March 12, 2024 • 18 mins
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Settle in and let's chat about the power of 'Crown Confidence.' Tag along as we break down the concept of being a 'queen,' and how true confidence should manifest in every area of our life, whether it's fashion or decision-making.
We talk about changing styles and trends, emphasizing the importance of staying relevant. Plus, we'll share why it's essential to surround yourself with a 'court' of supportive individuals and nurture relationships that are mutually beneficial.
In the second half of our conversation, we draw inspiration from the biblical Queen Esther, discussing the importance of seeking guidance when striving for success. We'll talk about cultivating self-confidence as a bridge to harmony and transformation. This discussion reveals how building your internal and external confidence can be the key to unlocking your potential and achieving your goals.
Let's uncover the game-changing power of nurturing your confidence.
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
you?
Yes, queen, yes, queens.
(00:47):
Can somebody please tell me whyis it so popular that we are
calling each other queens?
I mean that word is being justtossed around to all different
types of women who should bequeens, but I mean the way y'all
(01:13):
out here acting, all I see ispeasant activity.
And all I see is peasantactivity.
And because y'all doing somestuff, man like I'm like who,
(01:38):
what?
What are y'all talking about?
What are you doing?
Who are you following?
And I just need y'all to knowthat a queen has certain
characteristics.
A queen has certain level ofconfidence.
(01:58):
So I have a question for youwhat is your crown confidence
looking like?
I've seen a lot of memes outhere on these social media
streets where you help yoursister put her crown back on her
head, and most of y'all thatpromote that stuff are helping a
(02:20):
person and then talking aboutthem right behind their back,
about whatever it is that theyhave going on.
And the the bigger picture isthat your crown confidence comes
from inside, from withinyourself, everything that is
(02:43):
going on in your mind.
Queens are rulers, and the veryfirst thing that queens need to
rule over is their mind.
What type of mindset do youhave about your life, all of the
(03:06):
decisions that you make aroundyour finances?
What is the mindset that youhave around the hairstyle that
you choose?
What is the mindset around theclothing that you wear?
What is the mindset around thefood that you eat?
What is the mindset around thecar that you drive?
(03:31):
What is the mindset around theplaces that you go to?
What is the mindset around thefriends that you have?
Have you actually looked atyour life and began to rule over
your own life?
Most of the times, we aresimply living lives that have
(03:56):
been handed to us, that havejust occurred, not by design,
but not by purpose, intentionaldesign, but just by life
happening in us, acceptingwhatever comes our way, as this
(04:16):
is my life and life, this is howI'm supposed to live, and I
have to deal with this.
And I am here to tell you thatyou don't have to deal with that
, that at any moment, you canbegin to change your life and
begin to have rulership anddominion over your kingdom.
(04:38):
And part of that is going tostart with the way that you look
and the way that you feel aboutyourself, if you are wearing
your hair or dressing in amanner that is common Sometimes,
(05:05):
when you're operating in theworld, you could be mistaken or
misidentified as something thatyou don't want to be identified
as.
I find it very interesting inthis world of plastic surgery
(05:32):
where body parts are part of astyle.
I just need to know whathappens when that style is no
longer the style.
What happens when the lookchanges?
Right now you got a small waistand big hips.
(05:56):
What's going to be the stylethe next day?
I absolutely love looking at oldmusic videos of the day when I
was growing up in the 90s.
It's almost hysterical becauseyou look at those pictures.
(06:17):
What kind of gear was that youwas wearing to the club,
thinking you were so fly, butyou look like you got your
grandmother's clothes and shoesthe difference between what's
(06:38):
club wear.
Now.
I actually was on a planerecently and I got to see a
remake not a remake, but I guessit was the fourth episode in
House Party.
It was kind of crazy becausethey took the same concept.
(07:00):
I felt like it was lacklusterand a creativity.
They just took everything thatwas from House Party 1, house
Party 2 and transitioned it toright now, 2023.
The thing was when I looked atthe clothes and the dancing that
(07:24):
was being showcased throughout.
I'm like man, what that's?
A whole different vibe and awhole different image than what
we had growing up.
It was just some things thatwere left to be, I guess,
(07:49):
covered up and not as exposed asit is today in these like
social media, streets and onmedia, and I guess that's just a
part of the media and imagery.
They just continue to push theboundaries and push the
(08:10):
boundaries.
