November 6, 2023 • 25 mins
Get ready for an enlightening chat with the dynamic Rahul Sharma, a powerhouse in leadership circles and a seasoned mentor with a wealth of experience. Rahul, with two decades of corporate America under his belt, unpacks the core tenets of personal development—having a mentor, readiness to climb the value chain, and the pursuit of consistent action. He enlightens us on how past triumphs can be beacons in navigating present trials, and why embracing imperfect action is the catalyst for progression when you're feeling stuck in a rut.
In an enthralling second part, Rahul unlocks the transformative capabilities of positive thinking and personal growth. He shares techniques to nurture a buoyant mindset through gratitude, kindness, and resourcefulness. He also offers valuable tips on how to stay ahead by honing essential skills—positivity, adaptability, and relationship building. We also navigate the corridors of shifting your mindset through positive literature, enlightening conversations, and affirmative self-talk. Brace yourself for Rahul's practical methods to master your emotions and responses during tough times.
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Speaker 1 (00:00):
Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of
Latinos and Real EstateInvesting Podcasts, and today's
episode is with Mr Raul Sharma.
Raul Karan Sharma is a dynamicleader from India currently
residing in Ashbury, virginia,with an MBA in Human Resources
from Brune University and amaster's degree in
organizational development fromBowling Green State University.
(00:23):
Raul has dedicated his life tobuilding mindsets that achieve
excellence.
In his corporate role, he isentrusted with training and
equipping leader team, while onpersonal development front, he
inspires others to adoptpositive mind talk conversations
, man don't.
I love that.
Raul firmly believes thatanything is possible with grit,
(00:47):
determination and perseveranceand, with over 20 years of
experience in corporate America,he's proven that his
transformational abilities areunparalleled.
Raul, sir, thank you so much.
It's my pleasure honor to haveyou on this podcast.
Thank you for being here today,my friend.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Thank you.
Thank you for having me here.
It's my pleasure.
I just love what you do, myfriend.
You're a mindset strategist andthen you help people to realize
their dream.
It's something that we have incommon.
Excited to be here to be partof your show.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Thank you, sir, thank you, thank you.
Thank you so much for that.
I want to get right into it.
I want to do a really cool rolein corporate America which is
training and equippingleadership teams with personal
development front, inspiring andadopting a positive mind.
Talk conversations, man.
(01:40):
I want to talk about thatbecause that's I'm all about
that.
First of all, I'm going to getinto that in a minute, but tell
us how you first, how you gotstarted in that role.
How does one do what you do?
How does one become aprofessional at what you do?
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Definitely.
It's not something thathappened overnight.
It has come up with a lot ofpreparation and it was I believe
it was in my destiny to comeinto this learning and
development role.
In my role, one of the passionthat I realized for mine was
helping others getting subsets,and I was getting that
(02:19):
adrenaline rush when I used tosee someone moving up in the
value chain or someonesucceeding in their way of life.
That really had that profoundimpact and that's when I started
.
I thought that I need to go andgive back to society and try to
(02:42):
support the individuals who arecurrently stuck or currently
have no direction and I canprovide some ray of hope, ray of
light and some positivity tothem so that they can take
action.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
I love that let's talk about.
You said keyword right.
A lot of people in our cultureright now are feeling stuck
right.
There's a lot of people withinflation where it is and I'm
going to bring economics andsome of those things Inflation
where it is, divorce rates wherethey are, the division of where
our country is right now with alot of these laws and a lot of
(03:21):
these things and they feel stuckin a lot of ways.
They feel stuck becauseinflation is so high and they're
not keeping up with their moneyis not taking them as far as
they used to take them.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
So that's a great question and I see that many of
us have been in that situationonce in a lifetime, or maybe a
couple of times in our lifetime.
I have been to that earlier aswell.
There are three things I wouldsuggest to the listeners who are
at the top.
Number one they need to have amentor in their life, a coach in
(03:56):
their life who is able to givethem direction, as well as who
has full trust in the abilitiesof the person.
So we need to have thatindividual in our life and, as
you mentioned earlier that theyneed to listen to your podcast,
maybe you could be one of thementor or coach or people like
(04:18):
you who have done it all.
So that would be my firstadvice.
Number two I would say it is weneed to prepare ourselves to
knif up in the value chain.
Things will not happen overnightand, as you mentioned in the
question, a lot of people thinkthat, okay, no one is listening
to me, no one is understandingme.
(04:40):
We don't need to have thatblame to others.
We ourselves are responsiblefor our destiny.
We ourselves are responsiblefor our own success.
So we need to take action andfor us to give that direction.
What action to be taken.
That's where that coach ormentor will play a vital role.
