October 13, 2025 • 22 mins
Tired of telling yourself you’ll “figure it out” while your to-do list grows louder than your own thoughts? I’m sharing a different playbook: do less, move slower on purpose, and buy back your time so progress stops depending on willpower.
From corporate conditioning to solopreneur burnout, I walk through the hard truth I learned the slow way—your system is only as strong as your ability to delegate, simplify, and trust yourself to act before you feel ready.
We dig into the cost of constant notifications and the myth that more information equals better outcomes.
Whether you’re an entrepreneur juggling every role or a professional swimming in process and meetings, this conversation offers a calmer path to results—less hustle, more intention, and a clearer line between what only you can do and what should be handed off. If this resonates, subscribe, share it with someone who needs relief from “do more” culture, and leave a review so more people can find the show.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:07):
Welcome to the Unbreakable Mind and Body
Podcast.
I am your host, Tiana Gonzalez,a multi-passionate creative,
storyteller, and entrepreneurwith a fierce love for movement.
This is our space for powerfulstories and actionable
strategies to help you buildmental resilience and elevate
(00:28):
your self-care practice.
Together, we will unlock thetools that you need to create an
unbreakable mind and body.
Welcome back to the show.
I am your host, Tiana, and onthis episode, I am going to
encourage you to invest inyourself.
That's right.
I am so frustrated hearingpeople say, I'm just trying to
(00:52):
figure that out.
You are wasting time, my friend.
And the thing about it is, isthat life is impermanent.
Everything is fluid, and yougotta just let things flow.
They ebb and flow in and out.
Life is a living and breathingthing.
It is not stagnant, it is notsquare, it is not finite.
(01:14):
So in this day and age that weare living in, we are in
information overlord.
We are constantly being dumpedon with advertisements, with
marketing, with sales, withemails, with notifications, with
text messages, we're evengetting phone calls about
purchasing things or donating tothings.
(01:35):
How do you have time foryourself if you're constantly
being slammed over the head withall of these notifications?
Then kids are busier than ever.
They have more activities, theyhave more hobbies, the schools
are getting parents moreinvolved.
And so we are living in ageneration or in a time where in
(02:00):
our culture everyone is busierthan ever.
And I am here to challenge that,and I am here to tell you to
please slow down.
I'm here to tell you that youdon't need to do more and you
don't need to be more.
Now listen, I'll never tell youto be less, because fuck that.
If you want to be more, be more,but let's take the pressure, the
(02:21):
unnecessary pressure off ofourselves because you are enough
just as you are, just the wayyou are right now, with all of
the tools that you have at yourdisposal, all of the knowledge,
all of the information, yourskill set, your unique touch,
and the way that you do what youdo.
That is enough.
(02:42):
Okay?
Let's take a deep breath in.
I want you to breathe in throughyour nose and hold it.
And exhale.
Let it out, let it out, let itout, let it out, let it out.
Doesn't that feel good?
(03:02):
I have intentionally focused forthe last, I would say about 15
years, slowing the fuck down.
Literally slowing down.
So much so that I don't care ifI take pauses when I speak, if I
(03:22):
drive in the slow lane on theroad.
Not always.
I mean, I am a New Yorker and Ido have a little bit of a speed
demon inside me from time totime.
But generally speaking, I try tokeep it chill and I take my
fucking time.
If I need to be somewhere early,guess what I do?
(03:46):
I wake up extra early becausemama's not rushing.
Okay.
We have our coffee ritual.
Sometimes we journal.
Sometimes we listen to a Spanishpodcast because we are doing
comprehensible input every day.
Sometimes we just sit with ourthoughts and we put our
(04:07):
supplements in the littlesupplement holder that we take
with us throughout the day withall of our vitamins and
nutrients.
We pack the lunch, we take oursweet fucking time because that
is how we want to begin the day.
Maybe that doesn't work for you.
That's okay.
(04:28):
But I'm here to encourage you tofind ways to improve the quality
of your life and to let go ofthis feeling that you need to
figure everything out.
No, you do not.
Instead of beating yourself upbecause you know you're capable
of figuring out that workoutplan or figuring out what kind
(04:50):
of foods to eat or figuring outwhat recipes you want to make
this week.
