December 17, 2024 • 39 mins
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What if one word could completely change the way you move through your year?
I’m back on the podcast—refreshed, recharged, and ready to share the magic and lessons from a year of growth, unexpected adventures, and moments I’ll never forget (like a spine-tingling nighttime swim with manta rays in Hawaii).
But this isn’t just a catch-up session. It’s an invitation. I’m sharing how hitting pause, getting intentional, and reflecting on the year you've had can set the tone for a 2025 that feels clear, purposeful, and full of possibility.
I’ll also be sharing how a single word—like space—helped me find rest, clarity, and room to grow this past year in ways I didn’t even know I needed.
So whether you’re dreaming up big, beautiful goals or just need a little reset, this episode is here to remind you: a little intention goes a long way. Let’s make 2025 the year you show up, breathe deep, and embrace what’s next—together.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Hi and welcome to Untethered with Jen Liss, the
podcast that's here to help youbreak free, be you and unleash
your inner brilliance.
I'm your host, jen, and in thisepisode, we are going to take
reflection into action and sharewhat you can do to prepare for
an awesome 2025.
Let's dive in.
Hey there, unicorn, it's Jen.
(00:33):
Welcome back to the podcast.
Yes, we are back in action.
For anybody who's a longtimelistener, maybe this is the
first episode of this podcastyou've ever listened to, gone
for a hot minute, and I did apoll recently on Instagram
saying the podcast is comingback.
What are you excited to hearabout?
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And the number one answer waswhere the hell you been, my bro,
where you been, and I'll tellyou in this episode where I've
been.
I've been all over the placeand it's been a really both fun
and magical and incredibleadventurous year and, at the
same time, one of the mostdifficult years of my life
emotionally in many ways, andI've had a lot of personal
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growth and expansion and I'vealso had some personal
challenges, and so both of thosethings toggling with that has
led to a ton of growth for me,and one of those growth moments
was allowing myself to pause andwe're going to talk about a
little bit about that and how myword of the year influenced
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that in this episode, but firstI need to tell you about
something really cool that'shappening on January 8th 2025.
Yes, we are stepping into 2025,my friend, can you even believe
that?
January 8th 2025, 5 o'clock pm,pacific time.
I know where you're going to bebecause you're going to be with
me at the Word of the Yearparty.
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This is my annual party.
It's so much fun.
I'm going to show you whychoosing a single word to guide
you through the year is yourvery best New Year's party trick
.
You're going to love it.
We have a ton of fun.
It's one of those events Istarted doing years ago.
I do it every year and peoplekeep coming back year after year
after year.
I always add something excitingand new to my methodology that
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I've been doing myselfpersonally for more than a
decade to create a word of theyear that has guided me through
so much growth.
Y'all for the past.
I think this is my 12th yearchoosing a word of the year.
I don't even know how I foundout about choosing a word of the
year.
Maybe you've chosen one before.
Maybe this is your first timeever hearing about that as a
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thing, but it's something that Ido and I firmly, firmly, firmly
believe in, and I think youshould do it too, and I think
you'll enjoy coming along theroad of learning why words
matter and how you can createyour word of the year.
So we're going to be doing thattogether.
Live on Zoom.
It'll be a 90-minute session.
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We'll do some breath work,we'll do meditation, we'll do
journaling.
We're going to have some fun.
I'm going to do some giveaways,and you're going to want to win
one of these giveaways.
So come and join us.
You can go to jenlisscom slash2025, jenlisscom slash 2025, and
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come get in on this.
It's totally free, free, freefor all.
If you want to invite friends,please invite friends.
Just make sure to send themthat link genlistcom slash 2025
so that they can sign up, andthen they'll get all of the
reminders.
If they don't sign up, thenthey won't get the reminder.
So make sure that they go anddo that, and then anybody can
come, for free Again.
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It's so much fun and I lookforward to seeing you there.
Please join me, and I'm about totell you why choosing a word of
the year can be so effingpowerful and why I think it's
something that every singlehuman should do, so without
further ado.
Actually, first I have somethings that I need to share,
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because I asked some otherquestions on Instagram to some
of you, and I'm excited toanswer your beautiful questions.
I said here at the end of 2024,what are the questions that are
on your heart and mind?
And I was curious if you hadsome of the same questions that
I have on my heart and mind, butinstead you had even better
questions, and so I'm just goingto answer some of those
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questions.
The first question that somebodyasked was where did all the
time go?
And I have no answer for you onthat question.
It's a vortex, I don't know,but what I do know is that the
more present we can be in everymoment, whatever the moment, and
to enjoy the deliciousness ofthat moment, it's the best
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moment, and I find time and timeagain that the more I can enjoy
and just love this moment, thelonger time gets, the more
expansive it feels like time is,and time is relative right.
So if we can be fully presentin it and not focused into the
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future, it changes absolutelyeverything, and I know that was
just a silly question thatsomebody asked, and I had a very
real answer for you, because,truly, it does seem, and maybe
it actually does.
I'm not a physicist, and I thinkwe barely have scratched the
surface on actuallyunderstanding what the hell time
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matter, but that is one of thethings that I have found and
that I, personally, have reallystruggled with, because I like
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to live in the future, I like toanticipate.
It's an enjoyable experience,anticipation, in fact.
They say that we enjoyanticipating more than we
actually enjoy the moment, likethe thing when it gets here, and
a lot of that, though, isbecause, as soon as the thing
gets here, we're not fullypresent with it.
We pop to the next thing, andthen the next thing, and then
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the next thing.
We're like this insatiablemonster who's always looking for
the most amazing moment in thefuture when it's actually right
now.
Imagine that it's actuallyright now.
So we're going to move into myword of the year as I'm
answering this question, which,last year, the word that I chose
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.
Well, the word that chose mewas space, was space, space, the
final frontier.
I didn't really want that word,but that word shows me.
It showed up, and it was likespace.
You're going to get to see whatclearing space creates for you.
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You're going to get to feelspaciousness.
Nothing made my skin crawl morethan just sitting in
spaciousness.
I started taking yin yoga thisyear.
Has anybody taken yin yoga?
It eventually becomes kind ofenjoyable, but it causes it
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forces you to sit in stillnessand also discomfort at the same
time, because you get in thisreally weird position, sometimes
like a frog position or someother yogic position, and
there's a stretch of the muscleand then your job is to simply
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sit with it and to occasionallyask your muscles and your body
to relax into it, into thediscomfort.
And it's such a visceralexperience of what space created
for me Relax into thediscomfort, relax, create more
space, and it's definitelybrought about some things, and
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we're going to get to that inour reflections.
But I'll continue with ourquestions.
Somebody else asked what was myfavorite adventure this year,
and I've done a lot of travelingthis year.
I've been going lots ofdifferent places for my job,
many trips to LA, and one of themost amazing experiences and
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adventures was my husband and Iwent to Hawaii and we went to
see these manta rays at nightand I didn't really know what to
expect when seeing manta raysat night.
