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We dive deep into personal growth, self-leadership, and the art of presence—so you can stop playing by someone else’s rules and start living with intention, joy, and aliveness!
Whether you’re navigating big transitions, chasing goals, or simply craving more from life, this is your reminder: you’re holding the controller.
What if you let life be great—starting now?
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(00:00):
Those are all really cool experiences in life, but even in
them, are you actually in life? Are you experiencing it?
Are you present to it? Are you letting it be great?
Ready to ditch the old stories and limiting beliefs and step
into your embodied knowing? I'm Veronica Jane, you're
(00:22):
fierce, fiery and deeply compassionate.
Embodiment, empowerment and relationships coach and mentor.
And this is This Isn't Me podcast.
Hi, welcome to another episode of This Isn't Me podcast.
I'm Veronica Jane. Welcome to a new edition of
Floor Talks where I just lay on the floor in someone's house and
(00:44):
record a podcast. Apparently, maybe this will turn
into a series and it's perfect where I am today based on what I
want to talk about, which is this question is what if we just
let life be great? Like what would happen if we
actually knew how to let life begreat?
I'm here in Canada. I've been here for almost six
(01:05):
weeks now, visiting family, connecting with nieces and
nephews I've never met extended family.
I have a couple of friends that I still hold dear and just
letting life be great. I'm cycling and I'm hiking and
I'm meditating and I'm dancing and I'm playing and I'm being in
(01:26):
life. And I went on a hike with
someone I care for deeply recently.
And we were talking about that, like, what is the point of life,
right? Like, what are we doing here?
And I've landed on this premise that like, we're actually just
here to let life be great. Like whether you want to look at
(01:49):
it really existentially or not, like what if we're all just here
the current model operate from is like life's a game, right?
And we're all just here to go onthese side quests like in Zelda.
Did you guys ever play Zelda where you would just like go run
around and explore things and figure things out and come back
(02:09):
with new tools and resources? If you were just like cool, like
what if we're just here being human so that after when we go
back to wherever connect to source consciousness, old things
die, whatever. It's just to be like, look at
all these cool things I found. Look at all these things I
learned. I just let life be great.
I had fun, I cried, I was angry,I expressed, I made love, I
(02:32):
danced in waterfalls, I kissed babies foreheads and I just I
did all these cool things. I did life.
Like what if that's how we win the game of life?
Like, did you guys play life when you were a kid?
I'm here with my nieces and nephews and like, do you want to
play life? And I'm like, oh sis, I've been
playing life more than a lot of people have potentially.
(02:55):
And I'm sitting down to play this game of life, right?
And it's like, OK, do you want to go to the first place you
start is do you want to go to college or do a trade and go
right into employment? And I'm like, that's where we
start life wild, right? And then it's like, OK, based on
that, you owe money or you can start making money.
And then you pass these tiles, like chance tiles that are like,
(03:16):
here you have a baby now or hereyou got married.
And I'm watching my nieces and nephews play this game of life
and like be upset when they haveto put money into things that
they didn't choose or expect or when they get married and don't
have kids or when they don't getmarried.
And I'm like, sis, this is all just life.
Like, I don't know, it just was such a rigid way of looking at
(03:39):
life. Like the whole thing is focused
around how much money you can make and whether you get married
and have children. And I was just like, those are
all really cool experiences in life.
But even in them, are you actually in life?
Are you experiencing it? Are you present to it?
Are you letting it be great? And I wonder if you are, are you
(04:01):
letting life be great when you look at your partner, your
child, your loved one, are you really there?
Are you really present to it? Do you feel them?
Do you truly see them? And do they truly see you?
You know, if you looked at my life according to the game of
(04:21):
life and tallied up all my savings or my assets or my
husband, which I don't have, my children, which I don't yet
have, those things that I don't yet have.
Like maybe I'm losing life. But when I look out at the
people I love across multiple nations and multiple world
(04:42):
views, I look. And I don't think anyone's
winning at life more than anyoneelse.
The winning at life to me is present in it, experiencing it,
loving it, putting all these side quests into your life
(05:04):
experience and being in it. Yeah, like, actually just
frothing wherever you're at. I was in a yoga class once and
the teacher just said, where areyou here?
What time is it now? And that was the first time I
really felt it and like, got it.This light bulb moment of, oh,
(05:26):
it's just presents. How do I be fully here now?
And so if there's any way to winthat life, maybe it is just
being present, experiencing it all.
Like half an hour ago, I'm dancing and singing in the
shower to this song that I'm like, when I meet my man and I
get married, I think this is going to be like our song.
