March 23, 2025 • 18 mins
You get to choose how you see everything, including your past, present and future! This is your weekly dose of smooshy tough love, radical responsibility and the empowering push you may or may not have known you needed!
This is for the women ready to rewrite her story, shake off the past, and step boldly into the next chapter. That's all of us, ya?!
Whether you’re leaving a toxic situation, shifting your mindset, or just figuring out who the heck you are, I'm here to remind you: you get to choose your perspective!
As a brave and fierce, unstoppable women who has been there, done that, and is still evolving, I want to offer you the space to heal, grow AND glow the hell up!
It’s time to change your mind, own your power, and move forward into the new beginnings you create!
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(00:00):
You get to change and change your mind, guys.
I really want you to hear that and feel that for yourself.
I want you to see how possible it is to change as many times as
you want to be wrong. To choose a belief and let it
hold you until it no longer holds you, and let yourself
expand. If every belief is a limiting
belief, if we're always putting ourself in boxes, can you
continue to expand the box you're in?
(00:28):
Hi, I'm Veronica Jane, embodiment empowerment and
relationship coach, and this is This Isn't Me podcast.
I wonder if you've ever found yourself in a moment where you
look at your life and realize this isn't me and you're ready
for the next version of yourself.
That's what This Isn't Me podcast is all about letting go
of the past and stepping into the future you desire and
(00:50):
deserve. This isn't me anymore.
Hello, welcome to another episode of This Isn't me
podcast. I am Veronica Jane and I'm so
glad you're here to talk about what I want to share with you
today and for you to explore this for yourself.
I'm so grateful for what's happening in my life right now
and the mirror it's giving me toshare with you about what could
(01:11):
be going on in your life has in the past is going on now or
might happen in the future. Yeah.
So today's topic is all about fresh starts, new beginnings,
blank canvases. OK Are you excited?
So you may see if you're watching instead of just
listening. There's a little bit of change
visually going on, and that's because things are changing for
(01:34):
me. Oh, Murray has something to say
about that. That's my dog in the background.
I'm unsure if you can hear him. And it's exciting because I
choose to look at things as new starts.
Yeah. You always get to choose the way
you see things. And you know that, right?
I could look at what's happeningin my life right now as the
ending of a chapter, and I do and more.
(01:57):
I focus on the beginning of the next chapter.
Yeah. So right now I'm closing off
some chapters and it feels so great.
And then my focus goes into the new beginnings.
Yeah, the fresh start and the blank canvas.
So what that looks like for me right now is if you're listening
to this on the day that it comesout, it's.
I'll be in my new house. I'll be in my new home that I
(02:20):
share with my beautiful best friend Rachel, where my doggie
is and my Kitty is and her cat is her cats.
And I'm so excited for this. I'm so excited to be moving
forward. And that's the focus point,
right? So it's so powerful to be able
(02:41):
to look at life and choose how you want to see it.
And right now I'm sitting in my home looking at the beautiful
yard. And the other night I had a
bunch of girlfriends over and wesat and used the fireplace and
looked at the trees and listenedto the cicadas and the crickets
and all the sounds around. And I just took it all in.
And I just felt so much gratitude for everything I
(03:02):
learned in this home. So this home, when I moved in, I
held a very different picture for my life.
I saw a relationship moving forward till death that has now
completed itself. I saw the possibilities of
children with a man who I'm now no longer with.
You're getting puppy vibes in this one.
I saw so many things that have also kept continuing.
(03:23):
I saw my business growing, whichhas occurred in more ways than I
ever imagined. I saw new friendships.
And last night I'm sitting by the fire and I'm like, I moved
into this house with the intention of family and here it
is. Sure, it looks different than
what I thought and far out. It feels beautiful.
My friend brought over her couple of kids and the dog was
there and all these girls and these beautiful women, right?
(03:44):
And we're just having this most wholesome familial night.
And I just went, wow, life is socool.
The way you can set an intention, decide what you want,
and then let the how change. Like I got everything I wanted
in this house. I got family, I got friendships,
fuck, I'm emotional. I got so much beauty, so much
(04:07):
learning. And here I stepped into
energetically from the way I seemyself, I stepped into the role
of a woman and a role of a mother, not biologically yet,
but who I'm being is so much more than the little girl that I
stepped into this house house. And that's so exciting for me,
(04:29):
like to watch the evolution that's occurred for me and
really feel it like I'm so proudof who I am right now.