(05:01):
So have a mentor, be preparedfor the next steps and take
consistent action.
Don't have a pessimisticapproach In taking action.
One of the comment I would makeis which I have done mistake is
I was always looking for theperfect action, or I need to
make it perfect.
Make it perfect and you knowwhat.
(05:23):
There is no such thing, in myopinion, like perfection.
It's always a perspective.
Maybe it's a perfect from yourangle, maybe it's not perfect
from someone's aspect.
So my request would be to takecontinuous imperfect action.
What do you think about mymentor?
Prepare yourself and takecontinuous imperfect action to
move out of the situation thatyou are in.
(05:44):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Mentor, coach, and I'm constantly saying that here
you've got to find someone it'sso important on who you are
listening to, Like, that is, whoyou're surrounding yourself
with your friends, who's in yourears, what information you're
getting in your ears that is soimportant to your success, which
(06:07):
you just said mentor.
Find a mentor, find a coach.
Prepare to move up in the valuechain.
I want you to unpack that alittle bit more.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
So, before I go specifically on preparation, I
would want our listeners, whoare stuck in their lives today,
to think of a similar situationthat has happened with them in
the past and how they haveovercome that situation.
If this is their first time,this may not be relevant, but if
it is something that hashappened with them in the past,
they need to think about okay,what did they do to overcome to
(06:38):
that situation?
That will give them thatcomfort, feeling that okay, I
got this, I can get out of here.
That is the number one.
But if you are on the fencewhere it is the first time,
think about a situation that youhave mastered it.
In our life there are manythings that we have mastered.
The master of the art it couldbe cycling or running, or maybe
(06:59):
cooking or driving.
How it happened?
It did not happen overnight.
You practiced a lot.
You prepared yourself to becomeexplored in that particular
field.
Maybe you are doingcarpentering or maybe drawing or
whatever it is.
It is over a period of time.
So preparedness I mean ispractice.
You need to practice practicetill it becomes progressives.
(07:23):
The other thing sometimes wefeel that if I don't have a
solution, no one else in theworld has a solution.
That is the mindset I wouldwant people to change.
Every problem, in my opinion,has a solution.
You may not have that solution,someone else will.
So you need to surroundyourself with people with
(07:45):
positivity.
Your inner circle has to be sosupportive, so helpful, that
they can guide you and give youthe direction and give you that
motivation to help you out fromthat situation.
So preparedness is more aboutpractice, martin, and
preparedness is about findingpeople who can give you a
(08:08):
solution.
You may not have a solution,but you may find people who may
have a solution.
So that is what I mean by gotit.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
That's a really good, really really good answer.
What do you tell people?
How do you change your circle?
Because that was always a bigquestion for me, for investors.
I have an answer for investors,but let's just say you're not
an investor.
Let's just say, man, I justwant more, I want me personally.
I'm at a point in my life, raul, that I just want less people
(08:40):
in my inner circle.
But I want higher qualitypeople in my inner circle, and
what I mean by that is I want tohave friends that can come to
my house so we can sit in ourbackyard, we can barbecue, we
can hang out and I could justtake my shoes off and talk about
anything with them.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
Right.
So, as you initially mentionedabout these people specific
class of people they have lowmeans, less means to do things.
The first thing I would it doesnot require any money is about
the changing the mindset, havingthat positive mindset.
(09:19):
Now, how you can inculcatepositive mindset?
There are a couple of things Iwould recommend.
Number one would be startpracticing gratitude.
Don't think about things thatyou don't have.
Be thankful to Almighty for thethings that you are your
friends, your family, thesurroundings, the people around
you.
You don't have any control onthe thoughts of other people.
(09:42):
You have no control about whataction the other person will
take, but you have every controlin your own thoughts and the
action that you will take.
Once you start practicinggratitude, you will start
valuing the value of life.
Number two I would suggest is besomeone who is a resourceful
(10:05):
person.
Help others.
There is a sense of gratitudethat you will get when you help
others.
It is so helpful, it is sobeneficial.
You give and the giver will becoming to you.
You would be given.
That is one phrase I have heard.
You give, you will be given.
So try to inculcate that habitin you, where you are always
(10:28):
working as a resource you arefocusing on giving, giving help
to others, practice kindness.
And the other thing I would sayis we need to prepare ourselves
model with those life skillswhich are future proof, which
are proof of recession no matterwhat economic conditions are,
(10:51):
you are safe.
Those future proof skills, inmy opinion, are positivity,
positive mindset, youradaptability, your critical
thinking, your ability to buildrelationship, ability to do
networking.
These are some of the skillswhich are which, no matter which
(11:13):
economic condition you arecoming from, whether of your
society or a country, theseconditions will be helpful.
