July 7, 2025 • 18 mins
In 2007, I crashed a borrowed car on my way to a job interview.
What started as a simple car swap to avoid a traffic ticket quickly spiraled into disaster when I hydroplaned over construction runoff and slammed into a concrete divider. The wrecked car was just the beginning—my boyfriend's reaction revealed more about our relationship than months of dating had.
Despite the chaos, I formulated a plan: get the damaged car home, change clothes, catch a train to the city, and somehow pull myself together for this crucial interview. Not only did I make it on time, but when I shared my morning's adventure with my interviewers, I unknowingly demonstrated exactly the kind of quick thinking and resilience they were looking for. Before I even made it home that evening, they called with a job offer.
This pivotal moment marked the beginning of a challenging three-year period that included working for half my predecessor's salary, supporting my mother through cancer, and remaining in a relationship that was slowly draining my spirit. Like waves repeatedly crashing over someone struggling to reach shore, each new challenge threatened to pull me under.
The greatest lesson? Learning to slow down rather than rushing headlong into chaos.
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Speaker 1 (00:08):
Welcome to the Unbreakable Mind and Body
podcast.
I am your host, tiana Gonzalez,a multi-passionate, creative
storyteller and entrepreneurwith a fierce love for movement.
This is our space for powerfulstories and actionable
strategies to help you buildmental resilience and elevate
(00:28):
your self-care practice.
Together, we will unlock thetools that you need to create an
unbreakable mind and body.
Welcome back to the show.
I am your host, tiana, and Iwant to invite you to listen to
a story.
Recently on Instagram, I askedmy community if they would be
(00:52):
interested in hearing a storyand the unanimous answer was yes
.
So I'm going to share thisstory here on the podcast.
I will probably tell it onInstagram as well.
If you're interested infollowing me, you can check the
show notes to find my Instagramhandle.
And then, if you'd like to takeit even a step further and get
(01:12):
a little more personal with me,I have a broadcast channel there
called Done is Better ThanPerfect, which is also the title
of my most downloaded podcastepisode to date, which I love.
So it's 2007.
And, by the way, by the end ofthis story, you'll realize why
(01:34):
it's appropriate for this showbecause it's perfect, it's 2007.
I go to Miami, I'm with friends,I get an email.
This company wants to interviewme, so I scheduled the
interview for the Friday of theweek that I'm returning.
I think I came back to New Yorkon a Sunday or Monday, worked
(01:57):
the rest of the week and then Icalled out sick that Friday.
Now I switched cars with myboyfriend at the time because I
had a cracked taillight on mycar and I didn't want to drive
it into the city and riskgetting pulled over or having
somebody stop me at a trafficlight, pull me over and give me
(02:20):
a ticket.
That would have been a prettycostly ticket for me at the time
me a ticket.
That would have been a prettycostly ticket for me at the time
.
So instead I asked my boyfriendif we could switch cars and
what I didn't know was that allfour of the tires in his car or
on his car needed to be replaced.
They were in really bad shape.
(02:41):
Now I spent the night at hishouse, so in the morning he
could just take my car and go tohis job and I could take his
car and go home and let myselfget ready and then drive into
the city, and on my way homethere was some construction and
there was, for some reason, anactive stream of water going
(03:01):
across the exit ramp and when Iflew over it, probably going way
too fast, I lost control of thecar.
It hydroplaned and crashedright into the concrete divider.
Thank God there was no oneright behind me and I didn't
hurt anyone else or any property, just the car.
(03:22):
I was able to pull it over intothis like get off the ramp,
pull it into the first section.
That was clear so I could takea look at it.
The car was in really bad shape.
I called the boyfriend.
I told him I had just been in acar accident.
I told him I was okay, but Iasked him to please come to my
(03:43):
house.
I said I'm so sorry, but canyou please just come to my house
?
I'm really shaken up by thiswhole thing.
I crawl from the spot where Istopped doing something along
the lines of 15 to 20 miles perhour to get the car into my
driveway.
I believe the interview was inthe afternoon, maybe right
(04:05):
around lunchtime or around 1 pm,and so I had a little bit of
time, but I had to sort thingsout.
This was the first time Iactually got to see this guy's
true colors, because he asked memore about the car than he did
(04:26):
if I was okay.
It wasn't until he soaked inthe damage to the car that he
then realized wait a minute likeI could have been really badly
hurt and he wanted to make surethat I was okay and it's called
an accident because it's anaccident, right.
So I had to think quick.