And guess what?
It's already Monday and youhaven't even gone food shopping.
So how's that working for you?
Okay.
Instead of doing all of that,what if you found ways to save
you a little bit of time?
What if you found people in yourimmediate network?
(05:14):
Or what if you had things atyour fingertips that could help
you solve the problem thatyou're facing or overcome the
challenge or maybe give you backyour time.
See, when I was working incorporate America, I was
brainwashed into believing thatin order to make a healthy
(05:36):
income, in order to make aliving, now I live in the
Northeast.
We all know it's a veryexpensive area to live in.
And what works here is probablya lot more of a demanding career
or job and income level than inother parts of the country and
certainly in other parts of theworld.
(05:58):
However, we're here, okay?
I'm here, and I have uhunderstood this assignment for a
long time.
If I want to just have asomewhat simple, humble life, I
still need to knock it out ofthe park.
I still need to be making sixfigures, and I need to keep my
shit tight and on lock andbudget and not go crazy shopping
(06:20):
and spending.
I would rather work more, earnmore, generate more to live
comfortably than downsize mylife or scale the back on the
things that make me happy.
There was a period of time whenI transitioned from making six
figures in corporate America toowning a personal training
(06:43):
business online and working atvarious gyms and boutique
studios.
And I did need to make somecompromises, which included
moving in with a roommate, uh,sharing common space, uh, making
my life more simple as far asthe things I was spending on
food, cutting back on going outto eat, cutting back on the uh
(07:06):
lavish coffee drinks and thefrequency in which I
participated in those things.
And I did that for a number ofyears and it worked for me.
But going back to the incomething, so you know, I've always
known you have to work hard tomove up the ladder, to make more
money, to get newresponsibilities, to work hard,
(07:27):
to move up the ladder, to get apromotion, to get new
responsibilities.
And you know what?
It never ends.
And so I had this thoughtprocess that in order to maybe
be a six-figure uh entrepreneuror even a seven-figure
entrepreneur, which I hope andpray one day that I get to, I
(07:49):
have to do more.
But guess what happens?
When you're a sole proprietor ora solopreneur and you are doing
all of the things in yourbusiness, you become the
bottleneck.
Or actually, let's let's keep itreal.
I'm talking about me.
I became the bottleneck.
So I had this fabulous onlinebusiness that I quit a very
(08:11):
comfortable six-figure incomesalary job to pursue.
And then I became entrepreneurbroke.
And entrepreneur broke is verydifferent from salary broke
because when you're on a salaryand you work for a corporation,
you know that at least there'sanother paycheck coming.
Maybe it's this Friday or it'snext Friday.
When you're entrepreneur broke,you're broke.
(08:34):
You're maxing out your creditcards, you're selling things on
various websites, you're sellingthings on Facebook Marketplace
or eBay or pawning, or you'retrying to get real gritty,
grimy, and creative and come upwith a digital offer that you
could just slap up online andhopefully get some bites and
(08:55):
make a quick, fast cashinjection.
And I realized this is not theway.
I cannot possibly be doing allof the functions.
I was getting so caught up incontent creation and being on
social media, working to grow myfollowing, to get more
engagement, to get conversationsgoing in the DMs, to then pitch
(09:20):
an offer or to get people uhbooked on a discovery call.
I also was doing all the leadgeneration, all of the
marketing, all of the invoicing,the contract negotiations, the
client management, keeping theclients happy, and then also the
work within my business.
(09:41):
So it was a lot of thingsjuggling and very overwhelming
and stressful, and I was doingit all myself.
And it was kind of at this pointwhere I didn't think I was truly
earning enough on a consistentbasis to outsource anything, but
I also knew that I needed toeither outsource something, get
(10:01):
a business partner, figure outanother way, or shut it down
because I was getting burnt out.
And the thing of it is, Iprobably should have hired
someone way before I wound upretaining a business partner.
And yes, did I give up some ofmy hard-earned money?
(10:22):
I did, but in exchange, I got abeautifully laid-out website and
app.
It was customized, it madecommunication with my clients so
much easier.
