Ep. 23 DO IT DO IT EHH!

We’re baaack! And it’s a whole new season 2 (too) see what we did there?? Sorry for the terrible pun but we ain’t getting no younger so we might as well do it!

In our season two opener we discuss making emotional decisions. Who it might be right for, and who it may not be the best for, and how to navigate those decisions.

Episode Transcript

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All right. Hello, everybody. My name is Atticus and my name is Hope.

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And you are now watching The White Refrigerator.
Welcome back, y'all.
Y'all, we done created a little tagline, if you will, keeping you fresh in a world of mess.

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And do. But nonetheless, come on, Dr. Seuss, without racism, because he was racist.
Well, I mean, you know, it was OK. It was OK.
When was it ever OK?
Apparently, it was OK when America was great.
Well, there's that. Dr. Seuss be like. The stump that Trump said up.

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Like not a nigger there, not a nigger here.
I'm sorry. I'm so sorry.
Season two was already starting off higher. Ridiculous.

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Nary a nigger.
Oh, no. We're going to talk about that.
We don't talk about having your friends who can't sing come to play.
Because I know no one can convince me otherwise that like.

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That wasn't like a homeboy. That was a homeboy.
I know homeboy when I hear homeboy like, oh, this my nigger from back in the day.
This nigger can sing that nigger could never sing.
I feel like that was a crackhead from off the street. That nigger chest.
I ain't hear nothing but rasp in his voice.
It felt like he had smoked a whole pack of Newport loans before he went in there saying it.

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He was healthy. He was. I seen him. I'm a man of fact.
I'm a senior to Tiktok because my homegirl sent it to me.
Do I'm telling you this? I've seen this before. This was a homeboy.
He was like, Peanut, you still be singing. Yeah, I still be singing.
I'm going to get you to sing my girl's engagement party.
Can you imagine being him right now and seeing everybody's reaction on Tiktok

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and all the edits and repost? Oh, what a terrible day.
That's what I wanted to talk about, Fred. Like, I can't even imagine.
Because I'm thinking about all parties, right?
Like, you tried to make something super sweet and the internet then took it
and they is clowning you. Rightfully so. Real bad.

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I feel like this is given last minute. Also, you know what? Before we start,
because we're going to get carried away. Friend, what was your week?
My week has been pretty good so far. Or let's just take it back to New Year's.
Since New Year's, because this is our first. Today is the eighth and this will come out on the 13th.

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But ever since the New Year, I've really been trying to get my routine more down-packed.
Changing things, trying to see what works and what doesn't work and what I can be more consistent with.
I'm real hesitant to use like the new year, new me type of thing, because it's not a new me.
It's just me trying to be a better you. A better me.

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A better me. So I don't want to change anything too drastically.
I just want to find what works and stick to it and make it better.
All about trying to be a better, greater person.
But that being said, everything has been good so far.
The only hiccups I've had is like my sleep schedule, because I don't get off to nine

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o'clock and the day be over and I don't be wanting to go to sleep.
So sometimes I won't go to sleep until like 12 or 1, but you know, it is what it is.
On the flip side, you do get to sleep a little bit later, I guess.
That's true.
Oh, music.
Oh, I forgot all about that. Let me come off on.
Right. Movies, TV.

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When it comes to music, no, there's nothing new here. Nothing new under the sun.
When it comes to things that I've been watching, I've only watched the Beyonce Super Bowl.
The Beyonce Bowl performance. Right.
I've only watched that performance eight and a half thousand times out of the 50 million

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that has been viewed. 8000 of them were me.
I went and signed back up for Netflix just to watch this performance.
It's true. Well, 99% to watch this performance, but Castlevania comes back on soon.
Season two of Nocturne, and I'm super excited about that, comes back on the 16th.
So I signed up for that too, but mostly for Beyonce's performance.

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And I also can't wait to see what happens on the 14th.
I don't feel like anything's gonna happen on that day.
I feel like it's just gonna be another announcement, but you know, we'll see.
You never know what the hell she gonna do.
Right. I was gonna say, B, I say this with love, because I love you down real deep.
I love you down real bad. Also, an Alabama Texan, okay?

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I understand you. Let me explain something to you.
Do not piss me off with some new shampoo.
I swear to God, I love you down so bad. Don't.
She finna come out with some facial cream.
I'm telling people, I'm like, I don't know what to expect on the 14th.

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I potentially think it's gonna be a tour.
I think it's gonna be the Cowboy Carter tour.
It could be the new album. I don't know.
We'll have to see. She be real strategic with her stuff.
And I feel like, I don't know.
Because like I said, she did Renaissance 2022, then she did the Renaissance Tour 2023.
She dropped Cowboy Carter 2024.

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So I'm thinking she's probably gonna go on tour this year.
And then next year we'll get Act 3.
And then maybe if I had to guess, I think she's saving all of like everything.
Because we've been talking about the visuals.
I think she's gonna drop them all at once and make it like an actual whole story
on some musical type shit, which I wouldn't be mad at.
I think so too. And then if she does it that way,

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she'll probably put it in the order it was supposed to be in originally.
Yeah, because I think Cowboy Carter was supposed to come before Renaissance.
And then the only reason I think it's a rock album is because of the font.
The font was not Cowboy-esque.
The font was very rock-esque to me.
So I feel, I hope, I'm not gonna say I hope,

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because I'm good whether she drops a new project or not either way.
But I really do want to hear like what that would sound like from her.
Listen, I mean, it's on track.
We were talking, she took back Poppin Disco,
Pop Disco House, font that whole genre.
We got the country album.

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The rock makes sense.
So yeah, I mean, either way, like you said,
Beyoncé really doesn't drop the ball ever.
So I'm happy with no matter what comes out.
Never has, never will.
But that's actually about it for me, friend.
How was your week?
Friend, how has your week been?

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So my week has been pretty chill.
Or have you been since the New Year to say that?
So since the New Year, I think for me,
my resolutions have been kind of just tapping into a little bit more structure,
a little bit more discipline.
I was telling Atticus earlier, I think I'm somewhere in between this place of like

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social media fatigue.
So I just don't find myself being on quite as much.
Now I do get on and of course, I've seen the viral stuff.
Obviously, we was cracking jokes about the whole engagement proposal that went viral earlier.
But like, I just kind of haven't really been on too much.
I don't really know.

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I've been in this head space of like, how can I try to make this year as productive
and also peaceful as possible?
So not overworking myself, because y'all overworking yourself is still not a good thing.
Productivity is not everything all the time.
So you have to have that healthy balance.
So for me, I'm just kind of in that place of finding that balance.
That's pretty much how my New Year has been and how it started.