(04:47):
I wanted to get to the jobinterview Now.
I had planned a secondinterview earlier that day, but
it was not as important.
The one in the afternoon wasmore of a priority.
The one in the morning was verysloppily put together and I
didn't have any issues callingthe person who coordinated it
and saying I'm so sorry, I wasin a car accident this morning.
(05:10):
I'll have to reschedule.
Unfortunately I can't make it,and whether she thought I was
full of shit or not, I didn'treally give a shit.
I had to take care of things.
So now the boyfriend leaves,goes to work, I'm figuring out
the train schedule.
I call a taxi to take a taxi tothe train.
(05:33):
I take a train into the city.
I get to the interview on time.
The whole train ride.
I'm sweating because I'm goingthrough the crash from the
adrenaline rush, but I pull ittogether.
I go to the job interview, Iknock it out the park.
(05:54):
I met with two different peoplemy department head, my future.
I mean, obviously I took thejob, so it was my future
department head, and also theclient.
Obviously I took the job, so itwas my future department head
and also the client.
And I actually tell themtowards the end of the interview
that I was in an accident thatmorning and you know, they kind
(06:16):
of looked totally shocked and indisbelief.
But they asked me you know whathappened and how did I handle
it?
And as I'm telling them thestory, leaving out some details,
but just saying, yeah, I was ina pretty bad car accident.
I think the car's going to betotaled, I'm not really sure yet
.
It's not very drivable, but Iwas able to get it to my
(06:38):
driveway and I had to shiftgears and all sorts of things
and make it happen, change myfootwear, because I wasn't
driving anymore.
I was going to be putting onquite a number of steps.
I needed to change my footwearto something more comfortable,
use a different bag, just allthat strategy.
And what I didn't realize was,in me telling that story, I was
(07:01):
showing them how I was able tothink quick in a moment of
adversity, to pivot, to come upwith another strategy to solve a
problem and to still get thejob done, and it was a great
thing.
I get on the train, I leave.
I thank them for the interview.
I get on the train, you know, Ileave, I thank them for the
(07:22):
interview.
I get on the train.
I'm on my way home and I get acall.
They wanted to make an offer.
They made an offer, I acceptedit and I cried.
I was so proud of myself inthat moment that I was able to
(07:44):
switch gears so quickly, to getgritty, to just come up with a
solution.
There was nothing that wasgoing to stop me from getting to
that job interview and it waseye-opening to see the
boyfriend's reaction.
It was really telling how hewas more concerned with his
(08:09):
property as opposed to me and mywell-being.
And side note, this is the sameguy I spoke about a couple of
episodes ago where I talkedabout.
You know, just trust your gutwhen something doesn't feel
right.
This is the person that I Icall the one.
He's the one who the end ofthat relationship broke me in
(08:31):
half.
It cracked me open.
It didn't really break me anddestroy me, but it cracked my
heart wide open because I choseto deep dive into healing and I
chose to make myself a betterversion and work through a lot
of my stored trauma and badhabits and the darker sides of
(08:55):
myself.
I don't want to call it goodand bad, because even when we
have a side of ourselves oraspects of ourselves that we're
not necessarily proud of, theystill contribute to who we are
today.
It's like a yin and a yang.
You can't have light withoutdark.
They have to coexist.
(09:17):
So this relationship was the onewhere I always felt like
something was off.
I felt disrespected.
I felt that I wasn't beingsupported fully.
It was more of a situationwhere this person kept me around
because he didn't want me to bewith anyone else that's really
(09:41):
what it was all about but hewasn't in love with me, not the
way I needed to be loved at thattime.
So this car accident was reallyone of the first things that
opened my eyes to some of ourproblems, and we had only been
dating a couple of months atthis point.
So I gaslit myself and I toldmyself to not make a big deal
(10:06):
out of it.
You see, I had always been madeout to be a monster and to be
compared to my mother.
So anytime that I experienced amoment where I felt I was being
sharp or severe or extreme orflying off the handle or I had a
temper, I thought I wasoverreacting and I needed to
(10:31):
ground myself and I needed tocheck myself.
So there was always a lot ofself-regulation.
However, why was I feeling thatway is really what the question
was, and I didn't have thetools and I was not equipped to
navigate those things at thattime.
So now I embark on this newchapter in my life.
(10:55):
Where I'm starting this new job?
It's in the city.
The client was Lehman Brothers,which is super high profile
client, and this was in thespring of 2007, when everyone
was being approved for amortgage.
They were hiring like crazy.
