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In this reflective and honest episode of The Sober Butterfly Podcast, host Nadine Mulvina—sober since July 5th, 2021—shares her 2025 Sober Wrapped, inspired by Spotify Wrapped but rooted in real life.

Rather than focusing on perfection or aesthetics, Nadine breaks down her year quarter by quarter, rating and reviewing her experiences across travel, dating, goals, and mental health. This episode is a candid look at how sobriety can hold you through both expansion and emotional contraction.

Nadine reflects on pivotal moments throughout the year, including speaking at Podfest in Orlando, performing her first stand-up set sober, taking a solo healing trip to Barbados, and experiencing her favorite trip of the year in Iceland during the summer solstice with her mom. She also shares the behind-the-scenes reality of burnout, overworking, and navigating major life transitions.

On the dating front, Nadine opens up about long-distance heartbreak, emotional lows, minimal dating, and the clarity that came from stepping back and practicing discernment. She explains why there wasn’t enough dating content for a full Sober Dating Wrapped episode—and what she learned instead about intuition, peace, and self-trust.

The episode also highlights career milestones and redirections, including Pilates teacher training, unexpected endings that became blessings, and lessons around time, boundaries, and alignment. Ultimately, Nadine reminds listeners that growth isn’t always glamorous—and that a “good year” doesn’t always feel good while you’re living it.

This episode is for anyone navigating sobriety, transitions, heartbreak, burnout, or a season of becoming—and learning to trust themselves through it all.

✨ In This Episode, You’ll Hear:

  • Nadine’s 2025 Sober Wrapped breakdown by quarter
  • How travel became a stabilizing force during emotional lows
  • Lessons from solo travel, including Barbados and El Salvador
  • Why this year didn’t warrant a full Sober Dating Wrapped episode
  • The emotional impact of detachment and discernment in dating
  • Career wins, burnout warning signs, and redirections
  • Why mental health and alignment matter more than momentum
  • How sobriety supports growth even when life feels messy

🎯 Key Takeaways:

  • You can be sober, successful, and still grieving parts of your life
  • Not every year is aesthetic—but every year can be meaningful
  • Intuition is data
  • Peace is a form of progress
  • Growth often looks like slowing down and choosing yourself

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the-sober-butterfly_3_12 (00:00):
Hello, beautiful butterflies and

(00:01):
welcome back to the SoberButterfly Podcast.
If you're new, here I am, NadineSober since July 5th, 2021.
And here at TSB we talk aboutsobriety, travel, dating,
healing, and becoming the maincharacter of your alcohol free
life.

(00:21):
Now today's episode is somethingI love doing every year, and
when I say every year, this is.
The second year I'm doing it,but it's becoming a tradition.
Here at the Sober Butterfly.
We are doing my 2025 soberwrapped episode.
And if you listen to my 2024Sober Dating Wrapped episode,

(00:45):
you already know the vibes.
Okay?
It's giving Spotify wrappedenergy.
But for real life, So that meanswe're talking stats here.
Categories, ratings, emotionalwhiplash, growth arcs, and
lessons learned.
Now full transparency, if youdid listen last year, this year.

(01:05):
2025.
I barely dated.
Okay.
I barely, I barely dated.
I went on dates here and there.
I had a couple situation shipsin the mix, but I don't have
enough content for a full soberdating wrapped episode this
year.
Sorry to disappoint you.

(01:26):
Really?
I'm sorry to disappoint myself.
So instead of doing a soberdating rap 2025.
Episode, we're gonna zoom out.
We're gonna zoom all the way outhence the title 2025 Sober
Wrapped, and we're breaking down2025 into three.
Three-ish, like three-ish maincategories.

(01:49):
So I'll be covering my travelwrapped, dating wrapped, and my
life goals wrapped, mentalhealth wrapped.
That's like the three-ish and ahalf, and I'll be rating each
quarter of the year into thosecategories, just like with
Spotify wrapped.
Alright, let's get into it.

the-sober-butterfly_4 (02:16):
​Category one, travel wrapped.
You listen to solo healing, girlon repeat.

the-sober-butterfly_5_12- (02:25):
enter Q1 quarter one of the year.
First three months.
January through March.
Okay, so in January I kicked offthe year in Orlando, which,
yeah, I'm gonna consider thattravel.
I had to get on the plane.
And just so we're normed, Iconsider travel.
Anytime I have to really get ona plane, if I have to present my

(02:45):
real id, I don't have a real id,I still use my passport.
Which by the way, guys,apparently they are changing the
law.

the-sober-butterfly_6_12-19 (02:53):
TSA is allowing folks without a real
ID or a passport to travel overthe course of like a 10 day
period domestically.
Using, I don't know.
What do you use if you don'thave a real Id?
Like me?
Oh, you use like a regulardriver's license like I have,
right?
Like you can use that if you paya$45 fee.
So if you don't have a passport,if you don't have a real id, can

(03:14):
use whatever you have that's notreal idea compliant and pay 45
bucks.
I hate the government sometimes.
Like, what a scam.
Why can't I use my statelicense?
Why does it have to have thestupid little.
Emblem on it.
It's, it's ridiculous.
Okay.
Focus.
I digress., I'm getting reallyworked up this morning clearly.
Okay.
So January, January I flew toOrlando.