And just to piggyback on howthey can start, number one,
social media.
Maybe, let's say they don'thave means of social media.
Maybe they can follow theethnic group or their religious
group.
(11:33):
Just find one person who isthat ray of hope, who is that
positive person, and that willbe a ripple effect.
All this thing first, we haveto consciously work to change
our mindset.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Okay, that's great.
So what can one person do tostart working to change their
mindset, right?
Is there something that youwould recommend to someone that
they could do daily?
There's something here in yourintro that I read which was
about personal self-talk orsomething like that.
I mentioned Mind talk.
(12:10):
Yes, I love that, right?
What can you recommend tosomeone they can do who like
start shifting that mindset?
Because, you know, maybesomeone's 30, 20 years old, 25
year old, 40 year old, right?
50 year old, 60 year old, 70year old listening to our
podcast and they've had thesenegative thoughts for years.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
So, as you rightly mentioned about the negative
thoughts, as a human being, weget close to 60,000 to 80,000
thoughts in a 24 hour period.
That is the research.
The unfortunate part is that90% of those thoughts are
negative and we have to takeconscious effort in converting
those negative thoughts topositive.
(12:50):
So few things that we can do isread to positive literature.
Talk to positive people andlet's say those people are not
around you.
Quarantine yourself from thosepeople who are giving negativity
, who are sucking the positivityfrom quarantine yourself.
Number two is, since 90% ofthoughts are negative, we need
(13:14):
to inject positivity in ourthoughts by talking positive to
our mind.
That positive mind talk willhave an ability to distinguish
our success and failure, and inmy world, I have been teaching
positive mind talk over years.
(13:35):
My kids are now becoming of myguinea pig.
They are learning and they areexperimenting it, and positive
mind talk is telling yourselfabout things that you want to do
.
So I will give an example, morethan years, so that people
understand better.
And this is an example of myson.
(13:56):
This winter he was part ofbasketball team and we were just
going to bed.
I just snubbed him and saidgoodnight and he said wait a
minute.
And he said, okay, I waited.
Then I asked what happened.
I was doing positive mind talk.
I said really, what are youtalking about?
(14:18):
I told to my mind that I wantto be better in my game tomorrow
than the last week and then Isaid what do you mean?
How do you want to do it?
That last game I was not ableto score.
I was only able to assist.
In tomorrow's game I want toimpact this score positively.
I want to score a basket,minimum one basket, and he's a
(14:42):
nine-year-old in the fourthgrade and next day he scored a
basket.
Now I am correlating it.
Not that there is a correlation, but what I said that when you
think positive thing in yourmind, god helps you in bringing
that positivity closer to you.
If you are thinking negative,negative things will come to our
(15:04):
mind, because it is our mindthat propels us to take action.
So if you're thinking negative,negative action will come out.
If you're thinking positive,positive action, so think
positively.
Do that mind talk conversationand the mind talk.
Martin, one thing I will tellyou based on my experience the
people who do and a lot ofpeople use the self talk.
(15:26):
So they who self talk or mindtalk.
They use the word I in theconversation, which is why am I
upset?
Why is this happening to me?
We use this word I or me.
My request and suggestion wouldbe insert your name instead of
I or me.
Why is Rahul upset?
(15:46):
Why is Rahul so negative?
Or why is Rahul so angry?
What happens when we use ourname?
And this is according to theresearch.
It allows us to take a bettercontrol of our emotions, our
feelings and action,specifically in a challenging
time, because if the things arenegative around us, you're all
(16:10):
thinking negative and thenegative thought process is
making us take negative action.
So inculcate this habit ofpositive mind talk.
Use your own name instead ofusing the word I or me, and feel
the difference.
I have seen the difference inmany and I'm very confident you
will also see the difference.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
That's really good.
I did it right now, as you weresaying it.
I was literally like, as you'resaying it, I'm playing it in my
head, okay, so why is MartinPerdomo, you know, mad about
whatever right?
And what it did for me?
I literally just did it myselfas we're having this
conversation, and what it didfor me is that it allowed me to
(16:50):
look at this at myself as athird party and allowed me to be
more logical.
That's what it did for meinstantly, and I'm just saying
this is just as you were.
Having this conversationallowed me to look at the
situation logically, as a thirdparty, versus emotionally in the
movie, if that really sets.
(17:11):
Yeah, I do a lot of that attimes with when I'm trying to
figure out a problem.
I don't do exactly that andit's interesting because you
just gave me a name for it butsometimes I'll sit in my, in my,
in my, in my desk at home whenI'm journaling and I'll think of
, okay, I have this problem herewith this property or this
(17:32):
situation and I have to figureit out, and what I do is I would
like I don't know.
