What if your child's sensitivity isn't a weakness, but their greatest strength?
As a speech therapist and parent of neurodiverse children, I've learned to navigate this delicate balance: acknowledging challenges while celebrating the extraordinary gifts that come with neurodiversity. While much attention focuses on moderate autism or nonverbal children, those who are highly sensitive, gifted, or have ADHD also arrive with remarkable abilities that deserve recognition.
These children process information deeply, notice what others miss, and often possess an innate spiritual awareness that manifests in profound questions like my seven-year-old asking, "Do dogs think about the future or live in the now?" Their minds move faster than their bodies can keep pace, absorbing knowledge rapidly and making connections that surprise even the adults around them. But this powerful cognitive processing can easily lead to anxiety or disconnection from their physical experience without proper support.
Recently, our family put our mindfulness practices to the ultimate test during our first backpacking adventure. Rather than sheltering our highly sensitive children from the unpredictability of the wilderness (complete with bear warnings and thunderstorms!), we equipped them with visualization techniques, grounding exercises, and present-moment awareness. We created "golden bubbles" of protection, established routines even in our tiny tent, and demonstrated how to address challenges one moment at a time. The reward? A magical 2AM awakening to witness a star-filled sky that reminded us of our place in this vast universe—a moment of connection we would have missed had we stayed in our comfort zone.
These vibrant, sensitive children are arriving with increasingly powerful gifts with each generation. Our role isn't to dim their light but to help them stay grounded and connected to their bodies while their brilliant minds explore. By teaching mindfulness tools and celebrating their unique perspectives, we help them maintain their spiritual connection into adulthood—perhaps the greatest superpower of all.
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Carrie Lingenfelter (00:00):
In my house , we have chosen to look at the
strengths, thehypersensitivities and the
ability to learn things soquickly that your brain jumps
from one thing to another.
We look at these sensitivitiesas superpowers.
Yes, maybe I am turning a blindeye to the challenges, but also
I'm a speech therapist.
(00:20):
I was born to look at thechallenges, so I cannot turn a
blind eye to them.
They're still there.
My brain is still dissecting.
How do I help my kid become abetter version of themselves?
How do I help my kid to be ahappy adult one day?
Yes, our brains are turned ontothose pieces, no matter if we
are living a mindful, positivelife.
We're not shutting it off.
(00:41):
So when I talk about thesepositive pieces that we're
turning to and looking at theseas strengths and tools and as
these amazing superpowers,that's because we are looking to
empower my kids.
Hi, conscious Parents, it'sKeri here and I am here with a
little info about raising ourmindful kids.
I've got some tips and tricksabout breaking free of the box
(01:03):
and becoming who you are andteaching your kids how to do
that.
Along the way, join us.
I feel like I have been hearinga lot in a lot of places on
Facebook and Instagram andYouTube a lot about kids who are
neurodiverse, specificallyautism in the more moderate
level of autism, includingnonverbal children, and how
(01:24):
these kids are being born withamazing gifts.
But as a parent that's raisingkids who are under the
neurodiverse umbrella and haveother pieces, such as gifted and
talented or even highlysensitive kids, I wanted to
bring into our awareness thisidea of these kids also coming
in with gifts.
So a lot of people have beenfocusing on kids with the
(01:48):
moderate severities or thenonverbal pieces, but I myself
was a highly sensitive child andgrew up in a spiritual family
where we were focusing on ourgifts, learning about mindsets,
learning about mindful tools,and I had all of these amazing
guru books that my grandmother,my abuelita, was putting on my
(02:12):
nightstand as a 20-year-old.
But when you're 20, you don'thave time for any of that.
Anyway, looking back to what wewere talking about, I was
raised in that type of mentalityand that mindset and I was born
and these gifts were nurturedand looked at in our family as
these amazing pieces of us, butI didn't necessarily have labels
.
Looking back, I was in the G&Tside, definitely with the highly
(02:35):
sensitive side.
I want us to acknowledge thesechallenges that our kids are
born with?
Heck, yes, it can be a parent.
It can be hard to be a parentraising a highly sensitive kid,
raising a kid who maybe has ADHDand jumps from one activity to
the next faster than other kids,or maybe is highly sensitive
(02:56):
and highly scattered in theirorganization skills.