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So I'm just taking everything with a grain of salt one day at a time.
Still love the new job.
I don't know.
I really don't have any complaints.
As far as TV goes, while we were on break or on holiday, I'm sorry,
I'm sorry to the British community.
I'm sorry.
Holiday, as they say.

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I did finish watching Severance.
Addie put me on Severance.
That show was very good.
I suggest you watch it if you have not.
The new season starts in like a week, I think.
WNBA Unrivaled starts, or it's not WNBA.
The WNBA players are, they have this new league called Unrivaled.

(09:57):
It starts, I think, next week as well.
So I'm excited to watch that.
I haven't started, of course, because it's not here yet, but I am excited for that.
New music.
Literally, I'm looking and I did find this song called Save You, and it's by Devi Fame,

(10:18):
D-I-V-I Fame, and then I'm assuming that's Devin.
I could be wrong, but just D-V-Y-N.
This time won't you save me?
Come on.
But yeah, I like that song a lot.
And then, oh, Alex Isley and I think it's pronounced Umbre.
They have a song together called You Don't Know.

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Yeah, that eats.
But other than that, that's really it.
You gotta send me those.
I just been chill.
Did you say Jelly Roll?
I ain't say nothing about no Jelly Roll.
I ain't say nothing about Jelly Roll.
I ain't say nothing about Jelly Roll.
All right, y'all.
So that concludes our weeks.

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I mean, Happy New Year, by the way, everybody.
Come on, we don't act like we got some new sense this new year.
Happy 2025.
Don't the number 2025 just look grand?
It does.
It just looks grand, like some great shit is supposed to happen this year.
And I believe that.
I'm excited.
Yes, I'm still praying for a miracle, but I'm still excited.

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Right.
You know, it don't even matter.
I have said that at this point, my main focus and even the focus of this show is just going
to be focused on the 13% black people helping each other, being better people, inspiring,

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educating the whole not like.
Inspiring is love that we can't change some of the stuff that's happening on the outside,
but what we can change is what's happening on the inside.
And we can continue to educate ourselves so we can be prepared for what's happening on
the outside.
So that's that's where I feel like the focus is this year, because you know what?
Shit happens.

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Yeah, it happens.
And now you just say, OK, where do I go from here?
Right.
That's all you can say.
But so again, Top Shelf, so it's not going, but it is really only as needed.

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We're really just going to focus on like the actual content itself.
I will say this.
We all circle back to this song.
I need you all to stop.
Like, for real, I need you all to start listening to lyrics and just stop doing stuff because
it sound good, because Let's Get Married is a wild song.

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It is a wild song.
My boy said we ain't getting no younger.
We might as well.
We might as well.
Shit, we ain't got nothing else to do.
That don't sound aggressive and manipulative to you like that.
That's a narcissist, nigga.
That is what.
We might as well.
Right, bitch, we 30.
We ain't got shit else going on.

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We might as well do it.
I know they was yelling in her face that one part where it was like, yeah.
I know it was like right here in her face.
She had no choice.
They put her on the spot.
But as far as that dude is concerned, for the for the old church heads in here, who

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know those who grew up in church like myself, there is like a lot of people that are like,
it's like this person who sings in church and it's male or female is interchangeable
that sings with heavy vibrato and they just sing loud like they sing.
They don't they can't hold a note, though.
They can't hold one note, but they just be yelling and singing.

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That's what he gives me.
He gives me my homeboy from middle school used to sing back in the day.
So I'm a hire him.
I'm pay him twenty dollars and he don't come and sing.
I'm still that.
That's definitely what it's given.
I'm still convinced that was a crackhead somebody off the street because whatever

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rasp was in his voice, that niggas oesophagus sounded through.
That's a smoker.
I know we smoker when I hear that is a way.
My little way.
He got out of the car because he was nervous.
I'm gonna tell you I'm gonna paint a picture for y'all.
He was he was in the car in his Ford Explorer, the 1995 edition, the Eddie Bauer.

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I'm really going back.
It was only for my millennials.
Y'all y'all young folk may not know about this.
He was in there.
He lit him up.
Shit, I got to do this with my boy.
He still had all that smoke in his throat.
That was smoking.
That was COVID air with smoke.

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That was a combination.
That was phlegm.
It was hardened.
He got in there and he remembered he couldn't actually sing.
So he can start yelling.
And then the funniest part is I don't in any of the clips I've seen, I finally saw clips of him.
So I know what he looked like, but I've seen not a clip of him singing anything past like

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he didn't sing the whole song.
Every clip I've seen is him singing like the chorus and like a little bit of this and that
there, but he didn't sing the whole.
So the whole time he said, girl, let's get married.
I just want to get married and meet me.
And, and okay.
And I want to spend back on that because the song says, meet me, meet me at the altar in

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your white dress.
We ain't get no younger.
We might as well do it.
Damn.
It's a hear damn song.
It definitely gives that energy.
Like, like he hear damn shit.
We 35.
I done did everything I wanted to do.
I done, I done slept with every bitch who would have this dick and a couple of niggas too.

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I done did it all.
He lying to me and I'm lying to him.
Fuck it.
Guess we both ain't shit.
We might as well.
You know what we finna do?
Get married.
I just, I just.
I just, I just, please.
That song, pretty wings.
Okay.
Pretty wings.

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Pretty wings is not a love song, y'all.
Not in the way that y'all think it is.
Pretty wings is absolutely a song about breaking up.
And I won't even discuss the video that me and Atticus was talking about early on the
phone because I'm going to let that woman rest.
I know she spent years in hell.

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Just listen, just listen to the damn, a woman's work.
Work, but not worth by Alicia Keys.
She be yelling too.
And don't be holding no notes.
I love her down.
Love her.
Damn.
Okay.

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Alicia doesn't get enough flowers from me.
She doesn't.
Cause she, she had to game on lock for a hot ass minute.
Wait.
Yep.
That voice has been crazy for the last couple of years.
I ain't even going to say it's crazy.
I've heard a couple of her songs that I wasn't super interested.
No, look me in the eye while you tell this lie.

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Cause it's not, it's not a lie.
I don't think her voice sounds crazy per se.
Okay. As much as my, my ear is not like tuned to the music that she makes.
You know, some shit is wild when you do a live performance.
She did a lot of performance at the super bowl and then they scrubbed that bitch and

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put the edited one on the super bowl.
No, no, no, no, no, no.
Put the regular version on there.
Cause we heard it live.
No, no.
We heard a voice crack at the very first note.
You ain't ever going to hear it again.
I was like, Alicia.
You ain't ever going to hear it again.
It didn't happen.
But when I tell you.
It never happened.

