Lost Voices and the Magic of Attunement | UnMuted Love Ep.59

In most cases, your child from difficult beginnings voice was silenced long before you ever met them. Their early cries for food, safety, and comfort went unanswered, wiring their nervous system to believe they were unwanted, unloved, and unimportant. Now, those silenced beginnings echo in your home—through endless chatter, meltdowns, shutdowns, or explosive behaviors—and through your own frustration, yelling, or even despair.

But there is hope. In this episode, Ce pulls back the curtain on how trauma shapes a child’s “voice,” how it collides with your nervous system, and why the key to healing isn’t lectures or consequences, but repetitive, everyday attunement. With wit, compassion, and practical stories from the trenches, Ce shows you how to stop taking it all so personally and start creating micro-moments of healing connection.Your child may have lost their voice before you ever came into their life, but in your care, that voice can be reborn. Healing takes time, repetition, and your steady presence—not perfection. Love matters.

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From Ce Eshelman:

Are you searching for a community of parents who will get you; who offer an attentive ear and open arms in the worst of times; who give you a standing ovation for the monumentally big "small steps" forward you make with your child? It is so painful to walk the jagged trail of this parenting journey alone and no one is ever alone in the Love Matters Parenting Society Therapeutic Parent Program. You will feel seen, understood, and actually deeply cared for. We know it as "love." The Society is a virtual program for parents of children who experienced trauma and others who support them or work with them professionally. You don't have to wait a minute longer. We are right here waiting for YOU!

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