These can be pieces that can beso hard.
As a parent, and can feel likeyou're pulling your hair out day
to day looking for thatfavorite water bottle because
the back of water bottles don'twork.
All of these things can be hardand challenging.
In my house, we have chosen tolook at the strengths, the
(03:16):
hypersensitivities and theability to learn things so
quickly that your brain jumpsfrom one thing to another.
We look at these sensitivitiesas superpowers.
Yes, maybe I am turning a blindeye to the challenges, but also
I'm a speech therapist.
I was born to look at thechallenges, so I cannot turn a
(03:37):
blind eye to them.
They're still there.
My brain is still dissecting.
How do I help my kid become abetter version of themselves?
How do I help my kid to be ahappy adult one day?
Yes, our brains are turned on tothose pieces, no matter if we
are living a mindful, positivelife.
We're not shutting it off.
So when I talk about thesepositive pieces that we're
turning to and looking at theseas strengths and tools and as
(04:01):
these amazing superpowers,that's because we are looking to
empower my kids.
So I have been connecting andas these amazing superpowers,
that's because we are looking toempower my kids.
So I have been connecting andhearing these messages since my
kids were tiny babies and partof it was my brain would get so
loud because I am a highlysensitive person and it can turn
to our brain and our ego andour mindset and it's hard to
(04:21):
hear our hearts that my messagesstarted to get louder and
louder, and louder, and thosemessages can be actions from my
children.
The way my husband or partnerresponds to my kids, the way my
parents respond to my kids Canit bubble up things from my
childhood Heck?
Yes, because parenting is oftenour biggest journey of things
(04:42):
that we did not overcome orpieces of us that did not heal
or we didn't grow in or learnpreviously, when we were younger
children that are now coming up.
So I want to give an example ofhow we're honoring these
challenges and how what it lookslike.
So this is a two or three yearjourney of what I have been
(05:06):
doing with my kids.
So, yes, I've been doing it.
My kiddo, my oldest kiddo justturned 10 a little while ago and
we have been doing it for ahuge piece of their lives.
It was shortly after my kiddo myfirst kiddo, who's 10 now was
born that I started to realizethat my brain would turn on and
I would get cycle into thesescary things.
(05:26):
Read what Not to Expect whenExpecting Like hello.
Talk about turning your braininto the scary side of things.
Right, and so, luckily, I hadall these spiritually connected
people like my mom and mygrandma and friends around me
that said tune into your heart.
Put away the baby books, lookto your child.
They're going to show you whatthey need.
And it wasn't all happy walkingthrough fields of roses and
(05:49):
flowers as a parent.
After that, it's continuallycoming back to the root of what
I have created in myself,connecting to myself.
Coming back to that Because dayin and day out, it can be
challenging.
For example, 10 years later,speed forward and we've been
(06:10):
practicing spirituality andmindfulness heavy duty in our
house for about three years now.
Even so, things still bubble upin me as a parent, because I'm
a highly sensitive person andI'm an empath and I'm open to
all the energy around us.
My kids are starting to bubbleup these energies and emotions
because the school year iscoming up.
We have one more week where Ilive in Colorado, one more week
until school starts and my kidsare starting to bubble up these
(06:31):
highly sensitive people like, oh, school's coming, I'm not ready
for it.
I want to stay outside.
I want to play, I want to beconnected with mom.
I love this environment.
Right, I want to stay in myhouse, sheltered and connected.
Right, I want to stay in myhouse, sheltered and connected.
It's the easiest right I can be.
I can be myself.
I don't have to worry aboutother people's energies.
I don't have to worry aboutwhere I can't control my
(06:51):
environment.
Yes, yes, I know these thingsare bubbling up in our house.
And still, my husband and Idecided we were going to go
backpack camping and we hadnever done it in our lives.
I had never done it.
He had done it, my husband.
Luckily, he was an Eagle Scout,so he's done a lot of it and he
was our rock right.
This is a highly sensitive mamagoing into the woods with two
(07:11):
highly sensitive kids and highlysensitive husband.
He's the only one that knowswhat to do.
He's the only one that knowshow to use a jet boil to make a
meal.
Like I don't know.
