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December 21, 2025 27 mins

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There is a way to crush you pink glasses for someone now.

But let me warn you up front: This way is not good advice, neither will it end your romantic obsession problems long term.

Still, it works if you want to stop intrusive thought about someone instantly.

The solution is: Get more options!

Get another or even better - more surfaces for your projections of your fantasies aka limerent objects


► Links and Resources:

Limerence While in a Relationship:

https://youtu.be/UOZLmQkBFMM

ChatGPT as Therapist Video:

https://youtu.be/JRo6PgSiB3w?si=jX8TGEKH1q0LSFE_

Detachment & Letting Go Video: https://youtu.be/WUJu3dVIUZ0?si=WhQ51parSClkzTSD


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► Episode Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

02:18 Way 5: Truly Want (Decide) To Move On

07:50 Way 4: Use AI-Tools As A Neutral Mirror

13:58 Way 3: Accept What It Means To Be Over Your L.O.

16:11: Way 2: Understand What Your Inner Child Truly Needs (And Never Got)

19:30 Way 1: Be Prepared To Sit On A 3-Legged Chair (Get A Life)

20:56 Pillars Of Stability/Leg 1: Health

22:02 Leg 2: Wealth/Work

22:42 Leg 3: Social Life

24:00 Leg 4: Options

25:13 Leg 5: Self-Worth


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► Hi, my name is Robert! I create videos about childhood trauma & attachment theory.

My content aims to help you transform trauma-driven reactions that block you, so you can embrace a life full of happiness, safe & loving relationships, and self-confidence. :)


► Disclaimer: None of the contents are therapeutic or medical recommendations. The contents are not to be understood as therapeutic-medical instructions and are neither intended as professional health advice nor as education.

I am not a health professional myself. My content is based on research and my personal experiences working with various therapists as a client for three years.

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