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July 10, 2025 53 mins
On this episode of Impact Theory, Tom Bilyeu is joined by organizational psychologist and author Benjamin Hardy, PhD to discuss such matters and more as they explore why your personality and self-identity is an ever-changing thing that you have the control to reshape and reform. They discuss why most of us are trapped in our personalities, how your personality is always changing, how trauma shapes us, how to move forward in life, why your past never defines your future, the power of reframing your past and future, why pain tolerance is key to growth, how to become cognitively flexible, and how pressure creates traction to move forward in life.  [ORIGINAL AIR DATE: 1-26-21]. SHOW NOTES: Personality | Benjamin shares why the conversation needs to shift on personalities. [0:12] Trapped | Benjamin reveals why we get trapped in the identities we’ve created. [1:30] Change | Benjamin reveals why your personality will change no matter what in life. [3:33] Trauma | Benjamin discusses how we hold onto and interact with our trauma. [8:09] Healing | Benjamin discusses how he healed from trauma and mended his relationships. [11:23] Moving Forward | Benjamin reveals how we can move beyond our own trauma. [13:22] Giving Up | Benjamin discusses why you shouldn’t give up on your idea of your future. [17:03] Your Past | Benjamin discusses why your past never defines your future. [17:55] Reframe | Benjamin reveals why you must reframe both your past and your future. [22:26] Future | Benjamin discusses how to craft a beautiful vision for your future. [25:28] Next Steps | Benjamin discusses the power of journaling and thinking ahead. [29:07] Self-Expansion | Benjamin discusses how our environment influences our visions. [30:49] Pushing Through | Benjamin reveals why pain tolerance is key to growth. [34:51] Flexibility | Benjamin discusses the power of being cognitively flexible. [38:51] Commitment | Benjamin shares how you should redefine commitment. [39:45] Pressure | Benjamin shares how pressure creates traction to move forward in life. [41:26] Acceptance | Benjamin discusses acceptance and commitment therapy. [44:50] Connect | Benjamin shares how you can connect and continue to follow him. [45:50]  FOLLOW BENJAMIN: Twitter: twitter.com/benjaminphardy Facebook: facebook.com/benjamin.hardy.18 Instagram: instagram.com/benjamin_hardy_phd ********************************************************************** What's up, everybody? It's Tom Bilyeu here: If you want my help... STARTING a business: Join me inside ZERO TO FOUNDER here SCALING a business: Click here to see if you qualify Get my battle-tested strategies and insights delivered weekly to your inbox: sign up here. ********************************************************************** Join me live on my Twitch stream. I'm live daily from 6:30 to 8:30 am PT at www.twitch.tv/tombilyeu ********************************************************************** LISTEN TO IMPACT THEORY & MINDSET PLAYBOOK AD FREE + BONUS EPISODES on APPLE PODCASTS: apple.co/impacttheory ********************************************************************** FOLLOW TOM: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/tombilyeu/ Tik Tok: https://www.tiktok.com/@tombilyeu?lang=en Twitter: https://twitter.com/tombilyeu YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@TomBilyeu Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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