The Real Reason You’re Avoiding Visibility, Higher Pricing, and Growth

Ever find yourself sabotaging your own success the moment things start working? Yeah, I see you there - saying no to opportunities that could expand your reach, undercharging like it's a badge of honor, or suddenly deciding your perfectly good program needs to be "better" before you can launch it.

Here's the thing nobody talks about in our field: you're not afraid of failing. You're terrified of succeeding. And after working with hundreds of therapists trying to break free from the traditional one-to-one model, I can tell you this fear is keeping some of the most talented, ethical practitioners I know playing impossibly small.

In this episode, I'm getting real about fear of success - the hidden saboteur that's probably running way more of your business decisions than you realize. I share my own story about watching my dad's version of "success" (spoiler: it involved never being home and a stressed-out family), and why I unconsciously decided I wanted nothing to do with that life.

Whether you're stuck in pricing guilt, marketing resistance, or that voice saying "who am I to charge premium rates," this episode gives you the psychological insights and practical tools to rewrite your success story without becoming someone you hate.

Today, I discuss:

• Why fear of success hits therapists harder than other entrepreneurs (and why our helper identity makes scaling feel like betrayal)
• The unconscious "success contracts" you inherited from childhood that are limiting your growth right now
• How I realized my terror of becoming my workaholic father was keeping me from building the impact-driven business I actually wanted
• The real cost of staying small - and why your success fear is literally hurting the people you're meant to serve
• How success anxiety shows up: endless program tweaking, "opportunity amnesia," and that mysterious tech failure right before launches
• Why attachment styles, trauma, and neurodivergence can make success feel genuinely dangerous
• The difference between fear-driven success (hello, burnout culture) and purpose-driven success (sustainable impact that doesn't destroy your life)
• Practical reframes to shift from "I'm being salesy" to "I'm making it easier for my ideal clients to find me"
• Small experiments to build your success tolerance without overwhelming your nervous system

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Links mentioned in this episode:

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Keywords: fear of success, therapist entrepreneur, scaling therapy practice, diversifying income, pricing guilt, marketing resistance, sustai