I go into the state when I lookat the problem from an outside,
so I no longer, and Martin inthe problem.
I look at it kind of like achessboard.
Hmm, I kind of look at it likea chessboard and I say, okay, so
if this is the problem, whatshould be?
(17:53):
What should be the next move toget to fastest to the solution
and to Overcome this problem?
So it's kind of a strategy thatI personally use when I'm kind
of trying to figure out aproblem and it's a mental thing.
I do it and it's like it'sweird because I get in this zone
and I sit back on my chair andI Kind of see the problem and
(18:14):
then I kind of see it like fromabove and I see like what needs
to happen for all of this towork out.
And it's favorite for me and itjust that just occurred to me.
As you were saying, you useyour name and it gave me that
same feeling of that third partyLogically and took takes out
the emotion.
And I don't know if that's yourexperience or that's what it's
(18:36):
supposed to do, but that was myexperience just now is like this
yes.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
So that is what research showed, as I was
telling you earlier, that itallowed us to Distinguish
between our own emotion.
It allows to take more rationalThinking about our feelings,
emotions and the way we will betaking action.
Otherwise, we may takedecisions which are irrational,
(19:03):
and that is another thing.
I would comment, martin on thisis, let's say, if we want to
quit on something, quit on anyproduct, wait on any of the
aspects.
My recommendation would beNever, ever, quit on a bad day.
If you want to quit on anything, always quit on a.
(19:23):
And you're on a good day, whenyou're keeping your head head
high, you will not regret yourdecision.
That is a very big and onlearning that I had, it's very
good ways.
Yeah, and then we are Mad atthings.
When we are not in a goodmindset, good frame of mind, we
(19:44):
may take action which we willregret for life.
Yeah so don't take action ordon't quit on things when you
are not in a right Mindset, notin a frame of mind.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
I want to ask you this final question before we
wrap it up, and that is youmentioned earlier that 90% of 60
to 80,000 of our thoughts arenegative.
I, I, I, I.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I.
We are talking to someone.
(20:35):
There is a lot of negativeconnotation, negative words that
are being used and it is Notdeliberately.
Sometime it is moresubquantiously.
So what our mind is getting ison negative, negative, negative,
negative, negative, and that iswhen we start thinking about
things negative.
(20:56):
So, for example, there's adifferent example.
Let's say, when you are havingyour meal and if you want to
have a dessert, the researchshows that if you wait for 45
minutes Before you startthinking on your dessert, the
likelihood of you not eating thedessert increases by close to
(21:18):
80%.
But think about it.
What happens when we go to arestaurant Before our meal is
finished?
The server will come.
Please look at our dessertwinning.
Whether you are thinking abouthaving a dessert or not, it is
coming to you right in front ofyou.
So where I am going at is whenwe are seeing and observing a
(21:42):
lot of negativity.
That is the reason why our mindis thinking negative.
So we have to takesubconsciously in our mind,
effort to think positive, to useour words, more positive words.
I think there is a game whereyou cannot use a word.
(22:05):
No, there is a kids game wehave tried to see if, in a day,
how many words are you usingwhich are also negative
connotation.
Start changing those negativewords to positive and you will
see some positivity.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Thank you so much, raul, for coming on and sharing
all of your wisdom and insightwith myself and the audience.
Really, I am proud of you.
We are about to go into theUntitled Round, where we are
going to ask you a series ofquestions.
You don't have to think, youdon't have to justify it, you
don't want to.
And if you do, are you ready toplay, sir?
Speaker 2 (22:45):
Yes, yes, martin, thank you for having me on the
show and I am excited for thisnext segment.
Speaker 1 (22:49):
Mindset is a process.
Never underestimate the powerof your own selves.
I highly recommend peopleshould read extreme ownership.
I've always wanted to travel toMexico.
My advice to young people isbelieve in themselves.
Family or business, familyskill set or mindset Mindset.
(23:12):
Wine or beer, wine book smartor street smart, street smart.
Self care or self love, selflove, more time or more money,
more time, success or happiness,happiness and, lastly, trump or
Biden.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
I don't have any answer there, my friend.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
Thank you again, sir, for coming on and being so
gracious with your time and yourwisdom and your insights.
If people wanted to connectwith you, how do they find you?
Where can they connect with you?
How can they learn from you?
If they wanted to bring you on,maybe as a coach or something
like that, where would theystart to connect with?
Speaker 2 (23:57):
Yes, they can find me on Google.
They just search on my bookHabits for Miraclescom, they can
find the credentials.
