November 27, 2025 • 24 mins
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There are moments that shape us long before we realize it. A desire we can’t shake. A sentence we speak out loud with absolute certainty. A version of our life that feels real even before we know how it will unfold.
In this solo chat, I’m sharing a personal story about the journey that led me to the home I live in today, and how that move reflects a deeper pattern of intentional expansion. Not the hustle version of expansion, but the kind rooted in clarity, alignment, identity, and trust.
My hope is that this episode reminds you that your desires are data. Your knowing is guidance. And your next season arrives the moment you become the person who is already living it. If you want support getting clear on the life and business you’re ready to step into, Check out the Vision Map here.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:01):
Have you ever noticed that some of the biggest
turning points in your lifedidn't look dramatic at the
time?
They were quiet.
A moment of clarity.
A sentence you spoke out loud.
A decision you made in privatethat shifted everything.
That is the proof.
Expansion doesn't always roar.
Sometimes it whispers.
And the only question is whetherwe trust it.
(00:24):
There's a version of your lifeand leadership that is already
available to you right now.
The only pain comes when youdelay stepping into it because
it's different from what you'vedone before.
Hi, welcome to the podcast.
I'm Sheila Batello, and Ibelieve true success is built
from the inside out.
Today's episode is one of thoseconversations that's been
(00:47):
playing in my head.
And actually, it's pieces ofconversations that I've had with
some dear friends over the lastcouple of months.
And some things landed for metoday that I just felt compelled
to share.
And really, what this is allabout, I know we talk a lot
about expansion, but I wanted totalk about expansion, not in so
(01:11):
much of like a better or morekind of way, but in the grounded
lived experience of how life orleadership and relationships
unfold when you decide toco-create with your desires and
really get clear and movethrough the season that you're
in right now, like doing it inalignment.
(01:33):
And I want to tell you a story.
How I ended up living where I'mliving right now.
And in a way that, frankly, itfeels pretty magical.
Now, this didn't come withouteffort, and it didn't come with
(01:55):
also the flip side of it, a lotof major details.
I was intentional, but truly, Iwas partnering with possibility.
And I wasn't gripping to theoutcome.
I was just really in alignmentwith what the dream was that I
had.
And so this is, of course, morethan just where I live.
(02:16):
It's just this bigger arc thathappens when we are calling
things into our lives when wedecide that we're ready for
them.
And the way those things arrive,when our choices and our
alignment meet up with thatclarity and they all come
together.
So for the last few years, I'vehad this really quiet but very
(02:39):
persistent desire to live in theNiagara region.
It just started as somethingthat came to me as I was
thinking about wanting to stayin this area of Ontario, has a
home base.
And yet, where would my idealplace be to live?
There's so many beautiful spacesto live, whether you're up north
or you're in the east or you'rethe west.
(03:00):
There's so many places.
And so it started kind ofvaguely.
And it was more like an ideathan a plan.
And it wasn't logical.
I wasn't really being strategicabout it.
It was something, though, that Idid start to feel in my body.
There was like a whisper thatwas like, there's a version of
life that is meant for us.
(03:20):
And then gradually that whisperkept circling back.
At first, it was this broaddesire.
Niagara, I think that's thearea.
That's where I want to be.
But where in Niagara?
Then over time, somethinginteresting started to happen.
I started noticing a specificcommunity, a shoreline, and a
(03:44):
certain vibe that was there.
And I'd find myself talking tomy friend who lived in the area
and thinking, could it be thatthis is the place?
And as these conversations wouldhappen, and anytime I would go
to this area, I'd start to feelsomething spark in my chest.
(04:05):
I'd start to recognize a certainfeeling that came up.
Again, this was not a plan.
It was like a knowing that Ihad.
Most of us have been trained tonegotiate with it, to justify
it.
Truly, we talk ourselves out ofit sometimes because it seems
(04:26):
unrealistic or inconvenient orfrankly too indulgent or
something happening too soon,perhaps.
But when you have that knowing,it doesn't require anybody's
permission.
What it does require, though, isspace, space to really tune into
(04:46):
what that means for you.
So in this case, I didn't makeit a project.
I didn't even write anythingdown.
I literally didn't even journalabout it.
There was no timeline.
I simply let myself want it.
And then I kept living my lifeand working and parenting and
all of the things.
And doing my own evolution,really.
(05:10):
It was just happening.
And the desire stayed with mequietly.
It was like this soft hum thatwas somewhere in the background
of my mind.