But we got in the ocean, in themiddle of the ocean in Hawaii,
where the waves are wild in themiddle of the night Well, it
wasn't the middle of the nightin Hawaii, where the waves are
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wild in the middle of the nightWell, it wasn't the middle of
the night, but it was dark.
It was like 7 pm, so it's darkby that time.
And we get in the water andthey have us put a snorkel on
and they say okay, now you're inthe water floating on a pool
noodle with our arms, likeholding onto a surfboard, so
we're like flat on top of thewater.
And then they say, look down.
And we look down into the waterand there are 1000 pound manta
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rays in the water rightunderneath us, just doing barrel
rolls right underneath us, andso they have this light that is
glowing on these manta rays andthe manta rays are just eating
all this plankton that'sattracted by the light.
It was.
I can't even tell you.
Please go to the big island,please go do this experience.
It was terrifying and alsoamazing, so that was my greatest
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adventure this year.
Somebody also asked what are mybiggest dreams and expansions
for 2025?
And I say TBD on that one.
I am somebody who really slowsdown at the end of the year and
I take stock and I reflect and Ilet myself not know everything
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that I feel like I need to knowat the beginning of the year.
I let it extend and I encourageyou to do this too, and it's
part of why I used to schedulemy word of the year party later.
It was actually not even at thebeginning of the year, but I
found that that's when peoplereally want to be thinking about
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this.
At the same time, I encourageyou, speaking of space, I
encourage you to let your dreamsfor next year come to fruition
as they are intended to, whichmeans you don't need to know
exactly what your intentions areand exactly what you're going
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to accomplish in 2025 by January1.
Please do not put that pressureon yourself.
I have in the past and I havelearned, but that doesn't work
very well.
It just creates shame, itcreates guilt, it creates a
feeling of pressure andoverwhelm and all kinds of
things that are not going toserve you in 2025.
Starting your year in thatenergy of feeling like I have to
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.
I need to figure it out.
What do I want?
And sitting in that level ofstress is not supportive to your
dreams.
Your dreams don't love that.
Creativity loves none of that.
That does not put your nervoussystem into a place of receiving
, into a place of creativity,which is in a place of love.
So I encourage you to give somespaciousness to what those
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dreams are going to be for 2025.
The final question that somebodyasked me was who are the five
people you surround yourselfthat supported your 2024 dreams?
And this is such a coolquestion, such a cool, freaking
question, and I encourage you inthis reflection that we do
today, thinking back on thisyear, so that we can plan in the
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most beautiful, most natural,most spacious way.
We can plan our way into 2025.
We can prepare and set courseand set some aligned action for
ourselves for next year, withoutknowing exactly all the things
that we need to have figured out.
But one of the beautiful thingswe can do is to reflect.
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So I encourage you, if you'relistening and able to grab a pen
and paper, or if you've got thenotes app on your phone, or if
you just want to use your littlebrainy brain, you can take some
notes along the way, as we dosome reflective questions.
So I'm going to pose thisquestion that somebody asked of
me in my DMs who are the fivepeople who you surround yourself
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that supported your dreams thisyear?
Who are the people who?
If you want to pause thisepisode and think about who
those five people might be, Iencourage you to do that and I
will share with you the fivepeople in my life, who some have
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encouraged me for my entirelife or most of my entire life.
Others are brand new.
The first one that I would loveto share about is my friend,
katie.
She has inspired me since I wasa small child.
She continues to be the personwho I reach out to when I'm
excited about something and Iwant to share about something,
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because she will always give methe most thoughtful, optimistic,
inspiring, excited response.
If I'm excited, she's going tobe excited for me, and what
greater gift than to havesomebody like that in your life?
She's just such a magical humanbeing.
So shout out to Katie.
I just love her so much andappreciate she has definitely
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been a supporter of mine in 2024.
The next person is my husband,joey.
That's probably to be expected,and at the same time, he has
himself been dealing with a lotof things this year and that's
been a lot of just kind of ouremotional stuff.
It's put strain on ourselves,it's put strain on our
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relationship.
He's just dealing with a lot ofthings and moving with a lot of
things in terms of his purposeand his own growth and his own
healing, and it's inspiring tosee anybody who is willing to
make change in themselves and iswilling to look at the really
hard things.
And even though it hassometimes been very challenging
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for us and it always is in arelationship when both people
are experiencing their ownlevels of growth, I'm still just
continuously inspired by himand always have been.
He's been through a lot of verychallenging things in his life
and always continues to be theperson who shows up with a
positive outlook for everybodyelse and I just appreciate that
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in him and it supported me, heholds a lot of space for me and
my everybody else and I justappreciate that in him and it
supported me, he holds a lot ofspace for me and my personal
growth and it's just it's reallyhelped me to expand my own
dreams.
So the next person, the nextperson is not a person.
It's my dog, alfred, who showedup for us on December 26th of
last year.
We were not looking for a dog.
This dog just busted into ourlives.
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And talk about expansion.
Alfred and I, we had a realstruggle in the beginning.
I'll just be honest, me andthis dog.
I cried on so many walks.
He was so naughty, I felt likeI could not get more than five
steps because he pulled so muchand he wanted to go after other
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dogs and he wouldn't listen andhe ate socks and then we had to
have surgery to have the sockremoved out of his belly.
And, oh, my goodness, y'all,this dog.
And even as that was happening,I knew I was like, how can I
create space within my body,within my experience, for this
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dog and for myself?
And oh, thank goodness, I knowwhy the word space came to me,
because I'm not sure if Alfredand I would have made it.
And when we ask who supportedmy 2024 dreams and expansion,
who supported my 2024 dreams andexpansion?
Definitely, definitely Alfred,even in the hardest possible way
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.
The next person is a mentor ofmine who I came onto her team to
work pretty much full-time thisyear, which is part of the
reason for my pause in thepodcast.
Kathy Heller.
She's an amazing human being.
She just has a brand new bookthat just came out, abundant
Ever After.
Please get yourself that book.
If you don't have the funds tobuy yourself that book, send me
an email to hello at genlisscom.
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I'll buy it for you Everybodyin my life.
I hope you will seriously takethe time to either read or
listen to this book on audiobook.
It will change your life.
The way that she looks at theworld is so transformative, and
if more people looked at theworld the way she looks at the
world and the way she has helpedme to start to see the world,
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we would live in a completelydifferent place.
And so she has literallysupported my dreams in so many
ways.
I highly recommend checking outKathy's book and the fifth.
I like to break rules.
I've got a dog on this list,and this is not one person.
It's a community of people whoare growing.
That is what has I surroundmyself with, that I've been
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surrounding myself with that forunintentionally, intuitively,
my entire life.
I found Katie as a friend whenI was seven years old and she's
been supporting my growth.
She's been my community andhaving an intentional community
of people who are all fullycommitted to what it is that you
are committed to, whetherthat's your spiritual growth,
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your mindset growth, your careergrowth, your health and
wellbeing.
