February 4, 2025 • 52 mins
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Can social media ever truly reflect our authentic selves, or are we just chasing applause? In this episode of Untethered with Jen Liss, I sit down with the incredible Angelina Rosario to explore what it truly means to live on purpose—both online and in real life.
Angelina is both a high-level corporate leader and a thriving entrepreneur—two roles that often demand a carefully curated image. But her story goes even deeper. Raised in Liberty City, Miami, and facing a life-threatening tumor that left her barely able to walk or talk, she emerged stronger than ever, choosing to live authentically and embrace her purpose. Through it all, she’s learned that real success isn’t about fitting into a mold—it’s about showing up fully as yourself, no matter the space you’re in.
Together, we explore:
✨ The power of embracing your full identity—corporate leader, entrepreneur, and beyond
✨ How to recognize when fear is dictating your online presence
✨ Why external validation isn’t the key to confidence (and what is!)
✨ Meditation, journaling, and affirmations as tools for self-trust
✨ How showing up authentically on social media can create unexpected opportunities
✨ The freedom that comes from detaching from likes, comments, and external approval
Angelina’s story is a testament to the power of resilience, authenticity, and stepping fully into your purpose. If you’ve ever felt the pull between who you are and who the world expects you to be, this episode is for you.
Meet Angelina
Angelina Rosario is a TEDx Speaker, Certified Success Coach, and Author of Thank You for Walking Away. Recognized as one of Miami’s Top 50 Women Leaders, she has inspired thousands through her 5X5 Success Habits system, helping individuals turn pain into purpose in just 25 minutes a day.
After overcoming a life-threatening tumor that left her barely able to walk or talk, Angelina transformed adversity into a mission to empower others. Through her speeches, coaching, and philanthropy, she shares practical strategies to help people unlock their potential and create remarkable transformations. Her story and expertise have been featured on global stages, demonstrating the power of resilience and focused action.
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Speaker 1 (00:05):
Hey and welcome to Untethered with Jen Liss, the
podcast that's here to help youbreak free, be you and unleash
your inner brilliance.
I'm your host, jen, and in thisepisode, we're going to talk
about living on purpose and notaccording to others'
expectations.
Let's dive in.
Hey there, unicorn.
(00:33):
It's Jen.
How are you?
How the heck are you, my friend, really really ask yourself,
ask yourself for realsies.
How are you?
In this episode, we're talkingto Angelina Rosario, and she
really does care so much aboutthe answer to that question.
(00:53):
She also cares about thequestion who are you at your
authentic core and are youliving according to what that
person wants and what thatperson's purpose is?
Angelina is a true testamentthat adversity can be turned
into victory.
She was raised in the projectsin Miami, florida, in a
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neighborhood called Liberty City.
In 2016, she was diagnosed witha tumor in her face the size of
a baseball.
She's going to tell you all ofthe things that came along with
the challenges that she faced.
From this, today, she is anexecutive leader, a coach, an
author and a speaker, and shehas influenced thousands of
(01:35):
people by teaching them thethings that she learned through
her challenges that she faced,both health and mentally along
her life's journey.
She has influenced thousands ofpeople by teaching them the
things that she learned alongthe way.
That supported her with mind,body and spirit and helps people
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turn their pain into purpose.
She's also, along her journey,realized the importance of being
her most authentic self,especially when it's really
difficult, and she knows thatthat is part of her purpose and
she wants to come here today toshare that with you.
So, without further ado,welcoming to the podcast
(02:17):
Angelina Rosario.
Hi, angelina, hi, as soon asyou entered the space, yes, I'm
so excited to have you here.
I was like, like, oh, that is.
That is a smile on a face thatI am like here for same year I'm
sure everybody in your lifeappreciates, appreciate your
energy so much, because you'redefinitely one of those people
(02:38):
who radiates it, which brings upthe question have you always
been that way?
Did you come out of the womb?
This just radiant being?
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Oh hell, no, you know what?
I think I was always thisperson.
I didn't allow myself to bethis person, so it wasn't, and
we'll get deeper into that.
I think, as I continue with myjourney and I went to my own
challenges, that I startedowning my truth and didn't care
that I am this loud Latina.
I am loud and I laugh.
I had this very interestinglaugh that people made fun of,
(03:09):
and so I own every bit of me now.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
So, yeah, it's so beautiful.
I can't wait to get into that,because that's, I think, what a
lot of people struggle with Imyself, that's why I have this
podcast, because I'm like, okay,what am I curious about?
How can I be more me and justfeel so much more comfortable
being me?
So, who do you feel like youare Like?
(03:32):
Who is Angelina at your core?
What drives you?
Speaker 2 (03:36):
What drives me is making an impact, and I didn't
really know how that looks likebecause I thought it was just,
you know, for corporate America,and I was supposed to only make
an impact where I work.
Now, realize that making animpact could be at Starbucks, as
I'm grabbing coffee and you'rejust being vulnerable.
I think I was also afraid oftelling my truth, my stories,
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where I came from and all mystruggles, because I was afraid.
I was the third oldest in thehousehold and I felt like I had
to be a strong woman.
I had to have it all togetherbecause of following me and not
allowing people to see myfailures, my successes.
So I think who I am now, as aperson who just wants to make an
impact and honestly live mytruth.
(04:17):
I don't care if you like me, ifyou don't.
I'm just going to be me,because I think I'm going to
attract the person and thepeople that I'm supposed to
attract and stop worrying aboutpeople pleasing and conforming
to whatever personality thatthey want me to be so I can be
liked.
I just don't care anymore.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
What has gotten you to that point?
What is the journey that hastaken you to this today?
Because if you came out intothis world not being that way
and you're obviously herethere's been some kind of
untethering that has happenedfor you.
So what was kind of the impetusfor that?
Speaker 2 (04:52):
Absolutely.
I mean, I think the breakingpoint was a tumor, but I would
say right before that I wentthrough a really bad breakup and
he just shattered my heart.
In fact he was the one and Ithought I had life completely
figured out.
And so when they say it rained,it pours.
That was my life at thatchapter.
So he walks away.
He tells me he's not in lovewith me anymore.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
How old are you at this time?
Just to give us some groundinghow old were you at this time?
Speaker 2 (05:21):
I was 30.
30 years old, I was 30.
And so that was almost 13 yearsago.
So I'm you know what justhappened here.
I had my life figured out, Iwas supposed to be living in LA
with him, and so that happened.
But a year after this is, Ibelieve, my real awakening.
(05:41):
I mean, I was already startingto waking up, waking myself up,
but not until a year later myface started getting deformed
and I didn't realize it was atumor at the time, and so I got
misdiagnosed, and so the doctordidn't know it was a tumor and I
(06:03):
knew something was wrongbecause my face was quickly
deforming.
And so I went to the emergencyroom, which that led me to a
doctor where they said I had 30days or I would lose my speech
and I wouldn't be able to walkagain.
So I'm in communication, likelosing my speech.
I didn't even know how tohandle it at the time.
(06:24):
I remember sitting there feelinglike my whole world just
collapsed, like what justhappened.
Sitting there, they went to getthe x-ray.
First.
I didn't know the 30 days, soI'll take you back.
I'm sitting there.
They went to do the x-ray andthen a team of doctors just
walked in, and never good news.
When you see five or sixdoctors and no one's really
smiling at you, you're just like, oh boy, but never did I expect
(06:46):
to hear sorry, you have a sizeof a tumor, size of a basement,
and you have 30 days in yourface, in my face, and so I
didn't really quite knew whatthat meant.
I was like, what does that mean?
And they're just well, my facewas already deforming because
they had no more space.
They're like if you don'tremove, you won't be able to
speak.
But that also means that wehave to remove 16 teeth, we
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would have to remove your gumsand bone and then we would have
to transfer.
At the time they were sayingthat they would have to cut the
right side of my leg to be ableto move a bone and nerve from
there to transfer over to mymouth.
And so, remember I just saidearlier, I was a strong woman, I
was supposed to have it alltogether and I felt so
vulnerable, I felt lost, Ididn't understand and I was
(07:31):
questioning my faith, I wasquestioning myself.
I really didn't understand whyall this is happening.
So I went on the journey.
I said, okay, I'm going torecover from this in one year.
I'm adamant about this, but Ithink God has a funny way of
working things out.
I needed to go through thatfour year journey to become the
person that we just spoke toabout earlier, like just owning
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my truth.
I wasn't quite there yet, butit was a journey because it took
four years and before I alwayslaughed because I was wearing a
mask and people were constantlylooking at me.
Before the mask became a thingand I was like and I celebrated
not having a mask on February2019.
When did we go into COVID?
(08:12):
I was like you gotta be kiddingme, but it was.
It was interesting because itwasn't until I was in ICU and
these tubes all over my mouthand I remember just couldn't
talk, I couldn't move.
And I'm looking up in theceiling and I'm hearing a cool,
real cool, cool, and I reallydidn't quite understand what was
happening.
But I, I, I knew someone wasn'tgoing to make it.
(08:34):
Where it sounded like someonewas falling into a coma,
something was happening and I'msitting.
I'm like listen, god, if youcan just get me through this, if
you can get through this, Ipromise you things are going to
change.
I promise you that I will shareeverything that I can about
this recovery once you show mehow I'm going to recover.
And so we went to work.
(08:55):
I went, I came back home and itwas a lot of, like I said, I
was out of work in and out forfour years and I did a lot of
research.
I'm like, what is this wholemindset?
I was already introduced to itsomewhat during the breakup, but
I didn't fully grasp it and Ireally immersed myself into the
mindset and I was going I mean,I would go back to the doctors
(09:18):
and they said I have aninfection and I was able to do
another procedure.
So there was a lot in between,but I don't regret one thing,
not one thing.
I know it's hard because I nowhave they didn't have to remove
16 teeth, they only had toremove five.
So I consider that a miraclethe walking, the bone and nerve.
They didn't have to remove itfrom the right side of the leg,
they removed it from the hipbone and it's a small scar that
(09:40):
you wouldn't be able even to see, even with a bikini on.
And the amount of learning.
Like I said, I was trying todistract myself, so I wasn't
watching anything negative.
I was completely removingpeople out of my life and
immersing myself inself-development books, reading
a lot of data, just trying tofigure out what this mindset
(10:00):
thing really is, just because Icome from a religious background
, and I was like I am not aboutthat life and so, you know, I
went over and I'm like I thinkI'm more spiritual.
What does spiritual even mean?
And how do you, how do youapply this in your day to day?
I have a sailor mouth.
I curse every day.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
I feel so disconnected.
For most people, the way thatwe have always thought of it and
talked about it is sodisconnected.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Yes, and I didn't really quite understand it until
again.
I think I just started reallyunderstanding how my mind works
and I didn't realize when yousaid in the beginning, were you
always this positive, contagious?
No, I was like.
I remember, when I startedmeditating, I was like, looking
at the clock, it's only been 30seconds, right, and I feel like
(10:46):
I have about a hundred thousandthings that just went through my
brain, right.
But I continued doing it andthe journey took me.
When I came back for recovery, Iimmersed myself in these five
tools that we can talk about.
However it was, I came backdifferent to corporate America.
I came back with a mission Inthat midst of chaos.
I came back different tocorporate America.
I came back with a mission.
In that midst of chaos.
I created a company and it wascalled she Fixes Crowns at the
(11:11):
time, and it's so, she FixesCrowns, it's just.
I'm not going now with AngelinaRosario and I did it afraid.
I did it so afraid because Iwas like I am about to ruffle up
some things around here, rightso?