And then last year, somethinghappened.
Well, actually, not last year.
Earlier this year, somethinghappened that I didn't realize
would become a defining moment.
(05:31):
I was on a girlfriend weekend.
It was so nourishing.
It was one of those times whereyou're totally unplugged from
tech and you're having deepconversations and great food and
you're just taking your time.
You don't know what time it is,talking about life and love and
kids and business andeverything, dreams, fears,
(05:53):
health, all those things.
And at one point, we went for awalk near the lake.
And it was really windy thatday.
And the waves were really,really powerful.
And what's interesting is thatsame lake is now steps from my
(06:14):
home.
And as we were walking actuallyinto town from the water, we
talked about everything underthe sun.
And something in me got verystill and very certain.
And I had been voice noting witha friend, another friend.
And so I was on my own for a fewmoments, just voice noting and
(06:36):
catching up on some emails andthings like that.
And I just had this deepknowing.
I snapped a picture, sent it toher.
And without really eventhinking, I just said, this is
my future neighborhood.
And it wasn't like, I hopesomeday, or maybe in a few
years, or if things work out, itliterally was a declaration.
(06:57):
And then I went on with my day.
And it was like, oh, I got aneat response back.
That was fun.
It was a moment of speakingsomething that felt like it was
just inevitable.
It was happening.
Maybe it was even already done.
Even though nothing in my outerreality had changed yet.
I was going to go home and go tomy other home and live my life.
(07:18):
It wasn't forced.
It wasn't clinging to this idea.
And it wasn't mapping out adetailed plan.
That was the interesting thing.
I made the declaration, then Imoved on.
I wasn't like, well, let's seehow could this work?
And, you know, based on thistiming and that timing and this
conversation, I was justacknowledging what was real for
me in that moment without reallyputting any pressure on it.
(07:41):
There was no self-doubt.
I didn't need to edit myself.
It was really interesting.
And I want to highlightsomething important here.
This idea of it not beingdramatic.
There was no shooting starflying through the sky.
I didn't get a phone call thenext day saying the perfect
property was available.
Life literally went on.
(08:02):
But something inside of meshifted because when you tell
the truth about what you wantclearly, calmly and confidently,
your nervous system starts toorganize around it.
Your energy calibrates to it.
And then as a result, yourdecisions start aligning with
(08:25):
it.
So when you're doing that, otherthings are impacted in your
world and you things start toshift.
And that moment was me choosingmy life before it arrived.
And I'm sharing this now becausethis morning on the drive home
from the gym, I suddenlyremembered that exact moment.
(08:46):
The power of the wind.
I saw the sand blowing, makingripples and designs and
patterns.
I remember the light in the sky.
I exact even the feeling in mychest when I said, This is my
future neighborhood, I couldfeel it.
I remembered it.
And it hit me.
(09:06):
I am living in the very thingthat I declared.
And this was not done throughworking hard.
This was not done through force.
I wasn't hustling for it.
I didn't obsess over it.
I wasn't like dreamboarding itand journaling it constantly.
And I didn't micromanage how itall came together.
I simply partnered with thedesire.
(09:29):
Just said, yeah, it's going tohappen.
I stayed open.
And this is something I'm alwaystelling my clients.
And frankly, I tell my kids thisall the time, because we can
often feel like life is eitherthis or that.
But so often in life, it's thein between.
The extremes do happen at times,but most of life is in the
(09:51):
in-between of these extremes.
And so I always say, stay open.
Stay open, stay curious.
It's way more fun this way.
And I did that.
I stayed curious.
So I took aligned steps whenthey presented themselves, but
nothing had really happened upuntil that point.
Frankly, I was thinking maybe inthe next year, maybe longer, who
(10:13):
knows?
This will be my home.
And I didn't know which home.
I just knew the area.
So I trusted that this orsomething better was already in
motion on a timeline I did notneed to control.
I didn't plead for it.
I didn't shrink around iteither, thinking, oh, well,
(10:34):
that's that's a neat idea.
Because understanding that mydecision to move, certainly I
can live anywhere.
But there's all these otherelements around me, you know, my
extended family, my kids, uh,college, all these kinds of
things.
Like what makes the most sensetiming-wise?
And of course, a community thatI absolutely loved, that I lived
(10:57):
in for so long and wanting tolive abroad in the winters and
things like that.
So, like, what made the mostsense?
And truly, what I was doing,though, is I was holding it
lightly in my hands, but withconviction.