And the thing is, as theycontinue to push the boundaries,
we have to make a decision forourselves.
If the line has been pushed,what does that really mean?
Because the, the meaning haschanged, and are we willing to
(08:35):
take part and be a part of whatthat means, based on the image
that we are presenting andportraying to the world?
So, with your, your mindset,the confidence that you have is
(08:56):
started in your mind.
It started with how you feelabout yourself and how you think
about yourself and what you'reconsistently thinking about all
throughout the day.
What, what, whatever you setyour mind to is what you achieve
(09:17):
.
So, whatever you set your mindto, whether it's something
that's beneficial for you in apositive way or is something
negative, that is what you willbe attracted to, because the
truth of the matter is I know weall hear about the law of
(09:37):
attraction and you are you arethe magnet and you have to set
out, set your your magnetic raysout.
You have to send those magneticrays out from the way that you
look, the way that you dress,the way that you're thinking and
(09:59):
whatever you want to attract toyou will come back to you and
it works either way, whetherit's positive or whether it's
negative.
Now, queens, they have courts,and have you really considered
(10:22):
the people, the five people thatyou are spending your time with
?
Who are you talking to andconnecting with on an intimate
level on a day to day?
Are these people aligned withyour values?
Are they supporting you in yourvalues as well as you
(10:46):
supporting them?
I believe that a relationshipshould have some type of
reciprocity to it.
It should not be a all take,take, take should not be a all
give, give, give.
Everybody involved should havean equal part.
Well, I'm not even gonna sayequal, but it's according to
(11:12):
what's gonna work for bothparties.
So check your courtship, checkyour court.
Who are you hanging around withand are you hanging on to old
relationships just because youguys have been friends for
30-something years and reallyyou have nothing to relate to
(11:36):
that person about anymore.
Is that something that shouldbe extinguished?
Should you end thatrelationship, or do you need to
just adjust how you're relatingto that person on a regular
(11:57):
basis?
I personally have friendshipswhere I don't need to talk to
the person every single day.
However, whenever we gettogether and we kick it, it's
like we never missed a beat andwe can catch up where we left
(12:18):
off.
And that's feasible for me,because one of my highest values
is autonomy and freedom, andI'm not the type of person that
needs to have people around meall the time.
(12:40):
I'm not the type of personthat's gonna tell you every
single thing that I'm doingevery single day and yeah, so I
like having freedom.
So those types of relationshipswhere I can just move around
and talk to whenever we talk andwe kick it and it's like old
(13:05):
times, that's what works for me,because it aligns with my
values.
So check your courts.
And one of the things that Ithink about is a story from the
Bible about the queen that wasin preparation to go meet the
(13:31):
king to ask him for somethingfor the sake of her people, and
she was in.
I believe her name is Esther.
She was in the palace preparingfor months and months to meet
(13:52):
the king.
So in that preparation she washaving the elders with her to
culture and she was doing workon her physical appearance.
She was doing work on herspirituality.
(14:14):
She was doing work on herspirituality and what made her
successful is that she did thework and she had support in
getting herself together.
Now it's a lot of us out herewho are just going through life
(14:43):
without anybody by their side.
I cannot tell you the number ofpeople who are wasting valuable
time trying to do somethingthemselves.
When you can get somebody whocan help you do it quicker,
(15:04):
faster and easier and that issomething that I help my clients
do behind the chair, because Ihave experience working with
different people and differenttextures and creating different
looks for people I can help themquicker than them doing their
(15:30):
own research, wasting time goingthrough a bunch of videos of
people who never even had thechance to be in your presence to
even know if they can tell yousomething about what's going to
work well for you.
And when it comes to your imageand your personal, your
(15:55):
presence, how you are portrayingyourself, I think it's
important for you to be able tohave a one-on-one conversation
with the person that is givingyou advice, so that they can
understand what your desires arefor one, your deeper desires
(16:19):
and what your level of skill isinto being able to execute what
it is that you are trying toachieve.
The crown confidence is what isgoing to help you in every area
(16:43):
of your life.
Being confident is somethingthat's going to radiate from the
inside and outside, and it'sgreat when both of those are
working in harmony with eachother.
(17:06):
It's nothing like you heardthat phrase like fake it till
you make it.
Yeah, you can look confident onthe outside and one day it's
going to catch up with you.
