December 28, 2025 • 25 mins
this episode is a reflection, a pause, and a thank you- to myself and to you.
as i close out 2025, i’m sharing the self-love lessons this year taught me in my 30s: about trusting myself, slowing down, choosing what feels aligned, and continuing to love myself even when it’s messy. if you’re craving a gentle reminder that growth doesn’t have to be perfect to be meaningful, this one’s for you.
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Can you believe thatwe're at the end of 2025?
What?
What in the worldtime really does fly?
And I think that 2025 went byin a flash in like five seconds.
All, all I knew, all I knowis that it was just February,
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it was just January of2025 and now we are barely.
A week away fromJanuary of 2026.
I think the craziest thingto compare it to is thinking
back of like COVID times,like we're going on six years.
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What time is such a wild thing?
As it was reflecting on.
My 2025, if I initiallythink about how 2025 went,
I would say that I'm notlike 100% happy or proud of
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what I have accomplished.
And I wonder if any ofyou feel that way too.
But then I challenge you todo what I challenge myself.
How could I have made it to theend of the year and not feel
proud of number one existing?
A whole nother 365 days, andhow could I not be proud that
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I am still standing here infront of you, in front of my
friends, in front of my family,and I feel as though I'm okay.
I know our minds have thistendency to go in a million
different directions and thinkabout, well, I wish I had that
and I didn't complete thatgoal, and I could have been
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here, I could have done that.
Should have coulda, woulda,you could go around in circles
doing that all day, but Iwant you to take a moment and
really look at what you did.
This whole entire yeargo month by month.
Something that helps me jogmy memory of the things that
have happened and the thingsthat I've accomplished or the
things that I did, is I takea lot of photos and videos.
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As one does, and I just lookback at all of my photos
and videos and sometimes Iscroll through, sometimes
I really watch them.
I look at them and it helpsme remember all of the things
that I actually did, all ofthe places that I went to see,
all of the people that I got tomeet and got to spend time with
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all of the things that I did.
And when I take a moment to.
Jog my memory of all thethings that I had done and
all the places that I had beenin 2025 throughout the year.
It allows me to have alittle bit more grace
for myself, especiallyif I didn't meet specific
goals that I wrote down.
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There are so many goals that Ihad wrote down for myself that
I didn't meet this year, butthere are also so many things
that were not on my bingoboard that I accomplished,
that I completed that happened.
That's something to write down.
That's something toalso be proud of.
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Part of our mental healthand our love for ourselves
is also acknowledging, right?
It's acknowledging all ofthe things that we did do.
I think we get stuck inour heads about all of the
things that we didn't dobecause they seem to carry
so much more weight thanthe things that we did.
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I challenge you.
Write it all down.
Give yourself like anaudit of the entire year.
Go through every single month,every single week if you really
want to, and retell yourselfthe story that you wrote that
you were a part of for 2025.
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Welcome back to the SelfLove Archives podcast.
I am your host, Julia Salvia,your self love bestie.
Welcome to the verylast episode of 2025.
Woo.
Yay.
I know you noticed.
We actually have continued todo podcasts every single week.
(04:35):
Hmm.
So we completed 2025together with the self-love
100, a 100 day journeyof loving yourself more.
If you have not yet gotten yourhands on the very, very, very
free downloadable checklistfor all of the 100 days of the
Self-Love 100, you can do soat the self-love archives.com.
(04:59):
I'm too excited totell you these things.
Too excited to wait till the endof the episode to tell you these
things, but in 2026, we arestarting two brand new things.
The first thing is thatthere will be a podcast
episode every single weekend.
We have worked so tirelesslyand so hard at so many
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different things in 2025that I should be so proud
of, of myself and my team.
At the self flow of archives, wehave worked tirelessly to, first
of all, to be very consistent.
But second of all, to get to aplace where I can confidently
say that we can bring you anepisode every single weekend.
