself more now.
Meg Longo (34:43):
Yes.
I, it was so lovely.
You're such an amazing person.
Thanks.
And I'm just honored thatyou asked me to be on it.
Thank you.
So thank you so much.
Julia Salvia (34:50):
Of course.
Thank you.
I appreciate it.
Of course.
Hi Meg, how are you?
I'm great.
How are you?
I'm good.
Thank you so much for being onthe Self-Love Archives podcast.
My name is Julia.
If you guys aren't familiar, Iam your self-love bestie here
to help you love yourself more.
And I'm here with Meg's things.
Yes.
To talk about yourself-love journey.
'cause I'm so interestedto hear, and I'm sure so
(00:21):
many other people are tofrom just where you were to
where you are now and thedifference in those journeys.
It's been
Meg Longo (00:28):
a wild, wild ride.
Oh my
Julia Salvia (00:30):
god.
Ride.
Oh my gosh.
Yes.
I can only imagine, right?
Yes.
So before youbecame an influencer
Meg Longo (00:44):
mm-hmm.
Julia Salvia (00:46):
What were you doing?
Meg Longo (00:48):
Ah, what was I doing?
I. Don't know what I was doing.
Um, no, I'm just kidding.
I, it worked.
I dunno what I'm doing.
I, I dunno what I did yesterday.
I'm like, I dunnowhat I did yesterday.
Yeah.
I just felt like I was oneof those people I graduated.
I just never knewwhat I wanted to do.
I feel like that's kind ofeveryone, unless you're like,
I want to be this or that.
Yeah.
But I, that wasn't me.
Yeah.
Um, but I worked at anon-profit for a long time.
(01:10):
I worked there forlike eight years.
So kind of did thenine to five thing.
You know, thecorporate girl boss.
Mm-hmm.
And I just kind of got to aplace in life where I was like.
Maybe 'cause I'm a Leo, I'mlike, I need to be my own boss.
I need to do my own thingor else I'm going like die
and be really miserable.
So, um, it's thatconfidence in your blood.
So I just decidedI'm gonna go for it.
(01:31):
So I actually came up withthis crazy idea to have a
mobile spray tan business,a body positive one.
It was called Spray Everybody.
And it was meant to make, youknow, women feel comfortable
when you're strippingdown to get a spray tan.
So I did that.
Julia Salvia (01:45):
It's definitely.
It's like that's,it's intimidating.
Yeah.
It's those two minutesof like, okay, I'm
supposed to get naked now.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
I know.
They're like, youcould go in a bikini.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I don't want those tan lines.
No, it's naked or nothing.
Yeah.
Meg Longo (01:57):
And I mean, look, when you go on spray tan pages
too, it's like all the samesort of bodies and I'm like,
you know, I am a curvy girland you know, so I wanted to
create that space and I did.
And um, I kind of justtold my husband, you know,
I'm gonna roll with it.
If it doesn't workin a year, I'll just.
Go back to corporate, whatever.
And then in the meantime,I'm sure, as you know too,
when you own a business, youhave to post on social media.
(02:18):
So I started posting for myspray tan business and then
I'm like, you know what?
I always wanted to tryto be an influencer.
I'm just gonna try.
Yeah.
You know, I havenothing to lose.
And I started posting just on myown, like other personal page.
And it just kindof took off oddly.
And now I'm not, I'm not spraytanning anymore, but I do
feel like that journey led me.
(02:38):
To doing this.
'cause if I didn'ttake that leap, I just
wouldn't be where I was.
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's kind of like
Julia Salvia (02:43):
just the way that the Yes.
The cookie crumbles,if so to speak.
Yeah.
Or like the path that ledyou to actually getting
yourself on social media Yes.
In a way that you wouldwanna get on social media
for to become an influencer.
Meg Longo (02:54):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Like I just.
I didn't even expect this.
Yeah.
Like people ask melike, how'd you get?
I'm like, I don't know.
Like I just, I took like smallsteps and I ended up here
somehow just 'cause I feltlike I was following a path
of what I really wanted to do.
Julia Salvia (03:08):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Oh, I love that so much.
Yeah.
It's going from like, I reallydon't know what I want to
do to just making somethinghappen that you actually enjoy.
Yes.
So do you enjoy it beforeI make an assumption?
I, no,
Meg Longo (03:19):
no.
I do.
I really love it.
I, I really love it and I.
I'm sure you understand too,like it just gives you time.
And I think in a nine to five,I just felt like I didn't have
time and I wasn't, I liked it,but I felt like I, okay, but I
need to do something for myself.
And now I wake up every dayand I kind of make my own
rules and my own journey.
(03:41):
And having that ownershipis just so cool.
Like, yeah.
I, it's something Ialways dreamed about.
So, and you
Julia Salvia (03:46):
get to do something for yourself.
Meg Longo (03:47):
Yes.
Julia Salvia (03:47):
Yes.
Because you get tomake up your schedule.
Meg Longo (03:49):
Exactly, yeah.
You get to choose
Julia Salvia (03:51):
like, okay, I'm gonna do this.
Yeah.
I'm gonna work forwith this person.
Yes, I'm going to do things.
And hopefully, you know, Ialways say like, hopefully
all influencers aregoing about it this way.
Like they're always doingthings that are aligning.
A hundred percent.
It sounds like you are.
Yeah,
Meg Longo (04:02):
a hundred percent.
Julia Salvia (04:03):
Hello?
Meg Longo (04:04):
There's a little bumblebee.
Is that Good luck.
I hope that's good luck.
Julia Salvia (04:09):
So.
