Are You Living for Legacy?

Have you ever wondered what people will remember about you when you're gone? Today's episode emerged from an unexpected emotional moment during a client training session that brought me to tears.

When my client arrived with news that both her parents were hospitalized on opposite coasts, our conversation naturally turned toward mortality. I shared that while death itself doesn't frighten me, I often contemplate my legacy. ?

The most powerful moment came when I realized I've spent years finding myself without having had a proper blueprint to follow. This truth hit me unexpectedly, bringing tears during our session.

The liberating truth is that while we contribute to our legacy through our actions, we ultimately don't control how others will remember us. 

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Episode Transcript

Speaker 1 (00:08):
Welcome to the Unbreakable Mind and Body
podcast.
I am your host, tiana Gonzalez,a multi-passionate, creative
storyteller and entrepreneurwith a fierce love for movement.
This is our space for powerfulstories and actionable
strategies to help you buildmental resilience and elevate

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your self-care practice.
Together, we will unlock thetools that you need to create an
unbreakable mind and body.

Speaker 2 (00:38):
Welcome back to the show.
I'm your host, tiana, and thisis an impromptu episode that I
am recording on the cuff on aMonday night.
Now I was brought to tearstoday during a session with one
of my clients.
The conversation was sopowerful and it made such an
impact on me and I want to shareit with you because I have a

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question for you.
But before I get to my question, I'll share what happened today
.
So the client I've been workingwith, she's been working with me
about eight, nine months now.
So we have a good rapport.
I wouldn't say we have the mostemotional or deep connection,

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but we have a very goodprofessional working
relationship.
I am her trainer, she is myclient, and when she came up the
stairs today, I knewimmediately that something was
off and I said you know, are youokay?
She said, oh, I'm a little outof it.
My mom was admitted to thehospital over the weekend and I

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said oh, that's too bad, I'm sosorry.
Admitted to the hospital overthe weekend, and I said, oh,
that's too bad, I'm so sorry.
She shared a little bit abouther mom's condition and she said
I'm exhausted.
I just got back, as you know,meaning me, I knew this already,
but she says I just got backfrom being out of town and
looking after my father.
Her parents are divorced.
They live on separate coasts,so her mom's in the hospital and

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her dad is in the hospital.
And the topic of death came upbecause I said to her you know,

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I'm not really afraid of death,it's inevitable.
None of us are going to get outof here alive, I know that.
But what I do think about is Iwonder if people will remember
me and if they do, I wonder whatthey will think about and I

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wonder if I'm leaving behind agood legacy.
And here's the thing I try tobe a good person, I try to make
a positive impact.
I want to do a good person.
I try to make a positive impact.
I want to do right by people.
But at what point?
When you're focused on that, isit coming from you, because you

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want to do it, or is it comingfrom ego, because it's how
you're going to be rememberedand you want to make sure that
people remember you fondly?
So you see how there's an edgethere and it's a very
interesting place to sort ofthink about.
Now, if you've listened to anyof the previous episodes, you've

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heard me talk about just beingin the energy of a question
without forcing an answer, andthat is a different concept for
a lot of people.
Many people ask a question,they want an answer and they
want the answer as quickly aspossible.
It doesn't mean it's going tobe the right answer, but it's
going to be an answer, and somepeople will go back and forth,

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they'll play out scenarios.
Now the scenario thing.
Let me tell you, you could godown a rabbit hole with that
shit, because if you do the well, what if this happens?
And then if this happens, andthen that might happen, and then
this could happen and thatcould happen.
And before you know it, youhave spent an inordinate amount

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of time stressing about asituation that's never going to
come to fruition.
But when you're thinking aboutthe imprint that you leave on
the people, that you see thatyou are around, are you going to
be making a positive impact,are you going to be making a

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difference?
And the thing is, how do you dothat without it being
ego-driven?
So that question what is yourlegacy?
What will your legacy be?
We actually don't really havecontrol of that.
We can contribute to it in someway, be a good person, but we

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don't have control over how theworld will remember us.
And I think that that can beheavy to sit with.
Think that that can be heavy tosit with.
So we continued in this workoutand we moved on to the next

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exercise and I paused and lookedat my client and I said you
know, I've spent so muchunraveling a tangled web,
undoing a bunch of nonsense, tofind myself to pull myself out
of what feels like rubble toshed skin.

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And the truth of the matter isI didn't have a great blueprint
to follow.
I didn't have a great blueprintto follow.
And those words as they cameout of my mouth, I realized the
gravity of that statement and itbrought tears to my eyes.
Now, typically, I'm working,I'm very professional and I'm

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not pulling in my emotions andmy stuff into the session.
I've worked diligently on beingpersonal but not taking things
personally.
However, for whatever reasonthe timing of the conversation,
wherever I am in my cycle and myhormones, I guess I showed up

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emotional today.
So my eyes well up and I saidexcuse me.
And I walked over.
There's a tissue box mounted onthe wall not far from where we
were.
I grab a tissue, I dry my eyes.
They well up again.
I grab another tissue.
I say I'm sorry and she saidit's okay, take your time.

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But here's the thing, I'm notsorry.
I'm actually not sorry.
I am not sorry that I felt whatI felt.
It was powerful, it was potent,it was this thought of like

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well, well, and this is what Ihad.
These are the tools I had in mytoolbox.
You know, I did the best Icould.
We don't all get handed the samedeck.
You know, I'm sorry.
We don't all receive the samehand from a deck of cards.
We each have unique variablesat the starting point.

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Some of us have more resources,some of us have more nurturing
and love, some of us have verylittle and some of us have more.
We only know the world from ourown lens and our own

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experiences.
We can imagine what it would belike if things were different
for us, but ultimately, we onlyknow about that through hearing
our friends and our loved onessharing their stories and their
experiences and making thosemoments real and palpable and
something that you can smell andbreathe in.

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But truly, the experienceitself is unique to each of us,
and so I want to challenge youto sit with this question and
really think about what yourmotivation, what that's coming
from.
What will your legacy be, andare you doing things to make the

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world just a little bit better?
Are you doing things to be ofservice?
Are you doing things to be ofservice?
Are you doing things to helpsomeone else?
Potentially?
There's no judgment.
It's truly exploratory and I'dlove, if you do take the
challenge that I'm posing youwith, to sit down, maybe journal

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or reflect on the answer tothat question.
I would love to hear yourresponse.
You can check the show notes tofind out how to get in touch
with me.
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I appreciate you.
Thank you for being here, thankyou for sharing this question
and this experience with me, andI'll catch you on the next one.