All of those things, by the way, are pretty much one in the
same.
It's your wholeness that you'retalking about here.
Just immerse yourself in agroup of other human beings who
are committed to the same thingthat you are committed to.
And even though I'm mostly inthe space, I'm not in any big
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coaching communities for myselfright now because, again, space
this year I created space formyself.
I am coaching actively in thosecommunities and just being
around people like that is justactual food for my soul.
I feel like that manta raywho's doing barrel rolls every
time I go into a coaching calland get to either lead, breath
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work or get to do some coachingor get to share or facilitating
whatever that is being in thatgroup of people is so damn
inspiring for me.
So if you're a coach, if you'rea teacher, if you're a leader
of some sort, pay attention tothe people who you are leading
and how that is supporting youand helping you to feel, because
it's helping you to grow inways you probably and maybe you
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do frequently reflect on that,but most of us don't pause to
reflect and even I was surprisedwhen I was going through my
list of five people.
I was like it's actually thiscommunity of amazing people who
is around me, who.
There's so many souls in thatgroup and I could name a million
of them and it's really thecollective that is so supportive
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.
So thank you for that gorgeousquestion and really think about
what is it that I learned thisyear?
Because I mentioned Katiealready.
As my friend Katie says, thelearning she's a teacher the
learning really comes inreflection.
That's where we actually learn.
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We can take in all kinds ofinformation.
We can soak it up, and so manyof us.
If you're listening to thispodcast, you're probably into
self-development.
You probably love watchinginspiring videos, learning new
things, taking in new tips andtools and learning methodologies
.
You're into it, you love it.
You love learning about thebrain.
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You like learning about thebody, the nervous system, all of
these things.
And it's actually in reflectingon the thing that you hold in
to your system, the new energythat you've received, and really
reflecting on how that is beingembodied in your system.
How is that combining withother thoughts that you already
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had.
That's where we really, reallylearn.
So let's take some time in thisepisode to really pause and
notice.
What did I learn this year?
There were a bunch of people whohad joined my word of the year
party at the beginning of thisyear and you chose a word.
Now, maybe you stayed with thatword, maybe that word
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influenced a lot, maybe youforgot that word and you never
came back to it.
That's okay.
I actually have done that inthe past too.
When I very first started doingwords of the year, I'm like
this is my word.
And then by March I was likewhat was my word?
And then I chose another wordand that might have been you, or
maybe you just totally forgotabout it.
That's okay.
So if you do have a word andyou know what that word was,
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then we're going to reflectusing that word.
If you're like I don't knowwhat would my word have even
been?
What we're going to do is take anice big deep breath into your
nose and out through your mouth,take another big deep breath in
, follow that breath all the waydown to your stomach, feel the
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expansion of your stomach andexhale that breath.
One last breath and this one'sgoing to land right in your
heart space, in the chest, andthen exhale that breath, letting
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it go.
Breath letting it go and justfeeling into your experience of
this year.
What is one word or a phrasethat feels like it might sum up
or encompass the experience thatyou had this year?
You can think of something thatyou gained.
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You can think of something thatyou gained, experiences that
you loved, things you felt.
We don't have to try to thinkabout this, but just allow
something to bubble up, andmaybe it's not actually a word,
maybe you just get a feeling ora sensation that you can put a
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word to.
You can pause this episode ifyou need to spend a little bit
more time just allowingsomething to come to the surface
, a word or a phrase, takinganother nice big, deep breath in
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and letting that breath go.
We're going to do a little bitof reflection on this word
itself.
I'm going to guide you throughsome questions that you can
think about your responses to,or you can take the time to
journal on these responses, andwhat I'm going to do is I'm
going to share my word and I'lluse my word, but you can replace
my word with your word.
So the overarching questionthat we're I gain in 2024?
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What did I gain?
What am I pulling from thisyear that can influence
everything that I do movingforward, and this will work for
you, whether this word feelsnecessarily positive or whether
this word feels negative.
Whatever this word or thisphrase is, you're going to gain
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things from this.
We don't have to overthinkwhether this is the right word
or phrase if you just came upwith it.
This came to you for somereason.
This feeling, this word came toyou for some reason.
There's something for you tolearn from it.
We can do this with many words,but we're going to just choose
this one.
So here's your question Thingsblank helped me to see Things.
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Space helped me to see Things.
Abundance helped me to seeThings.
Feeling hurried helped me tosee.
Make a list, put one, two,three, four, five and respond to
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this prompt.
What are some things that thisword helped me to see?
And some of the things that Iwill share that I had come up,
so I said things that spacehelped me to see.
I saw where I didn't or don'tleave space for myself or others
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and for things that I love todo Another thing that space
helped me to see is where Idon't rest.
Another thing that space helpedme to see is that I can create
my own space, and the fifth ofmy own five y'all are counting
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with me, because I've got a longlist.
If you have more than five,that's great me, because I've
got a long list, if you havemore than five, that's great.
Thing space helped me to see isthe progress I've made toward
letting go of things, which is,in turn, spaciousness that I can
feel.
So for you, this will be adifferent word, but maybe
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hearing my answers can help youto jog some things that come up
for you.
So the first question thingsthat this word helped you to see
.
Things, this word or phrase, orfeeling.
So things, space helped me tofeel One, two, three, four five.
One, two, three, four, five.
What are some things nojudgment here that this helped
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you to feel.
So for me, some things thatspace helped me to feel is a
sense of overwhelm, a sense ofdiscomfort, a sense of freedom,
inspiration and openness.
So for me, there was a mix ofsome things that felt really
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vibrant, and there was also oh,my sitting in spaciousness makes
me feel very uncomfortable.
So for you, this word.
What are some of the feelingsthat that helped you to
experience?
And this might be different.
We often don't spend a lot oftime in our feelings.
We avoid the heck out of them.
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So take a few deep breaths,pause this episode, take a few
deep breaths and let this comethrough for you.
What are some of the thingsthat love helps you to feel?
What are some of the thingsthat feeling behind helps you to
feel?
What are some of the thingsthat being challenged help you
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to feel?
Write those down.
Being challenged help you tofeel.
Write those down.
And now our third questionbecause I saw these things and I
felt these things.
Thanks to space, thanks to thisword or phrase, what did I gain?
What did you gain from this?
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Because you felt them, becauseyou see them, what did I gain?
Pause this Number one throughfive.
What are five things that yougained?
We're not overthinking.
Just let this come through foryou and I'll share mine Things
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that I gained from feeling andseeing spaciousness in my life.
I gained a new place to live.
Joey and I decided that wewould let ourselves have more
space, and so we moved into amuch bigger, very physical space
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, and because of that.
We have a deck and I've neverhad a deck where I could sit
outside.
We also have a fireplace.
I'm learning the joys of justsitting by a cozy fireplace.
I've never had a fireplace.
Growing up, we had a fireplacethat was never usable, and I
freaking love having a fireplace.
I love having a deck.
