November 10, 2025 • 21 mins
Stuck and staring at a blinking cursor? We’ve all been there.
We start with the jam: notes that won’t cooperate, ideas that feel foggy, and the impulse to grind harder. Then we pivot to changes that work in minutes—walking, doing small chores, or pulling out a canvas and letting color lead.
From there, we dive into the question that anchors my coaching: How is that working for you?
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SPEAKER_00 (00:07):
Welcome to the Unbreakable Mind and Body
Podcast.
I am your host, Tiana Gonzalez,a multi-passionate creative,
storyteller, and entrepreneurwith a fierce love for movement.
This is our space for powerfulstories and actionable
strategies to help you buildmental resilience and elevate
(00:28):
your self-care practice.
Together, we will unlock thetools that you need to create an
unbreakable mind and body.
Welcome back to the show.
I am your host, Tiana, and thisepisode almost did not happen.
At the time of recording or whenI was intending to record this
(00:48):
episode, I kept finding myselfup against a wall.
I felt a creative block.
I was frustrated.
I just could not, for somereason, I could not put together
cohesive thoughts and come upwith something to discuss with
you that I thought would behelpful for you.
(01:09):
And there, right, right there.
Right in that moment.
That is the very thing that Idecided to talk about.
So on this episode, we're goingto talk about what do you do
when you are feeling stuck orwhen you have a block.
And it's like you have thewords, but you don't know how to
(01:30):
put them together, or you havethe thought, but you can't
string the thoughts together ina way that it makes sense.
You're kind of floating around.
And I will tell you thatinitially what I wanted to
discuss with you on thisepisode, which by the way, this
is episode 50.
Yay! Let's celebrate.
(01:52):
The original topic I wanted todiscuss with you is the powerful
question that I started to usein my business, working with
clients and discussing withprospective clients when we're
talking about, you know,potentially working together.
And that is the question of howis that working for you?
(02:14):
That question created such ahuge shift for me when I started
to move away from simply tellingmy clients answers or simply
giving people formulas or layingout the roadmap for them and
telling them step by step theprocess that they need to take
in order to go from wherethey're at to where they want to
(02:37):
be.
Obviously, uh an experience orsomething in line with my
personal experiences and thethings that I've done, whether
it be in physic in physics,listen to me.
Although I did do three years ofphysics when I went to
engineering school, but whetherit be in fitness, health,
wellness, nutrition, and alsowith entrepreneurship.
But here's the thing (03:01):
I started to make some notes regarding
this question, this powerfulquestion, this topic, and I got
stuck.
And I thought about, all right,let me try to grind out these
notes.
And literally nothing was comingup.
Then I decided, all right, I'mgonna go for a walk.
(03:25):
I put on meditation music.
I then stopped and moisturizedmy hands before going out for
this walk.
I sorted my recycling.
I took out the garbage and Ijust went out into the
neighborhood with the meditationmusic on and my moisturized
hands.
And I decided to stop at a localsushi spot to get food.
(03:51):
I wound up sitting at a table, atwo-top in between, two other
couples on either side of me,one couple on either side of me.
Unfortunately, I decided let metake my air pods out of my ears
while I'm sitting at the table.
I actually have a weird thing.
I don't like to have them in myears when I'm eating because it
(04:12):
makes chewing veryuncomfortable.
It's just a really loud sound.
So I decided to just listen tothe ambiance in the restaurant,
look at the TVs that wereplaying above the bar, which I
could see clearly from my table,from my seat.
And I eavesdrop down theconversations of the couple on
either side of me.
(04:33):
I didn't intend to, I wasn'tlooking to do that.
It's not something I had on mybingo card for the day.
However, it was entertaining.
And then I realized this is whatI want to talk about on the
podcast is just being stuck andthen, you know, moving through
the body, figuring out a way tojust get through the stagnant
(04:56):
energy.
And the other part of this issometimes you just gotta sit in
it.
Sometimes life, the universe,whatever higher power it is that
you believe in, sometimes thatis trying to slow you down so
that you can be sure that thething you want to do or the
thing that you're motivated byor inspired by is actually
(05:20):
legitimate for you, and it'ssomething you want to take part
in, or it's something that youwant to show up for, or it's
something that you want to talkabout.