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I think that's what I'm going to watch when I get off.
That's what we need to watch on here and just watch with y'all.
Cause when I tell y'all Norbert is one of the funniest fucking movies ever.
Norbert is funny as fuck.
There's another, do you remember a movie called dogma?
That sounds super familiar.
That sounds super familiar.
Yes.
It's definitely like a white hippie comedy if you ask me.

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But like where the Lord came down to earth.
What's them dudes name?
J and Silent Bob?
Is that them?
From way back in the day.
We was kids.
Yeah, I'm going to have to look this one up.
Friend, I know I used to love it as a kid.
I need to watch in my adulthood to see if it's still the same.

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But there was one scene with Chris Rock and there was a demon in the bar.
Like an actual.
I have myself muted so I can look at something.
Wait, what?
Actually, I'm just going to leave it there.
Y'all got to check that.

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Check that movie out.
If y'all, if anybody knows what I'm talking about, if you know, you know.
As a literal demon made of shit.
As a millennial, I'm scared to do stuff like that because I realized looking back at a lot of our stuff, it was extremely problematic.
I just very problematic.
I told you one of the Ninja Turtle movies.
I think it was the second one where like what was the name?

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The foot clan.
They were chasing April down and one of them did something and she was.
Y'all.
Don't cancel me.
Because I don't feel this way whatsoever.
But it caught me off guard so bad.
She was like.
What are you going to do?

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Sell me a Sony and then like it was a very like jab at like Asian.
I was like.
I was like.
And it was a few other instances.
I was like, we used to enjoy this.
I would just wouldn't make it now.
So many movies that we love would not make it today.
And video games, Donkey Kong.

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Friend, there's so much wrong with a lot of the stuff that we used to enjoy.
I'm not going to talk about Donkey Kong.
Donkey Kong is extremely problematic.
Extremely so.
But who didn't love Donkey Kong?
Like Donkey Kong.
Who didn't?
Friend, please.
This is going to be the clip they put on.

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They don't snap that clip.
Who didn't love Donkey Kong?
I see this now.
Some Republican is going to be like, is this who you want your children listening to?
And it's going to be Atticus going, oh, I know.
They just don't play them back to back.
Well, we got them calling black people monkeys.

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Then they get mad when we call them monkeys.
Yeah.
Donkey Kong was insane.
And I don't know how they managed to get away with it for as long as they did.
Back in the day.
Oh, y'all was wild.
Back in it.
Now, looking back, I know so much more why our grandparents and stuff were the way they were.

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Because it was literally right in our face and we just didn't pay any attention.
I told you, I'll never forget that Twitter thread where I forgot who started it.
Basically, white people was in a bag when they was giving us, when they was creating slurs.
And my favorite is still Moon Cricket.
Moon Cricket is one of the funniest things I've ever heard in my life.

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I don't think I had ever heard of that until you brought it to my attention.
Not ever in my life.
We're from Alabama, okay?
You hear just about, I done heard Spook, Tar Baby, Sambo, of course, nigga.
Smutfoot.
I heard that from an old black lady, actually.

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Oh my God.
That's what she would call us kids.
I think it was the candy lady.
Oh my God.
What's going on?

(22:42):
The candy lady from the projects.
That's interesting.
And I just buy my sixlets and go to the bus stop.
And she had called you all kinds of names.
Listen, there wasn't a bag when they was doing that.
But anyways, yeah, stop with the foolish songs, please.

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Listen to lyrics.
What I say, y'all just don't read, people don't read.
Like I said, I'm going to make that interchangeably and just say people don't read, people do not read.
Read.
Read what stuff actually means before you start singing it.
Read and comprehend.
I'm going to play the devil's advocate just a little bit.
Oh God.
Just a little bit.
Only for this reason.
So listen, songs, no matter what they're saying, give off like a certain energy when you're listening to them.

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Listening to them, right?
So you know who I love.
This is why she calls you a smut foot.
So you know who I love.
And she has some terrible lyrics that would not ever apply to my life.
But I'd be reciting that shit day in and damn near day out.

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Ah.
And ain't going to stop.
But it'd be like the energy that the song is giving off.
I know what she's saying.
But so.
I don't think it's terrible.
You know, I'm saying fuck these niggas.
And I am gay.
I am gay, gay.
And I still be like, I don't go fuck girl, fuck him.
But then the other me is like, and then come here.

(24:27):
Right.
Sorry.
And I'm going to say I'm a girl's gay.
So the man is almost not ever going to.
Almost never going to take his side.
Lord friend, go ahead and get it taken care of really.
You're going to be in here like.
Chewing air like.
Driving with your mouth wide open.

(24:51):
Lord.
Lord, what is the main topic for you?
Because we are.
What do kids say?
Yappers?
We are yappers.
We are yappers.
The main topic of today is emotional decisions and emotional decision making.
So how you want to start this off?
So I think this is a really interesting topic because we're about to enter two different worlds here.

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Atticus is someone who can typically make an emotional decision and it work in his favor.
Almost always when I do it is the exact opposite effect.
So I recently did something called a disc test and I think it's super beneficial.
Kind of teaches you a little bit about yourself, your personality traits.

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But what I realized in doing it is that I am someone who kind of second guesses themselves.
Someone who so mine came back pretty much high everything except for the D and D is I think dominant.
So S is like steadiness.
I can't remember what I and C are.
Y'all can look it up.
We'll put a link in there for you.

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But like I came back as an empath.
I came back as someone who's logical and analytical and all this other stuff.
And it made sense looking at it.
It made sense.
So I was like, OK.
But again, because I lack that aggressiveness in certain areas, I lack the confidence to make decisions.
And typically when I do, I think it's just because I have a history of making bad decisions.

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So I try not to do anything with impulse because I like to think everything over.
I'm someone who has to weigh out every single thing before I do anything just to make sure I make the best decision.
And sometimes the problem with that is I make a decision and I take everybody into consideration when I shouldn't.
Sometimes that's good. Sometimes it's not.

(26:52):
And sometimes that's worked for me.
Sometimes it's worked against me.
So I think I think for me, I prefer to just kind of think things out a little bit more.
But I do want to because I put a lot of stuff in there and I think sometime soon we're going to open up the discord for you guys.
And you can like interact with us and see a lot of stuff that we put in here and talk about versus putting hyperlinks in the show for the podcast.

