February 27, 2025 • 23 mins
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In this Thursday Thread, we're revisiting powerful insights from Dr. Craig Farney's previous episode to explore how the voices of "I can't" and "I can" shape our reality—both mentally and physically.
We’ll dive into how the "I can't" voice, often rooted in societal conditioning, shows up in our lives, limiting our potential. In contrast, the "I can" voice—driven by curiosity and possibility—holds the key to unlocking your true power and transforming your life.
Through practical somatic listening exercises, I’ll guide you to navigate this internal conflict, empowering you to shift your mindset with compassion and ease. We’ll also explore how these voices manifest physically, offering clues to where your limitations are showing up in your body.
Drawing inspiration from trailblazers like Kathrine Switzer, who ran the first marathon as a woman, we’ll uncover the power of embracing curiosity and possibility, proving that anything is possible when you choose to listen to the voice of "I can."
By the end of this episode, you’ll have the tools to confront your own limitations and dreams, and step into a more empowered version of yourself.
Key Takeaways:
- Why challenging the "I can’t" voice unlocks new possibilities for your life.
- How to listen to your body and use physical sensations to guide your mental and emotional shifts.
- How to tap into the curiosity of your inner child to move beyond limitations and embrace new growth.
- Why confronting both your fears and dreams leads to true empowerment.
- How to make intentional, empowered choices that align with your true self and open the door to limitless possibility.
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Speaker 1 (00:04):
Hi and welcome to Untethered with Jen Liss, the
podcast that's here to help youbreak free, be you and unleash
your inner brilliance.
I'm your host, jen, and in thisepisode we're going to talk
about how actually you can.
It's Jen.
(00:33):
Welcome back to the podcast foranother Thursday Thread.
It's a Thursday Thread.
We are pulling a thread out ofTuesday's episode with Dr Craig
Farney Totes.
Cool, if you haven't listenedto that episode with Dr Craig,
I'm going to pull out a thought,a concept, an idea from that
episode that really resonatedwith me Now.
First of all, dr Craig is sucha fascinating person and we
(00:56):
talked about all kinds of thingsthat genuinely are so
fascinating to me right now aswell.
It is an excellent episode forthe curious, for if you're
manifestation curious, if youare curious about the quantum,
if you're curious about energywork, if you're curious about
kinesiology, body work,parasites that might be living
in your stomach and causing allkinds of things, energy in
(01:18):
general.
Please go listen to thatepisode.
And I really want to dive intothis concept that he talked
about of I can't versus I can,because a lot of us have a voice
in our head that says I can't.
Probably most of us, right,we've all got this voice that
(01:39):
says, no, you can't do that,versus the voice that says I can
do this.
And the truth is that both ofthose voices exist within you.
The can't voice is coming fromyour inner parent and the can
voice is coming from your innerchild.
We've got both of theseexisting within us.
(02:01):
You have a parent that istelling you here's the way that
you can move about the world,and you have your child that's
like I want to have fun and Iwant to be free and I want to
explore possibilities and I wantto see all of the magic that's
in the world.
And this podcast is a voice foryour can.
What I am doing in this podcastis bringing voice to your inner
(02:24):
child, to your inner creator,to that which in you knows that
there is so much possible foryou because actually you can.
We think we can't because thatvoice in our brain, the parent
voice, is very loud and when wethink about that as we're
growing up, our parents wantsafety for us, they want to show
(02:47):
us, they need to show us how tomove about the world so that we
don't hurt ourselves, so wedon't harm ourselves, so that we
do live a life that we love,that we're proud of, that we're
so capable in, and our parentsdo the best job that they can to
get us to that point and yetthis voice, this inner parent,
begins to come in.
(03:07):
That is a reflection somewhatof our parents, somewhat of our
teachers, other things that weexperience in the world that
become that voice of the parent.
It's what I call the innerjudge, the inner critic.
It has very much a.
This is the world that you livein.
Here is how you move about theworld.
(03:27):
It teaches us those things.
The problem for so many of us isthat we listen only or mostly
to that voice and we don't givevoice to our child.
I thought it was fascinating tothink about.
Craig thinks that the innerchild lives more in the gut.
There's so many of us who havegut issues and so many of us who
(03:50):
aren't listening to our innerchild, so that's something it's
more of a curiosity from himmore than a fact.