I know a large part of that I didn't expect to be so
emotional. I did my makeup and everything.
I've been laughing because I really avoided watching reality
(04:51):
TV over the last few years. And the other day I started
watching the Kardashians out of curiosity, like binge watched a
few episodes and I'm like, oh, God, I hate that.
I kind of like them. They're a lot deeper than I
thought they would be. And there's a lot more going on
there. Sure, there's a lot of trauma
they could work through, but it was, I was very curious about
them for the first time. Anyway, I was laughing because
often they'll be like, I don't want to cry.
(05:12):
I don't want to mess up my makeup.
And I'm like, mess it up, girl. That's real.
It's the humanness. We're here for the humanness.
Yeah. So if my makeup gets messed up,
I'm just OK with it. Yeah.
I moved into this house and I got everything I wanted, just
not the way I saw. I had this family.
I've had my friend Emily here with her kids as well and
Halloween, they were here and a couple of times and I was just
(05:35):
like, this is what this home was.
For me. It was deciding to let go of the
fear that I had around having the wholesomeness, the family,
the connectedness, having everything I want.
I unconsciously pushed away family.
I unconsciously pushed away family values, the energy of
children. Like, I don't know if you know
my past, but I was a nanny, an au pair for years and then nanny
and then a teacher. And then when my marriage got
(05:56):
yucky, I stopped wanting those things.
I stopped letting myself hang out with friends.
I had children. I stopped letting myself cuddle
babies. When my, I would go and see my
friends with kids, I would kind of like avoid that feeling and
those experiences. And I don't, I didn't see it
then and I see it now. It was because it was too hard.
It was too hard to watch other people have what I wanted when I
(06:17):
was busy lying to myself, pretending that's not what I
wanted. And so this home brought me that
back and allowed me to see I've been playing in this little girl
archetype, this maiden for a while.
And it was so valuable because Igrew up very independent, very
capable. I could make a lasagna, do all
my laundry and clean the whole house and get groceries by like
(06:39):
9. Yeah.
And and so there was this inner child that didn't get to play
for years. And when I left my marriage, I
let her play. Like, I fully let her play.
She got to do whatever she wanted, jump on swings, travel,
spend money how she wanted. Like she just got to go and run
amok. And I'm so valuable for that
stage of life. Like, I'm.
So I value it so much. I'm so grateful.
(07:01):
And now I'm like, hey, babe, youget to play.
And the woman in me, the mother in me is going to lead.
Yeah, you're here and you get toplay in different ways,
healthier ways, more sustainableways.
And I feel so excited to be in this woman energy, the way that
I move, the way that I dress, the way that I play, the way
(07:21):
that I do business, the way thatI do relationship.
I'm so ready for the grown up version of that.
I'm so ready and I'm in it and I'm being it.
And it's so great to be able to focus on this completion and
what's moving forward. Yeah, this new chapter, this
fresh start. And so I use, you know, the new
car that I got a few months ago as a representation of this new
(07:44):
energy of worthiness, anchoring in beauty, ease, luxury, this
feeling of comfort because, like, my old car didn't even
have air con. And this new car has, like, lane
assist and brake assist. Like, she will never let me hit
somebody. It's so great.
Cruise control galore, like where she'll break if someone
ahead of me is breaking at a distance.
Air conditioning, delish. Heat like seat heating, What,
(08:06):
like in Queensland, I don't needthat.
And eventually I might. So it was so nice to feel that.
And now with this new house, I'mlike, OK, what's the fresh start
here? Like, how do I want to see this?
What's the experience that this gets to represent for me?
Oh my gosh. If you're watching, can you
marry the doggies? The doggies come to play.
Can you see this little snow? Hi, baby.
(08:27):
Yes. Oh, sorry, guys.
I love you. That was to you guys when it was
to the dog, if I'm honest. So yeah, it's just been so
beautiful to see this new start.And what I'm letting it mean for
me is that this new era, this new age of womanhood, of
building consistency, stability,grace, wealth, beauty,
(09:00):
wholesomeness, comfort, uncomfort as well intentionally
love, companionship, friendship,affection.
