October 27, 2025 • 21 mins
The spiral notebook told the truth—life refuses to stay in neat sections. If you’ve ever waited for the right time, the perfect plan, or the flawless caption, this conversation will nudge you to leap before you feel ready.
We unpack the hidden ways learning becomes hiding, and how small daily action compounds into serious progress. I break down the shift from memorizing every detail to a faster loop—skim, try, assess, refine.
Mentorship plays a big role. I talk about hiring the right coaches for targeted outcomes, cutting social noise, and aligning strategy with values so you stop spinning. We also get real about social media in 2025: audiences crave humanity. Polished is fine, but the unfiltered you builds trust and reach. Reframe vanity metrics into real people and your work gets lighter, braver, and better. The takeaway is simple and strong: forgive the rough edges, publish the 90 percent draft, and let your voice lead your strategy.
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SPEAKER_00 (00:07):
Welcome to the Unbreakable Mind and Body
Podcast.
I am your host, Tiana Gonzalez,a multi-passionate creative,
storyteller, and entrepreneurwith a fierce love for movement.
This is our space for powerfulstories and actionable
strategies to help you buildmental resilience and elevate
(00:28):
your self-care practice.
Together, we will unlock thetools that you need to create an
unbreakable mind and body.
Welcome back to the show.
I'm your host, Tiana, and I wantto remind you that life is
messy.
So I found myself stumblingthrough a spiral notebook at my
(00:50):
desk looking for a clean sheetof paper so I could write my
outline for this episode.
And in that simple task offumbling through this notebook,
I realized that I used to try tocompartmentalize different
things of my life into differentsections of a spiral notebook.
(01:13):
This particular spiral notebookthat I'm referring to right now
is a large three-section spiralnotebook.
And the intention for thisspiral notebook was the first
section was for a writingproject I was doing last year.
The middle section was meant forpodcast notes.
(01:34):
And then the third section wasjust a mixture of journaling and
random thoughts, poetry, listsof things, ideas, and so on and
so forth.
But as you can imagine,throughout the course of time, I
have run out of blank pages invarious sections.
(01:55):
And so I've had to continue thenotion, the idea, the vibration
of a different section somewhereelse in the same notebook.
Which leads me to the point ofthis episode, and that is that
life is messy.
And so, in my effort to try tokeep everything organized and
(02:17):
use one section for one thingand another section for another,
and so on and so forth, itdidn't work out that way.
In fact, it didn't work out thatway in the previous spiral
notebook that I had, or the onebefore that, or the one before
that.
And so I have found myselfmultiple times starting a new
(02:40):
notebook with the best ofintentions, only to get it all
over the place.
And now when I do go back intomy archives, and I'm gonna give
you a little bit of backgroundon what my archives look like,
but when I look at the physicalpaper archives that I have in
these various notebooks and infolders, everything is all over
(03:03):
the place.
So I thought to myself, well,maybe I'll keep notes on the
computer.
Maybe I will use a notes-takingapp.
Maybe I'll use notes in myphone.
Maybe I will use a web-basedprogram.
Maybe I'll keep a littlenotebook in my bag.
Well, guess what?
I do all of those things.
(03:25):
And I have various notes invarious places, various pieces
of work in various places, andit's all over the map.
And it's perfectly me.
So this rigid side of myselfreally doesn't have control here
because there will be timeswhere I'll be really inspired,
(03:48):
and so the creative part of meis flowing, and there will be
times where I'm not reallyinterested in doing certain
exercises from a course, aprogram, or initiative that I
started, and so that's kind ofon hold.
And so just like in real life,sometimes things flow and then
(04:12):
other things get a little sloweddown, or you press pause, or you
put them on a shelf, or you justsay, I'm gonna hold off on that
idea for a little bit, but I'llcome back to it.
And so I want you to startthinking about how you organize
things, whether it's physicallyor even mentally, and think
(04:35):
about what you need in order toeither take action or to feel
better about the things going onin your life.
Now, if you're listening to thissaying, what the fuck is she
talking about?
It's really just about anything.
How do you organize yourself?
(04:55):
And are you someone who youpost-it notes?
Are you a pen and paper person?
Do you use a magic erase board?
Do you type in different filesand you store them on a drive
somewhere on your computer?