See, I've had so many differentopportunities, incredible
(11:18):
people, magical timing, andreally beautiful synchronicities
show up in my life before, butthis one was another level.
And it's not like it's it's moreimpressive than those other
things, because there's beensome impressive things that have
happened in my life, but becauseit crystallized something that
I've been learning my wholelife.
(11:40):
That when you become the versionof you who lives the vision
before the vision arrives, lifecatches up to you.
And as I reflected deeper, Inoticed something.
This isn't the first time thatI've experienced this kind of
intentional creation.
It's the same way I co-createdthe marriage I have today, not
(12:02):
by accident, by getting crystalclear on how I wanted to love
and be loved and the longevityof my relationship and how I
wanted to communicate and how Iwanted to move through conflict
and how I wanted to growtogether.
It's also the same way that Ico-created the relationship I
have with my kids, not by simplyhoping and pleading, oh, please,
(12:23):
I hope, I hope, but by decidingwhat kind of connection I wanted
us to have and consistentlyshowing up for that vision, even
before they were old enough toarticulate it themselves.
And of course, this is amidstmany little bumps in the road
because I'm human, you're human,life happens.
(12:43):
But the essence and theframework of all of it, and like
kind of the foundation isexactly what I wanted.
And it took intention to bringthat to life.
It didn't just like, I didn'tput the intention out there and
then, okay, let it just land.
Obviously, it takes me living itas well.
But it's also the same way thatI created the rhythm of my days,
(13:06):
the choice, the spaciousness,the ownership of my time, and
being as busy as I want to beduring different seasons and
really pushing myself at timesover the years because of
choice, and then requiring morespace and giving myself that
space.
And now, this home.
(13:32):
It's not something that's like,you know, a checkbox that I've
checked or proof of anything.
It's just a reflection ofalignment because of who I am as
it was all coming together.
And seeing how it came togetherand being able to describe the
elements around it comingtogether.
(13:53):
And that's why I wanted to shareit here today, because maybe
there's something that you wantreally deeply in your soul.
And maybe you've not allowedyourself to spend time around
achieving it or bringing it intoyour world.
But you can.
And this is just one way.
(14:13):
I don't even know if I can say away of it doing it.
I was just, it was more of anenergy that I was in with this.
This is really what I'm sharingis a reflection of alignment, a
reflection of a desire thatyou're not desperate for, and
that you have clarity, butyou're not controlling every
piece.
(14:34):
And also knowing that this is areally big one, that you're
worthy of wanting what you want.
And you don't need to askanybody permission.
You get to own it, you get tohave it.
And I think this is why thememory of that lakeside
declaration hit me so stronglytoday, because this was a
(14:57):
pattern.
It was more than just likeexactly what it is that I
achieved or received.
Really, it was a receiving thatI that I believe I would call it
reception receiving.
It's a pattern and it's one thatI live, I've lived again and
again, and I can articulate it.
When I look at the last coupleof years, there was a theme that
(15:20):
was weaving through everything.
And I was lovingly referring toit as my pearl season.
And I was with another friendover lunch when I was sharing
this story.
And she goes, Oh my goodness, weneed to look into what pearls
mean.
What is the symbolism of pearls?
We just need to look at this.
And if you don't have friends inyour life who do this with you,
(15:41):
please find some because it's sorewarding when you have people
in your life who actually careabout what's going on.
And of course, you reciprocatewith them too.
It makes everything feel evenmore rich.
And of course, I'm not going togo into all the details here,
but I'll share the essence.
So a pearl is created from anirritant, something that doesn't
(16:02):
belong, something that chafes.
And the oyster doesn't rejectit.
What it does is it alchemizes itslowly, layer by layer, until
the irritant becomes somethingprecious.
A pearl.
And that is what this season hasfelt like.
Because I had some things I wasgoing through: some health
(16:22):
things, some relationshipthings, extended relationship
things.
And it was taking what waspainful or draining or
misaligned or underestimated andturning it into wisdom, clarity,
standards, power, and yes, evenbeauty.
It was a season where I foundmyself slowing down, not
(16:46):
performing anymore, notpolishing, but revealing what
has always been true.
And there's a softness topearls.
Obviously, we see them and theyjust look so elegant, right?
They're timeless, but there'salso a power when you see how
they're actually made.
(17:08):
And so there are parallels tohow you and I get to show up and
how the pearl essence that I waslooking at and discovering.
