March 21, 2024 • 22 mins
Erectile Dysfunction: Part 2
Craig, Greg and Josh discuss the non-medical causes of E.D. and expound on practical solutions to mitigate the psychosomatic roots of the problem. The topics of diet & exercise, performance anxiety, pornography and and excess masturbation are explored. The importance of intimacy and communication with a partner are revealed to be crucial elements of the solution.
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
falling Champion.
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Bachelors Craig and Gregpresent a myriad of topics
centering on relationships andaddictions in the positive
lights of experience, strengthand hope.
Both have struggled with thestrongholds of addiction and
with relationships that wentawry, and both have emerged on
the other side stronger, wiserand better prepared to become
what they once set out to be.
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You're listening to thesolution.
Speaker 2 (01:05):
Welcome to the solution.
I'm your host, craig Dahlin.
Hey, we're in part two of EDtonight and we're sitting around
here pretty jacked up about thewhole deal.
Welcome, greg Carter.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Hey, what's happening ?
Doing great tonight.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
Good, we have Josh Josh going to your house as well
, Gentlemen.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
Gentlemen, Can you say jacked up Well jacked up.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
I mean we're talking about ED and we're all pretty
excited about that whole deal.
This is part two.
You know there's some mainwords that you're going to be
wanting to hear and listen totonight, and a couple of those
are diet, exercise, cortisol,masturbation, porn, and we got
them all coming at you tonight.
We're going to get in depth, alittle bit more in depth, on how
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to rectile this function.
Because we want to do this show, because that needs to be done.
I think sometimes things getleft in the wings and then I
think there's a lot of simplesolutions to erectile this
function that I think a lot ofpeople get paralyzed by it a
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little bit.
You know, you think you have itor you don't know if you have
it, and we're going to talkabout that too.
A little test to know if youhave it.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
So people make too much of it.
I mean I mean they misseddiagnosed.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
I think it's the thing where you got to get down
to the basics.
Pretty much what is out therein the markets are pills.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Yeah, I would say the medical causes are less
frequent than I previouslyassumed, and so I think that
there's maybe what you callpsychosomatic and there are
physiological causes, but theymight be able to be addressed
without medicine, I think.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
I agree 100%.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Performing anxiety Big time.
Yeah performance anxiety.
Yes, I just want to totallyplease this lady.
You're in love with you.
Just think the world ever goingto be the first time, for
example.
Yep, it's like, oh God, please,lord, let everything go through
the silk, you know yeah, areyou finding glasses?
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Yeah, and it can, but there's, there could be some
things that get in the way ofthat.
In that case you haveperformance anxiety would be
just like, oh my God, you knowyou just kind of being at the
free throw line with, you know,two shots to win the game,
Exactly.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
Well, a lot of that too.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
It's hard to win that game sometimes.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
Yeah, a lot of that too.
That performance anxiety canhappen if there's been a long
period of abstinence to you know, like what you just said.
Take, for example, thebasketball player.
They're shooting free throws ona regular basis in practice for
the game.
It comes to do something likethis Right, yeah, and they have,
abstinence is abstinence.
The warm up there yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
And I think one of the biggest things too, is you
are practicing too much duringthe week without your partner.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Yes, flying solo.
You know you're flying solo infront of the screen Star Wars
character hand solo.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Yep, you're looking at your computer a little bit
too much at those images, andyou know that's a deal, because
it's a thing called.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
Decreases the sensitivity.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Decreases the sensitivity.
You know, if you're grabbingthat thing, you're grabbing your
penis in front of the screen,masturbating, or whatever you're
doing, you're working it.
That thing is not, it will notbe as sensitive as it could be.
Yeah, because when you go intothe foreplay or whatever, just
being together like that,there's not the arousal that
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could be because you're grabbingit and tugging it during the
week or whatever.
You mess around with it toomuch.
I mean it's meant to be takenout for special occasions.
It's the fine china man, youknow what I mean.
I agree, and that's for specialoccasions only.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
You don't want to get that too out of practice.
But there's too much of a goodthing too.
Your partner can tell.
I think if you can't finish,let's say yes, what can she tell
?
I've only been accused of.
You've been looking atpornography, haven't you?
No, dear no.
Because, it'll just be goingand going and you can't finish
and you know she's starting to.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Chaf, right, right, you're going forever and there's
no ending in sight.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Then arm comes around .
It's patting you on the back.
You know like finish up.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Or if she holds up a white flag.
What?
if she holds up your underwearin the air and starts to wave it
.
She's saying I'm waving thewhite flag, stop.
There's a lot of things, and wetalked about cortisol last week
too, yes, or the last show, Iguess and it's main stapling
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this whole thing is that whenyou get stressed out there seems
to be a lot of stress this dayand age your body dumps down
cortisol where cortisol doestake and hack away at your
testosterone levels.
Yeah, it's not always.
What can we do?
It's, what can we stop doing tobring this back to where it
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should be?
I know that the pills that thedoctors give out, those are, you
know, those are doing their job, but they're not.
Maybe they get people sobrought into a big pharma.
A pill would take care of this,a pill would take care of that.
Well, you know, I think, thatthere's some things like
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exercise, right, Just a nice ahalf hour walk, that you know, a
nice workout every day, whatthat does for you.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
Regular sleep.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
That's huge yeah, regular sleep.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Yeah, fat, void the fatty foods.
We're all going to eat littlefatty foods.