(27:20):
We want to make sure that you can actually interact with us and see everything in real time.
But like that will be on the 20th when the show for the 20th drops.
Fantastic. Fantastic.
But yeah, so more or less on my end, at least, I feel that I have to kind of really think things out before I do them because I just have a history of not making the best decisions.

(27:47):
So now in my older years, I am a little bit more conscious and aware of everything that I do before I do it.
But yeah, that's that's kind of me in a nutshell.
When it comes to me in this specific topic, I think there are two two ways to go about it is this like, are you more of like a reactionary?

(28:11):
I'm going to make a decision right here type of emotional decision, or is it festering like the the emotion itself causes you to make a decision that might be might be a little bit different, but you don't necessarily act on it right away.
You get what I'm saying? Like, I feel like anytime I've ever had a had to make an emotional decision.

(28:33):
Nine times out of 10.
I had probably made the decision in that moment, but I couldn't act on it for whatever reason like even when it goes to
Like my my last job, the shit, the shit that transpired transpired on what a Thursday or Friday. I was on vacation the next week, talked to the administrator about it.

(29:00):
The reaction that I got triggered a deep hatred type of emotion for me.
Like, if it was only by the grace of God, I was not, I wasn't in the office that day. But in that day I was like, okay, so this ain't this ain't gonna work.
I obviously didn't quit that exact day because I was trying to think about like the ramifications of what doing something like that might be.

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But in my head, I was like laying out the game plan for like, I, I can't I can't continue with this no more because it ain't really safe for me. And it ain't safe for me in the beginning situation like that because I don't want to lash out.
So, even though I didn't quit that week because I was on vacation.
When in that Monday, talk to who I needed to talk to Thursday was my last day. I'm not doing this no more. I gave y'all a week, a week's notice four days notice, and I'm out of here I'll see you later.

(29:57):
But even the time before that when I made emotional decisions.
The decisions were made at that time, but it made it take taking a little bit of time to play out that decision.
I'm sorry if I'm going to get the hell away from you.
We was talking about this a little bit earlier and

(30:21):
relationship wise, I like to add more on the side of caution with most things. So relationship wise, if, if some shit then transpired that let me know that we can't really be together.
And I noticed is little shit going missing piece by piece over the next few weeks, any belongings I got at your house that shit might just start going missing.

(30:44):
Until the final day, when I can have that conversation with you and I can get my last little bit up that way you can't destroy nothing.
And you can't hold my shit hostage and I really don't have a reason to talk to you ever again.
But when it comes to making that emotional decision, baby, it ain't, it is not worked out in a bad way ever in that I can think of to be honest, because I don't really like I don't like to argue or cuss people out because I really don't be wanting to say shit to hurt

(31:14):
people feelings, even if I feel like they done fucked me over.
So I try to shy away from that a little bit.
But no, the decision, the decision is going to be made. And in my head, do you think I was okay before this situation.
Do you think that first part you were just talking about is like a part of fear confrontation, because I feel like years that was one of my biggest issues is that I, unlike you so like you, you would walk away from a situation I kind of just dealt so that was a

(31:45):
big part of my experience, just recently and I'm talking recently in like the last five years I got to a place to where I can do the same, but I realized like a lot of mine was just because I didn't, I didn't want the confrontation.
So,
yes, but not necessarily in the way that you think, like,

(32:06):
I think I'm hyper aware of myself or how people might perceive me.
I can sit and have a conversation with you.
But in my mind I'm like playing out how that conversation might might go. If I feel like you're going to get loud and belligerent.
I can't get loud with people, especially people of a certain

(32:30):
age, I can't, I can't, reason being, because I'm six foot five, 300 plus pounds, if I raise my voice.
What's going to happen.
Now everybody upset.
There you go. Now you upset you want to call the police everybody's scared. Yeah, I ain't never putting up my hands on nobody but now everybody's scared so I feel like I'm aware.

(32:56):
Same. Was it with Rodney King.
That's exactly what happened to him. He was the same thing with six foot five six foot six years, just a big boy to beat that a lot of him because he was big.
He ain't threatened you exactly ain't threatened you a done nothing but you raise your voice.
Raise your voice is all all of the threat that it takes for some other stuff to happen. So I feel like I'm hyper aware of that.

(33:23):
And I have also seen a couple of times where word of mouth things like ruin somebody's reputation, especially professionally, like people will say some shit, whether it's the truth or not.
People believe what they want to believe you can fight it with your whole soul.

(33:44):
Especially if that doesn't matter.
If they don't like you or feel like they have a reason to not like you, they will. People like negative shit. I have realized that over this last year for sure.
Because we were talking about that earlier with like the whole Kendrick Lamar Drake beef and the whole re-voting for 45 again.
Like people I'm not convinced at this point that people don't like negativity. I just I'm sorry I can't be convinced otherwise.

(34:10):
So like their first chance to like drop jump at some dramatic awful shit. I think people don't take it.
So I feel that in my soul friend. It's like yeah you would fuck up my life just off of something sensationalized because it's the moment it's what's happening.
Exactly. And you know by the time the story get to the fourth person is a whole different story that never happened.

(34:32):
Every single. Never happened.
But the way you done told it and the way everybody else finna tell it now everybody thinking I'm a fucking lunatic and you can't work with me.
So I've seen that happen a few times in real time. I have not ever witnessed until that place like an actual campaign against somebody.
But yeah when it comes to that.

(34:58):
No I'm gonna make the decision but I feel like I just don't act on it immediately.
The decision is made but I'm just trying to figure out like how the fuck can I get out of this.
So then I guess my follow up question to that is like so what happens in the event to where maybe they self corrected like they course corrected.
And even though you've kind of made this decision you see that they are changing or actively trying not to reenact whatever it was that led or any situation.

(35:29):
So I'm talking spouse friend job you know any interaction or relationship that you have you know you see they do something that doesn't fly right.
And then all of a sudden maybe they catch themselves so they come to realization because you know we talk all the time about like self correcting like course right.
I fucked up you know learning unlearning and learning like I fucked up. This is on me I'm going to be accountable.

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How does that play into to your decision because I think that's an interesting thing to look at because it's like OK do you do you allow the opportunity because it's this thing that stands out to me it's like the thing I think all people kind of consider and think about.
When like forgiving people or forgiving a situation which is you did it before you could do it again.

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And I feel like that's valid but also feel like it's not fair because people can change and sometimes people do make very valid efforts to change and they do they successfully change so like how does how does that fit into your decision making.
Is there a place for it or like when you say something you would take into consideration.