It was like being graceful andhaving more feminine energy, but
not fragile energy.
(17:32):
And also visibility withoutperformance.
Like these were some themes thatI was walking through.
And I've noticed how this pearlsymbolism has been showing up
everywhere in names, for mepersonally, in places, in tools
I've created, in the spaces thathave supported me through
growth.
And it was just truly resonanceand a reminder that our
(17:55):
evolution is not sharp orjagged.
It's layered, it's continuous,it's patient.
And it's really, really powerfulif we let it.
So here's where this ties intowhat I was talking about on the
mini sode earlier this week.
(18:17):
So we've been walking throughthe expansion blockers, the
subtle patterns that keepentrepreneurs from stepping into
their next season.
And today's episode covers oneof the big ones.
Right?
This week was all about thatmoment where your clients are
evolving and your offer needs toevolve with them.
Well, that's why I wanted totell you the story today,
(18:40):
because expansion is not justintellectual.
It's not just strategic oremotional, even.
It's energetic.
It's identity-based.
And yeah, it's seasonal.
And I don't just mean theseasons of nature.
I mean the season of the lifeyou're in, your health, your
relationships, et cetera.
(19:01):
The same way we evolve in ourhomes, in our relationships, in
our creativity, in our taste, inour priorities, the way we
dress, the way our hair goes,the way we eat, the way we spend
our time, our work wants toevolve too.
And that's where so many of usget stuck.
(19:23):
It's not that the work stopsworking.
It's that you outgrow theversion of you who built it.
And maybe you ignore the thingsthat are landing in front of you
that are trying to get yourattention.
Or maybe you're too busy to seethem, or you're too tired, or
too unwell.
(19:44):
That's where creating space tosee those things is so powerful.
And at the same time, yourclients also are outgrowing the
versions of themselves as well.
So perhaps you have offers orproducts, experiences that were
wonderful for them at one point,but now they've evolved, they've
grown.
(20:04):
I like to think about musicalartists, right?
Think about I love Alicia Keysamong many.
I love Adele.
And I think about how old I waswhen they came out.
I want to say, well, Alicia,goodness, now I'm gonna forget
timelines, but she's been outfor quite a while.
(20:25):
But it was a younger version ofme that fell in love with her
music.
And then, and she was like very,very young, and then she moved
through her evolution as anartist, and then she got
married, and then she became aparent, and all of those things.
And the same thing with Adele.
I mean, she's very open abouther relationship experiences.
(20:45):
Like if you just look at heralbums, which are really spaced
out because of the time shetakes away.
I so respect her for that.
Like I respect the space thatshe allows life to happen and
then for the creativity to startflowing again for her.
And the people us who arelistening to whoever, whatever
(21:06):
artist is that you love, they'restarting somewhere and they're
growing, and you're followingthrough on these the essence of
the music, for instance, you'rechanging and they're changing.
It's it is an evolution.
And so with all of this said,the expansion blocker that I was
(21:29):
talking about this week, justbeing allowed to actually change
and being allowed, allowingyourself to shift things for the
people that you're serving.
Because frankly, they want togrow and change as well.
So once I started connectingthose dots, like in my own life
and in the lives of my clients,so many things started to click.
(21:54):
Truly, expansion isn't aboutdoing more or doing less.
Like I love doing less, and Ilove sometimes doing more if I'm
in a season of just chasing aspecific um passion.
Really, what it's about though,it's about aligning with the
person that you've become.
So if you're hearing this andsomething in you is saying, I
(22:17):
know I'm made for a biggerversion of my life than the one
I'm currently living, I want toreflect for you.
Every desire you have is data.
Every nudge is guidance for you,and every whisper is direction
(22:38):
that you get to follow or notfollow.
Truly, it is safe though, towant what you want.
And of course, not becausewanting guarantees that you'll
get it, but because clarity doesmake you powerful when you say
this or something better,something happens in the energy
around you and your next steps.
(23:00):
And when your vision becomesreal to you, everything else
organizes around it.
And that's why I've been talkingso much about expansion, because
this is the moment so manyentrepreneurs either double down
on a life that no longer fits orstep into a life that has been
waiting for them.
(23:22):
The difference between these twothings is clarity.
And it all happens when you tapinto your true vision, being
clear about it.
And if you want help gettingclear, if you want support, not
like a vague journal prompt kindof support, but practical,
grounded, move your business andlife forward kind of stuff, the
(23:45):
vision map is the tool.
The link is in the show notes soyou can go check it out.