(03:37):
To attend Pod Fest.
Now that was the.
Third time.
Third time I believe that I hadgone to Pod Fest.
This is an annual conference forpodcasters, hence the name Pod
Fest held every year in Orlando.
January, 2023 was my very firstpod and I met so many amazing

(03:57):
people.
The network is incredible.
The energy is high.
You just leave feeling socreative.
So that was my very firstexperience going to Podfest as a
participant.
The following year I went again,so that would've been 2024 as a
guest, as a participant.
attending different workshopsand talks and whatnot.
Connecting with people that I'dalready met.
In fact, I fielded some guestfor this show from Pod Fest.

(04:21):
Oh, it's making me wanna goagain.
Anyway, this year, 2025 startedon a high note because I was
invited to Pod Fest as a guestspeaker.
So I felt very special andofficial, and it was just a
really great experience to be apart of a panel and as usual, I
made really great connections.

(04:41):
I always feel like the bell ofthe ball when I go.
'cause I like show up reallycute.
I feel like I'm in my power whenI go to events like this, which
is in alignment to my purposeand what I should be doing
hopefully.
'cause I've been working on theshow for a couple years now.
Aside from the fact that I was aspeaker and not an attendee this
year at podcast, I also didsomething really big, which was

(05:04):
I did my very first standupperformance sober.
It was completely like a lastminute entry, like I was kind of
peer pressured.
This is positive peer pressurehere, like peer pressured into
doing it, and I'm so gratefulthat I actually.
Listen to that nudge or quiteliterally people telling me

(05:24):
like, you should sign up forthis.
After I did my speaking gig onthe panel, I met one of the
headliners at the conference andhe.
Is a comic.
And so he encouraged me to signup for an open mic that he was
promoting.
And I did.
And I fucking killed you guys.
I, I'm not joking.
I was really funny.

(05:45):
In fact, I wanna just let youhear a little snippet because I
thought it was really good.
Hello?
Hello.
How's everyone doing tonight?
Woo.
Good.
Okay, so you can probably tellfrom my accent that I'm clearly
British.
No, no.
Serious.
It's not a joke.
I'm British.
I was born and raised in London,England.
I know I look like I come fromBarbie land, but no, I come from

(06:05):
Pond and I spent the first 10years of my life in London.
And so when I tell people that,they're often surprised, they're
like, you are British, so didyou have an accent?
A British accent?
And I think that's anintelligent question.
Often I respond, I'm like, well.
I wasn't mute for 10 years of mylife.
Of course I had a Britishaccent.
I mean, come on here.
And it just, I mean, you guyshave been at poly fast.

(06:27):
I'm like, if I were to be mute,I could market that.
I'd be like, this is the placeto do it.
It would be like, um, from muteto professional, yapper from,
could never speak to shut thefuck up now, you know?
Um, so I moved to America when Iwas 10 years old.
I moved to Miami.
Quite a difference from, youknow, London.
And Miami, I love Is anyone fromMiami here?

(06:49):
Woo.
I know.
Haven't Sure.
In my house.
Um, and so the cool thing aboutMiami is it's so diverse and I
went to a school where, youknow, it reflected that
diversity.
So black, white, Hispanic,Asian, and I fit in nowhere.
So I, I'm clearly a black woman,but the thing is, I was tall, I
was blinky.
I had this British accent andyou would think that the accent

(07:10):
would give me an edge, but itdid not.
Um, and the reason being isbecause I also had a.
Lisp.
Yes.
I had a speech impediment, and Ifeel like the speech impediment
cancels out the cool accent.
And here's the thing, I justwanna pause for a second and
talk about the word lisp becauseif you know anything about
having a lisp, people who have alisp have a hard time

(07:33):
pronouncing the letter.
Thank you.
And so I'm like, what kind ofsick fuck decided?
Hmm.
I'm gonna name this disorderafter something that the people
who suffer from it cannotpronounce.
I mean, like as a 9-year-old, asa 10-year-old, I was traumatized
by the letter S.
It was my biggest phobia.
And now I have this condition orthis like speech impediment I

(07:55):
have to explain to people, and Ican't even say the word.
It was very, very confusing.
And I remember when I, you know,I was diagnosed with having a
speech impediment.
My mom came to the school afterI was evaluated and they sat her
down and they're like, yeah,Nadine needs, you know, speech.
And the thing is my mom waslike, well, why, why, why does
she need speech?
And so the speech pathologistexplained this.