So I made these notes in myphone and I said, okay, this is
what I'm gonna talk about.
What do we do when we'reblocked?
I finished my meal, it wasexcellent.
(05:42):
By the way, it's very risky forme to eat most Asian cuisine
because I am allergic to sesameseeds and sesame oil.
So if I go anywhere wherethere's any type of sushi or
Thai food or Chinese or Filipinofood, I have to be very clear
(06:03):
about my allergy becausesometimes sesame oil is mixed
into the ingredients.
Sadly, I cannot have things likespicy tuna roll or a spicy
salmon because often uh sesametahini is used as an ingredient
in the spicy mayo.
So I don't even risk it.
(06:25):
And I ordered the uh sashimiappetizer, and then I had three
rolls, all just you know, simplecut rolls.
One was yellowtail, one was tunawith avocado, and the other, I
can't remember.
I think it was salmon andavocado, like pretty basic, very
(06:48):
simple.
I don't get the designer rollsthat are smothered in tons of
sauces.
Those are fucking delicious, butuh, they're not really in line
with what I'm trying to do withmy health, wellness, and my
physique.
An occasional treat, yes, butnot my standard go-to.
And just on a total side note, Imean, this wouldn't be an
(07:10):
unbreakable podcast episode if Ididn't go on tangents and twists
and turns and take you through afun little journey.
Just be mindful, if you aretracking your macros and you're
conscious about what you'reputting into your body, sushi is
very healthy and delicious foryou.
(07:30):
However, not when it's smotheredin sauce, not when it's anything
deep fried, and oftentimes,sugar is used in the rice to
make it stick together.
Now, that may not be the caseeverywhere, but in a lot of
these fusion-style restaurantswhere it's very fast-paced,
(07:52):
especially here on the EastCoast in the suburbs of New York
City, you can get sushi express.
And often there's a lot of sugarand rice vinegar in the white
rice or in the brown rice, ifthat's the route you go.
That's what makes it so stickyand delicious.
So there's actually more carbs,which turns into sugar than you
(08:13):
think.
So be mindful of that.
So I finish my meal, I decide towalk home, and I thought about
painting, and I said, you knowwhat?
Painting will be a good outletbecause I'm gonna move my body,
even though it's more of acreative and artistic venture.
(08:34):
It's not trying to force a storyor an episode or notes or use
any sort of brain power exceptfor being present in the moment
and focused on the thing thatI'm doing.
So I knew by just pulling out mypaints, diving into some
different colors, I used a blackcanvas, and I started to just go
(09:02):
with it.
No real plan.
I just sort of started paintingsome waves, and then the
illusion of curtains that wereseparating on each side, almost
as if when you're looking at thepainting, it's like looking
through a window, and then farback there is a floating heart.
(09:25):
So a black canvas, red and pinkfloating heart in the middle,
blue, different shades of bluecurtains that were opening from
the center out one to each side,and then along the bottom are
these very volatile, crazy rightnow.
(09:45):
They're blue waves.
It's a lighter shade of bluethan the curtains.
And what I'm thinking aboutdoing is adding some rocks into
the water, trying to create theillusion of more of a 3D shape
with the heart, and then ofcourse, giving the curtains more
(10:07):
depth.
I like the color scheme that Ipicked because it's a very
bright blue and then a darkerblue, and then I'm gonna
sprinkle some uh white and blackin there too, just to give it
more depth.
And it was through this paintingexperience that I realized that
(10:32):
just talking about being blockedis probably enough for us for
our conversation today.
How many times are you layingdown at the end of the night,
you're relaxing, and then all ofthese wonderful, powerful ideas
come to you, or you rememberthings you need to put on your
(10:52):
to-do list, and now you're up,you're energized, and you can't
sleep?
Or what about when you get intothe shower and you get this
massive creative explosion?
Like, what good is it gonna doyou while you're in the shower
and you're trying to shave yourlegs without cutting yourself
and then shampoo your hairwithout burning your eyes, and
(11:15):
you have all of these thoughtsflowing to you.
Well, what's happening there isthat you are relaxed.
And for many of us, that'sprobably the only time that
we're completely relaxed when welay down a bed to go to bed at
night, or when we're about totake a shower, maybe also doing
(11:37):
other things like cooking orsome chores around the house
washing the dishes.
