April 13, 2025 • 11 mins
What if This Isn't Me podcast isn't just a podcast?
What if it’s a mirror? A mirror for you to look into who you are through what you see in me?
This episode is an exploration of identity, self-expression, reinvention and what it means to grow on purpose! Whether you're questioning everything, tired of playing small, or finally stepping into your power, this is your permission slip to be loud, bold, soft, wild, quiet, colourful, or completely undefined! Because your NEVER a finished product, you get that right?
I hope you'll ask yourself, again and again, "Who am I?" and let that continually change.
Some people decide NOW is the time to change and they book that call here !
Connect with me on my website: www.veronicajayne.com and on Instagram @veronicajayne_
Did you know you can also watch episodes of This Isn't Me podcast on YouTube? @veronicajayne
~ In love and learning, Veronica Jayne
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(00:00):
Thank you. Thank you for saying the
vulnerable hard thing. Thank you for your authenticity.
Thank you for saying the things that most people don't even say
to their closest girlfriends or to their lovers.
Thank you for telling the truth for you.
And so last week I didn't createan episode because I was like.
What do I want to say? How do I say it?
What's this version of me that Iwant to be right now?
(00:29):
Hi, I'm Veronica Jane, Embodiment Empowerment and
Relationship Coach. And this is this.
Isn't me podcast. I wonder if you've ever found
yourself in a moment. Where you look?
At your life. And realize.
This isn't me, and you're ready for the next version of
yourself. That's what This Isn't Me
podcast is all. About letting go of the past and
(00:49):
stepping into the future. You.
Desire and deserve. This isn't me anymore.
Hey, welcome to another episode of This Isn't Me podcast.
I miss you. Last week.
There's been a whole slew of things happening and I could
tell you about them and they'd all just be excuses for why
(01:09):
there wasn't an episode last week.
And I will explain the context. And yet what I really want to
focus on is how important this podcast is for us, for you and
for me. And for me, how it's important
is it helps me remember who I amwhen I come here and I share and
(01:30):
explore what isn't me. I shed another layer of the
bullshit, of the illusion of thenonsense of what I believe to be
me for a time. And I step more into who I am,
who I truly am, who I want to be, who I'm deciding to be.
Yeah. And why that's important for you
is because you get to do the same.
And then you're already on that journey, aren't you?
(01:52):
If you're here, you're so here for this layering back the
bullshit, the masks, the pretending.
You're here to figure out who you are and to decide who you
are. To peel back the layers of false
identities to be more and more who you desire to be.
Recognizing it may feel like imposter syndrome because you
haven't yet been that version ofyou.
(02:12):
You don't yet have evidence for who you can be.
And so I'm glad you're here going.
This isn't me, this isn't me, this isn't me.
This is, though, right now, thisis me.
And so thanks for being here andseeing how important it is that
we all step into this work, thatwe all share in our own way,
that we all grow and evolve, that we all continue to get rid
(02:32):
of the nonsense and step into our truth, the truth for us.
Yeah, So let's do that today. So why I didn't have a podcast
episode last week, I don't know if y'all know but the other
podcasts that I do, Reclaiming Love with Ellie Miles, had quite
a few viral reels go off and it shook me if I'm honest.
It left me with a sense of oh shit I want to make major impact
(02:57):
in the world and that's been being thousands of women.
What if it was hundreds of thousands?
What if it was millions? What if to be what some people
need to hear to express a truth that is true for me, that is
true for many, means others willbump into it and it won't feel
true for them. Yet that for all of those who
are benefiting from my truths and my shares and this journey
(03:21):
that we're going on together, there may be those that then
don't want to hear it. Am I willing to say a truth that
resonates with so many that changes lives if that means
holding that some people will hate it?
Yeah. And the answer is a resounding
fuck yes I am. And when the hundreds of
(03:43):
thousands of people observe somecontent that is created to share
a piece of an opinion, and then they decided to come in and hear
how they wanted, which we're alldoing, we're all deleting and
distorting and generalizing information, making it mean
things. And some people grabbed a sound
bite and decided it meant thingsabout them.
And they projected that onto me and decided it meant things
(04:03):
about me. It it was surprising.
It was surprising how I experienced it also because if
I'm honest, I hadn't been nurturing my nervous system.
I hadn't been moving house, I had been underslept on a new
mattress. I had been carrying way too many
furniture pieces upstairs by myself and had forgotten to make
(04:26):
sure that I was well rested, well hydrated and well nurtured.
And so my nervous system, my body, were in a more heightened
state. And then having that come
through meant that I didn't takeas much time between stimulus
and response. I was stunned by it and I did
(04:46):
kind of actually go into a little bit of freeze mode and it
was amazing to see that all these truths of who I know
myself to be got forgotten for aminute of me questioning like.
