September 11, 2024 • 47 mins
What if you could harness the limitless optimism of your youth to conquer life's most daunting challenges? Join me as I share a conversation I had with Korynn of what she would do if she had to navigate hardships of homelessness—envisioning life from a car, working multiple jobs, and saving up enough to buy a home—serves as a powerful reminder of the "mind over matter" mentality. Her tale is not just a testament to youthful optimism, but also a call to rekindle our own indomitable spirits.
Explore the profound themes of overcoming fear and self-doubt, embracing uniqueness, and the extraordinary power of starting over. We delve into the importance of giving ourselves time to grow, learning from our mistakes, and facing our fears head-on. Through our discussion, we learn that celebrating our unique paths, no matter how misunderstood, is vital for personal growth. This episode will inspire you to reset your mindset, let go of self-doubt, and face life’s obstacles with newfound confidence and determination.
Discover the transformative power of daily habits, mindfulness, and visualization in fostering mental and physical well-being. Through my personal experiences with meditation and visualization, I share how these practices have significantly impacted my life. From setting intentions to creating vision boards, we highlight tools that can help you achieve your goals. We also discuss the importance of simple daily routines, such as making your bed, reading, and physical exercise, in cultivating a positive mindset. Join us and learn how you can incorporate these practices to empower yourself and achieve emotional wellness through the power of mind over matter.
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Speaker 1 (00:02):
Hi, I am your host, leonett Talley, and you are
listening to Virago 24-7.
Virago is Latin for femalewarrior and 24-7 is for all day,
every day.
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together to talk about life andour experiences in this world.
We share our views on self-love, mental health, marriage,
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children, friendships and reallyanything that needs to be
talked about.
Here you will find everydaygrowth, everyday healing with
Everyday Warriors.
Good day, everybody.
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Hope you're all doing well.
I am fantastic.
I just finished some quiet timeand it was lovely All alone.
I sat outside.
Oh my gosh, the weather here inGeorgia right now.
The fall has become my favoriteseason.
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It used to be summer, but nowit is fall because, oh my gosh,
it's still warm, but not too hot, and it's not cold.
It's just perfect and thebreeze and the trees and
everything.
I'm just loving it.
So I was outside meditating andlistening to the sounds and it
was lovely.
So I am doing very well rightnow, as I hope you all are.
So I wanted to share this storywith you all from last week with
Korinne, my 14-year-old.
Yes, she's a teenager, yes,she's 14.
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And she's very savvy.
She's always been that way.
She was just kind of born withkind of understanding life and
things and always having anopinion and always having things
to say in a very confident way.
I know a lot of kids havethings to say but she comes with
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confidence.
But even though she is ateenager, she still has a very
childlike spirit and aninnocence to her.
So I don't know how we got onthis topic.
I don't remember we weregetting our nails done and she
was down before me.
So she sat there and juststarted talking about what she
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would do if she was down and out.
If she was ever down and out,maybe got evicted from her home
is how it started.
Her apartment, that she wouldlive in her car, and it
literally went from that to thiswhole story of her living in
her car.
She would panhandle.
If she didn't have any money,she would panhandle a few
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dollars so that she could eat,go somewhere to fix her hair,
maybe buy like a decent outfitso that she could go on job
interviews and she would work.
She's like I don't care, I'llwork at Starbucks and she's like
I think they make.
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I don't remember what she said.
I think she said like $15 anhour.
I said, wow, okay, well, youcan't really just live off that.
Even if you work full time,she's like, no, no, no, no, I'm
still living in my car.
Imagine if I lived in my car fora year and I got three jobs.
Because, really, what else doyou have to do?
You're just sleeping in yourcar.
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What do you get?
Because I'm like, well, whatare you going to do for sleep?
And because she says she's justgoing to work all the time, no,
no, she'll work her she'll.
She'll sleep her hours in thecar.
And she would set up the backas the bedroom and the front as
a living room.
And she just was.
You know, every time I wouldpoke a hole in in her story, she
had an answer.
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So after a year, she would have, you know, with taxes taken out
, about 80,000 something dollars.
She would have, you know, withtaxes taken out, about 80,000
something dollars, she wouldhave saved from her three jobs.
I think that's what we came upwith, something like that.
And then she would put a downpayment on a home.
And you know, when I say youknow childlike, it's just
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interesting how, when you're acertain age, when we're younger,
we don't realize the magnitudeof something like that.
For those who have had to gothrough that, how hard it is.
When she was telling the story,I'm like, wow, it's like mind
over matter.
Her in her mind.
She was going to get throughthis.
She was going to do everythingshe could to get through this
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moment so that she can rise onthe other side and persevere and
pretty much triumph with thisnew home.
After living in her car for ayear, she had this whole story
and then it just kind ofreminded me how we all have had
those moments in our lives,especially in childhood for a
lot of us, for some of us thathad traumatic childhoods.
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Maybe they didn't dream inthose ways, maybe they did, I
don't know.
But just thinking to yourselfthat I can do anything, mind
over matter, mind over matter iswhat kept coming into my head
when she was telling the storyand I was like, wow, well,
you're going to survive in thisworld is what I told her.
You're going to be a survivor,you're going to just make things
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happen.
And I told her mommy's notgoing to let you live in your
car.
But she's like, oh, I know, Iknow, I know, but if I had to,
if she had to, that was the planthat she would have.
She would work her butt off andshe would persevere, and I just
love that.
So I just thought about youknow, this whole mind over
matter, how, as adults, thingsjust happen where you know
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something puts out our fire,puts out our light, where we
thought we could do anything inthis world and be anybody and be
anything.
And things happen where ittells us or we tell ourselves no
, no, you can't.
And I hope and I pray that shecontinues with that spirit,
because it's freeing to think Ican do anything.
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So I had to look up thedefinition.
I love definitions.
Last year, I believe it wasI've talked about it briefly and
I received this gift from afriend.
It's a box and in this box arejust a lot of words, just little
cards with words on them.
And, corinne, I keep it in thecar.
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So, corinne, every two weeks orso she'll pick a new card and
even though you know the meaningof certain words, I like to
look up the definition because Iwant to know exactly what this
word and what.
And I try to embody this word.
You know, I remember, I'llremember it throughout the days
and weeks that it's in the carand when I drive it's, you know
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it's always there.
This week, I think it's union.
So every every week it's adifferent one, and I just love
it.
And so she'll look up thedefinition and we look at it
together and before she picksone she's like what are you
wanting?
And so, whatever I'm feeling inthat moment or the things that
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I'm wanting for myself, I'll say, okay, this is the word that I
want.
Maybe I want to be more calm orrelaxed, and it's funny how
sometimes it is something tothat effect.
It doesn't always happen thatway, but for me it's all about
manifestation.
But so I looked up the wordmind over matter.
What does that mean?
And it says the power of themind to control and influence
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the body and the physical world.
And influence the body and thephysical world.
And that's powerful man, tothink that our minds are that
strong and that powerful tochange how we move through this
world.
And you know just her thinkingthat she is going to survive,
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not thinking that she willsurvive no matter what is put in
front of her, was refreshingfor me that how come we're not
all like that?
And so I wanted to talk aboutmind over matter, and so I look
some stuff up.
I'm always loving to researchthings and in the process of
that, I have friends that willsend me things on social media,
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they'll send me videos, and it'salways I've learned to just sit
still and let God and theuniverse speak to me, and that's
the thing that keeps coming up.
The past few weeks is like yourmind is powerful Because I tend
to go into the negative.
My natural instinct is to gointo the negative.
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Woe is me.
Gloom and doom.
The sky is falling, the worldis over, the world is ending.
So that is my natural way ofliving and I've been very
purposeful of really working onthat.
And anything that I read I tryto do.
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I try to do the exercises Ifthere's exercises to get there.
I'm changing my habits.
It works.
It's hard, I'm not alwaysperfect at it, but I do it.
I do it because I don't want tobe a negative, nancy, and so a
lot of the things that have beencoming up is mind over matter,
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putting positive things in yourhead, knowing that God has a
purpose for us, knowing that weall have our gifts, and just
literally telling myself thatwhen my mind goes towards I'm
not good enough.
I can't do this.
Life sucks.
I have to give myself pep talksis what I'm not.
Good enough, I can't do.
This Life sucks, I have to givemyself pep talks is what I've
always told people.
I just give myself pep talksliterally all the time, almost
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daily, if not weekly for sure.
Giving myself pep talks on no,don't think that way.
Or meditation has really helpedwhere and we'll get through
some things and meditation wasone of them, you'll see, is
really huge for helping us withhaving mind over matter, because
you're clearing your mind.
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And someone asked me a fewweeks ago you know how do you
just not think?
And I'm like well, no, I thinkthe purpose is that we all, as
humans, think too darn much,especially women.
We gosh will think the crap outof a topic and ruminate and
ruminate and ruminate, and thepurpose of this is to clear our
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minds and if a thought does comein you, just, you know,
respectfully, let it go anddon't let it sit there forever
and just literally let it passthrough your mind.
And it's been super helpful forme, but we'll get to that in a
minute.