I thought that that was sofascinating.
But what is true and I know thisfrom working with hundreds,
hundreds of conversations withwomen it is so easy for us to
(04:10):
fight for the can't, our brain,automatically, the ego side of
our brain, our mind, our innerparent, our inner critic, our
inner judge, fights for thecan't.
It says you can't do that.
It fights for the limitations.
It has strong opinions.
It's very loud, it's verydemanding.
(04:32):
You do have that other voice.
You have the child inside ofyou.
The challenge that child hasbeen told to pipe down.
It's been told that its ideasare illogical, irresponsible,
not possible.
But that doesn't mean it's true.
That's what we get to the pointof realizing.
Is that just because the mindtells us something, just because
(04:55):
our parent tells us something,our parent brain, our actual
parent, actual society, whateverit is that is parenting us,
just because it says that it isso, doesn't mean that it's true?
And what we're doing in theworld of manifestation, what
we're doing in the world ofcoaching and helping people see
(05:19):
things differently, is to openup to the possibilities of the
can, this other voice inside ofus that has something to say.
And because we haven't beenletting it have its say, there
are things in us that areactually physically
uncomfortable and I've done alot of exploration on this for
(05:41):
myself.
So I'm going to give you anactual physical manifestation
that, if you did listen to DrCraig's episode, this might be
intriguing to you.
When I am out of alignment orwhen I am stressed, or when I am
anxious, when I am worried,when I am feeling overwhelmed
this is me, jen Liss in my bodyI feel this tight sensation
(06:04):
across my gut.
It's at the top of, like thevery bottom of my rib cage,
between the gut and between theupper half of me.
And when I have gone in anddone work I do somatic therapy
and somatic coaching when I goin and I do work with this area
of my body, it very clearly saysyou can't do that, you can't do
(06:30):
that.
And when I go a little bitdeeper there is another voice,
so this you can't do.
That voice is so loud andthere's physical sensation
happening in my body that Inever noticed for a long time.
But because I have been doingbreath work and I've been coming
back into my body and listeningto my body and beginning to
hear the messages that my bodyis telling me, I can hear it.
(06:54):
So if you don't hear messageslike this, I totally get it.
This was not me a couple yearsago, but I can hear the message
now that it's telling me.
It's very clear.
It says you can do that when Ihear that message and I say I
see you, I hear you, thank you,thank you so much physical
sensation for coming up in mybody and I say, what else is
(07:17):
here?
I hear a little voice deep inmy gut that says maybe I can,
what if you tried?
What if you could?
Wouldn't it be fun?
It's got all kinds of messages.
It doesn't just say you can't,it has all kinds of curious,
(07:38):
playful messages that existwithin my gut and this is going
to back up.
For those of you who listen toDr Craig, this is even going to
be really nail home what he said.
When I allow those two voices tomeet each other, when I say to
both of them I see you, I feelyou, I know you, I am you, thank
(08:05):
you, I say that to both of themthey meet in the heart and I
feel this loving, soothingenergy in my heart and this
strength and this power thatcomes in me.
That's like I hear this voiceinside of me that is saying that
you can't.
It's trying to protect me and Ihear this possibility and I
feel so empowered and so freeand so excited to go and try
something with this, knowingthat I'm listening to my inner
(08:29):
parent and this, knowing thatI'm listening to my inner child.
So I give this as an example ofhow the I can't can be
physically manifesting in ourbodies.
Now, this part in my stomach,if I don't listen, if I don't
pause and listen, it can getvery painful and I have had
(08:51):
physical symptoms that happen inmy body because I'm not
listening.
And that can happen because I'mnot listening to either side.
I'm not listening to the brain,I'm not listening to my gut.
They're both talking all thetime and yours might not be
manifesting in the same area.
In the same way.
Our bodies speak to us indifferent ways.
(09:12):
In the same area.
In the same way Our bodiesspeak to us in different ways.
But the work really is going andgiving voice, because the voice
of the child is so much quieter, it's so much more gentle, it's
so much more curious.
The voice of the parent is veryloud and demanding and, hello,
are you listening?
It's like putting the smackdown.
(09:33):
And so it's very obvious we canlisten to our parents easily,
we're guided by our parent, ourinner parent, so often, but
we're not giving voice to thatquieter, more gentle voice and
then that starts to manifest inour bodies as problems because
we're not listening, manifest inour bodies as problems because
(09:54):
we're not listening.