It handled a lot of the clientmanagement things in the
operation, such as keeping trackof my leads, keeping track of
(10:42):
clients, the contracts, theirinvoices, the billing, and of
course the actual meat andpotatoes of the work we were
doing together, the execution ofthe program, and a place where
we could house all of the clientupdates, photos, and messages
and communicate with each other.
So, yeah, I gave up a prettydecent portion of the income I
(11:06):
was generating in exchange forthat, and I felt it was well
worth it.
But I also still felt likethere's gotta be another way.
I would see very successfulonline trainers killing it
financially, and I wasn't evenclose to that.
I also suffered tremendouslyfrom imposter syndrome because I
(11:28):
felt like I didn't understandhow some of these other people
were so successful, and I knewthey were killing it financially
because they were working on thesame platform, but with perhaps
a different business partner.
So my business partner was abusiness partner to me as well
as a team of other trainers, andeach of us had our own style,
(11:52):
flavor, uh, and branding, butthe actual functionality of our
apps and our platform was prettysimilar.
And so, yeah, I did know theirnumbers.
It wasn't like I was justimagining this, I was comparing
myself.
I remember I went out to dinnerwith a very successful investor,
(12:14):
and he was asking me like aboutmy business, and he's like, wow,
that's so great.
You must be killing it.
And I kind of just looked at himand was like, Yeah, it's also
really stressful and veryfucking scary because if a
couple clients decide they don'twant to continue, I'm out, you
know, and I lose out on that,and I have to keep the pipeline
(12:35):
going, and I've got to refillthat spot, and I've got to keep
my foot on the gas at all times.
And I'm sure some of you knowwhen you feel like you have to
constantly keep your foot on thegas, and if you let up at all,
your whole body goes into shockand everything just crumbles to
the ground.
That is a weak system, that is aweak infrastructure, and it
(12:59):
needs some help and support.
But you've got to be willing toget out of your own way.
And so I say all of this aboutmy online business because I
hear it almost daily with someof my clients, my friends, and
my close network where peoplewill say, I just need to figure
this out.
But they've been trying tofigure something out in their
(13:20):
life for weeks, if not months.
And the truth of the matter isthere's no amount of information
that's gonna help you cross thatline.
There's no amount of learning orcourses you can enroll in or
reading you can do, or YouTubevideos you can watch that's
gonna actually be integratedinto your life, into your
(13:42):
current situation, and thenaccelerate you towards the goal
you want to get to.
That's not how it's gonna getdone.
And doing more isn't also notthe answer.
In fact, I'd say, how do you doless to reach the goal?
Now, for some people listening,I know you're an entrepreneur,
(14:02):
you're a small business owner,you get it.
You also understand that this isreally scary.
For some of my folks that arelistening that are working in
nine-to-fives or they work for alarge corporation, or you know,
they're not necessarily the onemaking all of the decisions.
How can you do less?
Well, you can find ways,perhaps, and this is
(14:25):
work-related, you can find waysto delegate some of the tasks
that are maybe reallytime-consuming that you're not
that great at.
Why do you need to learn everydetail of every process when you
could hire someone who can do itfaster and better than you and
give you your time back?
(14:46):
So I think you know where thisis going because I work in
fitness and I help peopleovercome their fears, get out of
their own way, and move some oftheir shit off their plate onto
mine so that I can help them getto the finish line or at least
move in the right direction.
And I understand some peoplereally love to learn, they want
(15:11):
to know the details for theirown edification, they want to
understand all of the processes.
And I'm here to give you agentle nudge and to tell you no,
you don't, you don't need toknow every step, you have to
trust the process.
But the folks who question everywhich way you do something in
(15:33):
every turn, they don't trustthemselves yet.
And the only way you're gonnatrust yourself is to actually do
the thing first and then youbuild the confidence.
You don't get the confidence andthen do the thing.
That is not how it works.
This reminds me of aconversation I had with a dear
friend of mine who was togglingback and forth on making a very
(15:56):
big life-changing decision foryears, and I kept telling him
there's no guarantees, but yourlife or your quality of your
life will improve if you do X,Y, and Z.
And I can guarantee you, you'llbe happier, things will look
better for you, but there's noguarantee what that will consist
(16:18):
of or how your life will look.