It's brought me so much joy joythat I did not know that I
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could possibly experience insimply the place that I am
living, and space created thatfor me, because I said you know
what Space is my word and I getto have more space.
Even if it's impractical for usto have a four-bedroom house
with no children and just onedog, I am going to let ourselves
move into more space.
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Another thing that I gained wassome really cool opportunities
and manifestations.
One of them was getting toemcee on stage.
Another is getting to travelfor my job, both of those which
I'm always asking the universefor more and more of that,
because I love it, and I'm goingto share a little bit more at
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the word of the year party aboutthe emceeing and coolest
opportunities, and I'm sure I'llspeak with you all about that
right now, but we're going toput a pin in that one for
another day.
Another thing that space helpedme to gain, which is not one
that I would have specificallyasked for, but thank you,
universe, for delivering me whatI need room for extremely hard
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conversations Space.
I gained that.
Thank you space.
Another thing that space that Igained was putting things down
so I can focus on what matters.
Putting things down so that Ican take Alfred on a two-hour
walk where we get less than halfa mile because he's being so
naughty.
I created space for that.
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I created space for this newrole that I did not expect to
drop into my life and my hearttold me that it's exactly where
I was meant to be.
I created space for mini talkswith Joey regarding our
relationship and where we'regoing and where we're growing
All things that I had notplanned.
Space opened up lots of roomfor me to focus on.
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That Space opened up a learningabout trust that the space that
I'm in is exactly where I'mmeant to be, and a new level of
trust that this is always theperfect moment, which is what I
started with today Was that fiveY'all can count me.
Maybe I counted wrong.
I've got a lot more on thislist, so I hope this is helpful
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for you.
What we did is we looked at.
What are the things that I saw,what are the things that I felt
?
And from those things that Isaw and I felt, what did I gain?
These are new tools in yourtoolbox and, as silly as some of
them might look on the list,it's like oh my gosh.
Taking my dog for walks andgaining taking the time for him
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helped me to gain this new levelof patience, and I got to
experience really intensefeelings of frustration, and to
create space for those feelingsof frustration is serving me in
many things that have happenedthroughout the year.
I'm so frustrated and I knowthat I can work through this
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because I did it before and if Ihadn't created the space for
this new dog to come into ourlife by the way, you guys I said
I would never have a rescue dog, which is, it's just I didn't
think that I could handle it.
We buy new cars, we have newpets.
I get something that is likeunmarred because I can't handle
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whatever scars were alreadythere.
That was always my thoughtprocess.
As terrible as that might seemto some people, I will fully own
that was like it's time.
It's time for you to accept amarred dog into your life, this
poor dog, now to see theprogress that we.
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I experienced it myself, butnow I can hold so much more
space for somebody who might begoing through that same thing.
So for every level that we holdfor ourselves, we can go deeper
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and deeper for other people,and I learned some very deep
lessons this year.
I feel like my level of trusthas deepened to a whole new
level, and so I encourage you toreflect on the experiences that
you've had and what you'vegained.
It's so easy for us to look atlike, oh, here's all the
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frustrating things that happenedthis year, and it takes another
level to really focus on thegood that came from that.
And I encourage you, at thesame time, to focus on what were
the brightest, shiniest momentsin your year.
What were those like tip top,really, really cool things that
happened, big manifestations,big moments of joy and happiness
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and love and like, oh my gosh,awe and wonder.
We all had some kind of momentof that.
It doesn't matter if you werejust looking at a sunrise and
you started crying If you'relike me.
I was on a walk a while back,just crying, looking at this
flower because it was sobeautiful, and that's a moment
that I actually remember like,oh my gosh, look at that flower.
And just letting myself bethere with that flower, what did
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you gain from that moment?
Because what I gained this isone of those memories that came
up for me this year what Igained from pausing and letting
myself cry over this flower wasthe spaciousness to be with the
joy of creation.
And how is that going toinfluence my life in some way?
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Some magical thing that I can'teven imagine.
And now I'm talking about ithere, and I encourage you to
pause and just really look atthe freaking beauty of the world
around you, because there'sjust so much for us to drink up,
and the more we drink up thatbeauty and the more we focus on
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the things that we learned fromnot just the hard moments and
also the joys and not, but, alsobut.
And also because there'ssomething to learn in every
experience, and you will takethat with you into the new year.
Those new experiences, those newlearnings, these things that
you've gained are like actualthings in your toolbox, because
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how are you going to show updifferently in the fight that
you have with your spouse,joey's going to laugh at this
because I still continue to showup as the same person in some
things in our relationship andI've grown in other things, I
hope he'll admit.
And how are you going to showup differently for your family?
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How are you going to show updifferently at work and in your
job when you have this newappreciation for a moment that
you experienced, when you havethis new appreciation for
something hard that you wentthrough, when you have a new
level of trust, when you have anew level of surrender, when you
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can see the beauty in thingsbecause you know that there's so
much beauty out there that ispossible.
If we just go through our daysand we just move into next year
thinking about, like, what aremy goals for next year, and we
haven't stopped to look at thosethings, you're missing out on
all the opportunities of all thethings that you can be bringing
forth into next year.
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So I highly encourage you.
I'm journaling resistance.
You guys.
I know how hard it can be tosimply pause and say I'm going
to actually sit with thesequestions that Jen just asked
and I'm actually going to do thethree breaths that she
encouraged me to do and actuallysit and journal it out, or
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actually just sit and close youreyes in your car in a parking
lot please, not while drivingand reflect on these things,
because there's just so muchbeauty for you to take.
And then you can come to theword of the year party on
January 8th and we're going totake that even deeper into next
year and we will set ourintentions.
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We will get that train movingand really get it moving forward
.
And you've probably got otherthings that you do yourself.
I would actually love to hearwhat are your practices that you
do at the end of the year?
What works for you at the endof the year?
What works for you at thebeginning of the year?
That's also such an importantthing to reflect on.
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Did having a word?
Was that supportive to you?
I personally think it's themost supportive thing that you
could possibly do.
Maybe it didn't work for you,and that's okay too.
What does work for you?
That's something definitely toreflect on and bring with you
into 2025.
Although I do hope that you'llcome to the party Again.
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If you want to come to thatparty, january 8th, 5 pm Pacific
time jenlistcom slash 2025.
Please join me there and I'llhave a couple more episodes that
are coming out between now andthen.
I look forward to wrapping somemore with you getting back into
the flow of regular episodes.
There's so many good episodesand I actually already had these
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episodes recorded and I've beenso excited for you to hear them
because they're so freakinggood.
Even Joey, as he's editing,he's like these are really good
episodes.
I'm like I know, and they'vejust been waiting for the
perfect moment.
They've been baking, they'vebeen taking up some space and
expanding so that when they getdelivered into your ear holes
it'll be at the right place andthe right time.
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So thank you for listening tothis episode.
I look forward to hearing yourreflections.
Send me, if you want to sendthe things that you love to do
at the end of the year, yourideas and thoughts.
Send them to hello atJenlisscom.
