#TheLearnGrowGoLife – Learning, Growing, and Letting Go - #TheAuthenticLife

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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hi, it's your girl, keisha, and welcome to the
Authentic Life.
Each episode, I'll guide you onthe journey to living fully,
freely and unapologetically.
Together, we'll dive into realstories, practical insights and
steps you can take to embraceyour truth and show up as your
most authentic self.
So guess what?
I am glad that you are herewith me.
Let's get started.
Hello, hello, hello and welcomeback to the Authentic Life, the

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space where we explore what itreally means to live fully, to
live freely and, mostimportantly, to live
unapologetically as our trueself.
If you're new here, I'm Keisha,I'm your host, I'm your guide
and, by the end of this, I mightjust be your accountability
partner on this journey.
So, whether you're tuning infrom your car, your office or

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your favorite cozy corner athome, your girl is just glad
that you decided to be here withher today.
Now, before we dive in, I wantto do some thank yous.
I have to take a moment tothank every single person who
has embraced hashtag theauthentic life journey with me.
So, whether you've downloadedthe podcast, you shared it with

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your friends or you just tunedin and listened, you are
incredible and I am so gratefuland I am so appreciative and I
want to give a special shout outto those special people who
actually took this a stepfurther and purchased some
hashtag the authentic life merch.
Seeing you wear and share themessage of living authentically

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fills me with so much joy and somuch gratitude.
You're not just listening, youactually are living it.
So thank you for showing up andshowing out for yourself and
for this community.
Now remember this this wasn'tagain the launch of just the
launch of the authentic life.
It's the launch of somethingthat just might change your life
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Okay, so let's dive into whatwe're going to talk about today.
Last week, we talked about andexplored the power of boundaries
and hashtag the boundary life.
We uncovered how settinghealthy boundaries creates the
freedom to live authentically,and I share some practical
strategies for navigating theguilt that often comes with just
saying something as simple asno.
Well, today we're shiftinggears to focus on something

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equally foundational.
Now, I know last week I said wewere going to talk about
hashtag the freedom life, but Ichanged that.
This week is actually going tobe hashtag the learn, grow, go
life.
This idea is all about embracinglife's lessons, growing through
challenges and knowing whenit's time to move forward, even
when that means saying goodbye.

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Let's be real Learning, growingand letting go are not always
easy, but they are essentialparts of living authentically.
So grab you some coffee, grabyou some tea, or maybe grab you
a glass of wine.
Hey, you might even want topick up your journal, because
you know I give some tips andstrategies and some nuggets.
Whatever you may do, let's diveinto how to embrace hashtag the

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learn, grow, go life.
Let's dive into how to embracehashtag the learn, grow, go life
.
Okay, so today we're divinginto hashtag the learn, grow, go
life.
This is a concept rooted inthree powerful actions Learning
from life's experiences, growingfrom those experiences and

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knowing when, to what I like tocall have the gift of goodbye,
aka letting it go.
Each of these actions aredeeply interconnected.
They create a cycle ofreflection, transformation and
renewal.
So to truly live hashtag theauthentic life, we must lean

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into these moments, even whenthey challenge us.
And, believe me, I knowfirsthand how uncomfortable
growth and especially letting gocan feel.
But they're the key tounlocking your purpose and
living in alignment with yourtruth.
So we're about to break thesethree things down.

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We're going to break it up inthree parts the power of
learning, the power of growingand the power of the gift of
goodbye.
So let's start with thelearning.
Life is constantly teaching uslessons, but the real question
is are we paying attention towhat it's teaching us?
Learning isn't just aboutacquiring knowledge.

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It's about that thing.
I keep talking aboutself-awareness and curiosity.
It's about observing how youshow up in situations, how you
respond to others, how othersrespond to you, and what
patterns keep repeating in yourlife.
For example, I want you tothink about a time when you kept

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facing the same problem overand over and over again.
It might have been arelationship, it might have been
at work, it might even havebeen within yourself work, it
might even have been withinyourself.