So really, this podcast is forme to hold myself accountable
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and, if anything that I say youcan hold on to and practice for
yourself.
That's wonderful, but reallyit's just a reminder for me to
keep going, mind over matter,that my mind is powerful.
And so I found some articles.
The first one I was like, okay,I really have to read this one,
because first we need tobelieve in ourselves and then we
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can find the techniques to helpus with our negative thoughts.
So I found this article calledFive Things to Remember when you
Don't Believe in Yourself, andit's from lifehackorg.
And this one I'm going to readbecause the first few paragraphs
I'm like wow, this is I don'tknow.
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I felt it, I felt it in myspirit.
So it says when I picture life,I picture us all walking down
our own winding path, pulling awagon behind us.
Each person's wagon is filledwith their self-belief and
self-worth, walking down thepath of life, carrying our inner
beliefs.
We happily trundle along thepath toward whatever our own
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goal is.
But sometimes life isn't sobreezy.
It feels like it is so easy toget your wagon knocked over.
You are there, trundling alongwith your wagon, filled with
nuggets of self-worth andself-esteem, walking
purposefully towards your goals,and it can just take one person
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with one perfectly timedcomment to knock your
self-esteem someone you trustand respect, to say something
critical, a negative thought youhave about yourself not being
good enough, a comparativethought about yourself to other,
more successful people, andyour wagon gets tipped over.
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You stand there looking at yourself-esteem dumped all over the
place and you think, my God,how do I clean this all up?
The wagon is too heavy to tipback up.
I'm not enough to do it all bymyself.
What if they are right?
Doubt and self-loathing creepin and, instead of trying, you
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just sit down and look into thedark behind you, reliving all of
your failures.
There can be many reasons thatwe don't believe in ourselves.
We don't believe in ourselvesbecause someone told us we
shouldn't.
We fear failure and we focus onall the times we have failed.
We focus on the lack in ourlife instead of the abundance.
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We have never had the supportto build up our self-esteem in
the first place.
It's hard when you don'tbelieve in yourself.
It's hard to do anything whenyou don't believe you can do it.
However, there have been somany times in your life where
you didn't believe in yourselfand you had to prove yourself
wrong.
You had to get back up and flipthe wagon over and prove to
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yourself that you could.
You overcome obstacles beforethat were just as big as this
one right now, so don't beafraid of it.
So I read this and I was like,oh shoot, I could totally relate
to that.
And I have to share thisbecause it was beautifully
written.
I can just picture that thewagon's been dumped and you're
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just like holy crap.
I can just picture that thewagon's been dumped and you're
just like holy crap, like whatdo I do now?
And it's so hard to undo thosefeelings and emotions.
And so the author of thisarticle has given us five things
to remember.
Are we ready to do this?
Because we're going to do thistogether.
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And if you're already doing it,just remind yourself every day
when you try to you know whenyour wagon tips over.
So the first one is opinionsaren't facts, which I love.
Oh my gosh, in today's world,so many opinions.
We all know, we all have them,we read them daily.
If you're on social media, it'sexhausting, it's depressing.
But those opinions are notfacts.
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It's just how people perceiveit, and a lot of us will take
what someone says and hold it asthe truth and it's not the
truth.
So I know it's hard and I'mliterally right now and that
I've talked about it where Iwant to start making videos and
putting myself out there more.
But damn, this one, theopinions of these people out
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there, it's hard to ignore, butwe got to do it.
We got to do it.
We have to remind ourselvesthey're not facts.
Number two is growth takes time.
She says give yourself a break.
This is so important.
If you don't believe inyourself, you are still growing.
You is so important.
If you don't believe inyourself, you are still growing.
You are still learning.
You're failing and learningagain and no one has all the
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answers and there's no right wayto do something.
You're just growing and you'regoing to make mistakes and that
doesn't make you a bad person ora failure.
It makes you human who isgrowing.
So I love that.
She says that we're just alldoing the best that we can with
the tools that we have.
And if we have a lot of toolslike some of us are readers and
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we're podcast listeners andwe're just trying to take all
this information in we got to dosomething with it.
But also, if we don't do itperfectly, then we don't beat
ourselves up because we'reeveryday growing, everyday
healing with everyday warriors.
So I did love that one.
Number three fear can't stop you.
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Whoa, a lot of us, includingmyself, my gosh we just allow
fear just to paralyze us, andthat's something that I just
want to just drop from myvocabulary.
The can't, the fear, the wordcan't and you know Philip tells
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me about his mom always sayingthat he wasn't allowed to use
that word can't and I love thatbecause I see that he's
confident and he never says Ican't.
I've never heard him say hecan't do anything except maybe
fix things around the house.
He doesn't say can't, he's justI'd rather not, I don't want to
.
But the word can't rarelyleaves his mouth, it's always
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he's just not going to do it andthe things that he does, it's
just it's awesome to watchbecause he'll just persevere and
listen.
Stuff gets thrown at that manand he just handles it with
grace, which I love.
So she says let's chat aboutyour fear.
When you don't believe inyourself, it is most likely that
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you are afraid to, to beyourself and put yourself out
there.
You risk being criticized forwho you are and that is scary
and, as we learned from opinions.
It can really damage yourself-belief.
I'm going to read all of thisone because this is my favorite
one, because I struggle for itand I'm pretty sure I'm not
alone.
So she continues sayingbelieving in yourself takes
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bravery.
You have to be the one whopushes you forward and believes
in you.
If you don't, you just standstill.
You have to believe in yourselfto move forward, and fear holds
you back.
Fear holds you back from tryingin case you fall or fail and
fall.
Fear stops you letting go ofopinions in case they are right
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and you'll have to go throughthis again.
And fear stops you from movingforward.
So she says let go of fear.
Adventure forward with carelessabandon.
Face your fears only one by oneand say I see you fear and I
know everything I want is on theother side of you.
I see you and I am afraid, butI'm going to face you and move
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past you anyway and face theconsequences of my actions
because I believe in myself andI can handle anything.
I love that.
I love that.
I should write that down andjust keep it somewhere.
Listen, fear, get out of myface.
That's a good one.
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I'm still working on it.
I cannot wait for the day whereI just fear nothing.
It's weird because I don't feara lot of things Like, I don't
fear people per se.
I'm a hard ass when it comes topeople Like, if, if I don't, if
, if I don't feel something, orif I don't like you, or if I
feel threatened, I have noproblems.
You know defending myself inthat way, but for some reason,
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concepts or things or or youknow putting myself out there or
, yeah, being judged for somereason, yeah, that scares me.
But there's other things whereI'm just like yeah, no, that
does not scare me at all.
Like how people?
I have a whole plan foranything like physical Like, if
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someone's coming up on me, Ialways have my.
I'm always looking behind myback.
I'm always like, have my headon a swivel, so I'm always hyper
alert, but when it comes tothis, I just let it overtake me.
I let certain things paralyzeme where I'm like all right, I'm
going to retreat into my, myyou know my comfortable little
home and bubble.
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Number four you are unique.
You are unique, she says and Isay this with all the passion in
the world you are different.
You walked on your own uniqueand wonderful path.
Not everyone is going tounderstand it, but that is how
history is made.
It is made by people who no onebelieved in, who stood up,
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defied fear and doubt and saidwhat they believed, what.
I love that one, this wholething.
When I read it I was just like,oh, got it, got it.
Listen.
We got to start with believingin ourselves so we can do mind
over matter.
And the last one, number fiveyou are capable of restarting.
So it says your self-esteem hasbeen knocked and you are at a
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place full of self-doubt.
It's time to let go of thesedoubts, fears and self-loathing
thoughts so you can move forward.
It is time to reset yourmindset and life, draw a line in
the sand and refuse to letself-doubt cross it.
I love it.
And then, if you want to go,I'm not going to read all of it,
but it gives some steps on howto restart and redefine and all
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of that.
There's like three steps.
So, now that we believe inourselves again, this is
lifehackorg the five things thatwe need to know or to remember
in believing in ourselves.
Now that we believe inourselves, what methods can we
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do?
What habits can we start doingso that we can have our mind
strengthened so that we can doanything, and it's something
that I need, because wheneverything is good, my mind over
matter is on point.
I am like flying high, I'm abeast, I'm the best, I'm just
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like what?
Nothing can stop me.
When everything is just laidout the way it should, things
that are unexpected come my way,that's when I really need these
, because that's when I'm justlike see, the negativity comes
out.
See, I knew it, see, I knew it.
I knew I wasn't meant for this.
And I'm trying to teach my kids, especially Kayla, now that
she's in the workforce that andthis is something that I have to
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remember myself.
And we see all these quotesonline of when a door opens and
another one closes, all aboutthese doors.
But I really, truly, trulybelieve, and if I just go back
into my life, there's justcertain things that weren't,
aren't meant for us and we getso worked up about.
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Oh my gosh, I really wantedthat.
And yeah, I tell Kaylin, yes,yes, I know you really wanted it
, but that was not meant for you.
Or, if it is, it's not meantfor you right this minute.
It's not meant for you rightnow.
It doesn't mean never.
It just means like this is notthe time.