What is the thing that you do?
And do you need everything to bein a compartment or labeled or
(05:18):
color-coded or filed?
Do you need to have everythingbeautifully wrapped in a box?
I was somebody who was veryrigid for most of my life.
I needed things to be perfectlyneat and fit into my mental
(05:39):
boxes.
I also would rewrite notes if myhandwriting was too messy.
When I was studying in school orlearning a new topic, I would
continue and go back and readthe same pages over and over and
over again until I memorized theimportant material before moving
on to a practice quiz orpractice test.
(06:02):
Now I don't do that.
Especially if it's a topic thatI'm relatively familiar with or
very familiar with, I might skimthe notes and then take the
practice test and see how I do.
And if I do okay, I'll just keepit moving.
If I miss the main takeaways,then I go back and review the
material.
There are some things where Iwill review the material
(06:26):
multiple times to make sure I'mpicking up all of the important
aspects and that I'm notdepriving myself or skipping
over things.
And also that I sit with it,learn it, embody it, integrate
it into my life, and then takeaction with that new
(06:48):
information.
When I first embarked on myentrepreneurial journey, I would
definitely say that this rigidside of myself was a limitation.
I often found myself concernedwith things that in the big
(07:08):
picture were probably not asimportant.
Things like the website design,the logo, uh, the language used
on some of my marketingmaterial.
I mean, yes, that is actually uhmeat and potatoes and not
necessarily superficial, but Iwould get very caught up in it.
(07:29):
And if it didn't sound perfect,I wouldn't share a post or talk
to people about my business ormy branding because I felt like
I needed to get the languageperfect.
And there's no such thing asperfect.
It wasn't until years into myentrepreneurial journey that I
actually started working withbusiness coaches, being mentored
(07:54):
and truly learning, having someskin in the game by making an
investment and truly learningthe right principles that would
work for me at the stage that Iwas at in the business I was
running and working and align itwith my future goals and
visions.
And so I had this interestingmix of folks that I either
(08:16):
followed on social media,purchased their books,
subscribed to their newsletters,and it was wild.
I'm looking at this list ofnames that I created for myself
just to get a betterunderstanding.
And I would say over the courseof the last 15 years, I've
really dived into spiritualgrowth, business growth,
(08:38):
obviously continuing to sharpenmy pencil in the health,
wellness, and fitness space.
And then also just learningstrategy.
Now we move so quickly that ifyou're a rigid person like I
was, where you need to knowevery nook and cranny and every
detail, to me now, what thatscreams is hiding, is hiding and
(09:04):
learning and not taking action.
This perfectionist would neverget anything done.
I'm talking about myself here.
And I would find myselffrustrated often because when I
looked online or when I sawother trainers, they did not
have the same type of experienceas me or the background or the
(09:27):
knowledge or the personalexperience, particularly when it
came to coming back to normalcypost-competition that I did.
And yet they were verysuccessful.
They were buying homes, theywould go on vacations, they
would have a family, and Icouldn't wrap my head around
that because I was strugglingfinancially and just trying to
(09:51):
make ends meet.
Obviously, we shouldn't becomparing.
But I think that it's natural ata certain point in your career
to look at your peers, lookwhat's around you, take a look
at the market, and make surethat your finger's on the pulse.
And if it's not, do somethingabout it.
(10:11):
But when you have thatperfectionist mentality, when
you are rigid, when everythingneeds to be perfectly boxed up
and wrapped with a bow on it,you're stopping yourself.
You're getting in your own way.
So, what did I do?
I continued learning, Icontinued trying to grow.
I've heard many people that Ilook up to say that
(10:35):
entrepreneurship is personaldevelopment on crack, and it
truly can be, because yourbusiness and your success andor
lack thereof is a directreflection of yourself because
it's it's literally showing youif you are somebody who does
(10:59):
well one month and then is in adeficit the next month and it's
this roller coaster wave, well,there's a loophole somewhere,
and we need more consistency.
How do we stabilize things?
Look at the systems.
What is your lead generationlooking like?
Do you have a pipeline ofpeople?
Do you have a wait list?
(11:20):
Do you have an evergreen productthat can generate income for you
without you having to do a wholeheck of a lot?