(05:45):
I wanted to feel more confidentin being able to say that to
you guys, which is why I thinksince we started the podcast,
we've gone back and forthabout doing every other week,
every single week, and I wannabring you shorter episodes that
have so much more meaning andso much more value to them.
10, 15 minutes, 20, maybe 25 ifthey're really juicy, with lots
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to learn and lots to love in it.
But I wanna bring you episodesthat are shorter, that you
can listen to on your driveto work or, um, as you're
walking on the treadmill, onyour walks, whatever it is.
Whenever you listen, Iwant these episodes to be
a lot more enjoyable in ashorter amount of time and
provide so much more value.
(06:30):
So going into 2026, we'regonna be bringing you
episodes every single Sundayat 12 o'clock Eastern time.
Yay.
And the second thing thatI am so excited to share
with you is we are addinga Self-Love book club to
our self-Love collective,which is our community here
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at the Self-Love Archives.
I'm so ecstatic.
I'm so excited.
Self-Love Book Club is notjust going to be in person
at a book club meeting.
Locally in New Jersey.
It's going to behere on the podcast.
So the last episodeof every single month.
We are going to reviewand go over and chat about
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the book of the monthtogether every single month.
We'll be announcing the bookclub book of the month on our
socials and via email and letyou guys know what book we are
gonna be reading for the month.
We will read it together.
And meet at the endof the month locally.
But we'll also be here onthe podcast to talk about
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it with you and maybe weshould start a community
group where we can actuallylike talk about the book.
As well.
Let me know what your favoriteplatforms are for that so that
we can figure out where we canchat together and connect more
deeply on the book and allthe things that we've gained
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and learned and took fromit by the end of the month.
So I think that's gonna bereally fun, really exciting,
and such a good way to actually.
Bring in some of these reallymeaningful books into our lives.
I know that I feel so incrediblyinspired after reading a book,
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and sometimes I just need thatlike longer length of time to
read a little bit at a timeand not feel so bombarded by.
Too many books at once orreading something too quickly.
So I love the month timeframeand us at the end of 2026,
we get to say that we haveread 12 books together.
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That's so exciting.
So I'm super excited to letyou guys know those two things.
We're gonna have the podcastevery single weekend,
and we have officiallynow added a book club to
our self-love collective.
Okay.
Enough of all theexciting things.
I wanna get into the episodebecause I have some really,
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really amazing lessons that Ilearned in 2025 about self-love,
most especially about self-love.
In my thirties between our selflove expo, bloom, launching the
Love Yourself more card deck,and between just life, there
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have been so many ways that.
I believe I've grown inloving myself, but I think
that we've all grown in waysthat we have loved ourselves.
But there's one reallybig misconception that a
lot of people have whenit comes to self-love, and
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that's that self-love isa feeling and self-love, I
believe, is not a feeling.
Self-love is not a feeling.
Self-love is a practice.
It's something that you chooseto do every single day to be
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the person that you wanna be,to love the person that you are
today, tomorrow, the next day.
And there on self-love is somuch bigger than just a feeling.
If self-love was a feeling,we would constantly chase.
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Everything we would be inthis circle of never ending.
Like I want that.
I want that.
It's like happiness.
Happiness isn'tactually a feeling.
It's something thatyou choose to be.
Because if we kept chasinghappiness, if we kept chasing
the feeling of happiness, Idon't think that we would ever
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be happy if we didn't feel allof the feelings, anger, sadness.
We wouldn't know what happyfeels like if we didn't
feel what it feels liketo change and to live.
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We wouldn't know whatloving ourselves feels like.
Self-love is a choice, onethat you make for yourself
every single day by.
Simply saying that you chooseto love yourself simply by
doing the things that youknow you need to do simply by
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giving to you filling your cup.
That's how we choose ourselves.
That's how we love ourselves.
That is self-love.
And to that same point.
Number two, loving your bodydoes not mean changing it.
It's about building trustwith yourself, about
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trusting what your bodyis telling you it needs.