They can also find me onLinkedIn and if they want to
seek assistance, I'm always ableto provide some help, some
(24:17):
guidance, and would be excitedto connect with our listeners.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
Thank you, so much, sir.
I really appreciate you comingon and sharing with us.
We'll see you soon.
Thank you everybody.
Bye-bye.
Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of
Latinos and Real EstateInvesting Podcasts, and today's
episode is with Mr Raul Sharma.
Raul Karan Sharma is a dynamicleader from India currently
residing in Ashbury, virginia,with an MBA in Human Resources
from Brune University and amaster's degree in
organizational development fromBowling Green State University.
(00:23):
Raul has dedicated his life tobuilding mindsets that achieve
excellence.
In his corporate role, he isentrusted with training and
equipping leader team, while onpersonal development front, he
inspires others to adoptpositive mind talk conversations
, man don't.
I love that.
Raul firmly believes thatanything is possible with grit,
(00:47):
determination and perseveranceand, with over 20 years of
experience in corporate America,he's proven that his
transformational abilities areunparalleled.
Raul, sir, thank you so much.
It's my pleasure honor to haveyou on this podcast.
Thank you for being here today,my friend.
Speaker 2 (01:03):
Thank you.
Thank you for having me here.
It's my pleasure.
I just love what you do, myfriend.
You're a mindset strategist andthen you help people to realize
their dream.
It's something that we have incommon.
Excited to be here to be partof your show.
Speaker 1 (01:19):
Thank you, sir, thank you, thank you.
Thank you so much for that.
I want to get right into it.
I want to do a really cool rolein corporate America which is
training and equippingleadership teams with personal
development front, inspiring andadopting a positive mind.
Talk conversations, man.
(01:40):
I want to talk about thatbecause that's I'm all about
that.
First of all, I'm going to getinto that in a minute, but tell
us how you first, how you gotstarted in that role.
How does one do what you do?
How does one become aprofessional at what you do?
Speaker 2 (01:55):
Definitely.
It's not something thathappened overnight.
It has come up with a lot ofpreparation and it was I believe
it was in my destiny to comeinto this learning and
development role.
In my role, one of the passionthat I realized for mine was
helping others getting subsets,and I was getting that
(02:19):
adrenaline rush when I used tosee someone moving up in the
value chain or someonesucceeding in their way of life.
That really had that profoundimpact and that's when I started
.
I thought that I need to go andgive back to society and try to
(02:42):
support the individuals who arecurrently stuck or currently
have no direction and I canprovide some ray of hope, ray of
light and some positivity tothem so that they can take
action.
Speaker 1 (02:59):
I love that let's talk about.
You said keyword right.
A lot of people in our cultureright now are feeling stuck
right.
There's a lot of people withinflation where it is and I'm
going to bring economics andsome of those things Inflation
where it is, divorce rates wherethey are, the division of where
our country is right now with alot of these laws and a lot of
(03:21):
these things and they feel stuckin a lot of ways.
They feel stuck becauseinflation is so high and they're
not keeping up with their moneyis not taking them as far as
they used to take them.
Speaker 2 (03:32):
So that's a great question and I see that many of
us have been in that situationonce in a lifetime, or maybe a
couple of times in our lifetime.
I have been to that earlier aswell.
There are three things I wouldsuggest to the listeners who are
at the top.
Number one they need to have amentor in their life, a coach in
(03:56):
their life who is able to givethem direction, as well as who
has full trust in the abilitiesof the person.
So we need to have thatindividual in our life and, as
you mentioned earlier that theyneed to listen to your podcast,
maybe you could be one of thementor or coach or people like
(04:18):
you who have done it all.
So that would be my firstadvice.
Number two I would say it is weneed to prepare ourselves to
knif up in the value chain.
Things will not happen overnightand, as you mentioned in the
question, a lot of people thinkthat, okay, no one is listening
to me, no one is understandingme.
(04:40):
We don't need to have thatblame to others.
We ourselves are responsiblefor our destiny.
We ourselves are responsiblefor our own success.
So we need to take action andfor us to give that direction.
What action to be taken.
That's where that coach ormentor will play a vital role.
(05:01):
So have a mentor, be preparedfor the next steps and take
consistent action.
Don't have a pessimisticapproach In taking action.
One of the comment I would makeis which I have done mistake is
I was always looking for theperfect action, or I need to
make it perfect.
Make it perfect and you knowwhat.
(05:23):
There is no such thing, in myopinion, like perfection.
It's always a perspective.
Maybe it's a perfect from yourangle, maybe it's not perfect
from someone's aspect.
So my request would be to takecontinuous imperfect action.
What do you think about mymentor?
Prepare yourself and takecontinuous imperfect action to
move out of the situation thatyou are in.
(05:44):
I love that.
