August 22, 2023 • 16 mins
On today's episode of the Wake Up & Be Wealthy show, we will be continuing the week of sharing a sneak peak of the first 7 days of Words of Encouragement videos from our amazing Quantum Club group!
This episode touches on:
- Whatever is meant to be made will be.
- How we do most things is how we do all things.
- Where are you duct taping in your life and business?
- How to choose what feels good to you.
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Unknown (00:01):
I'm about to go V mom and I went and got my hair cut.
Because, as you probably know,from past videos, I am growing
this out as I am growing, it'snot fun, like I'm growing up my
hair as I'm growing. And I'llnever stop growing. But there's
been some massive shifts, whichled to calling this quantum
club. So it could be a powerfulportal for you to as I am
(00:26):
quantum leaping as I am diggingdeeper and deeper and applying
different strategies andmodalities and different ways of
being I wanted to, I wanted todo this with other amazing
women. And so we are in thistogether, and I just, I'm so
excited that you're here, and sograteful for you here. So if you
see any, like little hairs on myface, oh, gosh, there's like
(00:49):
something going on. There's allthe things, but I love you,
you're amazing. If you have notwatched the deep training for
this month, please make time forit. Because, uh, not even make
time, create time, you don'thave to watch my face, like, put
your earbuds in, go for a walk,do the dishes, you know, full
laundry, have me in thebackground as you're like doing
(01:11):
some things in your business.
But like, there could just besomething in there. It's an hour
and 20 minutes. But I really,really deeply think it's going
to support you in regards tolike, expanding your comfort
zone. And so the the messagethat came through loud and clear
today, because as you know, Idon't plan these, I trust that
whatever is meant to be is madewill be. So this is a funny
(01:32):
story. Because again, I like tostorytel There are no accidents,
my nail color is green formoney. And I have green duct
tape from our Disney Experiencefrom a couple of weeks ago. But
the reason why it's in my jeepis because I don't even know if
you're gonna be able to see it.
But my whatever this is calledsunvisor. I was like, what's the
(01:56):
word, and it's broken. And Idon't know how it happened. This
is a new vehicle like new ishand 2021 or 2020. But it hangs
down. And so here's theinteresting part. I noticed it
probably in June. And I allowedit to be there. Even though it
was annoying the crap out of me.
I was like, moving it up. And itwas falling down as I'm driving,
(02:18):
which is probably not the safestthing, right. But I was allowing
it to happen even though I wasfrustrated and annoyed. It just
kept happening kept happeningkept happening. And then when I
got duct tape from for Disney, Iwas like, Oh, I will duct tape
it right, because I just haven'thad the mental bandwidth to go
in and get it fixed. I know thatit will take you know, several
(02:41):
hours and I just haven't had thecapacity yet to do it. And so
it's not to say that it's notimportant. But there's this in
between, I call this the messymiddle of we get to still enjoy
and have ease flow and fun inthe messy middle. So like maybe
your goal right now is 10kmonths or you want to work less
in your business and live more.
(03:04):
Or maybe your goal is health andfitness. Like yes, this is a
moneymaker membership but likehow we do most things is how we
do most things. And so I wasexcited to get the duct tape
because I duct taped this to myceiling a couple days ago. And I
was like yes, this is amazing.
So I did it a few days ago. Andit keeps falling down because it
gets hot. Obviously duct tapeisn't it's like a band aid,
(03:27):
right. So although I amexpanding my comfort zone with
my sun visor, and I have morevisibility, it's still not the
end solution. I am duct tapingit, which is putting a bandaid
on it. And it's still annoyingme because I've tried all
different ways to tape it. LikeI've done an X I've done a cross
(03:51):
I've made it longer. I've donelike the side over here on top
of the this piece right here.
And it just it's getting hot.