Yes, there's no true passiveincome.
It does require at leastoverview or oversight, and it
also requires you being engaged,but you can create products, you
can offer services where youcould do something that's lower
(11:44):
ticket that can create someincome for you and eventually
have it on a more passive typeof recurring income process.
So, what I mean by that, thatwould be something like if you
created uh an ebook, those werereally popular like 15 years
ago.
(12:04):
You would create an ebook thatyou know somebody could pay a
lower price point for, let's saylike$27,$47.
And in that ebook, it would havedifferent exercises and uh, you
know, things where people couldinput information, they could
track their workouts, let's sayif it's for exercise and
(12:24):
fitness, but the point is yougot to look at yourself and you
got to see what systems areworking and what's not, and then
take action.
So the whole point of thisconversation is that sometimes
you got to take action beforeyou're ready.
Sometimes you need to do things,even if you know it's you feel
(12:45):
like you didn't turn over everystone.
Sometimes life is going toaccelerate things for you.
And if you're choosing to uh getit right, make it perfect, you
could be hurting yourself.
Now, I will say there wereperiods of time where I was
(13:08):
probably consuming too much, andthings that I was hearing,
things that I was ingesting,watching, reading, seeing were
conflicting with each other.
And it was not until I actuallyretained services of different
coaches, and I will admit, atone point I had two different
(13:30):
coaches for two different thingssimultaneously and very
different energy.
Uh, but I learned so much fromboth of them, and I was able to
find a way to make it work forme.
I would not recommend that.
That's like hiring two trainersat the same time that are
completely different.
Like maybe it could work if oneis focused on martial arts or
(13:55):
some sort of combat sport, andthe other is more into
bodybuilding or strengthtraining.
But nine times out of ten,there's gonna be a little bit of
conflict and you're gonna haveto navigate that.
So once I hired people, it waseasy for me to sort of turn on
the blinders on social media, tolog off of things much sooner,
(14:18):
to not consume as much because Ihad my person that I was
listening to.
Now, right now I do have amentor, and the best thing about
her is I am actually enrolled inthree offerings that she has
online.
One is a course that helps youlearn how to create a course and
(14:42):
then launch it and eventuallyget it through a funnel, which
will allow me to generate morepassive income.
I hate to say passive income, asI said before, but it would be
something where I could justoversee it without having to
actually do a physical launchmonth after month after month.
(15:03):
The other offering she has isfor my mental health, and that's
a community program, and I lovethat one.
And then the third offering is avery low-ticket membership, and
that is helping me refine mycopy and my messaging for
everything I'm doing.
So whether it's for social mediaposts that I want to create
(15:28):
regarding my one-to-onein-person work, or if it's more
in line with the podcast, andalso for the course that I'm in
the process of creating.
And I know I've been talkingabout it for a little bit, but
we got derailed.
And the reason why we gotderailed is because I actually
(15:50):
made it through the coursecreation work, and then I came
to a halt and I said, wait aminute, I want to make sure that
this is something I definitelywant to do before I spend time
and invest more energy andeffort into creating something,
and I don't even love it.
Like I have to love it,otherwise, there's no point in
me offering it because I'm goingto feel icky when I want to talk
(16:14):
about it online, when I want topromote it, when I want to, you
know, gently, softly, in a justa nudge and suggestive way, sell
it online.
If you follow me on socialmedia, you know I am not that
aggressive salesperson.
I am not the person that's gonnasay, so what do you want to do?
(16:36):
Are you in or are you out?
Uh-uh.
That ain't me.
And anyone who speaks to me thatway, I immediately go cold on
them.
I don't do the bro salesnonsense.
It just doesn't work for me,doesn't align with me.
It's not my jam.
Never been into it.
But I am somebody who is willingto hear someone out, especially
(17:00):
if what they're sharing with melooks interesting and it looks
like it could help me.
And it looks like maybe there'ssomething I can learn here.
So for now, yes, I'm enrolled inthree different things all at
the same time, in addition tocreating this show for you and
my one-to-one work that I do inperson, as well as just life in
(17:25):
general.
And this is a very busy time ofthe year, the fall, because
there's a lot of holidays comingup and people getting it
together, and I have quite a fewthings down the pipeline for me,
like um, I have a wedding comingup in the spring for my best
friend.
