Episode 27: On the Role of Memory in Healthy Couple Communication

You may have heard some version for the following phrase in reference to couple communication - “You have a perspective. Your partner has a perspective. Then, there is what really happened.” You also likely are familiar with the research on eye-witness testimony that speaks to just how wildly unreliable eye-witness testimony is in a court of law. So, if our memory is seemingly so unreliable, then what’s the point? What is the purpose of memory; and can it be used in a way to enhance couple communication as opposed to escalation disagreement and amplifying already heightened emotions?

In this episode of Therapists’ Take Podcast, Carrie and Josh are going to have a conversation about memory, its limitations, and how it can be most effectively utilized in couple communication. The structure of this episode will be as follows:

- How does memory serve us?

- Why does memory change?

- What are limitations to memory?

- How can memory be properly utilized in couple communication?

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Links:

Topic: Flashbulb Memory | Ep: Free Brian Williams | Revisionist History Podcast | Season 3 Episode 4 - https://youtu.be/Nn7RPk5e4uA?si=RI7b8u4YPO5P2DPN

How Reliable Is Eye-Witness Testimony? - https://www.science.org/content/article/how-reliable-eyewitness-testimony-scientists-weigh

Black Mirror clip - https://youtu.be/hv68PrVbW4k?si=dkcYqyatrm27fsMg

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Therapy Resources:

Therapist Directory: https://www.psychologytoday.com

Betrayal Trauma Therapist Directory: https://iitap.com/search/custom.asp?id=5357

The Gottman Institute (Relationship Research) - https://www.gottman.com/

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About the Hosts

Carrie and Josh are both licensed marital and family therapists (LMFT) that specialize in betrayal trauma recovery. You can read more about them and the work they do on their practice website -https://www.familysolutionsok.com.

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Additionally, check out Mary & Josie’s new podcast by Family Solutions Media called, “Are You in session?” In this podcast, Mary & Josie welcome you into their minds, friendship, and their ever “shrinking” world. You can find it on YouTube (@RecoveryTV4u), Apple Podcast, Spotify, and a variety of other podcast platforms.

And, stay tuned for the newest Family Solutions Media podcast to enter the podcasting universe - Poetry in Layers. In this podcast, therapist, author, and spoken word artist, Carl Patterson, will perform a series of poems with a unique mental health flavor. You don’t want to miss it. So stay tuned.

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