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What I want to ask you is didyou stop to ask yourself what is
this situation trying to teachme?
Why do I keep experiencing thesame thing over and over and
over?
Am I learning what I need to belearning?
Am I paying attention what Ineed to be learning?
Am I paying attention?
For me, one of the biggestlessons that I have had to learn

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, that I am continuing to learn,is to let go of the need for
control.
I used to think, if I plannedeverything perfectly.
If I showed up the way I neededto show up, if I poured into
everybody's cup but my own,nothing could go wrong.

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But this is the spoiler alertthat I got.
Life doesn't work that way.
I had to learn that sometimesthe lesson that I was supposed
to learn was in the surrenderingof not doing the thing, and
surrendering doesn't mean givingup.

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It means trusting that, evenwhen things don't go my way,
they are working for my good.
Another lesson I've learned isabout overcommitting.
Remember I talked about that inmy bound hashtag, the boundary
life.
I used to say yes to everythingat work, everything, everything
and sometimes I still do.

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I mean, but you know it'sdefinitely because I want to,
not because I feel like I needto, but I was doing that because
I was trying to prove my value.
Remember I said I was trying toprove my value as a team player
, not only at work.
I was doing that inrelationships too, saying yes to
stuff.
I didn't want to say yes todoing stuff I didn't want to do,

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trying to prove my value to thepeople that was in my life, but
instead it left me feelingdrained and resentful and
ultimately unable to give mybest in either of those
situations, not the best best ofme.
So what was the lesson?
What was I supposed to learn?
What was the real lesson?

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Overcommitting doesn't make mevaluable.
Overcommitting just makes mesomebody that over commits and
show shows people that I willover commit, so that they will
then ask me to over commit.
Knowing your limits and showingup fully where you're needed

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does show your value, though.
That's the lesson that I had tolearn.
Not that I need to over committo prove my value to anybody,
but that I that I need toovercommit to prove my value to
anybody, but that I don't needto overcommit because I know my
limits and showing up fully whenI'm needed to show up fully,
I'm able to do that.
The beautiful thing aboutlearning is that it doesn't

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require perfection.
It just requires presence.
Are you present enough in yourown life to see the lessons
unfolding in real time?
Are you willing to ask yourselfwhat is this teaching me,
instead of just reacting towhat's happening and saying why

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is this happening to me?
What is the lesson you'resupposed to be learning if you
keep going through the supposedto be learning, if you keep
going through the same thing,and even if you're not going
through the same thing.
Something just happens.
What is this teaching me?
What am I supposed to learnfrom this thing, instead of
reacting to what's actuallyhappening?

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So here's some practice you cantry this week.
Reflect on one recent experiencethat didn't go as planned.
Write down three things youlearned from it, even if it was
hard or messy.
What wisdom can you take fromit?
Because learning doesn't erasepain, it just gives you purpose.

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Now here are some additionalways that you can cultivate a
mindset of learning.
First, practice reflection.
Take a few minutes at the endof each day to reflect.
Ask yourself questions likewhat went well today?
What challenged me today?
What did I learn from thethings that went well or that

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challenged me today?
What challenged me today?
What did I learn from thethings that went well or that
challenged me today?
Write your thoughts down in ajournal and what that can do is
help you see patterns and trackyour growth over time, because a
lot of times we don't noticeour patterns because we're in
the midst of the thing.
We don't take time to see whatto do, reflection or to see what

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lessons we were supposed tolearn.
We're just trying to figure out.
Why is this happening to meright now.
Why am I dealing with this?
Why am I going through this,all the things, and we don't
ever really notice our patternsright.
That's that self-awareness.
That's that self-reflection.
The next is seek some feedback.
Sometimes the best lessons comefrom the people around us.
Don't be afraid to ask trustedfriends, mentors or colleagues

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for their honest perspective.
Their insights can shine alight on things that you may not
have noticed on your own orthat you've paid attention to.
Next, stay curious.
Approach life with curiosityinstead of judgment.
When something unexpectedhappens, instead of saying why
me?
Try asking what's here for meto learn.
That's a shift in perspectivethat can open the door to deeper

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understanding.
And this is my favorite one.
I have said this in hashtag theboundary life Celebrate your
small wins.
Learning doesn't only come fromchallenges.
Pay attention to what you'redoing well and celebrate those
moments.
Recognizing your strengths helpyou build confidence and
reinforce positive patterns.