Oh my God. Is is this true?
Should I be seeing myself the way these people are saying they
see me? And what it reminded me of is
how grounded I get to be in my truth, how I know what I mean.
(05:09):
And so many of you benefit from what I say, from the way that I
speak about love, about sexuality, about body image
issues, about relationships, about relationship with self.
So many people reach out and tell me how much is helping
them. And having worked with as many
clients as I have now and meeting as many people as I have
now, reaching as many people as I have now, I have such a great
(05:31):
sample size for knowing that howI think, how I speak, what I
feel, what I'm sharing is changing lives.
And so, yeah, there's going to be people that hear it and they
don't want to hear it. And that's OK because there's
tenfold, A hundredfold, thousandfold of people who are
saying thank you. Thank you for saying the
(05:54):
vulnerable hard thing. Thank you for your authenticity.
Thank you for saying the things that most people don't even say
to their closest girlfriends or to their lovers.
Thank you for telling the truth for you.
And so last week I didn't createan episode because I was like.
What do I want to say? How do I say it?
What's this version of me that Iwant to be right now?
(06:14):
And Ellie and I are going through an iteration of that for
ourselves, and we're really excited to share.
And I want to share with you about that journey, about this
nice expression of me who sharesin a slightly different way.
Yeah. Who gets to learn to be more
(06:36):
discerning? Who gets to allow people who
desire to hear it and see it andstep into truths to have it
available for them to be open and allow you to accept the
invitation to hear it? I'm really excited to step into
(06:56):
this more discerning version of me where I get to maybe even be
a little bit discreet with some things.
You know, I've learned to be fully self expressed.
I've learned to be all of me andI'm changing all the time.
So I get to step into this new version of what is all of me all
(07:19):
the time. And it's been really great to
see that I have this like, innerrebel that got to be set free
and this inner badass and this inner truth seeker and this
inner, all the conversations I was never allowed to have as a
kid, I've had now, yeah, publicly for hundreds of
thousands, millions to hear and see.
And it's almost gotten me to thepoint where I'm like, oh, OK,
(07:42):
great. Maybe I don't need to speak like
this in this way anymore. Now, Like, what if I do?
What if I share these conversations with those who are
asking in a different way? What would that look like?
How do I keep making sure peopleknow they can bring it all to
me? They can say it all.
They can have lived it all. And I get to help meet them
(08:05):
exactly where they're at and help them love themselves
exactly where they're at. They get to sit with the reality
of themselves and love even thatbecause that's my gift.
Yeah. Is helping people see who they
truly are and love that to forgive themselves and move
forward. And so I'm going to keep doing
that. And what I'm questioning is, how
do I do that as a business Now, how do I do that as a brand?
(08:28):
How do I do that as a woman who invites you into these
conversations in a way that reaches as many as possible and
changes as many lives as possible?
How do I make sure that not justmy little inner rebel is running
the show? Yeah, because of course I can
say whatever I want. And I can.
Show whatever I want. And is that really helping?
As many as it can. And that's exciting for me to
(08:50):
see that I get to be more strategic and considered in how
I share. And I'm also going to keep
playing at the edges of what some people want to hear and
others don't. And that's OK.
That's part of what I'm great atand what I now know I can hold.
And it's exciting. It's exciting to play with what
this business gets to grow and be like.
(09:11):
You know, I have a personal assistant that's come on working
with me. I have a team starting to work
with me. And it's so exciting to see how
much more I get to sit in what I'm great at while they work on
the other things that maybe I'm less great at or that take lots
of time for me or that I just don't want to do.
And I'm really excited because to have team now just feels
like, holy cow, it started with me going, can I do this?
(09:33):
So now I'm helping other women do this and learn to do this.
And it's lighting me up in ways that's helping me see how much
more is possible. And I wonder if you're at that
stage for yourself too. Are you at a stage in your life
where you're looking and going? I I'm ready for the next level.
Dreaming at what she could look like, what how she might speak,
(09:56):
how she might dress, where she might hang out, what she might
offer in the world. Are you at a version of yourself
that you're ready to evolve evenfurther?
Are you going into a cocoon to dissolve and reform and become
another version of you? Are you playing on the edges of
(10:17):
this next identity and excited by that, afraid of that, or
both? And I wonder what it would be
like to have people in your corner while you did that.
Yeah, there are so many opportunities for you in the
world and in life. And if you feel like one of
those might be being cheer LED, held, invited, prompted, guided,
(10:40):
laughed with by someone like me,I would love to hear from you as
I invite women to reclaim or uncover all of them.
Just step into all of who they are.