That clarity is the thing whereit all begins.
It's the thing that starts itall.
What are you wanting to getclear on right now?
What is next for you?
What is rising in you as you'velistened to this?
What parallels are you seeing inyour life?
(24:07):
I'd love to hear.
You can also text me in the shownotes.
There's a little spot where youcan text me.
I'd love to hear.
And I so appreciate youlistening and hope that you do
take your own vision serious.
Because there's only one you,and the vision that's on your
heart is meant for you.
It's meant for you to fulfill.
(24:28):
Thank you so much for listening.
Check out the show notes, andI'll catch you on the next
episode.
Have you ever noticed that some of the biggest
turning points in your lifedidn't look dramatic at the
time?
They were quiet.
A moment of clarity.
A sentence you spoke out loud.
A decision you made in privatethat shifted everything.
That is the proof.
Expansion doesn't always roar.
Sometimes it whispers.
And the only question is whetherwe trust it.
(00:24):
There's a version of your lifeand leadership that is already
available to you right now.
The only pain comes when youdelay stepping into it because
it's different from what you'vedone before.
Hi, welcome to the podcast.
I'm Sheila Batello, and Ibelieve true success is built
from the inside out.
Today's episode is one of thoseconversations that's been
(00:47):
playing in my head.
And actually, it's pieces ofconversations that I've had with
some dear friends over the lastcouple of months.
And some things landed for metoday that I just felt compelled
to share.
And really, what this is allabout, I know we talk a lot
about expansion, but I wanted totalk about expansion, not in so
(01:11):
much of like a better or morekind of way, but in the grounded
lived experience of how life orleadership and relationships
unfold when you decide toco-create with your desires and
really get clear and movethrough the season that you're
in right now, like doing it inalignment.
(01:33):
And I want to tell you a story.
How I ended up living where I'mliving right now.
And in a way that, frankly, itfeels pretty magical.
Now, this didn't come withouteffort, and it didn't come with
(01:55):
also the flip side of it, a lotof major details.
I was intentional, but truly, Iwas partnering with possibility.
And I wasn't gripping to theoutcome.
I was just really in alignmentwith what the dream was that I
had.
And so this is, of course, morethan just where I live.
(02:16):
It's just this bigger arc thathappens when we are calling
things into our lives when wedecide that we're ready for
them.
And the way those things arrive,when our choices and our
alignment meet up with thatclarity and they all come
together.
So for the last few years, I'vehad this really quiet but very
(02:39):
persistent desire to live in theNiagara region.
It just started as somethingthat came to me as I was
thinking about wanting to stayin this area of Ontario, has a
home base.
And yet, where would my idealplace be to live?
There's so many beautiful spacesto live, whether you're up north
or you're in the east or you'rethe west.
(03:00):
There's so many places.
And so it started kind ofvaguely.
And it was more like an ideathan a plan.
And it wasn't logical.
I wasn't really being strategicabout it.
It was something, though, that Idid start to feel in my body.
There was like a whisper thatwas like, there's a version of
life that is meant for us.
(03:20):
And then gradually that whisperkept circling back.
At first, it was this broaddesire.
Niagara, I think that's thearea.
That's where I want to be.
But where in Niagara?
Then over time, somethinginteresting started to happen.
I started noticing a specificcommunity, a shoreline, and a
(03:44):
certain vibe that was there.
And I'd find myself talking tomy friend who lived in the area
and thinking, could it be thatthis is the place?
And as these conversations wouldhappen, and anytime I would go
to this area, I'd start to feelsomething spark in my chest.
(04:05):
I'd start to recognize a certainfeeling that came up.
Again, this was not a plan.
It was like a knowing that Ihad.
Most of us have been trained tonegotiate with it, to justify
it.
Truly, we talk ourselves out ofit sometimes because it seems
(04:26):
unrealistic or inconvenient orfrankly too indulgent or
something happening too soon,perhaps.
But when you have that knowing,it doesn't require anybody's
permission.
What it does require, though, isspace, space to really tune into
(04:46):
what that means for you.
So in this case, I didn't makeit a project.
I didn't even write anythingdown.
I literally didn't even journalabout it.
There was no timeline.
I simply let myself want it.
And then I kept living my lifeand working and parenting and
all of the things.
And doing my own evolution,really.
(05:10):
It was just happening.
And the desire stayed with mequietly.
It was like this soft hum thatwas somewhere in the background
of my mind.
And then last year, somethinghappened.