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So let me leave you with thisthought in the power of learning
.
Life is a classroom and everyexperience, may it be good or
bad, is the teacher.
The question is are you readyto be the student?
Remember, I want you to takesome time to reflect on a moment

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in your life that feltchallenging or disappointing.
What did you learn from it?
How has the lesson shaped you?
If you paid attention andfigured out what the lesson was,
then share your reflectionswith me on LinkedIn, on
Instagram, or send a text andI'll post it to the podcast
website so that we can begin tobuild this community Now.

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Next up, we're going to starttalking about the power of
growing.
Ok, so now let's talk growth.
Growth is where the magicactually happens.
But let's be honest, it is notalways glamorous.
Growth stretches you, itchallenges you and sometimes it
feels like it's breaking you.
But you see, here's the truth.

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Growth is shaping you into theperson you're meant to be.
It's like pruning a treecutting away what's no longer
needed to make room for newgrowth.
One thing I've had to learnabout growth is that it requires
action.
It's not enough for me to justlearn the lesson.
I have to apply it.
So think of it like planting aseed Learning is the seed, but

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growth is the care and effortyou pour into nurturing that
seed, watering it, giving itsunlight and, most importantly,
protecting it from harm.
So without action, that seedwon't grow into anything
meaningful.
Sometimes growth means doingthe hard, uncomfortable things,

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like setting those boundariesthat we don't like to set, or
that we've been avoidingStepping outside of our comfort
zone to pursue a new opportunity, or having a difficult
conversation that we keepputting off and keep putting off
because we keep shrinkingourselves to fit into somebody

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else's square.
Whatever the case may be, growthhappens when you take what
you've learned and you use it tomake changes, even when it
feels scary, so I want to givean example about the workplace
when you think about growth.
So, when I do coaching, I usethis learn, grow, go concept in

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every coaching session that Ihave.
I even use it with my employees, so we talked about the learn.
The learn is you learn as muchas you can in that space, in
that place that you occupy on aregular basis.
Then you grow.
You grow as much as you can inthat work environment that you
are in.
The issue that we have, though,is that we always look at growth

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as positionality.
It's positional for us.
If we're not movingpositionally within an
organization, we're not growing,but when I think about this
learn, grow, go concept, I'mtalking about growing as a
person growing individually,professionally, personally,

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mentally, spiritually,physically, emotionally that
over time in that organization,you are growing that who you
were your first day of work andwho you will be on your last day
of work at that place is notthe same person.
It's a better version of theperson that walked in that door

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on the first day.
But we get so caught up in notlearning what we need to learn
and then growing as much as wecan in that space, getting as
much knowledge, as much power aswe can, and power is not always
about telling somebody what todo.
You can tell somebody what todo all day and still have no

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power.
Boo.
So how do we grow in thesespaces?
The thing that I tell people andI'm gonna try real hard not to
get to goodbye, because growingand goodbye for me are go hand
in hand, so I talk about them,because growing and get by for
me go hand in hand, so I talkabout them interchangeably.
However, this is what I tellpeople when I coach people when

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you work in an organization.
We are so loyal to theorganizations in which we work
and you should be to an extent.
We just take it to an extreme.
We are so loyal that we don'tleave a place.
We stay there forever.
We mad, we sad.
We make everybody's lifemiserable.
Don't leave a place.
We stay there forever.
We mad, we sad.
We make everybody's lifemiserable because we're not