(08:16):
You hear the speech impedimentnow, right?
Um, she's like, well, Nadine hasan enlarged tongue.
Calm down.
Uh, lemme finish, lemme finish.
It's larger than the average,which means it's also lazy.
See, I told you to calm down,right?
So muscle it taller than muscle.

(08:36):
Thumbs down, boo.
Um, yeah.
Sometimes the muscles, so youhave to work on it.
So I went to speech to work inmy tongue, and so my speech
pathologist, basically, shewould pull me out, you know?
You know how that is.
Did anyone go to specialservices in here?
It didn't really elevate mysocial profile, as you can
imagine, so I'm getting pulledfor speech and she was always on
time anyway, so we do theseexercises, peanut butter on the

(08:58):
roof of your tongue.
Long story short, I want tothank my speech pathologist and
all the guys who have dated meand will date me should also
thank her too, because I stillhave a large tongue, but it
works and it's not lazy anymore.
Thank you.

the-sober-butterfly_6_12-19- (09:16):
So yeah, that experience was
terrifying, exhilarating, butreally affirming in the sense
that I needed that feedback.
I needed the feedback from theaudience.
And it's funny because I startedthe year with the seed that was
planted from that experience atpod and somewhere throughout the

(09:39):
year I lost track.
I lost the plot, buttravel-wise, that was a good
first month.

the-sober-butterfly_7_12- (09:47):
Okay, here comes February.
Now February.
Emotionally I was down bad, buttravel wise I was in Barbados.
I am very fortunate..
One of the perks of being ateacher is we get, you know,
like these breaks off.
And so in February we havemid-winter break, which if you
include the weekend, it's about10 days.

(10:10):
So we have 10 days off inFebruary, which is so needed in
the dead of winter.
And it was so needed for where Iwas in my.
Mental emotional state at thistime of the year, which I'll get
to.
But yeah, I took a solo trip, avery last minute trip to
Barbados, and it was genuinelyone of my favorite trips of the

(10:30):
year.
It felt like everything was inalignment, which is when I feel
called to a place, it's usuallymoments like this.
It doesn't require muchplanning.
Everything just seamlessly comestogether, and I felt like I was
supposed to be in Barbados.
I felt like Barbados healed me,truly like.
I understand Rewe.

(10:52):
I get it.
Girl.
Upon the replay, I would totallygo back to Barbados one day.
I freaking loved it.
And just some quick highlightsfor Barbados.
One of the safest islands, ifnot the safest islands it's also
super easy to get to if you'rein New York direct flight.
Five, maybe six hours, and it'sabsolutely beautiful.

(11:17):
It's breathtaking.
In February at least, it wasn'teven too humid, like my hair was
cooperating.
I had a ball and where I stayedwas more like a timeshare
situation, like I booked viaAirbnb.
But there was like this,timeshare where these couples go
every year.
And so I infiltrated theirgroup, like it was four

(11:40):
different apartments with theirown balconies and like living
quarters, and nothing was sharedin that aspect.
It was just like one buildingthat had four different
apartments in it basically.
And each apartment was taken, Iwas in one of the upstairs
apartments by myself.
And then there was a guy belowwho like lives there part-time
out the year.
A very like surfer dude, thinkolder, but like you can tell

(12:02):
back in his day, like he wasthat very chill Woodstock kind
of guy.
And then.
There was another guy from NewYork who invited his daughter
midway through the trip.
So I got to meet her and Istarted hanging out with her.
She was very cool and more likeage appropriate, closer to my
age.
And then there was this Britishcouple that stayed above the

(12:23):
other guy from New York.
So we became a little family,like we had dinners together.
It was so cute when I tell youthat trip healed me, I spent
every day at the beach.
Which was across the street,hanging out with these people
that I had just met.
I got to go to the fish fry, thefamous fish fry at Olsteen's on
a Friday night.
Riri goes there when she's intown.

(12:45):
Unfortunately, she wasn't therewhen I was there.
But anyway easily one of myfavorite trips of the year and
it really, truly healed mebecause I was, I was struggling,
which I'll get to in a moment.

the-sober-butterfly_8_12-1 (13:00):
Okay now, so come March.
March is my birthday month, andhonestly, birthday blues just
march actually really sucked forme.
I am not afraid of gettingolder.
I think turning 34 wasn't theproblem.
I think I was just in a slumpand in fact, I'll plug in the

(13:23):
show notes for you.
My birthday Blues episode 34,lessons Learned in 34 years like
that will just explain in detailwhere I was at in life.
I did do some travel though.
I went to South Florida to staywith my cousin and hang out, and
that part was beautiful.
I got to get out of the cold NewYork weather and change the

(13:44):
location, so that always helps.
Celebrating my birthdaysomewhere warm.
Was great, but emotionally I wasvery fragile.
I was crying almost daily andI'm not a big crier.
I'll just recommend once againto listen to the, my birthday
episode because, you know, thatwas a very tender.
Grief adjacent season in mylife.