It's about trusting thatwhat you are physically
feeling, what you are mentallyunderstanding is true.
Trusting in your intuitionthat something is right and
something is wrong for you.
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Loving your body isn'tabout changing it.
It's about trusting who you are.
It's about trusting the physicaland the non-physical body
that you inhabit in this life.
I think we spend so muchtime comparing ourselves
to others comparison beyondjust physically and non
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physically, like what welook like and what we have.
But even more so when we seesomeone that looks a certain
way and we yearn to look likethat, or wish that we had
this or wish that we had that.
You've heard it a million times.
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Comparison is a thief of joy.
We are not them.
They are not us.
We need to look at ourselvesin the mirror, look at who we
are in this moment right nowand say, I'm going to love her.
It's about trusting that yourintuition actually knows your
body knows everything already.
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Because it really does.
It's actually kind ofinsane when you start
listening to yourself.
It's actually kind of insane howincredibly smart she is, truly.
So we're not comparingourselves to anyone.
We are not doing anythingthat our intuition is
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telling us not to do.
We are trusting ourselves.
Loving our bodies inside andout in all of the ways you
already know you deserve.
Number three, you can beambitious and successful
while also being soft.
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I think there's this likevery toxic mindset of
needing to be mean or thatyou're a bitch or that.
There's this certain way tobe, if you wanna be successful
and you wanna be ambitious andyou want to, you want to get
all of these things and haveall of these things and make
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tons of money and have all ofthis success, when in actuality
you can still be within yourfeminine and and be soft while
obtaining all of the goalsthat you could ever dream of.
This mindset that we're supposedto go, go, go and do it all.
Leads to burnout, whichthen brings us into this
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cycle of not doing anythingbecause we are so incredibly
burnt out that we don't havethe energy to do anything.
Our mind is turned off, ourbody is done, and we are
just physically, mentally,and emotionally exhausted.
You don't have to getthere in order to have
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everything that you want.
In order to love who youare, you don't need to do
it all and be it all andbe a certain kind of way
in order to be successful.
In order to have ambition, youcan do all of that while still
remaining soft, remaining calmand just ticking off one thing.
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Each and every single day.
This next one, number four,you do not have to be healed
in order to love yourself.
Let me say it again.
You do not have to be healedin order to love yourself.
There's something about theword healed that I have a
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love and hate relationshipwith because what is healed?
Do we ever reach?
A point of feeling healed?
Being healed.
I think just like self-lovehealing is something
that we constantly aredoing for ourselves.
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We're constantly tryingto become a better version
of ourselves, and thatcould be essentially
considered healing and.
If we're looking at healingor looking at self-love as
this destination that we'retrying to get to, we're going
to be forever on a road tripto these destinations because
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life is going to change.
Things around you are going tochange, you are going to change.
You are going toreinvent yourself.
So many times you'regoing to become a new
version of yourself.
So much.
You don't need to wait untilyou become a certain version
of yourself or reach a certainplace, or have a certain
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thing to decide today thatyou're gonna love yourself.
I really believe that theonly way that you're going to
actually get there to thesequote unquote destinations
is that if you choose toreach the destination today.
There isn't this long path.
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There isn't this long feet.
There isn't all ofthese obstacles.
You can look at yourself,whether you believe it
or not, in the mirror andsay, I love myself today.
I am healed today.
I am good enough, worthyenough to be loved today.
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You don't need to behealed to love yourself.
You don't need to be healedto be confident in yourself.
You don't need to be healedto live a meaningful life.
You don't need to love yourself.
You can be all of those thingstoday, in this moment right
now, and I want you to takethat with you into 2026.
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When you wake up or next timeyou see yourself in the mirror,
I want you to tell yourselfthat you are choosing her today.
You are going to chooseher tomorrow, and you
are going to love herevery single day forward.
It doesn't matter what youstill have on your to-do list.