What God has meant for you,whatever he has, won't pass you
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by, won't pass by you.
And there was another thingthat I read that said the
universe will never give youpeace in something you were
never meant to settle in.
And that just makes sense, man.
So we get so caught up in thesethings, including myself.
Listen when I say you know,when I'm saying these things,
it's because it's stuff that I'mgoing through currently, or I
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have gone through, and it's justlearning together, which I love
.
That's the whole point ofVirago.
We're learning and growing andhealing together.
So with that, nolongere longeremptycom is the website no
longer emptycom.
And on this website there is anarticle, a blog, that is the 11
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proven methods to achieve mindover matter.
So now we believe in ourselves,now our minds are going to be
strong and we're going topersevere.
So, number one meditate.
I touched briefly on meditation.
If you guys have been listeningto this podcast from day one,
you will know that meditationwas never on my radar.
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I always used to think thatmeditation was frou-frou and for
those yoga people and for thoselike spiritual, you know, blow
with the wind, sand on your feet, grounding type people right.
And I went on a retreat withwell, it was a girl's trip.
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It was just me and my friendTanika and she's fabulous
because she's always finding newthings for us to do.
So this was a wellness placethat we went to in Arizona and
there were different classesthat we can sign up for, and
then she had the bright idea ofsigning up for a meditation
class at 7am for one hour.
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So for someone who has nevermeditated, didn't think she
could, didn't really want to, Ididn't want to go and I wasn't
going to sign up.
I said, listen, girl, this isalso my vacay and I would just
like to just sleep in and go,sit by the pool and go to my
foo-foo classes about how to,you know, have a happy life and
all these things.
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And I gave in, I gave in.
I show up to this meditationclass.
It's guided.
The girl that was leading it wasjust so zen, everything about
her was just so zen.
I'm like, wow, I could befriends with her.
But within this hour it was themost powerful hour, one of the
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most things, most impactfulthings.
In my life I've had a lot ofimpactful things, but this one
really changed how I seemeditation and how I see on
things that I'm capable of doing.
It was so intense.
I cried, I wanted to leave thestudio because I was shaking and
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I was trying to keep the big,loud boo-hoo sounds.
I was trying to contain them,but the tears were just coming
down and it was like I let go.
And ever since then I don'tmeditate for an hour, I do 10
minutes, which, when I meditatedtoday for 10 minutes, I was
like you know what?
I think I can go longer because10 minutes is going by so fast.
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I remember when 10 minutes wasan eternity and I do a guided
one with the Calm app.
I have the Calm app on my phoneand there's 10 minute
meditations on there that Idon't do daily, but I try to do
at least once a week and I don'tbeat myself up.
I used to beat myself up whenI'm like this is my goal, I'm
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going to do it every day andit's going to be wonderful.
I don't beat myself up.
If I do it, I do it.
If I don't, I don't.
It's okay.
It's not the end of the world.
But on this trip, meditation wasthis new thing that I wanted to
do because it literally justunlocked something within me.
And also on that trip in adifferent class that I was in
with a different instructor, shesays she gets people coming up
to her all the time Like I can'tmeditate or I can't do yoga or
I can't do this, and she's likeI just look at them and she's
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like, yeah, you're right.
And she and she said they'realways so shocked because
they're wanting me to be like no, you can't, and give my you
know, give them pep talks on howthey should do.
And she's like no, you can't,you're right, you can't.
The fact that you say you can'tmeans that you can't, so you
have to want to do something anddo it.
And if you can't do it, thenyou're right.
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So either way, you're right.
And I was just like damn thiswhole trip was, was?
It just opened up my senses andmy emotions.
So it says that when youmeditate, you're working towards
changing the state of your mindand body and, like I said
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before, it's not about havinglike an empty head, which I
think that's the goal, butthat's not realistic.
So when I was sitting outsidewhich man?
I prefer to meditate outsidebecause the sounds keep me
present and the sounds of thebirds or the trees rustling.
They keep me present and mymind doesn't wander as much when
I'm in nature, which isinteresting.
So meditation is so helpful toclear our minds and connect with
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our body and our breathing andit's just become something that
I really really enjoy doing andit also helps me even if I'm
like driving, say I'm drivingand obviously I can't close my
eyes to meditate, but ifanything negative comes in my
head, especially when I'mdriving, because I get really
really, really like annoyed withpeople and their driving skills
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so I do it to calm myself andto release the negative emotions
or the negative thoughts.
Number two of the 11 provenmethods to achieve mind over
matter.
Number two is visualize, whichI'm a huge, huge, huge believer
in visualization.
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It has worked for me and manythings in my life, which is
weird because I love tovisualize and anything that I
have visualized something assimple as the car I drive or the
way our kitchen was going tolook before we had water damage
and they had to rip out ourwhole kitchen.
I would literally stand thereand visualize it and visualize
it, and visualize it andvisualize me cooking in there.
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It's weird, the little, thethings that I visualized.
I visualized our, our mainbathroom, in our bedroom.
If you've been listening, youknow the journey of our kitchen
and our and our bathroom and allthe water damage has happened
in our house for the past sixyears.
I feel like it's every year buteven though it's always in a
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tragic way, the end result isamazing and it's everything that
I visualized.
And it's every year, but eventhough it's always in a tragic
way, the end result is amazingand it's everything that I
visualized.
And it's so funny that I lovethis visualization because I
feel like you're manifestingthings.
But there's just certain thingsthat, like this podcast, like I
visualized it, but it took meforever to even start it and
then even just to get to thenext level that I want to get to
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.
It's in my head, but I'm not.
I visualize it, but there'sstill a roadblock and so I'm
trying to figure that part out.
But visualization, meditation,visualization are like.
Those are definitely on my listof things that I'm going to
continue to do.
Number three is set an intention.
So it's just writing down goals, which is another thing that I
love doing Writing down yourgoals and putting down what you
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want to achieve, whether it'sdaily, weekly, monthly, yearly.
I've said this before where meand Phillip, my husband, we sit
down every year.
We put down our goals and youknow what, if it doesn't happen
that year and if it's somethingthat we still want as our goal,
we just put it on to the nextyear, so we don't stress out
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over it happening right away.
Some things are meant to happenright away, but it's good for
those who need to check thingsoff their list and it's become
very powerful for me.
I just did a vision board withBrianna, who's been on the show,
and Shiny you all know the twoof them and the three of us.
I've done vision boards before,but neither of them have done
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one before and so we sat in myshe cave and we had magazines
everywhere and our boards and itwas so fun, because that's
visualization.
Anything that you put on thisboard and you put it somewhere
where you can look at it everyday, it's powerful.
It really, really, really ispowerful.
And I went back to the veryfirst one that I did.
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I don't have everything crossedoff.
There's a few things, one ortwo things, but everything else
I'm like, hey, I'm on my way.
Either I accomplished it or I'mon my way to accomplishing it,
which is super, super powerful.
So, vision boards I'm all abouta vision board and we had so
much fun making it.
It was interesting how we allhad our separate ways of doing
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it and our own technique, but itwas awesome and now we all have
our vision boards.
I'm just trying to figure outwhere to put mine.
They already have theirsalready hung up and mine's just
sitting here on the table nextto my microphone and I just have
to find a place for it.
So, number four talk toyourself.
So I don't know how many of youtalk to yourselves.
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I literally talk to myself allthe time.
All the time.
I have voices in my head notbad voices, but I have voices in
my head telling me so manythings and I have to talk back
to them in my head, like what'sup, which one's real, which
one's not, which one do I follow?
And I literally have to givemyself pep talks.
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I really, really do.
In 2018, I was having I'vealways had panic attacks.
I've had them since I was like12.
And in 2018, it just kind ofhit the ceiling, where I was
like this is not working for meanymore.
I feel like at that time I washaving like so many.
It just depends on the year andwhat's happening.
Some years I get like one thatyear and then other years are
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constant.
So I believe that year, if Iremember correctly, I was having
a lot of them and I didn't knowwhat they were.
No one ever gave me what it was, gave it a name, until I went
to the doctor, I described itand finally she's like these are
panic attacks and no one evergave it a name.
But ever since then, now that Iunderstand what is happening,
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and then she put you know, sheput me on medication.
I was on medication for maybelike a year and a half, I
believe.
It was like a small dose ofZoloft to kind of help with my
anxiety and my nerves, and Itook it for a year and a half
and then decided, you know what,I don't want to do it anymore.
But since then I have to givemyself pep talks.
So when I'm feeling anxiousabout something or if a panic
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attack is coming on, justrealizing that this is just
temporary, it's going to go by,I give myself pep talks.
If I'm feeling anxious when I'mdriving, which is a lot of
times.
Another thing that used tocause me anxiety not much
anymore was things being inplace in my house, like the
kitchen being a certain way, youknow, dishes being put away.
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If anything was out of place itwould just rile me right up and
just change my mood not in agood way and realizing that
that's not normal, that we needto fix that.
And so I literally will have, Ihad to give myself pep talks
Like it's not that serious, whyare you feeling this way?
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And it really works.
There's certain things thatjust don't cause me all of that
anxiety anymore, and it's allbecause of the pep talks and the
positive talks of you got thisgirl, you can do this.