And I was corporate girl allday I ate, slept, everything
corporate and even my socialmedia.
(11:32):
Everything was taking pictures.
I worked for media and Iremember I switched and I said I
made a promise.
No one from corporate Americawas standing next to me in the
ICU bed.
I have given myself.
I have given so much of me.
I lost myself in the midst ofit and I conformed to what they
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wanted me to be.
I am no longer that.
It's either.
They accept me for who I ambecause I almost lost everything
.
If you don't have health, youhave nothing.
And if my voice didn't comeback, they would have fired me
Right.
So I had a different perspectiveabout life came back and the
first thing they said like whatare you doing?
(12:13):
Well, first of all, becausethey went to my social media.
They're like they saw that Ichanged my profile.
I went a hundred percent intoshe fixes crowns.
I've never looked back.
I've never looked back.
I own it.
I laughed and struggled so manytimes.
So I'm like I'm about to pissthem off right now because you
know, you look, I am doing it sodifferent.
(12:33):
I'm probably the only personwho and my company, is doing it
so different.
I post.
You know what I want to post.
I realized that I don't want tolive based on what they think I
should be, and it has rewardedme in many ways.
I feel that God, the universe,whatever you want to call it, I
feel it has rewarded me forsaying yes to myself.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
Oh my gosh, your story.
I got chills multiple times.
Four years is such a long timeand I know that there's many
people who spend longer feelinglike they're in the midst of a
health battle.
But that, and no matter whatthe length of time it's, it's
such a long time.
My husband has been through hisown, you know, struggles there
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and just that, keeping thatpositive mindset and the
strength and the courage thatyou had to look that way, to
look there instead of lookinginto the hardship.
And I want to get to thisuntethered social media stuff.
We're going to get there injust a second.
But I do have to underscore themindset piece and what happened
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there for you.
So what do you think reallymade the biggest difference for
you in your healing and in yourrecovery and getting back to
where you're at?
Speaker 2 (13:49):
So when I started researching all the successful
people who have had their ownchallenges in life, right, and I
said what do they all have incommon?
And all these different books,articles, data said meditation,
journaling, visualization,affirmations and I was like,
(14:12):
okay, great, how does this allwork?
And I felt like I was goingthrough many different resources
to figure out what it reallymeant.
So I was like, well, who hastime to meditate for 40 minutes?
Not me.
And I was like this house doesit, because there are also some
(14:32):
certain resources that if youdidn't do it for this amount of
minutes, you don't reap thebenefits.
So, as I started really diggingin and I started figuring out,
okay, what, what works forAngelina?
So, like I said I mentionedearlier, I started meditation, I
was like, omg, what in theworld Do I always have all these
thoughts Like what is happening?
And then the visualizationwasn't no different.
(14:55):
I would try to visualize myselfhealed, but I can feel because
part of the data was that youhad to feel that you were healed
and I have to be honest, evenin the book that I mentioned
earlier, which we'll talk about,that I said it in the book I'm
very vulnerable.
I was like what in the world?
You know you have to do it inthe morning.
Okay, I'll do it in the morning, but I'm really extremely tired
(15:17):
.
But I needed to recover.
That's all I knew.
I needed to recover becausedoctors were telling me the
opposite.
They were completely with the.
Every time I kept going back, Ikept reverting years, the worst
scenario.
They didn't want to give youthe best scenario, they wanted
to give you the worst scenarioand that you know I would leave
defeated, I'm like.
And then there was a side of methat almost fell into a victim
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mindset.
It's not fair.
Why me?
There's people out there thatreally deserve it.
I'm just trying to do good.
And so I had.
It took a lot of work.
I had to face the mirror withno teeth, and that was hard.
I don't know if anyone ever hadtheir teeth removed and their
gums and both your facecompletely deformed.
And so I faced that.
And you know what I have toface.
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My fears One I face it this.
What I have to face.
My fears One I face it.
This is a.
You know I can still speak.
I know I don't have teeth, butI will.
And so I started doingvisualization.
First, I remember this.
I started doing visualization.
I did it for five minutes andover time I started seeing
myself and I even used it nowand I'll give you a little story
(16:21):
after this but it's my go-to.
I'm like okay, I think it tookme a while.
To be honest, this 30 daysdefinitely took me more than 30
days to really start feelingthose emotions of seeing the
doctor, seeing the completeopposite of what they kept
telling me.
I kept seeing myself smilingand with greenery, with nature.
I was running around with awhite dress, smiling and
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laughing, and so I kept thatgoing, on a white dress, with
smiling and laughing, and so Ikept that going.
I journaled a lot, because thatis where I found out that it
was therapeutic for me.
I can express my emotions.
Some days I was really strong,other days I was really weak,
and so those weekdays I justwrote things down that I was
grateful for.
For example, okay, they didn'tremove 16 teeth, they only
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removed five.
Okay, they said I couldn't walk.
Well, I'm limping, so I'll takethat as the win, right?
So I just started reallyfocusing on the things that were
going well versus just pointingon everything that was going
wrong, and I started seeing ashift there as well.
The affirmations came inanother tool for me, again all
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based on a lot of studies I'vedone.
I looked in the mirror and,with no teeth, I looked in and I
just kept saying you arebeautiful, you are so worthy,
you're doing so well and I'm sofreaking proud of you.
You're just going to end strong.
And I, even now, when I'msaying it, I felt this energy
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shift for me and I and I gotused to I actually got used to
not having any teeth at onepoint.
So I know I got it got reallygood for me.
But hey, I love my fight teethnow and so, um, with that as
well.
Like I said, I practicemeditation.
For me is guided.
Uh, I, when I realized that mymind was going everywhere, I
found guided meditations on onYouTube and that helped me to
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stay present.
I've reaped a lot of benefitsfrom meditations where I've got
my insights as well.
When I felt again defeated, hadno one to turn to, I felt if I
went to someone, they wouldjudge me, and so I've always was
a strong woman in the family.
I had to have it together, soit was my way to calm myself
down and if they said that Ineeded to go into another
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surgery.
Meditation is where I found thevoice within, I would say, to
tell me if I should move forwardwith that surgery or not, or
who should I see.
I would get guidance for sure.
And that's how I felt, like I'm, like I talked to something
higher than myself and said Idon't know how to do this.
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I don't even know how I gothere.
I don't even I'm paying karmafor something, whatever it is.
I need you to help me.
You know and I know I'm goingto show up and you're going to
do miracles for me and I'm goingto be a witness for you.
I'm going to tell your story toeveryone that wants to listen
to it, but I need you, and Ineed you to show up today
because I feel alone andabandoned, and so these are the
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five rules.
I mean the five rules, the fivetools that change it.
I do it early.
I do it to this day.
Actually, I got diagnosed withthyroid two weeks ago and I
started putting this to work andI was like, oh, no, no, no, no,
no, no.
And so it's funny, because Ithink life will test you and
even to the level I lean on.
I feel like I'm not as reactiveanymore.
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I lean in.
I don't know if I becomesuperstitious, jen, or what.
I can't leave my house withoutdoing my five by five, because I
realize the world out there isrough, right, it could be rough,
and you don't know whatchallenges are going to come
your way and you have to beready for it.
And I feel like these fivetools has really strengthened my
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mind more than anything.
And I don't react, even when Ihear things I'm like, okay, cool
, got it.
And then I'll go in the morningand you know, and I do Listen,
judge me if you want, but I'llwrite in my journal like this is
bullshit, I'm tired.
You know, I'm like God.
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He created me.
I have not felt convicted bybeing me Right, and I, yes, I
used a lot of power.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
So you know it's.
It's just how I communicate.
Judgment-free journaling.
That's a.
It's just how I communicate.
Judgment-free journaling.
That's a powerful, powerfultool.
So you journal as well.
I do journal.
I'm a resistant journaler,though, and I think something
that you said earlier is reallypowerful, that you said do what
works for you, and at the sametime, I do try to incorporate a
lot of these practices.
So, first of all, I just wantto say you are a walking,
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talking miracle.
You are such a beautifulexample of a miracle right here
in front of us, and we all haveto acknowledge that that your
miracle is also our miracle, andwe've been gifted with hearing
your story.
Oh, I got chills all the way tomy toes.
So there's so much truth inthat and the fact that you're
having the courageousness tocome out and share your story
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and you're obviously beingcalled to it, and I personally
believe that thyroid is alwayslike a sign of us, like there's
even more for you to share withyour voice.
So that's something that Ipersonally believe that when we
have that little nudge, it'slike you are meant to be even
more authentic, like more, likeyou're following the right path.
Just be even more so, just toacknowledge that for you.
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But there's so many practicesthat that are available to us.
Can you explain, like simplylike the five by five, what
those five are and how we can beengaging it?
Like when you go to, you go toleave your house and you're like
I, just, whether it'ssuperstition or not, it's
working for me, obviously, it'sworking for you, so we might
want it to work for us too.
So how do we do it?
Speaker 2 (21:54):
I mean, everybody has different schedule.
I acknowledge the fact that Iam married, but I don't have
children yet, right?
So I acknowledge that I havefamily members who have kids and
I'm like good Lord, there's alot going on over there.
So I acknowledge the fact thateverybody's schedule looks very,
very different and you have tofind ways that works for you,
even if it's waking up earlier.
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I do all five, which that makesus 25 minutes.
I acknowledge the fact that noteveryone can use 25 minutes.
My story is a little different.
I was going through hell, I hadnothing to lose and it just
became part of who I am.
Okay, so say that, because Ialso realized that you have to
figure out which tool you needthat morning, even if it's just
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five minutes.
So, to remember them, I have anacronym JABIM JABIM, so it's
journaling, affirmations,visualization, inspirational
prayer however you want to lookat it and meditation.
So and I always say it's like,for example, how do you know if
you need your own learning?
Well, I feel, when you areinternalizing many things inside
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, you feel like you don't havean outlet and you need to just
put your thoughts on paper, justbecause it's not good to
suppress all these differentemotions, good or bad.
It could be used for gratitudeMaybe you're not.
For me, I'm like, if I'm notfeeling great or I'm comparing,
I hate that and it comes up.
I'm human.
I'm like, oh, hold on, angelina, and I'll journal my journal's
full.
But you'd be like, yes, girl,right, so I own that.
(23:26):
I think it's a good therapeutictool.
I think it's a good therapeutictool.
Now, I think I'm a big fan, ahuge advocate of therapy.
But I think, beyond therapy,what happens when you leave your
therapist and you're stillfeeling these different emotions
?
I believe journaling is a verygood tool and until you try it
and make it exist in your life,you wouldn't really understand
what I mean.
But and I'm not talking, I'mnot big on the cell phone it's
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something about grabbing a penand paper and writing down those
thoughts and scribble, scribbleand do whatever you need to do.
But you feel you do feel youremotions shift.
And then I go with affirmations.
I like I said it's when you'renot feeling like you're enough,
when you're feeling you just,you just compare to yourself and
say, oh, my God, I'm not prettyenough, or I'm not skinny
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enough, or I'm not smart enough.
I think affirmation kind ofbrings back that reality and put
it into your subconscious mindof your truth.
And I like to do it.
I actually Louise Hayes, is aperson that I listen to a lot,
and I listen to her in themorning and I look at myself.
So I'm the mirror girl, youdon't need to do it in the
mirror.
But so I'm the mirror girl, youdon't need to do it in the
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mirror.
But I started in the mirrorbecause I had no teeth, so it
became a thing that I can lookin my soul.