Lose the belly fat, you know.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Yep, belly fat and what they say too, about blood
flows.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
They talk about blood flow.
Okay.
Well, let's say the winter time, when you, when you get cold,
you get really cold sometimesyou do.
Well, maybe the blood isn't asgood to your feet, it's not as
good to your fingertips Well,the penis, that's right in the
middle of us.
It should have adequate bloodflow there.
But you know what, there arethings you can do for it.
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Work that core right.
Yes, what exercises?
Speaker 3 (07:12):
would you do there For that?
It would be pelvic floorexercises.
Bend your knees, put your feetflat on the floor, lie back and
then just lift your buttocks inthe air.
You know slow repetitions.
Yep, go up slowly, come backdown.
Don't even go back down to thefloor all the way.
Go back up again.
Yeah, and if you have lowerback problems, allow yourself to
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to briefly rest when you touchthe floor.
But then Go back up planks.
Planks to be good for that Yepto planks.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Yes, squats, squats.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Yes, body weight squats, so we're talking body
weight.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Yes, your body weight .
You don't need to go to a gym.
You know an extras.
I mean a good walk, I mean ahalf hour brisk walk or 45
minute brisk walk.
Oh my gosh, you know yes,that's right.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
That's for the body, for daily.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Those things make you feel super good too.
There's nothing better than a,than a great walk for that, and
I Think a lot of it too.
There's a lot of things that gointo this.
I think communication does too.
With your wife, your gal,you're being, you know, engaged
to, and we don't want to couragethe youngsters out there to
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have sex, or the people thataren't married.
I mean, you got to do what yougot to do it.
promise you about anything, yeahbut we just say Whoever you're
with the young, I thinkcommunication is huge it is and
to be able to laugh, you know,at some things.
And I mean, guys, if you can'tget it up for a night or
something happens like that,laugh about it.
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You know there are worse things.
You know at least you'retogether, hey, watch a movie.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I mean don't make it so serious.
I think you hit a good pointthere too, if I can interject,
because I think that you know,as far as sex is concerned, I
think it's it's partly mentaland emotional.
So if you, if your friends withthe person, it's so much better
, and if you in love with theperson, I mean watch out, that's
where it really becomes thetotal experience.
Though Having sex with someoneyou don't really know or respect
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God forbid, that's where hecould come in, I think.
Oh, I agree, 100% makes.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
It wouldn't make sense if it didn't agree, 100%,
there's chances are there'sheavy alcohol and take involved
to yeah right, you need somebodyand the alcohol involved or
dope if I'm, if I'm with a womanand she's intermasculine and
we're might be doing that,having sex or something happens,
a huge turn off, yes, I meanlike if she's a bossy type or
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whatever I mean.
And If you're in love withsomebody, it's, yeah, it's, it's
, it's where it's meant to be.
You know it's meant to be, forthat it's like.
It's like you don't want tohaul the like I said, you don't
want to even you're fine, china.
All the time you got to keep iton reserve right, absolutely,
and and that's sex.
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Sex, if it's to be done the wayit's meant to be done, it is a
fine China moment I don't want,you know that's, that's just my
metaphor for, but it really isand it's.
If you can learn to treat itthat way, that's, that's the
ultimate.
But you know, sitting down inthe basement though during the
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week and practicing Like I sayby yourself, that's not gonna do
it, that's gonna take away fromthe experience big time.
You know that's not respectingyourself or what it is or it's
not.
Well, you know, when you eversit in front of the screen and
you got a girlfriend, I'm gonnascreen.
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I refer to this computer.
But when you're sitting infront of the screen looking at
the porn, you're taking awayEvery minute, every hour.
You're doing it, you're takingaway that much from your
relationship and you're throwingit in the garbage.
So it's more than just asupplement to that.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Yes, the tracks.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Because of the, the porn.
These images are coming at youand they're slowly eroding your
brain.
It's slowly taken away youryour sexual attraction for where
it should be, and that's withyour Other one, don't you agree?
Speaker 3 (11:19):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Yeah, there may be some expectation that your
partner's gonna act like a pornstar and that's very unfair if
they don't know.
That's what you're thinking of.
And also I know it's just, it'sa dark world.
I think the situations and thethings and even the positions
that are going on is just IDon't know.
It's just so, it's forentertainment, it's not, it's
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not reality.
And so sometimes we haveexactly someone you realize
they're.
They're doing some move from aporno and it's like it doesn't
feel good Really.
They're doing something like ashowy thing that likes, looks
good, like it's rehearsed.
Yeah, like they're doing for acamera.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
Yeah, yeah, like it's rehearsed.
You start looking around forcameras then, but I've been
accused of that before a fewdifferent times, I see.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
I'm gonna show man.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
What's?
What were you doing?
Speaker 3 (12:06):
Well, though, just like a go from this position to
that position, to this position.
Then the lady called me on it.
She goes.
I really enjoyed myself, but itwas just like you know.
She goes, it was great, but hegoes.
It was just like it wasrehearsed, like there was a
camera on and you were so smooth, like it was like, all right,
now, switch, now go to thisposition.
I'll go with that position, goyou know, and you're taking
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around the world?
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Yeah, she should have been more appreciative.
Speaker 3 (12:30):
Yeah, she should have lost.
He was with a maestro, yeah shewas, you were a lead conductor
one time I was in my early 20s.
Then too yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Well, here's a real side.
There's a little side note tothat.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
It's a side note to that.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
There was a video I was watching last week and they
said on it what a woman likesthe most when I'm doing that is
Is, um, just repetition in thatsame position.
