June 4, 2025 • 28 mins
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What do golf balls, unresolved trauma, and Bob Barker have in common? You guessed it—Happy Gilmore!
In this week's episode of Wicked Psychotherapists, Erin and Tanya tee off on one of Adam Sandler’s most iconic (and unhinged) roles.
From attachment wounds and abandonment to anger management and visualization techniques, we explore Happy’s journey through grief, identity shifts, and emotional regulation—all disguised as a slapstick sports comedy.
Get ready for a deep (and hilarious) dive into how this 90s cult classic mirrors real mental health struggles—plus the moments that totally couldn’t be made today.
Oh, and yes, we talk about the grandma, the alligator, and that epic beatdown with Bob Barker.
Whether you're a diehard Sandler fan or a first-time watcher, this one’s for anyone who’s ever struggled to stay calm under pressure… or needed a little help finding their “happy place.”
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(00:08):
You are listening to WickedPsychotherapists, a podcast
where two psychotherapists showyou that taking care of and
learning about mental healthdoesn't have to be wicked hat.
Erin (00:31):
Hey guys, it's Tanya.
Hi, it's Erin, and welcome toWicked Psychotherapists.
Tanya (00:36):
Yeah, welcome.
So we are doing, today we're,we're going down the Adam
Sandler pipeline.
We're, we're just, obsessed withhim.
I think we've talked about thismany times before, but we love
Adam Sandler and we're goingback to some of the classics.
but this is one of my favorites.
It's from 1996.
happy Gilmore.
So we are going to be talkingabout some good stuff.
(01:00):
Hopefully you all.
Like this movie as well too, ifyou're tuning in or you just
wanna relive some of themoments.
also we wanted to do somethingon this because there is a Happy
Gilmore two coming out.
we don't, I don't know therelease state yet, but it should
be, Not too far away.
maybe in the summer 25 or end of25 but we'll find out.
(01:22):
we'll definitely do another,episode around that too, So,
let's get into Happy Gilmore.
So we have, happy Gilmore, whois a, avid hockey player.
He gets this love of hockey fromhis dad.
They're always playing, they'realways going to games, and happy
(01:43):
is.
you know, pretty, his, his dadis pretty intense around it.
and happy kind of says, I thinkin the first scene he talks
about, ah, I wasn't really goodwith like skating, but I had a
nice, you know, a nice like,what do they call it?
Like a hook shot?
Mm-hmm.
Or, you know, kind of the, the,the shot into the goal.
I'm sorry if I'm butchering thatpeople, I don't know the lingo.
but yeah.
And so that was kind of hissaving grace and that was what
(02:05):
he.
You know, he always, he always,loved hockey and him and his
dad, that was the bond betweenthem.
He said his mom didn't love itso much and she ended up moving
to Egypt.
Yeah, because where there's noice hockey rinks and doesn't
seem like she became much partof his
Erin (02:20):
No,
Tanya (02:20):
she wasn't really a part of his life after that.
Which is, is sad already.
It's kind of sad.
but he presents it in such afunny way.
So, It's such an Adam Sandlerway too, right?
He's kind of just going down theline naming all these funny
things, you know, having thesefunny shots of him hitting his
dad with a puck, when they'repracticing.
And, but ultimately we learnthat happy, happy his dad passes
(02:47):
away because he gets.
Hit with a, a hockey puck at agame.
Yeah.
and so, and then he's, he has togo live with his sweet little
grandma who, who dresses up as,as Gene Simmons Yeah.
To greet him, of kiss.
And, so she seems pretty, prettycool.
Mm-hmm.
that, I don't know what it isabout that grandma, that
actress, but she, she justplayed such Yeah.
(03:08):
Great little cute grandmafigures that were also pretty
hilarious.
Erin (03:12):
Yeah.
I mean, the one I always thinkof is.
On Seinfeld when?
Is it Jerry trying to get like,is it the rye bread or something
like that?
It's the rye bread.
Yep.
Tanya (03:22):
He's like, he steals it from a burger.
She's like, help, help.
And then she recognizes himlater when she moves to Florida
and his father's running forlike condo president or
something, and she's like, itwas you.
He just like, he steals it likea madman running down the
street.
Like who does that?
Who steals bread from an oldlady?
Erin (03:41):
Gotta have it.
It's the last one.
Tanya (03:43):
Yeah.
But she's pretty great.
and he Happy Gilmore does say atthis point he kind of starts to
develop a short fuse.
Because he is kind of got, youknow, and it's no wonder You
know, his therapist, that's kindof the, I don't know if your
ears kind of parked up where Iwas like, oh,'cause the dad
died.
He doesn't know his mom.
And he even
Erin (03:58):
says that too.
He says like, I, you know,'causehe talks about the one thing at
the birthday party or something.
He is like.
You know, then I kind of had ashort fuse because, I angry
about my, you know, lost my dad,didn't have, you know, his mom
had already abandoned him.
And then what I like though islike, he beat up this kid and
then afterwards he's like, youknow what?
(04:18):
I, I screwed up.
let me go apologize, give you aweird back rub and give you some
cake.
We're friends now.
Tanya (04:25):
The kid just looks.
Really confused and scared.
I don't know of which part more,but I'm sure that stuck in his
memory.
That was a traumatic memory forhim.
he develops a really odd.
Way of coping with his anger.
He doesn't have great copingskills, so he just kind of lets
it all out he's got no impulsecontrol and then feels bad and
apologizes quickly after.
(04:46):
He does that with his girlfriendwhere.
Oh yeah, it's another part thatI love.