Speaker 1 (05:46):
Mentor, coach, and I'm constantly saying that here
you've got to find someone it'sso important on who you are
listening to, Like, that is, whoyou're surrounding yourself
with your friends, who's in yourears, what information you're
getting in your ears that is soimportant to your success, which
(06:07):
you just said mentor.
Find a mentor, find a coach.
Prepare to move up in the valuechain.
I want you to unpack that alittle bit more.
Speaker 2 (06:17):
So, before I go specifically on preparation, I
would want our listeners, whoare stuck in their lives today,
to think of a similar situationthat has happened with them in
the past and how they haveovercome that situation.
If this is their first time,this may not be relevant, but if
it is something that hashappened with them in the past,
they need to think about okay,what did they do to overcome to
(06:38):
that situation?
That will give them thatcomfort, feeling that okay, I
got this, I can get out of here.
That is the number one.
But if you are on the fencewhere it is the first time,
think about a situation that youhave mastered it.
In our life there are manythings that we have mastered.
The master of the art it couldbe cycling or running, or maybe
(06:59):
cooking or driving.
How it happened?
It did not happen overnight.
You practiced a lot.
You prepared yourself to becomeexplored in that particular
field.
Maybe you are doingcarpentering or maybe drawing or
whatever it is.
It is over a period of time.
So preparedness I mean ispractice.
You need to practice practicetill it becomes progressives.
(07:23):
The other thing sometimes wefeel that if I don't have a
solution, no one else in theworld has a solution.
That is the mindset I wouldwant people to change.
Every problem, in my opinion,has a solution.
You may not have that solution,someone else will.
So you need to surroundyourself with people with
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positivity.
Your inner circle has to be sosupportive, so helpful, that
they can guide you and give youthe direction and give you that
motivation to help you out fromthat situation.
So preparedness is more aboutpractice, martin, and
preparedness is about findingpeople who can give you a
(08:08):
solution.
You may not have a solution,but you may find people who may
have a solution.
So that is what I mean by gotit.
Speaker 1 (08:16):
That's a really good, really really good answer.
What do you tell people?
How do you change your circle?
Because that was always a bigquestion for me, for investors.
I have an answer for investors,but let's just say you're not
an investor.
Let's just say, man, I justwant more, I want me personally.
I'm at a point in my life, raul, that I just want less people
(08:40):
in my inner circle.
But I want higher qualitypeople in my inner circle, and
what I mean by that is I want tohave friends that can come to
my house so we can sit in ourbackyard, we can barbecue, we
can hang out and I could justtake my shoes off and talk about
anything with them.
Speaker 2 (08:59):
Right.
So, as you initially mentionedabout these people specific
class of people they have lowmeans, less means to do things.
The first thing I would it doesnot require any money is about
the changing the mindset, havingthat positive mindset.
(09:19):
Now, how you can inculcatepositive mindset?
There are a couple of things Iwould recommend.
Number one would be startpracticing gratitude.
Don't think about things thatyou don't have.
Be thankful to Almighty for thethings that you are your
friends, your family, thesurroundings, the people around
you.
You don't have any control onthe thoughts of other people.
(09:42):
You have no control about whataction the other person will
take, but you have every controlin your own thoughts and the
action that you will take.
Once you start practicinggratitude, you will start
valuing the value of life.
Number two I would suggest is besomeone who is a resourceful
(10:05):
person.
Help others.
There is a sense of gratitudethat you will get when you help
others.
It is so helpful, it is sobeneficial.
You give and the giver will becoming to you.
You would be given.
That is one phrase I have heard.
You give, you will be given.
So try to inculcate that habitin you, where you are always
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working as a resource you arefocusing on giving, giving help
to others, practice kindness.
And the other thing I would sayis we need to prepare ourselves
model with those life skillswhich are future proof, which
are proof of recession no matterwhat economic conditions are,
(10:51):
you are safe.
Those future proof skills, inmy opinion, are positivity,
positive mindset, youradaptability, your critical
thinking, your ability to buildrelationship, ability to do
networking.
These are some of the skillswhich are which, no matter which
(11:13):
economic condition you arecoming from, whether of your
society or a country, theseconditions will be helpful.
And just to piggyback on howthey can start, number one,
social media.
Maybe, let's say they don'thave means of social media.
Maybe they can follow theethnic group or their religious
group.
(11:33):
Just find one person who isthat ray of hope, who is that
positive person, and that willbe a ripple effect.
All this thing first, we haveto consciously work to change
our mindset.
Speaker 1 (11:48):
Okay, that's great.
So what can one person do tostart working to change their
mindset, right?
Is there something that youwould recommend to someone that
they could do daily?