(36:41):
Yes I would honestly thank you. That was a great question.
But I honestly feel like I've been.
Probably a little bit less right now at this this point in my life just because I'm older but I feel like I've always been a little bit more forgiving than I probably should have been like when it comes to friendships now especially.

(37:05):
I don't feel like I can.
Like I have any friends that I can't talk to about something that may have happened. You get what I'm saying. And all of the people that I have around me now that I consider my friends are very introspective and able to understand like somebody else's point of view about any given thing.
So with them I don't think it would ever go get to a point where.

(37:33):
There wasn't like course correction before it even got to that point or where I would honestly even think about getting out of a situation before like having a conversation with him.
I'm gonna let you know now if you try that shit with me.
You roll up back.
And I'll be outside your house with a box.

(37:54):
Do it.
So I have I have done that before and friendships when I was like younger. And each time that I were I would say our friendships were where we made up. It never worked out like the same shit happened again. So now I feel like I'm a little bit less apt to believe somebody.

(38:28):
If it couldn't be worked out initially if that makes sense like I get what you're saying people really can change. I understand that because the goal is to change and to grow right. But I don't know.
And I guess that also depends on what the thing is because some shit ain't even worth like the fallout.

(38:50):
But then the other shit like if this is like a character type of thing like oh it's just just who you are and that's that's okay. I just don't like it.
And I think even with it being like a character thing it's like okay I don't like it in it says I don't like it it's hurting me or I just don't like it.
Because if I just don't like it you know fuck it it is what it is. But like if I don't like it and it's hurting me then that's going to be because then now we have to have a conversation.

(39:20):
True.
That's a big one actually I don't like it and it's hurting me and I've told you about it and you continue. Yeah. And it continues to hurt me.
So what am I supposed to do now. Right. I was going to say because if it continues then there's a whole other conversation because that means you're aware.
And either you just don't give a fuck which is the case I think most of the time like most of the time people love to like blame shit on other shit.

(39:45):
It's just because I'm a Libra. No bitch you're a terrible person. You're actually a terrible person.
This has nothing to do with your sun sign. Yeah or you know. Or moon time.
It's just the way I was raised or it's just this or it's just that and it's like that okay I hear you. I just want you to also know it's unacceptable.
Like I hear you. That's not this. That's not going to fly. That's not that's not going to work. So honest people.

(40:09):
Just this is just the way I am. People get on my fucking nerves because girl you can change. That's you can play it out. You can change. You ain't a tree. You can move.
And that's such a huge accountability issue too because it's like okay you're actively telling me I know I'm fucking up and you know it just you're going to deal.

(40:30):
Actually says I'm not. Yeah I'm not gonna I'm not going to do this with you. You can do this by yourself. Congratulations. You played yourself.
Now you have zero friends. Best of luck to you. I mean and I get that as far as like what you're saying you know kind of knowing choosing people a little bit more wisely.

(40:53):
People who are going to blend with you a little bit more so you don't really have to worry about certain traits. I don't have to necessarily worry about me getting to a place to be in like okay it's time for me to walk out of this situation.
Exactly.
I again so I'm a play the devil's advocate for a minute. I'm also of two minds about that because it's like I feel that way but then I'm also kind of interested in meeting people different than myself.

(41:21):
Like maybe you can give me something new. I feel like oddly enough.
Most people wouldn't think this, but we are very similar and very different at the same time.
So that works.
But it's, we are similar enough, we have we share core values. And I'm talking about the core is the same.

(41:47):
I'm talking about this on the show a few times. That's any relationship y'all I'm talking any friendship platonic romantic what listen core values are huge because we can like, it's so funny if me and Eddie went on a cross country road adventure.
I don't know it might be different now but two years ago.

(42:09):
The radio would have been a situation, because he
was like, I'm not girl.
I'm like,
like, but I mean, honestly though I can't lie because if you put on real a right now.

(42:32):
Fuck all these critics and fuck how they fit. Listen, and also I don't have a problem sharing the radio I promise I don't. It just be like sad shit that get to me and I just be like,
take a lot for it to start to happen and I just be like turn this shit off.
I'd be sitting there riding down the road, I promise I'm okay.

(42:55):
Now if you had a couple of months ago that might be a different question but I be riding down the road.
Jesus and slaves.
And they're listening to my master going to sell us tomorrow.

(43:23):
Yes.
And that ladies and gentlemen is going to go ahead and conclude the show.
Mama is massive to sell me to

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that movie. Also, one of the most I don't think it would have made it today. No, it would not have made it today but that movie is funny as problematic and funny as shit. I was thinking about another movie that would have been canceled on site,
White Chicks, White Chicks, they would have they would have lost it. Especially, always think about the same way riding a car and they were singing a song.

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The other one, but it was listening to the rap song and it was like, my nigga, and then they was like, you can't say that word is like, we can say it when we're by ourselves.
I tell you, friend, I've been thinking about that like concerts, concerts is why.
Because for white people really be like yelling it to, they would probably cry on stage if I'm sitting there rapping my song.

(44:44):
That data data data, and these niggas that and they said, whoa, whoa, whoa, where did that happen that somebody's concert before.
That's, I forgot who it was but it went viral for somebody.
She did it on stage, didn't she? Yep. I was like, baby, no.
Oh, you got carried away.
You went too far.

(45:06):
Damn. You went too far. You went too far. Yes.
The day before I know it, I done turned into the 300 and I don't kick you like that man. And it's now, now it's a stampede in the stadium. Yeah. It is a scene we own new.
Yes, yes. Do that. Everybody look bad because you out here saying, you know you ain't got no business saying, friend, I'd be thinking about and then you know what other scenario absolutely terrifies me.

(45:36):
Thank God I can't procreate the normal way right like I am a dikety dike dike. I can't this. I don't I can't do that. It's cabbage patch style.
But think about like you get in a relationship, and you marry a white person, which is cool.
But then they continue to never remix. So like, it's just white, white, white, white until you get to like your great grandchild and they look white.

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And then they come in to see you in the funeral home. That's my nigga in the bed and like you in the bed shriveled up.
And you can't even say that and you just look over that.
Nigger grandpa, nigger grandpa. The thought of that is terrifying to me. And then they're trying to validate themselves and like, oh no, no, it's cool. My great granddaddy was black. No.

(46:33):
It doesn't work that way. It's not. It's not. It doesn't work that way. You got all the privilege of a white person. Right. You have no more proximity to blackness.
Absolutely not. The original subject was emotional decision making.
We kind of carried into France. But yeah. So I love your take on it.

