Ep. 4 How Childhood Trauma Shows Up In Adult Relationships

This podcast episode delves into how trauma presents in adult relationships, as discussed in the last podcast, we focus on attachment theory and what that means for peoplein real life. Like – what are the origins of attachment styles, what is the impact of insecure attachments, and we explore some of the dynamics between anxious and avoidant attachment styles.

These issues – and we will discuss what they look like – can be the consequence of emotional neglect – and then anything ranging from little t trauma to capital T trauma (they’re all hard!), this stuff is is important to navigate so we can be emotionally available in all of our relationships.

Chapters

00:00 Understanding Trauma in Adult Relationships

03:08 Attachment Theory: The Foundation of Relationships

05:59 The Impact of Insecure Attachment Styles

08:55 Cultural Context and Generational Trauma

11:47 Exploring Avoidant Attachment Styles

15:07 The Dynamics of Anxious and Avoidant Attachments

18:03 Emotional Neglect and Its Consequences

21:06 Navigating Relationships with Different Attachment Styles

23:51 The Role of Emotional Availability in Relationships

26:49 Understanding the Roots of Avoidant Behavior

33:59 Understanding Emotional Needs in Childhood

39:09 The Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships

46:07 Navigating Attachment Styles: From Insecure to Secure

53:12 The Role of Co-Regulation in Healing

01:00:28 Healing Through Self-Reflection and Compassion

RESOURCES & REFERENCES

The body keeps the score, Bessel van der Kolk

Running On Empty, Jonice Webb Phd

Attachmentproject.com for resource #1, used in the visuals: “Attachment styles in relationships.”

Unmet childhood needs picture: https://bit.ly/aceslinkFFYL

A worthy attachment quiz (I will spend time to find a good one, stay tuned)

5 meditations download: https://bit.ly/5_meditations_to_calm

The meditations Garry and I made to support you to connect you with your higher self are linked below and are called “SuperPowered Evolution Fight for your life: mind and soul tools to help you navigate a tricky life” – on all major podcast platforms.

Spotify: https://spoti.fi/3G71C8K

Apple: https://apple.co/3R2VNvq

I can’t figure out the iHeart Radio one…

Tools to communicate effectively for the types shared late in the podcast by “the rock-it scientist": attachment theory post and slides (they are a MUST save!) https://bit.ly/rockit_attachment_FFYL

 

Keywords

trauma, adult relationships, attachment theory, insecureattachment, emotional neglect, generational trauma, avoidant attachment, anxious attachment, relationship dynamics, emotional availability, emotional needs, attachment styles, relationships, healing, self-regulation, co-regulation, childhood trauma

 

DISCLAIMER: THIS INFORMATION IS FOR EDUCATIONAL PURPOSES AND IS NOT INTENDED TO REPLACE CLINICAL CARE OR THERAPY. PLEASE CONSULT A HEALTHCARE PROVIDER FOR SPECIFIC PERSONALISED SUPPORT. THIS VIDEO DISCUSSES TRAUMA IN GENERAL & TOPICS THAT COME UP MAY BE TRIGGERING, SO PLEASE DON’T LISTEN TO THIS AROUND CHILDREN AND GET THE SUPPORT YOU NEED VIA LOCAL HELPLINES.

 

 

 

00:00 Understanding Trauma in AdultRelationships13:41 Attachment Theory: The Foundation ofRelationships16:30 The Impact of Insecure AttachmentStyles19:01 Cultural Context and GenerationalTrauma21:39 Exploring Avoidant Attachment Styles24:32 The Dynamics of Anxious and AvoidantAttachments27:02 Emotional Neglec