You just have to trust it, andthat's very scary for people who
are not accustomed to takingrisks.
People who invest or people whogamble, they only do things a
certain way, and when you'renudging them to take on a new
(16:39):
perspective or try itdifferently, it becomes very
uncomfortable.
Now, I said gamble, and perhapsthat's not the right word, but
even people who gamble, theythey have enough experience
within the realm in whichthey're playing, whatever game
it is, or if it's an event,where they're pretty good,
(17:00):
they've got a skill set, they'veseen the trends, they know how
to predict, it's still risky.
And here's the thing if you donothing, that's also risky.
If you've listened to this showbefore, you have heard me say
this time and time and timeagain.
When you are choosing to donothing, you are actually
(17:22):
choosing to go backwards becauselife is continuously evolving,
life is continuously movingforward, and even the state of
the state is a progressive sortof energy.
There's things evolving andchanging, and even just to stay
up to speed with the status quo,you actually need to be willing
(17:45):
to change and adjust and flow alittle bit.
So if you're somebody who'ssuffering, if you're someone
who's suffering from analysisparalysis, if you feel like you
don't know which way to turnbecause you have so much
information spinning in yourhead, my suggestion would be to
(18:06):
brain dump, grab pen and paper,and just let it all out onto a
piece of paper.
Oftentimes, that simple exercisehelps clear some space for you.
Something else you could do isquiet the noise.
I had an Apple Watch for yearsand I loved it.
And I wore it consistently forabout four years.
(18:27):
And in the spring of 2024, Irealized that I was very bad
habit.
It was like so unhealthy, whereI was constantly checking my
Apple Watch to look atnotifications.
Even if my phone was on do notdisturb, if I saw, let's say,
the message number increase, Iwould immediately go and check
(18:49):
it.
So I thought to myself, well,what's the point of me having my
phone on do not disturb if I'malways checking it?
So I did away with the AppleWatch, and it really helped me
gain some clarity and establishmore peace in my day-to-day and
in my life.
And if you're somebody who lovesto learn, that is a beautiful
(19:09):
thing.
But I want you to ask yourself,do you really have time for
that?
Yeah, it'd be nice to be astudent of life and to be a
student forever.
But if you are feeling stuck andyour doctor is telling you,
well, you need to do this inorder to avoid getting on
medication and you have afollow-up appointment in three
(19:32):
months, we got to light the fireunder your ass a little bit
because you only have threemonths.
You do not have time to figureout how to do something.
You just need to do it.
So you need to relinquish thatcontrol.
You need to get somebody who cando that the work for you and
just give you the plan to followand coach you through it, tell
(19:52):
you what to do, and give you thecues and the tips and the
pointers so that it becomes anintegral part of your life.
But you still don't necessarilyneed to know every detail on all
the ins and outs.
So today, I challenge you.
At some point today, I'mchallenging you.
I want you to sit down, do abrain dump, get it all onto that
(20:17):
piece of paper, all the thingsrunning around in your head, all
the things you want to do, nojudgment, get it down, get it
out, and then start to look forsome trends.
Are some of these thingsoverlapping?
And then are some of thesethings things you can outsource
or things you can hire an expertfor?
Now, I don't want to assume thatyou have a huge budget to do
(20:41):
that, and I don't want to assumethat you don't have a budget to
do that.
But if money was no object, justwhat if would you still be doing
all of the busy things thatyou're doing?
We can from time to time haveour groceries delivered, we can
(21:02):
from time to time drop off ourlaundry, and maybe those are
things you do enjoy doingbecause you like the laundry
detergent you use, you like theway you fold things, maybe you
appreciate picking out your ownfruit and squeezing it and
making sure it's ripe and it'sjust right for you.
And I can appreciate that, and Ilove the simplicity of a
(21:24):
slower-paced life.
But again, if you're on a timeclock, maybe you don't have time
to do all of those things everyday, every week.
Maybe once in a while you canget support, you can buy back
your time, and that's worth alot more.
So remember, you do not need todo more, you do not need to be
(21:48):
more unless you want to be.