You're not going to allowlittle things like that destroy
your emotions and your attitude.
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Number five change your habits.
You know that's hard to do andon here on this article, I'm not
going to read everything, butit literally, with each one,
will give you exercises on howto achieve those things.
So, like I said, I'm not goingto read through each one.
Go to nolongeremptycom 11things that can achieve mind
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over matter, and so that'll giveyou exercises on how to do
certain things.
So if you want to meditate,it'll tell you what you need to
do to do that.
And with this one it just talksabout habits and how you can
create a habit, and I believe itsays it's the 2190 rule of
habit creation.
So go to that website for thoseanswers.
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And number six removetemptations.
So this one is aboutdecluttering and organizing your
space and putting your phoneaway or turning off the TV in
order to get things done, soremoving distractions from you.
Maybe that's why I likeorganization, because I feel
when things are in place it justmakes my mind feel calm.
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And so a lot of the spaces inmy home.
Brianna, she's like why do youalways talk about your anxiety
with things being out of order?
But your house is fine?
I'm like well, yeah, it is, butthere's just certain things
that aren't perfect and I justhave to be OK with that.
So decluttering is huge to me.
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That clutters my mind and Idon't like that.
Feeling More power to those whodon't care about clutter.
I know a few friends that itdoes not faze them one bit.
I wish I could be more likethem, or maybe not, I don't know
.
But I think it's freeing tojust be able to live and not
worry about what's around you.
That's not me.
So number six that was again,remove temptations, okay.
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Number six that was againremove temptations, okay.
Number seven is practiceself-affirmations.
So this is it's basicallysaying looking in the mirror and
saying you are gorgeous, youare beautiful, you are smart,
you is important, those kinds ofthings.
I don't do that that much.
I'm weird about affirmingmyself.
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I don't look in the mirror andsay, oh my gosh, you're
beautiful.
Oh my gosh, you're gorgeous.
It makes me feel weird.
Maybe that's something that Ineed to work on.
I don't look in the mirror andsay you are so smart.
I just don't affirm myself inthose ways.
And even when someone affirmsme in that way, it makes me
uncomfortable, where I havelearned just to say thank you,
even if I am uncomfortable,accept the compliment and keep
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it moving and figure that crapout on your own.
I just need to work on that.
On the affirmations, I don't dothat, but telling yourself that
you're amazing is supposed tohelp us with mind over matter.
Number eight this is a big one,forgive.
Let's read this one One reasonwhy mind over matter doesn't
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work for a lot of people isbecause they can't get over past
failures or hurt.
Wow, I was there.
I've been there until maybelike a year or two ago, or I.
Just I had a hard time lettinggo of a lot of things from the
past.
Little by little, I've done itand it's been super hard.
So, anyways, it continues tosay they believe that because
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things didn't work out before,or that they've been scarred,
they probably aren't going towork out in the present or
future.
By ditching this way ofthinking and focusing on what
you can do differently, you aremuch more likely to see success
with your willpower and mentalstate.
Huh, and then it continues tosay a powerful method to get
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over the past is to doforgiveness work, so forgiving
yourself and those who havewronged you, and can release the
tremendous burden that you'vebeen carrying.
Imagine the weight of anger,resentment, hatred and hostility
that one feels towards theperson who offended them.
Pardoning past discretions isfreeing, and there's a whole
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exercise on how to do it.
So go to no longer emptycom.
And I'm not promoting them oranything, it's just I don't want
to read.
It's a long article, I don'twant to read all of it, but
there is an exercise on how tolet go of the past and forgive,
which is super duper, duper hardfor the majority of us.
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Number nine is very simple and Iwas like, hmm, it says make
your bed.
It says the simple act ofmaking your bed in the morning
can pave the way for the rest ofyour day.
A tidy bed is a task completed.
So it says this seemingly smalljob is motivational and
encourages you to tackle othertasks.
So interesting, I don't alwaysmake my bed, but when I do, it
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does feel what?
Okay, I shouldn't say I don'tmake it, I just don't make it
perfectly, which, um, yeah, um,you know, I just kind of move
the covers around so they're allmumble, jumble but it's not
perfect.
But when I do do do itperfectly, it does make you feel
like a sense of accomplishment,like, wow, I can check this off
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my to-do list and it's onlyeight o'clock in the morning.
So yeah, make your bed.
Make your bed, that'll help.
And number 10, read books.
I like that one.
I think it's meaning to likeread, like self-help books.
But I've been reading otherbooks and I like books about the
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people, like any person thatcan create strong characters of
just everyday people and likethe crap that they go through.
I've started.
I know she's been around for along time, but I just started
reading her books ElinHildebrand, I believe, is how
you pronounce her name so Istarted.
I picked one up at a thriftstore.
It was like a dollar.
I was like, oh, I picked one upat a thrift store, it was like
a dollar.
I was like, oh, I'll take this,I like to read it, and it was
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the summertime and I like beachynovels and.
But like her characters, I justlike everyday people and like
their issues and how theyovercome them.
And I know it's fictional, butI love that.
But I also love a goodself-help book.
So it says you can learn a lotfrom other people who have
harnessed the power of mind overmatter, and books are some of
the best ways to collect thatinformation.
And it says you might besurprised at the large number of
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books that are out there thatcan help you strengthen your
willpower and unleash the powerof your mind.
I have noticed with books,though when I have read them in
the past, it just seemed like Iwas reading like Japanese, and
if I were to go read it againtoday, it would hit differently
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and I feel like it's just Iwasn't ready for it at that time
.
There's certain times where wecan read a self-help book or
listen to a podcast and it'sjust not going to hit you
differently.
Or you just think, oh well,that's not something I can do,
that's for other people.
Or yeah's just not going to hityou differently.
Or you just think, oh well,that's not something I can do,
that's for other people.
Or yeah, that's not going towork for me, that's for someone
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else, and we're just not readyfor it.
I mean, it's not a right orwrong thing, it's just where we
are in our lives.
And there's many things that Ihave read in the past where I
was just like, yeah, that was awaste of my time, that I would
love to go back and read now andsee if it hits differently
since I have, you know, madesome strides in my growth and my
healing.
Number 11, we all know this move, exercise, move, move, move.
It's common knowledge thatexercise is a wonderful tool to
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increase physical and mentalhealth.
Physical activity improves yourmental performance, decrease
anxiety and give you a muchstronger willpower.
So, moving, moving, moving.
I'm all about that.
After I had my third child, Ididn't like the way my body felt
.
I didn't like the way it looked.
I said I got to start workingout and I did.
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I took up CrossFit.
I'd been doing it boot camp,crossfit, whatever we want to
call it until this year and,like I said a few podcasts ago,
I do need to go back and talk tothe new trainer and see if I
can just come in like once ortwice a week.
But I've been loving yoga andI've been loving Pilates and
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I've been walking in nature withthe trees.
I go to this park.
I drop Corinne off when shewants to go skating and, if you
know, there's times depending onhow long she'll be there.
Sometimes it doesn't make senseto go home.
So there's a park nearby and itwas a working farm back back,
back back in the day, and nowit's just trails and you can go.
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It's just beautiful.
You're just surrounded bynature and I'll go there when I
don't want to drive back home.
This park has been so soothingfor me.
So walking and meditating andjust moving your body and
thinking it, that's what yoga isteaching me is, instead of
looking at my imperfections inthe mirror and pointing out all
the things that I don't likeabout myself, man, I focus on
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the things that make me who I amand the things that my body can
do.
I think it's just been sofreeing where I look at it as
powerful and I love that.
I'm healthy and it's just great.
Yeah, so moving around, move,move, move.
We all know that we should bedoing it.
Some of us don't, but evenwalking, we don't have to go to
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the gym, just go outside, walkaround.
That helps.
So that is the 11 things thatwe can achieve.
Mind over matter.
And the way she ends is mindover matter no longer has to be
saying that you hear otherpeople embrace or talk about.
Instead, it can be somethingyou actively practice to better
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your life and achieve your goalsin the future.
So then she says try out thetips above to see what a
difference they make for you andthe power of your mind on a
daily basis.
And I can't imagine that wehave to do all of them.
We can do one or two is whatshe says.
We can do all of them, we cando whatever, whatever fits your
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lifestyle and what you think youneed to focus on.
I love all 11.
I feel like I've dabbled inalmost each one, but want to
perfect certain things.
So, man, I feel better.
Do you guys feel better?
Are we mind over matter?
Are we ready to conquer theworld?
Are we ready to do some things?
I think I am.
I think I am.
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I saw this thing on Pinterestthat I'm like all right if this
list was overwhelming.
This one seems a little biteasier to do and it's funny how,
when you're listening to theuniverse and you're sitting,
still this one just randomlypopped up as I was researching
for what I wanted to talk about.
So on Pinterest it popped upyou need three daily wins.
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So if you can't do all 11 ofthose or you just want to start
small three daily wins.
There's physical wins walking,running, lifting, swimming, et
cetera.
A mental win is reading,writing, creating, learning, et
cetera.