There's a package it'sfreeze-dried food.
Like what am I going?
So I had to release control,which is really hard for a
highly sensitive person.
My kids were going to have torelease control.
(07:35):
They were following us, theywere living by us.
When our kids kids like thismaybe want to control their
environment, they want to be incontrol, they want to fight you
telling them what to do.
Right, and when you're in anoutdoor environment like this,
it can be life or death Ifthey're getting too close to the
water and you're like, let'sback up, let's back up.
Like these things are serious,right, when you're out and about
(07:57):
and you've got animals.
And where we were going, therewere like signs, 20 signs and
also 20 rangers we met while wewere hiking with our giant
backpacks, like did you knowthere's a bear?
We've been having a bearproblem this year and it's right
where you're camping, right,where you're camping, there's a
bear problem.
But do you have your bear box?
Did you put your food in yourbear box.
Are you going to eat?
50 steps away?
(08:17):
Okay Right, talk about fear.
It's bubbling it up even as Italk about it.
So we were going into thismoment and we were building up
and my husband was getting thegear ready and the pack was
going to weigh 30 pounds but Ihave back problems, so my
husband was taking all theweight I don't even know what
his pack weighed like 70 pounds.
My son, the 10 year old, he wastaking his pack and you know
(08:41):
he's a kid so we can only givehim a certain amount.
And then the tiny seven yearold she was carrying a pack more
for fun.
She had all the snacks, but ina little water.
As this was all building up, Iwent to a healing with my
girlfriend who does Qigong and Iwas sitting there with her and
she has an older version of kids, which is amazing because I can
see my future, an older versionof kids that are so similar in
(09:03):
some ways to my son.
It was so wonderful to connectwith her and say am I going to
survive?
What do I do to stay grounded?
Help me, because I'm getting inmy head, things are getting a
little nerve wracking and shesaid, we're going to create a
bubble of gold.
Thank you, anne, for your helpin this.
By the way, we're going tocreate this bubble of gold
(09:25):
protection.
We're going to picture thatprotection and we're going to
say everything's going gonnastay out of it ticks, mosquitoes
, giant thunderstorms withlightning, bears, cougars, you
name it we'll put it outside ofthe bubble.
It's not?
Oh, moose, let's not forgetmoose.
We're gonna put that outside ofthe bubble and you are going to
(09:47):
live in the moment.
So.
So I'm thinking this in my mindbubble, we're going to put the
bubble up.
I'm telling my kids bubble,we're going to put the bubble up
.
So we get there and we'redriving around trying to find a
parking spot and I'm telling mykids oh, let's use our positive
mindful tools.
Right, we're going to picturethe spot.
We're going to find the.
Oh, we found the parking spot.
Right, it works.
Guys, okay, now all of us aregoing to white and gold light of
(10:11):
protection.
We're going to picture rootsgrowing deep into the earth.
We're doing all of our energywork so that we can feel
connected.
Then I tell them aboutpicturing the gold and bubble of
protection.
Right, all of these things aretools of mindfulness and tools
of meditation that we arepicturing so we can feel
(10:31):
empowered to go out into thewilderness by ourselves, with no
cell phone protection.
We were walking along, we werecarrying the shelter on our
backs.
We're making jokes.
When my daughter's like, howlong are we going to get there?
The seven-year-old, we're like,well, guys, don't worry, don't
worry, mom's got the dad's gotthe house on his back, mom's got
the kitchen on her back.
(10:51):
So we've got all the things weneed here and it's getting a
little heavy.
At least you don't have thekitchen.
Do you want to carry thekitchen for me, sissy?
No, I don't want to carry thekitchen.
Okay, cool, then let's keepgoing.
So we were working on showingthem how to live day to day.
In the moment we're notthinking about oh, I see those
(11:12):
clouds building up.
Yes, my husband and I Note theclouds.
We've got the rain gear out.
Note the clouds, let's dofunction first.
We're going to think of numberone first.
We're going to build theshelter first.
So we get the shelter up.
We're walking around, we runinto somebody that we know while
we're camping and we're likethank you, universe, for having
(11:33):
this back of family, literally15 feet away from us, that we
know how random, but I guess notthat random, because everybody
we know backpacks too as well.