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And then like the responses to my questions, because I think that opens a broader thing.
Like one, there's a level of self-awareness that you have to have in making these decisions. And that's the art. And that's the art that you've been able to master.
And I'm still getting to that place. But then I'm also at a place now to where I can like fully accept one.
I can fully accept that I'm not going to be accepted by everybody to I can fully accept that everybody's not going to like everything I do all the time.

(47:26):
Three, I can fully accept that I have to do what's best for me. And people aren't going to always like that.
So like once you get to that place, like and I think this is going to be on like our episode, Doc is some ways down the way, but how to deal with confrontation.
Because I think that's a big part of this is like not wanting to make a scene when I think sometimes I think people look at confrontation as a negative when that's not always the case.

(47:53):
Like sometimes you have to be a little bit more bold and brass. Like you kind of have to puff your chest out a little bit more and stand on business.
Which I think kind of leads you to start making better decisions because you can stand on business.
Like I know what this is. I know this is what this is. And this is what I'm going to this is what I'm going to do.
So yeah, Fran, I'm learning that from you. I also think in general, though, that's a Gemini trait.

(48:18):
Like Gemini, that's what I keep telling you about Donnie. About Donnie with a musky over there.
It's going to get to a point to where he's going to be like, all right, I'm done.
And then that's when Eli going to air all his shit out. And then it's going to be carnage in America. And I'm just going to sit back and laugh.

(48:40):
But every Gemini gets to a point where it's like, OK, you this line, you won't cross.
So now that you've crossed it, this is what happens. Like and there's there's no we don't there's nothing to talk about.
It's a non data. So if you apologize, I do appreciate your apology.
That doesn't change anything. Yeah. Yeah. Sorry. It's a little too little too late.

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When it comes to family things, because we didn't talk about some of that, too.
It's a little bit different because it's like you're my family. I have to be a little bit more gracious and give you more leeway.
But at the same exact time, if you continue, if I've told you and you continue.

(49:25):
What am I supposed to do? Just keep letting you do it because you're whoever.
And I mean, you know, you can love people and also not fuck with them.
I'm not one of those people that believe that you have to be in somebody's face all the time to prove that you love them.
Because, yeah, same thing for and like, OK, this clearly this is a problem.

(49:47):
So I'm just going to love you from a distance. Right.
Because you haven't done anything like dramatic to like.
And when I think a dramatic and this is going to be a conversation for a whole another day, but like there are things like people.
And again, like I said, this podcast is going to be mostly focused on us.

(50:08):
There's things that we have to talk about in our community that needs to change.
Y'all be so quick to throw your gay relatives away, but y'all will forgive Uncle Larry that untouched three of your nieces already.
Can we fix this? Like, can we we need to fix this?
This is something that needs to be fixed.
And it's just normalized, just letting people be. Yeah. Yeah.

(50:29):
It's like, OK, except for the ones that are hurting people.
We don't have to invite this nigga over anymore.
We don't have to invite him to any cookouts.
We don't we do not have to deal with this person like it's OK to cut family off.
And yes, I agree. We should give them a little bit more grace.
But then, like at the same time, if you're actively pursuing bullshit in in on my behalf, like you're just constantly at me.

(50:56):
Yeah, I'm going to go ahead and end this now.
And that's going to be a decision I stand on. Right. Right.
I've literally gotten to that point. And I think that's another thing I'm going.
Oh, I didn't say in the beginning I was supposed to go to therapy next month.
They hadn't called me yet. I'm just going to give them a couple more days because it's still in the new year.

(51:17):
But I filled out all my paperwork and stuff online and hoping to start that early next month.
But one of the things I want to talk about is I feel a bit like a psychopath sometimes
because I feel like I've gotten to a point not necessarily where I don't need anybody because you do need people.

(51:38):
But I'm OK not having anybody around.
And I don't necessarily know if that's like a good a good thing to to be.
And I feel like a crazy person because you will talk to people and they'll be like, Lord, you don't feel bad for doing this.
And I feel like, no, no, I don't. Not one bit. I'll do it again.

(52:03):
Yeah, that detachment is a real thing.
And I'm someone who personally struggles with it because like I moved all the way to Texas to get away from my family
and I'll be goddamn if every last one of them didn't follow me over to this motherfucker.
So like and at the time, they wouldn't even back home in Alabama no more. They was further up.

(52:26):
So it was just like I did all this. And here we are again. But like that's what it's like to be the son.
Oh, well, thank you, Fran. I don't always feel like it.
But like it's it's a situation to where like I am someone who is also like that.
Like they'll have people over company and I will sit and be in my room like I and I'm the one who pays.

(52:54):
I am the breadwinner. Like this is technically my shit.
But I just I don't mesh and mingle like that. So I I get that.
And you're right, Fran. It does almost feel psychotic because it's like I actually think I was having this conversation with my mom the other day.
I was like, I don't know how to turn that off. And I'm at an age now where it doesn't feel good.

(53:17):
I mean, it wasn't that it felt good before, but I think I've been so protective of myself for so long
that I kind of have maybe played in my own face and severed relationships that could have been beneficial
or could have brought me some sort of happiness just because I.
Oh, Fran. You said a word there.

(53:38):
I think I might have played in my face a little bit, too. Just trying to protect me.
Yeah. And also, I'm really bad at forcing interactions.
Like. I don't know if I'm out somewhere socially.
I with I can talk to other people and I will talk to other people.

(53:59):
But we talked about this. I think it's the small talk thing,
especially with people you don't know if you're not necessarily in a mode to socialize with people.
Small talk in general pisses me off.
Yes. I don't care how your day is. Let's talk about politics. Let's talk about the economy.
Let's talk about some shit where I can figure out who you really are.
Yeah. What is your head? Right. Who are you?

(54:24):
What do you like? We talked about the conversation about stop asking people about what they do for a living and like, what makes you happy?
OK. Well, I don't care what you do to your in your nine to five unless it is the thing that makes you happy.
You happy. Which I feel like it's going to be a no.
You like the dog walk. I don't know. Are you a dance like what?

(54:45):
What is it? What makes what makes you get up and say, OK, today is totally worth it.
Like that type of stuff. And I don't know.
Is is small talk is just like it's exhausting.
Like I've learned how to do it because I've had to do it professionally for so many years.

(55:08):
And it's just like you have to make conversation while you're, you know, doing whatever.
And it's just like, oh, this. Maybe that's why I hate it, because it's just it's always been a forced thing.
How's the weather? I don't know how far it's raining.
I don't give a fuck. You know, the crazy thing is when I'm at work.
It's different than when I get home. It's like it's almost like a night and day.