The duct tape can't withstandthe heat, right? And so it's
like, oh, we like this is aquick fix, but it's not the end
all be solution. So the reasonwhy I say all of this, it's
because we're all human. And Iknow the minute that I like go
(04:14):
to get it fixed, it's gonna belike so nice, right? So much
easier because this is takestime and energy to keep applying
the duct tape. Right. And so weget to enjoy the messy middle
and do it with ease flow andfun. So although the duct tape
is a great way to expand mycomfort zone around the sunvisor
(04:35):
it's not the end all be all. AndI know that which is also going
to activate me in the best waypossible to speed up scheduling
the appointment right? And howwhat I talked about in the
training yesterday was why do welet things get to the point
(04:56):
where it's to pay until it's toofrustrating. It is a way of self
harm. And it may sound silly,that it's just a sunvisor. Like,
isn't that big of a deal? Butlike, again, how we do most
things is how we do most things.
So the question I'm askingmyself today, and the question I
want to encourage you to askyourself is where are you duct
(05:18):
taping? AKA putting a bandaid onthings, in your finances, in
different parts of yourbusiness, with relationships
with your home, like, let's justlook at it all. If you're
willing, if that feels toooverwhelming to you, then I
encourage you, again, we'reexpanding your comfort zone,
(05:39):
everyone's is going to look attheir process, their journey is
gonna look a little different.
And it's all beautiful andamazing. So if you don't want to
look at everything, if thatfeels, whew, that's too heavy,
Nelly, I'm not ready for that.
Listen to yourself and say,Okay, I'm gonna pick one
category and journal about it.
Where are you duck taping? Inyour life and your business, you
(05:59):
can zoom in and go to yourhealth and fitness, you can go
to your relationship with You,yourself. With your significant
other with clients, you can lookat your systems, you can look at
your team members, you can lookat your business finances, you
can look at your personalfinances, you can look at your
clutter, you can look at youknow, your systems in your
(06:21):
business already said that, butyour systems in your home, or
lack thereof, right? Like, ifyou want to look at all of it,
look at all of it. If you wantto like zero in on like one
specific category, do that. Butlike, the journaling will be
huge. And journaling doesn'thave to be in a notebook, you
can verbally journal that feelsgood to you. You can if you have
a whiteboard, you can doodle,you can talk to a friend that's
(06:44):
still journaling. The wholepoint of journaling is getting
it out whether it be you'revoicing it, you're writing it.
If typing feels good to you,you're typing it, if you want to
body double with somebody else,and like their energy would
really help you. But where areyou duct taping? And it doesn't
feel good, right? Like, Ihonestly could say like, if the
(07:06):
visor the sun visor would staywith the duct tape, and the heat
wouldn't make it keep fallingdown and keep falling down
multiple times a day. I probablynot get it fixed for longer,
right? Because it's like, okay,it worked. Right? The duct tape
worked. It's not a long termsolution. But it's also not
(07:26):
annoying me anymore. Right? Sothere could be some things that
show up for you. But they arethey're working for now. And
that's okay. But what does notfeel good that you are choosing
to duct tape, choosing to put abandaid on it and it just
doesn't feel great. I reallybeen looking at this in my
(07:47):
business and my life this weekspecifically, and made many am I
and I always feel called to likespell it like teeny tiny moves
of what is showing up for methat does not feel good does, it
feels like I'm putting a bandaidon it. And it's just not
working. It's just not working.
And I owe it to myself, Ideserve to speak up for myself
(08:10):
and it is no one else'sresponsibility. But mine. But
mine, I cannot be mad at anyoneelse that cannot be resemble
anyone else like I guess I canbut at the end of the day, like
being mad at somebody else, orresentful or anything else in
between isn't going to fix theduct tape. So when I actually
like shift the narrative back tomyself of like, yeah, this
(08:34):
doesn't feel good. And also, Iget to speak up and do something
about it. Right. I had a clientnot too long ago, she sent me a
telegram. And she was like, Hey,this is not feeling good. And I
really like I need somethingdifferent. And I really like
she's one of my longest clients.