So we are also looking forliving in the moment, day to day
, moment to moment.
We're not in the moment, day today, moment to moment.
(11:53):
We're not projecting theproblems.
We're not going to continue tofocus on the scary thing that
could happen.
We're not going to continue tofocus on not having our cell
phones.
We're not going to project whatcould be scary.
We're not going to live in ourmind and get bubbled up in that
emotion and that right, it justcontinues down the road.
It's like this giant avalancheof emotions that we don't need.
(12:15):
We're going to focus on stayingin our heart.
We're going to focus on yep,feel some raindrops.
Okay, we'll get the rain gearout.
Good thing we got the tent up.
Hey, my husband knew sensitivekids.
He brought this rain shelterfly that we put up between the
trees so we could have dinnerand not have to worry about the
rain.
We're focusing on that.
(12:35):
I'm telling my husband thankyou so much for helping to show
me how to make food with a jetboil.
Actually, you made it and I wasthe backup with helping with
the kids, but we are monitoringhow our kids are handling the
situation because, yes, we can'tcontrol this outdoors and we
are supporting their needs.
We're helping them to see ifthey are starting to decompress,
(12:58):
needing to decompress, ifthey're starting to get agitated
, unnerved, bothered by the wind, bothered by the lightning, as
we start to go to bed.
And we have done all of our.
We have done all of our guidedmeditations.
Even though we're in this tinytent in the middle of nowhere,
we are doing all of the thingsthat we normally do at home and
we are empowering our kids bybeing there.
(13:21):
We did not shelter them bystaying home.
We took them outside and we putall of our mindful tools in
place for ourselves to help usand to help them.
So I want us to think aboutthese kids that are coming in
today.
They are born with amazinggifts.
I myself, in the 80s, I wasborn with amazing gifts too.
(13:42):
But you know what?
The world was really heavy attimes.
The world can feel reallyintense.
Heavy at times, the world canfeel really intense.
When I was going to college, Iwas one out of 300 people trying
to get a spot for 22 for gradschool.
Do you think I focused on the350 people.
No, I focused on the 22 spotsand I focused on seeing what I
(14:05):
was going to achieve.
So our brains can easilyespecially when we're gifted and
talented ADHD, have autism, arehighly sensitive.
All of these different piecesthat fit into the neurodiverse
umbrella or the highly sensitivechild piece.
I'm separating those becauseright now they're separated, but
I don't know.
I feel like they're also alittle bit conjoined right.
(14:26):
So when we are watching thesekids develop, it's so easy for
these active minds that arefiring.
They're absorbing knowledgevery quickly.
They're wanting to understandthe world very quickly.
They're born spirituallyconnected, asking why does this
happen, mom?
What happens when I do this?
Where did we come from?
Mom?
Do dogs think about the future?
(14:47):
Do they live in the now?
My seven-year-old asked me thattoday.
So when they are bornspiritually connected and they
are so fast-paced, I can't evenkeep up with my daughter.
That's what I asked Qigong wasplease give me some energy to
keep up with this girl.
It is easy for them to becomeanxious.
It is easy for them to get intothat overactive mind that is
(15:07):
powerful and moves fast andmoves faster than the human body
can move.
It is easy for these littlepeople to want to disconnect
from their body.
The body is hard.
It's cold outside.
It got really freaking coldwhen we were camping.
You guys, I was freezing.
But here's what happened Ourson woke us up.
(15:28):
Another tangent about this.
Our son woke us up at 2 am andsaid guys, I have to go potty
and I have to go potty now.
I have to go to the restroomright now.
Get outside, guys, I can't gooutside.
I'm like okay, okay, we'regetting up, we're getting up.
There was no warning.
It wasn't.
Hey, mom, wake up in twominutes, I need to go to.
No, it was like now, right,these kids move fast.
Now we walk outside.
And, yes, I'm freezing, yes, Iwant to scream.
(15:50):
Yes, I'm upset that he woke meup.
And it's very wet outsidebecause it has been raining all
night.
Husband and I look up at thestars in the sky and we're like
whoa.
Thank you, buddy, for waking usup at 2 am so we could see this
.
Do you understand how tiny wefeel in this giant universe?