(55:35):
I'm going to tell you why this is going to sound crazy.
I'm going to say why it's because you'll never meet these people again in your life.
Perhaps you want a more authentic connection to someone you could possibly meet again in the future.
The reason you don't feel anything at work and I can say it because I've done it for, like I said, so many years.

(55:56):
You never even talk to these people again. It's so rare to ever talk to someone.
You never talk to these people again.
But like that guy that you met at wherever or whatever, whatever this person is like, yeah.
And again, like it just. I don't want you to I want to put off an order to where you feel like you can talk to me about anything, even if we don't know each other yet.

(56:23):
Like, I mean, I'm not telling you to open up and tell me crazy shit, because please don't.
I'm going to call the police. But like, yeah, let's just talk. Let's talk. Let's see what happens.
And yeah, that that that forced talk thing, that's that's garbage. Actually, it's just like, oh, get the hell away from me.
Please get the hell away from me. Do you. I feel like you do this, too.

(56:48):
You're a very likable person. I feel like it's easy to do some days when you're talking to somebody that you really don't know that well.
And they like you a lot, but you don't like them as much as they like you.
I feel like this is a problem sometimes with me.

(57:09):
And I especially in work environments, like if you if this is somebody you have to work with, like, I don't know how to.
To turn that off, like I had my core group of people like my team that I worked with, but then there were other people.
And I was friendly. I'm always friendly because like if you need something, yeah, you can talk to me.
But then I'll be like, Lord, I don't want to see.

(57:37):
I guess obviously you love me and I don't feel like a terrible person.
That's a tricky one for me because friend, you say I'm friendly. I think I'm charming. I think I'm charismatic.
I do not always think I'm friendly, nor do I always come off as friendly. I don't know how to explain that.
But it's like I because I have my moments like people be thinking I'm mean until I smile and then I look like a goddamn cabbage patch baby.

(58:06):
I have them. They ever seen that meme of Janet Jackson?
Y'all remember what? Yeah, that's that's that's my face.
But like they all look like a jelly bean, look like a giant honey bun, baby.
But like when I tell you most of the time, I'll be looking. Lord.

(58:29):
Maybe I don't want to talk to this rude bitch.
And it's not really it's not really that it's just like I don't know, again, what what chances I could have.
I met someone because like I was shriveled up in the face or like standoffish. But no, I don't I don't really have that problem because I'm selective in general.

(58:53):
I'm just like maybe now back in the day, I probably actually used to be the person that people like get the hell away from me because I used to be open and talkative.
But like that light has died in like the last five years.
So now it's like. We stop breathing here, bitch. You can't say that.
I feel that. Oh, I don't know why this or where this maybe I do feel like it's a natural thing to be friendly for me.

(59:20):
It should be maybe overly so. I mean, I'd much rather problem.
I'd much rather have be around people who are overly friendly and assholes.
This whole new generation of this mean girl shit, I fucking hate it.
And y'all be real bold until you run up on real old.
I'm telling you right now, baby, if you run up on me, all you're going to hear is I'm not going to play that game with you.

(59:43):
And when did it become so cool to just be an asshole? I don't know.
That's what I'm saying. Like, it's the same with the Internet.
It's like being sensational. Well, just the age of being a keyboard warrior, because I want you to say this shit to my face.
And I think what's actually happening now is is this effect of where now we're starting to see people get they shit busted in because it's cause and reaction.

(01:00:10):
Like it's like people dealt with this shit for I could not even imagine being a kid in this era where people are just bullying people online and shit like that.
Now, it's getting a little bit better because one thing I love about tick tock and a lot of these other social media sites, but particularly tick tock,
when people start saying crazy shit or like super mean stuff, people start checking them in the comments.

(01:00:33):
And I love that down like real bad because like, why are you here?
You know, I friend well friend, you know, my mouth real slick.
Anyways, I will troll the fuck out of you because why are you here? Yes.
Why are you here? You don't like fat people? Why are you here? Why are you like people?
Why are you here? Why are you here? Wasting energy. Get out of my face.
The reason I deleted tick tock last night because I was looking at I was looking at a video and it was talking about political stuff.

(01:01:03):
And it said something about, you know, who's victory and the comments I wrote alleged victory because I feel like that nigga cheated.
And somebody responded and they were like, well, she certified the election yesterday.
It was like a paragraph and I was like, OK, I said what I said, alleged victory.

(01:01:24):
And they came back and said, well, I'm just saying for context, this happened.
Yes. Who asked you for your context? Also, that's another thing, too.
The combativeness. Right. I can't enjoy it. It used to be a dance app. Niggas used to be on it.
You remember that stupid dance they did with the bunny?
Like, yeah, people used to dance and have fun and like it's weird.

(01:01:49):
And I don't mind political content to a certain degree. Right.
Because I believe people need to be aware. But at the same time, it's just like, y'all niggas laugh.
You got two minutes left for this fucking app. Laugh.
And it was it was like an informative post.
And the alleged victory was supposed to be somewhat funny because I still don't believe that nigga won.
I'm going to say alleged victory always. I don't care what you say. Who certified what?

(01:02:13):
Cheater's. Allegedly, that nigga won.
So many weird things came out after that that I was. Yeah.
That made me say allegedly. Yeah.
So it was an eight point five that was responding.

(01:02:34):
Baby, I didn't ask you for your context. You could have scrolled on about your business.
It always is. Thank you. Bye. Always is.
And that's why I said, like, no tea, no shade.
Like, I just one of my main focus this year for the podcast is to focus on the 13 percent.
Like, I mean, we need joy. We need laughter.

(01:02:57):
We need inspiration, education, knowledge, all that good shit.
All this other stuff is for the birds.
Listen. And y'all, they already in the middle of a civil war now because
Elon Musk got Trump up there like to peddle with the little puppet strings

(01:03:19):
and Maggis having a full meltdown.
So they finished start a civil war within each other. Go ahead.
Please. All this white on white crime. This is not hooligans.
Who? Bugs. Oh, bugs.
Can you believe this? Ask me if y'all should go back to Europe.
I would say, do it. Do it.

(01:03:45):
I'm sorry. No, I think I think there are good white people.
I think there are good black people. I think there's good Hispanic, Latino, Asian.
There's good people like we have to get out of this.
This thing of there's not.
There's not hope. Like, people are just bad and crazy shit is happening.

