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December 7, 2025 28 mins

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What is at the root of limerence, aka romantic obsession, aka love addiction?

Ladies & Gentlemen, it is NOT just loneliness or a quirky crush.

Therefore, today I’m taking you on a deep dive through the 10 layers beneath the surface down to the dark root of limerence.


► Links and Resources:

Self-Soothing Through Fantasies: https://youtu.be/ozIbtcDmNVA?si=yN_lWce2OJ57hmka

Anxious Attachment Style Episode: https://youtu.be/rXscvYntSpY?si=PZijKMhWOOJiL2Tf

Love Addiction Article:

https://greymattersjournal.org/love-addiction/

Basic Needs:

https://blanchethouse.org/5-levels-of-human-needs/


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

00:30 Level 1: The Obsessive Crush

04:26 Level 2: Mixed Dating Signals

06:54 Level 3: Dopamine Addiction & OCD

08:46 Level 4: Unmet Emotional Needs

11:41 Level 5: Projection: The Idealized Fantasy

16:49 Level 6: Fear Of Rejection/Intimacy

19:43 Level 7: Attachment Wounds

21:28 Level 8: Childhood Trauma/Neglect

23:19 Level 9: Low Self-Worth/Shame

25:07 Level 10: Nervous System Dysregulation


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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)


► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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