(14:05):
So overall Q1 travel rating.
I'm gonna give a three out ofNo, you know what, I'll take
that back.
I'll give it a four outta five.
Travel really did carry me whenmy heart couldn't, or it felt
like my heart couldn't.
So yeah, I loved Barbados.
I loved.
All the trips.
Even going to Florida twice inQ1, Florida always feels like my

(14:27):
second home.
So yeah, I would give it a solidfour out of five.

the-sober-butterfly_9_ (14:32):
Category two dating wrapped.
You've skipped this trackrepeatedly.

the-sober-butterfly_10_12 (14:41):
Okay.
Q1 dating recap.
Gosh, can you tell I'm just notexcited to talk about dating
this year.
Okay.
I'll make this quick because.
Otherwise we'll be here all dayand there's not that much to
say.
So much happened, yet nothinghappened.
But Q1 actually more stuffhappened.
So January, the guy I wasdating, so like, actually let's

(15:05):
quickly throw it back to my 2024dating wrapped episode because
he is.
Mr.
Best Sex of My Life.
I gave all of the guys I dated,like I think I dated like 12
different people back in 2024.
Wow.
What a difference a year makes.
Okay.
So yeah, I went on lot to datesin 2024, but anyway, the guy

(15:27):
that I dated under the Aliens,Mr.
Best Sex of My Life.
Also, happens to be the lastperson I had sex with anyway,
that guy and I were still datingcome 20, 25 at the beginning of
it.
So it was a long distancesituation.
He lived in California, so likecompletely different coast over
here.

(15:47):
But we were trying to make itwork.
In fact, around the holidayseason, he gave me hope that
this is something that he feltlike he was really ready for or
trying to be ready for me.
He had a lot of family stuffgoing on, which he was very open
about that.
Like the candor was there aroundHaving to figure out the
complexities and nuances ofeverything going on in his life,

(16:08):
but he felt like I was like theperson worth it or he was
willing to work with, to figureit out.
How can we be together?
Two star cross lovers andopposite coasts.
We're faded to be together, butwe can't, like, it felt like
that.
But in January I definitelysensed a big pullback from a guy
and my intuition turned out tobe correct.

(16:29):
Yeah.
So come February now, heofficially ended things with me.
Which really did trigger theGreat Depression.
My great depression.
Okay.
So February, it felt like itcame out of nowhere, even though
I sensed a pullback, I was justlike, maybe it's a season for
him.
Like I knew he was going throughsome things and I was trying to

(16:52):
be there for him and like stillbelieving that we could make it
work somehow.
Now, in retrospect, it waspretty obvious it was not gonna
work.
If any of my girlfriends hadshared with me the red signs
that I was noticing.
I would've told them loud andclear, like, girl, move on.
It's not gonna work.
Or whatever.
It's so obvious when you're onthe outside.

(17:12):
But for me, living through it, Iwas somewhat blindsided by the
breakup or it wasn't a realbreakup because we weren't
technically together, butgenuinely, I believe that when.
You have the unrequited love, orit's a situationship, like,
sometimes it hurts even morebecause you're, you're so
attached to like the possibilityof how great you two could be,

(17:34):
that it hurts more when itactually ends, as opposed to
like when you actually break outwith someone that you were in a
relationship with.
Usually, that enchantment isgone, at least for me, and I'm
like, yeah, been there, donethat over it.
So for me, I think it was sohard and I, I really struggled
with that.
Break up.
I'll just say, for lack of abetter word.

(17:54):
Word.
So yeah, February being themonth of love meant nothing for
me.
Like he broke up with me.
And in fact, that is why I wentto Barbados.
That is why I took that solotrip to Barbados because I was
licking my wounds.
Now, March, I was unfortunatelystill in my feelings, like
Barbados helped, but it didn'theal everything.

(18:15):
And I was just kind of like, youknow what?
Like let me focus on me.
I'm not gonna date.
I'm just gonna like survive.
Like I went into full onsurvival mode.
I was not interested in being onthe apps or like trying to go
out.
So yeah, March was just.
A blur, honestly, like I didn'tdo anything aside from take that
trip for my birthday and I wasstruggling.