Well, actually, not last year.
Earlier this year, somethinghappened that I didn't realize
would become a defining moment.
(05:31):
I was on a girlfriend weekend.
It was so nourishing.
It was one of those times whereyou're totally unplugged from
tech and you're having deepconversations and great food and
you're just taking your time.
You don't know what time it is,talking about life and love and
kids and business andeverything, dreams, fears,
(05:53):
health, all those things.
And at one point, we went for awalk near the lake.
And it was really windy thatday.
And the waves were really,really powerful.
And what's interesting is thatsame lake is now steps from my
(06:14):
home.
And as we were walking actuallyinto town from the water, we
talked about everything underthe sun.
And something in me got verystill and very certain.
And I had been voice noting witha friend, another friend.
And so I was on my own for a fewmoments, just voice noting and
(06:36):
catching up on some emails andthings like that.
And I just had this deepknowing.
I snapped a picture, sent it toher.
And without really eventhinking, I just said, this is
my future neighborhood.
And it wasn't like, I hopesomeday, or maybe in a few
years, or if things work out, itliterally was a declaration.
(06:57):
And then I went on with my day.
And it was like, oh, I got aneat response back.
That was fun.
It was a moment of speakingsomething that felt like it was
just inevitable.
It was happening.
Maybe it was even already done.
Even though nothing in my outerreality had changed yet.
I was going to go home and go tomy other home and live my life.
(07:18):
It wasn't forced.
It wasn't clinging to this idea.
And it wasn't mapping out adetailed plan.
That was the interesting thing.
I made the declaration, then Imoved on.
I wasn't like, well, let's seehow could this work?
And, you know, based on thistiming and that timing and this
conversation, I was justacknowledging what was real for
me in that moment without reallyputting any pressure on it.
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There was no self-doubt.
I didn't need to edit myself.
It was really interesting.
And I want to highlightsomething important here.
This idea of it not beingdramatic.
There was no shooting starflying through the sky.
I didn't get a phone call thenext day saying the perfect
property was available.
Life literally went on.
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But something inside of meshifted because when you tell
the truth about what you wantclearly, calmly and confidently,
your nervous system starts toorganize around it.
Your energy calibrates to it.
And then as a result, yourdecisions start aligning with
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it.
So when you're doing that, otherthings are impacted in your
world and you things start toshift.
And that moment was me choosingmy life before it arrived.
And I'm sharing this now becausethis morning on the drive home
from the gym, I suddenlyremembered that exact moment.
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The power of the wind.
I saw the sand blowing, makingripples and designs and
patterns.
I remember the light in the sky.
I exact even the feeling in mychest when I said, This is my
future neighborhood, I couldfeel it.
I remembered it.
And it hit me.
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I am living in the very thingthat I declared.
And this was not done throughworking hard.
This was not done through force.
I wasn't hustling for it.
I didn't obsess over it.
I wasn't like dreamboarding itand journaling it constantly.
And I didn't micromanage how itall came together.
I simply partnered with thedesire.
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Just said, yeah, it's going tohappen.
I stayed open.
And this is something I'm alwaystelling my clients.
And frankly, I tell my kids thisall the time, because we can
often feel like life is eitherthis or that.
But so often in life, it's thein between.
The extremes do happen at times,but most of life is in the
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in-between of these extremes.
And so I always say, stay open.
Stay open, stay curious.
It's way more fun this way.
And I did that.
I stayed curious.
So I took aligned steps whenthey presented themselves, but
nothing had really happened upuntil that point.
Frankly, I was thinking maybe inthe next year, maybe longer, who
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knows?
This will be my home.
And I didn't know which home.
I just knew the area.
So I trusted that this orsomething better was already in
motion on a timeline I did notneed to control.
I didn't plead for it.
I didn't shrink around iteither, thinking, oh, well,
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that's that's a neat idea.
Because understanding that mydecision to move, certainly I
can live anywhere.
But there's all these otherelements around me, you know, my
extended family, my kids, uh,college, all these kinds of
things.
Like what makes the most sensetiming-wise?
And of course, a community thatI absolutely loved, that I lived
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in for so long and wanting tolive abroad in the winters and
things like that.
So, like, what made the mostsense?
And truly, what I was doing,though, is I was holding it
lightly in my hands, but withconviction.
See, I've had so many differentopportunities, incredible
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people, magical timing, andreally beautiful synchronicities
show up in my life before, butthis one was another level.