And a spiritual win praying,meditating, studying, growing
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and then at the end it says be acomplete winner.
So physical win, mental winsand spiritual wins, and I'm like
, oh, that simplifies all ofthese things and I think that
can help with mind over matter.
It's just doing those thingsdaily and I'm going to use that.
I'm going to start doing that.
I'm going to start winning.
I'm going to start winning.
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I love you all.
I thank you for listening to meand listening to my rant, but
this is helpful and I hope wecan just do this together,
because, man, life is hard andour minds are powerful, though.
We got this and we can do this,so I'm going to be working on
all these things, working onbelieving in myself and working
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on my mind over matter.
I will leave you all with this.
You have this one life.
How do you want to spend it?
Apologizing, regretting,questioning, hating yourself,
dieting, running after peoplewho don't see you?
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Be brave, believe in yourself,do what feels good, take risks.
You have this one life.
Make yourself proud.
See you all.
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Good day, everybody.
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Hope you're all doing well.
I am fantastic.
I just finished some quiet timeand it was lovely All alone.
I sat outside.
Oh my gosh, the weather here inGeorgia right now.
The fall has become my favoriteseason.
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It used to be summer, but nowit is fall because, oh my gosh,
it's still warm, but not too hot, and it's not cold.
It's just perfect and thebreeze and the trees and
everything.
I'm just loving it.
So I was outside meditating andlistening to the sounds and it
was lovely.
So I am doing very well rightnow, as I hope you all are.
So I wanted to share this storywith you all from last week with
Korinne, my 14-year-old.
Yes, she's a teenager, yes,she's 14.
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And she's very savvy.
She's always been that way.
She was just kind of born withkind of understanding life and
things and always having anopinion and always having things
to say in a very confident way.
I know a lot of kids havethings to say but she comes with
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confidence.
But even though she is ateenager, she still has a very
childlike spirit and aninnocence to her.
So I don't know how we got onthis topic.
I don't remember we weregetting our nails done and she
was down before me.
So she sat there and juststarted talking about what she
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would do if she was down and out.
If she was ever down and out,maybe got evicted from her home
is how it started.
Her apartment, that she wouldlive in her car, and it
literally went from that to thiswhole story of her living in
her car.
She would panhandle.
If she didn't have any money,she would panhandle a few
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dollars so that she could eat,go somewhere to fix her hair,
maybe buy like a decent outfitso that she could go on job
interviews and she would work.
She's like I don't care, I'llwork at Starbucks and she's like
I think they make.
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I don't remember what she said.
I think she said like $15 anhour.
I said, wow, okay, well, youcan't really just live off that.
Even if you work full time,she's like, no, no, no, no, I'm
still living in my car.
Imagine if I lived in my car fora year and I got three jobs.
Because, really, what else doyou have to do?
You're just sleeping in yourcar.
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What do you get?
Because I'm like, well, whatare you going to do for sleep?
And because she says she's justgoing to work all the time, no,
no, she'll work her she'll.
She'll sleep her hours in thecar.
And she would set up the backas the bedroom and the front as
a living room.
And she just was.
You know, every time I wouldpoke a hole in in her story, she
had an answer.
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So after a year, she would have, you know, with taxes taken out
, about 80,000 something dollars.
She would have, you know, withtaxes taken out, about 80,000
something dollars, she wouldhave saved from her three jobs.
I think that's what we came upwith, something like that.
And then she would put a downpayment on a home.
And you know, when I say youknow childlike, it's just
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interesting how, when you're acertain age, when we're younger,
we don't realize the magnitudeof something like that.
For those who have had to gothrough that, how hard it is.
When she was telling the story,I'm like, wow, it's like mind
over matter.
Her in her mind.
She was going to get throughthis.
She was going to do everythingshe could to get through this
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moment so that she can rise onthe other side and persevere and
pretty much triumph with thisnew home.
After living in her car for ayear, she had this whole story
and then it just kind ofreminded me how we all have had
those moments in our lives,especially in childhood for a
lot of us, for some of us thathad traumatic childhoods.
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Maybe they didn't dream inthose ways, maybe they did, I
don't know.
But just thinking to yourselfthat I can do anything, mind
over matter, mind over matter iswhat kept coming into my head
when she was telling the storyand I was like, wow, well,
you're going to survive in thisworld is what I told her.
You're going to be a survivor,you're going to just make things
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happen.
And I told her mommy's notgoing to let you live in your
car.
But she's like, oh, I know, Iknow, I know, but if I had to,
if she had to, that was the planthat she would have.
She would work her butt off andshe would persevere, and I just
love that.
So I just thought about youknow, this whole mind over
matter, how, as adults, thingsjust happen where you know
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something puts out our fire,puts out our light, where we
thought we could do anything inthis world and be anybody and be
anything.
And things happen where ittells us or we tell ourselves no
, no, you can't.
And I hope and I pray that shecontinues with that spirit,
because it's freeing to think Ican do anything.
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So I had to look up thedefinition.
I love definitions.
Last year, I believe it wasI've talked about it briefly and
I received this gift from afriend.
It's a box and in this box arejust a lot of words, just little
cards with words on them.
And, corinne, I keep it in thecar.
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So, corinne, every two weeks orso she'll pick a new card and
even though you know the meaningof certain words, I like to
look up the definition because Iwant to know exactly what this
word and what.
And I try to embody this word.
You know, I remember, I'llremember it throughout the days
and weeks that it's in the carand when I drive it's, you know
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it's always there.
This week, I think it's union.
So every every week it's adifferent one, and I just love
it.
And so she'll look up thedefinition and we look at it
together and before she picksone she's like what are you
wanting?
And so, whatever I'm feeling inthat moment or the things that
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I'm wanting for myself, I'll say, okay, this is the word that I
want.
Maybe I want to be more calm orrelaxed, and it's funny how
sometimes it is something tothat effect.
It doesn't always happen thatway, but for me it's all about
manifestation.
But so I looked up the wordmind over matter.
What does that mean?
And it says the power of themind to control and influence
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the body and the physical world.
And influence the body and thephysical world.
And that's powerful man, tothink that our minds are that
strong and that powerful tochange how we move through this
world.
And you know just her thinkingthat she is going to survive,
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not thinking that she willsurvive no matter what is put in
front of her, was refreshingfor me that how come we're not
all like that?
And so I wanted to talk aboutmind over matter, and so I look
some stuff up.
I'm always loving to researchthings and in the process of
that, I have friends that willsend me things on social media,
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they'll send me videos, and it'salways I've learned to just sit
still and let God and theuniverse speak to me, and that's
the thing that keeps coming up.
The past few weeks is like yourmind is powerful Because I tend
to go into the negative.
My natural instinct is to gointo the negative.
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Woe is me.
Gloom and doom.
The sky is falling, the worldis over, the world is ending.
So that is my natural way ofliving and I've been very
purposeful of really working onthat.
And anything that I read I tryto do.
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I try to do the exercises Ifthere's exercises to get there.
I'm changing my habits.
It works.
It's hard, I'm not alwaysperfect at it, but I do it.
I do it because I don't want tobe a negative, nancy, and so a
lot of the things that have beencoming up is mind over matter,
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putting positive things in yourhead, knowing that God has a
purpose for us, knowing that weall have our gifts, and just
literally telling myself thatwhen my mind goes towards I'm
not good enough.
I can't do this.
Life sucks.
I have to give myself pep talksis what I'm not.
Good enough, I can't do.
This Life sucks, I have to givemyself pep talks is what I've
always told people.
I just give myself pep talksliterally all the time, almost
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daily, if not weekly for sure.
Giving myself pep talks on no,don't think that way.
Or meditation has really helpedwhere and we'll get through
some things and meditation wasone of them, you'll see, is
really huge for helping us withhaving mind over matter, because
you're clearing your mind.
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And someone asked me a fewweeks ago you know how do you
just not think?
And I'm like well, no, I thinkthe purpose is that we all, as
humans, think too darn much,especially women.
We gosh will think the crap outof a topic and ruminate and
ruminate and ruminate, and thepurpose of this is to clear our
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minds and if a thought does comein you, just, you know,
respectfully, let it go anddon't let it sit there forever
and just literally let it passthrough your mind.
And it's been super helpful forme, but we'll get to that in a
minute.
So really, this podcast is forme to hold myself accountable
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and, if anything that I say youcan hold on to and practice for
yourself.
That's wonderful, but reallyit's just a reminder for me to
keep going, mind over matter,that my mind is powerful.
And so I found some articles.
The first one I was like, okay,I really have to read this one,
because first we need tobelieve in ourselves and then we
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can find the techniques to helpus with our negative thoughts.
So I found this article calledFive Things to Remember when you
Don't Believe in Yourself, andit's from lifehackorg.
And this one I'm going to readbecause the first few paragraphs
I'm like wow, this is I don'tknow.
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I felt it, I felt it in myspirit.
So it says when I picture life,I picture us all walking down
our own winding path, pulling awagon behind us.
Each person's wagon is filledwith their self-belief and
self-worth, walking down thepath of life, carrying our inner
beliefs.
We happily trundle along thepath toward whatever our own
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goal is.