If you're not really feelingconfident on the inside and I
(17:34):
experienced that myself I lookedgood on the outside and every
day I would show up for work,helping other people feel good
and look good, but deep down theside, I didn't have the
confidence that I needed, andonce I got that confidence in on
(17:58):
the inside, my whole life beganto change, and it can change
for you once you get thatconfidence.
So remember that you are thequeen.
Stop doing peasant shit and bea queen every day.
Wear your crown confidence,queen.
you?
Yes, queen, yes, queens.
(00:47):
Can somebody please tell me whyis it so popular that we are
calling each other queens?
I mean that word is being justtossed around to all different
types of women who should bequeens, but I mean the way y'all
(01:13):
out here acting, all I see ispeasant activity.
And all I see is peasantactivity.
And because y'all doing somestuff, man like I'm like who,
(01:38):
what?
What are y'all talking about?
What are you doing?
Who are you following?
And I just need y'all to knowthat a queen has certain
characteristics.
A queen has certain level ofconfidence.
(01:58):
So I have a question for youwhat is your crown confidence
looking like?
I've seen a lot of memes outhere on these social media
streets where you help yoursister put her crown back on her
head, and most of y'all thatpromote that stuff are helping a
(02:20):
person and then talking aboutthem right behind their back,
about whatever it is that theyhave going on.
And the the bigger picture isthat your crown confidence comes
from inside, from withinyourself, everything that is
(02:43):
going on in your mind.
Queens are rulers, and the veryfirst thing that queens need to
rule over is their mind.
What type of mindset do youhave about your life, all of the
(03:06):
decisions that you make aroundyour finances?
What is the mindset that youhave around the hairstyle that
you choose?
What is the mindset around theclothing that you wear?
What is the mindset around thefood that you eat?
What is the mindset around thecar that you drive?
(03:31):
What is the mindset around theplaces that you go to?
What is the mindset around thefriends that you have?
Have you actually looked atyour life and began to rule over
your own life?
Most of the times, we aresimply living lives that have
(03:56):
been handed to us, that havejust occurred, not by design,
but not by purpose, intentionaldesign, but just by life
happening in us, acceptingwhatever comes our way, as this
(04:16):
is my life and life, this is howI'm supposed to live, and I
have to deal with this.
And I am here to tell you thatyou don't have to deal with that
, that at any moment, you canbegin to change your life and
begin to have rulership anddominion over your kingdom.
(04:38):
And part of that is going tostart with the way that you look
and the way that you feel aboutyourself, if you are wearing
your hair or dressing in amanner that is common Sometimes,
(05:05):
when you're operating in theworld, you could be mistaken or
misidentified as something thatyou don't want to be identified
as.
I find it very interesting inthis world of plastic surgery
(05:32):
where body parts are part of astyle.
I just need to know whathappens when that style is no
longer the style.
What happens when the lookchanges?
Right now you got a small waistand big hips.
(05:56):
What's going to be the stylethe next day?
I absolutely love looking at oldmusic videos of the day when I
was growing up in the 90s.
It's almost hysterical becauseyou look at those pictures.
(06:17):
What kind of gear was that youwas wearing to the club,
thinking you were so fly, butyou look like you got your
grandmother's clothes and shoesthe difference between what's
(06:38):
club wear.
Now.
I actually was on a planerecently and I got to see a
remake not a remake, but I guessit was the fourth episode in
House Party.
It was kind of crazy becausethey took the same concept.
(07:00):
I felt like it was lacklusterand a creativity.
They just took everything thatwas from House Party 1, house
Party 2 and transitioned it toright now, 2023.
The thing was when I looked atthe clothes and the dancing that
(07:24):
was being showcased throughout.
I'm like man, what that's?
A whole different vibe and awhole different image than what
we had growing up.
It was just some things thatwere left to be, I guess,
(07:49):
covered up and not as exposed asit is today in these like
social media, streets and onmedia, and I guess that's just a
part of the media and imagery.
They just continue to push theboundaries and push the
(08:10):
boundaries.
And the thing is, as theycontinue to push the boundaries,
we have to make a decision forourselves.
If the line has been pushed,what does that really mean?
Because the, the meaning haschanged, and are we willing to
(08:35):
take part and be a part of whatthat means, based on the image
that we are presenting andportraying to the world?
So, with your, your mindset,the confidence that you have is
(08:56):
started in your mind.