But you are enough and you'refully capable of making the
changes you want in yourpersonal life, accomplishing the
career goals, hitting the healthand wellness goal, finding that
relationship you've alwaysdreamed of, and you don't have
to figure it out.
(22:08):
You simply need to exist andthen get people in place in your
periphery that can support you,encourage you, guide you,
educate you, train you, coachyou, and simplify your life.
If you enjoyed this show, pleasedo me a favor, get in touch with
(22:29):
me.
You can check the show notes forhow to do that.
And if you loved this episode,please give me a review and a
number of stars.
It goes a long way and it helpsthe show get more visibility.
As always, I appreciate yourtime and attention.
And I'll catch you on the nextone.
Welcome to the Unbreakable Mind and Body
Podcast.
I am your host, Tiana Gonzalez,a multi-passionate creative,
storyteller, and entrepreneurwith a fierce love for movement.
This is our space for powerfulstories and actionable
strategies to help you buildmental resilience and elevate
(00:28):
your self-care practice.
Together, we will unlock thetools that you need to create an
unbreakable mind and body.
Welcome back to the show.
I am your host, Tiana, and onthis episode, I am going to
encourage you to invest inyourself.
That's right.
I am so frustrated hearingpeople say, I'm just trying to
(00:52):
figure that out.
You are wasting time, my friend.
And the thing about it is, isthat life is impermanent.
Everything is fluid, and yougotta just let things flow.
They ebb and flow in and out.
Life is a living and breathingthing.
It is not stagnant, it is notsquare, it is not finite.
(01:14):
So in this day and age that weare living in, we are in
information overlord.
We are constantly being dumpedon with advertisements, with
marketing, with sales, withemails, with notifications, with
text messages, we're evengetting phone calls about
purchasing things or donating tothings.
(01:35):
How do you have time foryourself if you're constantly
being slammed over the head withall of these notifications?
Then kids are busier than ever.
They have more activities, theyhave more hobbies, the schools
are getting parents moreinvolved.
And so we are living in ageneration or in a time where in
(02:00):
our culture everyone is busierthan ever.
And I am here to challenge that,and I am here to tell you to
please slow down.
I'm here to tell you that youdon't need to do more and you
don't need to be more.
Now listen, I'll never tell youto be less, because fuck that.
If you want to be more, be more,but let's take the pressure, the
(02:21):
unnecessary pressure off ofourselves because you are enough
just as you are, just the wayyou are right now, with all of
the tools that you have at yourdisposal, all of the knowledge,
all of the information, yourskill set, your unique touch,
and the way that you do what youdo.
That is enough.
(02:42):
Okay?
Let's take a deep breath in.
I want you to breathe in throughyour nose and hold it.
And exhale.
Let it out, let it out, let itout, let it out, let it out.
Doesn't that feel good?
(03:02):
I have intentionally focused forthe last, I would say about 15
years, slowing the fuck down.
Literally slowing down.
So much so that I don't care ifI take pauses when I speak, if I
(03:22):
drive in the slow lane on theroad.
Not always.
I mean, I am a New Yorker and Ido have a little bit of a speed
demon inside me from time totime.
But generally speaking, I try tokeep it chill and I take my
fucking time.
If I need to be somewhere early,guess what I do?
(03:46):
I wake up extra early becausemama's not rushing.
Okay.
We have our coffee ritual.
Sometimes we journal.
Sometimes we listen to a Spanishpodcast because we are doing
comprehensible input every day.
Sometimes we just sit with ourthoughts and we put our
(04:07):
supplements in the littlesupplement holder that we take
with us throughout the day withall of our vitamins and
nutrients.
We pack the lunch, we take oursweet fucking time because that
is how we want to begin the day.
Maybe that doesn't work for you.
That's okay.
(04:28):
But I'm here to encourage you tofind ways to improve the quality
of your life and to let go ofthis feeling that you need to
figure everything out.
No, you do not.
Instead of beating yourself upbecause you know you're capable
of figuring out that workoutplan or figuring out what kind
(04:50):
of foods to eat or figuring outwhat recipes you want to make
this week.
And guess what?
It's already Monday and youhaven't even gone food shopping.
So how's that working for you?
Okay.