I know for me, I get a lot ofreally great ideas when I'm
washing the dishes.
Now, I do not have a dishwasher.
My hands are my dishwasher.
Uh huh.
But, you know, for some people,I know they rinse and then they
put it in the machine, theypress a little button, and this
(11:58):
machine makes noise for hoursand hours, and then you get
moderately clean dishes when youpull them out of the dishwasher.
But I digress.
But it is through those momentswhere you're not forcing
anything, you're just sort ofbeing.
And that's when the downloadscome in.
That's when the creative juicesflow to you.
(12:20):
That's when you get some of yourbest ideas.
Now, what do I do when thosethings come up?
Well, I either scribble it on apiece of paper, or I'll do a
voice note to myself, or I willdo talk to text in a note in my
phone.
And then sometimes I'll go backto it and I'll add to it.
(12:41):
Like I did at the sushirestaurant yesterday.
I had this idea about what Icould make this episode topic
about, and then I just expandedit, and it has become an actual
thing.
So next time you find yourselfat a place where you're kind of
(13:02):
stuck, you don't know what todo, you're you're looking for
inspiration, or you have adeadline, maybe the answer is in
doing less, is in taking yourfoot off the gas, is in shifting
gears completely, moving yourbody, shaking your hands, going
(13:24):
for a walk, taking out a asketchbook and a pencil, you
know, something like that thatallows you to be present, that
forces you to stop thinking sohard about the thing that you
need to do.
And it just allows you to flowand be.
(13:48):
Creativity is like a muscle.
The more you use it, the easierit becomes to tap into it.
Similar to writing, the gym,content creation, cooking,
anything that's sort of a skillyou have to develop, it will get
better the more you do it.
(14:08):
So now we're just talking aboutvolume.
But it's also important that youtake a rest and that you take a
break.
So the next time you findyourself stuck, maybe shift
gears, maybe meditate, maybepause, maybe write down some
(14:28):
notes and then come back to itlater.
Now I'm looking at these notesfor the question, how is that
working for you?
And I have to say, that reallyis a transformative question for
me.
It helped me change the energywith all of my clients and with
prospective clients because thereality is in order to meet
(14:55):
people where they're at, inorder for them to find the best
solutions that's going to workfor them to create sustainable
change, baby steps, thousands ofbaby steps that add up to a
massive transformation.
But in order to make thathappen, it's probably better if
(15:18):
the person tells you what theythink would be best for them.
And as the coach, which is myrole in all of these
relationships, I can providesupport, I can give the
guideposts, I can point outthings that we should be looking
(15:39):
for that may or may not go well.
But ultimately, it's up to theclient to do the work.
So a really good example wouldbe if a client told me that they
wanted to lose body fat for thesummer.
Well, this is the perfect timewhere in the fall, before the
holidays really start to pickup, this is the perfect time to
(16:05):
start implementing some of thechanges that will be required
once we fully step into a properbody fat shedding type of plan.
Not much is going to change inthe gym.
It's the stuff we do outside thegym that changes.
(16:27):
And that's the stuff that Idon't have clear line of sight
to.
I'm trusting my client to do thethings that we talk about.
So this is the perfect time toset us up for success for when
we actually kick that off.
What can we do now?
Well, it's going to depend onthe client and what they have
(16:49):
going on in their life.
How do they eat during theweekdays?
Where are those opportunitiesthat are clear and jump out
like, you know, so obvious tome, but maybe they're not
obvious to him.
And so we start there.
Let's start making these littlechanges because we're creating
habits and the littlemicrohabits that we put in place
(17:12):
that we do consistently, dayafter day, week after week,
month after month, compound.
And all those tiny little stepsand adjustments and tweaks will
create that massive shift thatwe're looking for.
Now, what this will do duringthis time of the year, we're
really focusing on a couplethings, and I'm happy to share
(17:34):
them, although it may not bespecific enough for you.
But this person has opportunityto fit in another meal in his
day, definitely needs toincrease his protein portions
across the board and minimizelate-night snacking.
Now, there could be a lot ofreasons why the late night
(17:54):
snacking is there, or why thisor why that.