The journey that youhad prior to mm-hmm.
Becoming an influencer andthe journey you have now.
Meg Longo (04:17):
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (04:17):
Obviously there's a lot of big differences.
Yes.
But what's the differencein regards to how you're
loving yourself more?
Meg Longo (04:25):
You know, I think that you go to, yeah.
I mean, your whole life journey,you know, you're supposed to go
to school, you go to college,you graduate, you get a job.
You have to follow therules that everyone
else makes for you.
Mm-hmm.
And I thinkyou, you feel pressure just
literally from society,from family, from friends.
And when you live that way,sometimes you just end up in
(04:46):
a place you're, you wake up,you're like, what am I doing?
Like, yeah, why am Ilistening to what society
should tell me to do?
And I think now I'verealized that I am living
for like what I want to do.
And not in a selfishway, but it's just like,
who do I want to be?
Who do I wanna become?
What are my goals?
And I think I'm just soin tune with doing that
(05:08):
now, that it's really justsuch a major difference.
Julia Salvia (05:12):
Yeah.
It's, and I think that getsreally confused when it
comes to like self-love anddoing things for yourself.
Yes.
Is we are so conditioned tobelieve that it's selfish.
Yes.
When it is the, quitehonestly the opposite a
Meg Longo (05:24):
hundred percent.
'cause if
Julia Salvia (05:24):
you're not doing things for you, if you're not
making yourself happy, if you'renot filling your cup, then.
I don't, I just don'tunderstand someone has,
how people expect you to doanything for anyone else.
No.
'cause if your cup'sempty, what are you giving?
No, nothing.
The cup.
Totally.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Meg Longo (05:38):
No, I totally agree.
And I'm like the mostempathetic, like giving person.
Like I literally would die formy family and friends, but I
think it's a different thing.
It's like.
I can do that for thembecause my cup's filled.
Yeah.
And I feel myhappiest, you know?
Yeah.
Oh, I
Julia Salvia (05:54):
love that so much.
That's so great.
That's very Leo of you.
I know.
Meg Longo (05:58):
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (05:58):
It's, that's very Leo of you.
I know.
Leos are just allabout like confidence.
Yeah.
Just being like the star ofthe show and also doing things
like they're so loyal tofriends and family, so Yes.
Meg Longo (06:09):
Yes.
I love that.
I love, I really am.
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (06:11):
On top of the alignment.
Yeah.
Before you, yeah.
So.
What is the one specificthing that prior to this
journey that you're onnow, you struggled with in
regards to loving yourself?
Whether that's a physicalquality, a um, emotional
quality, what, what, what doyou think that would be for you?
Meg Longo (06:33):
You know, I think it really just goes
back to living for others.
I thought that I had to.
Get a job and be successful andlike this corporate girl boss,
and like that somehow would meanthat I made it or I'm happy.
Yeah.
And I just realizedlike, we don't know
(06:56):
where we're gonna end up.
We don't know how life's mm-hmm.
You know, we don't evenknow why we're here really.
You know, and it's like,I think about that a lot.
Yes, I do too.
And I'm like, I need to stop.
Let's go down the rabbit.
I, I need to take anedible, go to sleep.
Um, but, uh, no, I, I just thinklike, yeah, I, I was really
lit. I was living to what Ithought other people wanted
(07:17):
to like or what I should be.
Julia Salvia (07:18):
Yeah.
You're living for other people.
Yes.
Meg Longo (07:19):
Yeah.
And I, I think that the shifthas really been now, and I think
that really comes with age too.
Like I'm in my thirties now andI think, actually it's funny
when people find out I'm in Ithirties, they're like shocked.
They're like, how did you start?
And I'm like, you can doanything at any age, you know?
Yeah.
And I think in my twentiesmaybe I was just a little less
confident in going for it.
(07:39):
Yeah.
And now that I'm in my thirties,I'm like, you know what?
Like.
You only got so much time.
Let me do it.
Julia Salvia (07:44):
Yeah.
Yeah.
Because we're thinkingso much about what other
people want from us.
Yes.
And what other peopleare expecting from us.
Yes.
That we're like, I feel likeour heads are so invested
in, okay, if I do this, whatis this person gonna think?
Or if I do X, Y, and Z, what areall those people gonna think?
Yeah.
Yeah.
And we're, we're raised a alot of times in this world
(08:08):
where we are expected todo, like you said, like.
Go to school, get a job.
Yeah.
Get married.
Mm-hmm.
Have a family.
Yep.
When in actuality, like noneof our lives are linear.
Meg Longo (08:19):
A hundred percent at
Julia Salvia (08:20):
all.
Yeah.
No.
And most, most importantly,our self-love journey
with ourselves Yeah.
Is not linear by any means.
Yeah.
Meg Longo (08:26):
I always thought by now, like I, I, my husband's
my high school sweetheart,so I did luck out that way.
Yeah.
But we grew up together,but I thought by now I'd be,
you know, corporate like.
Top, you know, person andkids, and, and, and it's okay.
It's actually great that itdidn't work out that way.
Yeah.
Like it, it's perfect.
Yeah.
I think that it
Julia Salvia (08:46):
all, it all does work out the way that it was
intended to work out for you.
Definitely.
Yeah.
And if we are so tied tothis, you know, this vision
of what we think our lifeis supposed to be mm-hmm.
We're just gonna keep pushingback from the life that
we actually like, trulydeserve and what we want.
I
Meg Longo (09:03):
totally agree with you.
So I'm glad,
Julia Salvia (09:04):
I'm glad that it like, led you to
Meg Longo (09:06):
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (09:07):
You know where you are today.