But there are plenty of thingsthat child is so curious and
there's so many things in theworld that have been done by
people listening to their innerchild, by listening to that
creative voice, that voice ofwonder.
Think about the Wright brothers.
They flew a plane.
People thought that was nutty.
No, that's not possible.
(10:16):
What are you doing?
You're going to get yourselfkilled.
If they had listened only tothat voice, they never would
have tried what they werecapable of doing.
Catherine Switzer, the firstwoman to run a marathon.
We don't really realize howclose we are to the moment when
people thought that womenphysically could not do that
(10:37):
kind of activity.
Women physically could not.
And what we are realizing?
There are women now who arerunning marathons faster and
faster and faster every year.
We used to think that, people,you get slower as you get older.
There are women who arestarting to run their marathons
(10:57):
faster.
And what does that take?
It takes a curiosity.
It takes us not listening tothe inner parent that's saying
you can't do that.
And these are extreme examples.
Of course, we're talking aboutthe first women to run a
marathon, who dressed indisguise and got people tried to
actually take her down whilerunning it.
Talk about parents parentingher from the sidelines and
(11:23):
hopping in and trying toactually physically stop her.
But it comes down to the teeny,tiny choices that we can be
making for ourselves andchoosing the behaviors that we
want to be engaging and that aretruly aligned to us.
It can come down to sharingsomething that's funny to us on
social media.
(11:43):
It comes to, you know, tryingsomething new in our jobs.
It comes to just having alittle bit more fun in our
day-to-day going for that walkthat we wanted to, skipping
along the path because it soundsfun.
That's a vote for your innerchild and who knows how that
could reverberate not just intoyour day but into somebody
(12:07):
else's Maybe.
Somebody sees you skip andthey're like, oh my gosh, look
at that person having so muchfun and it changes their day.
And all of this starts with usopening the door to being
curious around the can to findourselves more often spending
time in the maybe I can.
(12:30):
What if I could?
The maybe I can?
What if I could?
What would it be like if I did?
How often do we give voice tothat side.
We give voice so much to theother side, to the limitations,
to all the reasons that we can't, and when somebody's coming
(12:50):
into a coaching program andlooking forward to changing
something about their lives,they can get so stymied by all
of the reasons why this doesn'tmake sense, without ever even
trying to give voice to theother side.
So I'm going to give ushomework, kind of, from Dr Craig
(13:11):
.
It's a sort of homeworkassignment based on what he had
shared.
There's something in your lifethat you're curious about that
you might have some wonderaround, something that you might
want to do.
Maybe it's changing your job.
Maybe it's asking for a raise.
Maybe it's starting a business.
(13:32):
Maybe it's what if I could gosolo travel somewhere by myself?
Maybe it's moving to a wholenew city.
Maybe it's buying a home whenyou've been renting, what if
it's moving from a house to arental because you want to be
more untethered?
Something that you want to do.
(13:53):
So think about that thing andthen, when you do create a list
of all the things Actuallycreate two lists.
We're going to go divide downthe page.
Here's the thing that you wantto do Divide the page and on the
left side of the page page andon the left side of the page,
(14:17):
write all of the things thatwill happen if you do it, that
feel negative, that feellimiting, that feel like the
reasons that you shouldn't Listall of those reasons.
So take about two minutes, juststream of consciousness, all of
the things that feel like, okay,this is the reason that I can't
do this.
Go as far as you possibly can,as dramatic as you possibly can.
(14:41):
Then, on the right side, writeall of the things that could
happen if you did do it.
And go in the dreamy bigpossibilities fun, magical.
Doesn't matter how far you go.
It could be so ridiculous Ibecome a huge, big name,
(15:02):
celebrity and I get to sing onstage and I win an Oscar.
It could be that may or may notbe your dream that you can go
as big as you want.
I own a cruise ship.
Well, what is as big as youcould possibly go?
Go in both directions and thenget curious about what you see.
(15:27):
Get curious about what has comeup for you and then get curious
about what energetically feelsmost exciting about those
possibilities that you listed.
What do you see?
What is new, what feelsdifferent here?
And then we'll go in and askyour gut what it wants to do in
(15:58):
and ask your gut what it wantsto do.