(18:38):
So my Q1 raw dating score isgonna be an A zero.
No, it's gonna be a negative oneoutta five.
It was that bad.
Negative.
One out of five.
Final answer.

the-sober-butterfly_11 (18:54):
category three, life goals wrapped.
So before I get into like my Q1goals, and I'm just gonna use
this as like a running listbecause to be honest, I started
the year unclear I didn't do anyreal vision setting.
I've always been intomanifestations and affirmations

(19:16):
and whatnot, but I didn't have atrue outline, if I'm being
honest.
And I really see that play outin how the year turned out for
me.
I'm part of the problem as way2025.
Is wrapped this way, and I'm soexcited that the year is
wrapping.
Okay, even though I didn't havelike a very clear vision, I

(19:37):
relied a lot on my drive.
Like I have a lot of personaldrive I think that's the issue
sometimes as someone who like mewho has a DHD.
So I'm very high energy.
I'm a great task initiator.
That has never been my issue.
Like I am a self-starter, I aminspirational.
I inspire myself and otherpeople.
It's the follow through.

(19:58):
That's the issue for me, as anAries woman, for me as an A DHD
girly, like I have a hard timefollowing through.
And so I think that's whathappened this year.
Like I didn't follow through,but Unlike me, I didn't even
really have a plan.
So here were my Q1.
I won't call'em life goals perse, but these are the things

(20:19):
that I accomplished because I ama highly driven, motivated
person.
And I shared this year, you knowhow my high functioning
depression really.
Took over this year, which I'venever really had high
functioning depression.
Anytime I've suffered from anysort of depressive episode in
the past, it has more soresembled.
From Winnie la Pooh, like, I'mslow and sad and that's how I

(20:42):
know that there's somethingwrong with me because that's not
how I am by default this year.
It wasn't that it was whatyou're getting right now, like
I'm up, I'm all the way up here.
I'm doing 1,000,001 things, butI'm on the brink of burnout
because I don't know.
Where I'm going.
I'm very directionless and Ialso don't have a plan.
So what I accomplished, I'll sayfor Q1, I was a speaker at

(21:06):
podcast, which I mentioned I didmy first standup set sober.
Oh, you know what?
I'll add to the mix.
I also was like, stillconsistently podcasted.
I didn't miss a beat or anepisode, and at this time I
started 2025 off really strongwith my newsletter.
January through March.

(21:27):
I didn't skip a beat when itcame to my weekly newsletter.
And if you're like, what weeklynewsletter, Nadine?
Yeah.
Spoiler alert, I fell off.
So yeah, those are the three,like, I think I'll call them
goals, but like those are morelike accomplishments from Q1.

the-sober-butterfly_12_12 (21:44):
Okay, quarter two, April through June,
your most played emotionburnout, early version.

the-sober-butterfly_13_ (21:55):
travel, wrapped for Q2, okay.
April.
Spring break in Puerto Rico withmy best tk.
I recapped that episode on thisshow, so I'll link that episode
in the show notes in case youwant to hear how that trip went.
It was a lot of fun.

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It was my first girls trip ofthe year.
And that trip was so neededbecause March was so terrible
for me.
Like I needed to get out of mycity, out of my head, and.
Have some fun.
Puerto Rico's not like myfavorite place to frequent, but
my girlfriend hadn't been beforeand it was her birthday, so I'm

(22:36):
glad I went.
We had fun.
It was a vibe.
May, I went back to Florida forMother's day I surprised my mom
with a little staycation atthis.
Resort in Orlando and we spentthe day doing what we love to
do, which is hang out and theyhad a steam room sauna massage

(23:03):
situation.
So it was a cute, likestaycation.
I'll say like sidebar this year.
I got to see my mom a lot and Ijust had the best time with her.
She's truly one of my bestfriends.
I love her.
I feel like I can tell heranything without fear of
judgment or scrutiny, my momjust gets me guys, like she just

(23:23):
understands me and yeah, Ireally loved.
Hanging out with her, and we gotto do that quite a bit this
year.
So that was my May trip.
And then June, speaking ofhanging out with my mom, my
favorite trip of the year by farwas my summer solstice trip with

(23:43):
my mom to Iceland.
It was so incredible.
I actually think it was one ofmy favorite trips ever.
That was also kind of lastminute guys.
I was just last minute girlyover here.
Like I said, you gotta start theyear with a plan.
I think we booked everythinglike two weeks before, I booked
my flight'cause I found a cheapflight to Iceland and Iceland's
been on my bucket list foreverand I have all of this content

(24:05):
I'm sitting on.
So I will be releasing a logover break, this upcoming break
we have for the holidays.
That's my plan this break togive you guys this Iceland vlog
as well as my recent trip to ElSalvador anyway, so Iceland has
been on my bucket list forever.
I wanted to see the NorthernLights, but I always keep Google
alerts on low flight fairs toplaces that I just know I want

(24:29):
to visit.
And so I think I found theflight under.
Six or 700 bucks and I was like,oh, that's not bad.
Back in the day, it was so cheapto fly to Iceland.
Like I used to see deals forlike two 50 round trip from New
York to Nik and yeah, I shouldhave pounced on that, but it's
harder today to get like such acheap flight to Iceland.