Instead of doing all of that,what if you found ways to save
you a little bit of time?
What if you found people in yourimmediate network?
(05:14):
Or what if you had things atyour fingertips that could help
you solve the problem thatyou're facing or overcome the
challenge or maybe give you backyour time.
See, when I was working incorporate America, I was
brainwashed into believing thatin order to make a healthy
(05:36):
income, in order to make aliving, now I live in the
Northeast.
We all know it's a veryexpensive area to live in.
And what works here is probablya lot more of a demanding career
or job and income level than inother parts of the country and
certainly in other parts of theworld.
(05:58):
However, we're here, okay?
I'm here, and I have uhunderstood this assignment for a
long time.
If I want to just have asomewhat simple, humble life, I
still need to knock it out ofthe park.
I still need to be making sixfigures, and I need to keep my
shit tight and on lock andbudget and not go crazy shopping
(06:20):
and spending.
I would rather work more, earnmore, generate more to live
comfortably than downsize mylife or scale the back on the
things that make me happy.
There was a period of time whenI transitioned from making six
figures in corporate America toowning a personal training
(06:43):
business online and working atvarious gyms and boutique
studios.
And I did need to make somecompromises, which included
moving in with a roommate, uh,sharing common space, uh, making
my life more simple as far asthe things I was spending on
food, cutting back on going outto eat, cutting back on the uh
(07:06):
lavish coffee drinks and thefrequency in which I
participated in those things.
And I did that for a number ofyears and it worked for me.
But going back to the incomething, so you know, I've always
known you have to work hard tomove up the ladder, to make more
money, to get newresponsibilities, to work hard,
(07:27):
to move up the ladder, to get apromotion, to get new
responsibilities.
And you know what?
It never ends.
And so I had this thoughtprocess that in order to maybe
be a six-figure uh entrepreneuror even a seven-figure
entrepreneur, which I hope andpray one day that I get to, I
(07:49):
have to do more.
But guess what happens?
When you're a sole proprietor ora solopreneur and you are doing
all of the things in yourbusiness, you become the
bottleneck.
Or actually, let's let's keep itreal.
I'm talking about me.
I became the bottleneck.
So I had this fabulous onlinebusiness that I quit a very
(08:11):
comfortable six-figure incomesalary job to pursue.
And then I became entrepreneurbroke.
And entrepreneur broke is verydifferent from salary broke
because when you're on a salaryand you work for a corporation,
you know that at least there'sanother paycheck coming.
Maybe it's this Friday or it'snext Friday.
When you're entrepreneur broke,you're broke.
(08:34):
You're maxing out your creditcards, you're selling things on
various websites, you're sellingthings on Facebook Marketplace
or eBay or pawning, or you'retrying to get real gritty,
grimy, and creative and come upwith a digital offer that you
could just slap up online andhopefully get some bites and
(08:55):
make a quick, fast cashinjection.
And I realized this is not theway.
I cannot possibly be doing allof the functions.
I was getting so caught up incontent creation and being on
social media, working to grow myfollowing, to get more
engagement, to get conversationsgoing in the DMs, to then pitch
(09:20):
an offer or to get people uhbooked on a discovery call.
I also was doing all the leadgeneration, all of the
marketing, all of the invoicing,the contract negotiations, the
client management, keeping theclients happy, and then also the
work within my business.
(09:41):
So it was a lot of thingsjuggling and very overwhelming
and stressful, and I was doingit all myself.
And it was kind of at this pointwhere I didn't think I was truly
earning enough on a consistentbasis to outsource anything, but
I also knew that I needed toeither outsource something, get
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a business partner, figure outanother way, or shut it down
because I was getting burnt out.
And the thing of it is, Iprobably should have hired
someone way before I wound upretaining a business partner.
And yes, did I give up some ofmy hard-earned money?
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I did, but in exchange, I got abeautifully laid-out website and
app.
It was customized, it madecommunication with my clients so
much easier.
It handled a lot of the clientmanagement things in the
operation, such as keeping trackof my leads, keeping track of
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clients, the contracts, theirinvoices, the billing, and of
course the actual meat andpotatoes of the work we were
doing together, the execution ofthe program, and a place where
we could house all of the clientupdates, photos, and messages
and communicate with each other.