So, after you do this exercise,come back and let's breathe
together on this.
Let's see what's here for you,let's see what possibilities
might be here, let's see whatdecision might be the best, most
aligned decision for you.
So, when you're ready, comingback here and sitting down doing
this exercise, sitting downwhere you can really tune in and
(16:19):
close down your eyes andgetting comfortable wherever it
is that you were sitting anddrawing an inhale in through the
nose, exhaling through yourmouth, completely letting that
full exhale go, closing downyour eyes if you haven't yet.
(16:45):
Just bringing your awareness toyour breath, the rise and the
fall of your belly, the rise andthe fall of your chest,
(17:12):
noticing how each inhalenaturally draws that air in,
filling the lungs, filling thebelly, each exhale pressing up
through the belly and out,following that pathway gently as
(17:34):
the air flows in and out.
Noticing the physicalsensations of the breath on the
nostrils, physical sensations ofthe expansion, the letting go,
(18:01):
bringing your awareness down tothe seat beneath you On your
next exhale, letting your bodybe held in your seat.
There you go Now, bringing yourawareness deeper into the body,
(18:25):
sinking that awareness downfrom the heart, down to the
belly, to the gut, consideringthis thing that you might do,
(18:51):
this thing that has been on yourmind, on your heart, and asking
yourself can I do it, lettingyour body respond, noticing any
(19:31):
sensations that arise, anythoughts that might arise?
Can I do it?
Taking a deep breath into thenose, exhaling out through the
(19:56):
mouth and asking a secondquestion what if I did?
What if I did?
Do it Noticing once again anysensations that arise in the
body, any thoughts that mightarise in the mind, thanking
(20:30):
these sensations, these thoughtsfor arising?
Taking another deep breath intothe nose, out through the mouth
?
Asking a final question Do Iwant to do it?
(20:56):
Noticing once again what arisesin terms of sensation, thoughts
, letting it arise withoutjudgment?
Do I want to?
(21:18):
You can repeat this process ifit feels good to you, if you'd
like to gain clarity on any ofthe answers, if you feel like
you have an answer, a response,a bit of clarity, joining me in
taking another final deep breathinto the nose and out through
(21:40):
the mouth, on that exhale wherethe chair or the seat meets your
seat, feeling your feetwiggling the toes, wiggling your
(22:08):
fingers, blinking your eyesopen and coming back into the
here and now the new sense ofclarity, of curiosity, maybe a
new sense of excitement to trysimply to be more open and
(22:33):
curious in a new way.
Thank you so much for listeningto this episode and enjoying
that exercise with me.
If there's something that yougained from this episode or that
exercise, I encourage you toshare this episode with somebody
who might gain something forthemselves.
You can forward this along tothem.
(22:54):
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share it on social media.
Tag me.
I'm untetheredjen on Instagram.
I'll always reshare your postsif you tag me and share.
Thanks again for listening.
You just keep shining yourmagical unicorn light out there
for all to see.
I'll see you next time, bye.
Hi and welcome to Untethered with Jen Liss, the
podcast that's here to help youbreak free, be you and unleash
your inner brilliance.
I'm your host, jen, and in thisepisode we're going to talk
about how actually you can.
It's Jen.
(00:33):
Welcome back to the podcast foranother Thursday Thread.
It's a Thursday Thread.
We are pulling a thread out ofTuesday's episode with Dr Craig
Farney Totes.
Cool, if you haven't listenedto that episode with Dr Craig,
I'm going to pull out a thought,a concept, an idea from that
episode that really resonatedwith me Now.
First of all, dr Craig is sucha fascinating person and we
(00:56):
talked about all kinds of thingsthat genuinely are so
fascinating to me right now aswell.
It is an excellent episode forthe curious, for if you're
manifestation curious, if youare curious about the quantum,
if you're curious about energywork, if you're curious about
kinesiology, body work,parasites that might be living
in your stomach and causing allkinds of things, energy in
(01:18):
general.
Please go listen to thatepisode.
And I really want to dive intothis concept that he talked
about of I can't versus I can,because a lot of us have a voice
in our head that says I can't.
Probably most of us, right,we've all got this voice that
(01:39):
says, no, you can't do that,versus the voice that says I can
do this.
And the truth is that both ofthose voices exist within you.