(24:50):
Anyway, I found a cheap deal andI booked it and I invited my
mom.
Half thinking she wasn't goingto actually take me up on it
because like I said, it was kindof last minute.
But what sold her was they havemany hot springs in Iceland.
I mean, it's the country of fireand ice and you can get both.
You can literally be in abeautiful hot spring surrounded

(25:13):
by icebergs if you want to.
It's incredible.
And that was a selling point formy mom.
My mom was like, oh, natural hotsprings.
Sign me up.
And so, yeah, she met me inIceland and it was such, first
of all, a beautiful place.
Like other worldly, I'm actuallyreally glad that we went for the

(25:33):
summer solstice, so they havethe daylight hours or summer
hours.
So like the sun never sets.
I tested this out.
I stayed up as late as possible.
I think the latest I stayed upwas like 2:00 AM and it was
still.
Bright outside, like the sundoesn't set in the summer.
The same is true for winter, sothe inverse, that's why you can

(25:54):
see the northern lights inwinter because it barely ever
gets light, which is sodepressing.
I also learned fun fact thatIceland is one of the happiest
countries in the world, but didyou also know they have the
highest rates of people onantidepressants?
Makes sense, right?
Just dealing with how dark itgets here.

(26:16):
I think it, getting dark here at4:30 PM is highly depressing.
I cannot imagine going in entirewinter without seeing the sun.
I think I would like literallynot be okay.
So anyway.
Back to this.
It was bright, it was still coldin June, um, because it's
Iceland, but not frigid.
And so we did all of these tourstogether.

(26:38):
We did the golden circle.
We saw geysers and glaciers andwaterfalls and just everything.
We like beaches.
It was incredible.
Like just the terrain there, thetopography is.
Literally another planet.
It feels like you're on Mars.
And that's why they shoot somany like sci-fi movies there.
It was the most magical,grounding, ancestral healing

(27:00):
trip of my life, and I'm so gladmy mom was there.
Like there was no better person.
I can think of that should haveaccompanied me on that trip and
we had the best time.
So I'll be sharing that vloghopefully before the end of 2025
with you guys.
So make sure you're followingthe sober butterfly on YouTube
to catch that.
I also went to Keystone Coloradoin June for a professional

(27:26):
development opportunity, andthat was also really fun.

the-sober-butterfly_14_12-19 (27:29):
so travel wrapped Q2 five outta
five.
Yeah, easy.
I got to go to Puerto Rico.
I got to spend time with my momin Florida for Mother's Day and
then Iceland by far, one of thebest trips of my life.
Easily five out of five starsnow dating.
On the other hand, enter datingRap Cube two in April.

(27:53):
I went on two random hinge datesin April.
Both were major flops.
So yeah, they're not evennoteworthy.
I'm not gonna mention them.
Now may, in fact, mother's Dayweekend, but I was in Florida.
I reconnected with best sex ofmy life.
Callie guy.

(28:14):
I reached out to him my firstmistake and we started talking
again.
I think it was like from thatpoint, so like I hadn't spoken
to him since February, so fromFebruary to May now.
I missed him and I wanted tocheck in, and I did.
And he was open to that.
And then we just started to, wekind of picked up where we left

(28:35):
off, but also things justweren't the same.
I can't explain it like we spentMay and June reconnecting or
like me believing or falselybelieving that we could try to
make it work again.
But truly it was justdisappointment on repeat.
So.

(28:55):
He pulled back his energy again,and then in June officially sent
me some cryptic message, liketelling me basically that he
doesn't wanna talk to me..
And that was the end.
So honestly, I'm gonna say Q2dating rating is a one, one
star, so not negative.
It was one out of five.

(29:17):
Now in terms of my goals, I'mgonna lump goals with mental
health because I did have a goalin mind.
It just wasn't on my 2025 visionboard because I didn't make a
2025 vision board.
However, from my 2024 visionboard, one of the goals that
I've had was to.

(29:38):
Become a Pilates instructor, andthat did come true partly for me
this quarter.
Back in April, I auditioned at alocal Pilates studio here in New
York, and right when I was in.
Puerto Rico I received an emailwith an offer letter, so that

(29:59):
was cool.
In May I started to take classbecause I wasn't a member at
that studio, I started to takeclass more often with that
particular.
Pilate studio.
And then come June, I officiallybegan my training.
So yeah, that was like a goal Ihad that was coming to life, but

(30:20):
it was also during a verychaotic period of the year and.
Another thing I wanted was morevisibility when it comes to my
brand and the sober butterfly.
And so I started to do morecollaborations and I
collaborated with this gymcalled New York Sports Club and
that ended up being a greatlesson for me which is number

(30:44):
one, exposure does not paybills.
This was something that I agreedto do not as a monetary
exchange, like not for money,but for time.
They gave me a, a freemembership for a couple months,
but the amount of emails I wasgetting from their team was