If she starts to like something, don't switch from that, just
keep doing that.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
I found that interesting good point.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
But, it was.
So it takes away the showman,you just you find where she's
happy to stay right in thatgroove, oh yeah yes, you know I
get traction, though.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
You just want to get a leverage.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
I have read this before an article to where, if
you feel like you're gonnaEjaculate sooner than later,
then that would might be thetime to switch a position.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
Yeah, yeah, yeah take the time.
I want to throw her on top then.
Speaker 3 (13:25):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
Because then you can last longer, right Is that?
Speaker 3 (13:28):
what you're saying, or to the side.
Right yeah, yeah, don't want toget too descriptive.
Yeah, no, we don't.
Yeah yeah, but yeah, but yeah.
Oh, then role playing that'sokay.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
I'm a 20th level wizard.
Okay, we're gonna go that route.
We're gonna go a little bit inthat route.
But what I want to say beforethat, yeah, is as far as ED and
all that goes right, some ofsome people like they'll jump
right into it or whatever that Ican imagine them and they're
not Getting it hard right away.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
Well.
Speaker 2 (13:59):
I'm saying slow down, yeah, slow way down.
Speaker 3 (14:02):
Yeah, slow way.
That's why it's called foreplay, not insta play.
Does that way you?
Speaker 2 (14:05):
not.
You knock a lot of that Anxietyout of you if you just take
your time.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Yeah, I never go that a fashion and then be into the
moment, don't be into.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
It's like it's like a game of football.
It's like, okay, are you thereto win or you just there to
there to not to lose?
Right, yeah, you know, ifyou're gonna be there to win,
take it slow, go through thesteps, the progressions, and you
know, go slow, because ifyou're there to win, that's what
you do, but if you're there notto lose, you're just gonna Try
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to do it and you finish it upand win the win, win the win,
the blue ribbon, and that ain'tgonna happen.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
So, because I think form over content or something.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Yeah, I think with porn, I think that is such a
killer of it.
I think that's, I think that'sgot a big deal.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
You stayed with us this far, and that shows
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Now let's rejoin the showalready in progress.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
People think a lot of people might think they have ED
and they don't.
I agree, they just don't haveit and there is a way to test
and see if you do, and Anybodywant to say what the test is.
I.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
Think you're saying it was too well to go to a
private place and then try to.
What does it involve?
Was it involved masturbating?
Speaker 2 (15:31):
I can't remember.
Yeah, you know.
Yeah, you go, you get in yourcar and you go to a park parking
lot.
You put that sunscreen the Sunblind up though.
Yeah, you want to put thataround your car.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
Turn the volume up really loud, yeah, that way you
distract everybody.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Oh right, yes, and when the Walmart parking lot or
when the tenant comes out tocheck on you, just say you're
all good.
Speaker 1 (15:57):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
If you want to decide whether you have it or not, you
basically masturbate.
If it gets hard, on your own,by yourself.
You don't have ED, you knowthat's.
That's where it's at.
You're not trying to yourpartner anymore.
Well, no, well, yeah, it'saesthetic fatigue, it's, it
could be a number of things.
I, I personally think, well, Ipersonally think a guy practices
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it too much during the week.
I Really do.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
I know cuz I knew a guy who did that.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Yeah, we've all known guys that have done that.
And if you do that, what you'redoing is you're, you're, you're
desensitizing it.
It needs to and it, like I saidearlier, needs to be saved for
special occasions, you know yeahit's bored, it's.
It's when God made the God mademan.
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He made sex to be Reserved.
It's not an everyday deal.
It's not.
He didn't make it to be.
Do we put it into porn?
He didn't make all these thingsand those things.
When you view a lot of thatstuff, it takes a big hit.
Can we settle on three times aweek?
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Well, no, that's.
Speaker 3 (17:13):
That's.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
Three times a day?
Yeah, well, if things do getworse, you know.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
Things do things different.
Things do attribute it to you.
If you, if you want to do ittotally, totally right, I would
say exercise, eat right, drink alot of water and you know,
exercise your core, or justexercise, go out, give up
alcohol for walks.
Yeah, I think walks, I thinkwalks are just some of the best
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medicine ever.
What do you guys think something about walks?
Speaker 3 (17:43):
walks are great, so sleep.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Sleeps incredible sleep.
No booze, you know Illegaldrugs and some prescription
drugs give you can give you aproblem.
Prescription drugs, right yeahthat a little bit or
antidepressants, strangelyenough, can make it hard to
maintain erection and make ithard to finish.
Because, because also beingdepressed can have that effect.
But yeah, being drunk, um, it'snot good for what's the quote?
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It's good for the the desire,but not for the performance, or
yeah, something like that.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
There's something too like.
If you're in a relationship,it's like the, the sexual
polarity.
If that's off, that's gonnamake the sex life off.
If you're married to somebodyand she's being pretty masculine
yes, whether you know, or Imean that if your wife,
girlfriend, is, is taking overthat masculine role, words that
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leave you with demasculated yeah, you can.
So that plays a big part in mea boy.
Well, that's sexual polarities.
Right, when you're in her she'sunder feminine You're, you're
in your masculine round home.
Anyway, that's gonna help itoff a lot.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
It is.
So it's hard to woo someonewho's in their mask, a woman in
their masculine, like someonewho's complaining all the time
or who's like being too bossy ortoo negative, exactly, and then
Someone who's not interested,and if they're that way with you
, then that's you're dumpingdown cortisol because it adds
stress, a lot of stress.
