EP 12: How To Create Your Own Freedom - Stop Living For Others Expectation And Live Your Authentic Self.

Have you ever caught yourself living out the expectations of others, only to feel unfulfilled and lost in the process?

I've been there, and it's a journey to move from that space to one of authenticity and self-belief.

On this episode, I bare my own experiences, detailing the journey I took to realize my self-worth and define my own success.  I highlight the importance of creating your own vision, setting boundaries, and saying no to patterns that don't serve your truth.

We'll journey further, exploring how uncluttering your mind can pave the way to personal achievement. Trust me, acknowledging and dispelling the negativity you've absorbed from others is liberating. The strength you gain from trusting and believing in yourself is immense. I'll share how embracing these constructs led me to my authentic self, achieving my personal goals in the process.

This is more than just a conversation; it's a guide towards self-discovery, confidence, and fulfillment that you surely wouldn't want to miss.

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:02):
You are listening to, this Is Some Crazy Shit.
With Sharon Hamner.
This podcast is for you if youare tired of living day to day
feeling unfulfilled, you arefrustrated and you are doing too
much with no return.
This is for you if you areready to take charge of your
life, if you are ready to let goof managing other people's

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insecurities and theirexpectations and live life your
way.
Here we have dope conversationsabout saving yourself, so we
can get off these street cornersand stop waiting for Captain
Saviour.
Ho.
You ready?
Let's go, because this is somecrazy shit.
Why is it that nobody taught ushow to live?

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We have been doing life allwrong.
I had this epiphany a couple ofmonths ago, when I realized
there were some goals that I hadand I wasted a lot of times
behaving in a certain way and itwasn't going to get me to the

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result that I wanted, justbecause I did not know that
there was another way to live mylife in that area.
We have been programmed by ourparents, our grandparents,
teachers, everyone around us tolive a life according to their

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expectations of us, which arebased on their expectations from
whoever raised them or whatthey didn't achieve in life what
fears that they had have andthey have ultimately pushed
those onto us and we are havinga hard time getting the things

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that we want because we'reliving by other people's
insecurities.
I'm here to tell you that youcan have everything that you
desire.
You can and live your lifeaccording to how you want to

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live.
It's kind of crazy when youlook at nature, because you look
at the birds and all theanimals and they do everything
that they came here, that theywere designed to do.
And we, as human beings, wehave the highest faculty of our

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brains and our thoughts and wedon't really exercise that
muscle to help us to get thethings that we want.
And that's why I created thisspace, so that I can have
conversations with women, as Ido day to day behind the chair,

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on ways that it can get thethings that they want, because
it is so frustrating when youare given to your family, you're
given to your significantothers, you're doing your best
at your job and you don't feellike you're being rewarded.

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You're not getting the loveback that you feel like you
deserve, you're not getting theraise that you feel that you
deserve, and it's draining andit's overwhelming because you

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feel like you're doing the rightthing by doing what's expected
of you, but it's like what isthe point of it when you're not
getting the things that you want?
And why is that you're notgetting the things that you want

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?
Is it because we're not reallyin the right lane that we're
supposed to be in?
Is it because we're notbelieving in ourselves enough?
Is it because we're not havingenough confidence in ourselves

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to ask for what we want?
Is it because we're not settingboundaries and people don't
respect us because we're notusing our voice to set those
boundaries and voice ouropinions of the things that we

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want in a manner that is healthy?
I know a lot of times in thepast I have felt a lot of
frustration when relating to,and particularly my mom, because
we would go back and forth,back and forth, and I just felt

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like she was not hearing me atall, and even though I would try
to have a healthy dialogue, aconversation with her, I ended
up blowing up a lot of timesbecause I didn't feel like I was
being heard and that my opiniondidn't matter, and so

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eventually I began to just shutdown and not voice my opinion
and just go day to day to day,just living life.
But I wasn't really living,because every day I just wanted
to escape this earth because Iwasn't being fulfilled, because

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nobody was listening to me.
And it wasn't until I was ableto identify how to express
myself confidently, how to walkin confidence, that my life
began to change, and it did nottake a long time for me to start

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seeing results.
And I want the same thing foryou, and that comes with just
having a vision for your lifeand for yourself, and I know
that is possible If I can do it.

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It's definitely possible.
Some of the things that I had toidentify in my life was the
stories that were said about methat I chose to believe.

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Those stories had a negativeimpact on my life and caused me
to stay stuck.
One thing in particular that Ido remember is people would ask

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me to do things, and because Ididn't want to do that, they
labeled me as being selfish, andthat made me feel guilty,
because I do want to help people, but not at the sake of doing

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something that I don't get joyin doing, or doing something, or
giving you my purse because youasked for my purse.
No, I felt like I should have achoice.
But by people labeling me asbeing selfish, I felt like that

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was something about me that Ineeded to change.
And then come to find out thatthere's nothing wrong with
saying no and having boundaries,and I really want you to know
that everything about you isright.
Everything about you is right,the thoughts that you have about

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yourself is right, and nobodycan ever tell you who you are,
because you know who you aredeep inside.
So don't ever let somebody'sopinion of yourself override the
opinion that you have ofyourself, because that is the

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most important thing is what youbelieve about yourself and what
you know about yourself, andwhat other people say that shit
doesn't even matter.
It doesn't even matter.
So, being strong and knowingwho you are.

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But to know who you are, youhave to take the time to get to
know yourself and give yourselfthe opportunity to have a period
of time with yourself so thatyou can clear out the clutter in
your mind and the negativitythat has come from other people,

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because it's deep down insideof you and, even though it may
not come up every day, a lot ofthe things are living down and
has in our cellular memory andhave been passed on from
generations to generations, andso you got to wipe that slate
clean and go for your goals.

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But the most important thing isfor you to trust yourself and to
know that who you are as aperson, what you're capable of
and you can do anything that youwant to do.
You just have to believe inyourself.
That is the highest thing, isto believe in yourself and

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having the love for yourself tobe able to experience everything
that you want in your life,because everything is possible
for you when you know who thefuck you are and walking that

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every single day, wake up everysingle day knowing that, okay, I
got to get this done.
I'm this type of person andhaving a mantra for yourself it
can help you get to your resultsthat you want.
I look forward to seeing you inthese social media streets.