Yeah, just this. Like I picture so many dinner
parties and friends with their kids and sitting on the patio
(09:22):
sipping tea and talking businesswith my my roommate and best
friend. I see the men that get to be in
our lives and it's so beautiful.This new start for me also
represents this this way that I get to keep being that's
different. So you guys know my last
relationship was so much better than things I'd had before in
many ways. And yet I unconsciously was
(09:43):
playing out some old patterns still and in dating.
If you've been listening to the reclaiming Love podcast, you'll
hear me have giving Ellie advice.
I think in the most recent episode that was recorded in
February, and I listened to Backto it editing and was like, man,
girl, that advice is for you, too.
This is a mirror. Yeah.
Like, I've been letting this, like, really intense fire be lit
(10:05):
with these guys and this, like, urgency.
And then it just, like, burns out.
It fizzles. And one of us just lets it
fizzle. We step away.
It just disappears. Yeah.
These men who are like, future pacing really fast and, like,
what's going to happen in the future?
And I want you to come to this and let's do that.
And then they're just like, eh, and they're gone.
Yeah. And I'm creating that.
(10:25):
Like I'm getting lost in the energy of what I know I can
create and forgetting about the consistency, the sustainability,
sustainability of it. And so more recently, I've let
myself see what I'd never been attracted to because it reminded
me of the stability of my father.
It reminded me of the wholesomeness of my early
(10:46):
childhood, that then I guess youcould say it was taken and was
it shifted, It changed. And so there's an energy in my
nervous system and in my mind ofdon't trust that.
And so lately, I've been lettingmyself trust that, Yeah, like
good men, consistent men, commutative men, men who will
call me on the phone, men who will plan ahead, men who, when
(11:06):
one date ends, are already planning the next date.
And it's not a year in the future.
It's not some magical Disneyland.
It's not some elusive fairy tale.
The obsessive, obsessive naturesare gone.
The like intensity is gone and the beauty is there, the
solidity is there, the predictability is there, the
being their word is there, and the romance is there without the
(11:32):
fanfare. It's just kind and loving.
The communication is there and it's honest and genuine and it
feels really great. It feels really great.
And I'm going to be honest. Like this new start, this blank
canvas. There's still fear there, of
course, and I'm doing it anyway.Yeah.
(11:55):
And there's so many new starts coming that I'll share with you
in the future. Right now, I just want you to
know that you can always change and change your mind.
Yeah, you could always create a close a chapter and start a new
one. You can always put a stop sign
behind you, as my mentor likes to say, and look forward so that
(12:19):
when you go to look back, you remember no going back.
I only see how far I've come nowand I keep going.
You can always paint a new picture of what you want.
So part of me, I don't know what's going on in my throat.
There's a lot to say. When I got married, I I thought
(12:40):
that would be the only time I ever said that.
And letting myself choose to letthat end was a real ego trip
because it was like I gave my word yeah, and if I'm I've
shared before, like I didn't really in that we used to joke
about a 10 year commitment. And yet I still quietly little
girl at me wanted this to be this like happily ever after
(13:01):
forever thing right. And so letting it end was hard
because I grew up valuing marriage and and making it mean
forever. And then I had saw someone after
and letting myself choose to leave the non monogamy structure
and go I was wrong. This doesn't work.
This is so unhealthy and unsustainable.
This is just two little kids running away from their
(13:22):
childhood issues. This is just two people afraid
to commit to themselves, to endless growth, to depth.
This is two people afraid to look at each other and say the
hard thing. So instead they run away and
create intimacy elsewhere. Like that's sad and let myself
be wrong. And then with my ex partner,
when I said it was the first time, I really said forever and
meant it when I said you're it for me.
Yeah, and then his behaviour became so hurtful that I had to
(13:46):
admit I I had to change. I had to change my mind.
I had to change my word and communicate that.
And that messed me up. Yeah, that was a hard.
And yet it was hard fast. And I moved through it fast.
And now I'm here in this home that him and I moved into
together. My goodness, you guys like this
(14:09):
raw, unedited nature. I don't even bother editing it
out for you anymore. And it was hard.
And there are moments of heart, I'm going to be honest, where
the picture comes of what I thought we had.
And I get to change it. I get to let myself change my
mind again and again. I get to let myself recreate a
new picture. It's like, imagine life is a
(14:29):
painting that you constantly layer on.
You just get to keep adding morecolor, adding more layers and
changing it and let the scene evolve.