Speaker 2 (19:05):
So I think, uh, I think the best thing to do just
keeps popping in my mind.
Let's all list what we think isgoing to be best.
To me it's just long walks,long brisk walks are the best
thing.
What do you think, greg?
Speaker 3 (19:22):
that and also to uh, just, my working out involves
weight training and then on thedays of not weight training, I
do the battle rope.
So I'm and I know any type ofresistance training does
increase testosterone levels,naturally the way God intended
it to.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
Yes, yeah, yeah, that's a nice exercise, nice
exercises you know um Josh, whatdo you?
Speaker 1 (19:48):
think, I think what you said, um, you know, like
communication, goodcommunication and intimacy, you
know, those are the things thatmakes sex really great anyway.
So, yeah, um, I think, ifthere's something, something
between something, has a couplethat's but going on said that,
can that, can, um, that can becovering up something that you
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know an important thing thatneeds to be discussed.
Let's say so.
What's that now?
Speaker 2 (20:14):
Well like.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
Like if um, ed is, if there's constantly a
dysfunction and and she's, youknow, she's eager and willing,
then this something meanssomething is bothering you.
I think, yeah, something wrongwith something.
Yeah, I can't even be specificbecause I'm not in a
relationship right now, but butyou're?
Speaker 2 (20:33):
you're saying, if the ED stays in the dark, yeah, if
the couples aren't discussing itin a nice caring, um, thank you
kind of way, yeah, they'reprobably not gonna get rid of it
, right?
Speaker 1 (20:43):
She's gonna think it's her fault that you don't
like her, or you know I don'tlove her anymore, whatever it is
, and and you're gonna thinkthat she's thinking you're not a
man and it's gonna be, it'sgonna be a feedback loop, that's
just you got to talk about ithundred percent right there is
huge, and she's and chances areshe's gonna be eager to help you
.
She'll jump right in there anddo something special because she
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wants you to Feel good.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
I think so yep, it was right person.
She's the woman for you.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
dog gone right yeah that's it's, it's, it's
cooperative, it's not, it's notcompetitive.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
Well, she'll wear her bikini now too, when she's
doing dishes and stuff.
I would think, if she can getit off me.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
I wanted to reiterate that because communication is
really important and, likesaying, greg, some guys are
maybe afraid to talk to a womanabout sex, and they shouldn't be
, because, at least in myexperience, you know, my
girlfriends have been reallyquite open to talking about it
because it's Something they'reinterested in.
They're interested in you andyour, your collective happiness,
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and so, yeah, communication.
Speaker 3 (21:47):
Yeah, I agree.
What do you say, greg?
I do too.
And also to that communicationgets stronger when you do
activities With your lover.
What I mean by activities?
When's the only time a lot ofpeople see each other at home?
Go out and do things, go outand go to the beach?
Um, take those little quick twoor three day weekend John's.
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Hang out together, experiencethings together Outside the
house, and I believe that'swhere communication Increases
tenfold.
Oh, absolutely.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
Absolutely and the right kind of communication
exactly.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Yes, don't get that, they'd be mechanical.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
Yeah, the right kind of communication where it's
light and funny, where you canlaugh and Giggle and you could
be a man and she can be.
She can be a woman, she couldbe your lady.
That's right, I mean.
What more can you ask?
I know right.
I mean I'm gonna end up theshow saying thanks a lot, you
for you guys.
It's incredible input tonight.
I mean I'll thank myself too,thank you Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Thank you.
You did great Good.
Thank you, yes, you know.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
But something to end it on, I would say, like I say
save please, guys.
Save Sex for special occasionsand who you're with.
You know of course you're gonnabe with your wife, your fiancee
, we you know.
But don't practice during theweek without her too much.
You don't need it, save it.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
Oh, your erectiles will be functional.
Speaker 2 (23:11):
Yeah, they're gonna be there.
You don't have to grab themevery day and look and see if
they're there and exercise,exercise and eat right, and I
think you're gonna go a long wayby doing that.
And if you and include her inyour conversation, that wraps up
the show.
Well, let's thanks a lot.
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Thank you, listener.
Really appreciate you.
We most definitely do, andthat's it for the solution.
We'll see you next time.
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Speaker 2 (01:05):
Welcome to the solution.
I'm your host, craig Dahlin.
Hey, we're in part two of EDtonight and we're sitting around
here pretty jacked up about thewhole deal.
Welcome, greg Carter.
Speaker 3 (01:16):
Hey, what's happening ?
Doing great tonight.
Speaker 2 (01:18):
Good, we have Josh Josh going to your house as well
, Gentlemen.
Speaker 1 (01:21):
Gentlemen, Can you say jacked up Well jacked up.
Speaker 2 (01:25):
I mean we're talking about ED and we're all pretty
excited about that whole deal.
This is part two.
You know there's some mainwords that you're going to be
wanting to hear and listen totonight, and a couple of those
are diet, exercise, cortisol,masturbation, porn, and we got
them all coming at you tonight.
We're going to get in depth, alittle bit more in depth, on how
(01:45):
to rectile this function.
Because we want to do this show, because that needs to be done.
I think sometimes things getleft in the wings and then I
think there's a lot of simplesolutions to erectile this
function that I think a lot ofpeople get paralyzed by it a
(02:09):
little bit.
You know, you think you have itor you don't know if you have
it, and we're going to talkabout that too.