The can't voice is coming fromyour inner parent and the can
voice is coming from your innerchild.
We've got both of theseexisting within us.
(02:01):
You have a parent that istelling you here's the way that
you can move about the world,and you have your child that's
like I want to have fun and Iwant to be free and I want to
explore possibilities and I wantto see all of the magic that's
in the world.
And this podcast is a voice foryour can.
What I am doing in this podcastis bringing voice to your inner
(02:24):
child, to your inner creator,to that which in you knows that
there is so much possible foryou because actually you can.
We think we can't because thatvoice in our brain, the parent
voice, is very loud and when wethink about that as we're
growing up, our parents wantsafety for us, they want to show
(02:47):
us, they need to show us how tomove about the world so that we
don't hurt ourselves, so wedon't harm ourselves, so that we
do live a life that we love,that we're proud of, that we're
so capable in, and our parentsdo the best job that they can to
get us to that point and yetthis voice, this inner parent,
begins to come in.
(03:07):
That is a reflection somewhatof our parents, somewhat of our
teachers, other things that weexperience in the world that
become that voice of the parent.
It's what I call the innerjudge, the inner critic.
It has very much a.
This is the world that you livein.
Here is how you move about theworld.
(03:27):
It teaches us those things.
The problem for so many of us isthat we listen only or mostly
to that voice and we don't givevoice to our child.
I thought it was fascinating tothink about.
Craig thinks that the innerchild lives more in the gut.
There's so many of us who havegut issues and so many of us who
(03:50):
aren't listening to our innerchild, so that's something it's
more of a curiosity from himmore than a fact.
I thought that that was sofascinating.
But what is true and I know thisfrom working with hundreds,
hundreds of conversations withwomen it is so easy for us to
(04:10):
fight for the can't, our brain,automatically, the ego side of
our brain, our mind, our innerparent, our inner critic, our
inner judge, fights for thecan't.
It says you can't do that.
It fights for the limitations.
It has strong opinions.
It's very loud, it's verydemanding.
(04:32):
You do have that other voice.
You have the child inside ofyou.
The challenge that child hasbeen told to pipe down.
It's been told that its ideasare illogical, irresponsible,
not possible.
But that doesn't mean it's true.
That's what we get to the pointof realizing.
Is that just because the mindtells us something, just because
(04:55):
our parent tells us something,our parent brain, our actual
parent, actual society, whateverit is that is parenting us,
just because it says that it isso, doesn't mean that it's true?
And what we're doing in theworld of manifestation, what
we're doing in the world ofcoaching and helping people see
(05:19):
things differently, is to openup to the possibilities of the
can, this other voice inside ofus that has something to say.
And because we haven't beenletting it have its say, there
are things in us that areactually physically
uncomfortable and I've done alot of exploration on this for
(05:41):
myself.
So I'm going to give you anactual physical manifestation
that, if you did listen to DrCraig's episode, this might be
intriguing to you.
When I am out of alignment orwhen I am stressed, or when I am
anxious, when I am worried,when I am feeling overwhelmed
this is me, jen Liss in my bodyI feel this tight sensation
(06:04):
across my gut.
It's at the top of, like thevery bottom of my rib cage,
between the gut and between theupper half of me.
And when I have gone in anddone work I do somatic therapy
and somatic coaching when I goin and I do work with this area
of my body, it very clearly saysyou can't do that, you can't do
(06:30):
that.
And when I go a little bitdeeper there is another voice,
so this you can't do.
That voice is so loud andthere's physical sensation
happening in my body that Inever noticed for a long time.
But because I have been doingbreath work and I've been coming
back into my body and listeningto my body and beginning to
hear the messages that my bodyis telling me, I can hear it.
(06:54):
So if you don't hear messageslike this, I totally get it.
This was not me a couple yearsago, but I can hear the message
now that it's telling me.
It's very clear.
It says you can do that when Ihear that message and I say I
see you, I hear you, thank you,thank you so much physical
sensation for coming up in mybody and I say, what else is
(07:17):
here?
I hear a little voice deep inmy gut that says maybe I can,
what if you tried?
What if you could?
Wouldn't it be fun?
It's got all kinds of messages.
It doesn't just say you can't,it has all kinds of curious,
(07:38):
playful messages that existwithin my gut and this is going
to back up.