Yeah, and if that feels like heavy and loaded for you, then
grab that canvas, throw it away,put a new one in place, and
start painting again. Like life is this endless
iteration. It's about choosing how you want
to see it over and over, choosing the most empowered
(14:50):
narrative, choosing the story you want to tell.
Like, because so much of what you're telling yourself is a
lie, so choose a better lie. Start again over and over, over
and over. If this story isn't working for
you, tell the characters in it you want to tell a new story
with them. If they refuse to tell a new
story with you, choose some new characters.
(15:11):
Like I am so excited to have this new character as my
roommate. Like my best friend has been my
best friend now for like two, 2 1/2 years and to get to now have
her be my roommate, delicious. To let a new man enter my life
as the character of leading man.Like that's so exciting and
delicious. You get to change and change
your mind guys. I really want you to hear that
(15:31):
and feel that for yourself. I want you to see how possible
it is to change as many times asyou want to be wrong, to choose
a belief and let it hold you, and to let no longer hold you
and let yourself expand. If every belief is a limiting
belief, if we're always putting ourself in boxes, can you
continue to expand the box you're in?
Can you continue to blow up the picture and make it bigger and
(15:52):
brighter and more exciting? Can you let yourself have what
you want by letting go of old beliefs, old stories, old
narratives that are boring now? Can you let yourself have what
you want? More love, more family, more
comfort, more wealth, more everything.
Let yourself create a new start,a new beginning, over and over
again. And what would it look like for
(16:13):
you to do that? How would it feel to create a
new start for yourself from today?
And maybe nothing changes in your environment.
Maybe you just change your thoughts.
Maybe you just change your feelings about something the way
you feel about something, because you can choose those.
And maybe you change some new behaviors.
Or maybe, like me, it is time tochange your environment and
(16:36):
you're ready. So if you're ready to change
your thoughts, your feelings, your behaviors, your
environment, and you want someone to guide you through
that, that is my life's work. And I'm passionate about helping
women create the most empowered story for their life.
Yeah. And I'd love to work with you.
I have a new group starting early April.
(16:56):
It's called All of You. All of you is welcome here.
I'm going to help you learn to love and embrace all of you in
the most empowered way possible.It's a 12 week program.
It's three months of unlimited message support in this
beautiful group of women. It's 6 live and recorded calls
and it's powerful. I'd love to welcome you in and
(17:16):
share all of me to help you findall of you.
So if you're curious, find the links on my Instagram and let's
do this. I love you and I'm ready for you
to create a new start for you too.
Are you? Thanks for joining me for
(17:37):
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(17:57):
upcoming offers and events. Remember, now is always a great
time to decide this isn't me.
You get to change and change your mind, guys.
I really want you to hear that and feel that for yourself.
I want you to see how possible it is to change as many times as
you want to be wrong. To choose a belief and let it
hold you until it no longer holds you, and let yourself
expand. If every belief is a limiting
belief, if we're always putting ourself in boxes, can you
continue to expand the box you're in?
(00:28):
Hi, I'm Veronica Jane, embodiment empowerment and
relationship coach, and this is This Isn't Me podcast.
I wonder if you've ever found yourself in a moment where you
look at your life and realize this isn't me and you're ready
for the next version of yourself.
That's what This Isn't Me podcast is all about letting go
of the past and stepping into the future you desire and
(00:50):
deserve. This isn't me anymore.
Hello, welcome to another episode of This Isn't me
podcast. I am Veronica Jane and I'm so
glad you're here to talk about what I want to share with you
today and for you to explore this for yourself.
I'm so grateful for what's happening in my life right now
and the mirror it's giving me toshare with you about what could
(01:11):
be going on in your life has in the past is going on now or
might happen in the future. Yeah.
So today's topic is all about fresh starts, new beginnings,
blank canvases. OK Are you excited?
So you may see if you're watching instead of just
listening. There's a little bit of change
visually going on, and that's because things are changing for
(01:34):
me. Oh, Murray has something to say
about that. That's my dog in the background.
I'm unsure if you can hear him. And it's exciting because I
choose to look at things as new starts.
Yeah. You always get to choose the way
you see things. And you know that, right?
I could look at what's happeningin my life right now as the
ending of a chapter, and I do and more.
(01:57):
I focus on the beginning of the next chapter.
Yeah. So right now I'm closing off
some chapters and it feels so great.
And then my focus goes into the new beginnings.