(31:05):
overwhelming and they had all ofthese different stipulations
around what I could post andwhen I could post.
And I was always behind mydeadlines and I like to work
out, but I'm not so much of agym girly.
I take classes, this is why Ilove ClassPass, who is a partner
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the-sober-butterfly_14_12-1 (32:39):
Why I like class passes because I
like to take classes and NYCSdid offer classes.
However, they don't have a goodlike system in place for
creators like me who come in,who are expected to take video
content.
I would go to these classes andinstructors would tell me I'm

(33:00):
not allowed to record, and Iwould be showing them emails
from their corporate team.
Like, oh, I'm supposed to be inrecording.
And then the instructor would belike, well, nobody told me that,
so I was just over it.
So I learned exposure, doesn'tpay the bills.
I was so stressed out.
And also time is currency.
Like I spent way too much timefor something that I feel like
wasn't a great enough return forme.

(33:24):
So in short, like it was justtoo demanding for a free
membership, and I clocked thatfast also.
So winding down Q2, I think onpaper things looked good.
Travel Pilates training,collaborations, momentum.
But internally I was trulyexhausted and dysregulated and

(33:47):
emotionally depleted.
So I'm gonna give Q2 overall arating.
Hmm.
I'm gonna give the two outtafive.
And the two is honestly justcoming from.
The trip I took with my mom toIceland, like that trip carried
the entire quarter for me.

the-sober-butterfly_15_ (34:09):
Quarter three August through October,
you unlocked detachment anddiscernment.
Okay, so my travel wrapped Q3,enter August, Peru.
I went to Cusco.
Did the Salkantay Trek with oneof my good travel girlfriends,
Kim.

(34:30):
It was physically demanding,spiritually clarifying, and
yeah, it, it was a lot.
I talked extensively about mytime in Peru, um, the highs and
lows from that experience, thealtitude sickness I experienced
and everything in between.
And my episode, return of thesober butterfly.

(34:52):
So I'll also link it up below.
This whole episode is like meplugging other episodes because
I tell you guys a lot, and thatwas after a period of me
ghosting you guys.
So I had a lot to say.
So make sure you listen to theepisode.
It's one of my favorites fromthis year.
Anyway, Peru was a lot.
That was my big trip, my bigsummer trip.
September.

(35:12):
I went to Arizona.
I went to Sedona and to Phoenixfor the Chris Brown concert with
my cousin, which was a lot offun.
I like the desert.
I like it a lot.
And then come October, I went toDC to visit a friend that didn't

(35:32):
even require a plane.
I just took the bus.
I think I learned something onthat trip is like, it's not that
I don't like to go out, like I,I actually like going out.
Like I like to get dressed upand look cute, but I think for
me it's more of an event.
Like I need to know that There'sgoing to either be a good
opportunity for me to networkand meet people, or I'm seeing

(35:53):
something like a show, I justdon't like the idea of like, let
me go and like see what thispotential party could be about.
Like if this is gonna be a goodparty.
I don't think I like to partyanymore.
I'm getting older guys.
And then I also went to Chicagoto see.
This guy I reconnected with,don't worry, it's not the Cali

(36:13):
guy.
It's not the best sex I ever hadguy.
It was a guy I dated actuallybefore the pandemic, and he and
I reconnected when he came toNew York for work Before COVID
Life took us on separatejourneys.
He had left New York.
I left New York, but when Ireturned to New York, he
didn't,, he moved to Californiaand now he was living in Chicago

(36:36):
for a new role.
He accepted and so I'd neverbeen to Chicago.
So when I saw him in New York, Iwas like, oh, he's cute.
And we started talking.
I was like, he's still cute.
He was always cute, but like,I'm like, oh, you know, it's
been like five years and you'restill attractive.
Great.
And single.
Great.
So he and I, yeah, had some goodenergy and then ultimately ended

(36:56):
up inviting me to Chicago and Iwent and that was a cute little
trip.
So yeah, that was my Octobertravel, and, so I'll give my Q3
travel a four outta five stars.
Peru was beautiful, but alsolike one of the hardest things
I've ever done was the SalkantayTrek and.

(37:19):
I poop my pants guys in, inshort, like I'll, I'll just
share that piece.
If you don't know what I'mtalking about, you need to
listen to the episode, thereturn of the sober but
butterfly.
But yeah, I, I can't give itfive stars.
Like I, I poop, I poop my, mypants.
I also got to do some other coolthings like go to, you know,
places in the country that Ihave never visited before, like
Chicago and Phoenix and Sedona.

(37:39):
So like, that was cool too.
Now let's talk about my datingwrapped Q3.
It was actually less chaotic, alot more clarity and a lot more
of observing instead ofparticipating.
As mentioned, I reconnected withpandemic guy, pre pandemic guy.
And things were pretty calm,like pretty tame.

