why resting might be the most loving thing you can do

this week, we’re slowing down because rest is a form of self-love. in week seven of the #selflove100 , i'm sharing reflections on recharging your mind and body, learning to listen when your body says “pause,” and remembering that taking care of yourself sometimes looks like doing less, not more.

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Episode Transcript

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This is the perfectspot for this episode.
It is week seven.
Welcome back to the Self-Love100, 100 Days of Loving Yourself
More, and I am sitting niceand cozy on my couch today
because I have the perfectepisode, the perfect week
for sitting on my couch.

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Week seven is all about resting.
Resting and recharging issuch an important thing.
I, I think I've said thatin every single video.
All of these thingsare so important.
A lot of these things thatwe've been talking about in
the self-Love 100 and, andtaking it kind of day by day,
week by week, all of these.

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Habits and tasks and thingsthat we should be weaving
into our routines orcreating into our routines
and creating foundationsaround are so significant in
just making us feel better.
And when we feel better,we have the opportunity
to love ourselves more.

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So today we are talking allabout resting and recharging
coming from the queenof pulling all-nighters.
Not anymore, but the queenof pulling all-nighters.
Many moons ago, welcomeor welcome back to the
Self-Love Archives podcast.
I'm your host, Julia Salvia,your self-love Bessie, and I am

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nice and cozy on my couch rightnow so that we can talk all
about resting and recharging andhow incredibly important it is
for your body to do just that.
So that we can doeverything else that we
wanna do in this life.
I used to pull all nighters.
I'm talking like I'd stay uptill 5, 4, 5 am in the morning.

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I then go to sleep,wake up at 11:00 AM and
do it all over again.
And it was so not good.
I always got told, oh,it'll catch up to you.
Oh, you can do it rightnow because you're young.
And I realized that itdidn't matter if it.
Caught up to me, or if Iwas young, what mattered

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was that I wasn't in thosemoments providing my body
with adequate amount ofresting and recharging.
We live in this worldof believing that
it's not cool to rest.
It's not cool to rechargeourselves, that we need to
go, go, go and keep working.

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Keep doing this, keep doingthat, that there is no
time in the 24 hours thatwe have each day to rest.
But dare I say that whenyou get the adequate amount
of rest that your bodyneeds, you can do more.

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You heard me right?
If you provide your bodywith resting and recharging
and give yourself thetime that your body needs.
To actually rebuild itself.
To charge itself, that you willhave more time, that you will
have more time to do all ofthe things that you wanna do.

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I am living proof of this.
I always believed that when Iwas pulling these all-nighters,
I was getting more work done,when in actuality I wasn't.
Because when you're pullingan all-nighter, or you are
overexerting yourself to thepoint where you are not allowing
your body to rest, you'regoing a little bit slower at

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getting the things that youneed to get done because you're
not giving yourself rest.
And then when you finallyget the chance to get rest,
your body needs more of it.
Or when you finally get thechance to pause a project,
stop a project, or moveon from something, you're
like, oh, all right, fine.
I can finally relax becauseI just went crazy on

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getting this thing done.
What's your body gonna do?
It's going to backtrack.
All of that rest that you didnot give it those days prior.
You see when we sleep?
We're allowing ourbodies to rebuild itself

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to kind of literallyrecharge like a battery.
And when we don't provideour bodies with that rest, it
is going to catch up to us.
We are going to fall intothis state of, you know,
all this adrenaline is gone.
It's, it's gonna catch up tous, to the point where we're
not waking up to our alarms.

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We aren't in themood to do anything.
Our hormones are all outtawhack because we're not
providing our bodies withthe adequate amount of sleep.
Now, rest goes beyond sleep.
This go, go, go mentalityand this mentality that
we need to earn restis so incredibly toxic.

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You don't need to earn rest.
You need rest.
You need to recharge.
You need to allow your body,your brain, your mind, like
you need to allow yourself torecuperate, to fill up your cup.
Again, there's no earningrest or deserving rest.

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You just need rest.
That should be a foundationalelement in your day today.
That should be somethingthat you provide to yourself
just because that is thebare minimum of existing.
So this idea that we putinto our heads that we need
to keep on going to thepoint where we are depleting

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ourselves below empty, we'renot doing that anymore.
Mm-hmm.
This week is all aboutproviding yourself with rest.
Giving yourself a chanceto recharge, and that is
your focus for week seven.
REST is not somethingthat should be questioned.