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growing positionally, or we'renot growing in the way that we
feel we should be growing, orour pockets ain't growing the
way that we want them to grow.
What I tell people is, in thatlearning and that growing phase,
you should be so committed andso loyal to what your purpose is
and what you're supposed to bedoing in your life that you're

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going to learn as much as youcan, you're going to grow as
much as you can and then you'regoing to go.
But that's not what we do.
We stay in places and in spaces, specifically in the workplace,
way too long and we're notgrowing.
We're not nurturing ourselves,we're nurturing that

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organization, we're pouring intothat organization, we're
watering that organization.
We're giving that organizationsunlight.
We're protecting thatorganization sunlight.
We're protecting thatorganization from harm.
But when we think about our ownselves, we're not doing the
same thing because in our mindis not positional, so I'm not

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growing.
I've been here for five yearsand I haven't grown.
If you've been somewhere forfive years and you haven't grown
and I'm not even talking aboutpositionally.
Just, you haven't grown.
That's something that you needto be thinking about with
yourself, not that company thatyou work for.
So I say, all that to say isthat we're so loyal to these
organizations that we forget tobe loyal to ourselves, and then
we don't grow in these spaces.

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And so growing is aboutknowledge.
How can I get more knowledge?
People ask me all the time howI've been able to progress the
way that I have.
It's because I take advantageof the spaces in which I occupy.
I learn as much as I can learn,whether it's in my lane or
outside my lane, and because Ichoose to learn things outside

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my lane, it puts me in positionto be able to grow outside my
lane.
What people have to understandwhen you're thinking about
growing?
We get so caught up becausewe're so loyal to organizations
and we want organizations to beequally loyal to us that when we
think about growing and wethink about the growth journey
within our careers and withinthe organizations in which we

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work, it always has to be inward.
I will tell anybody that growthis not always about growing
within something.
It can be growing outside ofsomething, and sometimes it's
more important for you to growoutside that thing than it is
for you to grow inside thatthing.
But you got to be willing toplant your seed.

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Learning is the seed.
Care for that and put someeffort into nurturing the seed,
the learning, and you are theseed.
Water.
You give you sunlight, protectyou from harm, and you will see
greater difference.
When you think about that Now,that's the workplace.

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Now, when we think about therelationships that we have with
people, may they be family,their friend, may they be
friends, partners, whatever thecase may be, use the same
concept because just as loyal aswe are to organizations, we'd
be too loyal to people thatain't loyal to us back.
It's the same concept.

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And may it be your workplace orin a relationship with someone,
may it be a friend, a partneror whatever the case may be, you
should be growing in spaces andplaces.
So if you got a partner, youwith somebody, you got a group
of friends that you with on aregular basis, you should always
be growing.
If I move this way, y'all movethis way.

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If you move this way, I movethis way, we should always be
growing.
What is the added value of mebeing in this space, of me
occupying this space, of youoccupying my time of me, of me
occupying your time.
How am I growing in thosespaces?
Right, how are we getting to aplace of learning and growing at

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the same time?
So growth isn't always aboutsomething big and dramatic.
Sometimes growth is those small, consistent steps that we take
every day, because growthdoesn't have to be perfect, it
just has to be intentional.
So be intentional about yourstuff.
Don't be in a situation where,oh, I'm just ready to be in a

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leadership role, but I don'tlike the people with the people
and I got a bad attitude.
Be intentional about that.
Or I'm ready to lead this placebecause these people getting on
my nerves.
Then you start applying forevery job that there is under
the sun and you're not beingintentional when you're thinking

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about growing and you'rethinking about your life and
upward mobility and forwardmovement, you have to be
intentional.
We have to embrace growth in apractical way.
So with that, I'm going to giveyou a couple of strategies to
help you take some meaningfulsteps into growth.
The first is identify an areathat you need to grow in.
Start reflecting on where youfeel stuck or challenged in your
life.
It could be in yourrelationships, your career, your
health or even your mindset.