They needed more commercialreal estate property managers,
(11:18):
and I started at a salary thatwas way below what I was worth
In fact, I discovered it lateron but I was making half of what
my predecessor was making.
They were taking advantage ofme because I was younger and I
didn't know how to advocate formyself.
Yet another set of tools that Ididn't have in my arsenal at
(11:42):
the time, you know, I didn'trealize it and, plus, I wasn't
thinking logically.
I probably should have taken mytime, but I had just been in
this traumatic car accidentearlier that same day and, oh,
by the way, I also had to gobartend that night.
I also had to go bartend thatnight.
(12:06):
So this is a perfect example ofwhere it was just always go, go
, go for me.
I slept at my boyfriend's housethe night before I was rushing
to get home.
I was, you know, rushing tofigure out how, a solution to
get me to get the car into mydriveway, which I wound up just
driving it very slowly with thehazard lights on on the highway
(12:27):
to get home and then rearrangemy plans, change my footwear,
change the bag I was going touse, make sure my makeup wasn't
bleeding all over the collar ofthe white shirt on the train
because I was sweating profusely, pulling it together, getting
my head right, trying to berelaxed, answering the questions
.
Well, of course, I didn't thinkabout negotiating anything.
(12:49):
I was so worried about allthese other things and sorting
through my emotions from theaccident, plus the lack of care
and empathy that I felt that itwas missing from my boyfriend at
the time.
So, yeah, no, I didn't knowwhat the fuck I was doing.
I was just go, go, go, go go.
(13:11):
Now you've heard me say on thisshow before what's the rush?
And here's a perfect examplewhere had somebody told me it's
okay to slow down a little bit?
Think about things, think thisthrough.
I could have made betterchoices for myself at the time,
(13:33):
but I was always going a hundredmiles an hour.
And now, because I had been inthis accident and I felt guilt,
I gave my boyfriend my car and Iwas stressed, figuring out how
I was going to get from here tothere and everywhere I needed to
bartend because I needed thatcash.
So it was this perfect storm ofhigh stress and not being able
(14:02):
to sit and think and make abetter decision for myself.
Was it his fault that he needednew tires and he didn't tell me
that beforehand?
I don't know.
Was it my fault because I wasdriving fast and I lost control
of the car?
Yeah, that's my fault.
I own that and I did get themost important thing done, which
(14:26):
was to make sure that I wasokay and then to get to that job
interview, and I'm super proudthat I was offered the job
before I even got home that theywere impressed with me but it
cost me a lot, and what thatvalue is I'm not sure.
(14:48):
But that was just the beginningof a then tumultuous period in
my personal life and an insaneperiod of stress in my
professional life.
So now I went into the city.
Once.
I did my two weeks at myprevious job and I started with
(15:08):
this new one.
I was commuting into the cityevery day, dressing up,
answering emails on the weekendson my BlackBerry if I had to,
taking calls 24-7, dealing withNew York City and all of the
rules and regulations, publicutility companies, the law
(15:30):
enforcement Whenever we had todo construction there was always
a lot of permitting involvedand the clients, these high net
worth clients.
I was in this shittyrelationship.
My mom got diagnosed withcancer in July of that same year
.
I was with this bomb guy andnot getting paid what I'm worth
(15:54):
and being super stressed out allthe time.
Am I proud of myself for what Idid on the day of the car
accident?
Yes, am I proud of myself forgetting through all of those
challenges that then came?
It was almost like a rippleeffect.
It was like being stuck in thewater at the beach and you're
trying to swim out and anotherwave just comes and crashes
(16:17):
right on top of you.
And then you get a little bitcloser to the shore, you're
almost out and just as you takeanother step, here comes a big
wave, the undertow, sucks youback in and then crashes right
on your head, and that isliterally what my life felt like
for about three years after theday of that car accident.
It was really, really tough,but I am so proud of myself for
(16:44):
being able to knuckle through itand to work my way out of
having to always be in survivalmode work my way out of having
to always be in survival mode.
Now I know better.
Now, if I see this chaoticsituation, instead of running
towards it, I'm going to stopand slow down and start asking
(17:06):
myself some questions Like doesthis need to be taken care of?
Right, this?
Second Am I making a decisionfrom a sound place or am I being
emotional?
You know, for example, I'm onthis extreme diet for a couple
more days.
I've been doing it for aboutfive weeks almost six now, for a
(17:26):
very specific reason, and I'malmost at the finish line and I
got to tell you.