(05:46):
I'm single as shit right now. And I'm just seeing that and
feeling that because it's just this beautiful premise of like
holding hands and going through life together and being here for
it all. And like, and so your hands and
the words are something like until we're interwoven in the
coffin, these hands are interlocking like that.
(06:06):
They're just going to hold each other and go through life
together. And I'm like, fuck, that's
beautiful. And I'm dancing around singing
with the song on repeat, like enjoying the feel of the water
on my skin in the shower, havingbeen for a beautiful hike in
nature this morning with someoneI care about.
Like, I'm like, this is life. I don't know what's in my bank
account right now. I don't even know where my next
paycheck's coming from. In my business, it's so
(06:28):
variable. I don't have a boyfriend, I
don't have children. I don't have all the boxes I'm
supposed to want to tick. But fuck, if this isn't winning
at life, what is? I'd love being alive.
And I'm here for all of it. The lonely moments, the sad
moments, the angry moments. And so I and in that I'm able to
(06:52):
be here for the joyful moments, the pleasurable moments.
And so in that I'm wondering, like, are you really in your
life? Are you even playing the game of
life? Or you're just passively
spinning that wheel, getting theshit to get to the end and see
if you want? Like, I like this image of like
getting to some creator consciousness source at the end
(07:13):
and then being like, cool, So how was it?
And you're like, what do you mean?
And they're like, how was it? How was life?
And you're like, oh, I was just trying to get to the end, like,
did I win? And they're like, did you like,
did you experience it? Did you live it?
Were you in it? Because if that's winning life,
then I've definitely figured outhow to do life.
(07:37):
Do I forget? Yeah, of course.
But I come back and remember again and again that this is
life. And then I'm in it.
And then I get to do it. You know, it took a lot of hard
things to get here, to be in life.
It took a lot of tough decisions, a lot of hard
conversations, a lot of screaming into a pillow, a lot
(07:59):
of crying in the shower if I'm honest, smoking weed and
watching stand up comedy and masturbating to realize in my
nervous system that I got to have pleasure and joy and that
there was no one way to think, no one way to be that I got to
(08:21):
choose. And it took unraveling a
marriage, unraveling another relationship and another
relationship. It took letting bank accounts
empty and fill and empty and fill.
It took saying goodbye, hello, goodbye, hello.
It took having the toughest conversations to get to this
presence, to get to this life where I don't need certainty, I
don't need control. I'm just in it, laying on the
(08:44):
floor, reporting, recording a podcast to share what I feel, to
share what I know. And as a woman that cycles
throughout the month, this ability to be so joyful and so
energized and learning about that has meant that I know how
to be in the lower points too, when my hormones are different
(09:04):
and I'm present to that. And even that I'm here now for.
And it's fucking beautiful. So what if you just let life be
great? And what if it took a hard
conversation, a disgusting feeling, a right slap of
reality, and some intense changeso that you could really be
(09:30):
present and let life be great? Because some of you have
unconsciously created so many life circumstances that life's
not great. And be real with the reality of
that. What if it could be great?
What if you could walk away fromthe sit thing, say goodbye,
learn that new skill, try that new thing, move to that new
town, try that new job, step into that new relationship?
(09:53):
What if that's all it took againand again?
And what if the whole way along you were present to it in all of
it? You know, there's a few episodes
ago, I don't know how many, 5-10, something like that, where
I'm like no makeup, crying into the camera.
And I'm there for that too. You know, that moment brought me
(10:15):
to this moment. They're all interconnected.
I don't need to be happy all thetime.
I just need to be present. I need to be in it in life,
playing the game of life, letting it be great.
And great often means some toughconversations, some hard things,
some low times. And this is all my belief.
(10:36):
And you don't have to believe it, but you could try it on and
see. Because, you know, there's
people who are ticking the boxesand have a lot more life points
according to the game of life than I do, who just don't seem
like they're in it. They're not even present to it.
You know, they're playing that rat race.
They're running from one thing to the next thing to the next
(10:57):
thing. And am I pretending I don't get
lost in that sometimes? And of course I do.
I'm human and I come back to this discovery.
I know that I just get to be in life again.
And I see myself chasing the next goal, wanting a partner,
wanting children, wanting that next business accomplishment,
wanting that next achievement, wanting that next investment,
(11:19):
whatever it might be, that next asset.
I just stop and go. Be here now.
What's happening here now that you can appreciate that you can
enjoy, You know, when I find myself being perfect or looking
to be perfect, I just remember be here now.
There is no perfect. Just enjoy who you are.
I don't get lost looking in the mirror criticizing my body.
