S1E2: Kiss the Wave- From Submission to Surrender

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Vulnerability and value can co-exist. In this episode Dr. Marcelline Girlie opens up about a chapter not chosen, but divinely navigated. More than a story of loss, this is a testimony of learning to "kiss the wave". Grief knocked, and she answered, not with strength, but with surrender. This episode is about the raw process of going from submission (the willingness to yield) to surrender (the courage to release). It’s about healing while still bleeding, helping others even while your own heart aches, and discovering that faith doesn’t eliminate the waves... it anchors you through them.

Whether you’ve experienced loss or simply feel lost, this episode is a tender reminder that God does not waste pain, and surrender is not weakness, it's strength.

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Episode Transcript

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You're tuned in to Vivid Life, the podcast with Dr.
Marcelline Girlie.
Hey there, welcome back to theVivid Life podcast with me, your
host on this vivid journey, Dr.

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Marcelline Girlie.
I hope that God has met youright where you are.
And I know he hasn't left youthere.
One thing about God, he hasthis mission to take you from
glory to glory.
If you accept the invitation.
On this journey, this healingjourney, that invitation is so

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beautiful and necessary.
If you're here, I feel like youaccepted his invitation.
And this is just a tool and aresource for your wholeness.
There is no savior here.
No, only a servant.
Myself and our future guestsare not the source, but mere

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resources.
And we are happy to lead youtowards healing in your vivid
life.
In today's episode, I want toclarify and give context to a
statement that I made in episodeone.
I...
I said that I too need healing.

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So I'm here to glean as well.
You may have wondered what Imeant and how can the hosts of
the podcast need the substanceof the podcast?
Well, here it is.
It's my story.

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It's still fresh.
It's still a place that stingsand aches.
But God's working on that.
I want to start with thisquote, though.
And the quote is by CharlesSpurgeon.
And it says, I have learned tokiss the wave that throws me

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against the rock of ages.
Whew.
Yeah.
Yeah.
This quote, I have learned tokiss the wave that throws me
against the rock of ages, is onethat I feel in the very depths

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of my soul in this season of mylife.
It's not just words.
It's a lived experience.
a reality I'm walking throughevery single day.
At the age of 38, I was livingwhat I would dream or deem as

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the dream life.
I was running my privatepractice, winning awards,
accolades, writing books.
Designing and producingproducts and resources to
support those I served.
Leading in ministry at my localchurch alongside my husband.

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We were enjoying our kids,opening up our home to foster
children, helping those whoneeded our love and attention.
Simply enjoying the life wedreamt of.

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It felt like God was smiling oneverything our hands touched.
I can honestly say, lookingback, I was cocky.
Feeling like I had the cornermarket on Jesus.

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Like...
Everything we prayed for seemedto be falling right in our
laps.
Life was simply beautiful untilone day it wasn't.

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My husband threw me a vowrenewal celebrating 10 years of
marriage.
having been together for 17years and have known each other
for 20 years.
It was honestly one of the mostbeautiful days of my life until

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it wasn't.
Two weeks after the vowrenewal, we adopted our precious
baby boy.
He vowed to raise a kingdomcitizen.
It was just the most beautifulday until it was not.

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What would have been a monthpost the vow renewal and 10 days
post adopting our son?
My husband graduated to heaven.
and entered his eternal rest asa result of a tragic car crash

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less than five miles from ourhome.
All was beautiful in life untilit wasn't.
So here I am.
With babies to raise, dreams tolive, People to serve.

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And I can't see the beauty inall of the ashes.
Until I made a decision to kissthe wave that threw me against

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the rock of ages.
Losing my husband.
Felt like being caught in anunrelenting storm.
The kind of storm that knocksthe breath out of you.
That disorients you.

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That makes you feel like you'redrowning.
Because grief isn't gentle.
It's not gentle.
It comes in waves.
Sometimes small, manageableones.
And other times...
tidal waves that crash over youwithout warning.

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For a while, I felt like I wasconstantly being thrown around
by the forces of my pain,struggling to find my footing,
gasping for air.
I wanted the waves to stop.
I wanted relief.

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I wanted my life back the wayit was before.
I wanted normal.
But normal was redefined forme.
But here I am.

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And here's what I'm learning.
The wave is not my enemy.
The very thing that I thoughtwould destroy me is actually
pushing me into the presence ofGod.
When Charles Spurgeon says, Ihave learned to kiss the wave,

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he's not saying that sufferingis easy or that we should
pretend to enjoy pain.
No, he's saying that we cancome to a place where we embrace
the hardship, not because welove the suffering, but because

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we trust where it's leading us.
And that wave, grief, loss,uncertainty, heartbreak has
forced me to lean on God in away I never have before.

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Before this, boy, I knew God asmy provider, my healer, my
guide.
But now, now I know him as mysustainer, my rescuer, my anchor

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in the storm.
And if this wave had never hitme, would I have come to know
him like this?
Would I have discovered thedepth of his nearness, his

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tenderness, his unwaveringpresence?
Maybe not.
Surrendering to the wavedoesn't mean I stop feeling the
pain.
It doesn't mean I don't cry.

