his kidney, his choice?

In this conversation, Laura and Crystal explore the complexities of relationships, particularly focusing on the emotional labor and expectations that arise when one partner makes significant decisions, such as donating a kidney. They discuss the importance of communication, the impact of caregiving, and the need for self-awareness in navigating these dynamics. The conversation emphasizes the necessity of considering each other's needs and the collective responsibility in relationships, while also highlighting the role of therapy and community support in fostering healthier interactions.

🧠 Topics We Hit Hard:

• Weaponized Incompetence & Emotional Labor
• How “I’m not asking you to do anything” becomes emotional gaslighting when you're still left holding the bag.
• 📝 See: Fair Play by Eve Rodsky
• 📝 Also see: “The Gender Gap in Caregiving” - Pew Research Center
• Care Work & Systemic Invisibility
• The gendered, unpaid, and expected nature of domestic caregiving and how society rewards male hyper-individualism but punishes communal care.
• 📚 bell hooks, All About Love
• 📚 Silvia Federici, Revolution at Point Zero

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