I feel like when I look in themirror I'm looking within my
deep, my soul, the real me, andI remind myself, I don't know,
maybe I'm presenting somethingfor corporate and I don't feel
like I'm worthy enough to have aseat at the table and look in
the mirror and you don't have todo it this way.
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But I'll say I'm like Angelina,you're a bad bitch.
You got this, you know you werebuilt for this.
This seat would have never beengiven to you if you didn't
deserve it.
You go there and you show themand you walk with your head high
and so I have this wholeconversation in which I call
affirmations and I'm like that'sright and I did it through my
health journey.
I'm like, I'm healthy, I amwalking, you know, I am feeling
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energetic.
So those are the things when Ifeel that I have no energy, that
I don't feel like I can getthrough it.
I'm having this negative innerdialogue with myself.
The affirmations definitelycome through Visualization.
That's my baby, that's the onethat I lean on every morning as
well.
I do have, I believe, envisionboards.
(25:33):
I went from having a big posterboard to having it actually now
on my phone, but I like to lookthrough it in the morning and I
close my eyes and I do seemyself.
I see myself having thesethings and let me tell you about
70, 75% of them do manifest bythe end of the year.
So I'm like God, even if it's50%, you know, at least you have
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a vision.
And I like to put actually havea vision for it, because I've
heard people like, oh, that's abunch of woo-woo stuff, it
doesn't work, or like one, youdon't believe it.
If you don't believe in any ofthese two, it's going to be
really hard to put them to work.
So you have to believe it andthat's why I support it with so
much data.
I believe in the right and left, right, I get it Right.
So I support it with a lot ofdata, but with the visualization
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I like to see myself dependingwhat day it is, I may not have a
big presentation, but if I dohave a big presentation, I see
myself as well walking into thatboardroom, seeing myself
confident in the eye contactthat I'm going to make and how I
see it all.
I see it all and there issomething to be said that when
you walk into those meetings,you do walk in a lot more
(26:39):
confident.
You know, or for me, right now,I'm 43 and 42.
So there's, you know, I'mtrying to have at least one
child.
I also leave, release it to tosomething that's higher than
myself, which I call god.
So for me, at the end of theday, all I visualize myself
being a mother, regardless ofwhatever challenges are going on
(27:00):
right now, and then I releaseit to the universe and
whatever's supposed to happen.
But it removes that negativefeeling of we're going to become
a mom, they're're saying I'mtoo old, or my eggs, and so on
and so on, and so I'm like, no,it leaves me not feeling like I
need a child to bring mehappiness.
So that visualization justallows me to feel satisfied with
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where I am in life right nowand even picture a child.
It may come very different thanwhat I envisioned, so I like to
put that into play because Ijust see it and I feel it and I
feel better and then I will gointo.
I just talked about inspirationand prayer.
I'm a talker, if you haven'tnoticed, but I like to.
For me, I can be me and I don'thave good days every day,
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regardless.
This is why I need to findtools every single day and mean
to yourself, mean to others bothfeeling good about myself or
what people think about me, andI would say even the comparison
game.
I'm in corporate America.
I'm the only minority in the asin my role, in the leadership
role, and sometimes I feel, andalso a woman in sales.
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So you're, yeah, which is, andI'm loud and I voice my opinion
on everything, cause I just kindof decided, owning my truth and
like I disagree with that.
I, you know, I mean you losethis fear, but I like to pray,
just because what?
I want to be grateful for thethings that are going well.
But maybe you know the thyroid.
I will tell you that it waspraying.
I'm like, okay, I, I'm thankfulthat you brought this to my
(28:32):
attention.
I'm also thankful that you'regoing to show me how to heal it
and I'm so thankful that I don'tI release my fears to you Like
I don't.
Cause here's the deal.
We tend to want to talk to otherpeople about a problem and you
have to be careful because,depending where they are in life
, it's what the advice they'regoing to give you.
So if I go telling someone, hey, I heard bad news, I went to
(28:57):
the doctor's office and I havethyroid oh goodness, you got to
be careful with that you have tohurry up and get a prescription
.
Do you know what happened whenI had thyroid?
And it's like downward spiralwhere you have to be.
I feel like there's somethinghigher than yourself that you
can go and speak to.
I would.
I would try to do it be heard.
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We should try to let it out.
If you don't feel likejournaling, you don't feel like
writing, well, then speak it out, which is what I call prayer,
and or get inspiration, I don'tknow see yourself healed right
and use the other tools.
So there's different ways foryou to change that negative
mindset, and I'm very big onbeing careful.
(29:40):
Who you're calling for advice,especially when you're in your
vulnerable chapter of your life.
Right?
Speaker 1 (29:49):
in your vulnerable chapter of your life, right?
So what you said there aboutdepending on where someone is in
their life, that's the advicethat they're going to give you.
And then you gave this verygood example of thyroid, because
I was like, girl, keep going.
Yes, keep going.
Because I'm like you're healingit yourself already just by
using your voice, and that'swhere I'm at in life, because
that's what I believe.
So that's obviously the advicethat I give.
(30:16):
But 10 years ago, what advicewould I have given you, girl?
You got to go, get on thatmedication right now because
otherwise it's going to getworse.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
So, or miscarriages.
You know how it happens.
Miscarriages happen when youhave diarrhea.
I'm like, oh my gosh, like ohright, and that's the point that
I'm trying to make.
You just have to be careful.
And then you know what, when youstart putting these tools into
action, you start attracting theright people into your life.
You're more, because you'remuch more aware of your thoughts
.
You're aware like, oh, that'san interesting thought, angelina
(30:42):
, look at you, girl.
Oh yeah, you just need apopcorn and coke and you're just
having a little I call it aparty pooper party going on.
And I was like, stop with thenonsense, angelina, you know
better.
It's okay to feel, feel whatyou're feeling right now.
Yes, that was not cool.
What that person just did.
Totally get that you know.
However, are you going to allowit to steal your energy right
(31:05):
now?
No, we're going to shift thisenergy right now, and then I'll
depend.
What tool do I need at thatmoment to change that, that that
energy?
And so, even with my husband Iknow I manifested him for sure.
I had he was, he was definitelypart of that five by five
success habits, because Ithought for a while, who would
(31:25):
want me with no teeth.
How do I kiss?
How do I?
How do I do this like, oh mygosh.
Speaker 1 (31:30):
and and all these did he come during that time while
you were healing, came in rightafter.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
But I wasn't afraid to tell him I had fake teeth.
I wasn't afraid to tell himhere's like it was.
I owned my story, which Iwasn't there, like I probably
would have been afraid to kissor to be, should I?
Because he's not gonna like meat this point.
As I said, timing is everything.
I had owned my truth, I haddone the inner work and I kind
(31:59):
of didn't care if you left.
This is me, you may.
You know I, I still have my, mycheckups and I still have to
clean it really well.
So so he'll walk into thebathroom and I'm like doing my
cleaning and so, but he loves meso much, authentically,
genuinely, he knows my story.
I talk about it.
I'm like, oh my God, my friedteeth, you know.
So it just where I know I wouldhave been really embarrassed
(32:23):
about it and I would be ashamedto show him my scars.
I would be afraid to you know,in my scars I would be afraid to
you know, I'm not afraid to belike okay, well, I did some kind
of workout that messed up thathip bone a little bit, need to
calm down a little bit.
I'm not afraid to share mystory with him in every failure,
every success, everyvulnerability.
Like I just share everythingwith him now.
Speaker 1 (32:44):
Yeah, the courage in that moment for you to show him
the authentic you.
It just shows like you wereboth at the right place at the
right time and it connected.
And that's what happens.
And the more that we healourselves, both actual physical
things and the mental things,then the right thing, the right
(33:04):
next thing is always showing upfor us, like I even believe
you're coming on this podcast atthis exact time because this is
exactly what it was meant to be, that we both were meant to
connect on a certain energeticvibration.
And so here you are and herewe're having this really
powerful conversation.
What I love is that you've takenall of these modalities that we
often talk about, whether it'sjournaling, and you're like five
(33:26):
minutes of each of them, 25minutes will change your life.
It's really, it's very simple,it's really powerful.
Thank you so much for sharingthat tool with us.
Okay, now here's what I want toget to is talking about how you
are being this most authentic,untethered self on social media
while in a leadership sales roleat a company, because I was
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just talking to somebody theother day who said, yeah, I
can't be that way yet, because Icurrently have this job, I
can't be that I can't be.
Basically, what they're sayingto me is I can't be me yet.
I can't be me yet.
What is the cost of us havingthat thought in our heads?
Speaker 2 (34:07):
She won't succeed in her current role as she should.
Here's what I learned when Idecided to be me, and when I
mean me, I mean I just becamethe best version of myself.
I laugh all the time because Iget selected for all kinds of
things and they don't evenprobably know why they're doing
it.
They probably don't want to doit.
(34:28):
But something higher and biggerthan this, though.
I just got an email today.
They want me to fly to Dallas.
They selected three of theseleaders in this role to go to
Dallas.
I started cracking up it's 12of us.
I started laughing and then, tobe honest, I told this to my GM
.
The reason why our market isdoing so well is because he
(34:49):
finally understood.
You cannot change me.
The more you allow me to showup who I am, the more I can give
you.
The moment that I have toconform and live in a box, I can
no longer serve you the way Ishould be serving you and we
minimize our successes, such aslike when I show up.
(35:12):
My reps know me.
The way you see me now isexactly how the sales operation
sees me.
I do not change for anyone.
I don't switch personalitiesnow that I'm walking into
corporate America because Ibelieve promotions don't come
from me, they don't come fromanybody else, they come from
something that's higher thanmyself.
Again come from anybody else.
They come from something that'shigher than myself.
Again, that I call God.
So when I cause honestly, I youcan lead fearlessly when you
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know that when you gocampaigning for something you
have conformed to whatever theysay they want you to be, it's
really hard to sustain.
It burns you out, you becomemiserable.
I know because I've been thereright and so when the moment I'm
like free to be myself and hellwith it, guess what?
If you don't like it, then itis what it is by default.
(35:57):
I am succeeding.
This is the best that I've donein my career.
It's really interesting to see,because I feel that they're
missing out a big part of whoyou are and so you're not able
to contribute that and which isnow for me as a leader, that's a
disservice to your team.
They need to see everythingabout you and what's interesting
(36:18):
is that other doors are goingto open for you.
You're going to be afraid Can Ibe honest with you?
Do it afraid?
You're going to feel likeyou're judged because, funny
enough, this happens to me everysingle day.
If I post a picture of which Ithat's like 98% of my posts
about she fixes crowns,motivational, encouraging, right
Then none of them like it andso.
(36:41):
But when I post something withmy company related and it's like
here's, you know, a Valentine'sday, happy Valentine's day day,
you know all kinds of likes.
So this is why you have to be soconfident and secure at who you
are, because if, if you're onlygoing to do things based on
their validation, theiracknowledgement, you're going to
(37:03):
lose.
And guess what?
I don't want no one in icu, butI promise you, when you have a
health scare and you realizethat none of this really matters
, don't go down the grave withall your gifts because of some
people that if they let you go,they didn't even think about you
again, or vice versa, like wedon't know.
(37:28):
I think that was the rudeawakening.
We don't know what kind ofcurveballs are going to be
thrown at us, and it could beyour health, and you lost all
this time because you were soconcerned about what they
thought.
Who cares?
And I, I truly anyone who'slistening, listen, do it and I
can promise you you can evenemail me if I was wrong.
You are going to succeed morethan you've ever had.
(37:50):
Like you're going to seesomething happen you won't even
be able to explain it and you'llbe so much happier.
Doesn't mean your fear doesn'tgo away.