That's J-E-N-L-I-S-Scom.
Hello at Jenlisscom.
I would love to hear them.
Thank you so much for listeningto this episode.
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If you enjoyed it, I encourageyou to share it with a friend.
You can also share it onInstagram.
Tag me.
I'm UntetheredJen on Instagram.
I will always reshare your postif you share.
Thank you for listening again,and you just keep shining your
magical unicorn light out therefor all to see.
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Bye.
Hi and welcome to Untethered with Jen Liss, the
podcast that's here to help youbreak free, be you and unleash
your inner brilliance.
I'm your host, jen, and in thisepisode, we are going to take
reflection into action and sharewhat you can do to prepare for
an awesome 2025.
Let's dive in.
Hey there, unicorn, it's Jen.
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Welcome back to the podcast.
Yes, we are back in action.
For anybody who's a longtimelistener, maybe this is the
first episode of this podcastyou've ever listened to, gone
for a hot minute, and I did apoll recently on Instagram
saying the podcast is comingback.
What are you excited to hearabout?
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And the number one answer waswhere the hell you been, my bro,
where you been, and I'll tellyou in this episode where I've
been.
I've been all over the placeand it's been a really both fun
and magical and incredibleadventurous year and, at the
same time, one of the mostdifficult years of my life
emotionally in many ways, andI've had a lot of personal
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growth and expansion and I'vealso had some personal
challenges, and so both of thosethings toggling with that has
led to a ton of growth for me,and one of those growth moments
was allowing myself to pause andwe're going to talk about a
little bit about that and how myword of the year influenced
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that in this episode, but firstI need to tell you about
something really cool that'shappening on January 8th 2025.
Yes, we are stepping into 2025,my friend, can you even believe
that?
January 8th 2025, 5 o'clock pm,pacific time.
I know where you're going to bebecause you're going to be with
me at the Word of the Yearparty.
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This is my annual party.
It's so much fun.
I'm going to show you whychoosing a single word to guide
you through the year is yourvery best New Year's party trick
.
You're going to love it.
We have a ton of fun.
It's one of those events Istarted doing years ago.
I do it every year and peoplekeep coming back year after year
after year.
I always add something excitingand new to my methodology that
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I've been doing myselfpersonally for more than a
decade to create a word of theyear that has guided me through
so much growth.
Y'all for the past.
I think this is my 12th yearchoosing a word of the year.
I don't even know how I foundout about choosing a word of the
year.
Maybe you've chosen one before.
Maybe this is your first timeever hearing about that as a
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thing, but it's something that Ido and I firmly, firmly, firmly
believe in, and I think youshould do it too, and I think
you'll enjoy coming along theroad of learning why words
matter and how you can createyour word of the year.
So we're going to be doing thattogether.
Live on Zoom.
It'll be a 90-minute session.
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We'll do some breath work,we'll do meditation, we'll do
journaling.
We're going to have some fun.
I'm going to do some giveaways,and you're going to want to win
one of these giveaways.
So come and join us.
You can go to jenlisscom slash2025, jenlisscom slash 2025, and
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come get in on this.
It's totally free, free, freefor all.
If you want to invite friends,please invite friends.
Just make sure to send themthat link genlistcom slash 2025
so that they can sign up, andthen they'll get all of the
reminders.
If they don't sign up, thenthey won't get the reminder.
So make sure that they go anddo that, and then anybody can
come, for free Again.
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It's so much fun and I lookforward to seeing you there.
Please join me, and I'm about totell you why choosing a word of
the year can be so effingpowerful and why I think it's
something that every singlehuman should do, so without
further ado.
Actually, first I have somethings that I need to share,
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because I asked some otherquestions on Instagram to some
of you, and I'm excited toanswer your beautiful questions.
I said here at the end of 2024,what are the questions that are
on your heart and mind?
And I was curious if you hadsome of the same questions that
I have on my heart and mind, butinstead you had even better
questions, and so I'm just goingto answer some of those
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questions.
The first question that somebodyasked was where did all the
time go?
And I have no answer for you onthat question.
It's a vortex, I don't know,but what I do know is that the
more present we can be in everymoment, whatever the moment, and
to enjoy the deliciousness ofthat moment, it's the best
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moment, and I find time and timeagain that the more I can enjoy
and just love this moment, thelonger time gets, the more
expansive it feels like time is,and time is relative right.
So if we can be fully presentin it and not focused into the
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future, it changes absolutelyeverything, and I know that was
just a silly question thatsomebody asked, and I had a very
real answer for you, because,truly, it does seem, and maybe
it actually does.
I'm not a physicist, and I thinkwe barely have scratched the
surface on actuallyunderstanding what the hell time
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matter, but that is one of thethings that I have found and
that I, personally, have reallystruggled with, because I like
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to live in the future, I like toanticipate.
It's an enjoyable experience,anticipation, in fact.
They say that we enjoyanticipating more than we
actually enjoy the moment, likethe thing when it gets here, and
a lot of that, though, isbecause, as soon as the thing
gets here, we're not fullypresent with it.
We pop to the next thing, andthen the next thing, and then
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the next thing.
We're like this insatiablemonster who's always looking for
the most amazing moment in thefuture when it's actually right
now.
Imagine that it's actuallyright now.
So we're going to move into myword of the year as I'm
answering this question, which,last year, the word that I chose
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.
Well, the word that chose mewas space, was space, space, the
final frontier.
I didn't really want that word,but that word shows me.
It showed up, and it was likespace.
You're going to get to see whatclearing space creates for you.
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You're going to get to feelspaciousness.
Nothing made my skin crawl morethan just sitting in
spaciousness.
I started taking yin yoga thisyear.
Has anybody taken yin yoga?
It eventually becomes kind ofenjoyable, but it causes it
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forces you to sit in stillnessand also discomfort at the same
time, because you get in thisreally weird position, sometimes
like a frog position or someother yogic position, and
there's a stretch of the muscleand then your job is to simply
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sit with it and to occasionallyask your muscles and your body
to relax into it, into thediscomfort.
And it's such a visceralexperience of what space created
for me Relax into thediscomfort, relax, create more
space, and it's definitelybrought about some things, and
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we're going to get to that inour reflections.
But I'll continue with ourquestions.
Somebody else asked what was myfavorite adventure this year,
and I've done a lot of travelingthis year.
I've been going lots ofdifferent places for my job,
many trips to LA, and one of themost amazing experiences and
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adventures was my husband and Iwent to Hawaii and we went to
see these manta rays at nightand I didn't really know what to
expect when seeing manta raysat night.
But we got in the ocean, in themiddle of the ocean in Hawaii,
where the waves are wild in themiddle of the night Well, it
wasn't the middle of the nightin Hawaii, where the waves are
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wild in the middle of the nightWell, it wasn't the middle of
the night, but it was dark.
It was like 7 pm, so it's darkby that time.
And we get in the water andthey have us put a snorkel on
and they say okay, now you're inthe water floating on a pool
noodle with our arms, likeholding onto a surfboard, so
we're like flat on top of thewater.
