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Still searching for a checklist to prove you’re “doing it right”?
In this episode, Sue Patterson breaks down why unschooling doesn’t come with boxes to check — and why that’s both scary and freeing.
Join a coaching-call-inspired conversation about the brain’s habit of seeking structure, why we feel compelled to “perform” as parents, and how we can shift from tracking tasks to checking connection. If you’re a parent moving away from school-style validation toward real life learning, this episode will help you reframe success, reconnect with your child, and trust your own rhythm.
Keywords: unschooling, deschooling, homeschooling, checklist mentality, parenting without curriculum, connection over structure, unschooling parents, free-range learning, trusting your rhythm
You’ll learn:
- Why our obsession with checklists comes from a school-brain still wired for “right answers”
- How unschooling challenges that structure — and what to do instead
- A simple daily question to replace “Did I finish the list?” with “Did we connect today?”
- Why “progress” looks different in unschooling — and how to see what’s real
Resources mentioned:
- 365 Days of Deschooling
- Seasonal Unschooling Guides
- Strewing Calendar
- Creating Confidence Unschooling Membership (community & coaching)
Tune in to reset your checklist culture and rediscover freedom, curiosity, and trust in learning together.
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Read the transcript here at the Unschooling Mom2Mom Blog.
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