The goals that you haven'treached yet, the things that
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you've done and the thingsthat you haven't done,
all that matters is thatyou are choosing yourself
today in this very moment.
And last but not least, numberfive, build routines that
support you, not punish you.
If you've been here, youknow this, we have our
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self-love 100, 100 days ofloving yourself more, and
it is all about buildingroutines and habits that
support you, not punish you.
We get in this place withthese challenges and these
motivational things and thesediets and all these, all
of these different tactics.
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Right to become a betterversion of ourselves.
And a lot of the reasons whythey don't stick and they don't
work is because we are nottweaking them to make sense
for our lifestyle, for the waythat we need to fuel our bodies
with the way that we need tohave energy throughout the day.
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We're not changing them sothat they make sense for us.
One of the biggest things withthe self-love 100 and anything
that I'm ever gonna tell youto do is that you need to
make it make sense for you.
If it does not makesense for you, you're
not gonna stick to it.
You're not gonna do it, andit's not gonna be exciting.
Yeah, of course there's gonnabe things that you need to
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do for you that are maybegonna be tough at first.
Maybe going to feel a little.
Tough to do.
A little challenging and achallenge is okay, that is
okay, but it's when we've triedover and over and over again
the same thing, and it stilldoesn't work where we need to
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ask ourselves, okay, well why?
It's that one thing thatyou keep trying to do to fit
into your lifestyle, to fitinto your routines and habits
that just does not click.
It's time to askyourself, well, why?
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It's kind of like clothing,clothes should fit you.
You should not fit clothes.
All of your habits androutines should fit you.
You should not fitthe habit and routine.
So make them fit for you.
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Make them align with yourlifestyle with what you need.
We are all so different fromeach other, so to go into any
sort of challenge or habit ornew routine that someone else
is doing, and to think thatit's going to work exactly
the same for you as it doesfor them is already setting
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yourself up for failure.
I am giving you permissionif you needed it.
I'm giving you the permissionto love yourself more
as we move into 2026.
One of my proudestaccomplishments of 2025 is that
we finally, finally, finallylaunched something that I
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have been working so hard onover the past couple of years,
and that is my card deck.
It's called the LoveYourself More Card Deck.
There are 100 questionsto discover who you are
and love yourself deeper.
I truly believe that ifwe know ourselves, we
can love ourselves more.
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So much easier than if wedidn't know who we are.
As we get to know other people,we start to fall in love with
who they are, their quirks,their qualities, their flaws,
the things that make them them.
So why are we not doing that?
Also for ourselves?
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This card deck ismy pride and joy.
You will 100% be hearing so,so, so, so, so much about it.
And I would love for youto get your hands on this
and use these questions tolearn more about yourself.
AI is not going to answerthese questions for you.
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Your friends and yourfamily aren't gonna answer
these questions for you.
These are meant for you todig deeper into who you are.
Become more self-aware andto make it so much easier for
you to love yourself more.
You can grab your LoveYourself More card deck on
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the self-love archives.com.
All of the info is in thedescription below, and we are
also offering free shippingover a hundred dollars until
the end of the year, somake sure to take advantage
of it and get one of thesefor your friends as gifts.
This would be so cute.
For a vision board party givingone of these to all of your
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friends, this would make sucha cute bridesmaids bag gift.
I keep reminding myself,I keep looking at it.
I'm like, Julia, everytime you think that you
did nothing in 2025, pleasejust look at what you did.
Please look at what you created.
I have a physicalthing in my hand.
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So if you would like one,they're available on my website.
But you guys, thank you somuch for being here, all of
2025 and hanging out with mejoining the Self-Love 100.
Coming to our self-love expo,bloom, being a part of the
self-love collective and justbeing here, being present,
existing, and choosingto love yourself more.
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That is all I want atthe end of the day.
And if you have done evenjust a little bit of that.
In 2025, I am so proud ofyou and I absolutely cannot
wait to see how much welove ourselves More in 2026.
Have an amazing,amazing, happy New Year.