A little test to know if youhave it.
Speaker 1 (02:15):
So people make too much of it.
I mean I mean they misseddiagnosed.
Speaker 2 (02:18):
I think it's the thing where you got to get down
to the basics.
Pretty much what is out therein the markets are pills.
Speaker 1 (02:26):
Yeah, I would say the medical causes are less
frequent than I previouslyassumed, and so I think that
there's maybe what you callpsychosomatic and there are
physiological causes, but theymight be able to be addressed
without medicine, I think.
Speaker 2 (02:41):
I agree 100%.
Speaker 3 (02:43):
Performing anxiety Big time.
Yeah performance anxiety.
Yes, I just want to totallyplease this lady.
You're in love with you.
Just think the world ever goingto be the first time, for
example.
Yep, it's like, oh God, please,lord, let everything go through
the silk, you know yeah, areyou finding glasses?
Speaker 2 (03:05):
Yeah, and it can, but there's, there could be some
things that get in the way ofthat.
In that case you haveperformance anxiety would be
just like, oh my God, you knowyou just kind of being at the
free throw line with, you know,two shots to win the game,
Exactly.
Speaker 3 (03:21):
Well, a lot of that too.
Speaker 2 (03:22):
It's hard to win that game sometimes.
Speaker 3 (03:24):
Yeah, a lot of that too.
That performance anxiety canhappen if there's been a long
period of abstinence to you know, like what you just said.
Take, for example, thebasketball player.
They're shooting free throws ona regular basis in practice for
the game.
It comes to do something likethis Right, yeah, and they have,
abstinence is abstinence.
The warm up there yeah.
Speaker 2 (03:44):
And I think one of the biggest things too, is you
are practicing too much duringthe week without your partner.
Speaker 1 (03:54):
Yes, flying solo.
You know you're flying solo infront of the screen Star Wars
character hand solo.
Speaker 2 (04:00):
Yep, you're looking at your computer a little bit
too much at those images, andyou know that's a deal, because
it's a thing called.
Speaker 3 (04:08):
Decreases the sensitivity.
Speaker 2 (04:10):
Decreases the sensitivity.
You know, if you're grabbingthat thing, you're grabbing your
penis in front of the screen,masturbating, or whatever you're
doing, you're working it.
That thing is not, it will notbe as sensitive as it could be.
Yeah, because when you go intothe foreplay or whatever, just
being together like that,there's not the arousal that
(04:33):
could be because you're grabbingit and tugging it during the
week or whatever.
You mess around with it toomuch.
I mean it's meant to be takenout for special occasions.
It's the fine china man, youknow what I mean.
I agree, and that's for specialoccasions only.
Speaker 1 (04:52):
You don't want to get that too out of practice.
But there's too much of a goodthing too.
Your partner can tell.
I think if you can't finish,let's say yes, what can she tell
?
I've only been accused of.
You've been looking atpornography, haven't you?
No, dear no.
Because, it'll just be goingand going and you can't finish
and you know she's starting to.
Speaker 2 (05:10):
Chaf, right, right, you're going forever and there's
no ending in sight.
Speaker 1 (05:15):
Then arm comes around .
It's patting you on the back.
You know like finish up.
Speaker 2 (05:18):
Or if she holds up a white flag.
What?
if she holds up your underwearin the air and starts to wave it
.
She's saying I'm waving thewhite flag, stop.
There's a lot of things, and wetalked about cortisol last week
too, yes, or the last show, Iguess and it's main stapling
(05:40):
this whole thing is that whenyou get stressed out there seems
to be a lot of stress this dayand age your body dumps down
cortisol where cortisol doestake and hack away at your
testosterone levels.
Yeah, it's not always.
What can we do?
It's, what can we stop doing tobring this back to where it
(06:03):
should be?
I know that the pills that thedoctors give out, those are, you
know, those are doing their job, but they're not.
Maybe they get people sobrought into a big pharma.
A pill would take care of this,a pill would take care of that.
Well, you know, I think, thatthere's some things like
(06:26):
exercise, right, Just a nice ahalf hour walk, that you know, a
nice workout every day, whatthat does for you.
Speaker 3 (06:34):
Regular sleep.
Speaker 2 (06:35):
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (06:36):
That's huge yeah, regular sleep.
Speaker 3 (06:38):
Yeah, fat, void the fatty foods.
We're all going to eat littlefatty foods.
Lose the belly fat, you know.
Speaker 1 (06:44):
Yep, belly fat and what they say too, about blood
flows.
Speaker 2 (06:46):
They talk about blood flow.
Okay.
Well, let's say the winter time, when you, when you get cold,
you get really cold sometimesyou do.
Well, maybe the blood isn't asgood to your feet, it's not as
good to your fingertips Well,the penis, that's right in the
middle of us.
It should have adequate bloodflow there.
But you know what, there arethings you can do for it.
(07:08):
Work that core right.
Yes, what exercises?
Speaker 3 (07:12):
would you do there For that?
It would be pelvic floorexercises.
Bend your knees, put your feetflat on the floor, lie back and
then just lift your buttocks inthe air.
You know slow repetitions.
Yep, go up slowly, come backdown.
Don't even go back down to thefloor all the way.
Go back up again.
Yeah, and if you have lowerback problems, allow yourself to
(07:35):
to briefly rest when you touchthe floor.
But then Go back up planks.
Planks to be good for that Yepto planks.
Speaker 2 (07:43):
Yes, squats, squats.