There's something here in yourintro that I read which was
about personal self-talk orsomething like that.
I mentioned Mind talk.
(12:10):
Yes, I love that, right?
What can you recommend tosomeone they can do who like
start shifting that mindset?
Because, you know, maybesomeone's 30, 20 years old, 25
year old, 40 year old, right?
50 year old, 60 year old, 70year old listening to our
podcast and they've had thesenegative thoughts for years.
Speaker 2 (12:30):
So, as you rightly mentioned about the negative
thoughts, as a human being, weget close to 60,000 to 80,000
thoughts in a 24 hour period.
That is the research.
The unfortunate part is that90% of those thoughts are
negative and we have to takeconscious effort in converting
those negative thoughts topositive.
(12:50):
So few things that we can do isread to positive literature.
Talk to positive people andlet's say those people are not
around you.
Quarantine yourself from thosepeople who are giving negativity
, who are sucking the positivityfrom quarantine yourself.
Number two is, since 90% ofthoughts are negative, we need
(13:14):
to inject positivity in ourthoughts by talking positive to
our mind.
That positive mind talk willhave an ability to distinguish
our success and failure, and inmy world, I have been teaching
positive mind talk over years.
(13:35):
My kids are now becoming of myguinea pig.
They are learning and they areexperimenting it, and positive
mind talk is telling yourselfabout things that you want to do
.
So I will give an example, morethan years, so that people
understand better.
And this is an example of myson.
(13:56):
This winter he was part ofbasketball team and we were just
going to bed.
I just snubbed him and saidgoodnight and he said wait a
minute.
And he said, okay, I waited.
Then I asked what happened.
I was doing positive mind talk.
I said really, what are youtalking about?
(14:18):
I told to my mind that I wantto be better in my game tomorrow
than the last week and then Isaid what do you mean?
How do you want to do it?
That last game I was not ableto score.
I was only able to assist.
In tomorrow's game I want toimpact this score positively.
I want to score a basket,minimum one basket, and he's a
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nine-year-old in the fourthgrade and next day he scored a
basket.
Now I am correlating it.
Not that there is a correlation, but what I said that when you
think positive thing in yourmind, god helps you in bringing
that positivity closer to you.
If you are thinking negative,negative things will come to our
(15:04):
mind, because it is our mindthat propels us to take action.
So if you're thinking negative,negative action will come out.
If you're thinking positive,positive action, so think
positively.
Do that mind talk conversationand the mind talk.
Martin, one thing I will tellyou based on my experience the
people who do and a lot ofpeople use the self talk.
(15:26):
So they who self talk or mindtalk.
They use the word I in theconversation, which is why am I
upset?
Why is this happening to me?
We use this word I or me.
My request and suggestion wouldbe insert your name instead of
I or me.
Why is Rahul upset?
(15:46):
Why is Rahul so negative?
Or why is Rahul so angry?
What happens when we use ourname?
And this is according to theresearch.
It allows us to take a bettercontrol of our emotions, our
feelings and action,specifically in a challenging
time, because if the things arenegative around us, you're all
(16:10):
thinking negative and thenegative thought process is
making us take negative action.
So inculcate this habit ofpositive mind talk.
Use your own name instead ofusing the word I or me, and feel
the difference.
I have seen the difference inmany and I'm very confident you
will also see the difference.
Speaker 1 (16:30):
That's really good.
I did it right now, as you weresaying it.
I was literally like, as you'resaying it, I'm playing it in my
head, okay, so why is MartinPerdomo, you know, mad about
whatever right?
And what it did for me?
I literally just did it myselfas we're having this
conversation, and what it didfor me is that it allowed me to
(16:50):
look at this at myself as athird party and allowed me to be
more logical.
That's what it did for meinstantly, and I'm just saying
this is just as you were.
Having this conversationallowed me to look at the
situation logically, as a thirdparty, versus emotionally in the
movie, if that really sets.
(17:11):
Yeah, I do a lot of that attimes with when I'm trying to
figure out a problem.
I don't do exactly that andit's interesting because you
just gave me a name for it butsometimes I'll sit in my, in my,
in my, in my desk at home whenI'm journaling and I'll think of
, okay, I have this problem herewith this property or this
(17:32):
situation and I have to figureit out, and what I do is I would
like I don't know.
I go into the state when I lookat the problem from an outside,
so I no longer, and Martin inthe problem.
I look at it kind of like achessboard.
Hmm, I kind of look at it likea chessboard and I say, okay, so
if this is the problem, whatshould be?
(17:53):
What should be the next move toget to fastest to the solution
and to Overcome this problem?
So it's kind of a strategy thatI personally use when I'm kind
of trying to figure out aproblem and it's a mental thing.