Yeah.
Is there anything likethat you struggle with now?
Yeah.
In, in your self-lovejourney now that you are
an influencer and Yeah.
There are so many people kindof coming to you as like.
Basically like Yep.
Hey, has Meg's things been here?
I wanna know if she likes it.
Yeah.
And that could be, I cansee that as being like, you
(09:28):
know, a lot of pressure.
Meg Longo (09:30):
Yeah.
I mean, I think, you know, Ireally try, everything I post,
I post it 'cause I love it.
So yeah, I don't feelpressure in a sense of like,
if someone doesn't likeit, I mean that's on you.
Like whatever.
I think the hardest partof being in this public
facing role now that Ididn't know I would end up.
Kind of is really what you'retalking to, like self-love,
(09:52):
like people are starting tocomment on your voice, your
looks, what you're wearing,what you're doing, your life.
That was a challenge at firstbecause it's like someone's
just, I'm just trying to postonline and have some fun.
Yeah.
Someone's
Julia Salvia (10:05):
just trying to, trying to throw their
opinion in there and yeah,
Meg Longo (10:08):
and I think that that was definitely challenging.
I think I've gotten a lotbetter at it, but funny enough,
now the bigger I've gotten,I've found the worse it gets.
Yeah.
So really, I totallyunderstand that.
It's really so fun.
Um, but that really just goesback to people just taking, you
know, their unhappiness out onme and I have to remember that.
But of coursethat's a challenge.
Julia Salvia (10:28):
It's a mirror.
Meg Longo (10:29):
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (10:30):
Their unhappiness is a mirror a hundred percent.
So whatever, whenever youpost something and you're like
living your best life mm-hmm.
Whatever that is.
Yeah.
Whether you are, you know, goinghere, doing this, trying that.
Mm-hmm.
Like someone is seeing.
What you look like, whatyou sound like, what you're
doing, and what you are likecapable of, and seeing that as
(10:50):
a mirror for everything thatthey dislike about themselves.
Meg Longo (10:53):
Yeah, I, I agree with you.
And you know, it's like peoplecomment like mean things.
I'm like, then you go doit, like you do it, like I
did it, you do it, you know?
And it's like, no,you're not gonna do it.
You're just gonna be a troll.
So, yeah.
I've accepted it, but it'sdefinitely, I, and, and I think
really it's the experienceof being a woman as well.
Like we're already so muchof our weight and our worth
(11:13):
is put on how we look.
Mm-hmm.
And that's what weare inherently taught.
Yeah.
So when youpost online and people
are ripping you to shredsabout your body and all
of that, it's like, whoa.
Like, why do I feel this way?
This is, yeah.
You know, it's, and it'sdeep rooted in that too.
It's
Julia Salvia (11:28):
like some sort of standard that gets Yes.
Tweaked a little bit aslike the years go by.
Mm-hmm.
Because you, I mean,I'm in my thirties too.
Yeah.
So you could like imagine that.
As we've gotten as likeanybody has gotten older.
Like you see the beauty standardor the standard of beauty
change Little, it's constantlychanging by little changing.
Yeah.
But it's crazy to think becauseyou know, you go to a different
country and their standard ofbeauty's completely different.
(11:49):
I
Meg Longo (11:49):
know
Julia Salvia (11:50):
they have a whole different, like I know.
View on what'sactually beautiful.
Yeah.
And.
The thing is, at the end ofthe day, it's not, none of
it matters like beauties.
Exactly.
In the eyes of the beholder.
Mm-hmm.
And honestly, everythingis inherently beautiful.
Mm-hmm.
Meg Longo (12:03):
It's,
Julia Salvia (12:03):
at the end of the day, it's like, it's
literally a fucking opinion.
Meg Longo (12:05):
I know.
No, I, I agree.
Yeah.
It's literally an opinion.
I agree.
I agree.
Yeah.
I have to tell myselfthat too sometimes.
'cause it's like, wow, likethis is a lot, you know?
Yeah, yeah.
Oh,
Julia Salvia (12:14):
I'm sure.
Yeah.
I think I, I still, to thisday, to this day, yeah.
Being an influencer, likeright there with me, like,
to this day, don't know what.
What causes the audacity insome people, I don't know, to
feel the need to speak theiropinion in a way that is unkind.
I don't know what,even in real life too.
Oh, oh, yeah.
(12:34):
Yeah.
I don't know what part ofsomeone is like, yeah, let
me be really mean today.
Meg Longo (12:40):
I just think it's just, I mean,
there's so many factors.
I think it's just angerof where they are in life.
Yeah.
And that's really it.
I don't know.
Yeah.
And I wish them peace, honestly.
Yep.
That's
Julia Salvia (12:51):
all I can do.
Even when I'm drivingand someone cuts me off,
I'm like, wish you peace.
I wish
Meg Longo (12:54):
you peace, love, and light wish.
Yeah, yeah, exactly.
I wish
Julia Salvia (12:56):
you peace.
Jersey Shore traffic.
You wanna cut me off?
Yeah.
I'm like, God, we didn't, wedidn't get into an accident.
Alright.
Wish you Yeah, exactly.
Peace.
You're on your way.
Yeah, I know.
I hope you have agreat fucking piece.
I know I'm on the same page.
Yeah,
Meg Longo (13:06):
yeah.
But yeah, it can be difficult,but it's comes with it.
Julia Salvia (13:11):
Do you think that that's the
most difficult part I do.
Or do you think that thereare other things that are kind
of equally right up there?
I, I
Meg Longo (13:19):
think that's definitely, for me personally,
that's the most difficult part.