Speaker 3 (07:45):
Yes, body weight squats, so we're talking body
weight.
Speaker 2 (07:48):
Yes, your body weight .
You don't need to go to a gym.
You know an extras.
I mean a good walk, I mean ahalf hour brisk walk or 45
minute brisk walk.
Oh my gosh, you know yes,that's right.
Speaker 1 (08:00):
That's for the body, for daily.
Speaker 2 (08:02):
Those things make you feel super good too.
There's nothing better than a,than a great walk for that, and
I Think a lot of it too.
There's a lot of things that gointo this.
I think communication does too.
With your wife, your gal,you're being, you know, engaged
to, and we don't want to couragethe youngsters out there to
(08:24):
have sex, or the people thataren't married.
I mean, you got to do what yougot to do it.
promise you about anything, yeahbut we just say Whoever you're
with the young, I thinkcommunication is huge it is and
to be able to laugh, you know,at some things.
And I mean, guys, if you can'tget it up for a night or
something happens like that,laugh about it.
(08:45):
You know there are worse things.
You know at least you'retogether, hey, watch a movie.
Speaker 1 (08:51):
I mean don't make it so serious.
I think you hit a good pointthere too, if I can interject,
because I think that you know,as far as sex is concerned, I
think it's it's partly mentaland emotional.
So if you, if your friends withthe person, it's so much better
, and if you in love with theperson, I mean watch out, that's
where it really becomes thetotal experience.
Though Having sex with someoneyou don't really know or respect
(09:14):
God forbid, that's where hecould come in, I think.
Oh, I agree, 100% makes.
Speaker 2 (09:20):
It wouldn't make sense if it didn't agree, 100%,
there's chances are there'sheavy alcohol and take involved
to yeah right, you need somebodyand the alcohol involved or
dope if I'm, if I'm with a womanand she's intermasculine and
we're might be doing that,having sex or something happens,
a huge turn off, yes, I meanlike if she's a bossy type or
(09:42):
whatever I mean.
And If you're in love withsomebody, it's, yeah, it's, it's
, it's where it's meant to be.
You know it's meant to be, forthat it's like.
It's like you don't want tohaul the like I said, you don't
want to even you're fine, china.
All the time you got to keep iton reserve right, absolutely,
and and that's sex.
(10:03):
Sex, if it's to be done the wayit's meant to be done, it is a
fine China moment I don't want,you know that's, that's just my
metaphor for, but it really isand it's.
If you can learn to treat itthat way, that's, that's the
ultimate.
But you know, sitting down inthe basement though during the
(10:24):
week and practicing Like I sayby yourself, that's not gonna do
it, that's gonna take away fromthe experience big time.
You know that's not respectingyourself or what it is or it's
not.
Well, you know, when you eversit in front of the screen and
you got a girlfriend, I'm gonnascreen.
(10:45):
I refer to this computer.
But when you're sitting infront of the screen looking at
the porn, you're taking awayEvery minute, every hour.
You're doing it, you're takingaway that much from your
relationship and you're throwingit in the garbage.
So it's more than just asupplement to that.
Speaker 1 (11:03):
Yes, the tracks.
Speaker 2 (11:05):
Because of the, the porn.
These images are coming at youand they're slowly eroding your
brain.
It's slowly taken away youryour sexual attraction for where
it should be, and that's withyour Other one, don't you agree?
Speaker 3 (11:19):
Yes.
Speaker 1 (11:19):
Yeah, there may be some expectation that your
partner's gonna act like a pornstar and that's very unfair if
they don't know.
That's what you're thinking of.
And also I know it's just, it'sa dark world.
I think the situations and thethings and even the positions
that are going on is just IDon't know.
It's just so, it's forentertainment, it's not, it's
(11:40):
not reality.
And so sometimes we haveexactly someone you realize
they're.
They're doing some move from aporno and it's like it doesn't
feel good Really.
They're doing something like ashowy thing that likes, looks
good, like it's rehearsed.
Yeah, like they're doing for acamera.
Speaker 3 (11:55):
Yeah, yeah, like it's rehearsed.
You start looking around forcameras then, but I've been
accused of that before a fewdifferent times, I see.
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:01):
I'm gonna show man.
Speaker 3 (12:02):
Yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:05):
What's?
What were you doing?
Speaker 3 (12:06):
Well, though, just like a go from this position to
that position, to this position.
Then the lady called me on it.
She goes.
I really enjoyed myself, but itwas just like you know.
She goes, it was great, but hegoes.
It was just like it wasrehearsed, like there was a
camera on and you were so smooth, like it was like, all right,
now, switch, now go to thisposition.
I'll go with that position, goyou know, and you're taking
(12:27):
around the world?
Speaker 1 (12:29):
Yeah, she should have been more appreciative.
Speaker 3 (12:30):
Yeah, she should have lost.
He was with a maestro, yeah shewas, you were a lead conductor
one time I was in my early 20s.
Then too yeah.
Speaker 2 (12:39):
Well, here's a real side.
There's a little side note tothat.
Speaker 3 (12:43):
It's a side note to that.
Speaker 2 (12:44):
There was a video I was watching last week and they
said on it what a woman likesthe most when I'm doing that is
Is, um, just repetition in thatsame position.
If she starts to like something, don't switch from that, just
keep doing that.
Speaker 1 (12:59):
I found that interesting good point.
Speaker 2 (13:01):
But, it was.
