Have you ever felt like you’re living for everyone but yourself? Saying yes when you want to say no? Shrinking yourself to avoid judgment? If so, you’re not alone. The ‘good girl’ mentality is deeply ingrained in many of us, keeping us stuck in perfectionism, people-pleasing, and playing small.
In today’s solo episode, I’m breaking down 7 toxic ‘good girl’ beliefs that hold women back and showing you how to release them through shadow work, mindset shifts, and self-empowerment.
We’ll explore:
Why perfectionism is actually a form of self-sabotage
How people-pleasing stems from fear of rejection
The real reason setting boundaries feels so hard
Why you’ve been conditioned to stay small—and how to break free
A journal prompt for each belief to start shifting today
If you’re ready to step into your power, own your voice, and start living for YOU, this episode is a must-listen!
Resources Mentioned:
Grab the FREE Awakened Shadow Work Guide → https://fantastic-pond-49721.myflodesk.com/k18x86sd3c
Join the FREE Awakened Masterclass on Feb 11th → https://fantastic-pond-49721.myflodesk.com/tk2am9eva3
DM me your biggest takeaway on Instagram! → https://www.instagram.com/elyseberendson/
Timestamps:
00:00 - Welcome & why this topic is so important
05:30 - The ‘good girl’ belief of perfectionism
12:15 - Why people-pleasing keeps you stuck
18:45 - Setting boundaries without guilt
25:10 - Finding your voice & speaking your truth
30:45 - Letting go of society’s unrealistic expectations
37:20 - Healing shame & guilt
44:00 - Why you’re playing small (and how to stop)
50:30 - Final thoughts & next steps
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