(38:02):
He's a good communicator.
I'm decent.
We're working on mycommunication and we're more
mature, and so yeah, it justfeels very adult right now,
which I don't know if that's agood or bad thing, but he's the
only person I've been datingthis quarter.
Well, now we're in quarter four,but starting quarter three and
yeah, I'm gonna say three out offive.

(38:23):
Neutral, peaceful, informative.

the-sober-butterfly_17_12-19 (38:29):
As far as my goals wrapped, Q3,
I've always wanted to go toMachu Picchu, so that was a
major life goal of mine and Igot to do that.
But the Salkantay Trek, that wasnot.
On my Bingo card, so that feltlike a major personal win
because I accomplished somethingso difficult.
I also mentioned in my return ofthe sober Butterfly episode that

(38:54):
I was fired from my Pilates job.
So yeah, losing Pilates.
Actually was a major goal.
I didn't even know I had, itoffered so much redirection
because I share in that episodelike how I'm not good at
quitting things, and I neverwould've quit or thrown in the

(39:15):
towel.
So yeah, I was very gratefulwhen they told me that.
You know, it wasn't a good fit.
Agreed and then the last datingpiece, like it felt intentional
this year, like it, or thisquarter I should say.
Like not dating, being away froma dating apps, and talking to
this guy in Chicago feltmanageable and felt good.

(39:38):
So Q3, I would give it actuallya four out of five, as a whole.
It was one of the best quartersof my life.
No.
Whoa.
Walk that back.
Definitely not of my life.
One of the best quarters of theyear.
Okay.

the-sober-butterfly_19_ (39:55):
Quarter four, November through December.
Your most replayed lesson, trustyourself.
and that brings us to quarterfour.
Welcome to the present.
November.
I took a solo trip to ElSalvador vg coming soon, I
promise.

(40:17):
That was one of my favoritetrips this year.
It was so grounding, soulaffirming.
It gave me the quiet confidencethat I needed, that I was
missing.
'cause I think that's a big partof it.
When you're so down and low anddirectionless like you, you tend
to lose faith in your abilitiesto show up and be your authentic
self or be, you know, confidentin who you are.

(40:38):
And so that trip really allowedme to like quiet my
surroundings.
Highly, highly, highly recommendgoing to El Salvador.
It is super safe.
Don't worry.
One of the safest countries inthe freaking world.
Now, December, more recently, Iwent to Miami for Art Basel.
My.
Very first Art Basel and I loveart so much so like it was right

(41:01):
at my alley.
I love the creative energy.
I felt super inspired.
That was a girls' trip.
I shared that, you know, girlstrip aren't always my jam, but I
had a great time in spite of alittle.
Drama in the friend group.
It was a beautiful reminder thatI do love stimulation, just not
chaos.

(41:22):
Now, my Q4 dating, like I said,I am still talking to Chicago
guy, but at the same time, Iwould rather not date Samone
long distance again, even ifhe's just in Chicago, he doesn't
plan on staying in Chicago.
He really doesn't have manyplans on moving back to New
York.
Um, so yeah, I don't know.

(41:43):
We'll see.
And so my Q4 wrapped goals, Ithink this quarter was all about
like integration and slowingdown and learning to listen to
my body more, and then justtrusting any like redirections
from the universe.
So I'm gonna actually going togive this quarter, give full
four out of five rating becauseI feel like I'm finally ending

(42:05):
the year with more alignment andintention, and that's because
I'm getting more clear aroundwhat I should and should not be
doing.

the-sober-butterfly_20_12 (42:16):
Okay, so my final wrapped scores, I
think travel for me this yearhas been a solid four outta five
stars.
Dating has been, I would say, ifwe average everything.
Probably like a A 1.5 outtafive, but I will say it was
emotionally necessary and goalsI would give a three outta five

(42:37):
because even though I didn'thave much clear direction, I was
still able to do a lot of bigmilestones for myself that.
I'm proud of.
So if in closing, if 2025 hastaught me anything, it's the
fact that I can be sober, I canbe successful, I can travel the

(42:57):
world and still be grievingversions of myself, my
relationships, and the timelinesI thought would happen by now.
And so my reminder to you isthat growth is not linear.
Healing is not always likeaesthetic.
I've complained a lot about 2025I have.

(43:19):
And I will say, even though thiscertainly was not my best gear
and I didn't feel good a lot ofthe year.
I would say this year haschanged me forever.
And so for that, I am gratefulto you 2025.
So in closing, so thank you.

(43:41):
If this episode resonated,please share it.
Please rate the podcast popstars only and if you wanna
share something that you'veloved from this episode or a
question you may have, feel freeto DM me at the period Soba
Butterfly on Instagram.
Until next time, butterflies, Iwill see you next week.

(44:03):
Until next time, butterflies,remember to choose yourself
every time.
Love you.
Bye.
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