So it takes away the showman,you just you find where she's
happy to stay right in thatgroove, oh yeah yes, you know I
get traction, though.
Speaker 1 (13:10):
You just want to get a leverage.
Speaker 3 (13:11):
I have read this before an article to where, if
you feel like you're gonnaEjaculate sooner than later,
then that would might be thetime to switch a position.
Speaker 2 (13:21):
Yeah, yeah, yeah take the time.
I want to throw her on top then.
Speaker 3 (13:25):
Yeah, yeah.
Speaker 2 (13:26):
Because then you can last longer, right Is that?
Speaker 3 (13:28):
what you're saying, or to the side.
Right yeah, yeah, don't want toget too descriptive.
Yeah, no, we don't.
Yeah yeah, but yeah, but yeah.
Oh, then role playing that'sokay.
Speaker 2 (13:42):
I'm a 20th level wizard.
Okay, we're gonna go that route.
We're gonna go a little bit inthat route.
But what I want to say beforethat, yeah, is as far as ED and
all that goes right, some ofsome people like they'll jump
right into it or whatever that Ican imagine them and they're
not Getting it hard right away.
Speaker 1 (13:58):
Well.
Speaker 2 (13:59):
I'm saying slow down, yeah, slow way down.
Speaker 3 (14:02):
Yeah, slow way.
That's why it's called foreplay, not insta play.
Does that way you?
Speaker 2 (14:05):
not.
You knock a lot of that Anxietyout of you if you just take
your time.
Speaker 1 (14:09):
Yeah, I never go that a fashion and then be into the
moment, don't be into.
Speaker 2 (14:13):
It's like it's like a game of football.
It's like, okay, are you thereto win or you just there to
there to not to lose?
Right, yeah, you know, ifyou're gonna be there to win,
take it slow, go through thesteps, the progressions, and you
know, go slow, because ifyou're there to win, that's what
you do, but if you're there notto lose, you're just gonna Try
(14:35):
to do it and you finish it upand win the win, win the win,
the blue ribbon, and that ain'tgonna happen.
Speaker 1 (14:41):
So, because I think form over content or something.
Speaker 2 (14:45):
Yeah, I think with porn, I think that is such a
killer of it.
I think that's, I think that'sgot a big deal.
Speaker 1 (14:56):
You stayed with us this far, and that shows
commitment, proving you possessthe trait required to obtain the
solution.
Now let's rejoin the showalready in progress.
Speaker 2 (15:09):
People think a lot of people might think they have ED
and they don't.
I agree, they just don't haveit and there is a way to test
and see if you do, and Anybodywant to say what the test is.
I.
Speaker 1 (15:22):
Think you're saying it was too well to go to a
private place and then try to.
What does it involve?
Was it involved masturbating?
Speaker 2 (15:31):
I can't remember.
Yeah, you know.
Yeah, you go, you get in yourcar and you go to a park parking
lot.
You put that sunscreen the Sunblind up though.
Yeah, you want to put thataround your car.
Speaker 1 (15:43):
Turn the volume up really loud, yeah, that way you
distract everybody.
Speaker 2 (15:47):
Oh right, yes, and when the Walmart parking lot or
when the tenant comes out tocheck on you, just say you're
all good.
Speaker 1 (15:57):
Oh.
Speaker 2 (16:00):
If you want to decide whether you have it or not, you
basically masturbate.
If it gets hard, on your own,by yourself.
You don't have ED, you knowthat's.
That's where it's at.
You're not trying to yourpartner anymore.
Well, no, well, yeah, it'saesthetic fatigue, it's, it
could be a number of things.
I, I personally think, well, Ipersonally think a guy practices
(16:25):
it too much during the week.
I Really do.
Speaker 1 (16:28):
I know cuz I knew a guy who did that.
Speaker 2 (16:30):
Yeah, we've all known guys that have done that.
And if you do that, what you'redoing is you're, you're, you're
desensitizing it.
It needs to and it, like I saidearlier, needs to be saved for
special occasions, you know yeahit's bored, it's.
It's when God made the God mademan.
(16:53):
He made sex to be Reserved.
It's not an everyday deal.
It's not.
He didn't make it to be.
Do we put it into porn?
He didn't make all these thingsand those things.
When you view a lot of thatstuff, it takes a big hit.
Can we settle on three times aweek?
Speaker 1 (17:11):
Well, no, that's.
Speaker 3 (17:13):
That's.
Speaker 1 (17:17):
Three times a day?
Yeah, well, if things do getworse, you know.
Speaker 2 (17:19):
Things do things different.
Things do attribute it to you.
If you, if you want to do ittotally, totally right, I would
say exercise, eat right, drink alot of water and you know,
exercise your core, or justexercise, go out, give up
alcohol for walks.
Yeah, I think walks, I thinkwalks are just some of the best
(17:40):
medicine ever.
What do you guys think something about walks?
Speaker 3 (17:43):
walks are great, so sleep.
Speaker 1 (17:45):
Sleeps incredible sleep.
No booze, you know Illegaldrugs and some prescription
drugs give you can give you aproblem.
Prescription drugs, right yeahthat a little bit or
antidepressants, strangelyenough, can make it hard to
maintain erection and make ithard to finish.
Because, because also beingdepressed can have that effect.
But yeah, being drunk, um, it'snot good for what's the quote?
(18:09):
It's good for the the desire,but not for the performance, or
yeah, something like that.
Speaker 2 (18:13):
There's something too like.
If you're in a relationship,it's like the, the sexual
polarity.