And I was like, absolutely. Andwe had a call yesterday to like,
(08:54):
unpack everything, what does sheneed, like I'm here to help you
like I want you to besuccessful. And I'm also not a
mind reader and it like so it'sso beautiful to have clients
that have the the emotionalintelligence of like something
doesn't feel great. And also Iknow we can come up with a
solution. And so I I gave her somuch acknowledgement yesterday,
(09:18):
privately of like, thank you somuch first for speaking up for
yourself and also giving me theopportunity as your guide as
your support system to co createsomething that does feel good
for you. And we like left thatcall feeling so energized that I
know that alone is going to helpher quantum leap. But she
created it. I'm a part of it.
(09:41):
But she took that initiative.
She knows that it's an insidejob. She knows that it's her
responsibility and also shedoesn't have to figure it out on
her own right it can be a bothand and also take the take the
responsibility back. Okay, youcould even like get really
woowoo and buy duct tape andstart to write hangs down on
like little pieces of duct tapeof what you are duct taping in
(10:02):
your life and your business. Ifyou wanted to, you don't have to
that just came to me like thatcould be like really like
symbolic of like, yeah, thisdoesn't feel good. And maybe you
like, tear a few pieces off ofduct tape. And you choose a
number energetically that feelsgood to you. And you sit and
just stare at the duct tape thisliterally coming through me
energetically, so maybe someoneneeds to do this or I don't
(10:25):
know. So you could look at like,maybe you picked seven pieces of
duct tape and you just look andsay, Okay, what are the seven
things that I'm choosing to ducttape and they don't feel great.
It doesn't even have to be tothe point where it feels so
painful and so overwhelming.
Like, we definitely want to payattention to those but like,
(10:47):
what feels like, uneasy, yucky.
I talked about that a lotyesterday. That's where we go.
And we get excited. Your yourbrain does not know the
difference between nervous andexcited. And so when we lean
into like, oh my gosh, I'm soexcited to to work on this right
too. And we can take one pieceof duct tape at a time, right?
(11:08):
It starts easy. Again, we don'thave to go 10 levels deep
immediately, it will, it'll rockyour nervous system. So pick the
easiest piece of duct tape. Andwe start there. And let's do
little teeny tiny steps withinthat thing. And see where that
goes. Right? See how that feelslike be open to all
possibilities. And mostimportantly, speak up that you
(11:31):
deserve. To feel amazing. Thatis a basic human need. And your
birthright. And after afterbeing 18 I think it's your I
believe it's your parents dutyand responsibility as parents to
help you a ton up to 18. Becauseour brain our brain isn't even
(11:54):
fully developed until like yourmid 20s, which is terrifying.
And also exciting. We're gonnafocus on the exciting. But I do
believe your parents have a hugepiece of that. Which can we can
talk about that another day. Andalso, after that, it's almost
like passing the baton of like,you are an adult, this is your
(12:15):
responsibility. Take the powerback, start to speak up for
yourself start to create thereality that you desire. That
feels so fucking good to you.
Because no one knows, right?
Like, everyone's flavor is alittle bit different. Some
people want to have a tiny homeversus a big ass mansion. Or
they want to live on a boatversus an RV, right? Like, only
(12:37):
you know what, no, knows whatfeels really good to you. And
not just tangible things likefeelings, right? Like, you know,
in your heart of hearts, whatfeels good to you. And too
often, we neglect we push ourfeelings aside for everyone
else. Everyone else. And it's itgets to be a booth. And of
(13:00):
course we want to take inconsideration everyone else
that's important to you and alsoalways start and end with you.
That's how I'm going to end thisencouragement video, start and
end with you. Every single dayall day long. How can we make
this easier? How can we stopduct taping things that don't
(13:20):
feel good? Right? Everythinggets to feel good. It is your
birthright and also it's yourresponsibility no one else has
ever. People can help you peoplecan support you people who cheer
you on the end of the day itstarts and ends with you. And
you've got this you can do this.