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Happy holidays, and I'll seeyou in the brand new year.
Bye.
Can you believe thatwe're at the end of 2025?
What?
What in the worldtime really does fly?
And I think that 2025 went byin a flash in like five seconds.
All, all I knew, all I knowis that it was just February,
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it was just January of2025 and now we are barely.
A week away fromJanuary of 2026.
I think the craziest thingto compare it to is thinking
back of like COVID times,like we're going on six years.
(00:43):
What time is such a wild thing?
As it was reflecting on.
My 2025, if I initiallythink about how 2025 went,
I would say that I'm notlike 100% happy or proud of
(01:05):
what I have accomplished.
And I wonder if any ofyou feel that way too.
But then I challenge you todo what I challenge myself.
How could I have made it to theend of the year and not feel
proud of number one existing?
A whole nother 365 days, andhow could I not be proud that
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I am still standing here infront of you, in front of my
friends, in front of my family,and I feel as though I'm okay.
I know our minds have thistendency to go in a million
different directions and thinkabout, well, I wish I had that
and I didn't complete thatgoal, and I could have been
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here, I could have done that.
Should have coulda, woulda,you could go around in circles
doing that all day, but Iwant you to take a moment and
really look at what you did.
This whole entire yeargo month by month.
Something that helps me jogmy memory of the things that
have happened and the thingsthat I've accomplished or the
things that I did, is I takea lot of photos and videos.
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As one does, and I just lookback at all of my photos
and videos and sometimes Iscroll through, sometimes
I really watch them.
I look at them and it helpsme remember all of the things
that I actually did, all ofthe places that I went to see,
all of the people that I got tomeet and got to spend time with
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all of the things that I did.
And when I take a moment to.
Jog my memory of all thethings that I had done and
all the places that I had beenin 2025 throughout the year.
It allows me to have alittle bit more grace
for myself, especiallyif I didn't meet specific
goals that I wrote down.
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There are so many goals that Ihad wrote down for myself that
I didn't meet this year, butthere are also so many things
that were not on my bingoboard that I accomplished,
that I completed that happened.
That's something to write down.
That's something toalso be proud of.
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Part of our mental healthand our love for ourselves
is also acknowledging, right?
It's acknowledging all ofthe things that we did do.
I think we get stuck inour heads about all of the
things that we didn't dobecause they seem to carry
so much more weight thanthe things that we did.
(03:39):
I challenge you.
Write it all down.
Give yourself like anaudit of the entire year.
Go through every single month,every single week if you really
want to, and retell yourselfthe story that you wrote that
you were a part of for 2025.
(04:09):
Welcome back to the SelfLove Archives podcast.
I am your host, Julia Salvia,your self love bestie.
Welcome to the verylast episode of 2025.
Woo.
Yay.
I know you noticed.
We actually have continued todo podcasts every single week.
(04:35):
Hmm.
So we completed 2025together with the self-love
100, a 100 day journeyof loving yourself more.
If you have not yet gotten yourhands on the very, very, very
free downloadable checklistfor all of the 100 days of the
Self-Love 100, you can do soat the self-love archives.com.
(04:59):
I'm too excited totell you these things.
Too excited to wait till the endof the episode to tell you these
things, but in 2026, we arestarting two brand new things.
The first thing is thatthere will be a podcast
episode every single weekend.
We have worked so tirelesslyand so hard at so many
(05:23):
different things in 2025that I should be so proud
of, of myself and my team.
At the self flow of archives, wehave worked tirelessly to, first
of all, to be very consistent.
But second of all, to get to aplace where I can confidently
say that we can bring you anepisode every single weekend.
(05:45):
I wanted to feel more confidentin being able to say that to
you guys, which is why I thinksince we started the podcast,
we've gone back and forthabout doing every other week,
every single week, and I wannabring you shorter episodes that
have so much more meaning andso much more value to them.