And then they say, look down.
And we look down into the waterand there are 1000 pound manta
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rays in the water rightunderneath us, just doing barrel
rolls right underneath us, andso they have this light that is
glowing on these manta rays andthe manta rays are just eating
all this plankton that'sattracted by the light.
It was.
I can't even tell you.
Please go to the big island,please go do this experience.
It was terrifying and alsoamazing, so that was my greatest
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adventure this year.
Somebody also asked what are mybiggest dreams and expansions
for 2025?
And I say TBD on that one.
I am somebody who really slowsdown at the end of the year and
I take stock and I reflect and Ilet myself not know everything
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that I feel like I need to knowat the beginning of the year.
I let it extend and I encourageyou to do this too, and it's
part of why I used to schedulemy word of the year party later.
It was actually not even at thebeginning of the year, but I
found that that's when peoplereally want to be thinking about
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this.
At the same time, I encourageyou, speaking of space, I
encourage you to let your dreamsfor next year come to fruition
as they are intended to, whichmeans you don't need to know
exactly what your intentions areand exactly what you're going
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to accomplish in 2025 by January1.
Please do not put that pressureon yourself.
I have in the past and I havelearned, but that doesn't work
very well.
It just creates shame, itcreates guilt, it creates a
feeling of pressure andoverwhelm and all kinds of
things that are not going toserve you in 2025.
Starting your year in thatenergy of feeling like I have to
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.
I need to figure it out.
What do I want?
And sitting in that level ofstress is not supportive to your
dreams.
Your dreams don't love that.
Creativity loves none of that.
That does not put your nervoussystem into a place of receiving
, into a place of creativity,which is in a place of love.
So I encourage you to give somespaciousness to what those
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dreams are going to be for 2025.
The final question that somebodyasked me was who are the five
people you surround yourselfthat supported your 2024 dreams?
And this is such a coolquestion, such a cool, freaking
question, and I encourage you inthis reflection that we do
today, thinking back on thisyear, so that we can plan in the
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most beautiful, most natural,most spacious way.
We can plan our way into 2025.
We can prepare and set courseand set some aligned action for
ourselves for next year, withoutknowing exactly all the things
that we need to have figured out.
But one of the beautiful thingswe can do is to reflect.
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So I encourage you, if you'relistening and able to grab a pen
and paper, or if you've got thenotes app on your phone, or if
you just want to use your littlebrainy brain, you can take some
notes along the way, as we dosome reflective questions.
So I'm going to pose thisquestion that somebody asked of
me in my DMs who are the fivepeople who you surround yourself
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that supported your dreams thisyear?
Who are the people who?
If you want to pause thisepisode and think about who
those five people might be, Iencourage you to do that and I
will share with you the fivepeople in my life, who some have
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encouraged me for my entirelife or most of my entire life.
Others are brand new.
The first one that I would loveto share about is my friend,
katie.
She has inspired me since I wasa small child.
She continues to be the personwho I reach out to when I'm
excited about something and Iwant to share about something,
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because she will always give methe most thoughtful, optimistic,
inspiring, excited response.
If I'm excited, she's going tobe excited for me, and what
greater gift than to havesomebody like that in your life?
She's just such a magical humanbeing.
So shout out to Katie.
I just love her so much andappreciate she has definitely
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been a supporter of mine in 2024.
The next person is my husband,joey.
That's probably to be expected,and at the same time, he has
himself been dealing with a lotof things this year and that's
been a lot of just kind of ouremotional stuff.
It's put strain on ourselves,it's put strain on our
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relationship.
He's just dealing with a lot ofthings and moving with a lot of
things in terms of his purposeand his own growth and his own
healing, and it's inspiring tosee anybody who is willing to
make change in themselves and iswilling to look at the really
hard things.
And even though it hassometimes been very challenging
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for us and it always is in arelationship when both people
are experiencing their ownlevels of growth, I'm still just
continuously inspired by himand always have been.
He's been through a lot of verychallenging things in his life
and always continues to be theperson who shows up with a
positive outlook for everybodyelse and I just appreciate that
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in him and it supported me, heholds a lot of space for me and
my everybody else and I justappreciate that in him and it
supported me, he holds a lot ofspace for me and my personal
growth and it's just it's reallyhelped me to expand my own
dreams.
So the next person, the nextperson is not a person.
It's my dog, alfred, who showedup for us on December 26th of
last year.
We were not looking for a dog.
This dog just busted into ourlives.
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And talk about expansion.
Alfred and I, we had a realstruggle in the beginning.
I'll just be honest, me andthis dog.
I cried on so many walks.
He was so naughty, I felt likeI could not get more than five
steps because he pulled so muchand he wanted to go after other
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dogs and he wouldn't listen andhe ate socks and then we had to
have surgery to have the sockremoved out of his belly.
And, oh, my goodness, y'all,this dog.
And even as that was happening,I knew I was like, how can I
create space within my body,within my experience, for this
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dog and for myself?
And oh, thank goodness, I knowwhy the word space came to me,
because I'm not sure if Alfredand I would have made it.
And when we ask who supportedmy 2024 dreams and expansion,
who supported my 2024 dreams andexpansion?
Definitely, definitely Alfred,even in the hardest possible way
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.
The next person is a mentor ofmine who I came onto her team to
work pretty much full-time thisyear, which is part of the
reason for my pause in thepodcast.
Kathy Heller.
She's an amazing human being.
She just has a brand new bookthat just came out, abundant
Ever After.
Please get yourself that book.
If you don't have the funds tobuy yourself that book, send me
an email to hello at genlisscom.
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I'll buy it for you Everybodyin my life.
I hope you will seriously takethe time to either read or
listen to this book on audiobook.
It will change your life.
The way that she looks at theworld is so transformative, and
if more people looked at theworld the way she looks at the
world and the way she has helpedme to start to see the world,
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we would live in a completelydifferent place.
And so she has literallysupported my dreams in so many
ways.
I highly recommend checking outKathy's book and the fifth.
I like to break rules.
I've got a dog on this list,and this is not one person.
It's a community of people whoare growing.
That is what has I surroundmyself with, that I've been
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surrounding myself with that forunintentionally, intuitively,
my entire life.
I found Katie as a friend whenI was seven years old and she's
been supporting my growth.
She's been my community andhaving an intentional community
of people who are all fullycommitted to what it is that you
are committed to, whetherthat's your spiritual growth,
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your mindset growth, your careergrowth, your health and
wellbeing.
All of those things, by the way, are pretty much one in the
same.
It's your wholeness that you'retalking about here.
Just immerse yourself in agroup of other human beings who
are committed to the same thingthat you are committed to.
And even though I'm mostly inthe space, I'm not in any big
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coaching communities for myselfright now because, again, space
this year I created space formyself.
I am coaching actively in thosecommunities and just being
around people like that is justactual food for my soul.