Yeah.
I think because I am like aLeo, so like, I feel like if my
friends and family are crossed,like if someone said that to
like my friends or family, like,I'll be like, I'll cut you.
Like I'm pissed, you know?
But it's like me, soI feel that anger.
Mm-hmm.
And it's like, I'm sureyou felt this way too.
(13:40):
You, yeah.
You wanna react andyou wanna hit back.
And I, I do sometimes.
Yeah, I know.
Well, yeah, I, I do too.
'cause I
Julia Salvia (13:46):
just love the wittiness of commenting.
I know about this summer whenthey say something so stupid.
I know, I
Meg Longo (13:50):
know.
I'm with you.
And, um, I think, yeah,I mean I try like not to,
'cause I'm like, okay, if Ido this, then I'm investing
more of my energy mm-hmm.
Into what they want.
Mm-hmm.
But um, yeah, for me reallythat's the hardest thing.
And I think, funny enough, Ithink 'cause I really started
influencing with like food.
Julia Salvia (14:09):
Yeah.
Meg Longo (14:10):
And when I started that.
Was like everyone's mo likewhy are you eating so much?
Why are you doing this?
Why are you doing that?
And I'm like, why do youcare what I'm eating,
how much I'm eating?
Like, and the thing isthat they don't actually
Julia Salvia (14:22):
know how much you're eating because
No, they have no idea.
Yeah.
Meg Longo (14:25):
It's like 10 seconds of me eating
abr, you know, whatever.
And you don't know
Julia Salvia (14:28):
who's sitting with you.
Like Exactly.
You could have 50 people,people with you, you know?
Honestly,
Meg Longo (14:32):
currently That's like an annoying thing too.
'cause I'm out at a restaurant.
Yeah.
And I always take ahuge group of people.
'cause I'm like, Ican't eat all this.
Mm-hmm.
And then I. Always like,how did you eat all that?
I'm like, A, that's rude.
Like what do you mean?
Yeah, b if I wanted toeat it all I can and
that's totally fine.
Yep.
And like c just stop.
Yeah.
So
Julia Salvia (14:51):
I had, um, I had a, a, I, um, I was, I was
out to dinner in the city.
Yeah.
And I really wanted to trya couple things on the menu.
Yeah.
And.
I honestly shouldn't have.
I opened up theconversation, that probably
wasn't a good idea.
Yeah.
Or actually no, whatI, you know what?
I don't think I did.
Yeah.
Yeah.
I asked this guy, I waslike, how big is the salad?
Because I wanted a salad,an app, and a pasta.
(15:12):
Yeah.
Yeah.
I was, I was hungry.
Yeah.
And he goes, I think thatmight be a little too
much for you, sweetheart.
I go.
Oh, I'll take all three.
Meg Longo (15:20):
Yeah.
Yeah.
I'm like, okay,I'm eating it all.
Yeah.
Despite you.
Yes.
I know.
It's just like, it's sucha weird question, like
how do you eat all that?
Like, I, I don't know.
I love pasta.
Like, what do you want from me?
Who cares?
Yeah.
I, I know.
Yeah.
So, you know, those kind ofthings are hard and, and I
mean, I think just navigatinglike, you know, my own schedule
(15:40):
and figuring out, you know,there's a lot coming at you.
Yes.
And that also another hardthing I think, and I'm sure
you deal with this too, youget a lot of asks, right.
And there's a lot of pressureand I'm a people pleaser,
so I never wanna say no.
Yeah.
But now I'm learning.
Okay.
Like I have to set aboundary, I have to say no.
I have to choose the things,you know, that really work for
my brand and what I wanna do.
(16:01):
Yeah.
But it's hard tolet people down.
Of course.
Yeah.
I think that's a reallydifficult part of this all.
Julia Salvia (16:06):
But I think at the end of the day, if this can
help you or, or anyone else,to be honest with you, yeah.
If it does not align withyou, but you do it anyway.
It's only hurting you.
Exactly.
And them.
Yes, a hundred percent.
It's not, you know what I mean?
It's so, it's it's betterthat you do say no.
Meg Longo (16:22):
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (16:22):
And wait for something else, or have
some, or do something else.
Yeah.
That's more aligning.
Meg Longo (16:26):
Yeah.
Yeah.
And I have that outlook.
Yeah.
I think it's justhard to be like,
Julia Salvia (16:30):
no, I know.
Because you never, you neverwanna let anyone down, you know?
Yeah.
It's like, and
Meg Longo (16:34):
I think a lot of people put so much weight
on, like, you know, if I,if I come to a restaurant
or I come somewhere mm-hmm.
There's so much weight on that.
Yeah.
It's like.
And it's like, oh, like, Idon't know, like, yes, the,
you know, it's amazing.
Like I have so much joy thatI get to like change people's
lives and businesses that way.
Yeah.
But you know, like yousaid, it needs to align.
Of course.
(16:54):
And it's just like,yeah, it's kind of like
this pressure sometimes.
Yeah.
It's like the pressure
Julia Salvia (16:59):
to like go somewhere and it's, you
know, you really like it.
It's really good.
Yeah.
Versus if you goto a place and you.
Personally, likeit didn't align.
It wasn't good.
Meg Longo (17:08):
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (17:08):
You could change that business's life
in one way or or the other.
Yeah.
Yeah.
And that's a lot ofpressure to like have on
your shoulders, you know?
Yeah.
Meg Longo (17:15):
Yeah.
And I really try,like I've never said
anything negative Yeah.
About a business or anything.
It's just not my mo.