And it's not like it's it's moreimpressive than those other
things, because there's beensome impressive things that have
happened in my life, but becauseit crystallized something that
I've been learning my wholelife.
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That when you become the versionof you who lives the vision
before the vision arrives, lifecatches up to you.
And as I reflected deeper, Inoticed something.
This isn't the first time thatI've experienced this kind of
intentional creation.
It's the same way I co-createdthe marriage I have today, not
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by accident, by getting crystalclear on how I wanted to love
and be loved and the longevityof my relationship and how I
wanted to communicate and how Iwanted to move through conflict
and how I wanted to growtogether.
It's also the same way that Ico-created the relationship I
have with my kids, not by simplyhoping and pleading, oh, please,
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I hope, I hope, but by decidingwhat kind of connection I wanted
us to have and consistentlyshowing up for that vision, even
before they were old enough toarticulate it themselves.
And of course, this is amidstmany little bumps in the road
because I'm human, you're human,life happens.
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But the essence and theframework of all of it, and like
kind of the foundation isexactly what I wanted.
And it took intention to bringthat to life.
It didn't just like, I didn'tput the intention out there and
then, okay, let it just land.
Obviously, it takes me living itas well.
But it's also the same way thatI created the rhythm of my days,
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the choice, the spaciousness,the ownership of my time, and
being as busy as I want to beduring different seasons and
really pushing myself at timesover the years because of
choice, and then requiring morespace and giving myself that
space.
And now, this home.
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It's not something that's like,you know, a checkbox that I've
checked or proof of anything.
It's just a reflection ofalignment because of who I am as
it was all coming together.
And seeing how it came togetherand being able to describe the
elements around it comingtogether.
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And that's why I wanted to shareit here today, because maybe
there's something that you wantreally deeply in your soul.
And maybe you've not allowedyourself to spend time around
achieving it or bringing it intoyour world.
But you can.
And this is just one way.
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I don't even know if I can say away of it doing it.
I was just, it was more of anenergy that I was in with this.
This is really what I'm sharingis a reflection of alignment, a
reflection of a desire thatyou're not desperate for, and
that you have clarity, butyou're not controlling every
piece.
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And also knowing that this is areally big one, that you're
worthy of wanting what you want.
And you don't need to askanybody permission.
You get to own it, you get tohave it.
And I think this is why thememory of that lakeside
declaration hit me so stronglytoday, because this was a
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pattern.
It was more than just likeexactly what it is that I
achieved or received.
Really, it was a receiving thatI that I believe I would call it
reception receiving.
It's a pattern and it's one thatI live, I've lived again and
again, and I can articulate it.
When I look at the last coupleof years, there was a theme that
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was weaving through everything.
And I was lovingly referring toit as my pearl season.
And I was with another friendover lunch when I was sharing
this story.
And she goes, Oh my goodness, weneed to look into what pearls
mean.
What is the symbolism of pearls?
We just need to look at this.
And if you don't have friends inyour life who do this with you,
(15:41):
please find some because it's sorewarding when you have people
in your life who actually careabout what's going on.
And of course, you reciprocatewith them too.
It makes everything feel evenmore rich.
And of course, I'm not going togo into all the details here,
but I'll share the essence.
So a pearl is created from anirritant, something that doesn't
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belong, something that chafes.
And the oyster doesn't rejectit.
What it does is it alchemizes itslowly, layer by layer, until
the irritant becomes somethingprecious.
A pearl.
And that is what this season hasfelt like.
Because I had some things I wasgoing through: some health
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things, some relationshipthings, extended relationship
things.
And it was taking what waspainful or draining or
misaligned or underestimated andturning it into wisdom, clarity,
standards, power, and yes, evenbeauty.
It was a season where I foundmyself slowing down, not
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performing anymore, notpolishing, but revealing what
has always been true.
And there's a softness topearls.
Obviously, we see them and theyjust look so elegant, right?
They're timeless, but there'salso a power when you see how
they're actually made.
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And so there are parallels tohow you and I get to show up and
how the pearl essence that I waslooking at and discovering.
It was like being graceful andhaving more feminine energy, but
not fragile energy.
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And also visibility withoutperformance.
Like these were some themes thatI was walking through.
And I've noticed how this pearlsymbolism has been showing up
everywhere in names, for mepersonally, in places, in tools
I've created, in the spaces thathave supported me through
growth.
And it was just truly resonanceand a reminder that our
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evolution is not sharp orjagged.