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Ask yourself what's one thingI've been avoiding because it
feels uncomfortable, or where doI see an opportunity to improve
or evolve?
Write that thing down.
Name of the area where you wantto grow gives you clear
starting points on how to startthat process.
Number two break it down intosmall, actionable steps.
We try to do too much.

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Growth doesn't happen overnight, and trying to tackle too much
at once can lead to burnout.
Growth doesn't happen overnightand trying to tackle too much
at once can lead to burnout.
Instead, think about thesmallest step you can take this
week to move closer to your goal.
So, for example, if you want toimprove your relationships,
reach out to someone andschedule a meaningful
conversation.
If you're focused on careergrowth, spend about 30 minutes

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updating your resume or LinkedInprofile.
If you're working on self-care,commit to one thing this week,
like going for a walk or sayingno to something that you don't
want to do or that feelsoverwhelming.
The key is keeping itmanageable.
Small steps lead to big changesover time.
The last one, same like thelearning practice reflection.

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Growth requires self-awareness,and self-awareness comes from
reflection.
At the end of each day, askyourself what went well today,
what challenged me?
What did I learn about myselfthrough these experiences?
Writing your reflections in ajournal can help you do what?
See your patterns and trackyour process.
You see, or your progress.

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You see.
Learning and growing is not thatdifferent.
I'm giving you similarstrategies.
Next is seek accountability.
We've already talked about that.
Get feedback from other peopleand continue to celebrate those
small wins.
So here's your growth challenge.
What's one area in your lifewhere you know you need to grow?
Identify it and then take onestep towards moving that thing

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forward this week.
It doesn't have to be perfect,but it does have to be
intentional.
Remember, growth might feelmessy and uncomfortable, but
it's about shaping you into theperson that you're meant to be,
okay.
So, finally, we're in the endpart where we are talking about

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embracing the gift of goodbye.
We're finally talking aboutletting that thing go.
This is the part that tripsmost of us up, because saying
goodbye, whether it's to aperson, a job or even the old
version of ourselves, can feellike a failure.
But let me tell you, letting gois absolutely not a failure.

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It's actually freedom.
It can be in some cases.
Peace is actually freedom.
It can be, in some cases, peace.
Letting go isn't about erasingthe past, so you shouldn't be
trying to erase what was.
It's about making space forwhat's next.
Every time we hold on tosomething that no longer serves

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us, it's taking up space thatcould be filled with something
better, but we can't.
A lot of times, we can't seethe better.
So, whether it's a job, a toxicrelationship, a limiting belief
or even some outdated goal thatis holding you, that's holding

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on too long and it's keeping usstuck, we got to understand and
this is something that I havehad to work on myself over time
is that letting go is a form ofself-love, and trusting yourself
that you're making the rightdecision is trusting that what's

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ahead is worth more than whatyou're leaving behind, no matter
how much you want to stay inthat thing.
So let's take the job scenario.
You've been on your job for 10years.
You come to work, mad every day, got attitude.

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Somebody asks you how your daygoing?
I'm good.
You so angry because you stuckin that growing space.
Right, because you are viewinggrowing as positionality.
It's positional.
I haven't.
I've been working here for 10years and all these jobs have
posted and I haven't gotten ajob.

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Well, this is what I willchallenge you with on that.
Why are you still there Ifyou've been somewhere for 10
years and you feel like youshould have grown?
Why?
Why you feel like you got togrow inside something?
Why haven't you had the gift ofgoodbye?

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What's holding you there?
What's keeping you there?
Why haven't you?
This is what we like to say topeople.
When somebody shows us who theyare, believe them the first
time.
Y'all have heard that quote,right?
Y'all seen it on social media.
You've probably said it tosomebody.