I have caught myself a few timesthinking things or wanting to
say something to a coworker or aclient or an acquaintance and
I'll just say you know what?
No, I'm not thinking clearlyright now.
I am very hungry, I'm crankyand I'm tired.
(17:48):
Doesn't need to be addressedright now.
And I'm tired Doesn't need tobe addressed right now.
So I hope you enjoyed thislittle story of mine.
It is a moment, a snip in mylife where I'm very proud of the
girl that handled her businessand I'm also wishful that I
(18:13):
won't ever have to be in thatplace again, because I'll have a
better support system and Ifeel more equipped to take care
of myself first before takingcare of all of these other
things.
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Welcome to the Unbreakable Mind and Body
podcast.
I am your host, tiana Gonzalez,a multi-passionate, creative
storyteller and entrepreneurwith a fierce love for movement.
This is our space for powerfulstories and actionable
strategies to help you buildmental resilience and elevate
(00:28):
your self-care practice.
Together, we will unlock thetools that you need to create an
unbreakable mind and body.
Welcome back to the show.
I am your host, tiana, and Iwant to invite you to listen to
a story.
Recently on Instagram, I askedmy community if they would be
(00:52):
interested in hearing a storyand the unanimous answer was yes
.
So I'm going to share thisstory here on the podcast.
I will probably tell it onInstagram as well.
If you're interested infollowing me, you can check the
show notes to find my Instagramhandle.
And then, if you'd like to takeit even a step further and get
(01:12):
a little more personal with me,I have a broadcast channel there
called Done is Better ThanPerfect, which is also the title
of my most downloaded podcastepisode to date, which I love.
So it's 2007.
And, by the way, by the end ofthis story, you'll realize why
(01:34):
it's appropriate for this showbecause it's perfect, it's 2007.
I go to Miami, I'm with friends,I get an email.
This company wants to interviewme, so I scheduled the
interview for the Friday of theweek that I'm returning.
I think I came back to New Yorkon a Sunday or Monday, worked
(01:57):
the rest of the week and then Icalled out sick that Friday.
Now I switched cars with myboyfriend at the time because I
had a cracked taillight on mycar and I didn't want to drive
it into the city and riskgetting pulled over or having
somebody stop me at a trafficlight, pull me over and give me
(02:20):
a ticket.
That would have been a prettycostly ticket for me at the time
me a ticket.
That would have been a prettycostly ticket for me at the time
.
So instead I asked my boyfriendif we could switch cars and
what I didn't know was that allfour of the tires in his car or
on his car needed to be replaced.
They were in really bad shape.
(02:41):
Now I spent the night at hishouse, so in the morning he
could just take my car and go tohis job and I could take his
car and go home and let myselfget ready and then drive into
the city, and on my way homethere was some construction and
there was, for some reason, anactive stream of water going
(03:01):
across the exit ramp and when Iflew over it, probably going way
too fast, I lost control of thecar.
It hydroplaned and crashedright into the concrete divider.
Thank God there was no oneright behind me and I didn't
hurt anyone else or any property, just the car.
(03:22):
I was able to pull it over intothis like get off the ramp,
pull it into the first section.
That was clear so I could takea look at it.
The car was in really bad shape.
I called the boyfriend.
I told him I had just been in acar accident.
I told him I was okay, but Iasked him to please come to my
(03:43):
house.
I said I'm so sorry, but canyou please just come to my house
?
I'm really shaken up by thiswhole thing.
I crawl from the spot where Istopped doing something along
the lines of 15 to 20 miles perhour to get the car into my
driveway.
I believe the interview was inthe afternoon, maybe right
(04:05):
around lunchtime or around 1 pm,and so I had a little bit of
time, but I had to sort thingsout.
This was the first time Iactually got to see this guy's
true colors, because he asked memore about the car than he did
(04:26):
if I was okay.
It wasn't until he soaked inthe damage to the car that he
then realized wait a minute likeI could have been really badly
hurt and he wanted to make surethat I was okay and it's called
an accident because it's anaccident, right.
So I had to think quick.
(04:47):
I wanted to get to the jobinterview Now.
I had planned a secondinterview earlier that day, but
it was not as important.
The one in the afternoon wasmore of a priority.
The one in the morning was verysloppily put together and I
didn't have any issues callingthe person who coordinated it
and saying I'm so sorry, I wasin a car accident this morning.
(05:10):
I'll have to reschedule.
Unfortunately I can't make it,and whether she thought I was
full of shit or not, I didn'treally give a shit.
I had to take care of things.