We're not going to get into thatright now because what I'm
trying to do is show you how thequestion of how's that working
for you is pivotal and importantbecause he's going to try a few
things and at a week check-in,I'm going to say, Well, what's
(18:15):
going on?
How is this going?
And he can say, I did this, Idid that, I did this.
And then we ask, How's thatworking for you?
And sometimes people think it'sworking great, and sometimes it
works great temporarily, but itdoesn't work great long term.
And so that's where my expertisejumps in.
That's where we make thechanges.
(18:36):
But it is a dance.
So it is erroneous for somebodyto just show up and get in front
of me and say, Yeah, I need ameal plan.
That's nice.
You can go talk to ChatGPT forthat.
You can go Google a meal plan.
You can probably download onefrom an influencer on Instagram.
Doesn't mean it's going to workfor you.
Doesn't mean it's going to giveyou the results you want.
(18:57):
It doesn't mean it's going toyield sustainable change.
But if you want to work with mein a coaching relationship where
I share with you 30 years ofknowledge, experience, a lot of
mistakes, hard lessons learned,trials and tribulations, what to
steer clear of, what to embrace,I'm your girl.
(19:24):
Success really comes down tothousands, I mean thousands, of
baby steps, micro steps thataccumulate over a long duration
of time.
Now I hope that you found thisconversation helpful.
One about taking a chill,getting out of your own way when
(19:48):
you feel stuck creatively.
And then also thinking about,you know, maybe working with
somebody to make a shift andasking yourself, how's that
working out?
How's that working out for me?
You know, I've been doing this,this, and this, but how's that
working out for me?
(20:08):
And being honest with yourselfabout the answers.
I appreciate you riding with me.
If you have an area in your lifewhere you're feeling creatively
stuck or you would like a littleguidance or support, you can
send me a text.
How do you do that?
Check the show notes.
There is a link that says sendus a text.
It comes right to me, and then Iwill be able to answer your
(20:30):
question on an upcoming episode.
And don't worry, your identitywill remain anonymous.
I'm here for you.
I want to support you.
I want to help you live yourbest life.
I want to help you become thatunbreakable badass that I know
that you are.
And we can do this together.
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(20:52):
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And if you feel inclined, youcan leave me a five star rating
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It really helps for the show togain visibility and traction and
to reach more people just likeus.
I appreciate you, and as always,I'll catch you on the next one.
Welcome to the Unbreakable Mind and Body
Podcast.
I am your host, Tiana Gonzalez,a multi-passionate creative,
storyteller, and entrepreneurwith a fierce love for movement.
This is our space for powerfulstories and actionable
strategies to help you buildmental resilience and elevate
(00:28):
your self-care practice.
Together, we will unlock thetools that you need to create an
unbreakable mind and body.
Welcome back to the show.
I am your host, Tiana, and thisepisode almost did not happen.
At the time of recording or whenI was intending to record this
(00:48):
episode, I kept finding myselfup against a wall.
I felt a creative block.
I was frustrated.
I just could not, for somereason, I could not put together
cohesive thoughts and come upwith something to discuss with
you that I thought would behelpful for you.
(01:09):
And there, right, right there.
Right in that moment.
That is the very thing that Idecided to talk about.
So on this episode, we're goingto talk about what do you do
when you are feeling stuck orwhen you have a block.
And it's like you have thewords, but you don't know how to
(01:30):
put them together, or you havethe thought, but you can't
string the thoughts together ina way that it makes sense.
You're kind of floating around.
And I will tell you thatinitially what I wanted to
discuss with you on thisepisode, which by the way, this
is episode 50.
Yay! Let's celebrate.
(01:52):
The original topic I wanted todiscuss with you is the powerful
question that I started to usein my business, working with
clients and discussing withprospective clients when we're
talking about, you know,potentially working together.
And that is the question of howis that working for you?
(02:14):
That question created such ahuge shift for me when I started
to move away from simply tellingmy clients answers or simply
giving people formulas or layingout the roadmap for them and
telling them step by step theprocess that they need to take
in order to go from wherethey're at to where they want to
(02:37):
be.
Obviously, uh an experience orsomething in line with my
personal experiences and thethings that I've done, whether
it be in physic in physics,listen to me.
