The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & Law

The Three Wisemen of Divorce: Money, Psych & Law

Sit down with “The California Divorce Experts”: Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Divorce Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney for a frank and casual conversation about divorce, separation, co-parenting and the difficult decisions real people like you face during these tough times.We know that if you are considering divorce or separation, it can be scary and overwhelming. With combined experience of over 70 years in divorce and conflict management, we are here for you and look forward to helping by sharing our unique ideas, thoughts and perspectives on divorce, separation, and co-parenting. This podcast is for informational purposes only. Every family law case is unique, so no legal, financial or mental health advice is intended during this podcast. If you need help with your specific situation, feel free to schedule a time to speak with one of us for a personal consultation.*Certified Specialist – Family LawThe State Bar of California Board of Legal Specialization.

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October 20, 2021 42 min

We've seen it time and again in divorce cases.  When adultery happens, sometimes the adulterer has no clue what kind of pain they are causing.  It's almost like folks have blinders.  While most states have "no-fault" divorce, the pain of an affair can adversely affect agreement readiness during divorce negations whether courts recognizes fault or not.  In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Finan...

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Sometimes during a divorce mediation someone makes a proposal that is so off-base it is insulting.  The temptation is to get angry, yell or even storm out of the room.  But maybe there is a better approach.  In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss what happens ...

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September 7, 2021 29 min

The Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss the strange COVID influenced real estate market and how it impacts the decisions people in their divorce.  Wisemen, financial divorce advisor Mark Hill, CFP, CDFA, psychologist Scott Weiner, J.D., Ph.D. and attorney Shawn Weber, CLS-F chat with realtor and Weber Dispute Resolution mediator Robert Flynn, J.D., SRES.  For more information about Robert Flynn's real estate business, visit https:...

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So, you survived the process of divorcing your ex.  Now you want to remarry.  How do you avoid repeating same mistakes you made the first time around?   In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss how to start the next relationship on the right foot. 

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May 4, 2021 34 min

Financial Disclosures are necessary in every divorce.  While the process can be tedious, divorcing parties need to do the financial disclosures truthfully and thoroughly.  We know that money can mean a lot of different things to different people.    In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator a...

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It's very easy to get stuck in a certain way of approaching things, especially during the challenges of a divorce negotiation.  In this episode, Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss how creative thinking by "thinking outside the box" can lead to better and happie...

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Originally recorded on March 8, 2023, the Three Wisemen sit down with Massachusetts Attorney and Mediator Beth Aarons, JD, MSW to discuss the multi-dimensional aspects of the marital home and how it hits the emotional, legal and financial aspects of a divorce.  

The Three Wisemen of Divorce are Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F Family Law...

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April 13, 2021 43 min

Need to get a prenup?  What about a postnuptial agreement after your already married?   Divorce experts Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss why formal marital agreements can be good and why pillow talk agreements don't count.  

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Most jurisdictions in the United States embrace the concept of  so-called "no-fault divorce".  It makes sense for the Court.  No Judge wants to involve themselves in deciding who is a fault when a marriage fails.  It's a recipe for a soap opera reality TV proceeding.  So the divorce for "irreconcilable differences" often makes the most sense.  But some folks can't walk away from the idea of blaming someone f...

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Sometimes Valentine's Day, a day supposedly to express love, can be the very catalyst that leads to the final decision to divorce.  Sometimes these annual celebrations become triggering to people.  The Three Wisemen of Divorce discuss the post-Valentine's Day divorce surge and the relationship psychology that seem to attend such important days.  Is it the proverbial straw that broke the camel's back?  The final break in...

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It is rare that both spouses mutually agreed that a divorce should happen.  Usually, there is a "leavor" and a "leavee".  What do you do if you want a divorce and the other person doesn't want to "grant" the divorce?  This week, Divorce Wisemen   Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divor...

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December 31, 2020 40 min

It's that time of the year for New Year's Resolutions.  When folks are facing marital problems, they often include a divorce in their plans for the New Year.  In this time of rebooting, how can people approach these changes?   From a menu ranging from better co-parenting, setting boundaries and new financial choices, what other resolutions might the newly separated consider ?   Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Co...

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Divorce can wreak havoc on family holiday traditions.  But divorcing parents have the ability to make holidays less painful and a nice memory for their children.  While the experience may not be a Norman Rockwell postcard, it can be positive if co-parents take the right steps.   Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and ...

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November 26, 2020 31 min

Divorce is heartbreaking and emotionally tough.  During this Thanksgiving holiday, it may be difficult to think about being thankful during such a challenging time.  But we have learned that an attitude of gratitude in spite of the challenges can make a big difference.   Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, tackle this wisdom of finding a silver lin...

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Two topics this week.  First, what is the best approach to talking to your kids about the breakup?  We talk about how to get through that difficult conversation.  Next, and surprisingly related, we talk about how to juggle the holidays during and after the divorce.    Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Att...

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It's elections season.  We are in the middle of some of the most stressful times of a generation.  Between politics, pandemics, and general paranoia, there is a lot on people's minds.  What do folks do when divorce happens in these troubled times.   Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, disc...

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Like dog breeds, people have different personality types.  Some are more easy going than others.  Some struggle to get along with others.  The personality types in the marriage has a huge impact on how the divorce will go.  The Three Wisemen of Divorce, Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, welcome ...

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October 15, 2020 49 min

A divorce case with an honest-to-goodness narcissist, borderline, or antisocial personality disorder can be a recipe for a super nasty experience.  You can't interact with a High Conflict Personality (HCP) like you would with other folks.  In their minds, everything is somebody else's fault and they live for a fight.  They are blamers, hotheads, narcissists and antagonists. It requires a special skill to navigate cases with...

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October 10, 2020 37 min

Who's angry?  It seems that in divorce, anger is very prevalent.  But anger is a secondary emotion following hurt.  While anger is natural, it can get in the way of thinking clearly and making good decisions.    Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, discuss the effect rage can have on a divorce ...

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This week we have an enriching discussion with Collaborative Divorce icon Nancy J. Ross, LCSW.  Nancy pioneered the concept of the Collaborative Divorce Coach in California at the beginning of the Collaborative Divorce movement.  Mark C. Hill, CFP®, CDFA® Financial Divorce Consultant; Scott Weiner, Psychologist, Attorney and Mediator; and Shawn Weber, CLS-F* Family Law Mediator and Divorce Attorney, chat with Nancy about how a divo...

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