Like I, yeah.
People like pour theirlifeblood into something.
I'm not here to be likea restaurant critic and
like, oh, this was bad.
Yeah.
So it's like for me, if I feellike something's not gonna align
with me, I'm not gonna go there.
'cause I don't.
Say anything negative,so then it's like, kind
(17:35):
of just doesn't work.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Have
Julia Salvia (17:37):
you gone to places where it just was
really not a good experience?
Yeah.
And you're like,
Meg Longo (17:41):
yeah, and I just don't post it.
Do
Julia Salvia (17:42):
you let them know?
Meg Longo (17:43):
Oh, yeah.
Yeah.
I let them know.
Yeah.
I just, I'm just like,I just don't post it.
Yeah, yeah.
Of course.
Because I'm like, I don't wanna,you know, I'll tell them what
I didn't like or whatever, but
Julia Salvia (17:52):
mm-hmm.
Meg Longo (17:52):
I'm like, Ugh.
I just, I don'twant that energy.
I just feel like it's bad energyfor me to be like, this sucks.
Like, I don't like this.
You know?
Like Yeah.
Especially knowing like how
Julia Salvia (18:00):
much, um, influence you have.
Yeah.
When you do go somewhereand how many people are
like, oh, Meg's things.
Once they went there,I wanna go there.
Meg Longo (18:07):
Yeah.
I, I just also, I just,I, I like my positive
vibe, my energy.
Yeah.
That's really who I am.
Yeah.
At my core.
And I'm like, it's not me to goon here and rip someone apart.
Of course.
It's just not of, yeah.
Julia Salvia (18:19):
What are your.
Speaking of like greatplaces you've went to.
Oh.
What are your top I'm,I'm nervous to say
like, I'm get in trouble
Meg Longo (18:29):
here.
Julia Salvia (18:30):
Okay.
We'll make it Okay.
Should we make it more specific?
Meg Longo (18:33):
No, it's fine.
I don't.
Okay.
Top five.
Okay.
I mean, Lita is likemy number one lately.
I love it there.
I love that.
It's my favorite place.
The cocktails are great.
Angelica's is likemy go-to for Italian.
I love that little courtyard.
You sit outside,it's just perfect.
Yeah, it's just such a vibe.
It's
Julia Salvia (18:50):
really cute.
Meg Longo (18:51):
Um, oh boy.
I love Gabriela's.
I love turning up at Gabriela's.
I love their food.
Am I at three?
Mm-hmm.
Oh God.
I have two more.
People like, I knowpeople hate on the block.
I love the block.
I always have a good time there.
I think their stakes are insane.
Mm-hmm.
So I'd say the block,where else do I go?
Oh, in Mezcal.
(19:12):
I love mezcal.
Okay.
Have you been there yet?
In Old Bridge.
Julia Salvia (19:17):
No, not yet.
Not yet.
The, not the new Mexican spot.
That place was insane there.
Meg Longo (19:20):
Yeah.
Um, mezcal that, thoseare my top five right now.
Julia Salvia (19:23):
Awesome.
I'm sorry
Meg Longo (19:24):
if I pissed anyone off.
I love everyone.
Julia Salvia (19:27):
No, I mean there's so many, you know what I mean?
Yeah.
Yeah.
It's like these are, theseare the five that you would
1000% go back to, to Yeah.
I
Meg Longo (19:34):
go all the time.
Yeah, yeah,
Julia Salvia (19:35):
yeah,
Meg Longo (19:35):
yeah.
Are
Julia Salvia (19:36):
you kind of like that person who like
won't go to something twice?
Meg Longo (19:39):
No, no.
I'll go back.
Yeah.
And you really
Julia Salvia (19:42):
like it?
Yeah.
If
Meg Longo (19:42):
I really like it, I'll go back.
Uh, all the time.
I don't care.
And I'll just refilm it andbe like, I love this place.
Here it is again.
Like I, I, whatever.
And it's funny 'causelike usually I'll just
attract new people thatdidn't see my first video.
Yeah.
So it's fine.
But I, yeah, I'm likea outfit repeater.
I'm a restaurant repeater.
I don't.
I'll do it.
I love it.
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (20:02):
Thank you so much to Love Bird for
allowing us to film in theirbackyard, in their space.
Yes.
They have reallyamazing coffees.
I mean, I've alreadydowned like their matcha.
So good.
It's so good.
This
Meg Longo (20:12):
is the honey bear I
Julia Salvia (20:13):
think.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Meg Longo (20:14):
It's delicious.
Mango Matcha Brew.
With Honey Cole Foam.
Julia Salvia (20:18):
Mm-hmm.
I love a good, delicious,I obsessed with Maca and I
honestly, it's their fault.
Meg Longo (20:22):
Yeah.
And I love these cups verycheap for like a coffee place.
Different.
Different, you know,gotta stand out.
I like it.
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (20:30):
So I wanted to jump back actually
to the people that arehating in your comments.
Who are these people?
Like, is there a specific likedemographic of who these are?
Because I have one in myhead that always, every
time I post anything.
Yep.
Especially when it hasto do with my body.
Always are up in my comments.
Meg Longo (20:48):
Yeah.
Okay.
So it, it's like a two-parter.
Mm-hmm.
So it's funny because Istarted posting like my reels
automatically to Facebook.
Like just, I'm like, okay,it's extra eyes, whatever.
Yeah.
And I was literally jokingwith my husband today
'cause I'm like, I th and.
Oddly enough, I have55,000 people on
Facebook that follow me.