You wouldn't be here watchingthis video. If you couldn't. So
(13:43):
I believe in you. You'reamazing. It starts and ends with
you
I'm about to go V mom and I went and got my hair cut.
Because, as you probably know,from past videos, I am growing
this out as I am growing, it'snot fun, like I'm growing up my
hair as I'm growing. And I'llnever stop growing. But there's
been some massive shifts, whichled to calling this quantum
club. So it could be a powerfulportal for you to as I am
(00:26):
quantum leaping as I am diggingdeeper and deeper and applying
different strategies andmodalities and different ways of
being I wanted to, I wanted todo this with other amazing
women. And so we are in thistogether, and I just, I'm so
excited that you're here, and sograteful for you here. So if you
see any, like little hairs on myface, oh, gosh, there's like
(00:49):
something going on. There's allthe things, but I love you,
you're amazing. If you have notwatched the deep training for
this month, please make time forit. Because, uh, not even make
time, create time, you don'thave to watch my face, like, put
your earbuds in, go for a walk,do the dishes, you know, full
laundry, have me in thebackground as you're like doing
(01:11):
some things in your business.
But like, there could just besomething in there. It's an hour
and 20 minutes. But I really,really deeply think it's going
to support you in regards tolike, expanding your comfort
zone. And so the the messagethat came through loud and clear
today, because as you know, Idon't plan these, I trust that
whatever is meant to be is madewill be. So this is a funny
(01:32):
story. Because again, I like tostorytel There are no accidents,
my nail color is green formoney. And I have green duct
tape from our Disney Experiencefrom a couple of weeks ago. But
the reason why it's in my jeepis because I don't even know if
you're gonna be able to see it.
But my whatever this is calledsunvisor. I was like, what's the
(01:56):
word, and it's broken. And Idon't know how it happened. This
is a new vehicle like new ishand 2021 or 2020. But it hangs
down. And so here's theinteresting part. I noticed it
probably in June. And I allowedit to be there. Even though it
was annoying the crap out of me.
I was like, moving it up. And itwas falling down as I'm driving,
(02:18):
which is probably not the safestthing, right. But I was allowing
it to happen even though I wasfrustrated and annoyed. It just
kept happening kept happeningkept happening. And then when I
got duct tape from for Disney, Iwas like, Oh, I will duct tape
it right, because I just haven'thad the mental bandwidth to go
in and get it fixed. I know thatit will take you know, several
(02:41):
hours and I just haven't had thecapacity yet to do it. And so
it's not to say that it's notimportant. But there's this in
between, I call this the messymiddle of we get to still enjoy
and have ease flow and fun inthe messy middle. So like maybe
your goal right now is 10kmonths or you want to work less
in your business and live more.
(03:04):
Or maybe your goal is health andfitness. Like yes, this is a
moneymaker membership but likehow we do most things is how we
do most things. And so I wasexcited to get the duct tape
because I duct taped this to myceiling a couple days ago. And I
was like yes, this is amazing.
So I did it a few days ago. Andit keeps falling down because it
gets hot. Obviously duct tapeisn't it's like a band aid,
(03:27):
right. So although I amexpanding my comfort zone with
my sun visor, and I have morevisibility, it's still not the
end solution. I am duct tapingit, which is putting a bandaid
on it. And it's still annoyingme because I've tried all
different ways to tape it. LikeI've done an X I've done a cross
(03:51):
I've made it longer. I've donelike the side over here on top
of the this piece right here.
And it just it's getting hot.