10, 15 minutes, 20, maybe 25 ifthey're really juicy, with lots
(06:09):
to learn and lots to love in it.
But I wanna bring you episodesthat are shorter, that you
can listen to on your driveto work or, um, as you're
walking on the treadmill, onyour walks, whatever it is.
Whenever you listen, Iwant these episodes to be
a lot more enjoyable in ashorter amount of time and
provide so much more value.
(06:30):
So going into 2026, we'regonna be bringing you
episodes every single Sundayat 12 o'clock Eastern time.
Yay.
And the second thing thatI am so excited to share
with you is we are addinga Self-Love book club to
our self-Love collective,which is our community here
(06:52):
at the Self-Love Archives.
I'm so ecstatic.
I'm so excited.
Self-Love Book Club is notjust going to be in person
at a book club meeting.
Locally in New Jersey.
It's going to behere on the podcast.
So the last episodeof every single month.
We are going to reviewand go over and chat about
(07:15):
the book of the monthtogether every single month.
We'll be announcing the bookclub book of the month on our
socials and via email and letyou guys know what book we are
gonna be reading for the month.
We will read it together.
And meet at the endof the month locally.
But we'll also be here onthe podcast to talk about
(07:37):
it with you and maybe weshould start a community
group where we can actuallylike talk about the book.
As well.
Let me know what your favoriteplatforms are for that so that
we can figure out where we canchat together and connect more
deeply on the book and allthe things that we've gained
(07:57):
and learned and took fromit by the end of the month.
So I think that's gonna bereally fun, really exciting,
and such a good way to actually.
Bring in some of these reallymeaningful books into our lives.
I know that I feel so incrediblyinspired after reading a book,
(08:18):
and sometimes I just need thatlike longer length of time to
read a little bit at a timeand not feel so bombarded by.
Too many books at once orreading something too quickly.
So I love the month timeframeand us at the end of 2026,
we get to say that we haveread 12 books together.
(08:42):
That's so exciting.
So I'm super excited to letyou guys know those two things.
We're gonna have the podcastevery single weekend,
and we have officiallynow added a book club to
our self-love collective.
Okay.
Enough of all theexciting things.
I wanna get into the episodebecause I have some really,
(09:03):
really amazing lessons that Ilearned in 2025 about self-love,
most especially about self-love.
In my thirties between our selflove expo, bloom, launching the
Love Yourself more card deck,and between just life, there
(09:23):
have been so many ways that.
I believe I've grown inloving myself, but I think
that we've all grown in waysthat we have loved ourselves.
But there's one reallybig misconception that a
lot of people have whenit comes to self-love, and
(09:44):
that's that self-love isa feeling and self-love, I
believe, is not a feeling.
Self-love is not a feeling.
Self-love is a practice.
It's something that you chooseto do every single day to be
(10:06):
the person that you wanna be,to love the person that you are
today, tomorrow, the next day.
And there on self-love is somuch bigger than just a feeling.
If self-love was a feeling,we would constantly chase.
(10:26):
Everything we would be inthis circle of never ending.
Like I want that.
I want that.
It's like happiness.
Happiness isn'tactually a feeling.
It's something thatyou choose to be.
Because if we kept chasinghappiness, if we kept chasing
the feeling of happiness, Idon't think that we would ever
(10:46):
be happy if we didn't feel allof the feelings, anger, sadness.
We wouldn't know what happyfeels like if we didn't
feel what it feels liketo change and to live.
(11:08):
We wouldn't know whatloving ourselves feels like.
Self-love is a choice, onethat you make for yourself
every single day by.
Simply saying that you chooseto love yourself simply by
doing the things that youknow you need to do simply by
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giving to you filling your cup.
That's how we choose ourselves.
That's how we love ourselves.
That is self-love.
And to that same point.
Number two, loving your bodydoes not mean changing it.
It's about building trustwith yourself, about
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trusting what your bodyis telling you it needs.
It's about trusting thatwhat you are physically
feeling, what you are mentallyunderstanding is true.