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When somebody show you who theyare, believe them the first
time.
Y'all don't do that with y'allfriends and families and y'all
romantic partners.
But why y'all don't do thatwith y'all jobs?
Because partners.
But why y'all don't do thatwith y'all jobs?
Because I guarantee you, in 10years, they showed you who they
was the first time, meaning youmay have applied for multiple

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jobs and you never got aninterview.
One thing that I can alwaysappreciate is someone that has
worked in a place, has appliedfor several positions and either
has not gotten an interview orhas gotten an interview but
hasn't gotten a job, and takesthe initiative to follow up with
the hiring manager to say hey,keisha, I've been working here

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for 10 years and I keep applyingfor jobs in the division, but
I'm not getting an interview.
Or I'm interviewing but I'm notgetting the position.
Can you tell me what's going onor why I may not be progressing
?
That's growth.

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Progressing, that's growth andthat's putting you in a position
to might not have to say thegift of goodbye, because that
conversation can very wellprovide you with information
that can help you grow withinthat organization.
Or if you have someone like methat will be honest and say, hey

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, you have the job knowledge,but this position requires
leadership, and right now Idon't have any positions that
can get you the leadershipexperience that you need.
Now we can look to see if thereare other spaces on campus
where you can potentiallyvolunteer or do some other
things that can get you theleadership experience.

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However, if you can't get theleadership experience and you
have a desire to be in aleadership role, then that means
that you may have to leave thisplace, go to another place and
get said experience and comeback to this place If you choose

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to after you have left.
You may or may not want to, butwhat we need to understand,
especially in our jobs, is wecontrol our happiness.
It is not your job'sresponsibility to make you happy
every day.
It is their responsibility tocreate an environment where you
can thrive.

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The moment that you're not happyin a space, in a place, you
need to determine whether or notwhat you're doing on a regular
basis aligns with those valuesthat I told you to write in the
first episode, and if they don't, then you may need to be
intentional about what your nextsteps are and you might have to
ultimately give them the giftof goodbye and go somewhere else

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.
But no, that's not what we do.
What we do is we stay in placesand we're mad and in our
feelings all the time and wemake everybody around us
miserable because we don't havethe gift of goodbye.
Now, I'm not saying this tojudge anybody that operates and
functions in that way, becausewe all have done it at some
point in our careers.
But what I am doing is tryingto get you to understand that it

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is your responsibility todetermine what your path is and
intentionally live along thatpath, and sometimes that comes
with the gift of goodbye.
That doesn't mean that you stayin a place forever, that you
stay in a place for 20 years andhope they give you the job that
you want.
When they done showed youalready yo, we not hiring you

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for this.
We might not hire you fornothing, and it doesn't hurt to
leave a place.
You don't have to leave a placeangry.
You don't have to leave a placelike I hate that place.
I never worked there again.
This isn't the place that I wasmeant to grow in.
So I need to go and be okaywith that.

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There's nothing wrong with that.
I get wanting to stay in anorganization and grow and be
there forever.
I get that.
I understand, 100% understandthat the thing with that.
When you decide that that'swhat you wanna do, that you
wanna retire from this place, ifthat's what you choose to do,
then you also have to understandthat there is the possibility

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that where I sit right now, Imay never be go beyond that
space and I can't be mad atnobody but me, because if I'm
not taking the time to learn asmuch as I can learn, grow as
much as I can go, grow andremember that is not always
positionally and I choose tostay in this place because I'm
not progressing the way that Ishould.

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That's on you, not on theemployer.
And then let's think aboutpersonal relationships.
A lot of times, one of thehardest goodbyes is walking away
from a relationship that doesnot align with your values.
We hold on to those things waylonger than we should, out of

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various reasons.
It can be afraid of the unknown, whether or not you can find
something better.
Are you making the right choiceor the wrong choice?
These questions will keep youclinging on to something that
you should not be clinging on to.
And the the funny thing is iswhen we decide to let go of
stuff, may it be a job orrelationship, we discover peace,

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clarity and a deeper connectionwith ourself, because we're so
consumed with that thing that wecan't see clear.
Our heads are so far up in theclouds that we can't see nothing
, and we end up holding on tosomething that doesn't serve us,
and I wholeheartedly believethat it blocks our blessings and