So we also have his bachelorparty and the holidays, and
(17:46):
yeah, life is messy.
So I can't wait for it to be theright time to work on all the
things I want.
But if I did a little bit everyday at the end of a year, that's
365 days of just a little bit,which could add up to quite a
lot when you think about it thatway, right?
And it's the same thing withyour health and wellness, it's
(18:08):
the same thing with the gym,it's the same thing with
nutrition.
It's literally all the same.
It's one big giant fucking mess,and we're all just winging it
and trying to do the best thatwe can.
So I would like to encourage youto get rid of that perfectionist
mindset.
I would like to get rid of thefiles, the labels, the color
(18:32):
coding, the post-its, thehighlighters, the pens, the
ruler, and just get messy withit because you can have the best
system in place, but if you'renot adhering to it, if it's not
useful and if it isn't helpingyou move forward, what's the
fucking point?
(18:54):
So I want you to take actioneven if you're not ready.
I want you to create that post,even if your hair isn't perfect.
In fact, I gotta tell you,social media, particularly in
2025 and going into next year,the more human you are, the more
relatable you are, the moreviews and the more reach you
will get.
Why?
(19:14):
Because we are looking for real,we want connection.
So, yeah, if you're an artist,that's great.
If you're a director, acinematographer, you want to
play with your video editingskills, cool.
But post the real you toobecause we want both.
Okay.
(19:36):
Even if you don't feel ready,even if you're scared, even if
you're not sure.
And something that I'm learningfrom my mentor is to find your
own voice.
It does not matter what strategyyou use, if you are not
yourself, you are not going tobe found by the right people.
(19:57):
And that's what you want.
Social media may have youthinking that you need thousands
of views, but let's take thosenumbers and make them real
people.
How would you feel if 6,000people came up to you and gave
you a tap on the shoulderbecause they liked your outfit?
(20:18):
Think about that.
Put it into perspective.
Now, what if it was only 600?
What if it was 60?
That's still a lot of people ina day.
You'd be overwhelmed if it was6,000.
You wouldn't know what to dowith yourself.
You'd probably be really fuckinguncomfortable.
(20:39):
So come back down to earth.
Get real with yourself, forgiveyourself for not being perfect.
Take the fucking messy actionand do the things you want to
do.
I hope that you enjoyed thisshow.
I appreciate your time andattention every week.
(21:01):
And if you did enjoy thisepisode, please do me a favor,
give me a rating and leave areview.
It helps me to be seen by morepeople that are part of our
tribe.
As always, I'll catch you on thenext one.
Welcome to the Unbreakable Mind and Body
Podcast.
I am your host, Tiana Gonzalez,a multi-passionate creative,
storyteller, and entrepreneurwith a fierce love for movement.
This is our space for powerfulstories and actionable
strategies to help you buildmental resilience and elevate
(00:28):
your self-care practice.
Together, we will unlock thetools that you need to create an
unbreakable mind and body.
Welcome back to the show.
I'm your host, Tiana, and I wantto remind you that life is
messy.
So I found myself stumblingthrough a spiral notebook at my
(00:50):
desk looking for a clean sheetof paper so I could write my
outline for this episode.
And in that simple task offumbling through this notebook,
I realized that I used to try tocompartmentalize different
things of my life into differentsections of a spiral notebook.
(01:13):
This particular spiral notebookthat I'm referring to right now
is a large three-section spiralnotebook.
And the intention for thisspiral notebook was the first
section was for a writingproject I was doing last year.
The middle section was meant forpodcast notes.
(01:34):
And then the third section wasjust a mixture of journaling and
random thoughts, poetry, listsof things, ideas, and so on and
so forth.
But as you can imagine,throughout the course of time, I
have run out of blank pages invarious sections.
(01:55):
And so I've had to continue thenotion, the idea, the vibration
of a different section somewhereelse in the same notebook.
Which leads me to the point ofthis episode, and that is that
life is messy.
And so, in my effort to try tokeep everything organized and
(02:17):
use one section for one thingand another section for another,
and so on and so forth, itdidn't work out that way.
In fact, it didn't work out thatway in the previous spiral
notebook that I had, or the onebefore that, or the one before
that.