For those of you who listen toDr Craig, this is even going to
be really nail home what he said.
When I allow those two voices tomeet each other, when I say to
both of them I see you, I feelyou, I know you, I am you, thank
(08:05):
you, I say that to both of themthey meet in the heart and I
feel this loving, soothingenergy in my heart and this
strength and this power thatcomes in me.
That's like I hear this voiceinside of me that is saying that
you can't.
It's trying to protect me and Ihear this possibility and I
feel so empowered and so freeand so excited to go and try
something with this, knowingthat I'm listening to my inner
(08:29):
parent and this, knowing thatI'm listening to my inner child.
So I give this as an example ofhow the I can't can be
physically manifesting in ourbodies.
Now, this part in my stomach,if I don't listen, if I don't
pause and listen, it can getvery painful and I have had
(08:51):
physical symptoms that happen inmy body because I'm not
listening.
And that can happen because I'mnot listening to either side.
I'm not listening to the brain,I'm not listening to my gut.
They're both talking all thetime and yours might not be
manifesting in the same area.
In the same way.
Our bodies speak to us indifferent ways.
(09:12):
In the same area.
In the same way Our bodiesspeak to us in different ways.
But the work really is going andgiving voice, because the voice
of the child is so much quieter, it's so much more gentle, it's
so much more curious.
The voice of the parent is veryloud and demanding and, hello,
are you listening?
It's like putting the smackdown.
(09:33):
And so it's very obvious we canlisten to our parents easily,
we're guided by our parent, ourinner parent, so often, but
we're not giving voice to thatquieter, more gentle voice and
then that starts to manifest inour bodies as problems because
we're not listening, manifest inour bodies as problems because
(09:54):
we're not listening.
But there are plenty of thingsthat child is so curious and
there's so many things in theworld that have been done by
people listening to their innerchild, by listening to that
creative voice, that voice ofwonder.
Think about the Wright brothers.
They flew a plane.
People thought that was nutty.
No, that's not possible.
(10:16):
What are you doing?
You're going to get yourselfkilled.
If they had listened only tothat voice, they never would
have tried what they werecapable of doing.
Catherine Switzer, the firstwoman to run a marathon.
We don't really realize howclose we are to the moment when
people thought that womenphysically could not do that
(10:37):
kind of activity.
Women physically could not.
And what we are realizing?
There are women now who arerunning marathons faster and
faster and faster every year.
We used to think that, people,you get slower as you get older.
There are women who arestarting to run their marathons
(10:57):
faster.
And what does that take?
It takes a curiosity.
It takes us not listening tothe inner parent that's saying
you can't do that.
And these are extreme examples.
Of course, we're talking aboutthe first women to run a
marathon, who dressed indisguise and got people tried to
actually take her down whilerunning it.
Talk about parents parentingher from the sidelines and
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hopping in and trying toactually physically stop her.
But it comes down to the teeny,tiny choices that we can be
making for ourselves andchoosing the behaviors that we
want to be engaging and that aretruly aligned to us.
It can come down to sharingsomething that's funny to us on
social media.
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It comes to, you know, tryingsomething new in our jobs.
It comes to just having alittle bit more fun in our
day-to-day going for that walkthat we wanted to, skipping
along the path because it soundsfun.
That's a vote for your innerchild and who knows how that
could reverberate not just intoyour day but into somebody
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else's Maybe.
Somebody sees you skip andthey're like, oh my gosh, look
at that person having so muchfun and it changes their day.
And all of this starts with usopening the door to being
curious around the can to findourselves more often spending
time in the maybe I can.
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What if I could?
The maybe I can?
What if I could?
What would it be like if I did?
How often do we give voice tothat side.
We give voice so much to theother side, to the limitations,
to all the reasons that we can't, and when somebody's coming
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into a coaching program andlooking forward to changing
something about their lives,they can get so stymied by all
of the reasons why this doesn'tmake sense, without ever even
trying to give voice to theother side.
So I'm going to give ushomework, kind of, from Dr Craig
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.
It's a sort of homeworkassignment based on what he had
shared.
There's something in your lifethat you're curious about that
you might have some wonderaround, something that you might
want to do.
Maybe it's changing your job.
Maybe it's asking for a raise.
Maybe it's starting a business.