We're still human.
We're still looking forvalidation, we're still want to
be light in this world.
But when you start owning moreof your truth, you have to
realize that there's going to bea lot of people who's going to
be.
What in the world is she doing?
(38:10):
What do you think you are?
Oh, so now you're an expert inthis?
Oh, that's it.
Okay, whatever Do, it anyways.
Speaker 1 (38:17):
That's amazing advice .
What about for those moments?
Have there been moments whereyou were scared to post
something, and what got you past?
What gets?
Speaker 2 (38:30):
you past that, like hitting send, hitting put.
I laugh because my I remembermy boss telling me like you make
your post all about you,thinking, well, you make it all
about your company, right?
So, and you know it doesn'tchange because I'm still human.
I'm like, oh brother, itdepends what post I'm about to
put out there.
I'm like, well, they're reallygoing to like that one.
And so I do it anyways, becauseI have a vision out where I'm
(38:55):
going.
Don't know you know the middlepart how I'm actually going to
get there.
I just know the end result andI feel good because, again, it's
about making an impact.
People are going to talk.
They making an impact, peopleare going to talk.
They're going to talk.
If you're posting and or you'renot posting, so damn, I'll be
doing that.
When we don't.
I go back to these five by five.
I'm also a huge believer inlistening to motivational videos
(39:17):
, so I prime my mind like notomorrow.
So I I'm far away fromegotistical, I I I think there's
a humble swag.
I call, call it where you knowyou have to do it.
Like I said, I laugh everysingle day because I'm like,
well, my social media is usuallydone for the month, but when it
(39:38):
goes because I can tell whenpeople like it I'm like, haha,
well, that's going to make themhappy and so it's just it is.
I think they'll finally have torealize when they say the
universe will conspire.
They would have to realize this.
I'm not giving up, this is whoI am and and it allows me to be
me and work even harder, becauseit's something that if I'm like
(40:00):
, okay, I'm going to do this,then you obviously can't be
slacking, and I think that'swhat companies don't realize.
I think corporate America needsto honor people being
themselves and, like I, Iliterally cheer any of my reps
that want to have a side hustle.
Go, go, go.
You should do it.
You should be part of thatborder, you should open that
(40:21):
business or you should open thatboutique.
Whatever.
I encourage them.
I think they're a lot happier.
I think, when you, everybody hasa deep desire.
So maybe it was what it sellsLike.
I want to do sales.
I was.
I woke up the moment I openedmy eyes.
As a child I was like you know,as an infant I wanted to be a
sales.
Well, that wasn't me.
I wanted to be in theentertainment business, which is
(40:43):
so happened.
I am in the entertainment radio.
However, it's like everyone hasthis deep desire that I feel,
because they have to pay bills,they need insurance, so security
and fear creeps up and they'relike well, if I do that, I'm
going to piss off corporateAmerica.
Piss them off.
I mean, last time I checked, Ialways make this and I'm like my
(41:06):
private equity company thatowns us doesn't just own us.
They have a plethora of otherportfolios going on.
I'm like I'm following theirmodel.
If they ever tell me anything,I'm like you have to have a ton
of things out there.
Speaker 1 (41:19):
I love that Do it all whatever you want to do.
They're not putting all theireggs in one basket, so why
should you be?
And especially out of fear.
I love this message.
This really, really, reallypulls on my heartstrings because
I hear a lot of female VP.
I've talked to hundreds ofpeople and, especially in 2023,
(41:40):
I was supporting one of thebigger coaches in the industry,
supporting on her team, talkedto thousands of people probably
last year and a lot of them arehigh up women leadership roles,
not happy anymore and wanting toleave because we feel like this
isn't built for us and so Iwant to leave and I think that's
fine and I think that's reallygreat and I think it's good
entrepreneurship we can buildthat way.
(42:02):
And at the same time, it's likewhat if every woman just
started being and every persontoo I'm not even just talking
about women, I just mean everyperson just all of a sudden
started doing what you weredoing, like the shift that would
happen.
We just don't even realize ourown power.
Angelina.
Speaker 2 (42:19):
It saddens me because what you see I mean, just look
clearly on any white socialmedia who's a woman in a
leadership role you probably seepictures of them and their job
with their team and then theirkids at a soccer game
celebrating somebody's birthday.
So I'm like I don't know how todo that.
(42:39):
My life is corporate America,soccer game, birthday.
So it's highlights of being aparent and being in a leadership
role and if that is fine, ifthat's what you want to do I
address this to women who feellike they're supposed to be, or
men, so much more.
But yet, because I've hadconversations, oh, I don't think
(43:00):
I should post that picture.
My daughter looked a little toosexy, yeah, and like, oh, I
don't think I should post thatpicture.
Speaker 1 (43:07):
But if maybe your daughter is just a sexy person,
I don't know.
I don't have kids, so I can't.
Speaker 2 (43:12):
I can't make commentary, you know, and I'm
not me personally, I don't, andnot because of corporate.
I just never been a fan of meposting with the bait, so it's
just not.
But if that's what you want topost, do it.
It's what you want and what areyour motives?
Right, like my motives.
I can have two likes and Ireally don't care If your
(43:35):
motives are you're trying topost out of character, post
trends, because that's now.
You're trying to follow societyexpectations.
It's posting or whatever it isthat you're deeply desiring,
make sure it's coming from aplace that you know deep within.
That's what you're supposed tobe doing and you will know
quickly.
If this you know example postam I looking to get likes, like
(44:00):
I'm posting this picture becauseI'm trying to feel special,
then I would advise you don'tpost it.
If you're posting somethingbecause that's what you believe
you've truly been called to do,you're making an impact, even if
it's one or two people, thenyou post it.
But I see a lot on social mediaabout and again, as I mentioned
(44:22):
earlier, with the new bookcoming out later this year, I
talk about this because itbothers me and I think we need
to get kids at a really youngage.
We need to start bringing thisinto school systems because I'm
seeing it more and more peoplelosing their identity and
they're starting young.
It saddens my heart, you know,and we're trying to figure out.
I mean, social media makes mewant to cry sometimes.
(44:44):
This is like a necessary evil,because I see more of,
unfortunately, just people whoare just trying to fit in and
are just following the trend.
Versus like is what Gary Vee, Iguess, says is a free platform.
Stop, stop trying to make itlike something that you're
trying to gain validation and ifyou don't get 50 or whatever
(45:07):
your goal is, you quit.
Do it because it's somethingyou want to do consistently and
because you feel like you'vebeen called to do.
Speaker 1 (45:14):
Yeah, that's such a powerful message and that
question that you asked therewhat are your motives behind
sharing this?
One of the things that youalluded to earlier you said that
you write your posts ahead oftime and you put you do it like
once a month.
Something that came to me asyou were saying that is that
there's a level of detachmentthere, because if you do it
(45:36):
ahead of time and then it justposts on its own, you get to
watch it from the space ofcuriosity and you know what is
interesting, people, what arethey responding to.
So you're actively getting thatopportunity to do that by kind
of separating yourself from thetime that I wrote it based
versus when it's going out.
Seems really genius.
Thank you, Thank you.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
I did it because of my schedule, but it does help
because, depending on how you'refeeling that day, Unintended
consequence.
Speaker 1 (46:04):
Unintended consequence.
Speaker 2 (46:06):
I mean, I've done it Like.
You post it like okay, and it'sfunny to me because you know,
when I post, I'm like what?
Why is everybody liking whatyou know?
And then I see it.
But if the message is there andI always say that and I see it
too many times if they're tryingto post pictures, images,
videos that want to be liked, ifyou're going to do this
(46:28):
corporate thing and you're goingto step out and do your own
hobby company I have a companythen you're going to have to let
go of validation andexpectations of other people,
because when you start on thispath, I call them haters, but
you're going to have more peoplenot liking the path that you're
(46:52):
going, on the posts that you'reputting on social media.
It's going to be a hard battleand it's going to maybe even
make you point like why am Ieven doing this?
So, and especially withcorporate America, because
they'll be the first ones to belike okay, they may like your
first and second picture.
When you start in this path,they just think that you're
being different, like, oh, lookat her, she's just being cute
(47:13):
today.
But when you start beingconsistent, like wait, what is
she up to, what is she doing?
What do you think she is?
And you realize quickly theymake it very obvious that when
you post something that isrelated to your deepest desire
and corporate which one theylike you're going to have to let
go of those insecurities.
And I'm hopeful that if you useone of the five by five success
(47:33):
habits tools, it's going to helpyou have that confidence and I
always say the confidence.
Even confidence is doing a lotof things afraid, like you know.
You feel convicted that you'resupposed to do it because you
had a vision, because youactually affirmed it.
I don't you journaled it,whatever that looks like, you're
like no, I'm supposed to dothis.
And going back to what you said, yeah, post a week in advance.
(47:54):
If you can't do a month, kindof detach it yourself.
Speaker 1 (47:59):
You forgot what you even wrote there.
I think it's a fun experiment.
I really I love everything thatyou're saying.
I also have a phrase that saysbe afraid and do it anyway,
right here on my desk.
So I'm fully fully aligned withthat.
Okay, angelina, I have one lastquestion for you.
I ask every single guest whocomes on the podcast where do
you see the magic in the world?
Speaker 2 (48:18):
Where do I see the magic in the world?
I see it within each one of us.
If we individually step outauthentically I've seen it
already with some of the peoplelike yourself I feel like we can
make magical things happenbecause we're all, if it ends,
we're also born.
I believe the magic comes inwhen we can be authentic, 100%
(48:42):
authentic, who we were createdto be.
That's the magic.
If we all can do it, which I'vebeen very fortunate to be, I
guess law of attraction gotcloser to people that are really
living their truth, you canfeel the magic, you can feel the
creativity, you can sense thatsense of belonging, and we need
(49:03):
more of that.
I've seen it in a very smallgroup in the world.
I guess you can say, especiallywhen I leave the country, out
of the United States, I see itmore, but when I come back I'm
like, oh Lord, but it's thetruth.
And so I think that magic isfor me it's just being authentic
and the more we can beourselves and honor our truth,
(49:24):
because the reality is we don'tknow when we are going to expire
.
I don't mean to soundpessimistic, but we don't.
And it's going to be sad theday that you're laying there
saying what if?
And the magic could havehappened long ago if you would
have said yes to yourself.
Speaker 1 (49:43):
Mic drop.
Thank you so much.
I definitely see and feel andknow the magic in you and thank
you for coming and bringing thisawesome conversation and
everything that you shared herewith us today.
Where can people connect with?
Speaker 2 (49:56):
you, or we're working on it which is Reframe Success,
living your Purpose and NotSociety's Expectations, which we
dive deep into the five by fivesuccess habits.
You can find me on any of thesocial media platforms.
(50:18):
At SheFixesCrowns and onLinkedIn I go by my name,
angelina Rosario.
Speaker 1 (50:24):
Beautiful, and by the time this podcast comes out,
the book should be available andI'll link to it in the show
notes so that if anybody wantsto check it out, they can get it
.
All the links in the show notesas well.
Go and connect with Angelina.
You're obviously going to wantto go.
Look at her social media poststhat she shares, so definitely
make that connection.
Thank you so much for coming on.
Speaker 2 (50:41):
No, this was awesome, jen.
What a blessing and honor to beon your show.
You rock, thank you.
Speaker 1 (50:47):
Thank you.
Oh my goodness, so muchamazingness packed into that
episode with Angelina.
What an amazing story what shehas been through and how she's
come through the other side withthis newfound wisdom.