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That I don't have moments ofdeep sorrow.
Or that I don't wrestle withthe why of it all.
Although...
I've stopped asking why.
I still wonder why.
It means that I've stoppedfighting against what God is

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using to shape me.
It means I've come to trustthat even in this, the hardest,
most painful thing I've everexperienced and faced, he's
working.
I have learned and I'm stilllearning to kiss the wave, to

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embrace the season, to stopresisting what God is doing in
it, and to let it push me closerand closer to him.
the rock of ages because he'sthe only thing that will never

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be shaken.
And if I have to go through thewaves to know him more deeply,
to trust him more fully, then Iwill lean into them.
I will not fight the storm.
I will let it carry me to theone who holds me through it all.

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There's a scripture in theBible in 1 Thessalonians 4,
verse 13.
And it says, brothers andsisters, we do not want you to
be uninformed about those whosleep in death.

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So that you do not grieve likethe rest of the world, of
mankind, who have no hope.
This scripture has been myanchor, my reminder, that while
grief is inevitable,hopelessness is not my portion.

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I'm reminded that I havepermission to grieve, but not as
someone who has no hope.
I have permission to feel theweight of loss, but not as
someone who has lost everything.
My husband is not gone forever.

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He is just on the other side ofeternity.
Resting in the presence of God.
That truth, although very true,doesn't erase my pain.
But it strengthens me to keepgoing.

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It gives me a reason to put onefoot in front of the other.
When my heart wants to collapseunder the weight of sorrow.
So I choose to grieve byshowing up.

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I choose to grieve by remainingon mission.
Because the calling is stillcalling.
The assignment is still beforeme.
My husband's departure did notchange God's purpose for my

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life.
The mantle has not fallen tothe ground.
And if it has not fallen, thenI must carry it with the weight
of responsibility and the graceof God to sustain me.
So I honor my husband bycontinuing to walk in purpose.

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I honor him by living in a waythat reflects eternity, by
stewarding this life with theunderstanding that everything I
do should echo beyond time.
He would not want his passingto be the end of my pursuit of

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purpose.
He would want me to live well,love well, and serve well.
Even through my pain.
So I choose to rise.
I choose to keep pressingforward knowing that that my

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obedience to God is acontinuation of the work that my
husband and I both believed in.
And above all, I choose tohonor God, the one who holds me
together when I feel likefalling apart.

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I choose to remain in his hope.
Because what else is there?
Where else could I turn?
I have tasted and seen hisfaithfulness.
Even in suffering.
And I will not let griefconvince me that he is not good.

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Because he's still good.
Even now.
There was a moment when I askedmyself, if you run away, will
you really truly find healing?
Because the temptation wasthere to run, to hide, to escape

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the crushing reality of loss.
I wanted to outrun the pain tosomehow move faster than grief
could catch me.
But I learned the hard way thatwhen you run from the wave, it
only, only swallows you whole.

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It's only in surrender, notresistance, that I am finding
clarity, focus, and strength.
When I stopped fighting thewave and let it carry me, I

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realized it was never meant todrown me.
It was meant to bring me closerto the rock of ages.
My submission to the wavebecame my saving grace.
It gave me perspective.

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It gave me purpose.
It gave me the courage to walkforward step by step, day by day
into the unknown with hope asmy companion and eternity as my

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destination.
I wanted to share this part ofmy journey with you.
Because my life isn't perfect.
Not even close.
Even on my best days, I amnothing without God.

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No matter the degrees, thetitles, or the accolades, life
still happens.
Lost still comes.
Pain still found me becausegrief doesn't care about

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achievements or success.
It comes for all.
And let me be clear.
I am no expert on the subjectof grief.
And I will never profess to be.
I am simply walking through it,just like so many of you.

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I don't have all the answers,but what I do have is a heart
that wants to create a spacewhere those who are hurting feel
safe.
A space where you can breathe,process, and maybe find

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something that helps you on yourown journey towards healing.
This podcast is definitely notall about grief.
I promise you that.
But you may hear pieces of mystory as we journey forward, as

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I heal, as I grow, as I gleanfrom the wisdom of the
incredible guests who will joinus.
Because healing is isn't adestination.
It's a process.
And I'm in it with you.

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Because one thing I've come toaccept is that I will live with
grief, but I refuse to beconsumed by it while living.
And that is my prayer for youtoo.
Whatever you are going through,I pray that you are not

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consumed by it, that you won'tlet the weight of your pain
drown you, but instead may learnto ride the wave, letting it
guide you not away from God, buttoward him, the rock of ages.

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The only one...
who can hold you through itall.
And there, in his presence,healing will start, healing will
remain, and healing willreside.

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Yeah.
So I'm excited and honored thatyou've decided to keep
journeying with me The nextepisode, I have an ultra special
guest and I can't wait to spillthe juice with them.
Talking about spilling juice.
Before I go, let's have some.

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I'm an avid juicer and acertified juice therapist.
And juice is a method that I'veused to heal my body from the
inside out.
And today's shot of healing isbrought to you by my book,
There's a juice for that.
Exploring the Power of Juicing.

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And today's juice is Mojito MeGreen.
And this juice I love becauseit's spinach, it's mint, it's
cucumber, and there are limes inthere.
And it detoxes the body.
A benefit of it isdetoxification.
It supports your digestion.
It improves your oral healthand provide a refreshing taste

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while doing it.
You can find the link for mybook in the show notes.
One thing that this juicereminds me of, it reminds me
that releasing things ispreparation for healing.
So let's toast and close withthis in mind.

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There is always hope for avivid life.
Happy