(11:42):
I don't get lost looking at my bank account, worrying about
where the next paycheck's comingfrom.
I'm just here now. You know, it's a skill that I
practice and it's taken looking back into the past and changing
the way I see a lot of things tobe able to be here now.
And some of you are just forgetting to be here now,
(12:02):
unsure how to be here now. And so I encourage you to start
getting really honest with yourself about how to get here
now. If your life's pretty great,
those two questions might be enough mindfully to ask yourself
multiple times every day. Hey, where are you?
(12:27):
What time is it now? And if you don't want to be here
now, can you ask yourself how come, what is it that you've
consciously or unconsciously created that has you in a here
you don't like and in a now you don't like?
Can you be really honest about what it would take to create a
(12:50):
reality where you want to be here now?
Because your unconscious mind, your own body, brain, your
nervous system knows it, it's not going to let you feel safe
where you don't want to be. And can you be with some tough
conversations, some low times toget to a here and now that you
truly want to be in? Because a lot of the times when
(13:12):
we say we don't know what we're really meaning is, I don't want
to pay the cost. I can't sit in that uncertainty.
That risk is too much for me. The loneliness will hurt too
much. I can't downsize that.
I can't lose that. Let go of that.
My image, my ego, my comfort. Let me tell you, when you get
(13:36):
comfortable in the uncomfortable, you actually get
to spend a lot more time presentin the here and now, and a lot
more beautiful things come into life.
You go and you hike to a waterfall and you feel the
droplets kiss your skin and the aliveness.
You Make Love and you feel everytingle, every cell in every part
(14:00):
of your body. You feel lost in this person and
them lost in you in a way that makes you question divinity.
You eat a beautiful fresh Berry and you feel the juices trickle
down your lip, the flavour explode over your tongue.
You smile at a young child and look in their eyes and let them
(14:23):
tell you the story that makes nosense to you, and it brings you
so much joy because they're infectious.
Joy permeates you. That's winning life, isn't it?
Feels like it to me. Feel out there lost trying to
(14:44):
figure out how. I don't have all the answers,
but I have some side quests we can go on together.
I have some tools and some resources you can stack into
your resource belt. I have some great ways of
thinking and seeing the world that will bring you back to here
and now and have you playing thegame your way because life is a
(15:08):
game and you get to make the rules.
Thank you so much for being here.
If you got value from today's episode, it would mean the world
to me. If you would like it, give it a
five star review, share it with a friend or share it on your
socials. And I would love to connect with
(15:28):
you on my socials at Veronica Jane under score on Instagram
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unbecoming. What isn't us to become what is.
This isn't me.
Those are all really cool experiences in life, but even in
them, are you actually in life? Are you experiencing it?
Are you present to it? Are you letting it be great?
Ready to ditch the old stories and limiting beliefs and step
into your embodied knowing? I'm Veronica Jane, you're
(00:22):
fierce, fiery and deeply compassionate.
Embodiment, empowerment and relationships coach and mentor.
And this is This Isn't Me podcast.
Hi, welcome to another episode of This Isn't Me podcast.
I'm Veronica Jane. Welcome to a new edition of
Floor Talks where I just lay on the floor in someone's house and
(00:44):
record a podcast. Apparently, maybe this will turn
into a series and it's perfect where I am today based on what I
want to talk about, which is this question is what if we just
let life be great? Like what would happen if we
actually knew how to let life begreat?
I'm here in Canada. I've been here for almost six
(01:05):
weeks now, visiting family, connecting with nieces and
nephews I've never met extended family.
I have a couple of friends that I still hold dear and just
letting life be great. I'm cycling and I'm hiking and
I'm meditating and I'm dancing and I'm playing and I'm being in
(01:26):
life. And I went on a hike with
someone I care for deeply recently.
And we were talking about that, like, what is the point of life,
right? Like, what are we doing here?
And I've landed on this premise that like, we're actually just
here to let life be great. Like whether you want to look at
(01:49):
it really existentially or not, like what if we're all just here
the current model operate from is like life's a game, right?
And we're all just here to go onthese side quests like in Zelda.
Did you guys ever play Zelda where you would just like go run
around and explore things and figure things out and come back
(02:09):
with new tools and resources? If you were just like cool, like
what if we're just here being human so that after when we go
back to wherever connect to source consciousness, old things
die, whatever. It's just to be like, look at
all these cool things I found. Look at all these things I
learned. I just let life be great.
I had fun, I cried, I was angry,I expressed, I made love, I
(02:32):
danced in waterfalls, I kissed babies foreheads and I just I
did all these cool things. I did life.
Like what if that's how we win the game of life?