And she's really knows that herpurpose is to help other people
to be more themselves as shecontinues to be more herself.
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So I hope this episode inspiredyou to do exactly that.
If you need a little bit moreinspiration, tune into
Thursday's thread, where I'mgoing to pull a little string
out of this episode maybe acouple little strings and we're
going to dive a little bitdeeper on some of the themes
from this episode.
If you enjoyed this episode, Iencourage you to share it with a
friend.
Maybe somebody who feels likethey too could be living their
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most authentic life, could bestepping out and stepping in to
their purpose.
If you really enjoyed theepisode, you can also take a
screenshot of the episode righton your phone.
Share it on social media.
Tag me.
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You can also tag Angelina.
Her links are all in the shownotes.
I'll see you on Thursday forThursday's episode.
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Until then, you just keepshining your magical unicorn
light out there for all to see.
I'll see you next time.
Bye, thank you.
Hey and welcome to Untethered with Jen Liss, the
podcast that's here to help youbreak free, be you and unleash
your inner brilliance.
I'm your host, jen, and in thisepisode, we're going to talk
about living on purpose and notaccording to others'
expectations.
Let's dive in.
Hey there, unicorn.
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It's Jen.
How are you?
How the heck are you, my friend, really really ask yourself,
ask yourself for realsies.
How are you?
In this episode, we're talkingto Angelina Rosario, and she
really does care so much aboutthe answer to that question.
(00:53):
She also cares about thequestion who are you at your
authentic core and are youliving according to what that
person wants and what thatperson's purpose is?
Angelina is a true testamentthat adversity can be turned
into victory.
She was raised in the projectsin Miami, florida, in a
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neighborhood called Liberty City.
In 2016, she was diagnosed witha tumor in her face the size of
a baseball.
She's going to tell you all ofthe things that came along with
the challenges that she faced.
From this, today, she is anexecutive leader, a coach, an
author and a speaker, and shehas influenced thousands of
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people by teaching them thethings that she learned through
her challenges that she faced,both health and mentally along
her life's journey.
She has influenced thousands ofpeople by teaching them the
things that she learned alongthe way.
That supported her with mind,body and spirit and helps people
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turn their pain into purpose.
She's also, along her journey,realized the importance of being
her most authentic self,especially when it's really
difficult, and she knows thatthat is part of her purpose and
she wants to come here today toshare that with you.
So, without further ado,welcoming to the podcast
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Angelina Rosario.
Hi, angelina, hi, as soon asyou entered the space, yes, I'm
so excited to have you here.
I was like, like, oh, that is.
That is a smile on a face thatI am like here for same year I'm
sure everybody in your lifeappreciates, appreciate your
energy so much, because you'redefinitely one of those people
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who radiates it, which brings upthe question have you always
been that way?
Did you come out of the womb?
This just radiant being?
Speaker 2 (02:46):
Oh hell, no, you know what?
I think I was always thisperson.
I didn't allow myself to bethis person, so it wasn't, and
we'll get deeper into that.
I think, as I continue with myjourney and I went to my own
challenges, that I startedowning my truth and didn't care
that I am this loud Latina.
I am loud and I laugh.
I had this very interestinglaugh that people made fun of,
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and so I own every bit of me now.
Speaker 1 (03:11):
So, yeah, it's so beautiful.
I can't wait to get into that,because that's, I think, what a
lot of people struggle with Imyself, that's why I have this
podcast, because I'm like, okay,what am I curious about?
How can I be more me and justfeel so much more comfortable
being me?
So, who do you feel like youare Like?
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Who is Angelina at your core?
What drives you?
Speaker 2 (03:36):
What drives me is making an impact, and I didn't
really know how that looks likebecause I thought it was just,
you know, for corporate America,and I was supposed to only make
an impact where I work.
Now, realize that making animpact could be at Starbucks, as
I'm grabbing coffee and you'rejust being vulnerable.
I think I was also afraid oftelling my truth, my stories,
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where I came from and all mystruggles, because I was afraid.
I was the third oldest in thehousehold and I felt like I had
to be a strong woman.
I had to have it all togetherbecause of following me and not
allowing people to see myfailures, my successes.
So I think who I am now, as aperson who just wants to make an
impact and honestly live mytruth.
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I don't care if you like me, ifyou don't.
I'm just going to be me,because I think I'm going to
attract the person and thepeople that I'm supposed to
attract and stop worrying aboutpeople pleasing and conforming
to whatever personality thatthey want me to be so I can be
liked.
I just don't care anymore.
Speaker 1 (04:35):
What has gotten you to that point?
What is the journey that hastaken you to this today?
Because if you came out intothis world not being that way
and you're obviously herethere's been some kind of
untethering that has happenedfor you.
So what was kind of the impetusfor that?
Speaker 2 (04:52):
Absolutely.
I mean, I think the breakingpoint was a tumor, but I would
say right before that I wentthrough a really bad breakup and
he just shattered my heart.
In fact he was the one and Ithought I had life completely
figured out.
And so when they say it rained,it pours.
That was my life at thatchapter.
So he walks away.
He tells me he's not in lovewith me anymore.
Speaker 1 (05:13):
How old are you at this time?
Just to give us some groundinghow old were you at this time?
Speaker 2 (05:21):
I was 30.
30 years old, I was 30.
And so that was almost 13 yearsago.
So I'm you know what justhappened here.
I had my life figured out, Iwas supposed to be living in LA
with him, and so that happened.
But a year after this is, Ibelieve, my real awakening.
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I mean, I was already startingto waking up, waking myself up,
but not until a year later myface started getting deformed
and I didn't realize it was atumor at the time, and so I got
misdiagnosed, and so the doctordidn't know it was a tumor and I
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knew something was wrongbecause my face was quickly
deforming.
And so I went to the emergencyroom, which that led me to a
doctor where they said I had 30days or I would lose my speech
and I wouldn't be able to walkagain.
So I'm in communication, likelosing my speech.
I didn't even know how tohandle it at the time.
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I remember sitting there feelinglike my whole world just
collapsed, like what justhappened.
Sitting there, they went to getthe x-ray.
First.
I didn't know the 30 days, soI'll take you back.
I'm sitting there.
They went to do the x-ray andthen a team of doctors just
walked in, and never good news.
When you see five or sixdoctors and no one's really
smiling at you, you're just like, oh boy, but never did I expect
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to hear sorry, you have a sizeof a tumor, size of a basement,
and you have 30 days in yourface, in my face, and so I
didn't really quite knew whatthat meant.
I was like, what does that mean?
And they're just well, my facewas already deforming because
they had no more space.
They're like if you don'tremove, you won't be able to
speak.
But that also means that wehave to remove 16 teeth, we
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would have to remove your gumsand bone and then we would have
to transfer.
At the time they were sayingthat they would have to cut the
right side of my leg to be ableto move a bone and nerve from
there to transfer over to mymouth.
And so, remember I just saidearlier, I was a strong woman, I
was supposed to have it alltogether and I felt so
vulnerable, I felt lost, Ididn't understand and I was
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questioning my faith, I wasquestioning myself.
I really didn't understand whyall this is happening.
So I went on the journey.
I said, okay, I'm going torecover from this in one year.
I'm adamant about this, but Ithink God has a funny way of
working things out.
I needed to go through thatfour year journey to become the
person that we just spoke toabout earlier, like just owning
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my truth.
I wasn't quite there yet, butit was a journey because it took
four years and before I alwayslaughed because I was wearing a
mask and people were constantlylooking at me.
Before the mask became a thingand I was like and I celebrated
not having a mask on February2019.
When did we go into COVID?
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I was like you gotta be kiddingme, but it was.
It was interesting because itwasn't until I was in ICU and
these tubes all over my mouthand I remember just couldn't
talk, I couldn't move.
And I'm looking up in theceiling and I'm hearing a cool,
real cool, cool, and I reallydidn't quite understand what was
happening.
But I, I, I knew someone wasn'tgoing to make it.
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Where it sounded like someonewas falling into a coma,
something was happening and I'msitting.
I'm like listen, god, if youcan just get me through this, if
you can get through this, Ipromise you things are going to
change.
I promise you that I will shareeverything that I can about
this recovery once you show mehow I'm going to recover.
And so we went to work.
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I went, I came back home and itwas a lot of, like I said, I
was out of work in and out forfour years and I did a lot of
research.
I'm like, what is this wholemindset?
I was already introduced to itsomewhat during the breakup, but
I didn't fully grasp it and Ireally immersed myself into the
mindset and I was going I mean,I would go back to the doctors
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and they said I have aninfection and I was able to do
another procedure.
So there was a lot in between,but I don't regret one thing,
not one thing.
I know it's hard because I nowhave they didn't have to remove
16 teeth, they only had toremove five.
So I consider that a miraclethe walking, the bone and nerve.
They didn't have to remove itfrom the right side of the leg,
they removed it from the hipbone and it's a small scar that
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you wouldn't be able even to see, even with a bikini on.
And the amount of learning.
Like I said, I was trying todistract myself, so I wasn't
watching anything negative.
I was completely removingpeople out of my life and
immersing myself inself-development books, reading
a lot of data, just trying tofigure out what this mindset
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thing really is, just because Icome from a religious background
, and I was like I am not aboutthat life and so, you know, I
went over and I'm like I thinkI'm more spiritual.
What does spiritual even mean?
And how do you, how do youapply this in your day to day?
I have a sailor mouth.
I curse every day.
Speaker 1 (10:18):
I feel so disconnected.
For most people, the way thatwe have always thought of it and
talked about it is sodisconnected.
Speaker 2 (10:23):
Yes, and I didn't really quite understand it until
again.
I think I just started reallyunderstanding how my mind works
and I didn't realize when yousaid in the beginning, were you
always this positive, contagious?
No, I was like.
I remember, when I startedmeditating, I was like, looking
at the clock, it's only been 30seconds, right, and I feel like
(10:46):
I have about a hundred thousandthings that just went through my
brain, right.
But I continued doing it andthe journey took me.
When I came back for recovery, Iimmersed myself in these five
tools that we can talk about.
However it was, I came backdifferent to corporate America.
I came back with a mission Inthat midst of chaos.
I came back different tocorporate America.
I came back with a mission.
In that midst of chaos.
I created a company and it wascalled she Fixes Crowns at the
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time, and it's so, she FixesCrowns, it's just.
I'm not going now with AngelinaRosario and I did it afraid.
I did it so afraid because Iwas like I am about to ruffle up
some things around here, rightso?
And I was corporate girl allday I ate, slept, everything
corporate and even my socialmedia.
(11:32):
Everything was taking pictures.
I worked for media and Iremember I switched and I said I
made a promise.
No one from corporate Americawas standing next to me in the
ICU bed.
I have given myself.
I have given so much of me.
I lost myself in the midst ofit and I conformed to what they
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wanted me to be.
I am no longer that.
It's either.
They accept me for who I ambecause I almost lost everything
.
If you don't have health, youhave nothing.
And if my voice didn't comeback, they would have fired me
Right.
So I had a different perspectiveabout life came back and the
first thing they said like whatare you doing?
(12:13):
Well, first of all, becausethey went to my social media.
They're like they saw that Ichanged my profile.
I went a hundred percent intoshe fixes crowns.
I've never looked back.
I've never looked back.
I own it.
I laughed and struggled so manytimes.
So I'm like I'm about to pissthem off right now because you
know, you look, I am doing it sodifferent.
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I'm probably the only personwho and my company, is doing it
so different.
I post.
You know what I want to post.
I realized that I don't want tolive based on what they think I
should be, and it has rewardedme in many ways.