There's so many different ways Ican support you in doing that,
and I'd love for you to reach out so that we can do that
together. Thanks for joining me for
(11:02):
another episode. If you got value from what you
heard today, I would love for you to like it to give it a five
star review, share it with a friend or share it on your
socials. And I would love to connect with
you on my socials. You can find me at Veronica Jane
under score on Instagram where you can access links to all my
upcoming offers and events. Remember, now is always a great
(11:24):
time to. Decide this.
Isn't me.
Thank you. Thank you for saying the
vulnerable hard thing. Thank you for your authenticity.
Thank you for saying the things that most people don't even say
to their closest girlfriends or to their lovers.
Thank you for telling the truth for you.
And so last week I didn't createan episode because I was like.
What do I want to say? How do I say it?
What's this version of me that Iwant to be right now?
(00:29):
Hi, I'm Veronica Jane, Embodiment Empowerment and
Relationship Coach. And this is this.
Isn't me podcast. I wonder if you've ever found
yourself in a moment. Where you look?
At your life. And realize.
This isn't me, and you're ready for the next version of
yourself. That's what This Isn't Me
podcast is all. About letting go of the past and
(00:49):
stepping into the future. You.
Desire and deserve. This isn't me anymore.
Hey, welcome to another episode of This Isn't Me podcast.
I miss you. Last week.
There's been a whole slew of things happening and I could
tell you about them and they'd all just be excuses for why
(01:09):
there wasn't an episode last week.
And I will explain the context. And yet what I really want to
focus on is how important this podcast is for us, for you and
for me. And for me, how it's important
is it helps me remember who I amwhen I come here and I share and
(01:30):
explore what isn't me. I shed another layer of the
bullshit, of the illusion of thenonsense of what I believe to be
me for a time. And I step more into who I am,
who I truly am, who I want to be, who I'm deciding to be.
Yeah. And why that's important for you
is because you get to do the same.
And then you're already on that journey, aren't you?
(01:52):
If you're here, you're so here for this layering back the
bullshit, the masks, the pretending.
You're here to figure out who you are and to decide who you
are. To peel back the layers of false
identities to be more and more who you desire to be.
Recognizing it may feel like imposter syndrome because you
haven't yet been that version ofyou.
(02:12):
You don't yet have evidence for who you can be.
And so I'm glad you're here going.
This isn't me, this isn't me, this isn't me.
This is, though, right now, thisis me.
And so thanks for being here andseeing how important it is that
we all step into this work, thatwe all share in our own way,
that we all grow and evolve, that we all continue to get rid
(02:32):
of the nonsense and step into our truth, the truth for us.
Yeah, So let's do that today. So why I didn't have a podcast
episode last week, I don't know if y'all know but the other
podcasts that I do, Reclaiming Love with Ellie Miles, had quite
a few viral reels go off and it shook me if I'm honest.
It left me with a sense of oh shit I want to make major impact
(02:57):
in the world and that's been being thousands of women.
What if it was hundreds of thousands?
What if it was millions? What if to be what some people
need to hear to express a truth that is true for me, that is
true for many, means others willbump into it and it won't feel
true for them. Yet that for all of those who
are benefiting from my truths and my shares and this journey
(03:21):
that we're going on together, there may be those that then
don't want to hear it. Am I willing to say a truth that
resonates with so many that changes lives if that means
holding that some people will hate it?
Yeah. And the answer is a resounding
fuck yes I am. And when the hundreds of
(03:43):
thousands of people observe somecontent that is created to share
a piece of an opinion, and then they decided to come in and hear
how they wanted, which we're alldoing, we're all deleting and
distorting and generalizing information, making it mean
things. And some people grabbed a sound
bite and decided it meant thingsabout them.
And they projected that onto me and decided it meant things
(04:03):
about me. It it was surprising.
It was surprising how I experienced it also because if
I'm honest, I hadn't been nurturing my nervous system.
I hadn't been moving house, I had been underslept on a new
mattress. I had been carrying way too many
furniture pieces upstairs by myself and had forgotten to make
(04:26):
sure that I was well rested, well hydrated and well nurtured.
And so my nervous system, my body, were in a more heightened
state. And then having that come
through meant that I didn't takeas much time between stimulus
and response. I was stunned by it and I did
(04:46):
kind of actually go into a little bit of freeze mode and it
was amazing to see that all these truths of who I know
myself to be got forgotten for aminute of me questioning like.
Oh my God. Is is this true?
Should I be seeing myself the way these people are saying they
see me? And what it reminded me of is
how grounded I get to be in my truth, how I know what I mean.
(05:09):
And so many of you benefit from what I say, from the way that I
speak about love, about sexuality, about body image
issues, about relationships, about relationship with self.