If that's off, that's gonnamake the sex life off.
If you're married to somebodyand she's being pretty masculine
yes, whether you know, or Imean that if your wife,
girlfriend, is, is taking overthat masculine role, words that
(18:34):
leave you with demasculated yeah, you can.
So that plays a big part in mea boy.
Well, that's sexual polarities.
Right, when you're in her she'sunder feminine You're, you're
in your masculine round home.
Anyway, that's gonna help itoff a lot.
Speaker 1 (18:48):
It is.
So it's hard to woo someonewho's in their mask, a woman in
their masculine, like someonewho's complaining all the time
or who's like being too bossy ortoo negative, exactly, and then
Someone who's not interested,and if they're that way with you
, then that's you're dumpingdown cortisol because it adds
stress, a lot of stress.
Speaker 2 (19:05):
So I think, uh, I think the best thing to do just
keeps popping in my mind.
Let's all list what we think isgoing to be best.
To me it's just long walks,long brisk walks are the best
thing.
What do you think, greg?
Speaker 3 (19:22):
that and also to uh, just, my working out involves
weight training and then on thedays of not weight training, I
do the battle rope.
So I'm and I know any type ofresistance training does
increase testosterone levels,naturally the way God intended
it to.
Speaker 2 (19:39):
Yes, yeah, yeah, that's a nice exercise, nice
exercises you know um Josh, whatdo you?
Speaker 1 (19:48):
think, I think what you said, um, you know, like
communication, goodcommunication and intimacy, you
know, those are the things thatmakes sex really great anyway.
So, yeah, um, I think, ifthere's something, something
between something, has a couplethat's but going on said that,
can that, can, um, that can becovering up something that you
(20:09):
know an important thing thatneeds to be discussed.
Let's say so.
What's that now?
Speaker 2 (20:14):
Well like.
Speaker 1 (20:15):
Like if um, ed is, if there's constantly a
dysfunction and and she's, youknow, she's eager and willing,
then this something meanssomething is bothering you.
I think, yeah, something wrongwith something.
Yeah, I can't even be specificbecause I'm not in a
relationship right now, but butyou're?
Speaker 2 (20:33):
you're saying, if the ED stays in the dark, yeah, if
the couples aren't discussing itin a nice caring, um, thank you
kind of way, yeah, they'reprobably not gonna get rid of it
, right?
Speaker 1 (20:43):
She's gonna think it's her fault that you don't
like her, or you know I don'tlove her anymore, whatever it is
, and and you're gonna thinkthat she's thinking you're not a
man and it's gonna be, it'sgonna be a feedback loop, that's
just you got to talk about ithundred percent right there is
huge, and she's and chances areshe's gonna be eager to help you
.
She'll jump right in there anddo something special because she
(21:03):
wants you to Feel good.
Speaker 2 (21:05):
I think so yep, it was right person.
She's the woman for you.
Speaker 1 (21:09):
dog gone right yeah that's it's, it's, it's
cooperative, it's not, it's notcompetitive.
Speaker 2 (21:15):
Well, she'll wear her bikini now too, when she's
doing dishes and stuff.
I would think, if she can getit off me.
Speaker 1 (21:21):
I wanted to reiterate that because communication is
really important and, likesaying, greg, some guys are
maybe afraid to talk to a womanabout sex, and they shouldn't be
, because, at least in myexperience, you know, my
girlfriends have been reallyquite open to talking about it
because it's Something they'reinterested in.
They're interested in you andyour, your collective happiness,
(21:42):
and so, yeah, communication.
Speaker 3 (21:47):
Yeah, I agree.
What do you say, greg?
I do too.
And also to that communicationgets stronger when you do
activities With your lover.
What I mean by activities?
When's the only time a lot ofpeople see each other at home?
Go out and do things, go outand go to the beach?
Um, take those little quick twoor three day weekend John's.
(22:09):
Hang out together, experiencethings together Outside the
house, and I believe that'swhere communication Increases
tenfold.
Oh, absolutely.
Speaker 2 (22:22):
Absolutely and the right kind of communication
exactly.
Speaker 1 (22:25):
Yes, don't get that, they'd be mechanical.
Speaker 2 (22:27):
Yeah, the right kind of communication where it's
light and funny, where you canlaugh and Giggle and you could
be a man and she can be.
She can be a woman, she couldbe your lady.
That's right, I mean.
What more can you ask?
I know right.
I mean I'm gonna end up theshow saying thanks a lot, you
for you guys.
It's incredible input tonight.
I mean I'll thank myself too,thank you Absolutely.
Speaker 1 (22:48):
Thank you.
You did great Good.
Thank you, yes, you know.
Speaker 2 (22:51):
But something to end it on, I would say, like I say
save please, guys.
Save Sex for special occasionsand who you're with.
You know of course you're gonnabe with your wife, your fiancee
, we you know.
But don't practice during theweek without her too much.
You don't need it, save it.
Speaker 1 (23:10):
Oh, your erectiles will be functional.
Speaker 2 (23:11):
Yeah, they're gonna be there.
You don't have to grab themevery day and look and see if
they're there and exercise,exercise and eat right, and I
think you're gonna go a long wayby doing that.
And if you and include her inyour conversation, that wraps up
the show.
Well, let's thanks a lot.
(23:32):
Thank you, listener.
Really appreciate you.
We most definitely do, andthat's it for the solution.
We'll see you next time.
Speaker 1 (23:42):
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