The duct tape can't withstandthe heat, right? And so it's
like, oh, we like this is aquick fix, but it's not the end
all be solution. So the reasonwhy I say all of this, it's
because we're all human. And Iknow the minute that I like go
(04:14):
to get it fixed, it's gonna belike so nice, right? So much
easier because this is takestime and energy to keep applying
the duct tape. Right. And so weget to enjoy the messy middle
and do it with ease flow andfun. So although the duct tape
is a great way to expand mycomfort zone around the sunvisor
(04:35):
it's not the end all be all. AndI know that which is also going
to activate me in the best waypossible to speed up scheduling
the appointment right? And howwhat I talked about in the
training yesterday was why do welet things get to the point
(04:56):
where it's to pay until it's toofrustrating. It is a way of self
harm. And it may sound silly,that it's just a sunvisor. Like,
isn't that big of a deal? Butlike, again, how we do most
things is how we do most things.
So the question I'm askingmyself today, and the question I
want to encourage you to askyourself is where are you duct
(05:18):
taping? AKA putting a bandaid onthings, in your finances, in
different parts of yourbusiness, with relationships
with your home, like, let's justlook at it all. If you're
willing, if that feels toooverwhelming to you, then I
encourage you, again, we'reexpanding your comfort zone,
(05:39):
everyone's is going to look attheir process, their journey is
gonna look a little different.
And it's all beautiful andamazing. So if you don't want to
look at everything, if thatfeels, whew, that's too heavy,
Nelly, I'm not ready for that.
Listen to yourself and say,Okay, I'm gonna pick one
category and journal about it.
Where are you duck taping? Inyour life and your business, you
(05:59):
can zoom in and go to yourhealth and fitness, you can go
to your relationship with You,yourself. With your significant
other with clients, you can lookat your systems, you can look at
your team members, you can lookat your business finances, you
can look at your personalfinances, you can look at your
clutter, you can look at youknow, your systems in your
(06:21):
business already said that, butyour systems in your home, or
lack thereof, right? Like, ifyou want to look at all of it,
look at all of it. If you wantto like zero in on like one
specific category, do that. Butlike, the journaling will be
huge. And journaling doesn'thave to be in a notebook, you
can verbally journal that feelsgood to you. You can if you have
a whiteboard, you can doodle,you can talk to a friend that's
(06:44):
still journaling. The wholepoint of journaling is getting
it out whether it be you'revoicing it, you're writing it.
If typing feels good to you,you're typing it, if you want to
body double with somebody else,and like their energy would
really help you. But where areyou duct taping? And it doesn't
feel good, right? Like, Ihonestly could say like, if the
(07:06):
visor the sun visor would staywith the duct tape, and the heat
wouldn't make it keep fallingdown and keep falling down
multiple times a day. I probablynot get it fixed for longer,
right? Because it's like, okay,it worked. Right? The duct tape
worked. It's not a long termsolution. But it's also not
(07:26):
annoying me anymore. Right? Sothere could be some things that
show up for you. But they arethey're working for now. And
that's okay. But what does notfeel good that you are choosing
to duct tape, choosing to put abandaid on it and it just
doesn't feel great. I reallybeen looking at this in my
(07:47):
business and my life this weekspecifically, and made many am I
and I always feel called to likespell it like teeny tiny moves
of what is showing up for methat does not feel good does, it
feels like I'm putting a bandaidon it. And it's just not
working. It's just not working.
And I owe it to myself, Ideserve to speak up for myself
(08:10):
and it is no one else'sresponsibility. But mine. But
mine, I cannot be mad at anyoneelse that cannot be resemble
anyone else like I guess I canbut at the end of the day, like
being mad at somebody else, orresentful or anything else in
between isn't going to fix theduct tape. So when I actually
like shift the narrative back tomyself of like, yeah, this
(08:34):
doesn't feel good. And also, Iget to speak up and do something
about it. Right. I had a clientnot too long ago, she sent me a
telegram. And she was like, Hey,this is not feeling good. And I
really like I need somethingdifferent. And I really like
she's one of my longest clients.