I feel that God, the universe,whatever you want to call it, I
feel it has rewarded me forsaying yes to myself.
Speaker 1 (12:56):
Oh my gosh, your story.
I got chills multiple times.
Four years is such a long timeand I know that there's many
people who spend longer feelinglike they're in the midst of a
health battle.
But that, and no matter whatthe length of time it's, it's
such a long time.
My husband has been through hisown, you know, struggles there
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and just that, keeping thatpositive mindset and the
strength and the courage thatyou had to look that way, to
look there instead of lookinginto the hardship.
And I want to get to thisuntethered social media stuff.
We're going to get there injust a second.
But I do have to underscore themindset piece and what happened
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there for you.
So what do you think reallymade the biggest difference for
you in your healing and in yourrecovery and getting back to
where you're at?
Speaker 2 (13:49):
So when I started researching all the successful
people who have had their ownchallenges in life, right, and I
said what do they all have incommon?
And all these different books,articles, data said meditation,
journaling, visualization,affirmations and I was like,
(14:12):
okay, great, how does this allwork?
And I felt like I was goingthrough many different resources
to figure out what it reallymeant.
So I was like, well, who hastime to meditate for 40 minutes?
Not me.
And I was like this house doesit, because there are also some
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certain resources that if youdidn't do it for this amount of
minutes, you don't reap thebenefits.
So, as I started really diggingin and I started figuring out,
okay, what, what works forAngelina?
So, like I said I mentionedearlier, I started meditation, I
was like, omg, what in theworld Do I always have all these
thoughts Like what is happening?
And then the visualizationwasn't no different.
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I would try to visualize myselfhealed, but I can feel because
part of the data was that youhad to feel that you were healed
and I have to be honest, evenin the book that I mentioned
earlier, which we'll talk about,that I said it in the book I'm
very vulnerable.
I was like what in the world?
You know you have to do it inthe morning.
Okay, I'll do it in the morning, but I'm really extremely tired
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.
But I needed to recover.
That's all I knew.
I needed to recover becausedoctors were telling me the
opposite.
They were completely with the.
Every time I kept going back, Ikept reverting years, the worst
scenario.
They didn't want to give youthe best scenario, they wanted
to give you the worst scenarioand that you know I would leave
defeated, I'm like.
And then there was a side of methat almost fell into a victim
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mindset.
It's not fair.
Why me?
There's people out there thatreally deserve it.
I'm just trying to do good.
And so I had.
It took a lot of work.
I had to face the mirror withno teeth, and that was hard.
I don't know if anyone ever hadtheir teeth removed and their
gums and both your facecompletely deformed.
And so I faced that.
And you know what I have toface.
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My fears One I face it this.
What I have to face.
My fears One I face it.
This is a.
You know I can still speak.
I know I don't have teeth, butI will.
And so I started doingvisualization.
First, I remember this.
I started doing visualization.
I did it for five minutes andover time I started seeing
myself and I even used it nowand I'll give you a little story
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after this but it's my go-to.
I'm like okay, I think it tookme a while.
To be honest, this 30 daysdefinitely took me more than 30
days to really start feelingthose emotions of seeing the
doctor, seeing the completeopposite of what they kept
telling me.
I kept seeing myself smilingand with greenery, with nature.
I was running around with awhite dress, smiling and
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laughing, and so I kept thatgoing, on a white dress, with
smiling and laughing, and so Ikept that going.
I journaled a lot, because thatis where I found out that it
was therapeutic for me.
I can express my emotions.
Some days I was really strong,other days I was really weak,
and so those weekdays I justwrote things down that I was
grateful for.
For example, okay, they didn'tremove 16 teeth, they only
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removed five.
Okay, they said I couldn't walk.
Well, I'm limping, so I'll takethat as the win, right?
So I just started reallyfocusing on the things that were
going well versus just pointingon everything that was going
wrong, and I started seeing ashift there as well.
The affirmations came inanother tool for me, again all
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based on a lot of studies I'vedone.
I looked in the mirror and,with no teeth, I looked in and I
just kept saying you arebeautiful, you are so worthy,
you're doing so well and I'm sofreaking proud of you.
You're just going to end strong.
And I, even now, when I'msaying it, I felt this energy
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shift for me and I and I gotused to I actually got used to
not having any teeth at onepoint.
So I know I got it got reallygood for me.
But hey, I love my fight teethnow and so, um, with that as
well.
Like I said, I practicemeditation.
For me is guided.
Uh, I, when I realized that mymind was going everywhere, I
found guided meditations on onYouTube and that helped me to
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stay present.
I've reaped a lot of benefitsfrom meditations where I've got
my insights as well.
When I felt again defeated, hadno one to turn to, I felt if I
went to someone, they wouldjudge me, and so I've always was
a strong woman in the family.
I had to have it together, soit was my way to calm myself
down and if they said that Ineeded to go into another
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surgery.
Meditation is where I found thevoice within, I would say, to
tell me if I should move forwardwith that surgery or not, or
who should I see.
I would get guidance for sure.
And that's how I felt, like I'm, like I talked to something
higher than myself and said Idon't know how to do this.
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I don't even know how I gothere.
I don't even I'm paying karmafor something, whatever it is.
I need you to help me.
You know and I know I'm goingto show up and you're going to
do miracles for me and I'm goingto be a witness for you.
I'm going to tell your story toeveryone that wants to listen
to it, but I need you, and Ineed you to show up today
because I feel alone andabandoned, and so these are the
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five rules.
I mean the five rules, the fivetools that change it.
I do it early.
I do it to this day.
Actually, I got diagnosed withthyroid two weeks ago and I
started putting this to work andI was like, oh, no, no, no, no,
no, no.
And so it's funny, because Ithink life will test you and
even to the level I lean on.
I feel like I'm not as reactiveanymore.
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I lean in.
I don't know if I becomesuperstitious, jen, or what.
I can't leave my house withoutdoing my five by five, because I
realize the world out there isrough, right, it could be rough,
and you don't know whatchallenges are going to come
your way and you have to beready for it.
And I feel like these fivetools has really strengthened my
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mind more than anything.
And I don't react, even when Ihear things I'm like, okay, cool
, got it.
And then I'll go in the morningand you know, and I do Listen,
judge me if you want, but I'llwrite in my journal like this is
bullshit, I'm tired.
You know, I'm like God.
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He created me.
I have not felt convicted bybeing me Right, and I, yes, I
used a lot of power.
Speaker 1 (20:28):
So you know it's.
It's just how I communicate.
Judgment-free journaling.
That's a.
It's just how I communicate.
Judgment-free journaling.
That's a powerful, powerfultool.
So you journal as well.
I do journal.
I'm a resistant journaler,though, and I think something
that you said earlier is reallypowerful, that you said do what
works for you, and at the sametime, I do try to incorporate a
lot of these practices.
So, first of all, I just wantto say you are a walking,
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talking miracle.
You are such a beautifulexample of a miracle right here
in front of us, and we all haveto acknowledge that that your
miracle is also our miracle, andwe've been gifted with hearing
your story.
Oh, I got chills all the way tomy toes.
So there's so much truth inthat and the fact that you're
having the courageousness tocome out and share your story
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and you're obviously beingcalled to it, and I personally
believe that thyroid is alwayslike a sign of us, like there's
even more for you to share withyour voice.
So that's something that Ipersonally believe that when we
have that little nudge, it'slike you are meant to be even
more authentic, like more, likeyou're following the right path.
Just be even more so, just toacknowledge that for you.
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But there's so many practicesthat that are available to us.
Can you explain, like simplylike the five by five, what
those five are and how we can beengaging it?
Like when you go to, you go toleave your house and you're like
I, just, whether it'ssuperstition or not, it's
working for me, obviously, it'sworking for you, so we might
want it to work for us too.
So how do we do it?
Speaker 2 (21:54):
I mean, everybody has different schedule.
I acknowledge the fact that Iam married, but I don't have
children yet, right?
So I acknowledge that I havefamily members who have kids and
I'm like good Lord, there's alot going on over there.
So I acknowledge the fact thateverybody's schedule looks very,
very different and you have tofind ways that works for you,
even if it's waking up earlier.
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I do all five, which that makesus 25 minutes.
I acknowledge the fact that noteveryone can use 25 minutes.
My story is a little different.
I was going through hell, I hadnothing to lose and it just
became part of who I am.
Okay, so say that, because Ialso realized that you have to
figure out which tool you needthat morning, even if it's just
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five minutes.
So, to remember them, I have anacronym JABIM JABIM, so it's
journaling, affirmations,visualization, inspirational
prayer however you want to lookat it and meditation.
So and I always say it's like,for example, how do you know if
you need your own learning?
Well, I feel, when you areinternalizing many things inside
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, you feel like you don't havean outlet and you need to just
put your thoughts on paper, justbecause it's not good to
suppress all these differentemotions, good or bad.
It could be used for gratitudeMaybe you're not.
For me, I'm like, if I'm notfeeling great or I'm comparing,
I hate that and it comes up.
I'm human.
I'm like, oh, hold on, angelina, and I'll journal my journal's
full.
But you'd be like, yes, girl,right, so I own that.
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I think it's a good therapeutictool.
I think it's a good therapeutictool.
Now, I think I'm a big fan, ahuge advocate of therapy.
But I think, beyond therapy,what happens when you leave your
therapist and you're stillfeeling these different emotions
?
I believe journaling is a verygood tool and until you try it
and make it exist in your life,you wouldn't really understand
what I mean.
But and I'm not talking, I'mnot big on the cell phone it's
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something about grabbing a penand paper and writing down those
thoughts and scribble, scribbleand do whatever you need to do.
But you feel you do feel youremotions shift.
And then I go with affirmations.
I like I said it's when you'renot feeling like you're enough,
when you're feeling you just,you just compare to yourself and
say, oh, my God, I'm not prettyenough, or I'm not skinny
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enough, or I'm not smart enough.
I think affirmation kind ofbrings back that reality and put
it into your subconscious mindof your truth.
And I like to do it.
I actually Louise Hayes, is aperson that I listen to a lot,
and I listen to her in themorning and I look at myself.
So I'm the mirror girl, youdon't need to do it in the
mirror.
But so I'm the mirror girl, youdon't need to do it in the
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mirror.
But I started in the mirrorbecause I had no teeth, so it
became a thing that I can lookin my soul.
I feel like when I look in themirror I'm looking within my
deep, my soul, the real me, andI remind myself, I don't know,
maybe I'm presenting somethingfor corporate and I don't feel
like I'm worthy enough to have aseat at the table and look in
the mirror and you don't have todo it this way.
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But I'll say I'm like Angelina,you're a bad bitch.
You got this, you know you werebuilt for this.
This seat would have never beengiven to you if you didn't
deserve it.
You go there and you show themand you walk with your head high
and so I have this wholeconversation in which I call
affirmations and I'm like that'sright and I did it through my
health journey.
I'm like, I'm healthy, I amwalking, you know, I am feeling
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energetic.
So those are the things when Ifeel that I have no energy, that
I don't feel like I can getthrough it.
I'm having this negative innerdialogue with myself.
The affirmations definitelycome through Visualization.
That's my baby, that's the onethat I lean on every morning as
well.
I do have, I believe, envisionboards.
(25:33):
I went from having a big posterboard to having it actually now
on my phone, but I like to lookthrough it in the morning and I
close my eyes and I do seemyself.
I see myself having thesethings and let me tell you about
70, 75% of them do manifest bythe end of the year.
So I'm like God, even if it's50%, you know, at least you have
(25:56):
a vision.