Although I did do three years ofphysics when I went to
engineering school, but whetherit be in fitness, health,
wellness, nutrition, and alsowith entrepreneurship.
But here's the thing (03:01):
I started to make some notes regarding
this question, this powerfulquestion, this topic, and I got
stuck.
And I thought about, all right,let me try to grind out these
notes.
And literally nothing was comingup.
Then I decided, all right, I'mgonna go for a walk.
(03:25):
I put on meditation music.
I then stopped and moisturizedmy hands before going out for
this walk.
I sorted my recycling.
I took out the garbage and Ijust went out into the
neighborhood with the meditationmusic on and my moisturized
hands.
And I decided to stop at a localsushi spot to get food.
(03:51):
I wound up sitting at a table, atwo-top in between, two other
couples on either side of me,one couple on either side of me.
Unfortunately, I decided let metake my air pods out of my ears
while I'm sitting at the table.
I actually have a weird thing.
I don't like to have them in myears when I'm eating because it
(04:12):
makes chewing veryuncomfortable.
It's just a really loud sound.
So I decided to just listen tothe ambiance in the restaurant,
look at the TVs that wereplaying above the bar, which I
could see clearly from my table,from my seat.
And I eavesdrop down theconversations of the couple on
either side of me.
(04:33):
I didn't intend to, I wasn'tlooking to do that.
It's not something I had on mybingo card for the day.
However, it was entertaining.
And then I realized this is whatI want to talk about on the
podcast is just being stuck andthen, you know, moving through
the body, figuring out a way tojust get through the stagnant
(04:56):
energy.
And the other part of this issometimes you just gotta sit in
it.
Sometimes life, the universe,whatever higher power it is that
you believe in, sometimes thatis trying to slow you down so
that you can be sure that thething you want to do or the
thing that you're motivated byor inspired by is actually
(05:20):
legitimate for you, and it'ssomething you want to take part
in, or it's something that youwant to show up for, or it's
something that you want to talkabout.
So I made these notes in myphone and I said, okay, this is
what I'm gonna talk about.
What do we do when we'reblocked?
I finished my meal, it wasexcellent.
(05:42):
By the way, it's very risky forme to eat most Asian cuisine
because I am allergic to sesameseeds and sesame oil.
So if I go anywhere wherethere's any type of sushi or
Thai food or Chinese or Filipinofood, I have to be very clear
(06:03):
about my allergy becausesometimes sesame oil is mixed
into the ingredients.
Sadly, I cannot have things likespicy tuna roll or a spicy
salmon because often uh sesametahini is used as an ingredient
in the spicy mayo.
So I don't even risk it.
(06:25):
And I ordered the uh sashimiappetizer, and then I had three
rolls, all just you know, simplecut rolls.
One was yellowtail, one was tunawith avocado, and the other, I
can't remember.
I think it was salmon andavocado, like pretty basic, very
(06:48):
simple.
I don't get the designer rollsthat are smothered in tons of
sauces.
Those are fucking delicious, butuh, they're not really in line
with what I'm trying to do withmy health, wellness, and my
physique.
An occasional treat, yes, butnot my standard go-to.
And just on a total side note, Imean, this wouldn't be an
(07:10):
unbreakable podcast episode if Ididn't go on tangents and twists
and turns and take you through afun little journey.
Just be mindful, if you aretracking your macros and you're
conscious about what you'reputting into your body, sushi is
very healthy and delicious foryou.
(07:30):
However, not when it's smotheredin sauce, not when it's anything
deep fried, and oftentimes,sugar is used in the rice to
make it stick together.
Now, that may not be the caseeverywhere, but in a lot of
these fusion-style restaurantswhere it's very fast-paced,
(07:52):
especially here on the EastCoast in the suburbs of New York
City, you can get sushi express.
And often there's a lot of sugarand rice vinegar in the white
rice or in the brown rice, ifthat's the route you go.
That's what makes it so stickyand delicious.
So there's actually more carbs,which turns into sugar than you
(08:13):
think.
So be mindful of that.
So I finish my meal, I decide towalk home, and I thought about
painting, and I said, you knowwhat?
Painting will be a good outletbecause I'm gonna move my body,
even though it's more of acreative and artistic venture.