And I was like, absolutely. Andwe had a call yesterday to like,
(08:54):
unpack everything, what does sheneed, like I'm here to help you
like I want you to besuccessful. And I'm also not a
mind reader and it like so it'sso beautiful to have clients
that have the the emotionalintelligence of like something
doesn't feel great. And also Iknow we can come up with a
solution. And so I I gave her somuch acknowledgement yesterday,
(09:18):
privately of like, thank you somuch first for speaking up for
yourself and also giving me theopportunity as your guide as
your support system to co createsomething that does feel good
for you. And we like left thatcall feeling so energized that I
know that alone is going to helpher quantum leap. But she
created it. I'm a part of it.
(09:41):
But she took that initiative.
She knows that it's an insidejob. She knows that it's her
responsibility and also shedoesn't have to figure it out on
her own right it can be a bothand and also take the take the
responsibility back. Okay, youcould even like get really
woowoo and buy duct tape andstart to write hangs down on
like little pieces of duct tapeof what you are duct taping in
(10:02):
your life and your business. Ifyou wanted to, you don't have to
that just came to me like thatcould be like really like
symbolic of like, yeah, thisdoesn't feel good. And maybe you
like, tear a few pieces off ofduct tape. And you choose a
number energetically that feelsgood to you. And you sit and
just stare at the duct tape thisliterally coming through me
energetically, so maybe someoneneeds to do this or I don't
(10:25):
know. So you could look at like,maybe you picked seven pieces of
duct tape and you just look andsay, Okay, what are the seven
things that I'm choosing to ducttape and they don't feel great.
It doesn't even have to be tothe point where it feels so
painful and so overwhelming.
Like, we definitely want to payattention to those but like,
(10:47):
what feels like, uneasy, yucky.
I talked about that a lotyesterday. That's where we go.
And we get excited. Your yourbrain does not know the
difference between nervous andexcited. And so when we lean
into like, oh my gosh, I'm soexcited to to work on this right
too. And we can take one pieceof duct tape at a time, right?
(11:08):
It starts easy. Again, we don'thave to go 10 levels deep
immediately, it will, it'll rockyour nervous system. So pick the
easiest piece of duct tape. Andwe start there. And let's do
little teeny tiny steps withinthat thing. And see where that
goes. Right? See how that feelslike be open to all
possibilities. And mostimportantly, speak up that you
(11:31):
deserve. To feel amazing. Thatis a basic human need. And your
birthright. And after afterbeing 18 I think it's your I
believe it's your parents dutyand responsibility as parents to
help you a ton up to 18. Becauseour brain our brain isn't even
(11:54):
fully developed until like yourmid 20s, which is terrifying.
And also exciting. We're gonnafocus on the exciting. But I do
believe your parents have a hugepiece of that. Which can we can
talk about that another day. Andalso, after that, it's almost
like passing the baton of like,you are an adult, this is your
(12:15):
responsibility. Take the powerback, start to speak up for
yourself start to create thereality that you desire. That
feels so fucking good to you.
Because no one knows, right?
Like, everyone's flavor is alittle bit different. Some
people want to have a tiny homeversus a big ass mansion. Or
they want to live on a boatversus an RV, right? Like, only
(12:37):
you know what, no, knows whatfeels really good to you. And
not just tangible things likefeelings, right? Like, you know,
in your heart of hearts, whatfeels good to you. And too
often, we neglect we push ourfeelings aside for everyone
else. Everyone else. And it's itgets to be a booth. And of
(13:00):
course we want to take inconsideration everyone else
that's important to you and alsoalways start and end with you.
That's how I'm going to end thisencouragement video, start and
end with you. Every single dayall day long. How can we make
this easier? How can we stopduct taping things that don't
(13:20):
feel good? Right? Everythinggets to feel good. It is your
birthright and also it's yourresponsibility no one else has
ever. People can help you peoplecan support you people who cheer
you on the end of the day itstarts and ends with you. And
you've got this you can do this.
You wouldn't be here watchingthis video. If you couldn't. So
(13:43):
I believe in you. You'reamazing. It starts and ends with
you
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