But sometimes life isn't sobreezy.
It feels like it is so easy toget your wagon knocked over.
You are there, trundling alongwith your wagon, filled with
nuggets of self-worth andself-esteem, walking
purposefully towards your goals,and it can just take one person
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with one perfectly timedcomment to knock your
self-esteem someone you trustand respect, to say something
critical, a negative thought youhave about yourself not being
good enough, a comparativethought about yourself to other,
more successful people, andyour wagon gets tipped over.
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You stand there looking at yourself-esteem dumped all over the
place and you think, my God,how do I clean this all up?
The wagon is too heavy to tipback up.
I'm not enough to do it all bymyself.
What if they are right?
Doubt and self-loathing creepin and, instead of trying, you
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just sit down and look into thedark behind you, reliving all of
your failures.
There can be many reasons thatwe don't believe in ourselves.
We don't believe in ourselvesbecause someone told us we
shouldn't.
We fear failure and we focus onall the times we have failed.
We focus on the lack in ourlife instead of the abundance.
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We have never had the supportto build up our self-esteem in
the first place.
It's hard when you don'tbelieve in yourself.
It's hard to do anything whenyou don't believe you can do it.
However, there have been somany times in your life where
you didn't believe in yourselfand you had to prove yourself
wrong.
You had to get back up and flipthe wagon over and prove to
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yourself that you could.
You overcome obstacles beforethat were just as big as this
one right now, so don't beafraid of it.
So I read this and I was like,oh shoot, I could totally relate
to that.
And I have to share thisbecause it was beautifully
written.
I can just picture that thewagon's been dumped and you're
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just like holy crap.
I can just picture that thewagon's been dumped and you're
just like holy crap, like whatdo I do now?
And it's so hard to undo thosefeelings and emotions.
And so the author of thisarticle has given us five things
to remember.
Are we ready to do this?
Because we're going to do thistogether.
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And if you're already doing it,just remind yourself every day
when you try to you know whenyour wagon tips over.
So the first one is opinionsaren't facts, which I love.
Oh my gosh, in today's world,so many opinions.
We all know, we all have them,we read them daily.
If you're on social media, it'sexhausting, it's depressing.
But those opinions are notfacts.
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It's just how people perceiveit, and a lot of us will take
what someone says and hold it asthe truth and it's not the
truth.
So I know it's hard and I'mliterally right now and that
I've talked about it where Iwant to start making videos and
putting myself out there more.
But damn, this one, theopinions of these people out
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there, it's hard to ignore, butwe got to do it.
We got to do it.
We have to remind ourselvesthey're not facts.
Number two is growth takes time.
She says give yourself a break.
This is so important.
If you don't believe inyourself, you are still growing.
You is so important.
If you don't believe inyourself, you are still growing.
You are still learning.
You're failing and learningagain and no one has all the
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answers and there's no right wayto do something.
You're just growing and you'regoing to make mistakes and that
doesn't make you a bad person ora failure.
It makes you human who isgrowing.
So I love that.
She says that we're just alldoing the best that we can with
the tools that we have.
And if we have a lot of toolslike some of us are readers and
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we're podcast listeners andwe're just trying to take all
this information in we got to dosomething with it.
But also, if we don't do itperfectly, then we don't beat
ourselves up because we'reeveryday growing, everyday
healing with everyday warriors.
So I did love that one.
Number three fear can't stop you.
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Whoa, a lot of us, includingmyself, my gosh we just allow
fear just to paralyze us, andthat's something that I just
want to just drop from myvocabulary.
The can't, the fear, the wordcan't and you know Philip tells
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me about his mom always sayingthat he wasn't allowed to use
that word can't and I love thatbecause I see that he's
confident and he never says Ican't.
I've never heard him say hecan't do anything except maybe
fix things around the house.
He doesn't say can't, he's justI'd rather not, I don't want to
.
But the word can't rarelyleaves his mouth, it's always
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he's just not going to do it andthe things that he does, it's
just it's awesome to watchbecause he'll just persevere and
listen.
Stuff gets thrown at that manand he just handles it with
grace, which I love.
So she says let's chat aboutyour fear.
When you don't believe inyourself, it is most likely that
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you are afraid to, to beyourself and put yourself out
there.
You risk being criticized forwho you are and that is scary
and, as we learned from opinions.
It can really damage yourself-belief.
I'm going to read all of thisone because this is my favorite
one, because I struggle for itand I'm pretty sure I'm not
alone.
So she continues sayingbelieving in yourself takes
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bravery.
You have to be the one whopushes you forward and believes
in you.
If you don't, you just standstill.
You have to believe in yourselfto move forward, and fear holds
you back.
Fear holds you back from tryingin case you fall or fail and
fall.
Fear stops you letting go ofopinions in case they are right
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and you'll have to go throughthis again.
And fear stops you from movingforward.
So she says let go of fear.
Adventure forward with carelessabandon.
Face your fears only one by oneand say I see you fear and I
know everything I want is on theother side of you.
I see you and I am afraid, butI'm going to face you and move
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past you anyway and face theconsequences of my actions
because I believe in myself andI can handle anything.
I love that.
I love that.
I should write that down andjust keep it somewhere.
Listen, fear, get out of myface.
That's a good one.
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I'm still working on it.
I cannot wait for the day whereI just fear nothing.
It's weird because I don't feara lot of things Like, I don't
fear people per se.
I'm a hard ass when it comes topeople Like, if, if I don't, if
, if I don't feel something, orif I don't like you, or if I
feel threatened, I have noproblems.
You know defending myself inthat way, but for some reason,
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concepts or things or or youknow putting myself out there or
, yeah, being judged for somereason, yeah, that scares me.
But there's other things whereI'm just like yeah, no, that
does not scare me at all.
Like how people?
I have a whole plan foranything like physical Like, if
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someone's coming up on me, Ialways have my.
I'm always looking behind myback.
I'm always like, have my headon a swivel, so I'm always hyper
alert, but when it comes tothis, I just let it overtake me.
I let certain things paralyzeme where I'm like all right, I'm
going to retreat into my, myyou know my comfortable little
home and bubble.
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Number four you are unique.
You are unique, she says and Isay this with all the passion in
the world you are different.
You walked on your own uniqueand wonderful path.
Not everyone is going tounderstand it, but that is how
history is made.
It is made by people who no onebelieved in, who stood up,
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defied fear and doubt and saidwhat they believed, what.
I love that one, this wholething.
When I read it I was just like,oh, got it, got it.
Listen.
We got to start with believingin ourselves so we can do mind
over matter.
And the last one, number fiveyou are capable of restarting.
So it says your self-esteem hasbeen knocked and you are at a
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place full of self-doubt.
It's time to let go of thesedoubts, fears and self-loathing
thoughts so you can move forward.
It is time to reset yourmindset and life, draw a line in
the sand and refuse to letself-doubt cross it.
I love it.
And then, if you want to go,I'm not going to read all of it,
but it gives some steps on howto restart and redefine and all
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of that.
There's like three steps.
So, now that we believe inourselves again, this is
lifehackorg the five things thatwe need to know or to remember
in believing in ourselves.
Now that we believe inourselves, what methods can we
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do?
What habits can we start doingso that we can have our mind
strengthened so that we can doanything, and it's something
that I need, because wheneverything is good, my mind over
matter is on point.
I am like flying high, I'm abeast, I'm the best, I'm just
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like what?
Nothing can stop me.
When everything is just laidout the way it should, things
that are unexpected come my way,that's when I really need these
, because that's when I'm justlike see, the negativity comes
out.
See, I knew it, see, I knew it.
I knew I wasn't meant for this.
And I'm trying to teach my kids, especially Kayla, now that
she's in the workforce that andthis is something that I have to
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remember myself.
And we see all these quotesonline of when a door opens and
another one closes, all aboutthese doors.
But I really, truly, trulybelieve, and if I just go back
into my life, there's justcertain things that weren't,
aren't meant for us and we getso worked up about.
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Oh my gosh, I really wantedthat.
And yeah, I tell Kaylin, yes,yes, I know you really wanted it
, but that was not meant for you.
Or, if it is, it's not meantfor you right this minute.
It's not meant for you rightnow.
It doesn't mean never.
It just means like this is notthe time.
What God has meant for you,whatever he has, won't pass you
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by, won't pass by you.
And there was another thingthat I read that said the
universe will never give youpeace in something you were
never meant to settle in.
And that just makes sense, man.
So we get so caught up in thesethings, including myself.
Listen when I say you know,when I'm saying these things,
it's because it's stuff that I'mgoing through currently, or I
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have gone through, and it's justlearning together, which I love
.
That's the whole point ofVirago.
We're learning and growing andhealing together.
So with that, nolongere longeremptycom is the website no
longer emptycom.
And on this website there is anarticle, a blog, that is the 11
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proven methods to achieve mindover matter.
So now we believe in ourselves,now our minds are going to be
strong and we're going topersevere.
So, number one meditate.
I touched briefly on meditation.
If you guys have been listeningto this podcast from day one,
you will know that meditationwas never on my radar.