So now the boyfriend leaves,goes to work, I'm figuring out
the train schedule.
I call a taxi to take a taxi tothe train.
(05:33):
I take a train into the city.
I get to the interview on time.
The whole train ride.
I'm sweating because I'm goingthrough the crash from the
adrenaline rush, but I pull ittogether.
I go to the job interview, Iknock it out the park.
(05:54):
I met with two different peoplemy department head, my future.
I mean, obviously I took thejob, so it was my future
department head, and also theclient.
Obviously I took the job, so itwas my future department head
and also the client.
And I actually tell themtowards the end of the interview
that I was in an accident thatmorning and you know, they kind
(06:16):
of looked totally shocked and indisbelief.
But they asked me you know whathappened and how did I handle
it?
And as I'm telling them thestory, leaving out some details,
but just saying, yeah, I was ina pretty bad car accident.
I think the car's going to betotaled, I'm not really sure yet
.
It's not very drivable, but Iwas able to get it to my
(06:38):
driveway and I had to shiftgears and all sorts of things
and make it happen, change myfootwear, because I wasn't
driving anymore.
I was going to be putting onquite a number of steps.
I needed to change my footwearto something more comfortable,
use a different bag, just allthat strategy.
And what I didn't realize was,in me telling that story, I was
(07:01):
showing them how I was able tothink quick in a moment of
adversity, to pivot, to come upwith another strategy to solve a
problem and to still get thejob done, and it was a great
thing.
I get on the train, I leave.
I thank them for the interview.
I get on the train, you know, Ileave, I thank them for the
(07:22):
interview.
I get on the train.
I'm on my way home and I get acall.
They wanted to make an offer.
They made an offer, I acceptedit and I cried.
I was so proud of myself inthat moment that I was able to
(07:44):
switch gears so quickly, to getgritty, to just come up with a
solution.
There was nothing that wasgoing to stop me from getting to
that job interview and it waseye-opening to see the
boyfriend's reaction.
It was really telling how hewas more concerned with his
(08:09):
property as opposed to me and mywell-being.
And side note, this is the sameguy I spoke about a couple of
episodes ago where I talkedabout.
You know, just trust your gutwhen something doesn't feel
right.
This is the person that I Icall the one.
He's the one who the end ofthat relationship broke me in
(08:31):
half.
It cracked me open.
It didn't really break me anddestroy me, but it cracked my
heart wide open because I choseto deep dive into healing and I
chose to make myself a betterversion and work through a lot
of my stored trauma and badhabits and the darker sides of
(08:55):
myself.
I don't want to call it goodand bad, because even when we
have a side of ourselves oraspects of ourselves that we're
not necessarily proud of, theystill contribute to who we are
today.
It's like a yin and a yang.
You can't have light withoutdark.
They have to coexist.
(09:17):
So this relationship was the onewhere I always felt like
something was off.
I felt disrespected.
I felt that I wasn't beingsupported fully.
It was more of a situationwhere this person kept me around
because he didn't want me to bewith anyone else that's really
(09:41):
what it was all about but hewasn't in love with me, not the
way I needed to be loved at thattime.
So this car accident was reallyone of the first things that
opened my eyes to some of ourproblems, and we had only been
dating a couple of months atthis point.
So I gaslit myself and I toldmyself to not make a big deal
(10:06):
out of it.
You see, I had always been madeout to be a monster and to be
compared to my mother.
So anytime that I experienced amoment where I felt I was being
sharp or severe or extreme orflying off the handle or I had a
temper, I thought I wasoverreacting and I needed to
(10:31):
ground myself and I needed tocheck myself.
So there was always a lot ofself-regulation.
However, why was I feeling thatway is really what the question
was, and I didn't have thetools and I was not equipped to
navigate those things at thattime.
So now I embark on this newchapter in my life.
(10:55):
Where I'm starting this new job?
It's in the city.
The client was Lehman Brothers,which is super high profile
client, and this was in thespring of 2007, when everyone
was being approved for amortgage.
They were hiring like crazy.
They needed more commercialreal estate property managers,
(11:18):
and I started at a salary thatwas way below what I was worth
In fact, I discovered it lateron but I was making half of what
my predecessor was making.
They were taking advantage ofme because I was younger and I
didn't know how to advocate formyself.
Yet another set of tools that Ididn't have in my arsenal at
(11:42):
the time, you know, I didn'trealize it and, plus, I wasn't
thinking logically.