What a gift this is to see thisso connecting with our kids and
(16:14):
teaching them, these mindfulmoments.
That is what these neurodiverse, highly sensitive kids, with
any labels are needing, and it'snot just our moderate level
kids with autism, our nonverbalkids, it's all of our kids.
And guess what guys?
Majority of our kids aresomewhere on this spectrum.
They're somewhere in thishighly sensitive area.
(16:36):
Because these kids are comingin louder and more vibrant.
Any of you maybe have heard ofDolores Cannon.
She talked about indigochildren and how each generation
is getting louder and louderand getting more and more gifts
as they come.
They're more intense andthey're more vibrant.
So we will listen to them.
So let's help them so they canstay spiritual and consciously
(17:00):
connected into adulthood,because the world is a hard
place as a human and we don'twant them disconnecting from
themselves.
We want to keep them in theirbodies, keep them grounded.
So continue to connect with usand continue to come along this
journey with us as spiritualparents.
Signing off live sessioncomplete.
Well, that's a wrap.
(17:20):
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In my house , we have chosen to look at the
strengths, thehypersensitivities and the
ability to learn things soquickly that your brain jumps
from one thing to another.
We look at these sensitivitiesas superpowers.
Yes, maybe I am turning a blindeye to the challenges, but also
I'm a speech therapist.
(00:20):
I was born to look at thechallenges, so I cannot turn a
blind eye to them.
They're still there.
My brain is still dissecting.
How do I help my kid become abetter version of themselves?
How do I help my kid to be ahappy adult one day?
Yes, our brains are turned ontothose pieces, no matter if we
are living a mindful, positivelife.
We're not shutting it off.
(00:41):
So when I talk about thesepositive pieces that we're
turning to and looking at theseas strengths and tools and as
these amazing superpowers,that's because we are looking to
empower my kids.
Hi, conscious Parents, it'sKeri here and I am here with a
little info about raising ourmindful kids.
I've got some tips and tricksabout breaking free of the box
(01:03):
and becoming who you are andteaching your kids how to do
that.
Along the way, join us.
I feel like I have been hearinga lot in a lot of places on
Facebook and Instagram andYouTube a lot about kids who are
neurodiverse, specificallyautism in the more moderate
level of autism, includingnonverbal children, and how
(01:24):
these kids are being born withamazing gifts.
But as a parent that's raisingkids who are under the
neurodiverse umbrella and haveother pieces, such as gifted and
talented or even highlysensitive kids, I wanted to
bring into our awareness thisidea of these kids also coming
in with gifts.
So a lot of people have beenfocusing on kids with the
(01:48):
moderate severities or thenonverbal pieces, but I myself
was a highly sensitive child andgrew up in a spiritual family
where we were focusing on ourgifts, learning about mindsets,
learning about mindful tools,and I had all of these amazing
guru books that my grandmother,my abuelita, was putting on my
(02:12):
nightstand as a 20-year-old.
But when you're 20, you don'thave time for any of that.
Anyway, looking back to what wewere talking about, I was
raised in that type of mentalityand that mindset and I was born
and these gifts were nurturedand looked at in our family as
these amazing pieces of us, butI didn't necessarily have labels
.
Looking back, I was in the G&Tside, definitely with the highly
(02:35):
sensitive side.
I want us to acknowledge thesechallenges that our kids are
born with?
Heck, yes, it can be a parent.
It can be hard to be a parentraising a highly sensitive kid,
raising a kid who maybe has ADHDand jumps from one activity to
the next faster than other kids,or maybe is highly sensitive
(02:56):
and highly scattered in theirorganization skills.
These can be pieces that can beso hard.
As a parent, and can feel likeyou're pulling your hair out day
to day looking for thatfavorite water bottle because
the back of water bottles don'twork.
All of these things can be hardand challenging.
In my house, we have chosen tolook at the strengths, the
(03:16):
hypersensitivities and theability to learn things so
quickly that your brain jumpsfrom one thing to another.
We look at these sensitivitiesas superpowers.
Yes, maybe I am turning a blindeye to the challenges, but also
I'm a speech therapist.
I was born to look at thechallenges, so I cannot turn a
(03:37):
blind eye to them.
They're still there.