And I'm like, I think they alllike hate me because every time
(21:08):
I post a video, like I posta video the other day, three
restaurants I like, and thisguy comments like three, I'm
not going to, and I'm like, thenwhy are you following me bro?
Like, I don't get it.
It's usually like, unfortunatelyfor me, I don't know why.
It's like older generationlike males for some reason.
(21:29):
I don't know why.
Really?
Yeah.
Yeah.
They like.
Like them.
And then like I would saysometimes older women, but
not, like, not as much asmen, like men more oddly.
I don't know why.
What about you?
Julia Salvia (21:45):
I, I was just gonna say
because they're fucking
Meg Longo (21:48):
I know.
Yeah, that too.
Yeah,
Julia Salvia (21:50):
I know.
That's what we had to say.
I know.
Um.
Mine is actually older women.
Really?
Yep.
It's always older women fromlike the baby boomer generation.
Yeah.
Um, they always havelike grandkids and then
they're always Yeah.
Commenting on like, my body andwhat I should or shouldn't wear,
how I should or shouldn't dress.
Oh, that's, um, that's so whatannoying, what I should or
(22:10):
shouldn't fix about my body.
And then, um, religious people.
Meg Longo (22:15):
Oh yeah.
No, don't get mestarted on that.
Yeah, I know that it's always,
Julia Salvia (22:19):
and I'm just like, all right, you could go believe
in Jesus Christ, that's fine.
But like, yeah, I know.
But over here,
Meg Longo (22:24):
I went to Catholic school my whole life.
Mm-hmm.
And I'm not religiousanymore, so really knew that.
And I grew
Julia Salvia (22:28):
up, I grew up Catholic my whole entire life.
Yeah.
Went C, c, D, the whole bit.
I could get married a Catholicchurch if I really wanted to.
I know.
And I just won't be doing that.
Yeah,
Meg Longo (22:37):
no, I mean, look, everyone can do what they want.
But yeah, it's gottento a level where.
And it doesn't evenhave to do religion.
Like the people you're talkingabout, being that judgemental.
And I actually have thoughtabout this very deeply and
I think those types of oldergeneration women specifically,
I think, and I'm sorry if Ipiss people off saying this,
but I think they grew up in atime where they had to follow
(23:00):
the path of this is what youwear, this is what you do.
Yeah.
This is who you marry.
Shut up.
You, you don't matter.
Julia Salvia (23:06):
I mean, it wasn't Yeah.
That far ago.
No.
Like far, far, likethat long ago that Yeah.
Women were actuallyable to vote Exactly.
And women were actuallyable to buy a house.
Exactly.
Meg Longo (23:16):
So, or like do anything rather, and they were
Julia Salvia (23:18):
alive during that time.
Yeah.
You know, as a, a young adult.
Yeah.
So, so
Meg Longo (23:22):
I, I wonder.
So, you know, and that's mytheory, is like they see you.
You have your own thing going.
You doing things, you'rebeautiful, you're posting,
you know, your outfitsand your body and you're
not apologizing for it.
And it makes 'em uncomfortable.
Like, sorry.
Because you're doingeverything that they wish
they could have done.
Exactly.
Exactly.
And it doesn't matter.
Like you can do whateveryou want and actually they
(23:43):
can do whatever they want.
They just did it.
So don't take it out on you.
Yeah.
Mic drop.
Yes.
Period.
Yes,
Julia Salvia (23:52):
I have.
A card deck actuallythat's coming out.
Self-love card deck.
Oh my gosh.
And a lot of the questions inthere are basically to help
you get deeper with yourself.
Meg Longo (24:02):
I love that.
Oh, thank you.
I'm gonna buy it rightwhen it comes out.
Sweetest.
Julia Salvia (24:05):
Thank you.
Um, and I wanna ask youone of those, one of the
questions from that card deck.
Meg Longo (24:10):
Okay.
Julia Salvia (24:11):
So
Meg Longo (24:11):
let's do it.
I'm nervous, but I'm ready.
Julia Salvia (24:17):
Don't be nervous.
They're very like, thoughtprovoking questions that like,
sometimes like as I was puttingit together, I was like, oh fuck
Meg Longo (24:25):
yeah.
You're like, all right,wait, I need a minute
to sit with with myself.
I'm like,
Julia Salvia (24:28):
every time I look at a question and, and I say
that and I'm like, oh shit.
Like I'm like,that's the right question
to go on the deck.
I apologize in advance 'causethis is a really good one.
Okay, that's fine.
I can do it.
I know you can.
Yeah, we all can.
So what is something you feelas though you don't deserve?
Meg Longo (24:48):
Something I feel I don't deserve.
Hmm.
This is a good one.
How Leo of it is it of meto say I deserve it all?
No, I'm just kidding.
Um,
Julia Salvia (25:00):
it's really Leo.
I know, I know.
Um, you know what's interestingabout Leo's actually?
Yeah.
Since we've been, you know,pointing to it through our
conversation that as much asthey're the most confident
people internally, they havesuch a battle with themselves.
Yes.
Meg Longo (25:14):
Oh yeah.
Like overanalyzing.
Yes.
Julia Salvia (25:15):
Yeah.
I mean, I think.
Meg Longo (25:18):
Something I don't deserve that's in
Julia Salvia (25:20):
or something you think you don't deserve.
Yeah.
I mean, because you deserveeverything in the world.
Meg Longo (25:24):
Yeah.
Yeah.
I think when I first startedout, you kind of have like
imposter syndrome syndromewhere you're like, am I like.
I'm sure you felt thisway too, like comparison
is a thief of joy, right?
Oh yeah.
Like you see, you seeother people getting like
these deals and videos.