It started with how you feelabout yourself and how you think
about yourself and what you'reconsistently thinking about all
throughout the day.
What, what, whatever you setyour mind to is what you achieve
(09:17):
.
So, whatever you set your mindto, whether it's something
that's beneficial for you in apositive way or is something
negative, that is what you willbe attracted to, because the
truth of the matter is I know weall hear about the law of
(09:37):
attraction and you are you arethe magnet and you have to set
out, set your your magnetic raysout.
You have to send those magneticrays out from the way that you
look, the way that you dress,the way that you're thinking and
(09:59):
whatever you want to attract toyou will come back to you and
it works either way, whetherit's positive or whether it's
negative.
Now, queens, they have courts,and have you really considered
(10:22):
the people, the five people thatyou are spending your time with
?
Who are you talking to andconnecting with on an intimate
level on a day to day?
Are these people aligned withyour values?
Are they supporting you in yourvalues as well as you
(10:46):
supporting them?
I believe that a relationshipshould have some type of
reciprocity to it.
It should not be a all take,take, take should not be a all
give, give, give.
Everybody involved should havean equal part.
Well, I'm not even gonna sayequal, but it's according to
(11:12):
what's gonna work for bothparties.
So check your courtship, checkyour court.
Who are you hanging around withand are you hanging on to old
relationships just because youguys have been friends for
30-something years and reallyyou have nothing to relate to
(11:36):
that person about anymore.
Is that something that shouldbe extinguished?
Should you end thatrelationship, or do you need to
just adjust how you're relatingto that person on a regular
(11:57):
basis?
I personally have friendshipswhere I don't need to talk to
the person every single day.
However, whenever we gettogether and we kick it, it's
like we never missed a beat andwe can catch up where we left
(12:18):
off.
And that's feasible for me,because one of my highest values
is autonomy and freedom, andI'm not the type of person that
needs to have people around meall the time.
(12:40):
I'm not the type of personthat's gonna tell you every
single thing that I'm doingevery single day and yeah, so I
like having freedom.
So those types of relationshipswhere I can just move around
and talk to whenever we talk andwe kick it and it's like old
(13:05):
times, that's what works for me,because it aligns with my
values.
So check your courts.
And one of the things that Ithink about is a story from the
Bible about the queen that wasin preparation to go meet the
(13:31):
king to ask him for somethingfor the sake of her people, and
she was in.
I believe her name is Esther.
She was in the palace preparingfor months and months to meet
(13:52):
the king.
So in that preparation she washaving the elders with her to
culture and she was doing workon her physical appearance.
She was doing work on herspirituality.
(14:14):
She was doing work on herspirituality and what made her
successful is that she did thework and she had support in
getting herself together.
Now it's a lot of us out herewho are just going through life
(14:43):
without anybody by their side.
I cannot tell you the number ofpeople who are wasting valuable
time trying to do somethingthemselves.
When you can get somebody whocan help you do it quicker,
(15:04):
faster and easier and that issomething that I help my clients
do behind the chair, because Ihave experience working with
different people and differenttextures and creating different
looks for people I can help themquicker than them doing their
(15:30):
own research, wasting time goingthrough a bunch of videos of
people who never even had thechance to be in your presence to
even know if they can tell yousomething about what's going to
work well for you.
And when it comes to your imageand your personal, your
(15:55):
presence, how you are portrayingyourself, I think it's
important for you to be able tohave a one-on-one conversation
with the person that is givingyou advice, so that they can
understand what your desires arefor one, your deeper desires
(16:19):
and what your level of skill isinto being able to execute what
it is that you are trying toachieve.
The crown confidence is what isgoing to help you in every area
(16:43):
of your life.
Being confident is somethingthat's going to radiate from the
inside and outside, and it'sgreat when both of those are
working in harmony with eachother.
(17:06):
It's nothing like you heardthat phrase like fake it till
you make it.
Yeah, you can look confident onthe outside and one day it's
going to catch up with you.
If you're not really feelingconfident on the inside and I
(17:34):
experienced that myself I lookedgood on the outside and every
day I would show up for work,helping other people feel good
and look good, but deep down theside, I didn't have the
confidence that I needed, andonce I got that confidence in on
(17:58):
the inside, my whole life beganto change, and it can change
for you once you get thatconfidence.
So remember that you are thequeen.
Stop doing peasant shit and bea queen every day.
Wear your crown confidence,queen.
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