(01:04:07):
That is not the case. There's still plenty of good out there in the world that exists.
And that's that's going to be the focus is bringing joy back because joy is something that has become.
It feels joy shouldn't be a reward. And what I mean by that is joy is a natural thing that should just exist as long as we as humans exist.

(01:04:30):
Will it always exist? No, because also like life, like shit happens.
You have balance always. But for so many times when good things happen to us, we don't really know how to act.
There's always this reservation. I don't know.
I mean, we just don't know how to live in the moment.
So it's like we're in this moment, but we don't know it.

(01:04:52):
I'm not saying you're right. I mean, you are.
I'm not saying that you're wrong. I'm just saying that you're right.
You're just waiting for the opportunity. Yeah.
You just waiting for something bad. And that's not normal or natural.
And I or at least not in my opinion now, any therapists or doctors out there, I would love a good conversation challenge.

(01:05:15):
sense to me. So it's like, you know what? Balance. Let's figure it out together so we can be as
peaceful and prosperous as we can, no matter what happens with whatever is going to happen in the
next four years. Like whatever happens, we can find peace. We can, we can fight forward
and we can keep going. And like being happy in the process of that is really the biggest thing

(01:05:41):
at this point. So y'all will see a lot of that in season two. And I think a lot of that comes with
not being chronically online anymore. Like Hope was saying earlier, the social media fatigue has
set in real bad right about now. So I think, I think a little bit about happiness is realizing,

(01:06:06):
like she said, they're good people. There are great people everywhere outside of the internet
and our apps and we just have to go find them. So that is, that's the goal. And I think everybody
needs to touch grass again. Like I genuinely do. I think, and it sounds so old and I know,

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say what y'all want to say, but I, again, and it could just be me being a child of social media,
like that, like he was saying, you know, we were talking about it earlier, like that fatigue has
set in and it's just like, also it is not of the same quality it used to be. So it's just like,

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it's a combination of things, but I feel like we as people, it has brought us together in so many
ways and torn us apart in so many ways. And as far as like the tearing apart, I'm going to be frank,
these people were always here. These feelings were always here. I'm not going to blame that on social
media. Like you don't just get on social media and become a bigot. That's not how that works.

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That shit has always been who you are. You can just perpetuate it now that you have a platform
to do so. That's it. But that doesn't mean that I have to allow it to shape my life in any kind of
way, because you want to be a terrible person. There are many people out there that I can connect
with who are not. So they're, like I said, there's, it has, it has had its benefits and it's brought
so much joy, but I think it is good to disconnect at least even for a little while, just to kind of

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remember that you are human and this is outside of your functionality, right? Like you didn't need
this to function and be happy before. You're not going to need it if it disappears or if it stays.
Go live whatever life that you have to actually live. And I, like I said, for me personally,
I always find myself more productive when I'm not on social media, which is crazy, but like I,

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I find myself getting more done. I find myself happier. Like, and this has got to mean something,
right? Like why, what, what is this? But, you know, who knows, who knows? But as far as like
back to the main topic of, um, emotional decisions and decision-making, if anything, I guess I would

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just, in my part of it and saying like, trust yourself. Um, if you're not in a place where you
feel like you can trust yourself, then be analytical and logical when it comes to your decision-making.
Take your time and make sure you're doing what's best for you. Ultimately what's best for you.
I'm not saying don't take other people into consideration, um, because we are humans and

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we try not to hurt other people's feelings, especially those that we care about. And we want
to be considerate and kind. That's, that's, you know, that's part of being here and being alive
and actually actively trying to be a good person. But at the end of the day, you do have to do what's
best for you. And like I said, if there's any logic or reasoning that it's just not, you,

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it's not clicking, take your time to do what's best for you. Um, and then once you build up that
strength to just actively know, you know what, I'm better than this or I deserve better than this or
whatever the case may be. Cause even in Atticus's example of, you know, leaving his former job,
I'm not going to put his tea out there, but based off of what happened, that was, that was an

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incredibly valid response. Um, so he was in the wrong at all. And I would say hope as of today,
probably would have done the exact same thing. Um, so yeah. And, and it, it did, like you said,
it paid off. So, I mean, it comes to a point of just like trusting yourself and knowing and feeling
like you're doing the right thing and acting on that. So it, and it's a talent and it comes with

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Tom and it comes with better understanding. And maybe you have the ability to do it right now,
which is incredible. And that's awesome. Just, you know, understand all the moving parts and,
and do your part to keep yourself going again and do what's best for you. What, what else you got on
it, Addie? Um, the only thing I would say is pretty much echoing everything you said, just make sure

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you are going to be okay. I would just caution people about reacting immediately with their
emotions, like right in this exact second. And I know some people have like, that's an actual
problem for some people. Like once they hit that fever pitch level, ain't no stopping what's about
to happen. Yeah. But I would ask you to try to remove yourself a little bit from the situation

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right then. Just kind of, kind of get out of your head for a second. Think about it. The decision,
the decision you make is going to be made by your emotion regardless. Like this, this piss me off.
I can't, I can't work with this type of shit here. So I need to do the next thing, then start
working on what that next thing is. And if you can leave right then or whatever that is, whether

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that be a relationship with a family member, a friend, a job, if you can do it right then and be
okay, fine. I would just say have faith that you're going to be okay. Because in my head,
all I can see is like, I have always been okay. Thank God. And I feel like

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in my soul, I always will be okay. So that kind of played a factor in doing what,
what I did in the first place. I love that. But yeah, I want people to think like that. Like no
matter what happens, you're going to be okay. So just make sure you're okay. Remove yourself for a
moment, then come back to it. You're going to be, you're going to be all right doing what you need

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to do. But yes, we about to get out of here. But before we go, I have a question for everybody.
And I want y'all to try to answer it. We'll answer on our next episode. Question is,
what are the unspoken agreements you have made with yourself? And how might breaking or shifting
these agreements free you from limiting patterns? Right, one more time. What are the unspoken

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agreements you have made with yourself? And how might breaking or shifting these agreements free
you from limiting patterns? I saw that question. I thought that was an interesting one to even try
to figure out myself. That's another reason I was like, I don't want to answer this today.
I feel like I need to think on it. So it's a really good question. Yes. When we come back next

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time, then we'll answer those questions for you. But that's actually all I have for this week. You
got anything else? Nope, that's it for me too for him. Awesome. Well, thank you guys for tuning in
again. Glad to see you. Happy new year. All that great stuff. Happy new year. See y'all next week.
Happy new year. See y'all next week. See y'all next week. Season two. Season two.