(08:34):
It's not trying to force a storyor an episode or notes or use
any sort of brain power exceptfor being present in the moment
and focused on the thing thatI'm doing.
So I knew by just pulling out mypaints, diving into some
different colors, I used a blackcanvas, and I started to just go
(09:02):
with it.
No real plan.
I just sort of started paintingsome waves, and then the
illusion of curtains that wereseparating on each side, almost
as if when you're looking at thepainting, it's like looking
through a window, and then farback there is a floating heart.
(09:25):
So a black canvas, red and pinkfloating heart in the middle,
blue, different shades of bluecurtains that were opening from
the center out one to each side,and then along the bottom are
these very volatile, crazy rightnow.
(09:45):
They're blue waves.
It's a lighter shade of bluethan the curtains.
And what I'm thinking aboutdoing is adding some rocks into
the water, trying to create theillusion of more of a 3D shape
with the heart, and then ofcourse, giving the curtains more
(10:07):
depth.
I like the color scheme that Ipicked because it's a very
bright blue and then a darkerblue, and then I'm gonna
sprinkle some uh white and blackin there too, just to give it
more depth.
And it was through this paintingexperience that I realized that
(10:32):
just talking about being blockedis probably enough for us for
our conversation today.
How many times are you layingdown at the end of the night,
you're relaxing, and then all ofthese wonderful, powerful ideas
come to you, or you rememberthings you need to put on your
(10:52):
to-do list, and now you're up,you're energized, and you can't
sleep?
Or what about when you get intothe shower and you get this
massive creative explosion?
Like, what good is it gonna doyou while you're in the shower
and you're trying to shave yourlegs without cutting yourself
and then shampoo your hairwithout burning your eyes, and
(11:15):
you have all of these thoughtsflowing to you.
Well, what's happening there isthat you are relaxed.
And for many of us, that'sprobably the only time that
we're completely relaxed when welay down a bed to go to bed at
night, or when we're about totake a shower, maybe also doing
(11:37):
other things like cooking orsome chores around the house
washing the dishes.
I know for me, I get a lot ofreally great ideas when I'm
washing the dishes.
Now, I do not have a dishwasher.
My hands are my dishwasher.
Uh huh.
But, you know, for some people,I know they rinse and then they
put it in the machine, theypress a little button, and this
(11:58):
machine makes noise for hoursand hours, and then you get
moderately clean dishes when youpull them out of the dishwasher.
But I digress.
But it is through those momentswhere you're not forcing
anything, you're just sort ofbeing.
And that's when the downloadscome in.
That's when the creative juicesflow to you.
(12:20):
That's when you get some of yourbest ideas.
Now, what do I do when thosethings come up?
Well, I either scribble it on apiece of paper, or I'll do a
voice note to myself, or I willdo talk to text in a note in my
phone.
And then sometimes I'll go backto it and I'll add to it.
(12:41):
Like I did at the sushirestaurant yesterday.
I had this idea about what Icould make this episode topic
about, and then I just expandedit, and it has become an actual
thing.
So next time you find yourselfat a place where you're kind of
(13:02):
stuck, you don't know what todo, you're you're looking for
inspiration, or you have adeadline, maybe the answer is in
doing less, is in taking yourfoot off the gas, is in shifting
gears completely, moving yourbody, shaking your hands, going
(13:24):
for a walk, taking out a asketchbook and a pencil, you
know, something like that thatallows you to be present, that
forces you to stop thinking sohard about the thing that you
need to do.
And it just allows you to flowand be.
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Creativity is like a muscle.
The more you use it, the easierit becomes to tap into it.
Similar to writing, the gym,content creation, cooking,
anything that's sort of a skillyou have to develop, it will get
better the more you do it.
(14:08):
So now we're just talking aboutvolume.
But it's also important that youtake a rest and that you take a
break.
So the next time you findyourself stuck, maybe shift
gears, maybe meditate, maybepause, maybe write down some
(14:28):
notes and then come back to itlater.
Now I'm looking at these notesfor the question, how is that
working for you?
And I have to say, that reallyis a transformative question for
me.
It helped me change the energywith all of my clients and with
prospective clients because thereality is in order to meet
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people where they're at, inorder for them to find the best
solutions that's going to workfor them to create sustainable
change, baby steps, thousands ofbaby steps that add up to a
massive transformation.
