What if conflict wasn’t something to fear—but something to work with? In this episode, I’m joined by David Cooley, conflict resolution specialist and creator of the Restorative Relationship Conversation (RRC) model. Together, we explore how attachment styles, nervous system responses, and relational patterns shape the way we move through rupture and repair.
David shares his personal journey from working in restorative justice to developing a powerful framework for couples navigating relational pain. We unpack why conflict often feels life-threatening, how childhood wounds resurface in adult intimacy, and what it takes to transform those moments into meaningful growth.
Episode Highlights:
- Why conflict triggers a fight-or-flight response in close relationships
- How attachment styles replay childhood patterns in adult intimacy
- The link between nervous system dysregulation and emotional shutdown
- How consent and structure create safety during hard conversations
- A step-by-step overview of the RRC model
- The role of mindfulness and somatic awareness in repairing connection
- Why conflict is a profound opportunity for intimacy and growth
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🌐 Website: www.restorativerelationship.com
📩 Email: david@restorativerelationship.com
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