In this episode of Vassalage: Truth, Lies, and Power, I confront my father's self-importance. For years, my father positioned himself as the most important person in our family — the provider, the authority, and the one who set the rules. And for a long time, I believed it. In this episode, I unpack how that belief took root, how culture reinforces it, and how power is maintained by making everyone else feel small. My sister and I stop trying to stay neutral and take a clear stand together. We challenge the idea that authority automatically equals importance — and for the first time, we speak as equals instead of pawns.
Along the way, I reflect on the stories that shaped our hope at the time — from Dead Poets Society and its message about solidarity challenging rigid authority, to real-world examples like the Jackson family and the Britney Spears conservatorship, where unity and collective voices disrupted long-standing control. As Season 1 nears its end, Not That Important lays the groundwork for what comes next. Because when everything is in writing, truth has nowhere to hide.
⚠️ Content Note:
This episode discusses sensitive themes and adult content, including suicide, abuse and coercive control, and may not be suitable for all listeners. If you or someone you know is struggling, call or text 988 in the U.S. for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline.
🎵 Music Credit:
Moonlight Sonata by Paul Pitman
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