And so I have found myselfmultiple times starting a new
(02:40):
notebook with the best ofintentions, only to get it all
over the place.
And now when I do go back intomy archives, and I'm gonna give
you a little bit of backgroundon what my archives look like,
but when I look at the physicalpaper archives that I have in
these various notebooks and infolders, everything is all over
(03:03):
the place.
So I thought to myself, well,maybe I'll keep notes on the
computer.
Maybe I will use a notes-takingapp.
Maybe I'll use notes in myphone.
Maybe I will use a web-basedprogram.
Maybe I'll keep a littlenotebook in my bag.
Well, guess what?
I do all of those things.
(03:25):
And I have various notes invarious places, various pieces
of work in various places, andit's all over the map.
And it's perfectly me.
So this rigid side of myselfreally doesn't have control here
because there will be timeswhere I'll be really inspired,
(03:48):
and so the creative part of meis flowing, and there will be
times where I'm not reallyinterested in doing certain
exercises from a course, aprogram, or initiative that I
started, and so that's kind ofon hold.
And so just like in real life,sometimes things flow and then
(04:12):
other things get a little sloweddown, or you press pause, or you
put them on a shelf, or you justsay, I'm gonna hold off on that
idea for a little bit, but I'llcome back to it.
And so I want you to startthinking about how you organize
things, whether it's physicallyor even mentally, and think
(04:35):
about what you need in order toeither take action or to feel
better about the things going onin your life.
Now, if you're listening to thissaying, what the fuck is she
talking about?
It's really just about anything.
How do you organize yourself?
(04:55):
And are you someone who youpost-it notes?
Are you a pen and paper person?
Do you use a magic erase board?
Do you type in different filesand you store them on a drive
somewhere on your computer?
What is the thing that you do?
And do you need everything to bein a compartment or labeled or
(05:18):
color-coded or filed?
Do you need to have everythingbeautifully wrapped in a box?
I was somebody who was veryrigid for most of my life.
I needed things to be perfectlyneat and fit into my mental
(05:39):
boxes.
I also would rewrite notes if myhandwriting was too messy.
When I was studying in school orlearning a new topic, I would
continue and go back and readthe same pages over and over and
over again until I memorized theimportant material before moving
on to a practice quiz orpractice test.
(06:02):
Now I don't do that.
Especially if it's a topic thatI'm relatively familiar with or
very familiar with, I might skimthe notes and then take the
practice test and see how I do.
And if I do okay, I'll just keepit moving.
If I miss the main takeaways,then I go back and review the
material.
There are some things where Iwill review the material
(06:26):
multiple times to make sure I'mpicking up all of the important
aspects and that I'm notdepriving myself or skipping
over things.
And also that I sit with it,learn it, embody it, integrate
it into my life, and then takeaction with that new
(06:48):
information.
When I first embarked on myentrepreneurial journey, I would
definitely say that this rigidside of myself was a limitation.
I often found myself concernedwith things that in the big
(07:08):
picture were probably not asimportant.
Things like the website design,the logo, uh, the language used
on some of my marketingmaterial.
I mean, yes, that is actually uhmeat and potatoes and not
necessarily superficial, but Iwould get very caught up in it.
(07:29):
And if it didn't sound perfect,I wouldn't share a post or talk
to people about my business ormy branding because I felt like
I needed to get the languageperfect.
And there's no such thing asperfect.
It wasn't until years into myentrepreneurial journey that I
actually started working withbusiness coaches, being mentored
(07:54):
and truly learning, having someskin in the game by making an
investment and truly learningthe right principles that would
work for me at the stage that Iwas at in the business I was
running and working and align itwith my future goals and
visions.
And so I had this interestingmix of folks that I either
(08:16):
followed on social media,purchased their books,
subscribed to their newsletters,and it was wild.
I'm looking at this list ofnames that I created for myself
just to get a betterunderstanding.
And I would say over the courseof the last 15 years, I've
really dived into spiritualgrowth, business growth,
(08:38):
obviously continuing to sharpenmy pencil in the health,
wellness, and fitness space.
And then also just learningstrategy.