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opportunities that are waitingon the other side.
Ultimately, we're fearing theunknown, false evidence
appearing real, instead ofembracing something new and
something powerful.
I know letting go is hardbecause it forces us to confront
our fears.
It makes us question what we'reafraid of losing and whether
that fear is rooted in realityor just our imagination.
And oftentimes it's not theloss itself that holds us back,

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it's the fear of change, thefear of discomfort, the fear of
stepping into the unknown.
But here's the truth Having thegift of goodbye is less about
losing something and more aboutgaining space for what truly
aligns with your values, yourgrowth and your purpose.
Every goodbye, I promise you,creates room for a new beginning
.

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So here's a reflection exercisefor you.
Think about something you'reholding on to that no longer
serves you.
Maybe it's a habit, a mindsetor relationship.
Ask yourself these twoquestions what am I afraid of
losing if I let this go, andwhat do I gain if I release it?
Write your answers down and sitwith them, because sometimes

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just naming the thing you needto release is the first step
towards getting you closer toyour freedom.
And this exercise isn't aboutrushing the process.
It's only about creatingawareness and opening the door
to the possibility, becausesometimes letting go takes time,
and that's on your time notnobody's time, but yours.
So don't let me sit on thispodcast and tell you to go, quit

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your job or leave your boo.
That's not what I'm saying.
What I'm saying is you need totake the step towards creating
that awareness on whether or notyou need to leave that job or
leave that boo.
Now here's some practical wayson how you can embrace the gift
of goodbye.
Reflect regularly and I willkeep saying this Set aside time

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to reflect on what's working inyour life and what's not.
Do these people in these thingsalign with my value?
Does this job align with myvalues?
Does this relationship alignwith my values?
Is this job or is thisrelationship helping me grow or
holding me back?
Reflection helps when yourecognize when it's time to let
go.
Remember I said change is aboutacknowledging what you have to

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change, and sometimes we got tosit in that for a minute before
we have forward movement, andthat's okay.
The other thing is start small.
Letting go doesn't have to bebig and dramatic.
Determine what you need tochange, what's no longer serving
you, and then build yourconfidence to let that thing go.

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Focus on the gain, not the loss.
Instead of dwelling on whatyou're leaving behind, think
about what you're making roomfor.
Maybe it's a healthierrelationship, more clarity or
the opportunity to pursue apassion that you've been
neglecting.
Whatever the case may be, takesome time to think about that

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Letting go is about embracinguncertainty.
It's trusting that, even thoughyou can't see what's ahead, it's
going to be worth it.
Growth often comes fromstepping into the unknown and
trusting that you have what ittakes to navigate whatever comes
your way.
Remember the gift of goodbyeisn't about failure, it's about
freedom.
It's about freedom.
It's about creating space forwhat truly aligns with your

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values, your purpose and yourauthentic self.
So I challenge you to thinkabout one thing you're ready to
release it could be as simple asa mindset that's holding you
back, or as big as arelationship that is no longer
serving you and take one smallstep towards letting that thing
go and see how it feels.

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I would be the first one to saythat embracing the gift of
goodbye is difficult.
Letting things go, especiallyletting things go that you love,
is difficult, but the one thingthat I have constantly been
telling myself is you can't lovethat thing more than you love
yourself.
So get the confidence and thestrength that you need to say

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goodbye, because it's light onthe other side.
I promise you it's light on theother side.
It's peace there, it's claritythere, there's freedom there.
All right, folks.
Well, that's the end.
That's the hashtag learn, grow,go life right.

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For me, as I've mentioned, it istruly about learning as much as
you can from your life'sexperiences and growing as much
as you can through those lifeexperiences.
And remember growing is notalways positional.

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We always feel that we have topositionally be growing in order
for growth to be occurring, andthat is not the case.
And last but not least, pleaseembrace the gift of goodbye.
Take it from someone who hasstruggled specifically in her
personal life with the gift ofgoodbye.
Take it from someone who hasstruggled specifically in her
personal life with the gift ofgoodbye In my career.