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I always used to think thatmeditation was frou-frou and for
those yoga people and for thoselike spiritual, you know, blow
with the wind, sand on your feet, grounding type people right.
And I went on a retreat withwell, it was a girl's trip.
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It was just me and my friendTanika and she's fabulous
because she's always finding newthings for us to do.
So this was a wellness placethat we went to in Arizona and
there were different classesthat we can sign up for, and
then she had the bright idea ofsigning up for a meditation
class at 7am for one hour.
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So for someone who has nevermeditated, didn't think she
could, didn't really want to, Ididn't want to go and I wasn't
going to sign up.
I said, listen, girl, this isalso my vacay and I would just
like to just sleep in and go,sit by the pool and go to my
foo-foo classes about how to,you know, have a happy life and
all these things.
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And I gave in, I gave in.
I show up to this meditationclass.
It's guided.
The girl that was leading it wasjust so zen, everything about
her was just so zen.
I'm like, wow, I could befriends with her.
But within this hour it was themost powerful hour, one of the
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most things, most impactfulthings.
In my life I've had a lot ofimpactful things, but this one
really changed how I seemeditation and how I see on
things that I'm capable of doing.
It was so intense.
I cried, I wanted to leave thestudio because I was shaking and
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I was trying to keep the big,loud boo-hoo sounds.
I was trying to contain them,but the tears were just coming
down and it was like I let go.
And ever since then I don'tmeditate for an hour, I do 10
minutes, which, when I meditatedtoday for 10 minutes, I was
like you know what?
I think I can go longer because10 minutes is going by so fast.
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I remember when 10 minutes wasan eternity and I do a guided
one with the Calm app.
I have the Calm app on my phoneand there's 10 minute
meditations on there that Idon't do daily, but I try to do
at least once a week and I don'tbeat myself up.
I used to beat myself up whenI'm like this is my goal, I'm
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going to do it every day andit's going to be wonderful.
I don't beat myself up.
If I do it, I do it.
If I don't, I don't.
It's okay.
It's not the end of the world.
But on this trip, meditation wasthis new thing that I wanted to
do because it literally justunlocked something within me.
And also on that trip in adifferent class that I was in
with a different instructor, shesays she gets people coming up
to her all the time Like I can'tmeditate or I can't do yoga or
I can't do this, and she's likeI just look at them and she's
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like, yeah, you're right.
And she and she said they'realways so shocked because
they're wanting me to be like no, you can't, and give my you
know, give them pep talks on howthey should do.
And she's like no, you can't,you're right, you can't.
The fact that you say you can'tmeans that you can't, so you
have to want to do something anddo it.
And if you can't do it, thenyou're right.
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So either way, you're right.
And I was just like damn thiswhole trip was, was?
It just opened up my senses andmy emotions.
So it says that when youmeditate, you're working towards
changing the state of your mindand body and, like I said
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before, it's not about havinglike an empty head, which I
think that's the goal, butthat's not realistic.
So when I was sitting outsidewhich man?
I prefer to meditate outsidebecause the sounds keep me
present and the sounds of thebirds or the trees rustling.
They keep me present and mymind doesn't wander as much when
I'm in nature, which isinteresting.
So meditation is so helpful toclear our minds and connect with
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our body and our breathing andit's just become something that
I really really enjoy doing andit also helps me even if I'm
like driving, say I'm drivingand obviously I can't close my
eyes to meditate, but ifanything negative comes in my
head, especially when I'mdriving, because I get really
really, really like annoyed withpeople and their driving skills
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so I do it to calm myself andto release the negative emotions
or the negative thoughts.
Number two of the 11 provenmethods to achieve mind over
matter.
Number two is visualize, whichI'm a huge, huge, huge believer
in visualization.
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It has worked for me and manythings in my life, which is
weird because I love tovisualize and anything that I
have visualized something assimple as the car I drive or the
way our kitchen was going tolook before we had water damage
and they had to rip out ourwhole kitchen.
I would literally stand thereand visualize it and visualize
it, and visualize it andvisualize me cooking in there.
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It's weird, the little, thethings that I visualized.
I visualized our, our mainbathroom, in our bedroom.
If you've been listening, youknow the journey of our kitchen
and our and our bathroom and allthe water damage has happened
in our house for the past sixyears.
I feel like it's every year buteven though it's always in a
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tragic way, the end result isamazing and it's everything that
I visualized.
And it's every year, but eventhough it's always in a tragic
way, the end result is amazingand it's everything that I
visualized.
And it's so funny that I lovethis visualization because I
feel like you're manifestingthings.
But there's just certain thingsthat, like this podcast, like I
visualized it, but it took meforever to even start it and
then even just to get to thenext level that I want to get to
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.
It's in my head, but I'm not.
I visualize it, but there'sstill a roadblock and so I'm
trying to figure that part out.
But visualization, meditation,visualization are like.
Those are definitely on my listof things that I'm going to
continue to do.
Number three is set an intention.
So it's just writing down goals, which is another thing that I
love doing Writing down yourgoals and putting down what you
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want to achieve, whether it'sdaily, weekly, monthly, yearly.
I've said this before where meand Phillip, my husband, we sit
down every year.
We put down our goals and youknow what, if it doesn't happen
that year and if it's somethingthat we still want as our goal,
we just put it on to the nextyear, so we don't stress out
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over it happening right away.
Some things are meant to happenright away, but it's good for
those who need to check thingsoff their list and it's become
very powerful for me.
I just did a vision board withBrianna, who's been on the show,
and Shiny you all know the twoof them and the three of us.
I've done vision boards before,but neither of them have done
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one before and so we sat in myshe cave and we had magazines
everywhere and our boards and itwas so fun, because that's
visualization.
Anything that you put on thisboard and you put it somewhere
where you can look at it everyday, it's powerful.
It really, really, really ispowerful.
And I went back to the veryfirst one that I did.
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I don't have everything crossedoff.
There's a few things, one ortwo things, but everything else
I'm like, hey, I'm on my way.
Either I accomplished it or I'mon my way to accomplishing it,
which is super, super powerful.
So, vision boards I'm all abouta vision board and we had so
much fun making it.
It was interesting how we allhad our separate ways of doing
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it and our own technique, but itwas awesome and now we all have
our vision boards.
I'm just trying to figure outwhere to put mine.
They already have theirsalready hung up and mine's just
sitting here on the table nextto my microphone and I just have
to find a place for it.
So, number four talk toyourself.
So I don't know how many of youtalk to yourselves.
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I literally talk to myself allthe time.
All the time.
I have voices in my head notbad voices, but I have voices in
my head telling me so manythings and I have to talk back
to them in my head, like what'sup, which one's real, which
one's not, which one do I follow?
And I literally have to givemyself pep talks.
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I really, really do.
In 2018, I was having I'vealways had panic attacks.
I've had them since I was like12.
And in 2018, it just kind ofhit the ceiling, where I was
like this is not working for meanymore.
I feel like at that time I washaving like so many.
It just depends on the year andwhat's happening.
Some years I get like one thatyear and then other years are
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constant.
So I believe that year, if Iremember correctly, I was having
a lot of them and I didn't knowwhat they were.
No one ever gave me what it was, gave it a name, until I went
to the doctor, I described itand finally she's like these are
panic attacks and no one evergave it a name.
But ever since then, now that Iunderstand what is happening,
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and then she put you know, sheput me on medication.
I was on medication for maybelike a year and a half, I
believe.
It was like a small dose ofZoloft to kind of help with my
anxiety and my nerves, and Itook it for a year and a half
and then decided, you know what,I don't want to do it anymore.
But since then I have to givemyself pep talks.
So when I'm feeling anxiousabout something or if a panic
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attack is coming on, justrealizing that this is just
temporary, it's going to go by,I give myself pep talks.
If I'm feeling anxious when I'mdriving, which is a lot of
times.
Another thing that used tocause me anxiety not much
anymore was things being inplace in my house, like the
kitchen being a certain way, youknow, dishes being put away.
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If anything was out of place itwould just rile me right up and
just change my mood not in agood way and realizing that
that's not normal, that we needto fix that.
And so I literally will have, Ihad to give myself pep talks
Like it's not that serious, whyare you feeling this way?
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And it really works.
There's certain things thatjust don't cause me all of that
anxiety anymore, and it's allbecause of the pep talks and the
positive talks of you got thisgirl, you can do this.
You're not going to allowlittle things like that destroy
your emotions and your attitude.
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Number five change your habits.
You know that's hard to do andon here on this article, I'm not
going to read everything, butit literally, with each one,
will give you exercises on howto achieve those things.
So, like I said, I'm not goingto read through each one.
Go to nolongeremptycom 11things that can achieve mind
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over matter, and so that'll giveyou exercises on how to do
certain things.
So if you want to meditate,it'll tell you what you need to
do to do that.
And with this one it just talksabout habits and how you can
create a habit, and I believe itsays it's the 2190 rule of
habit creation.
So go to that website for thoseanswers.
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And number six removetemptations.
So this one is aboutdecluttering and organizing your
space and putting your phoneaway or turning off the TV in
order to get things done, soremoving distractions from you.