Yeah, the fresh start and the blank canvas.
So what that looks like for me right now is if you're listening
to this on the day that it comesout, it's.
I'll be in my new house. I'll be in my new home that I
(02:20):
share with my beautiful best friend Rachel, where my doggie
is and my Kitty is and her cat is her cats.
And I'm so excited for this. I'm so excited to be moving
forward. And that's the focus point,
right? So it's so powerful to be able
(02:41):
to look at life and choose how you want to see it.
And right now I'm sitting in my home looking at the beautiful
yard. And the other night I had a
bunch of girlfriends over and wesat and used the fireplace and
looked at the trees and listenedto the cicadas and the crickets
and all the sounds around. And I just took it all in.
And I just felt so much gratitude for everything I
(03:02):
learned in this home. So this home, when I moved in, I
held a very different picture for my life.
I saw a relationship moving forward till death that has now
completed itself. I saw the possibilities of
children with a man who I'm now no longer with.
You're getting puppy vibes in this one.
I saw so many things that have also kept continuing.
(03:23):
I saw my business growing, whichhas occurred in more ways than I
ever imagined. I saw new friendships.
And last night I'm sitting by the fire and I'm like, I moved
into this house with the intention of family and here it
is. Sure, it looks different than
what I thought and far out. It feels beautiful.
My friend brought over her couple of kids and the dog was
there and all these girls and these beautiful women, right?
(03:44):
And we're just having this most wholesome familial night.
And I just went, wow, life is socool.
The way you can set an intention, decide what you want,
and then let the how change. Like I got everything I wanted
in this house. I got family, I got friendships,
fuck, I'm emotional. I got so much beauty, so much
(04:07):
learning. And here I stepped into
energetically from the way I seemyself, I stepped into the role
of a woman and a role of a mother, not biologically yet,
but who I'm being is so much more than the little girl that I
stepped into this house house. And that's so exciting for me,
(04:29):
like to watch the evolution that's occurred for me and
really feel it like I'm so proudof who I am right now.
I know a large part of that I didn't expect to be so
emotional. I did my makeup and everything.
I've been laughing because I really avoided watching reality
(04:51):
TV over the last few years. And the other day I started
watching the Kardashians out of curiosity, like binge watched a
few episodes and I'm like, oh, God, I hate that.
I kind of like them. They're a lot deeper than I
thought they would be. And there's a lot more going on
there. Sure, there's a lot of trauma
they could work through, but it was, I was very curious about
them for the first time. Anyway, I was laughing because
often they'll be like, I don't want to cry.
(05:12):
I don't want to mess up my makeup.
And I'm like, mess it up, girl. That's real.
It's the humanness. We're here for the humanness.
Yeah. So if my makeup gets messed up,
I'm just OK with it. Yeah.
I moved into this house and I got everything I wanted, just
not the way I saw. I had this family.
I've had my friend Emily here with her kids as well and
Halloween, they were here and a couple of times and I was just
(05:35):
like, this is what this home was.
For me. It was deciding to let go of the
fear that I had around having the wholesomeness, the family,
the connectedness, having everything I want.
I unconsciously pushed away family.
I unconsciously pushed away family values, the energy of
children. Like, I don't know if you know
my past, but I was a nanny, an au pair for years and then nanny
and then a teacher. And then when my marriage got
(05:56):
yucky, I stopped wanting those things.
I stopped letting myself hang out with friends.
I had children. I stopped letting myself cuddle
babies. When my, I would go and see my
friends with kids, I would kind of like avoid that feeling and
those experiences. And I don't, I didn't see it
then and I see it now. It was because it was too hard.
It was too hard to watch other people have what I wanted when I
(06:17):
was busy lying to myself, pretending that's not what I
wanted. And so this home brought me that
back and allowed me to see I've been playing in this little girl
archetype, this maiden for a while.
And it was so valuable because Igrew up very independent, very
capable. I could make a lasagna, do all
my laundry and clean the whole house and get groceries by like
(06:39):
9. Yeah.
And and so there was this inner child that didn't get to play
for years. And when I left my marriage, I
let her play. Like, I fully let her play.
She got to do whatever she wanted, jump on swings, travel,
spend money how she wanted. Like she just got to go and run
amok. And I'm so valuable for that
stage of life. Like, I'm.
So I value it so much. I'm so grateful.
(07:01):
And now I'm like, hey, babe, youget to play.