I feel like that manta raywho's doing barrel rolls every
time I go into a coaching calland get to either lead, breath
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work or get to do some coachingor get to share or facilitating
whatever that is being in thatgroup of people is so damn
inspiring for me.
So if you're a coach, if you'rea teacher, if you're a leader
of some sort, pay attention tothe people who you are leading
and how that is supporting youand helping you to feel, because
it's helping you to grow inways you probably and maybe you
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do frequently reflect on that,but most of us don't pause to
reflect and even I was surprisedwhen I was going through my
list of five people.
I was like it's actually thiscommunity of amazing people who
is around me, who.
There's so many souls in thatgroup and I could name a million
of them and it's really thecollective that is so supportive
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.
So thank you for that gorgeousquestion and really think about
what is it that I learned thisyear?
Because I mentioned Katiealready.
As my friend Katie says, thelearning she's a teacher the
learning really comes inreflection.
That's where we actually learn.
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We can take in all kinds ofinformation.
We can soak it up, and so manyof us.
If you're listening to thispodcast, you're probably into
self-development.
You probably love watchinginspiring videos, learning new
things, taking in new tips andtools and learning methodologies
.
You're into it, you love it.
You love learning about thebrain.
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You like learning about thebody, the nervous system, all of
these things.
And it's actually in reflectingon the thing that you hold in
to your system, the new energythat you've received, and really
reflecting on how that is beingembodied in your system.
How is that combining withother thoughts that you already
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had.
That's where we really, reallylearn.
So let's take some time in thisepisode to really pause and
notice.
What did I learn this year?
There were a bunch of people whohad joined my word of the year
party at the beginning of thisyear and you chose a word.
Now, maybe you stayed with thatword, maybe that word
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influenced a lot, maybe youforgot that word and you never
came back to it.
That's okay.
I actually have done that inthe past too.
When I very first started doingwords of the year, I'm like
this is my word.
And then by March I was likewhat was my word?
And then I chose another wordand that might have been you, or
maybe you just totally forgotabout it.
That's okay.
So if you do have a word andyou know what that word was,
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then we're going to reflectusing that word.
If you're like I don't knowwhat would my word have even
been?
What we're going to do is take anice big deep breath into your
nose and out through your mouth,take another big deep breath in
, follow that breath all the waydown to your stomach, feel the
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expansion of your stomach andexhale that breath.
One last breath and this one'sgoing to land right in your
heart space, in the chest, andthen exhale that breath, letting
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it go.
Breath letting it go and justfeeling into your experience of
this year.
What is one word or a phrasethat feels like it might sum up
or encompass the experience thatyou had this year?
You can think of something thatyou gained.
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You can think of something thatyou gained, experiences that
you loved, things you felt.
We don't have to try to thinkabout this, but just allow
something to bubble up, andmaybe it's not actually a word,
maybe you just get a feeling ora sensation that you can put a
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word to.
You can pause this episode ifyou need to spend a little bit
more time just allowingsomething to come to the surface
, a word or a phrase, takinganother nice big, deep breath in
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and letting that breath go.
We're going to do a little bitof reflection on this word
itself.
I'm going to guide you throughsome questions that you can
think about your responses to,or you can take the time to
journal on these responses, andwhat I'm going to do is I'm
going to share my word and I'lluse my word, but you can replace
my word with your word.
So the overarching questionthat we're I gain in 2024?
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What did I gain?
What am I pulling from thisyear that can influence
everything that I do movingforward, and this will work for
you, whether this word feelsnecessarily positive or whether
this word feels negative.
Whatever this word or thisphrase is, you're going to gain
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things from this.
We don't have to overthinkwhether this is the right word
or phrase if you just came upwith it.
This came to you for somereason.
This feeling, this word came toyou for some reason.
There's something for you tolearn from it.
We can do this with many words,but we're going to just choose
this one.
So here's your question Thingsblank helped me to see Things.
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Space helped me to see Things.
Abundance helped me to seeThings.
Feeling hurried helped me tosee.
Make a list, put one, two,three, four, five and respond to
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this prompt.
What are some things that thisword helped me to see?
And some of the things that Iwill share that I had come up,
so I said things that spacehelped me to see.
I saw where I didn't or don'tleave space for myself or others
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and for things that I love todo Another thing that space
helped me to see is where Idon't rest.
Another thing that space helpedme to see is that I can create
my own space, and the fifth ofmy own five y'all are counting
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with me, because I've got a longlist.
If you have more than five,that's great me, because I've
got a long list, if you havemore than five, that's great.
Thing space helped me to see isthe progress I've made toward
letting go of things, which is,in turn, spaciousness that I can
feel.
So for you, this will be adifferent word, but maybe
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hearing my answers can help youto jog some things that come up
for you.
So the first question thingsthat this word helped you to see
.
Things, this word or phrase, orfeeling.
So things, space helped me tofeel One, two, three, four five.
One, two, three, four, five.
What are some things nojudgment here that this helped
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you to feel.
So for me, some things thatspace helped me to feel is a
sense of overwhelm, a sense ofdiscomfort, a sense of freedom,
inspiration and openness.
So for me, there was a mix ofsome things that felt really
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vibrant, and there was also oh,my sitting in spaciousness makes
me feel very uncomfortable.
So for you, this word.
What are some of the feelingsthat that helped you to
experience?
And this might be different.
We often don't spend a lot oftime in our feelings.
We avoid the heck out of them.
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So take a few deep breaths,pause this episode, take a few
deep breaths and let this comethrough for you.
What are some of the thingsthat love helps you to feel?
What are some of the thingsthat feeling behind helps you to
feel?
What are some of the thingsthat being challenged help you
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to feel?
Write those down.
Being challenged help you tofeel.
Write those down.
And now our third questionbecause I saw these things and I
felt these things.
Thanks to space, thanks to thisword or phrase, what did I gain?
What did you gain from this?
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Because you felt them, becauseyou see them, what did I gain?
Pause this Number one throughfive.
What are five things that yougained?
We're not overthinking.
Just let this come through foryou and I'll share mine Things
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that I gained from feeling andseeing spaciousness in my life.
I gained a new place to live.
Joey and I decided that wewould let ourselves have more
space, and so we moved into amuch bigger, very physical space
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, and because of that.
We have a deck and I've neverhad a deck where I could sit
outside.
We also have a fireplace.
I'm learning the joys of justsitting by a cozy fireplace.
I've never had a fireplace.
Growing up, we had a fireplacethat was never usable, and I
freaking love having a fireplace.
I love having a deck.
It's brought me so much joy joythat I did not know that I
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could possibly experience insimply the place that I am
living, and space created thatfor me, because I said you know
what Space is my word and I getto have more space.
Even if it's impractical for usto have a four-bedroom house
with no children and just onedog, I am going to let ourselves
move into more space.
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Another thing that I gained wassome really cool opportunities
and manifestations.
One of them was getting toemcee on stage.
