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Developmental history from childhood

The phase of childhood from birth to age 6 is a critical time of sensitivity, during which time, templates are created which shape future interpersonal interactions. During this sensitive period of development, a child acquires a variety of new abilities and skills that are a necessary part of child development. There are five sensitive period categories, which include language, order, sensory skills, motor skills, and social skills.

Many people experience some type of wounding during their early development and learn to numb their pain by self-soothing with one or more compulsive behaviours. As adults, they may continue to struggle with the compulsive misuse of alcohol, drugs, spending, food, sex, relationships or the Internet. All addictions feature a very complex emotional and biochemical process that have origins in childhood trauma and the deprivation of authentic intimacy and bonding during development.

Socially induced pathology appears between the ages of 4 to 5 and 8 to 9.The onset of male sexual imprinting is from aged 3 to 4 and peaks at 8 to 9, with an  upper tail at about aged 13. These sex and relationship templates (set up in childhood) become activated at puberty and develop and continue throughout adult life.

4 Ways in which juvenile sex and relsp templates are developmentally vulnerable to socially induced pathology:

·       Explicitly neglecting to monitor and reinforce healthy sexual rehearsal play.

·       Punishing or humiliating children for their rehearsal play.

·       Prematurely inducting children into sexual rehearsal play.

·       Coercing children into age-discrepant sexual rehearsal play.

Our early attachment styles are established in childhood through the infant/caregiver relationship. Four distinguishing characteristics of attachment are:

1   Proximity Maintenance - The desire to be near the people we are attached to.

2   Safe Haven - Returning to the attachment figure for comfort and safety in the face of a fear or threat.

3   Secure Base - The attachment figure acts as a base of security from which the child can explore the surrounding environment.

4   Separation Distress - Anxiety that occurs in the absence of the attachment figure.

Templates are setting up traits that will play out in Adulthood, which the child did not vote to have at work in their life. Get some help from The Kairos Centre. See what you cannot see. Begin to change that which you begin to better understand.

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Gary McFarlane (BA, LLM, Dip, Certs), Accredited EMDR Practitioner.

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