My brain is still dissecting.
How do I help my kid become abetter version of themselves?
How do I help my kid to be ahappy adult one day?
Yes, our brains are turned on tothose pieces, no matter if we
are living a mindful, positivelife.
We're not shutting it off.
So when I talk about thesepositive pieces that we're
turning to and looking at theseas strengths and tools and as
(04:01):
these amazing superpowers,that's because we are looking to
empower my kids.
So I have been connecting andas these amazing superpowers,
that's because we are looking toempower my kids.
So I have been connecting andhearing these messages since my
kids were tiny babies and partof it was my brain would get so
loud because I am a highlysensitive person and it can turn
to our brain and our ego andour mindset and it's hard to
(04:21):
hear our hearts that my messagesstarted to get louder and
louder, and louder, and thosemessages can be actions from my
children.
The way my husband or partnerresponds to my kids, the way my
parents respond to my kids Canit bubble up things from my
childhood Heck?
Yes, because parenting is oftenour biggest journey of things
(04:42):
that we did not overcome orpieces of us that did not heal
or we didn't grow in or learnpreviously, when we were younger
children that are now coming up.
So I want to give an example ofhow we're honoring these
challenges and how what it lookslike.
So this is a two or three yearjourney of what I have been
(05:06):
doing with my kids.
So, yes, I've been doing it.
My kiddo, my oldest kiddo justturned 10 a little while ago and
we have been doing it for ahuge piece of their lives.
It was shortly after my kiddo myfirst kiddo, who's 10 now was
born that I started to realizethat my brain would turn on and
I would get cycle into thesescary things.
(05:26):
Read what Not to Expect whenExpecting Like hello.
Talk about turning your braininto the scary side of things.
Right, and so, luckily, I hadall these spiritually connected
people like my mom and mygrandma and friends around me
that said tune into your heart.
Put away the baby books, lookto your child.
They're going to show you whatthey need.
And it wasn't all happy walkingthrough fields of roses and
(05:49):
flowers as a parent.
After that, it's continuallycoming back to the root of what
I have created in myself,connecting to myself.
Coming back to that Because dayin and day out, it can be
challenging.
For example, 10 years later,speed forward and we've been
(06:10):
practicing spirituality andmindfulness heavy duty in our
house for about three years now.
Even so, things still bubble upin me as a parent, because I'm
a highly sensitive person andI'm an empath and I'm open to
all the energy around us.
My kids are starting to bubbleup these energies and emotions
because the school year iscoming up.
We have one more week where Ilive in Colorado, one more week
until school starts and my kidsare starting to bubble up these
(06:31):
highly sensitive people like, oh, school's coming, I'm not ready
for it.
I want to stay outside.
I want to play, I want to beconnected with mom.
I love this environment.
Right, I want to stay in myhouse, sheltered and connected.
Right, I want to stay in myhouse, sheltered and connected.
It's the easiest right I can be.
I can be myself.
I don't have to worry aboutother people's energies.
I don't have to worry aboutwhere I can't control my
(06:51):
environment.
Yes, yes, I know these thingsare bubbling up in our house.
And still, my husband and Idecided we were going to go
backpack camping and we hadnever done it in our lives.
I had never done it.
He had done it, my husband.
Luckily, he was an Eagle Scout,so he's done a lot of it and he
was our rock right.
This is a highly sensitive mamagoing into the woods with two
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highly sensitive kids and highlysensitive husband.
He's the only one that knowswhat to do.
He's the only one that knowshow to use a jet boil to make a
meal.
Like I don't know.
There's a package it'sfreeze-dried food.
Like what am I going?
So I had to release control,which is really hard for a
highly sensitive person.
My kids were going to have torelease control.
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They were following us, theywere living by us.
When our kids kids like thismaybe want to control their
environment, they want to be incontrol, they want to fight you
telling them what to do.
Right, and when you're in anoutdoor environment like this,
it can be life or death Ifthey're getting too close to the
water and you're like, let'sback up, let's back up.
Like these things are serious,right, when you're out and about
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and you've got animals.
And where we were going, therewere like signs, 20 signs and
also 20 rangers we met while wewere hiking with our giant
backpacks, like did you knowthere's a bear?