So, yeah, I gave up a prettydecent portion of the income I
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was generating in exchange forthat, and I felt it was well
worth it.
But I also still felt likethere's gotta be another way.
I would see very successfulonline trainers killing it
financially, and I wasn't evenclose to that.
I also suffered tremendouslyfrom imposter syndrome because I
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felt like I didn't understandhow some of these other people
were so successful, and I knewthey were killing it financially
because they were working on thesame platform, but with perhaps
a different business partner.
So my business partner was abusiness partner to me as well
as a team of other trainers, andeach of us had our own style,
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flavor, uh, and branding, butthe actual functionality of our
apps and our platform was prettysimilar.
And so, yeah, I did know theirnumbers.
It wasn't like I was justimagining this, I was comparing
myself.
I remember I went out to dinnerwith a very successful investor,
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and he was asking me like aboutmy business, and he's like, wow,
that's so great.
You must be killing it.
And I kind of just looked at himand was like, Yeah, it's also
really stressful and veryfucking scary because if a
couple clients decide they don'twant to continue, I'm out, you
know, and I lose out on that,and I have to keep the pipeline
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going, and I've got to refillthat spot, and I've got to keep
my foot on the gas at all times.
And I'm sure some of you knowwhen you feel like you have to
constantly keep your foot on thegas, and if you let up at all,
your whole body goes into shockand everything just crumbles to
the ground.
That is a weak system, that is aweak infrastructure, and it
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needs some help and support.
But you've got to be willing toget out of your own way.
And so I say all of this aboutmy online business because I
hear it almost daily with someof my clients, my friends, and
my close network where peoplewill say, I just need to figure
this out.
But they've been trying tofigure something out in their
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life for weeks, if not months.
And the truth of the matter isthere's no amount of information
that's gonna help you cross thatline.
There's no amount of learning orcourses you can enroll in or
reading you can do, or YouTubevideos you can watch that's
gonna actually be integratedinto your life, into your
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current situation, and thenaccelerate you towards the goal
you want to get to.
That's not how it's gonna getdone.
And doing more isn't also notthe answer.
In fact, I'd say, how do you doless to reach the goal?
Now, for some people listening,I know you're an entrepreneur,
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you're a small business owner,you get it.
You also understand that this isreally scary.
For some of my folks that arelistening that are working in
nine-to-fives or they work for alarge corporation, or you know,
they're not necessarily the onemaking all of the decisions.
How can you do less?
Well, you can find ways,perhaps, and this is
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work-related, you can find waysto delegate some of the tasks
that are maybe reallytime-consuming that you're not
that great at.
Why do you need to learn everydetail of every process when you
could hire someone who can do itfaster and better than you and
give you your time back?
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So I think you know where thisis going because I work in
fitness and I help peopleovercome their fears, get out of
their own way, and move some oftheir shit off their plate onto
mine so that I can help them getto the finish line or at least
move in the right direction.
And I understand some peoplereally love to learn, they want
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to know the details for theirown edification, they want to
understand all of the processes.
And I'm here to give you agentle nudge and to tell you no,
you don't, you don't need toknow every step, you have to
trust the process.
But the folks who question everywhich way you do something in
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every turn, they don't trustthemselves yet.
And the only way you're gonnatrust yourself is to actually do
the thing first and then youbuild the confidence.
You don't get the confidence andthen do the thing.
That is not how it works.
This reminds me of aconversation I had with a dear
friend of mine who was togglingback and forth on making a very
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big life-changing decision foryears, and I kept telling him
there's no guarantees, but yourlife or your quality of your
life will improve if you do X,Y, and Z.
And I can guarantee you, you'llbe happier, things will look
better for you, but there's noguarantee what that will consist
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of or how your life will look.
You just have to trust it, andthat's very scary for people who
are not accustomed to takingrisks.
People who invest or people whogamble, they only do things a
certain way, and when you'renudging them to take on a new
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perspective or try itdifferently, it becomes very
uncomfortable.