Maybe that's why I likeorganization, because I feel
when things are in place it justmakes my mind feel calm.
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And so a lot of the spaces inmy home.
Brianna, she's like why do youalways talk about your anxiety
with things being out of order?
But your house is fine?
I'm like well, yeah, it is, butthere's just certain things
that aren't perfect and I justhave to be OK with that.
So decluttering is huge to me.
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That clutters my mind and Idon't like that.
Feeling More power to those whodon't care about clutter.
I know a few friends that itdoes not faze them one bit.
I wish I could be more likethem, or maybe not, I don't know
.
But I think it's freeing tojust be able to live and not
worry about what's around you.
That's not me.
So number six that was again,remove temptations, okay.
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Number six that was againremove temptations, okay.
Number seven is practiceself-affirmations.
So this is it's basicallysaying looking in the mirror and
saying you are gorgeous, youare beautiful, you are smart,
you is important, those kinds ofthings.
I don't do that that much.
I'm weird about affirmingmyself.
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I don't look in the mirror andsay, oh my gosh, you're
beautiful.
Oh my gosh, you're gorgeous.
It makes me feel weird.
Maybe that's something that Ineed to work on.
I don't look in the mirror andsay you are so smart.
I just don't affirm myself inthose ways.
And even when someone affirmsme in that way, it makes me
uncomfortable, where I havelearned just to say thank you,
even if I am uncomfortable,accept the compliment and keep
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it moving and figure that crapout on your own.
I just need to work on that.
On the affirmations, I don't dothat, but telling yourself that
you're amazing is supposed tohelp us with mind over matter.
Number eight this is a big one,forgive.
Let's read this one One reasonwhy mind over matter doesn't
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work for a lot of people isbecause they can't get over past
failures or hurt.
Wow, I was there.
I've been there until maybelike a year or two ago, or I.
Just I had a hard time lettinggo of a lot of things from the
past.
Little by little, I've done itand it's been super hard.
So, anyways, it continues tosay they believe that because
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things didn't work out before,or that they've been scarred,
they probably aren't going towork out in the present or
future.
By ditching this way ofthinking and focusing on what
you can do differently, you aremuch more likely to see success
with your willpower and mentalstate.
Huh, and then it continues tosay a powerful method to get
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over the past is to doforgiveness work, so forgiving
yourself and those who havewronged you, and can release the
tremendous burden that you'vebeen carrying.
Imagine the weight of anger,resentment, hatred and hostility
that one feels towards theperson who offended them.
Pardoning past discretions isfreeing, and there's a whole
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exercise on how to do it.
So go to no longer emptycom.
And I'm not promoting them oranything, it's just I don't want
to read.
It's a long article, I don'twant to read all of it, but
there is an exercise on how tolet go of the past and forgive,
which is super duper, duper hardfor the majority of us.
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Number nine is very simple and Iwas like, hmm, it says make
your bed.
It says the simple act ofmaking your bed in the morning
can pave the way for the rest ofyour day.
A tidy bed is a task completed.
So it says this seemingly smalljob is motivational and
encourages you to tackle othertasks.
So interesting, I don't alwaysmake my bed, but when I do, it
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does feel what?
Okay, I shouldn't say I don'tmake it, I just don't make it
perfectly, which, um, yeah, um,you know, I just kind of move
the covers around so they're allmumble, jumble but it's not
perfect.
But when I do do do itperfectly, it does make you feel
like a sense of accomplishment,like, wow, I can check this off
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my to-do list and it's onlyeight o'clock in the morning.
So yeah, make your bed.
Make your bed, that'll help.
And number 10, read books.
I like that one.
I think it's meaning to likeread, like self-help books.
But I've been reading otherbooks and I like books about the
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people, like any person thatcan create strong characters of
just everyday people and likethe crap that they go through.
I've started.
I know she's been around for along time, but I just started
reading her books ElinHildebrand, I believe, is how
you pronounce her name so Istarted.
I picked one up at a thriftstore.
It was like a dollar.
I was like, oh, I picked one upat a thrift store, it was like
a dollar.
I was like, oh, I'll take this,I like to read it, and it was
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the summertime and I like beachynovels and.
But like her characters, I justlike everyday people and like
their issues and how theyovercome them.
And I know it's fictional, butI love that.
But I also love a goodself-help book.
So it says you can learn a lotfrom other people who have
harnessed the power of mind overmatter, and books are some of
the best ways to collect thatinformation.
And it says you might besurprised at the large number of
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books that are out there thatcan help you strengthen your
willpower and unleash the powerof your mind.
I have noticed with books,though when I have read them in
the past, it just seemed like Iwas reading like Japanese, and
if I were to go read it againtoday, it would hit differently
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and I feel like it's just Iwasn't ready for it at that time
.
There's certain times where wecan read a self-help book or
listen to a podcast and it'sjust not going to hit you
differently.
Or you just think, oh well,that's not something I can do,
that's for other people.
Or yeah's just not going to hityou differently.
Or you just think, oh well,that's not something I can do,
that's for other people.
Or yeah, that's not going towork for me, that's for someone
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else, and we're just not readyfor it.
I mean, it's not a right orwrong thing, it's just where we
are in our lives.
And there's many things that Ihave read in the past where I
was just like, yeah, that was awaste of my time, that I would
love to go back and read now andsee if it hits differently
since I have, you know, madesome strides in my growth and my
healing.
Number 11, we all know this move, exercise, move, move, move.
It's common knowledge thatexercise is a wonderful tool to
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increase physical and mentalhealth.
Physical activity improves yourmental performance, decrease
anxiety and give you a muchstronger willpower.
So, moving, moving, moving.
I'm all about that.
After I had my third child, Ididn't like the way my body felt
.
I didn't like the way it looked.
I said I got to start workingout and I did.
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I took up CrossFit.
I'd been doing it boot camp,crossfit, whatever we want to
call it until this year and,like I said a few podcasts ago,
I do need to go back and talk tothe new trainer and see if I
can just come in like once ortwice a week.
But I've been loving yoga andI've been loving Pilates and
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I've been walking in nature withthe trees.
I go to this park.
I drop Corinne off when shewants to go skating and, if you
know, there's times depending onhow long she'll be there.
Sometimes it doesn't make senseto go home.
So there's a park nearby and itwas a working farm back back,
back back in the day, and nowit's just trails and you can go.
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It's just beautiful.
You're just surrounded bynature and I'll go there when I
don't want to drive back home.
This park has been so soothingfor me.
So walking and meditating andjust moving your body and
thinking it, that's what yoga isteaching me is, instead of
looking at my imperfections inthe mirror and pointing out all
the things that I don't likeabout myself, man, I focus on
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the things that make me who I amand the things that my body can
do.
I think it's just been sofreeing where I look at it as
powerful and I love that.
I'm healthy and it's just great.
Yeah, so moving around, move,move, move.
We all know that we should bedoing it.
Some of us don't, but evenwalking, we don't have to go to
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the gym, just go outside, walkaround.
That helps.
So that is the 11 things thatwe can achieve.
Mind over matter.
And the way she ends is mindover matter no longer has to be
saying that you hear otherpeople embrace or talk about.
Instead, it can be somethingyou actively practice to better
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your life and achieve your goalsin the future.
So then she says try out thetips above to see what a
difference they make for you andthe power of your mind on a
daily basis.
And I can't imagine that wehave to do all of them.
We can do one or two is whatshe says.
We can do all of them, we cando whatever, whatever fits your
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lifestyle and what you think youneed to focus on.
I love all 11.
I feel like I've dabbled inalmost each one, but want to
perfect certain things.
So, man, I feel better.
Do you guys feel better?
Are we mind over matter?
Are we ready to conquer theworld?
Are we ready to do some things?
I think I am.
I think I am.
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I saw this thing on Pinterestthat I'm like all right if this
list was overwhelming.
This one seems a little biteasier to do and it's funny how,
when you're listening to theuniverse and you're sitting,
still this one just randomlypopped up as I was researching
for what I wanted to talk about.
So on Pinterest it popped upyou need three daily wins.
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So if you can't do all 11 ofthose or you just want to start
small three daily wins.
There's physical wins walking,running, lifting, swimming, et
cetera.
A mental win is reading,writing, creating, learning, et
cetera.
And a spiritual win praying,meditating, studying, growing
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and then at the end it says be acomplete winner.
So physical win, mental winsand spiritual wins, and I'm like
, oh, that simplifies all ofthese things and I think that
can help with mind over matter.
It's just doing those thingsdaily and I'm going to use that.
I'm going to start doing that.
I'm going to start winning.
I'm going to start winning.
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I love you all.
I thank you for listening to meand listening to my rant, but
this is helpful and I hope wecan just do this together,
because, man, life is hard andour minds are powerful, though.
We got this and we can do this,so I'm going to be working on
all these things, working onbelieving in myself and working
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on my mind over matter.
I will leave you all with this.
You have this one life.
How do you want to spend it?
Apologizing, regretting,questioning, hating yourself,
dieting, running after peoplewho don't see you?
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Be brave, believe in yourself,do what feels good, take risks.
You have this one life.
Make yourself proud.
See you all.
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