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Shannon D. Martin (00:00):
Hello,
Beautiful welcome to today's
conversation where we're goingto talk about the voice within.
Listening to your Emotions,let's talk about it.
I am your host, Shannon Martin,and welcome to today's episode
of This Thing Called Wellness.
Speaker 2 (00:19):
Hello and welcome
back.
Shannon D. Martin (00:20):
I hope you
are doing well on this Wellness
Wednesday.
I am doing great and wanted tofurther our discussion on how
to cope after another mentalsetback.
Last week I talked about how Icope by reaching out to my
sister circle and practicingself-compassion and gratitude.
I'm still unpacking my emotions, to be honest, and I ask myself
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why.
Why am I still feeling somekind of way as I continue to
allow myself to unpack myemotions, which is huge for me
because I've always been so goodat pushing my emotions down
tight.
That has literally taken me 10years to finally allow myself to
neatly unpack them, one at atime, but I'm proud of myself
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feeling.
Do you know what I mean?
Not just to cry or feel sad,but ask yourself why are you
crying?
Why are you anxious, angry, sador fearful?
By asking myself or yourselfthose questions, answers started
to pour in.
I allowed myself to sit insadness, anger and fear.
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I didn't suppress any of them.
I continued to ask thequestions.
Why were you angry?
I was angry because now I haveyet another ailment that's going
to set me back on my way tohealing Another pause when I
wanted to run Another issue thatwill keep me from moving
forward and implementing theideas, activities that I had in
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mind for me to do every daytowards feeling better and
growing.
My legs are hurting a littlebit more than usual and I don't
know what's going on with them.
I was angry because I had tolook at myself and ask is what
the doctor said to me years agoabout my not living to see 55
come true?
Am I not doing what I'msupposed to be to keep this from
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happening?
Why are you fearful?
I was fearful because I didn'twant my family to go through yet
another episode of me beingsick or bedridden again.
We have been so much as afamily that didn't want anyone
to suffer anymore.
worrying about me.
It weighed heavily on me.
I feared that it was going tobe another financial drain more
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specialist appointments andco-pays and more medications.
I'm already so burnt out onspecialist that I have missed
appointments before because Iwas just exhausted and I was
afraid that this would happenagain and I would waste time and
money.
Why are you sad?
I was sad because I had come sofar and felt like I was going
backwards.
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I was sad because I felt somedisappointment in myself.
I felt that maybe I wasn'ttruly grasping the full extent
of my health and my wellnessjourney Was that, giving every
day my all, was I truly showingup for myself, working towards
my new ventures and leaving mydreams.
Now, here I am with anotherissue and it's about to tear me
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down.
I'm all that I dreamed of doing.
That was the feeling of thewind being outdone of me, the
sheer sadness of not being ableto accomplish my goals, my
dreams and wishes.
Your emotions matter.
Processing them matters more.
Anonymous, as I was layingthere, which seems to be where I
do most of my processing andhealing is from my bed.
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Before I get up and before I goto sleep, I process how I felt
that day and at that time, Ineed to assess my emotions.
The great thing about thisjourney that we are on is that
you go through so many ups anddowns and breakthroughs that you
have healed enough to see apattern.
This is another path toemotional growth and healing.
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You quickly acknowledge yourvulnerabilities and pains and
you know now that this episodewas out of your control and
simply something that was meantto happen.
Yes, you were angry and yes,you have another ailment that
you have to deal with and payfor, but it doesn't have to be
seen as another step back.
It can be seen as a need topause again.
Yes, the infamous pause.
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Even though you don'tunderstand it or don't want to,
at this time it's happening fora reason.
You didn't know that a simpleairplane ride will cause all of
this.
Who knew that medications thatyou were taking may also have
helped the situation alone?
It's because of being treatedfor menopause symptoms that your
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hormone therapy medication mayhave aided in clotting, not
knowing that certaincircumstances that come with
this treatment are out of yourcontrol.
And who would have thought thatin a million years this would
be the combination to causeclotting right?
So I began to relax a littlebit, knowing that this was way
out of my control.
But what is in my control is tono longer take those
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medications that cause theclotting.
My hematologist advised me tostop taking the medication and
consult with my obstetrician toother treatment options.
So I'm taking a fewer pills.
Who would feel better aboutthat?
But I can schedule my doctor'sappointments further apart.
They're not very close together, giving me time to recuperate
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from each, both financially andphysically, and now I know to
ask more questions about what Iam taking.
I thought I was being verydiligent, but now I will ask way
more questions than before.
I realized that yeah, girlie,you worry about what you can
control.
All of your reports are comingback clear from any heart issues
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.
You are seriously the sickest,healthiest person.
The doctors have ever seentheir words not mine and that's
a good thing.
Keep working on you.
One day at a time when you havethese gentle pauses, ask why?
Process and grow from the setback.
Yes, you were afraid and it'sOK Be afraid.
Let your family know that youare too.
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Everyone was thinking it mayhave been because I'm sedentary
at times.
That was the cause of the clot,but no, it wasn't.
But it was a valid reason.
It was an unforeseencombination of the trip and
medication, simple.
Now I know that this ispossible, so I need to ask more
questions and be more diligentabout my health from here on.
But I also know that my familytruly cares for me and just
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wants to see me moving well andenjoying my life.
Yes, you were sad, but you knowhow you can tell you are
growing.
Girl.
You stopped the cycle, youasked the hard questions and
allowed yourself to feel andheal.
That is a big step for anyonewho has had a few setbacks and
if I had my share, you aregrowing in your emotions.
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the ones you used to suppressare now allowed to guide you to
a new place of calm.
Yes, it's going to cost, it'sanother issue to worry about,
but you have the strength,courage and support system to
get through yet another struggle.
You got this and are strongerthan you know.
Our emotions are here for areason.
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When we truly listen to them,we find amazing hidden wisdom
underneath each one.
Mateo Sol Mindful Moment.
Let's not ignore or judge ouremotions.
Let's get curious about whatthey're trying to tell us.
Emotions show our deepest wants, needs, fears and truths in a
way our brain alone can't.
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When we pay attention to ourfeelings, it gives us greater
self-understanding than justthinking does.
Emotions aren't instruction tofollow blindly, but information
to help us get to know ourselvesbetter.
Our emotions have wisdom, whichcomes from using their signals
of being sad, angry and afraidto tap into our intuition and
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make choices that are good forour mental, emotional and
physical health.
Emotions aim to raise ourawareness, not force any
particular action.
By staying open to thesemessages in our emotions rather
than rejecting them, we canaccess a wealth of self-
knowledge.
This allows us to deal withlife's challenges in a more
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grounded, in tune way with ourwhole selves.
The key here is getting curiousabout our emotions instead of
judging them.
Listen to the wisdom they offerabout who we truly are and what
we truly need.
Love you, girl.
Thank you for joining me.
I hope you found value intoday's conversation, where we
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talked about The Voice Within,Listening to your Emotions.
I'm your host, Shannon Martin.
Be sure to join us nextWednesday where we will discuss
Emotional Self-Care Practices.
Until then, stay healthy andwell, take care.
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We've got plenty of excitingthings in store, so be sure to
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join us on this journey towardsa healthier, more vibrant you.
Thanks for tuning in.
Speaker 2 (09:19):
Disclaimer I am not a
licensed mental health
professional.
The information provided hereis for general information
purposes only.
It should not be considered asubstitute for a professional
mental health advice, diagnosisor treatment.
If you need help, pleaseconsult a qualified mental
health professional.