We've been having a bearproblem this year and it's right
where you're camping, right,where you're camping, there's a
bear problem.
But do you have your bear box?
Did you put your food in yourbear box.
Are you going to eat?
50 steps away?
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Okay Right, talk about fear.
It's bubbling it up even as Italk about it.
So we were going into thismoment and we were building up
and my husband was getting thegear ready and the pack was
going to weigh 30 pounds but Ihave back problems, so my
husband was taking all theweight I don't even know what
his pack weighed like 70 pounds.
My son, the 10 year old, he wastaking his pack and you know
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he's a kid so we can only givehim a certain amount.
And then the tiny seven yearold she was carrying a pack more
for fun.
She had all the snacks, but ina little water.
As this was all building up, Iwent to a healing with my
girlfriend who does Qigong and Iwas sitting there with her and
she has an older version of kids, which is amazing because I can
see my future, an older versionof kids that are so similar in
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some ways to my son.
It was so wonderful to connectwith her and say am I going to
survive?
What do I do to stay grounded?
Help me, because I'm getting inmy head, things are getting a
little nerve wracking and shesaid, we're going to create a
bubble of gold.
Thank you, anne, for your helpin this.
By the way, we're going tocreate this bubble of gold
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protection.
We're going to picture thatprotection and we're going to
say everything's going gonnastay out of it ticks, mosquitoes
, giant thunderstorms withlightning, bears, cougars, you
name it we'll put it outside ofthe bubble.
It's not?
Oh, moose, let's not forgetmoose.
We're gonna put that outside ofthe bubble and you are going to
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live in the moment.
So.
So I'm thinking this in my mindbubble, we're going to put the
bubble up.
I'm telling my kids bubble,we're going to put the bubble up
.
So we get there and we'redriving around trying to find a
parking spot and I'm telling mykids oh, let's use our positive
mindful tools.
Right, we're going to picturethe spot.
We're going to find the.
Oh, we found the parking spot.
Right, it works.
Guys, okay, now all of us aregoing to white and gold light of
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protection.
We're going to picture rootsgrowing deep into the earth.
We're doing all of our energywork so that we can feel
connected.
Then I tell them aboutpicturing the gold and bubble of
protection.
Right, all of these things aretools of mindfulness and tools
of meditation that we arepicturing so we can feel
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empowered to go out into thewilderness by ourselves, with no
cell phone protection.
We were walking along, we werecarrying the shelter on our
backs.
We're making jokes.
When my daughter's like, howlong are we going to get there?
The seven-year-old, we're like,well, guys, don't worry, don't
worry, mom's got the dad's gotthe house on his back, mom's got
the kitchen on her back.
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So we've got all the things weneed here and it's getting a
little heavy.
At least you don't have thekitchen.
Do you want to carry thekitchen for me, sissy?
No, I don't want to carry thekitchen.
Okay, cool, then let's keepgoing.
So we were working on showingthem how to live day to day.
In the moment we're notthinking about oh, I see those
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clouds building up.
Yes, my husband and I Note theclouds.
We've got the rain gear out.
Note the clouds, let's dofunction first.
We're going to think of numberone first.
We're going to build theshelter first.
So we get the shelter up.
We're walking around, we runinto somebody that we know while
we're camping and we're likethank you, universe, for having
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this back of family, literally15 feet away from us, that we
know how random, but I guess notthat random, because everybody
we know backpacks too as well.
So we are also looking forliving in the moment, day to day
, moment to moment.
We're not in the moment, day today, moment to moment.
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We're not projecting theproblems.
We're not going to continue tofocus on the scary thing that
could happen.
We're not going to continue tofocus on not having our cell
phones.
We're not going to project whatcould be scary.
We're not going to live in ourmind and get bubbled up in that
emotion and that right, it justcontinues down the road.
It's like this giant avalancheof emotions that we don't need.
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We're going to focus on stayingin our heart.
We're going to focus on yep,feel some raindrops.
Okay, we'll get the rain gearout.
Good thing we got the tent up.
Hey, my husband knew sensitivekids.
He brought this rain shelterfly that we put up between the
trees so we could have dinnerand not have to worry about the
rain.
We're focusing on that.