You're like, am I good enough?
(25:44):
Am I cool enough?
And, and I think when I firststarted out, I was like thinking
too much into that of like,yeah, who do I, what do I have
to post and who do I have to be?
And I thought like I didn'tdeserve like those types
of things because I wasn'tliving to like their.
I don't, not coolness,but like their vibe.
(26:05):
I'm like, oh, I don'thave enough followers.
I don't have enough this,I don't deserve this.
And then I think when Ishifted like, wow, people
really resonating with me.
People really do like me.
Yeah.
And I am deserving ofall this, you know?
And I think at first if kindof feels like that imposter
thing where I'm like, I don'tknow if I'm good enough as an
influencer to deserve that.
(26:27):
Yeah.
Um.
I and, and I thinkthat's something like
I've gotten better at.
Yeah.
Where I'm like, okay,like I can do this.
I do deserve this.
Yeah.
Yeah.
Because
Julia Salvia (26:36):
you do.
Yeah, you do.
And so do you.
Thank you.
Yeah.
Yeah.
So have you seen thefull severance series?
Yes.
And what did you think?
Meg Longo (26:46):
Um, it's my favorite show.
Julia Salvia (26:47):
Do you like psychological thrillers?
Meg Longo (26:49):
Yes.
Love.
So
Julia Salvia (26:50):
I like really do avoid.
Tv.
Meg Longo (26:53):
Okay.
Because
Julia Salvia (26:53):
I get so invested that whatever way
the show ends, this is whyI actually kind of enjoy the
fact that you could binge Yes.
But what really fucks me upis when you know you leave
me on a cliffhanger and I'mleft to deal with my emotions.
Meg Longo (27:06):
Yes.
And you're like, I wanna know.
I'm like, shit.
Yes.
Julia Salvia (27:08):
It's not even, I wanna know, it's like, did
you kill someone at the end?
Yeah.
Because like, I feel like youjust killed my best friend.
Like I got soinvested, you know?
Um, so you got the opportunityto go to Bell Works.
When they had the wholecast there, they had all
of the cool equipment andprops from the actual show.
Yep.
And everything.
(27:29):
The funny thing I thinkabout this severance series
and severance inherently mm-hmm.
Is that there'sactually like a lot of this,
um, self-love tied into it.
Yeah.
Watching it from this,like my perspective as I
watch the show, I'm like.
They are literally takingthe self-love from all of
these people psychologically.
(27:51):
Mm-hmm.
They're like, letme separate you.
Mm-hmm.
And everything youhate about yourself.
Mm-hmm.
And bring you backto the brain that you
would've had as a child.
Because like when we'rebabies, like we are not
influenced by anything.
Oh yeah.
You know, we're influencedby just our immediate,
you know, the immediatepeople were around.
Mm-hmm.
And I guess when you, when itcomes to severance, you could
think of like the immediatepeople you're around as your
(28:11):
coworkers and the peopleyou know, the boss guy.
Mm-hmm.
The crazy, crazy lady with grayhair, like Yeah, yeah.
You know what I mean?
Yeah, yeah.
Like you could think of thosepeople as like the immediate
people who are influencinghow you feel about yourself.
Yeah.
So it was really interestingto watch it and like watch it.
Like take all ofthat away from you.
Meg Longo (28:30):
Oh yeah.
And
Julia Salvia (28:31):
then here go back to your shitty life.
Meg Longo (28:34):
Yep.
Julia Salvia (28:34):
Because you think your life is better
in here when it's actuallyworse when it's not.
Meg Longo (28:38):
Yeah.
It's worse.
Yeah.
That's so interesting.
I actually love that viewpoint.
Yeah.
Because.
I, and I think when I, whenI posted about severance,
it was so surreal that Ieven got to go to that.
I was like, talk about, I'mlike, do I deserve this?
What in the hell?
How am I here?
But um, yeah.
It kind of ties back towhat I was saying before
about the nine to five.
(28:59):
Like I feel like a lot ofpeople and nine to fives
aren't bad, by the way.
Yeah.
Like I think if that was mylife, like I was happy As
long as you find one you love.
Yeah.
But you know any job,and it doesn't even
matter if it's this.
Some days you're like, I.
Need to turn my brain off.
Yeah, I need a break.
I feel like I'm just goingthrough life and I'm not looking
up, and I think severance that.
(29:21):
That's why the show reallyresonated with so many people.
Yeah.
Because you think,oh, if I turn that part off and
I just go do this, it's better.
But is it when you'renot really in tune with
who you are and mm-hmm.
Yourself, if
Julia Salvia (29:33):
you're not actually healing the things
that you need to heal?
Exactly.
You're just tryingto run away from it.
You're just trying
Meg Longo (29:37):
to turn it off.
Yeah.
Because that's
Julia Salvia (29:39):
what it comes to.
Yeah.
Every single person isrunning away from something.
Meg Longo (29:42):
Yep.
That they don't wanna deal with.
Julia Salvia (29:44):
Exactly.
Yeah.
And then they come to find outwhat they're running away from
and they're like, oh shit.
Meg Longo (29:48):
Yeah.
Wait, maybe I should havejust dealt with this.
Yeah.
Maybe,
Julia Salvia (29:51):
maybe it would've been better for me
to just like, go to therapyor something like that.
Yes,
Meg Longo (29:54):
yes.
Yeah.
Not get severed.
Yeah.
That was a funny question.
I, I, I saw on TikTok, alot of people were like,
would you be severed?
And I'm like, absolutely not.
Yeah.
But I also thinkthat's because I've like
done the work of like.