And the woman in me, the mother in me is going to lead.
Yeah, you're here and you get toplay in different ways,
healthier ways, more sustainableways.
And I feel so excited to be in this woman energy, the way that
I move, the way that I dress, the way that I play, the way
(07:21):
that I do business, the way thatI do relationship.
I'm so ready for the grown up version of that.
I'm so ready and I'm in it and I'm being it.
And it's so great to be able to focus on this completion and
what's moving forward. Yeah, this new chapter, this
fresh start. And so I use, you know, the new
car that I got a few months ago as a representation of this new
(07:44):
energy of worthiness, anchoring in beauty, ease, luxury, this
feeling of comfort because, like, my old car didn't even
have air con. And this new car has, like, lane
assist and brake assist. Like, she will never let me hit
somebody. It's so great.
Cruise control galore, like where she'll break if someone
ahead of me is breaking at a distance.
Air conditioning, delish. Heat like seat heating, What,
(08:06):
like in Queensland, I don't needthat.
And eventually I might. So it was so nice to feel that.
And now with this new house, I'mlike, OK, what's the fresh start
here? Like, how do I want to see this?
What's the experience that this gets to represent for me?
Oh my gosh. If you're watching, can you
marry the doggies? The doggies come to play.
Can you see this little snow? Hi, baby.
(08:27):
Yes. Oh, sorry, guys.
I love you. That was to you guys when it was
to the dog, if I'm honest. So yeah, it's just been so
beautiful to see this new start.And what I'm letting it mean for
me is that this new era, this new age of womanhood, of
building consistency, stability,grace, wealth, beauty,
(09:00):
wholesomeness, comfort, uncomfort as well intentionally
love, companionship, friendship,affection.
Yeah, just this. Like I picture so many dinner
parties and friends with their kids and sitting on the patio
(09:22):
sipping tea and talking businesswith my my roommate and best
friend. I see the men that get to be in
our lives and it's so beautiful.This new start for me also
represents this this way that I get to keep being that's
different. So you guys know my last
relationship was so much better than things I'd had before in
many ways. And yet I unconsciously was
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playing out some old patterns still and in dating.
If you've been listening to the reclaiming Love podcast, you'll
hear me have giving Ellie advice.
I think in the most recent episode that was recorded in
February, and I listened to Backto it editing and was like, man,
girl, that advice is for you, too.
This is a mirror. Yeah.
Like, I've been letting this, like, really intense fire be lit
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with these guys and this, like, urgency.
And then it just, like, burns out.
It fizzles. And one of us just lets it
fizzle. We step away.
It just disappears. Yeah.
These men who are like, future pacing really fast and, like,
what's going to happen in the future?
And I want you to come to this and let's do that.
And then they're just like, eh, and they're gone.
Yeah. And I'm creating that.
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Like I'm getting lost in the energy of what I know I can
create and forgetting about the consistency, the sustainability,
sustainability of it. And so more recently, I've let
myself see what I'd never been attracted to because it reminded
me of the stability of my father.
It reminded me of the wholesomeness of my early
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childhood, that then I guess youcould say it was taken and was
it shifted, It changed. And so there's an energy in my
nervous system and in my mind ofdon't trust that.
And so lately, I've been lettingmyself trust that, Yeah, like
good men, consistent men, commutative men, men who will
call me on the phone, men who will plan ahead, men who, when
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one date ends, are already planning the next date.
And it's not a year in the future.
It's not some magical Disneyland.
It's not some elusive fairy tale.
The obsessive, obsessive naturesare gone.
The like intensity is gone and the beauty is there, the
solidity is there, the predictability is there, the
being their word is there, and the romance is there without the
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fanfare. It's just kind and loving.
The communication is there and it's honest and genuine and it
feels really great. It feels really great.
And I'm going to be honest. Like this new start, this blank
canvas. There's still fear there, of
course, and I'm doing it anyway.Yeah.
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And there's so many new starts coming that I'll share with you
in the future. Right now, I just want you to
know that you can always change and change your mind.
Yeah, you could always create a close a chapter and start a new
one. You can always put a stop sign
behind you, as my mentor likes to say, and look forward so that
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when you go to look back, you remember no going back.
I only see how far I've come nowand I keep going.
You can always paint a new picture of what you want.
So part of me, I don't know what's going on in my throat.