But in order to make thathappen, it's probably better if
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the person tells you what theythink would be best for them.
And as the coach, which is myrole in all of these
relationships, I can providesupport, I can give the
guideposts, I can point outthings that we should be looking
(15:39):
for that may or may not go well.
But ultimately, it's up to theclient to do the work.
So a really good example wouldbe if a client told me that they
wanted to lose body fat for thesummer.
Well, this is the perfect timewhere in the fall, before the
holidays really start to pickup, this is the perfect time to
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start implementing some of thechanges that will be required
once we fully step into a properbody fat shedding type of plan.
Not much is going to change inthe gym.
It's the stuff we do outside thegym that changes.
(16:27):
And that's the stuff that Idon't have clear line of sight
to.
I'm trusting my client to do thethings that we talk about.
So this is the perfect time toset us up for success for when
we actually kick that off.
What can we do now?
Well, it's going to depend onthe client and what they have
(16:49):
going on in their life.
How do they eat during theweekdays?
Where are those opportunitiesthat are clear and jump out
like, you know, so obvious tome, but maybe they're not
obvious to him.
And so we start there.
Let's start making these littlechanges because we're creating
habits and the littlemicrohabits that we put in place
(17:12):
that we do consistently, dayafter day, week after week,
month after month, compound.
And all those tiny little stepsand adjustments and tweaks will
create that massive shift thatwe're looking for.
Now, what this will do duringthis time of the year, we're
really focusing on a couplethings, and I'm happy to share
(17:34):
them, although it may not bespecific enough for you.
But this person has opportunityto fit in another meal in his
day, definitely needs toincrease his protein portions
across the board and minimizelate-night snacking.
Now, there could be a lot ofreasons why the late night
(17:54):
snacking is there, or why thisor why that.
We're not going to get into thatright now because what I'm
trying to do is show you how thequestion of how's that working
for you is pivotal and importantbecause he's going to try a few
things and at a week check-in,I'm going to say, Well, what's
(18:15):
going on?
How is this going?
And he can say, I did this, Idid that, I did this.
And then we ask, How's thatworking for you?
And sometimes people think it'sworking great, and sometimes it
works great temporarily, but itdoesn't work great long term.
And so that's where my expertisejumps in.
That's where we make thechanges.
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But it is a dance.
So it is erroneous for somebodyto just show up and get in front
of me and say, Yeah, I need ameal plan.
That's nice.
You can go talk to ChatGPT forthat.
You can go Google a meal plan.
You can probably download onefrom an influencer on Instagram.
Doesn't mean it's going to workfor you.
Doesn't mean it's going to giveyou the results you want.
(18:57):
It doesn't mean it's going toyield sustainable change.
But if you want to work with mein a coaching relationship where
I share with you 30 years ofknowledge, experience, a lot of
mistakes, hard lessons learned,trials and tribulations, what to
steer clear of, what to embrace,I'm your girl.
(19:24):
Success really comes down tothousands, I mean thousands, of
baby steps, micro steps thataccumulate over a long duration
of time.
Now I hope that you found thisconversation helpful.
One about taking a chill,getting out of your own way when
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you feel stuck creatively.
And then also thinking about,you know, maybe working with
somebody to make a shift andasking yourself, how's that
working out?
How's that working out for me?
You know, I've been doing this,this, and this, but how's that
working out for me?
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And being honest with yourselfabout the answers.
I appreciate you riding with me.
If you have an area in your lifewhere you're feeling creatively
stuck or you would like a littleguidance or support, you can
send me a text.
How do you do that?
Check the show notes.
There is a link that says sendus a text.
It comes right to me, and then Iwill be able to answer your
(20:30):
question on an upcoming episode.
And don't worry, your identitywill remain anonymous.
I'm here for you.
I want to support you.
I want to help you live yourbest life.
I want to help you become thatunbreakable badass that I know
that you are.
And we can do this together.
So if you enjoyed this show,please make sure to subscribe so
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that you get notifications everytime a new episode drops.
And if you feel inclined, youcan leave me a five star rating
and a review.
It really helps for the show togain visibility and traction and
to reach more people just likeus.
I appreciate you, and as always,I'll catch you on the next one.
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