Like, you know, if somethingis hurting, I, I, I do
the work to be like, okay,how can I deal with this?
Or how can I overcome it?
But like, to just be severed.
(30:15):
That's intense.
Oh yeah.
That, that seemstoo intense for me.
I can't do it.
Yep.
I need my one self.
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (30:21):
And it was really funny watching
this, knowing I'm hostingan event at Bel Works Yes.
Self love event andI'm like, oh fuck.
How do I, how do I talkabout the fact that this
is where this psychologicalthriller is happening, but.
I'm hosting an event that'sall about loving yourself.
Yeah.
Like this is an interesting,like conundrum here.
Yeah.
Where I, there's thisthing that's supposed to
(30:41):
help you with who you are.
Mm-hmm.
And a show that's beingfilmed here is like the
complete opposite of that.
Yeah.
So it's been really interestingto see the two tied together.
Yeah.
Um, but Bell Worksis such an amazing new space in.
Monmouth County.
Yeah.
And I think we'vereally, I think we've
really been needing it.
Meg Longo (31:00):
I know.
I love it.
I mean, they have therestaurants like walk around the
shop, like the farmer's Mar likeit's cute and you can like work
and there's kids running around.
I love it there.
I'm just, I think it'sperfect for your event.
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (31:10):
I'm just sad that I grew up down the
street and like literallyit didn't like I know.
I know.
I know.
Like of course we wouldsell the house and I
would move and I literallycould have walked there.
Meg Longo (31:21):
I know.
And now you're like, damn.
Well, and now.
You can manifest itthrough your whole event.
Yay.
Bring all the love.
Julia Salvia (31:27):
So it's a, it's called Bloom and it's
an immersive self-loveexperience and it's a very
much an elevated experience.
Kind of like an expo event thatyou would go to in the city.
Like we'll be in theJavit Center one day.
I know it.
Oh, a hundred percent.
I think to focus on, youknow, the small businesses
that are elevated,established brands that Yeah.
Are really rooted in kindness.
(31:48):
Mm-hmm.
Self-love and.
Just brands that havelike a good value.
Yeah, like a good, a, a goodvalue in regards to like their
team and the people that theyare, but also have a really cool
brand or really cool product.
Yeah.
Because I think we'realways searching for that.
Yeah.
And I love the localmarkets, but I wanna see
(32:10):
a bunch of different ones.
I wanna see somethingsuper curated.
Um, we really make sure thateveryone in the space is.
Inclusive as well.
Yes.
And also creating theimmersiveness of the experience.
It's like how do you bringbig, big brands together and
smaller brands into one space?
Yeah.
We had, um, Maybelline apart of our event last year.
(32:31):
We had, um, real essentials,a part of our event last year.
So many really cool, youknow, bigger brands as well as
small businesses and kind ofbringing them into that space.
You know, together is a reallycool experience and really
fun just coming from like theinfluencer world and being like,
okay, there's all these reallycool influencer events, which
I'm sure you've been to some.
Yeah.
You're like, this is so cool.
Yeah.
(32:51):
But sometimes they're lackinglike the connectivity.
Meg Longo (32:54):
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (32:54):
And the ability to actually like connect on
a level with these peoplein a way that allows you to
really get to know each other.
Yeah.
And create more of asense of community.
And I'm like.
Been there, done that.
I love the aesthetic of theseevents, but I wanna bring
aesthetic and the connectionand community together.
Yeah.
Make it deeper.
Yeah.
Bring it together in one space.
(33:15):
And I felt like just, I love it.
Thank you.
I feel like just what BellWorks is it's, it has that idea
already of bringing, you know,it's this giant building that
has so many different things.
It's a, it's a workplace, it's.
Has amazing restaurants.
It has the marketplace.
Mm-hmm.
Like on Wednesdaysand, and Saturdays.
Like they have eventsand they have a bunch
of small businesses.
(33:35):
And I think they do so manycool things that really provide
that sense of community.
So it was the, it wasthe perfect connection.
It's gonna be
Meg Longo (33:42):
great.
And it's so cool that youbring those big brands and the
small businesses, you lift themup to all in the same room.
It's really cool.
Julia Salvia (33:49):
I think everybody deserves a spot.
Meg Longo (33:51):
Yeah.
Julia Salvia (33:52):
In, you know.
In this type of wayto be able to connect
with different people.
Meg Longo (33:57):
Yes.
Julia Salvia (33:58):
And I think it's time.
I think we need, weneed an event like this.
We need a day like this.
Like everyone deserves aday to love themselves more
and be in an environmentwhere they get the chance to
Meg Longo (34:07):
And with people who are like open to that idea too.
Yes.
And meet and makenew connections.
I think it's really fun.
Julia Salvia (34:12):
Yeah.
Thank you.
I appreciate it.
I'm so excited.
I'll be there.
Oh, yes, you will.
Yeah, I will.
Well, thank you somuch for being here.
I really appreciate it.
Of course.
It was so good to get to knowyou, especially like on a
deeper level in regards tolike your self-love journey
and see like how you'vegrown from where you know you
were to where you are today.
(34:33):
And just seeing that how itwasn't, you know, it wasn't
a linear path, it wasn'teven a path you really
expected, but it came to be.
It came to fruition and.
You're loving yourself more now.
Meg Longo (34:43):
Yes.
I, it was so lovely.
You're such an amazing person.
Thanks.
And I'm just honored thatyou asked me to be on it.
Thank you.
So thank you so much.
Julia Salvia (34:50):
Of course.
Thank you.
I appreciate it.
Of course.
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