Another is getting to travelfor my job, both of those which
I'm always asking the universefor more and more of that,
because I love it, and I'm goingto share a little bit more at
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the word of the year party aboutthe emceeing and coolest
opportunities, and I'm sure I'llspeak with you all about that
right now, but we're going toput a pin in that one for
another day.
Another thing that space helpedme to gain, which is not one
that I would have specificallyasked for, but thank you,
universe, for delivering me whatI need room for extremely hard
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conversations Space.
I gained that.
Thank you space.
Another thing that space that Igained was putting things down
so I can focus on what matters.
Putting things down so that Ican take Alfred on a two-hour
walk where we get less than halfa mile because he's being so
naughty.
I created space for that.
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I created space for this newrole that I did not expect to
drop into my life and my hearttold me that it's exactly where
I was meant to be.
I created space for mini talkswith Joey regarding our
relationship and where we'regoing and where we're growing
All things that I had notplanned.
Space opened up lots of roomfor me to focus on.
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That Space opened up a learningabout trust that the space that
I'm in is exactly where I'mmeant to be, and a new level of
trust that this is always theperfect moment, which is what I
started with today Was that fiveY'all can count me.
Maybe I counted wrong.
I've got a lot more on thislist, so I hope this is helpful
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for you.
What we did is we looked at.
What are the things that I saw,what are the things that I felt
?
And from those things that Isaw and I felt, what did I gain?
These are new tools in yourtoolbox and, as silly as some of
them might look on the list,it's like oh my gosh.
Taking my dog for walks andgaining taking the time for him
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helped me to gain this new levelof patience, and I got to
experience really intensefeelings of frustration, and to
create space for those feelingsof frustration is serving me in
many things that have happenedthroughout the year.
I'm so frustrated and I knowthat I can work through this
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because I did it before and if Ihadn't created the space for
this new dog to come into ourlife by the way, you guys I said
I would never have a rescue dog, which is, it's just I didn't
think that I could handle it.
We buy new cars, we have newpets.
I get something that is likeunmarred because I can't handle
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whatever scars were alreadythere.
That was always my thoughtprocess.
As terrible as that might seemto some people, I will fully own
that was like it's time.
It's time for you to accept amarred dog into your life, this
poor dog, now to see theprogress that we.
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I experienced it myself, butnow I can hold so much more
space for somebody who might begoing through that same thing.
So for every level that we holdfor ourselves, we can go deeper
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and deeper for other people,and I learned some very deep
lessons this year.
I feel like my level of trusthas deepened to a whole new
level, and so I encourage you toreflect on the experiences that
you've had and what you'vegained.
It's so easy for us to look atlike, oh, here's all the
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frustrating things that happenedthis year, and it takes another
level to really focus on thegood that came from that.
And I encourage you, at thesame time, to focus on what were
the brightest, shiniest momentsin your year.
What were those like tip top,really, really cool things that
happened, big manifestations,big moments of joy and happiness
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and love and like, oh my gosh,awe and wonder.
We all had some kind of momentof that.
It doesn't matter if you werejust looking at a sunrise and
you started crying If you'relike me.
I was on a walk a while back,just crying, looking at this
flower because it was sobeautiful, and that's a moment
that I actually remember like,oh my gosh, look at that flower.
And just letting myself bethere with that flower, what did
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you gain from that moment?
Because what I gained this isone of those memories that came
up for me this year what Igained from pausing and letting
myself cry over this flower wasthe spaciousness to be with the
joy of creation.
And how is that going toinfluence my life in some way?
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Some magical thing that I can'teven imagine.
And now I'm talking about ithere, and I encourage you to
pause and just really look atthe freaking beauty of the world
around you, because there'sjust so much for us to drink up,
and the more we drink up thatbeauty and the more we focus on
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the things that we learned fromnot just the hard moments and
also the joys and not, but, alsobut.
And also because there'ssomething to learn in every
experience, and you will takethat with you into the new year.
Those new experiences, those newlearnings, these things that
you've gained are like actualthings in your toolbox, because
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how are you going to show updifferently in the fight that
you have with your spouse,joey's going to laugh at this
because I still continue to showup as the same person in some
things in our relationship andI've grown in other things, I
hope he'll admit.
And how are you going to showup differently for your family?
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How are you going to show updifferently at work and in your
job when you have this newappreciation for a moment that
you experienced, when you havethis new appreciation for
something hard that you wentthrough, when you have a new
level of trust, when you have anew level of surrender, when you
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can see the beauty in thingsbecause you know that there's so
much beauty out there that ispossible.
If we just go through our daysand we just move into next year
thinking about, like, what aremy goals for next year, and we
haven't stopped to look at thosethings, you're missing out on
all the opportunities of all thethings that you can be bringing
forth into next year.
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So I highly encourage you.
I'm journaling resistance.
You guys.
I know how hard it can be tosimply pause and say I'm going
to actually sit with thesequestions that Jen just asked
and I'm actually going to do thethree breaths that she
encouraged me to do and actuallysit and journal it out, or
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actually just sit and close youreyes in your car in a parking
lot please, not while drivingand reflect on these things,
because there's just so muchbeauty for you to take.
And then you can come to theword of the year party on
January 8th and we're going totake that even deeper into next
year and we will set ourintentions.
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We will get that train movingand really get it moving forward
.
And you've probably got otherthings that you do yourself.
I would actually love to hearwhat are your practices that you
do at the end of the year?
What works for you at the endof the year?
What works for you at thebeginning of the year?
That's also such an importantthing to reflect on.
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Did having a word?
Was that supportive to you?
I personally think it's themost supportive thing that you
could possibly do.
Maybe it didn't work for you,and that's okay too.
What does work for you?
That's something definitely toreflect on and bring with you
into 2025.
Although I do hope that you'llcome to the party Again.
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If you want to come to thatparty, january 8th, 5 pm Pacific
time jenlistcom slash 2025.
Please join me there and I'llhave a couple more episodes that
are coming out between now andthen.
I look forward to wrapping somemore with you getting back into
the flow of regular episodes.
There's so many good episodesand I actually already had these
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episodes recorded and I've beenso excited for you to hear them
because they're so freakinggood.
Even Joey, as he's editing,he's like these are really good
episodes.
I'm like I know, and they'vejust been waiting for the
perfect moment.
They've been baking, they'vebeen taking up some space and
expanding so that when they getdelivered into your ear holes
it'll be at the right place andthe right time.
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So thank you for listening tothis episode.
I look forward to hearing yourreflections.
Send me, if you want to sendthe things that you love to do
at the end of the year, yourideas and thoughts.
Send them to hello atJenlisscom.
That's J-E-N-L-I-S-Scom.
Hello at Jenlisscom.
I would love to hear them.
Thank you so much for listeningto this episode.
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If you enjoyed it, I encourageyou to share it with a friend.
You can also share it onInstagram.
Tag me.
I'm UntetheredJen on Instagram.
I will always reshare your postif you share.
Thank you for listening again,and you just keep shining your
magical unicorn light out therefor all to see.
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Bye.
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