And I like to put actually havea vision for it, because I've
heard people like, oh, that's abunch of woo-woo stuff, it
doesn't work, or like one, youdon't believe it.
If you don't believe in any ofthese two, it's going to be
really hard to put them to work.
So you have to believe it andthat's why I support it with so
much data.
I believe in the right and left, right, I get it Right.
So I support it with a lot ofdata, but with the visualization
(26:19):
I like to see myself dependingwhat day it is, I may not have a
big presentation, but if I dohave a big presentation, I see
myself as well walking into thatboardroom, seeing myself
confident in the eye contactthat I'm going to make and how I
see it all.
I see it all and there issomething to be said that when
you walk into those meetings,you do walk in a lot more
(26:39):
confident.
You know, or for me, right now,I'm 43 and 42.
So there's, you know, I'mtrying to have at least one
child.
I also leave, release it to tosomething that's higher than
myself, which I call god.
So for me, at the end of theday, all I visualize myself
being a mother, regardless ofwhatever challenges are going on
(27:00):
right now, and then I releaseit to the universe and
whatever's supposed to happen.
But it removes that negativefeeling of we're going to become
a mom, they're're saying I'mtoo old, or my eggs, and so on
and so on, and so I'm like, no,it leaves me not feeling like I
need a child to bring mehappiness.
So that visualization justallows me to feel satisfied with
(27:24):
where I am in life right nowand even picture a child.
It may come very different thanwhat I envisioned, so I like to
put that into play because Ijust see it and I feel it and I
feel better and then I will gointo.
I just talked about inspirationand prayer.
I'm a talker, if you haven'tnoticed, but I like to.
For me, I can be me and I don'thave good days every day,
(27:48):
regardless.
This is why I need to findtools every single day and mean
to yourself, mean to others bothfeeling good about myself or
what people think about me, andI would say even the comparison
game.
I'm in corporate America.
I'm the only minority in the asin my role, in the leadership
role, and sometimes I feel, andalso a woman in sales.
(28:11):
So you're, yeah, which is, andI'm loud and I voice my opinion
on everything, cause I just kindof decided, owning my truth and
like I disagree with that.
I, you know, I mean you losethis fear, but I like to pray,
just because what?
I want to be grateful for thethings that are going well.
But maybe you know the thyroid.
I will tell you that it waspraying.
I'm like, okay, I, I'm thankfulthat you brought this to my
(28:32):
attention.
I'm also thankful that you'regoing to show me how to heal it
and I'm so thankful that I don'tI release my fears to you Like
I don't.
Cause here's the deal.
We tend to want to talk to otherpeople about a problem and you
have to be careful because,depending where they are in life
, it's what the advice they'regoing to give you.
So if I go telling someone, hey, I heard bad news, I went to
(28:57):
the doctor's office and I havethyroid oh goodness, you got to
be careful with that you have tohurry up and get a prescription
.
Do you know what happened whenI had thyroid?
And it's like downward spiralwhere you have to be.
I feel like there's somethinghigher than yourself that you
can go and speak to.
I would.
I would try to do it be heard.
(29:17):
We should try to let it out.
If you don't feel likejournaling, you don't feel like
writing, well, then speak it out, which is what I call prayer,
and or get inspiration, I don'tknow see yourself healed right
and use the other tools.
So there's different ways foryou to change that negative
mindset, and I'm very big onbeing careful.
(29:40):
Who you're calling for advice,especially when you're in your
vulnerable chapter of your life.
Right?
Speaker 1 (29:49):
in your vulnerable chapter of your life, right?
So what you said there aboutdepending on where someone is in
their life, that's the advicethat they're going to give you.
And then you gave this verygood example of thyroid, because
I was like, girl, keep going.
Yes, keep going.
Because I'm like you're healingit yourself already just by
using your voice, and that'swhere I'm at in life, because
that's what I believe.
So that's obviously the advicethat I give.
(30:16):
But 10 years ago, what advicewould I have given you, girl?
You got to go, get on thatmedication right now because
otherwise it's going to getworse.
Speaker 2 (30:19):
So, or miscarriages.
You know how it happens.
Miscarriages happen when youhave diarrhea.
I'm like, oh my gosh, like ohright, and that's the point that
I'm trying to make.
You just have to be careful.
And then you know what, when youstart putting these tools into
action, you start attracting theright people into your life.
You're more, because you'remuch more aware of your thoughts
.
You're aware like, oh, that'san interesting thought, angelina
(30:42):
, look at you, girl.
Oh yeah, you just need apopcorn and coke and you're just
having a little I call it aparty pooper party going on.
And I was like, stop with thenonsense, angelina, you know
better.
It's okay to feel, feel whatyou're feeling right now.
Yes, that was not cool.
What that person just did.
Totally get that you know.
However, are you going to allowit to steal your energy right
(31:05):
now?
No, we're going to shift thisenergy right now, and then I'll
depend.
What tool do I need at thatmoment to change that, that that
energy?
And so, even with my husband Iknow I manifested him for sure.
I had he was, he was definitelypart of that five by five
success habits, because Ithought for a while, who would
(31:25):
want me with no teeth.
How do I kiss?
How do I?
How do I do this like, oh mygosh.
Speaker 1 (31:30):
and and all these did he come during that time while
you were healing, came in rightafter.
Speaker 2 (31:37):
But I wasn't afraid to tell him I had fake teeth.
I wasn't afraid to tell himhere's like it was.
I owned my story, which Iwasn't there, like I probably
would have been afraid to kissor to be, should I?
Because he's not gonna like meat this point.
As I said, timing is everything.
I had owned my truth, I haddone the inner work and I kind
(31:59):
of didn't care if you left.
This is me, you may.
You know I, I still have my, mycheckups and I still have to
clean it really well.
So so he'll walk into thebathroom and I'm like doing my
cleaning and so, but he loves meso much, authentically,
genuinely, he knows my story.
I talk about it.
I'm like, oh my God, my friedteeth, you know.
So it just where I know I wouldhave been really embarrassed
(32:23):
about it and I would be ashamedto show him my scars.
I would be afraid to you know,in my scars I would be afraid to
you know, I'm not afraid to belike okay, well, I did some kind
of workout that messed up thathip bone a little bit, need to
calm down a little bit.
I'm not afraid to share mystory with him in every failure,
every success, everyvulnerability.
Like I just share everythingwith him now.
Speaker 1 (32:44):
Yeah, the courage in that moment for you to show him
the authentic you.
It just shows like you wereboth at the right place at the
right time and it connected.
And that's what happens.
And the more that we healourselves, both actual physical
things and the mental things,then the right thing, the right
(33:04):
next thing is always showing upfor us, like I even believe
you're coming on this podcast atthis exact time because this is
exactly what it was meant to be, that we both were meant to
connect on a certain energeticvibration.
And so here you are and herewe're having this really
powerful conversation.
What I love is that you've takenall of these modalities that we
often talk about, whether it'sjournaling, and you're like five
(33:26):
minutes of each of them, 25minutes will change your life.
It's really, it's very simple,it's really powerful.
Thank you so much for sharingthat tool with us.
Okay, now here's what I want toget to is talking about how you
are being this most authentic,untethered self on social media
while in a leadership sales roleat a company, because I was
(33:47):
just talking to somebody theother day who said, yeah, I
can't be that way yet, because Icurrently have this job, I
can't be that I can't be.
Basically, what they're sayingto me is I can't be me yet.
I can't be me yet.
What is the cost of us havingthat thought in our heads?
Speaker 2 (34:07):
She won't succeed in her current role as she should.
Here's what I learned when Idecided to be me, and when I
mean me, I mean I just becamethe best version of myself.
I laugh all the time because Iget selected for all kinds of
things and they don't evenprobably know why they're doing
it.
They probably don't want to doit.
(34:28):
But something higher and biggerthan this, though.
I just got an email today.
They want me to fly to Dallas.
They selected three of theseleaders in this role to go to
Dallas.
I started cracking up it's 12of us.
I started laughing and then, tobe honest, I told this to my GM
.
The reason why our market isdoing so well is because he
(34:49):
finally understood.
You cannot change me.
The more you allow me to showup who I am, the more I can give
you.
The moment that I have toconform and live in a box, I can
no longer serve you the way Ishould be serving you and we
minimize our successes, such aslike when I show up.
(35:12):
My reps know me.
The way you see me now isexactly how the sales operation
sees me.
I do not change for anyone.
I don't switch personalitiesnow that I'm walking into
corporate America because Ibelieve promotions don't come
from me, they don't come fromanybody else, they come from
something that's higher thanmyself.
Again come from anybody else.
They come from something that'shigher than myself.
Again, that I call God.
So when I cause honestly, I youcan lead fearlessly when you
(35:37):
know that when you gocampaigning for something you
have conformed to whatever theysay they want you to be, it's
really hard to sustain.
It burns you out, you becomemiserable.
I know because I've been thereright and so when the moment I'm
like free to be myself and hellwith it, guess what?
If you don't like it, then itis what it is by default.
(35:57):
I am succeeding.
This is the best that I've donein my career.
It's really interesting to see,because I feel that they're
missing out a big part of whoyou are and so you're not able
to contribute that and which isnow for me as a leader, that's a
disservice to your team.
They need to see everythingabout you and what's interesting
(36:18):
is that other doors are goingto open for you.
You're going to be afraid Can Ibe honest with you?
Do it afraid?
You're going to feel likeyou're judged because, funny
enough, this happens to me everysingle day.
If I post a picture of which Ithat's like 98% of my posts
about she fixes crowns,motivational, encouraging, right
Then none of them like it andso.
(36:41):
But when I post something withmy company related and it's like
here's, you know, a Valentine'sday, happy Valentine's day day,
you know all kinds of likes.
So this is why you have to be soconfident and secure at who you
are, because if, if you're onlygoing to do things based on
their validation, theiracknowledgement, you're going to
(37:03):
lose.
And guess what?
I don't want no one in icu, butI promise you, when you have a
health scare and you realizethat none of this really matters
, don't go down the grave withall your gifts because of some
people that if they let you go,they didn't even think about you
again, or vice versa, like wedon't know.
(37:28):
I think that was the rudeawakening.
We don't know what kind ofcurveballs are going to be
thrown at us, and it could beyour health, and you lost all
this time because you were soconcerned about what they
thought.
Who cares?
And I, I truly anyone who'slistening, listen, do it and I
can promise you you can evenemail me if I was wrong.
You are going to succeed morethan you've ever had.
(37:50):
Like you're going to seesomething happen you won't even
be able to explain it and you'llbe so much happier.
Doesn't mean your fear doesn'tgo away.
We're still human.
We're still looking forvalidation, we're still want to
be light in this world.
But when you start owning moreof your truth, you have to
realize that there's going to bea lot of people who's going to
be.
What in the world is she doing?
(38:10):
What do you think you are?
Oh, so now you're an expert inthis?
Oh, that's it.
Okay, whatever Do, it anyways.
Speaker 1 (38:17):
That's amazing advice .
What about for those moments?
Have there been moments whereyou were scared to post
something, and what got you past?
What gets?
Speaker 2 (38:30):
you past that, like hitting send, hitting put.
I laugh because my I remembermy boss telling me like you make
your post all about you,thinking, well, you make it all
about your company, right?
So, and you know it doesn'tchange because I'm still human.
I'm like, oh brother, itdepends what post I'm about to
put out there.
I'm like, well, they're reallygoing to like that one.
And so I do it anyways, becauseI have a vision out where I'm
(38:55):
going.