It's layered, it's continuous,it's patient.
And it's really, really powerfulif we let it.
So here's where this ties intowhat I was talking about on the
mini sode earlier this week.
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So we've been walking throughthe expansion blockers, the
subtle patterns that keepentrepreneurs from stepping into
their next season.
And today's episode covers oneof the big ones.
Right?
This week was all about thatmoment where your clients are
evolving and your offer needs toevolve with them.
Well, that's why I wanted totell you the story today,
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because expansion is not justintellectual.
It's not just strategic oremotional, even.
It's energetic.
It's identity-based.
And yeah, it's seasonal.
And I don't just mean theseasons of nature.
I mean the season of the lifeyou're in, your health, your
relationships, et cetera.
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The same way we evolve in ourhomes, in our relationships, in
our creativity, in our taste, inour priorities, the way we
dress, the way our hair goes,the way we eat, the way we spend
our time, our work wants toevolve too.
And that's where so many of usget stuck.
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It's not that the work stopsworking.
It's that you outgrow theversion of you who built it.
And maybe you ignore the thingsthat are landing in front of you
that are trying to get yourattention.
Or maybe you're too busy to seethem, or you're too tired, or
too unwell.
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That's where creating space tosee those things is so powerful.
And at the same time, yourclients also are outgrowing the
versions of themselves as well.
So perhaps you have offers orproducts, experiences that were
wonderful for them at one point,but now they've evolved, they've
grown.
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I like to think about musicalartists, right?
Think about I love Alicia Keysamong many.
I love Adele.
And I think about how old I waswhen they came out.
I want to say, well, Alicia,goodness, now I'm gonna forget
timelines, but she's been outfor quite a while.
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But it was a younger version ofme that fell in love with her
music.
And then, and she was like very,very young, and then she moved
through her evolution as anartist, and then she got
married, and then she became aparent, and all of those things.
And the same thing with Adele.
I mean, she's very open abouther relationship experiences.
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Like if you just look at heralbums, which are really spaced
out because of the time shetakes away.
I so respect her for that.
Like I respect the space thatshe allows life to happen and
then for the creativity to startflowing again for her.
And the people us who arelistening to whoever, whatever
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artist is that you love, they'restarting somewhere and they're
growing, and you're followingthrough on these the essence of
the music, for instance, you'rechanging and they're changing.
It's it is an evolution.
And so with all of this said,the expansion blocker that I was
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talking about this week, justbeing allowed to actually change
and being allowed, allowingyourself to shift things for the
people that you're serving.
Because frankly, they want togrow and change as well.
So once I started connectingthose dots, like in my own life
and in the lives of my clients,so many things started to click.
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Truly, expansion isn't aboutdoing more or doing less.
Like I love doing less, and Ilove sometimes doing more if I'm
in a season of just chasing aspecific um passion.
Really, what it's about though,it's about aligning with the
person that you've become.
So if you're hearing this andsomething in you is saying, I
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know I'm made for a biggerversion of my life than the one
I'm currently living, I want toreflect for you.
Every desire you have is data.
Every nudge is guidance for you,and every whisper is direction
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that you get to follow or notfollow.
Truly, it is safe though, towant what you want.
And of course, not becausewanting guarantees that you'll
get it, but because clarity doesmake you powerful when you say
this or something better,something happens in the energy
around you and your next steps.
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And when your vision becomesreal to you, everything else
organizes around it.
And that's why I've been talkingso much about expansion, because
this is the moment so manyentrepreneurs either double down
on a life that no longer fits orstep into a life that has been
waiting for them.
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The difference between these twothings is clarity.
And it all happens when you tapinto your true vision, being
clear about it.
And if you want help gettingclear, if you want support, not
like a vague journal prompt kindof support, but practical,
grounded, move your business andlife forward kind of stuff, the
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vision map is the tool.
The link is in the show notes soyou can go check it out.
That clarity is the thing whereit all begins.
It's the thing that starts itall.
What are you wanting to getclear on right now?
What is next for you?
What is rising in you as you'velistened to this?
What parallels are you seeing inyour life?
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I'd love to hear.
You can also text me in the shownotes.
There's a little spot where youcan text me.
I'd love to hear.
And I so appreciate youlistening and hope that you do
take your own vision serious.
Because there's only one you,and the vision that's on your
heart is meant for you.
It's meant for you to fulfill.
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Thank you so much for listening.
Check out the show notes, andI'll catch you on the next
episode.
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