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Rest is not somethingthat is optional.
Rest is something that youneed and I promise you that if
you give that to yourself, youwill get things done faster.
You will feel a ton better.
So here is your goal this week.
There are tons ofdifferent types of rest.

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There is the rest that yourbody needs, like sleeping
at night and the recommendedamount of hours of sleep.
Is six to eight hours if youare cycle sinking or trying to
figure out why your body mightbe tired in certain parts of
your cycle versus other parts ofyour cycle, like the ovulatory

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phase versus menstruation.
Your body needs more rest duringyour menstruation phase and your
luteal phase than it does in thefollicular and ovulatory phases.
Your body has a lot more energydue to a spike in different
hormones where your bodyis actually breaking down
different hormones during theluteal menstruation phases.

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So your body is working alittle bit harder during
those phases, which is whyyou might feel more groggy,
more tired, and needing moresleep, and there is absolutely
nothing wrong with that.
Give your body what it needs.
We've been listening toour bodies throughout this
series and listen to yourbody when you need rest.

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Be self-aware of, okay, what arethe cues that my body is saying?
Hey, hey girl, I need a littlebit more rest this week.
Hey, chill out.
This is like the fourth nightin a row that we are going out.
Maybe go home early.
You need rest and youneed time to yourself.

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You've heard me talk aboutthis before, but sleeping in 90
minute intervals, that doesn'tmean waking up every 90 minutes.
That just means that youallow your body to complete
a sleep cycle at night.
Our sleep cycles are about90 minutes long, so if we can
sleep for an hour and a half,three hours, four and a half,
six hours, seven and a half,nine hours, we are waking up.

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After a sleep cycle hasbeen completed, so we're
not jogging our body awakein the middle of REM sleep.
When we complete asleep cycle, we wake up
feeling way more rested.
And that kind ofgoes for naps too.
If we're needing, if it's oneof those days where we need a

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nap, sleeping under, taking a.
Under 20 minute nap or takinga full hour and a half nap so
that we're neither startinga full sleep cycle, or we're
actually completing a full sleepcycle can make you feel a lot
more well rested from a nap orallow you to feel like you got

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an even better amount of sleep.
So your task this week is gonnabe a little bit about rust.
A little bit aboutboundaries and a little
bit about self-awareness.
I want you to be a lot moreself-aware of the things that
make you tired, the things thaturge you to maybe need a little

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bit more time for yourself.
For example, that onecoworker, that just having
a conversation with themabsolutely drains your battery.
And that is a different kindof rest and recharge that we
need from those conversationswith that person or a project
that you're working on that'sreally straining you and asking

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for a lot from you, maybe it'stime to set some boundaries.
Maybe going out for fourdays in a row is just too
much for you right now.
Maybe it's less about.
How many times you're goingout and the people that
you're spending that timewith, the length of time or

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the places that you're going.
Look at what drains yourenergy, look at what urges
you to need more rest.
Be more self-aware with howcertain places, things people
make your body feel, especially.
When you are getting theadequate amount of rest

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for your body at night.
So take this week to be alittle self-aware, to push
yourself to set some smallerboundaries like going to bed
at a certain time so that youcan get those full seven and
a half to nine hours of sleep.
Remember, resting andrecharging is not optional.
It's not a want per se.

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It's not somethingthat you earn.
It is something thatyour body needs.
It's something that yourbody needs so much so that it
cannot function without it.
So this week, give your bodywhat you needs, rest and
recharge in the ways that youknow how to best set boundaries

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in the areas of your lifethat really pull energy from
you and make you feel tired.
Whether that's physically,emotionally, mentally,
put a boundary on it.
Say, not today, not this week.
No more.
Bring yourself back to you.
Be more self-aware of theenvironments, the people, and

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the tasks, and certain thingsthat you do throughout the week
that really take a lot of energyout of you and make you tired.
Maybe those are the placeswhere you have to set
some boundaries this week.
Either way.
Love yourself a little bit more.
Give yourself the rest andthe charge that you need.

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And that's it forweek number seven.
I am going to go to bedmyself, so I will see you
next week at 12 o'clock.
Eastern Time forweek number eight.
Part of the Self-Love100 Journey.
100 Days of LovingYourself More on the
Self-Love Archives podcast.

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Bye.