258 Performative Expectations vs. Honoring Your Neurodivergent (AuDHD) Needs

Performative Expectations vs. Honoring Your Neurodivergent (AuDHD) Needs

 

 

In this conversation, Patricia discusses the challenges of navigating personal truths, autonomy, and performative expectations, particularly as an AuDHDer. Patricia reflects on her struggles with body image, the importance of self-trust, the need for autonomy (PDA), honoring her needs as a neurodivergent human, and prioritizing her comfort. She also addresses social anxiety, the joy of spontaneity, and the balance between assertiveness and sensitivity in relationships. Ultimately, Patricia emphasizes personal growth and the acceptance of one's unique identity through the planning and execution of her son’s wedding.

 

HIGHLIGHTS

 

·       Navigating personal truths is essential for autonomy, and working with PDA (pervasive or persistent drive for autonomy)

·       Performative expectations can override the needs of the human.

·       Body image issues are apt to come up when asked to wear clothes one doesn’t normally wear.

·       Self-trust is crucial in making personal choices.

·       Finding comfort in clothing is important for self-regulation, and feeling authentic.

·       Fear of overwhelm and dysregulation can be mitigated with p