Don't know you know the middlepart how I'm actually going to
get there.
I just know the end result andI feel good because, again, it's
about making an impact.
People are going to talk.
They making an impact, peopleare going to talk.
They're going to talk.
If you're posting and or you'renot posting, so damn, I'll be
doing that.
When we don't.
I go back to these five by five.
I'm also a huge believer inlistening to motivational videos
(39:17):
, so I prime my mind like notomorrow.
So I I'm far away fromegotistical, I I I think there's
a humble swag.
I call, call it where you knowyou have to do it.
Like I said, I laugh everysingle day because I'm like,
well, my social media is usuallydone for the month, but when it
(39:38):
goes because I can tell whenpeople like it I'm like, haha,
well, that's going to make themhappy and so it's just it is.
I think they'll finally have torealize when they say the
universe will conspire.
They would have to realize this.
I'm not giving up, this is whoI am and and it allows me to be
me and work even harder, becauseit's something that if I'm like
(40:00):
, okay, I'm going to do this,then you obviously can't be
slacking, and I think that'swhat companies don't realize.
I think corporate America needsto honor people being
themselves and, like I, Iliterally cheer any of my reps
that want to have a side hustle.
Go, go, go.
You should do it.
You should be part of thatborder, you should open that
(40:21):
business or you should open thatboutique.
Whatever.
I encourage them.
I think they're a lot happier.
I think, when you, everybody hasa deep desire.
So maybe it was what it sellsLike.
I want to do sales.
I was.
I woke up the moment I openedmy eyes.
As a child I was like you know,as an infant I wanted to be a
sales.
Well, that wasn't me.
I wanted to be in theentertainment business, which is
(40:43):
so happened.
I am in the entertainment radio.
However, it's like everyone hasthis deep desire that I feel,
because they have to pay bills,they need insurance, so security
and fear creeps up and they'relike well, if I do that, I'm
going to piss off corporateAmerica.
Piss them off.
I mean, last time I checked, Ialways make this and I'm like my
(41:06):
private equity company thatowns us doesn't just own us.
They have a plethora of otherportfolios going on.
I'm like I'm following theirmodel.
If they ever tell me anything,I'm like you have to have a ton
of things out there.
Speaker 1 (41:19):
I love that Do it all whatever you want to do.
They're not putting all theireggs in one basket, so why
should you be?
And especially out of fear.
I love this message.
This really, really, reallypulls on my heartstrings because
I hear a lot of female VP.
I've talked to hundreds ofpeople and, especially in 2023,
(41:40):
I was supporting one of thebigger coaches in the industry,
supporting on her team, talkedto thousands of people probably
last year and a lot of them arehigh up women leadership roles,
not happy anymore and wanting toleave because we feel like this
isn't built for us and so Iwant to leave and I think that's
fine and I think that's reallygreat and I think it's good
entrepreneurship we can buildthat way.
(42:02):
And at the same time, it's likewhat if every woman just
started being and every persontoo I'm not even just talking
about women, I just mean everyperson just all of a sudden
started doing what you weredoing, like the shift that would
happen.
We just don't even realize ourown power.
Angelina.
Speaker 2 (42:19):
It saddens me because what you see I mean, just look
clearly on any white socialmedia who's a woman in a
leadership role you probably seepictures of them and their job
with their team and then theirkids at a soccer game
celebrating somebody's birthday.
So I'm like I don't know how todo that.
(42:39):
My life is corporate America,soccer game, birthday.
So it's highlights of being aparent and being in a leadership
role and if that is fine, ifthat's what you want to do I
address this to women who feellike they're supposed to be, or
men, so much more.
But yet, because I've hadconversations, oh, I don't think
(43:00):
I should post that picture.
My daughter looked a little toosexy, yeah, and like, oh, I
don't think I should post thatpicture.
Speaker 1 (43:07):
But if maybe your daughter is just a sexy person,
I don't know.
I don't have kids, so I can't.
Speaker 2 (43:12):
I can't make commentary, you know, and I'm
not me personally, I don't, andnot because of corporate.
I just never been a fan of meposting with the bait, so it's
just not.
But if that's what you want topost, do it.
It's what you want and what areyour motives?
Right, like my motives.
I can have two likes and Ireally don't care If your
(43:35):
motives are you're trying topost out of character, post
trends, because that's now.
You're trying to follow societyexpectations.
It's posting or whatever it isthat you're deeply desiring,
make sure it's coming from aplace that you know deep within.
That's what you're supposed tobe doing and you will know
quickly.
If this you know example postam I looking to get likes, like
(44:00):
I'm posting this picture becauseI'm trying to feel special,
then I would advise you don'tpost it.
If you're posting somethingbecause that's what you believe
you've truly been called to do,you're making an impact, even if
it's one or two people, thenyou post it.
But I see a lot on social mediaabout and again, as I mentioned
(44:22):
earlier, with the new bookcoming out later this year, I
talk about this because itbothers me and I think we need
to get kids at a really youngage.
We need to start bringing thisinto school systems because I'm
seeing it more and more peoplelosing their identity and
they're starting young.
It saddens my heart, you know,and we're trying to figure out.
I mean, social media makes mewant to cry sometimes.
(44:44):
This is like a necessary evil,because I see more of,
unfortunately, just people whoare just trying to fit in and
are just following the trend.
Versus like is what Gary Vee, Iguess, says is a free platform.
Stop, stop trying to make itlike something that you're
trying to gain validation and ifyou don't get 50 or whatever
(45:07):
your goal is, you quit.
Do it because it's somethingyou want to do consistently and
because you feel like you'vebeen called to do.
Speaker 1 (45:14):
Yeah, that's such a powerful message and that
question that you asked therewhat are your motives behind
sharing this?
One of the things that youalluded to earlier you said that
you write your posts ahead oftime and you put you do it like
once a month.
Something that came to me asyou were saying that is that
there's a level of detachmentthere, because if you do it
(45:36):
ahead of time and then it justposts on its own, you get to
watch it from the space ofcuriosity and you know what is
interesting, people, what arethey responding to.
So you're actively getting thatopportunity to do that by kind
of separating yourself from thetime that I wrote it based
versus when it's going out.
Seems really genius.
Thank you, Thank you.
Speaker 2 (45:56):
I did it because of my schedule, but it does help
because, depending on how you'refeeling that day, Unintended
consequence.
Speaker 1 (46:04):
Unintended consequence.
Speaker 2 (46:06):
I mean, I've done it Like.
You post it like okay, and it'sfunny to me because you know,
when I post, I'm like what?
Why is everybody liking whatyou know?
And then I see it.
But if the message is there andI always say that and I see it
too many times if they're tryingto post pictures, images,
videos that want to be liked, ifyou're going to do this
(46:28):
corporate thing and you're goingto step out and do your own
hobby company I have a companythen you're going to have to let
go of validation andexpectations of other people,
because when you start on thispath, I call them haters, but
you're going to have more peoplenot liking the path that you're
(46:52):
going, on the posts that you'reputting on social media.
It's going to be a hard battleand it's going to maybe even
make you point like why am Ieven doing this?
So, and especially withcorporate America, because
they'll be the first ones to belike okay, they may like your
first and second picture.
When you start in this path,they just think that you're
being different, like, oh, lookat her, she's just being cute
(47:13):
today.
But when you start beingconsistent, like wait, what is
she up to, what is she doing?
What do you think she is?
And you realize quickly theymake it very obvious that when
you post something that isrelated to your deepest desire
and corporate which one theylike you're going to have to let
go of those insecurities.
And I'm hopeful that if you useone of the five by five success
(47:33):
habits tools, it's going to helpyou have that confidence and I
always say the confidence.
Even confidence is doing a lotof things afraid, like you know.
You feel convicted that you'resupposed to do it because you
had a vision, because youactually affirmed it.
I don't you journaled it,whatever that looks like, you're
like no, I'm supposed to dothis.
And going back to what you said, yeah, post a week in advance.
(47:54):
If you can't do a month, kindof detach it yourself.
Speaker 1 (47:59):
You forgot what you even wrote there.
I think it's a fun experiment.
I really I love everything thatyou're saying.
I also have a phrase that saysbe afraid and do it anyway,
right here on my desk.
So I'm fully fully aligned withthat.
Okay, angelina, I have one lastquestion for you.
I ask every single guest whocomes on the podcast where do
you see the magic in the world?
Speaker 2 (48:18):
Where do I see the magic in the world?
I see it within each one of us.
If we individually step outauthentically I've seen it
already with some of the peoplelike yourself I feel like we can
make magical things happenbecause we're all, if it ends,
we're also born.
I believe the magic comes inwhen we can be authentic, 100%
(48:42):
authentic, who we were createdto be.
That's the magic.
If we all can do it, which I'vebeen very fortunate to be, I
guess law of attraction gotcloser to people that are really
living their truth, you canfeel the magic, you can feel the
creativity, you can sense thatsense of belonging, and we need
(49:03):
more of that.
I've seen it in a very smallgroup in the world.
I guess you can say, especiallywhen I leave the country, out
of the United States, I see itmore, but when I come back I'm
like, oh Lord, but it's thetruth.
And so I think that magic isfor me it's just being authentic
and the more we can beourselves and honor our truth,
(49:24):
because the reality is we don'tknow when we are going to expire
.
I don't mean to soundpessimistic, but we don't.
And it's going to be sad theday that you're laying there
saying what if?
And the magic could havehappened long ago if you would
have said yes to yourself.
Speaker 1 (49:43):
Mic drop.
Thank you so much.
I definitely see and feel andknow the magic in you and thank
you for coming and bringing thisawesome conversation and
everything that you shared herewith us today.
Where can people connect with?
Speaker 2 (49:56):
you, or we're working on it which is Reframe Success,
living your Purpose and NotSociety's Expectations, which we
dive deep into the five by fivesuccess habits.
You can find me on any of thesocial media platforms.
(50:18):
At SheFixesCrowns and onLinkedIn I go by my name,
angelina Rosario.
Speaker 1 (50:24):
Beautiful, and by the time this podcast comes out,
the book should be available andI'll link to it in the show
notes so that if anybody wantsto check it out, they can get it
.
All the links in the show notesas well.
Go and connect with Angelina.
You're obviously going to wantto go.
Look at her social media poststhat she shares, so definitely
make that connection.
Thank you so much for coming on.
Speaker 2 (50:41):
No, this was awesome, jen.
What a blessing and honor to beon your show.
You rock, thank you.
Speaker 1 (50:47):
Thank you.
Oh my goodness, so muchamazingness packed into that
episode with Angelina.
What an amazing story what shehas been through and how she's
come through the other side withthis newfound wisdom.
And she's really knows that herpurpose is to help other people
to be more themselves as shecontinues to be more herself.
(51:11):
So I hope this episode inspiredyou to do exactly that.
If you need a little bit moreinspiration, tune into
Thursday's thread, where I'mgoing to pull a little string
out of this episode maybe acouple little strings and we're
going to dive a little bitdeeper on some of the themes
from this episode.
If you enjoyed this episode, Iencourage you to share it with a
friend.
Maybe somebody who feels likethey too could be living their
(51:33):
most authentic life, could bestepping out and stepping in to
their purpose.
If you really enjoyed theepisode, you can also take a
screenshot of the episode righton your phone.
Share it on social media.
Tag me.
I'm on tethered, jen.
You can also tag Angelina.
Her links are all in the shownotes.
I'll see you on Thursday forThursday's episode.
(51:54):
Until then, you just keepshining your magical unicorn
light out there for all to see.
I'll see you next time.
Bye, thank you.
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