Ep. 29 Trustworthiness vs. Trust: Crafting Unbreakable Bonds in Love

In the realm of relationships, trust and trustworthiness lay the foundation upon which intimacy and connection are built. Episode 29 of "Untangling Relationships," hosted by Janae and Penney, delves into these critical elements, providing listeners with a deep understanding of their meanings and implications within romantic and other relationships.
Exploring Trust and Trustworthiness
Trust, as discussed by our hosts, is the belief in your partner's commitment and their unwavering support. It's about feeling secure that your partner is "all in," dedicated to the relationship without doubts or hesitations. Trustworthiness, on the other hand, extends beyond trust, embodying the willingness to prioritize the relationship's needs over one's own. This distinction lays the groundwork for a deeper exploration of how these concepts manifest in relationships, especially romantic ones.
Grounding their conversation in the research and insights from John Gottman and Dan Silver's book, "What Makes Love Last: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal," Janae and Penney navigate through the complexities of trust and trustworthiness. They bring to light how even in new relationships, where trust may be high, trustworthiness needs time and actions to flourish fully.

Week 1: Theme of thought: remembering why you chose them:  

• Each day write down one reason why you fell in love with your partner.  

Week 2: Theme of Thought: How am I focusing on changing/Keeping the I a WE:  

• Spend the week focused on the We’s instead of the I’s. Write down daily the things you have in common, beliefs and values you both share, and mutual goals you support each other around.  

Week 3: Theme of Thought: Remembering the magic of the love story. 

• Spend the week writing down daily the beautiful moments in your love story then and now.  

Week 4: Theme of Thought: Loving the culture of our relationship 

• Write down daily what are the things in our relationship that I am proud of and enjoy? 

Week 5:  Theme of Thought: What makes this person the perfect partner for my journey. 

• Spend every day writing down one reason why your partner is one you chose and continue to choose to be your partner in life.  

Week 6: Theme of Thought: Looking for things to appreciate. 

• Write a love letter each day to your partner and you can choose to share them or not. 

Week 7: Theme of Thought: Continuing to build connections and prioritize the relationship. 

•  Make a plan to go on a romantic activity together in.. One week, One month, 3 months, 6 months , and 1 year.

Good luck and remember we are all in this together and making the best of every day we have in our relationship.  

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