Now we move so quickly that ifyou're a rigid person like I
was, where you need to knowevery nook and cranny and every
detail, to me now, what thatscreams is hiding, is hiding and
(09:04):
learning and not taking action.
This perfectionist would neverget anything done.
I'm talking about myself here.
And I would find myselffrustrated often because when I
looked online or when I sawother trainers, they did not
have the same type of experienceas me or the background or the
(09:27):
knowledge or the personalexperience, particularly when it
came to coming back to normalcypost-competition that I did.
And yet they were verysuccessful.
They were buying homes, theywould go on vacations, they
would have a family, and Icouldn't wrap my head around
that because I was strugglingfinancially and just trying to
(09:51):
make ends meet.
Obviously, we shouldn't becomparing.
But I think that it's natural ata certain point in your career
to look at your peers, lookwhat's around you, take a look
at the market, and make surethat your finger's on the pulse.
And if it's not, do somethingabout it.
(10:11):
But when you have thatperfectionist mentality, when
you are rigid, when everythingneeds to be perfectly boxed up
and wrapped with a bow on it,you're stopping yourself.
You're getting in your own way.
So, what did I do?
I continued learning, Icontinued trying to grow.
I've heard many people that Ilook up to say that
(10:35):
entrepreneurship is personaldevelopment on crack, and it
truly can be, because yourbusiness and your success andor
lack thereof is a directreflection of yourself because
it's it's literally showing youif you are somebody who does
(10:59):
well one month and then is in adeficit the next month and it's
this roller coaster wave, well,there's a loophole somewhere,
and we need more consistency.
How do we stabilize things?
Look at the systems.
What is your lead generationlooking like?
Do you have a pipeline ofpeople?
Do you have a wait list?
(11:20):
Do you have an evergreen productthat can generate income for you
without you having to do a wholeheck of a lot?
Yes, there's no true passiveincome.
It does require at leastoverview or oversight, and it
also requires you being engaged,but you can create products, you
can offer services where youcould do something that's lower
(11:44):
ticket that can create someincome for you and eventually
have it on a more passive typeof recurring income process.
So, what I mean by that, thatwould be something like if you
created uh an ebook, those werereally popular like 15 years
ago.
(12:04):
You would create an ebook thatyou know somebody could pay a
lower price point for, let's saylike$27,$47.
And in that ebook, it would havedifferent exercises and uh, you
know, things where people couldinput information, they could
track their workouts, let's sayif it's for exercise and
(12:24):
fitness, but the point is yougot to look at yourself and you
got to see what systems areworking and what's not, and then
take action.
So the whole point of thisconversation is that sometimes
you got to take action beforeyou're ready.
Sometimes you need to do things,even if you know it's you feel
(12:45):
like you didn't turn over everystone.
Sometimes life is going toaccelerate things for you.
And if you're choosing to uh getit right, make it perfect, you
could be hurting yourself.
Now, I will say there wereperiods of time where I was
(13:08):
probably consuming too much, andthings that I was hearing,
things that I was ingesting,watching, reading, seeing were
conflicting with each other.
And it was not until I actuallyretained services of different
coaches, and I will admit, atone point I had two different
(13:30):
coaches for two different thingssimultaneously and very
different energy.
Uh, but I learned so much fromboth of them, and I was able to
find a way to make it work forme.
I would not recommend that.
That's like hiring two trainersat the same time that are
completely different.
Like maybe it could work if oneis focused on martial arts or
(13:55):
some sort of combat sport, andthe other is more into
bodybuilding or strengthtraining.
But nine times out of ten,there's gonna be a little bit of
conflict and you're gonna haveto navigate that.
So once I hired people, it waseasy for me to sort of turn on
the blinders on social media, tolog off of things much sooner,
(14:18):
to not consume as much because Ihad my person that I was
listening to.
Now, right now I do have amentor, and the best thing about
her is I am actually enrolled inthree offerings that she has
online.
One is a course that helps youlearn how to create a course and
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then launch it and eventuallyget it through a funnel, which
will allow me to generate morepassive income.
I hate to say passive income, asI said before, but it would be
something where I could justoversee it without having to
actually do a physical launchmonth after month after month.
(15:03):
The other offering she has isfor my mental health, and that's
a community program, and I lovethat one.