I do it and it's like it'sweird because I get in this zone
and I sit back on my chair andI Kind of see the problem and
(18:14):
then I kind of see it like fromabove and I see like what needs
to happen for all of this towork out.
And it's favorite for me and itjust that just occurred to me.
As you were saying, you useyour name and it gave me that
same feeling of that third partyLogically and took takes out
the emotion.
And I don't know if that's yourexperience or that's what it's
(18:36):
supposed to do, but that was myexperience just now is like this
yes.
Speaker 2 (18:39):
So that is what research showed, as I was
telling you earlier, that itallowed us to Distinguish
between our own emotion.
It allows to take more rationalThinking about our feelings,
emotions and the way we will betaking action.
Otherwise, we may takedecisions which are irrational,
(19:03):
and that is another thing.
I would comment, martin on thisis, let's say, if we want to
quit on something, quit on anyproduct, wait on any of the
aspects.
My recommendation would beNever, ever, quit on a bad day.
If you want to quit on anything, always quit on a.
(19:23):
And you're on a good day, whenyou're keeping your head head
high, you will not regret yourdecision.
That is a very big and onlearning that I had, it's very
good ways.
Yeah, and then we are Mad atthings.
When we are not in a goodmindset, good frame of mind, we
(19:44):
may take action which we willregret for life.
Yeah so don't take action ordon't quit on things when you
are not in a right Mindset, notin a frame of mind.
Speaker 1 (19:56):
I want to ask you this final question before we
wrap it up, and that is youmentioned earlier that 90% of 60
to 80,000 of our thoughts arenegative.
I, I, I, I.
Speaker 2 (20:14):
I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I, I.
We are talking to someone.
(20:35):
There is a lot of negativeconnotation, negative words that
are being used and it is Notdeliberately.
Sometime it is moresubquantiously.
So what our mind is getting ison negative, negative, negative,
negative, negative, and that iswhen we start thinking about
things negative.
(20:56):
So, for example, there's adifferent example.
Let's say, when you are havingyour meal and if you want to
have a dessert, the researchshows that if you wait for 45
minutes Before you startthinking on your dessert, the
likelihood of you not eating thedessert increases by close to
(21:18):
80%.
But think about it.
What happens when we go to arestaurant Before our meal is
finished?
The server will come.
Please look at our dessertwinning.
Whether you are thinking abouthaving a dessert or not, it is
coming to you right in front ofyou.
So where I am going at is whenwe are seeing and observing a
(21:42):
lot of negativity.
That is the reason why our mindis thinking negative.
So we have to takesubconsciously in our mind,
effort to think positive, to useour words, more positive words.
I think there is a game whereyou cannot use a word.
(22:05):
No, there is a kids game wehave tried to see if, in a day,
how many words are you usingwhich are also negative
connotation.
Start changing those negativewords to positive and you will
see some positivity.
Speaker 1 (22:22):
Thank you so much, raul, for coming on and sharing
all of your wisdom and insightwith myself and the audience.
Really, I am proud of you.
We are about to go into theUntitled Round, where we are
going to ask you a series ofquestions.
You don't have to think, youdon't have to justify it, you
don't want to.
And if you do, are you ready toplay, sir?
Speaker 2 (22:45):
Yes, yes, martin, thank you for having me on the
show and I am excited for thisnext segment.
Speaker 1 (22:49):
Mindset is a process.
Never underestimate the powerof your own selves.
I highly recommend peopleshould read extreme ownership.
I've always wanted to travel toMexico.
My advice to young people isbelieve in themselves.
Family or business, familyskill set or mindset Mindset.
(23:12):
Wine or beer, wine book smartor street smart, street smart.
Self care or self love, selflove, more time or more money,
more time, success or happiness,happiness and, lastly, trump or
Biden.
Speaker 2 (23:34):
I don't have any answer there, my friend.
Speaker 1 (23:41):
Thank you again, sir, for coming on and being so
gracious with your time and yourwisdom and your insights.
If people wanted to connectwith you, how do they find you?
Where can they connect with you?
How can they learn from you?
If they wanted to bring you on,maybe as a coach or something
like that, where would theystart to connect with?
Speaker 2 (23:57):
Yes, they can find me on Google.
They just search on my bookHabits for Miraclescom, they can
find the credentials.
They can also find me onLinkedIn and if they want to
seek assistance, I'm always ableto provide some help, some
(24:17):
guidance, and would be excitedto connect with our listeners.
Speaker 1 (24:23):
Thank you, so much, sir.
I really appreciate you comingon and sharing with us.
We'll see you soon.
Thank you everybody.
Bye-bye.
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