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I'm telling my husband thankyou so much for helping to show
me how to make food with a jetboil.
Actually, you made it and I wasthe backup with helping with
the kids, but we are monitoringhow our kids are handling the
situation because, yes, we can'tcontrol this outdoors and we
are supporting their needs.
We're helping them to see ifthey are starting to decompress,
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needing to decompress, ifthey're starting to get agitated
, unnerved, bothered by the wind, bothered by the lightning, as
we start to go to bed.
And we have done all of our.
We have done all of our guidedmeditations.
Even though we're in this tinytent in the middle of nowhere,
we are doing all of the thingsthat we normally do at home and
we are empowering our kids bybeing there.
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We did not shelter them bystaying home.
We took them outside and we putall of our mindful tools in
place for ourselves to help usand to help them.
So I want us to think aboutthese kids that are coming in
today.
They are born with amazinggifts.
I myself, in the 80s, I wasborn with amazing gifts too.
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But you know what?
The world was really heavy attimes.
The world can feel reallyintense.
Heavy at times, the world canfeel really intense.
When I was going to college, Iwas one out of 300 people trying
to get a spot for 22 for gradschool.
Do you think I focused on the350 people.
No, I focused on the 22 spotsand I focused on seeing what I
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was going to achieve.
So our brains can easilyespecially when we're gifted and
talented ADHD, have autism, arehighly sensitive.
All of these different piecesthat fit into the neurodiverse
umbrella or the highly sensitivechild piece.
I'm separating those becauseright now they're separated, but
I don't know.
I feel like they're also alittle bit conjoined right.
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So when we are watching thesekids develop, it's so easy for
these active minds that arefiring.
They're absorbing knowledgevery quickly.
They're wanting to understandthe world very quickly.
They're born spirituallyconnected, asking why does this
happen, mom?
What happens when I do this?
Where did we come from?
Mom?
Do dogs think about the future?
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Do they live in the now?
My seven-year-old asked me thattoday.
So when they are bornspiritually connected and they
are so fast-paced, I can't evenkeep up with my daughter.
That's what I asked Qigong wasplease give me some energy to
keep up with this girl.
It is easy for them to becomeanxious.
It is easy for them to get intothat overactive mind that is
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powerful and moves fast andmoves faster than the human body
can move.
It is easy for these littlepeople to want to disconnect
from their body.
The body is hard.
It's cold outside.
It got really freaking coldwhen we were camping.
You guys, I was freezing.
But here's what happened Ourson woke us up.
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Another tangent about this.
Our son woke us up at 2 am andsaid guys, I have to go potty
and I have to go potty now.
I have to go to the restroomright now.
Get outside, guys, I can't gooutside.
I'm like okay, okay, we'regetting up, we're getting up.
There was no warning.
It wasn't.
Hey, mom, wake up in twominutes, I need to go to.
No, it was like now, right,these kids move fast.
Now we walk outside.
And, yes, I'm freezing, yes, Iwant to scream.
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Yes, I'm upset that he woke meup.
And it's very wet outsidebecause it has been raining all
night.
Husband and I look up at thestars in the sky and we're like
whoa.
Thank you, buddy, for waking usup at 2 am so we could see this
.
Do you understand how tiny wefeel in this giant universe?
What a gift this is to see thisso connecting with our kids and
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teaching them, these mindfulmoments.
That is what these neurodiverse, highly sensitive kids, with
any labels are needing, and it'snot just our moderate level
kids with autism, our nonverbalkids, it's all of our kids.
And guess what guys?
Majority of our kids aresomewhere on this spectrum.
They're somewhere in thishighly sensitive area.
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Because these kids are comingin louder and more vibrant.
Any of you maybe have heard ofDolores Cannon.
She talked about indigochildren and how each generation
is getting louder and louderand getting more and more gifts
as they come.
They're more intense andthey're more vibrant.
So we will listen to them.
So let's help them so they canstay spiritual and consciously
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connected into adulthood,because the world is a hard
place as a human and we don'twant them disconnecting from
themselves.
We want to keep them in theirbodies, keep them grounded.
So continue to connect with usand continue to come along this
journey with us as spiritualparents.
Signing off live sessioncomplete.
Well, that's a wrap.
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