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I will leave a job in a minuteand let me tell you something.
My son has definitely my son'sgeneration.
He's 24.
Their gift of goodbye is realstrong.
We could all take a lesson fromtheir gift of goodbye in
employment.
Because let me tell yousomething, boy, you do one
little thing that he don't like.
He out of there, he gone.

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But I digress.
But embrace the gift of goodbye.
I know it takes a lot, butdetermine what that thing is.
Sit in that thing for a minuteand then begin the journey.
But give yourself grace.
Do not beat yourself up if youare not letting things go on

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other people's time.
It is not about other people,it's about you.
But make sure that you'retaking care of you in those
moments where you are notletting go, when you need to let
go, that you're not learningfrom life's experiences, you're
not growing through thoseexperiences.
Right, give yourself grace.
Be nice to yourself Just asnice as you are to other people.

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Do that for yourself.
You know those 50 chances thatyou give other people that you
ain't let go of yet.
Give yourself a couple of thosechances, too, when you're
trying to let them go.
Remember, this process is notlinear, so some days you're
going to feel like you'rethriving and on other days,
trust me, you're going to feellike you're just out here
surviving, but that's okay.

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This week I challenge you toreflect on where you are in the
cycle.
Are you learning?
Are you growing?
Are you at the stage where youneed to give cycle?
Are you learning?
Are you growing?
Are you at the stage where youneed to give somebody the gift
of goodbye?
I so appreciate you all forshowing up for yourself and
showing up for this community.
Your support will always meaneverything to me and, like I

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said earlier, for those peoplethat actually took it a step
further and purchased them somehashtag the authentic life merch
.
Thank you for spreading thatmessage of living fully, freely
and unapologetically.
One thing that I will say thatthis podcast has done for me is
really refresh me and refresh mymind on living hashtag the

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authentic life and reallythinking through when I do these
episodes, there's so much thatgo on in my head and so much
that goes on in my mind about mylife, about where I am
personally, where I amprofessionally and how am I
living.
Hashtag the authentic life.
Hashtag the authentic life.

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Because the one thing that Ineed everybody to take away from
this is that me doing thispodcast isn't about me telling
somebody what to do, because Ihave this perfect life and I
don't have no problems and Idon't have no struggles and I I
do have things that I'm goingthrough, that I do have
struggles, but that you canalways come out on the other
side of those struggles andthose things that you're going
through, and that this is ajourney.
It is not a final destination.
We are all works in progress.

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We will always have things thatwe are working on, that need to
shift and change, and we willbe doing good one day and we
will just be surviving the nextday, but that's okay.
So always remember that, yes,I'm here and I'm giving guidance
and I'm telling you stuff.
Yes, I am, but at the same time, a lot of times I'm talking to

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myself while I'm talking toy'all and I'm recording this.
Sometimes I am talking tomyself, I am a reminder to
myself to love myself, embracemyself, think about what part of
the cycle I am in.
So I am on this journey withyou.
You are not alone.
You are not.

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I'm not going to say, I can'tsay, but nonetheless you are not
alone.
So I appreciate you Until next.
I appreciate you until nexttime.
You keep learning, you keepgrowing and don't be afraid to
let go, but give yourself somegrace if you can't.
You got this.
Peace and blessings your girl,keisha.

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Well, folks, the episode hascome to an end.
Thank you for hanging out withme on the Authentic Life.
If you love today's episode,don't forget to subscribe,
because subscribing is just likean instant invite to more fun,
to more inspiration and to moreauthentic vibes.
I could also use a review, soleave a review or share this

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with someone that you feel needsa little inspiration.
But whatever you do, let'sspread the joy of the authentic
life.
Remember this your authenticself is your greatest gift to
the world and no one should evermake you feel like you aren't.
Until next time, stay true,stay bold and keep living the
authentic life.
Peace, love and blessings fromyour girl, keisha.

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