I probably should have taken mytime, but I had just been in
this traumatic car accidentearlier that same day and, oh,
by the way, I also had to gobartend that night.
I also had to go bartend thatnight.
(12:06):
So this is a perfect example ofwhere it was just always go, go
, go for me.
I slept at my boyfriend's housethe night before I was rushing
to get home.
I was, you know, rushing tofigure out how, a solution to
get me to get the car into mydriveway, which I wound up just
driving it very slowly with thehazard lights on on the highway
(12:27):
to get home and then rearrangemy plans, change my footwear,
change the bag I was going touse, make sure my makeup wasn't
bleeding all over the collar ofthe white shirt on the train
because I was sweating profusely, pulling it together, getting
my head right, trying to berelaxed, answering the questions
.
Well, of course, I didn't thinkabout negotiating anything.
(12:49):
I was so worried about allthese other things and sorting
through my emotions from theaccident, plus the lack of care
and empathy that I felt that itwas missing from my boyfriend at
the time.
So, yeah, no, I didn't knowwhat the fuck I was doing.
I was just go, go, go, go go.
(13:11):
Now you've heard me say on thisshow before what's the rush?
And here's a perfect examplewhere had somebody told me it's
okay to slow down a little bit?
Think about things, think thisthrough.
I could have made betterchoices for myself at the time,
(13:33):
but I was always going a hundredmiles an hour.
And now, because I had been inthis accident and I felt guilt,
I gave my boyfriend my car and Iwas stressed, figuring out how
I was going to get from here tothere and everywhere I needed to
bartend because I needed thatcash.
So it was this perfect storm ofhigh stress and not being able
(14:02):
to sit and think and make abetter decision for myself.
Was it his fault that he needednew tires and he didn't tell me
that beforehand?
I don't know.
Was it my fault because I wasdriving fast and I lost control
of the car?
Yeah, that's my fault.
I own that and I did get themost important thing done, which
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was to make sure that I wasokay and then to get to that job
interview, and I'm super proudthat I was offered the job
before I even got home that theywere impressed with me but it
cost me a lot, and what thatvalue is I'm not sure.
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But that was just the beginningof a then tumultuous period in
my personal life and an insaneperiod of stress in my
professional life.
So now I went into the city.
Once.
I did my two weeks at myprevious job and I started with
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this new one.
I was commuting into the cityevery day, dressing up,
answering emails on the weekendson my BlackBerry if I had to,
taking calls 24-7, dealing withNew York City and all of the
rules and regulations, publicutility companies, the law
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enforcement Whenever we had todo construction there was always
a lot of permitting involvedand the clients, these high net
worth clients.
I was in this shittyrelationship.
My mom got diagnosed withcancer in July of that same year
.
I was with this bomb guy andnot getting paid what I'm worth
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and being super stressed out allthe time.
Am I proud of myself for what Idid on the day of the car
accident?
Yes, am I proud of myself forgetting through all of those
challenges that then came?
It was almost like a rippleeffect.
It was like being stuck in thewater at the beach and you're
trying to swim out and anotherwave just comes and crashes
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right on top of you.
And then you get a little bitcloser to the shore, you're
almost out and just as you takeanother step, here comes a big
wave, the undertow, sucks youback in and then crashes right
on your head, and that isliterally what my life felt like
for about three years after theday of that car accident.
It was really, really tough,but I am so proud of myself for
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being able to knuckle through itand to work my way out of
having to always be in survivalmode work my way out of having
to always be in survival mode.
Now I know better.
Now, if I see this chaoticsituation, instead of running
towards it, I'm going to stopand slow down and start asking
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myself some questions Like doesthis need to be taken care of?
Right, this?
Second Am I making a decisionfrom a sound place or am I being
emotional?
You know, for example, I'm onthis extreme diet for a couple
more days.
I've been doing it for aboutfive weeks almost six now, for a
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very specific reason, and I'malmost at the finish line and I
got to tell you.
I have caught myself a few timesthinking things or wanting to
say something to a coworker or aclient or an acquaintance and
I'll just say you know what?
No, I'm not thinking clearlyright now.
I am very hungry, I'm crankyand I'm tired.
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Doesn't need to be addressedright now.
And I'm tired Doesn't need tobe addressed right now.
So I hope you enjoyed thislittle story of mine.
It is a moment, a snip in mylife where I'm very proud of the
girl that handled her businessand I'm also wishful that I
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won't ever have to be in thatplace again, because I'll have a
better support system and Ifeel more equipped to take care
of myself first before takingcare of all of these other
things.
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