Trusting in your intuitionthat something is right and
something is wrong for you.
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Loving your body isn'tabout changing it.
It's about trusting who you are.
It's about trusting the physicaland the non-physical body
that you inhabit in this life.
I think we spend so muchtime comparing ourselves
to others comparison beyondjust physically and non
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physically, like what welook like and what we have.
But even more so when we seesomeone that looks a certain
way and we yearn to look likethat, or wish that we had
this or wish that we had that.
You've heard it a million times.
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Comparison is a thief of joy.
We are not them.
They are not us.
We need to look at ourselvesin the mirror, look at who we
are in this moment right nowand say, I'm going to love her.
It's about trusting that yourintuition actually knows your
body knows everything already.
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Because it really does.
It's actually kind ofinsane when you start
listening to yourself.
It's actually kind of insane howincredibly smart she is, truly.
So we're not comparingourselves to anyone.
We are not doing anythingthat our intuition is
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telling us not to do.
We are trusting ourselves.
Loving our bodies inside andout in all of the ways you
already know you deserve.
Number three, you can beambitious and successful
while also being soft.
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I think there's this likevery toxic mindset of
needing to be mean or thatyou're a bitch or that.
There's this certain way tobe, if you wanna be successful
and you wanna be ambitious andyou want to, you want to get
all of these things and haveall of these things and make
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tons of money and have all ofthis success, when in actuality
you can still be within yourfeminine and and be soft while
obtaining all of the goalsthat you could ever dream of.
This mindset that we're supposedto go, go, go and do it all.
Leads to burnout, whichthen brings us into this
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cycle of not doing anythingbecause we are so incredibly
burnt out that we don't havethe energy to do anything.
Our mind is turned off, ourbody is done, and we are
just physically, mentally,and emotionally exhausted.
You don't have to getthere in order to have
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everything that you want.
In order to love who youare, you don't need to do
it all and be it all andbe a certain kind of way
in order to be successful.
In order to have ambition, youcan do all of that while still
remaining soft, remaining calmand just ticking off one thing.
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Each and every single day.
This next one, number four,you do not have to be healed
in order to love yourself.
Let me say it again.
You do not have to be healedin order to love yourself.
There's something about theword healed that I have a
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love and hate relationshipwith because what is healed?
Do we ever reach?
A point of feeling healed?
Being healed.
I think just like self-lovehealing is something
that we constantly aredoing for ourselves.
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We're constantly tryingto become a better version
of ourselves, and thatcould be essentially
considered healing and.
If we're looking at healingor looking at self-love as
this destination that we'retrying to get to, we're going
to be forever on a road tripto these destinations because
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life is going to change.
Things around you are going tochange, you are going to change.
You are going toreinvent yourself.
So many times you'regoing to become a new
version of yourself.
So much.
You don't need to wait untilyou become a certain version
of yourself or reach a certainplace, or have a certain
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thing to decide today thatyou're gonna love yourself.
I really believe that theonly way that you're going to
actually get there to thesequote unquote destinations
is that if you choose toreach the destination today.
There isn't this long path.
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There isn't this long feet.
There isn't all ofthese obstacles.
You can look at yourself,whether you believe it
or not, in the mirror andsay, I love myself today.
I am healed today.
I am good enough, worthyenough to be loved today.
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You don't need to behealed to love yourself.
You don't need to be healedto be confident in yourself.
You don't need to be healedto live a meaningful life.
You don't need to love yourself.
You can be all of those thingstoday, in this moment right
now, and I want you to takethat with you into 2026.
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When you wake up or next timeyou see yourself in the mirror,
I want you to tell yourselfthat you are choosing her today.
You are going to chooseher tomorrow, and you
are going to love herevery single day forward.
It doesn't matter what youstill have on your to-do list.
The goals that you haven'treached yet, the things that
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you've done and the thingsthat you haven't done,
all that matters is thatyou are choosing yourself
today in this very moment.