There's a lot to say. When I got married, I I thought
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that would be the only time I ever said that.
And letting myself choose to letthat end was a real ego trip
because it was like I gave my word yeah, and if I'm I've
shared before, like I didn't really in that we used to joke
about a 10 year commitment. And yet I still quietly little
girl at me wanted this to be this like happily ever after
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forever thing right. And so letting it end was hard
because I grew up valuing marriage and and making it mean
forever. And then I had saw someone after
and letting myself choose to leave the non monogamy structure
and go I was wrong. This doesn't work.
This is so unhealthy and unsustainable.
This is just two little kids running away from their
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childhood issues. This is just two people afraid
to commit to themselves, to endless growth, to depth.
This is two people afraid to look at each other and say the
hard thing. So instead they run away and
create intimacy elsewhere. Like that's sad and let myself
be wrong. And then with my ex partner,
when I said it was the first time, I really said forever and
meant it when I said you're it for me.
Yeah, and then his behaviour became so hurtful that I had to
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admit I I had to change. I had to change my mind.
I had to change my word and communicate that.
And that messed me up. Yeah, that was a hard.
And yet it was hard fast. And I moved through it fast.
And now I'm here in this home that him and I moved into
together. My goodness, you guys like this
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raw, unedited nature. I don't even bother editing it
out for you anymore. And it was hard.
And there are moments of heart, I'm going to be honest, where
the picture comes of what I thought we had.
And I get to change it. I get to let myself change my
mind again and again. I get to let myself recreate a
new picture. It's like, imagine life is a
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painting that you constantly layer on.
You just get to keep adding morecolor, adding more layers and
changing it and let the scene evolve.
Yeah, and if that feels like heavy and loaded for you, then
grab that canvas, throw it away,put a new one in place, and
start painting again. Like life is this endless
iteration. It's about choosing how you want
to see it over and over, choosing the most empowered
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narrative, choosing the story you want to tell.
Like, because so much of what you're telling yourself is a
lie, so choose a better lie. Start again over and over, over
and over. If this story isn't working for
you, tell the characters in it you want to tell a new story
with them. If they refuse to tell a new
story with you, choose some new characters.
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Like I am so excited to have this new character as my
roommate. Like my best friend has been my
best friend now for like two, 2 1/2 years and to get to now have
her be my roommate, delicious. To let a new man enter my life
as the character of leading man.Like that's so exciting and
delicious. You get to change and change
your mind guys. I really want you to hear that
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and feel that for yourself. I want you to see how possible
it is to change as many times asyou want to be wrong, to choose
a belief and let it hold you, and to let no longer hold you
and let yourself expand. If every belief is a limiting
belief, if we're always putting ourself in boxes, can you
continue to expand the box you're in?
Can you continue to blow up the picture and make it bigger and
(15:52):
brighter and more exciting? Can you let yourself have what
you want by letting go of old beliefs, old stories, old
narratives that are boring now? Can you let yourself have what
you want? More love, more family, more
comfort, more wealth, more everything.
Let yourself create a new start,a new beginning, over and over
again. And what would it look like for
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you to do that? How would it feel to create a
new start for yourself from today?
And maybe nothing changes in your environment.
Maybe you just change your thoughts.
Maybe you just change your feelings about something the way
you feel about something, because you can choose those.
And maybe you change some new behaviors.
Or maybe, like me, it is time tochange your environment and
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you're ready. So if you're ready to change
your thoughts, your feelings, your behaviors, your
environment, and you want someone to guide you through
that, that is my life's work. And I'm passionate about helping
women create the most empowered story for their life.
Yeah. And I'd love to work with you.
I have a new group starting early April.
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It's called All of You. All of you is welcome here.
I'm going to help you learn to love and embrace all of you in
the most empowered way possible.It's a 12 week program.
It's three months of unlimited message support in this
beautiful group of women. It's 6 live and recorded calls
and it's powerful. I'd love to welcome you in and
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share all of me to help you findall of you.
So if you're curious, find the links on my Instagram and let's
do this. I love you and I'm ready for you
to create a new start for you too.
Are you? Thanks for joining me for
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another episode. If you got value from what you
heard today, I would love for you to like it to give it a five
star review, share it with a friend or share it on your
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you on my socials. You can find me at Veronica Jane
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upcoming offers and events. Remember, now is always a great
time to decide this isn't me.
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