And then the third offering is avery low-ticket membership, and
that is helping me refine mycopy and my messaging for
everything I'm doing.
So whether it's for social mediaposts that I want to create
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regarding my one-to-onein-person work, or if it's more
in line with the podcast, andalso for the course that I'm in
the process of creating.
And I know I've been talkingabout it for a little bit, but
we got derailed.
And the reason why we gotderailed is because I actually
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made it through the coursecreation work, and then I came
to a halt and I said, wait aminute, I want to make sure that
this is something I definitelywant to do before I spend time
and invest more energy andeffort into creating something,
and I don't even love it.
Like I have to love it,otherwise, there's no point in
me offering it because I'm goingto feel icky when I want to talk
(16:14):
about it online, when I want topromote it, when I want to, you
know, gently, softly, in a justa nudge and suggestive way, sell
it online.
If you follow me on socialmedia, you know I am not that
aggressive salesperson.
I am not the person that's gonnasay, so what do you want to do?
(16:36):
Are you in or are you out?
Uh-uh.
That ain't me.
And anyone who speaks to me thatway, I immediately go cold on
them.
I don't do the bro salesnonsense.
It just doesn't work for me,doesn't align with me.
It's not my jam.
Never been into it.
But I am somebody who is willingto hear someone out, especially
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if what they're sharing with melooks interesting and it looks
like it could help me.
And it looks like maybe there'ssomething I can learn here.
So for now, yes, I'm enrolled inthree different things all at
the same time, in addition tocreating this show for you and
my one-to-one work that I do inperson, as well as just life in
(17:25):
general.
And this is a very busy time ofthe year, the fall, because
there's a lot of holidays comingup and people getting it
together, and I have quite a fewthings down the pipeline for me,
like um, I have a wedding comingup in the spring for my best
friend.
So we also have his bachelorparty and the holidays, and
(17:46):
yeah, life is messy.
So I can't wait for it to be theright time to work on all the
things I want.
But if I did a little bit everyday at the end of a year, that's
365 days of just a little bit,which could add up to quite a
lot when you think about it thatway, right?
And it's the same thing withyour health and wellness, it's
(18:08):
the same thing with the gym,it's the same thing with
nutrition.
It's literally all the same.
It's one big giant fucking mess,and we're all just winging it
and trying to do the best thatwe can.
So I would like to encourage youto get rid of that perfectionist
mindset.
I would like to get rid of thefiles, the labels, the color
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coding, the post-its, thehighlighters, the pens, the
ruler, and just get messy withit because you can have the best
system in place, but if you'renot adhering to it, if it's not
useful and if it isn't helpingyou move forward, what's the
fucking point?
(18:54):
So I want you to take actioneven if you're not ready.
I want you to create that post,even if your hair isn't perfect.
In fact, I gotta tell you,social media, particularly in
2025 and going into next year,the more human you are, the more
relatable you are, the moreviews and the more reach you
will get.
Why?
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Because we are looking for real,we want connection.
So, yeah, if you're an artist,that's great.
If you're a director, acinematographer, you want to
play with your video editingskills, cool.
But post the real you toobecause we want both.
Okay.
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Even if you don't feel ready,even if you're scared, even if
you're not sure.
And something that I'm learningfrom my mentor is to find your
own voice.
It does not matter what strategyyou use, if you are not
yourself, you are not going tobe found by the right people.
(19:57):
And that's what you want.
Social media may have youthinking that you need thousands
of views, but let's take thosenumbers and make them real
people.
How would you feel if 6,000people came up to you and gave
you a tap on the shoulderbecause they liked your outfit?
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Think about that.
Put it into perspective.
Now, what if it was only 600?
What if it was 60?
That's still a lot of people ina day.
You'd be overwhelmed if it was6,000.
You wouldn't know what to dowith yourself.
You'd probably be really fuckinguncomfortable.
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So come back down to earth.
Get real with yourself, forgiveyourself for not being perfect.
Take the fucking messy actionand do the things you want to
do.
I hope that you enjoyed thisshow.
I appreciate your time andattention every week.
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And if you did enjoy thisepisode, please do me a favor,
give me a rating and leave areview.
It helps me to be seen by morepeople that are part of our
tribe.
As always, I'll catch you on thenext one.
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