And last but not least, numberfive, build routines that
support you, not punish you.
If you've been here, youknow this, we have our
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self-love 100, 100 days ofloving yourself more, and
it is all about buildingroutines and habits that
support you, not punish you.
We get in this place withthese challenges and these
motivational things and thesediets and all these, all
of these different tactics.
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Right to become a betterversion of ourselves.
And a lot of the reasons whythey don't stick and they don't
work is because we are nottweaking them to make sense
for our lifestyle, for the waythat we need to fuel our bodies
with the way that we need tohave energy throughout the day.
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We're not changing them sothat they make sense for us.
One of the biggest things withthe self-love 100 and anything
that I'm ever gonna tell youto do is that you need to
make it make sense for you.
If it does not makesense for you, you're
not gonna stick to it.
You're not gonna do it, andit's not gonna be exciting.
Yeah, of course there's gonnabe things that you need to
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do for you that are maybegonna be tough at first.
Maybe going to feel a little.
Tough to do.
A little challenging and achallenge is okay, that is
okay, but it's when we've triedover and over and over again
the same thing, and it stilldoesn't work where we need to
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ask ourselves, okay, well why?
It's that one thing thatyou keep trying to do to fit
into your lifestyle, to fitinto your routines and habits
that just does not click.
It's time to askyourself, well, why?
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It's kind of like clothing,clothes should fit you.
You should not fit clothes.
All of your habits androutines should fit you.
You should not fitthe habit and routine.
So make them fit for you.
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Make them align with yourlifestyle with what you need.
We are all so different fromeach other, so to go into any
sort of challenge or habit ornew routine that someone else
is doing, and to think thatit's going to work exactly
the same for you as it doesfor them is already setting
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yourself up for failure.
I am giving you permissionif you needed it.
I'm giving you the permissionto love yourself more
as we move into 2026.
One of my proudestaccomplishments of 2025 is that
we finally, finally, finallylaunched something that I
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have been working so hard onover the past couple of years,
and that is my card deck.
It's called the LoveYourself More Card Deck.
There are 100 questionsto discover who you are
and love yourself deeper.
I truly believe that ifwe know ourselves, we
can love ourselves more.
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So much easier than if wedidn't know who we are.
As we get to know other people,we start to fall in love with
who they are, their quirks,their qualities, their flaws,
the things that make them them.
So why are we not doing that?
Also for ourselves?
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This card deck ismy pride and joy.
You will 100% be hearing so,so, so, so, so much about it.
And I would love for youto get your hands on this
and use these questions tolearn more about yourself.
AI is not going to answerthese questions for you.
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Your friends and yourfamily aren't gonna answer
these questions for you.
These are meant for you todig deeper into who you are.
Become more self-aware andto make it so much easier for
you to love yourself more.
You can grab your LoveYourself More card deck on
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the self-love archives.com.
All of the info is in thedescription below, and we are
also offering free shippingover a hundred dollars until
the end of the year, somake sure to take advantage
of it and get one of thesefor your friends as gifts.
This would be so cute.
For a vision board party givingone of these to all of your
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friends, this would make sucha cute bridesmaids bag gift.
I keep reminding myself,I keep looking at it.
I'm like, Julia, everytime you think that you
did nothing in 2025, pleasejust look at what you did.
Please look at what you created.
I have a physicalthing in my hand.
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So if you would like one,they're available on my website.
But you guys, thank you somuch for being here, all of
2025 and hanging out with mejoining the Self-Love 100.
Coming to our self-love expo,bloom, being a part of the
self-love collective and justbeing here, being present,
existing, and choosingto love yourself more.
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That is all I want atthe end of the day.
And if you have done evenjust a little bit of that.
In 2025, I am so proud ofyou and I absolutely cannot
wait to see how much welove ourselves More in 2026.
Have an amazing,amazing, happy New Year.
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Happy holidays, and I'll seeyou in the brand new year.
Bye.
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