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Maybe it's what if I could gosolo travel somewhere by myself?
Maybe it's moving to a wholenew city.
Maybe it's buying a home whenyou've been renting, what if
it's moving from a house to arental because you want to be
more untethered?
Something that you want to do.
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So think about that thing andthen, when you do create a list
of all the things Actuallycreate two lists.
We're going to go divide downthe page.
Here's the thing that you wantto do Divide the page and on the
left side of the page page andon the left side of the page,
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write all of the things thatwill happen if you do it, that
feel negative, that feellimiting, that feel like the
reasons that you shouldn't Listall of those reasons.
So take about two minutes, juststream of consciousness, all of
the things that feel like, okay,this is the reason that I can't
do this.
Go as far as you possibly can,as dramatic as you possibly can.
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Then, on the right side, writeall of the things that could
happen if you did do it.
And go in the dreamy bigpossibilities fun, magical.
Doesn't matter how far you go.
It could be so ridiculous Ibecome a huge, big name,
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celebrity and I get to sing onstage and I win an Oscar.
It could be that may or may notbe your dream that you can go
as big as you want.
I own a cruise ship.
Well, what is as big as youcould possibly go?
Go in both directions and thenget curious about what you see.
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Get curious about what has comeup for you and then get curious
about what energetically feelsmost exciting about those
possibilities that you listed.
What do you see?
What is new, what feelsdifferent here?
And then we'll go in and askyour gut what it wants to do in
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and ask your gut what it wantsto do.
So, after you do this exercise,come back and let's breathe
together on this.
Let's see what's here for you,let's see what possibilities
might be here, let's see whatdecision might be the best, most
aligned decision for you.
So, when you're ready, comingback here and sitting down doing
this exercise, sitting downwhere you can really tune in and
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close down your eyes andgetting comfortable wherever it
is that you were sitting anddrawing an inhale in through the
nose, exhaling through yourmouth, completely letting that
full exhale go, closing downyour eyes if you haven't yet.
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Just bringing your awareness toyour breath, the rise and the
fall of your belly, the rise andthe fall of your chest,
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noticing how each inhalenaturally draws that air in,
filling the lungs, filling thebelly, each exhale pressing up
through the belly and out,following that pathway gently as
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the air flows in and out.
Noticing the physicalsensations of the breath on the
nostrils, physical sensations ofthe expansion, the letting go,
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bringing your awareness down tothe seat beneath you On your
next exhale, letting your bodybe held in your seat.
There you go Now, bringing yourawareness deeper into the body,
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sinking that awareness downfrom the heart, down to the
belly, to the gut, consideringthis thing that you might do,
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this thing that has been on yourmind, on your heart, and asking
yourself can I do it, lettingyour body respond, noticing any
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sensations that arise, anythoughts that might arise?
Can I do it?
Taking a deep breath into thenose, exhaling out through the
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mouth and asking a secondquestion what if I did?
What if I did?
Do it Noticing once again anysensations that arise in the
body, any thoughts that mightarise in the mind, thanking
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these sensations, these thoughtsfor arising?
Taking another deep breath intothe nose, out through the mouth
?
Asking a final question Do Iwant to do it?
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Noticing once again what arisesin terms of sensation, thoughts
, letting it arise withoutjudgment?
Do I want to?
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You can repeat this process ifit feels good to you, if you'd
like to gain clarity on any ofthe answers, if you feel like
you have an answer, a response,a bit of clarity, joining me in
taking another final deep breathinto the nose and out through
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the mouth, on that exhale wherethe chair or the seat meets your
seat, feeling your feetwiggling the toes, wiggling your
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fingers, blinking your eyesopen and coming back into the
here and now the new sense ofclarity, of curiosity, maybe a
new sense of excitement to trysimply to be more open and
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curious in a new way.
Thank you so much for listeningto this episode and enjoying
that exercise with me.
If there's something that yougained from this episode or that
exercise, I encourage you toshare this episode with somebody
who might gain something forthemselves.
You can forward this along tothem.
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You can also take a screenshotof the episode on your phone and
share it on social media.
Tag me.
I'm untetheredjen on Instagram.
I'll always reshare your postsif you tag me and share.
Thanks again for listening.
You just keep shining yourmagical unicorn light out there
for all to see.
I'll see you next time, bye.
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