Like, did you guys play life when you were a kid?
I'm here with my nieces and nephews and like, do you want to
play life? And I'm like, oh sis, I've been
playing life more than a lot of people have potentially.
(02:55):
And I'm sitting down to play this game of life, right?
And it's like, OK, do you want to go to the first place you
start is do you want to go to college or do a trade and go
right into employment? And I'm like, that's where we
start life wild, right? And then it's like, OK, based on
that, you owe money or you can start making money.
And then you pass these tiles, like chance tiles that are like,
(03:16):
here you have a baby now or hereyou got married.
And I'm watching my nieces and nephews play this game of life
and like be upset when they haveto put money into things that
they didn't choose or expect or when they get married and don't
have kids or when they don't getmarried.
And I'm like, sis, this is all just life.
Like, I don't know, it just was such a rigid way of looking at
(03:39):
life. Like the whole thing is focused
around how much money you can make and whether you get married
and have children. And I was just like, those are
all really cool experiences in life.
But even in them, are you actually in life?
Are you experiencing it? Are you present to it?
Are you letting it be great? And I wonder if you are, are you
(04:01):
letting life be great when you look at your partner, your
child, your loved one, are you really there?
Are you really present to it? Do you feel them?
Do you truly see them? And do they truly see you?
You know, if you looked at my life according to the game of
(04:21):
life and tallied up all my savings or my assets or my
husband, which I don't have, my children, which I don't yet
have, those things that I don't yet have.
Like maybe I'm losing life. But when I look out at the
people I love across multiple nations and multiple world
(04:42):
views, I look. And I don't think anyone's
winning at life more than anyoneelse.
The winning at life to me is present in it, experiencing it,
loving it, putting all these side quests into your life
(05:04):
experience and being in it. Yeah, like, actually just
frothing wherever you're at. I was in a yoga class once and
the teacher just said, where areyou here?
What time is it now? And that was the first time I
really felt it and like, got it.This light bulb moment of, oh,
(05:26):
it's just presents. How do I be fully here now?
And so if there's any way to winthat life, maybe it is just
being present, experiencing it all.
Like half an hour ago, I'm dancing and singing in the
shower to this song that I'm like, when I meet my man and I
get married, I think this is going to be like our song.
(05:46):
I'm single as shit right now. And I'm just seeing that and
feeling that because it's just this beautiful premise of like
holding hands and going through life together and being here for
it all. And like, and so your hands and
the words are something like until we're interwoven in the
coffin, these hands are interlocking like that.
(06:06):
They're just going to hold each other and go through life
together. And I'm like, fuck, that's
beautiful. And I'm dancing around singing
with the song on repeat, like enjoying the feel of the water
on my skin in the shower, havingbeen for a beautiful hike in
nature this morning with someoneI care about.
Like, I'm like, this is life. I don't know what's in my bank
account right now. I don't even know where my next
paycheck's coming from. In my business, it's so
(06:28):
variable. I don't have a boyfriend, I
don't have children. I don't have all the boxes I'm
supposed to want to tick. But fuck, if this isn't winning
at life, what is? I'd love being alive.
And I'm here for all of it. The lonely moments, the sad
moments, the angry moments. And so I and in that I'm able to
(06:52):
be here for the joyful moments, the pleasurable moments.
And so in that I'm wondering, like, are you really in your
life? Are you even playing the game of
life? Or you're just passively
spinning that wheel, getting theshit to get to the end and see
if you want? Like, I like this image of like
getting to some creator consciousness source at the end
(07:13):
and then being like, cool, So how was it?
And you're like, what do you mean?
And they're like, how was it? How was life?
And you're like, oh, I was just trying to get to the end, like,
did I win? And they're like, did you like,
did you experience it? Did you live it?
Were you in it? Because if that's winning life,
then I've definitely figured outhow to do life.
(07:37):
Do I forget? Yeah, of course.
But I come back and remember again and again that this is
life. And then I'm in it.
And then I get to do it. You know, it took a lot of hard
things to get here, to be in life.
It took a lot of tough decisions, a lot of hard
conversations, a lot of screaming into a pillow, a lot
(07:59):
of crying in the shower if I'm honest, smoking weed and
watching stand up comedy and masturbating to realize in my
nervous system that I got to have pleasure and joy and that
there was no one way to think, no one way to be that I got to
(08:21):
choose. And it took unraveling a
marriage, unraveling another relationship and another
relationship. It took letting bank accounts
empty and fill and empty and fill.
It took saying goodbye, hello, goodbye, hello.