So many people reach out and tell me how much is helping
them. And having worked with as many
clients as I have now and meeting as many people as I have
now, reaching as many people as I have now, I have such a great
(05:31):
sample size for knowing that howI think, how I speak, what I
feel, what I'm sharing is changing lives.
And so, yeah, there's going to be people that hear it and they
don't want to hear it. And that's OK because there's
tenfold, A hundredfold, thousandfold of people who are
saying thank you. Thank you for saying the
(05:54):
vulnerable hard thing. Thank you for your authenticity.
Thank you for saying the things that most people don't even say
to their closest girlfriends or to their lovers.
Thank you for telling the truth for you.
And so last week I didn't createan episode because I was like.
What do I want to say? How do I say it?
What's this version of me that Iwant to be right now?
(06:14):
And Ellie and I are going through an iteration of that for
ourselves, and we're really excited to share.
And I want to share with you about that journey, about this
nice expression of me who sharesin a slightly different way.
Yeah. Who gets to learn to be more
(06:36):
discerning? Who gets to allow people who
desire to hear it and see it andstep into truths to have it
available for them to be open and allow you to accept the
invitation to hear it? I'm really excited to step into
(06:56):
this more discerning version of me where I get to maybe even be
a little bit discreet with some things.
You know, I've learned to be fully self expressed.
I've learned to be all of me andI'm changing all the time.
So I get to step into this new version of what is all of me all
(07:19):
the time. And it's been really great to
see that I have this like, innerrebel that got to be set free
and this inner badass and this inner truth seeker and this
inner, all the conversations I was never allowed to have as a
kid, I've had now, yeah, publicly for hundreds of
thousands, millions to hear and see.
And it's almost gotten me to thepoint where I'm like, oh, OK,
(07:42):
great. Maybe I don't need to speak like
this in this way anymore. Now, Like, what if I do?
What if I share these conversations with those who are
asking in a different way? What would that look like?
How do I keep making sure peopleknow they can bring it all to
me? They can say it all.
They can have lived it all. And I get to help meet them
(08:05):
exactly where they're at and help them love themselves
exactly where they're at. They get to sit with the reality
of themselves and love even thatbecause that's my gift.
Yeah. Is helping people see who they
truly are and love that to forgive themselves and move
forward. And so I'm going to keep doing
that. And what I'm questioning is, how
do I do that as a business Now, how do I do that as a brand?
(08:28):
How do I do that as a woman who invites you into these
conversations in a way that reaches as many as possible and
changes as many lives as possible?
How do I make sure that not justmy little inner rebel is running
the show? Yeah, because of course I can
say whatever I want. And I can.
Show whatever I want. And is that really helping?
As many as it can. And that's exciting for me to
(08:50):
see that I get to be more strategic and considered in how
I share. And I'm also going to keep
playing at the edges of what some people want to hear and
others don't. And that's OK.
That's part of what I'm great atand what I now know I can hold.
And it's exciting. It's exciting to play with what
this business gets to grow and be like.
(09:11):
You know, I have a personal assistant that's come on working
with me. I have a team starting to work
with me. And it's so exciting to see how
much more I get to sit in what I'm great at while they work on
the other things that maybe I'm less great at or that take lots
of time for me or that I just don't want to do.
And I'm really excited because to have team now just feels
like, holy cow, it started with me going, can I do this?
(09:33):
So now I'm helping other women do this and learn to do this.
And it's lighting me up in ways that's helping me see how much
more is possible. And I wonder if you're at that
stage for yourself too. Are you at a stage in your life
where you're looking and going? I I'm ready for the next level.
Dreaming at what she could look like, what how she might speak,
(09:56):
how she might dress, where she might hang out, what she might
offer in the world. Are you at a version of yourself
that you're ready to evolve evenfurther?
Are you going into a cocoon to dissolve and reform and become
another version of you? Are you playing on the edges of
(10:17):
this next identity and excited by that, afraid of that, or
both? And I wonder what it would be
like to have people in your corner while you did that.
Yeah, there are so many opportunities for you in the
world and in life. And if you feel like one of
those might be being cheer LED, held, invited, prompted, guided,
(10:40):
laughed with by someone like me,I would love to hear from you as
I invite women to reclaim or uncover all of them.
Just step into all of who they are.
There's so many different ways Ican support you in doing that,
and I'd love for you to reach out so that we can do that
together. Thanks for joining me for
(11:02):
another episode. If you got value from what you
heard today, I would love for you to like it to give it a five
star review, share it with a friend or share it on your
socials. And I would love to connect with
you on my socials. You can find me at Veronica Jane
under score on Instagram where you can access links to all my
upcoming offers and events. Remember, now is always a great
(11:24):
time to. Decide this.
Isn't me.
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