Now, I said gamble, and perhapsthat's not the right word, but
even people who gamble, theythey have enough experience
within the realm in whichthey're playing, whatever game
it is, or if it's an event,where they're pretty good,
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they've got a skill set, they'veseen the trends, they know how
to predict, it's still risky.
And here's the thing if you donothing, that's also risky.
If you've listened to this showbefore, you have heard me say
this time and time and timeagain.
When you are choosing to donothing, you are actually
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choosing to go backwards becauselife is continuously evolving,
life is continuously movingforward, and even the state of
the state is a progressive sortof energy.
There's things evolving andchanging, and even just to stay
up to speed with the status quo,you actually need to be willing
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to change and adjust and flow alittle bit.
So if you're somebody who'ssuffering, if you're someone
who's suffering from analysisparalysis, if you feel like you
don't know which way to turnbecause you have so much
information spinning in yourhead, my suggestion would be to
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brain dump, grab pen and paper,and just let it all out onto a
piece of paper.
Oftentimes, that simple exercisehelps clear some space for you.
Something else you could do isquiet the noise.
I had an Apple Watch for yearsand I loved it.
And I wore it consistently forabout four years.
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And in the spring of 2024, Irealized that I was very bad
habit.
It was like so unhealthy, whereI was constantly checking my
Apple Watch to look atnotifications.
Even if my phone was on do notdisturb, if I saw, let's say,
the message number increase, Iwould immediately go and check
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it.
So I thought to myself, well,what's the point of me having my
phone on do not disturb if I'malways checking it?
So I did away with the AppleWatch, and it really helped me
gain some clarity and establishmore peace in my day-to-day and
in my life.
And if you're somebody who lovesto learn, that is a beautiful
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thing.
But I want you to ask yourself,do you really have time for
that?
Yeah, it'd be nice to be astudent of life and to be a
student forever.
But if you are feeling stuck andyour doctor is telling you,
well, you need to do this inorder to avoid getting on
medication and you have afollow-up appointment in three
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months, we got to light the fireunder your ass a little bit
because you only have threemonths.
You do not have time to figureout how to do something.
You just need to do it.
So you need to relinquish thatcontrol.
You need to get somebody who cando that the work for you and
just give you the plan to followand coach you through it, tell
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you what to do, and give you thecues and the tips and the
pointers so that it becomes anintegral part of your life.
But you still don't necessarilyneed to know every detail on all
the ins and outs.
So today, I challenge you.
At some point today, I'mchallenging you.
I want you to sit down, do abrain dump, get it all onto that
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piece of paper, all the thingsrunning around in your head, all
the things you want to do, nojudgment, get it down, get it
out, and then start to look forsome trends.
Are some of these thingsoverlapping?
And then are some of thesethings things you can outsource
or things you can hire an expertfor?
Now, I don't want to assume thatyou have a huge budget to do
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that, and I don't want to assumethat you don't have a budget to
do that.
But if money was no object, justwhat if would you still be doing
all of the busy things thatyou're doing?
We can from time to time haveour groceries delivered, we can
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from time to time drop off ourlaundry, and maybe those are
things you do enjoy doingbecause you like the laundry
detergent you use, you like theway you fold things, maybe you
appreciate picking out your ownfruit and squeezing it and
making sure it's ripe and it'sjust right for you.
And I can appreciate that, and Ilove the simplicity of a
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slower-paced life.
But again, if you're on a timeclock, maybe you don't have time
to do all of those things everyday, every week.
Maybe once in a while you canget support, you can buy back
your time, and that's worth alot more.
So remember, you do not need todo more, you do not need to be
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more unless you want to be.
But you are enough and you'refully capable of making the
changes you want in yourpersonal life, accomplishing the
career goals, hitting the healthand wellness goal, finding that
relationship you've alwaysdreamed of, and you don't have
to figure it out.
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You simply need to exist andthen get people in place in your
periphery that can support you,encourage you, guide you,
educate you, train you, coachyou, and simplify your life.
If you enjoyed this show, pleasedo me a favor, get in touch with
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me.
You can check the show notes forhow to do that.
And if you loved this episode,please give me a review and a
number of stars.
It goes a long way and it helpsthe show get more visibility.
As always, I appreciate yourtime and attention.
And I'll catch you on the nextone.
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