It took having the toughest conversations to get to this
presence, to get to this life where I don't need certainty, I
don't need control. I'm just in it, laying on the
(08:44):
floor, reporting, recording a podcast to share what I feel, to
share what I know. And as a woman that cycles
throughout the month, this ability to be so joyful and so
energized and learning about that has meant that I know how
to be in the lower points too, when my hormones are different
(09:04):
and I'm present to that. And even that I'm here now for.
And it's fucking beautiful. So what if you just let life be
great? And what if it took a hard
conversation, a disgusting feeling, a right slap of
reality, and some intense changeso that you could really be
(09:30):
present and let life be great? Because some of you have
unconsciously created so many life circumstances that life's
not great. And be real with the reality of
that. What if it could be great?
What if you could walk away fromthe sit thing, say goodbye,
learn that new skill, try that new thing, move to that new
town, try that new job, step into that new relationship?
(09:53):
What if that's all it took againand again?
And what if the whole way along you were present to it in all of
it? You know, there's a few episodes
ago, I don't know how many, 5-10, something like that, where
I'm like no makeup, crying into the camera.
And I'm there for that too. You know, that moment brought me
(10:15):
to this moment. They're all interconnected.
I don't need to be happy all thetime.
I just need to be present. I need to be in it in life,
playing the game of life, letting it be great.
And great often means some toughconversations, some hard things,
some low times. And this is all my belief.
(10:36):
And you don't have to believe it, but you could try it on and
see. Because, you know, there's
people who are ticking the boxesand have a lot more life points
according to the game of life than I do, who just don't seem
like they're in it. They're not even present to it.
You know, they're playing that rat race.
They're running from one thing to the next thing to the next
(10:57):
thing. And am I pretending I don't get
lost in that sometimes? And of course I do.
I'm human and I come back to this discovery.
I know that I just get to be in life again.
And I see myself chasing the next goal, wanting a partner,
wanting children, wanting that next business accomplishment,
wanting that next achievement, wanting that next investment,
(11:19):
whatever it might be, that next asset.
I just stop and go. Be here now.
What's happening here now that you can appreciate that you can
enjoy, You know, when I find myself being perfect or looking
to be perfect, I just remember be here now.
There is no perfect. Just enjoy who you are.
I don't get lost looking in the mirror criticizing my body.
(11:42):
I don't get lost looking at my bank account, worrying about
where the next paycheck's comingfrom.
I'm just here now. You know, it's a skill that I
practice and it's taken looking back into the past and changing
the way I see a lot of things tobe able to be here now.
And some of you are just forgetting to be here now,
(12:02):
unsure how to be here now. And so I encourage you to start
getting really honest with yourself about how to get here
now. If your life's pretty great,
those two questions might be enough mindfully to ask yourself
multiple times every day. Hey, where are you?
(12:27):
What time is it now? And if you don't want to be here
now, can you ask yourself how come, what is it that you've
consciously or unconsciously created that has you in a here
you don't like and in a now you don't like?
Can you be really honest about what it would take to create a
(12:50):
reality where you want to be here now?
Because your unconscious mind, your own body, brain, your
nervous system knows it, it's not going to let you feel safe
where you don't want to be. And can you be with some tough
conversations, some low times toget to a here and now that you
truly want to be in? Because a lot of the times when
(13:12):
we say we don't know what we're really meaning is, I don't want
to pay the cost. I can't sit in that uncertainty.
That risk is too much for me. The loneliness will hurt too
much. I can't downsize that.
I can't lose that. Let go of that.
My image, my ego, my comfort. Let me tell you, when you get
(13:36):
comfortable in the uncomfortable, you actually get
to spend a lot more time presentin the here and now, and a lot
more beautiful things come into life.
You go and you hike to a waterfall and you feel the
droplets kiss your skin and the aliveness.
You Make Love and you feel everytingle, every cell in every part
(14:00):
of your body. You feel lost in this person and
them lost in you in a way that makes you question divinity.
You eat a beautiful fresh Berry and you feel the juices trickle
down your lip, the flavour explode over your tongue.
You smile at a young child and look in their eyes and let them
(14:23):
tell you the story that makes nosense to you, and it brings you
so much joy because they're infectious.
Joy permeates you. That's winning life, isn't it?
Feels like it to me. Feel out there lost trying to
(14:44):
figure out how. I don't have all the answers,
but I have some side quests we can go on together.
I have some tools and some resources you can stack into
your resource belt. I have some great ways of
thinking and seeing the world that will bring you back to here
and now and have you playing thegame your way because life is a
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game and you get to make the rules.
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unbecoming. What isn't us to become what is.
This isn't me.
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