Oh my gosh, this movie could notbe made.
I mean, like, it couldn't bemade in the same way.
Yeah.
As it, it was then.
I mean, I don't know, maybe thatthe second one will be, and
they'll just keep to that, butthere's just so many, so many
things that we just could not,you know, condone now I think,
you know, that, but it, this wasthe nineties of it all.
(05:08):
So, and Adam Sandler, but he, Iguess that the girlfriend breaks
up with him and.
He's like, yeah, and he startsto say all these insults to her
and he is like, well, you're,you're, you know what?
Because she says like, you know,you're kind of listless, you're
not really doing much with yourlife.
and he is like, yeah, well Iseen those finger paintings of
your students and they aintnothing great.
Erin (05:29):
Those
Tanya (05:29):
kindergarters
Erin (05:30):
don't even know what they're doing.
Tanya (05:31):
And then like, as soon as he yells, he's like, don't
leave.
Don't leave, come back.
I love you.
And she's like, no.
And he's like, I don't you know,therapeutically, we see this
kind of like, really avoidantmixed attachment style where he
pushes people away, but then islike, no, I need you.
it's kind of borderline ish,
Erin (05:49):
yeah.
Tanya (05:50):
Mixed attachment style.
But it follows
Erin (05:51):
too with, you know, if we go back to his childhood, his
mom abandoned him and then hewas raised by his dad.
And his dad, even though he wascomforting, was still kind of
like hostile at times exceptrelated to hockey.
Yeah, and he die in a violentway, and so he has that.
He has a lot of abandonment andis like, okay, you know, how do
I latch onto people or what do Ido?
(06:13):
How do I get'em to stay or do Iwant'em to stay?
It hurts when they stay.
You know?
Tanya (06:17):
Yeah, he definitely has some emotional difficulties
going on there, and I mean, I'msure his grandma's trying the
best she can, but she's kind ofolder.
She probably couldn't look outfor all those things.
maybe that wasn't even a part ofwhat she would even consider,
you know, probably just thebasics of taking care of him,
making sure he is okay kind ofthing.
Erin (06:33):
Yeah.
She started taking care of himat like, I don't know, eight or
nine, whatever he was.
Tanya (06:38):
Yeah,
Erin (06:38):
yeah,
Tanya (06:39):
yeah.
So he kind of, carries that withhim throughout his life.
Mm-hmm.
And he still holds to his loveof hockey.
He still tries out for this,amateur kind of team.
Every time.
And he just is really violentand really like, you know,
checking people against the walland being like, that's my p you
know, kind of just really,really angry and upset.
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He doesn't know how toemotionally, he's a hothead on
the ice it's just kind of, youknow, he never makes the team
because of this and because hereally can't focus on his
skills.
Instead he's just, kind ofreacting to all the stuff he's
doing wrong or that he can't getRight.
Yeah.
Erin (07:18):
and breaking the glass where the two coaches Oh yeah.
That probably didn't, which islike so impossible.
Tanya (07:24):
Mm-hmm.
Erin (07:25):
Then beating up the coach after that, he didn't get on the
team.
Tanya (07:28):
Yeah, he is really, he's got some anger issues from you.
Very, very lightly.
but yeah, it, and instead, Ithink is kind of that time where
people would, be like, oh, let'sstay away.
Rather than realizing like, oh,he is got some issues.
Or maybe they just,'cause he wasan adult by that point, right?
They were like, I don't knowwhat to do with him.
But definitely a product of hisupbringing and abandonment and
(07:48):
also just not having any angermanagement or coping skills.
Mm-hmm.
Towards upset and disappointmentand not winning and not getting
what he needs.
but yeah, so he, he then comesto, to realize that.
He, his, his grandmother'shouse, all her stuff is being
taken because she has all these,like, what is it, like$270,000
(08:10):
in back taxes that she hasn'tpaid?
So the, the bank is trying totake her house and he's trying
to figure out a way to, to saveit.
And then he, you know, somebodysees him Shooting the, golf
ball.
Erin (08:23):
the stuff.
Well, they start betting himthe,'cause the two guys are
like, just being like, oh, theyfound his grandfather's clubs
and they're just like shooting,you know, hitting, shooting or
whatever, hitting the ball.
How, how's sports?
How's sports sportsy?
Am I, no, but they start hittingthe ball and you know, just like
they're thinking they're reallygreat and then he is like, oh,
this is so dumb.
(08:45):
You know, golf and blah, blah,blah.
And they're like, oh, but youcan't do it.
So then he is like, oh, wait.
So then they start betting himand I think he made like$60 from
that after, you know, after heis shooting it all the way down
the road.
And then they, then they, he'slike, huh, maybe I can start
making money at the drivingrange and start doing different
things.
So that's pretty much how, how Ithink he started thinking like,
(09:07):
okay, this could actually.
Be a job or I can start hustlingpeople.
Tanya (09:12):
Yeah.
And then he, and then he like isat the driving range and all
these people are like, youshould try.
'cause he shoots all these like,magnificent, just far, far
reaching, you know, heights withthe golf ball.
I think he's playing with ahockey.
Stick or maybe, hisgrandfather's, I don't know what
he is playing with, but he'sreally just making these really
far shots and everyone's like,you should be in the Waterbury
(09:35):
Inn.
'cause he's in Waterbury,Connecticut, which is just so
funny to me.
they're dressed like suchWaterbury, Connecticut, like
just Connecticut.
Yeah.
Erin (09:43):
But their sweaters.
Sweaters tied.
Tanya (09:44):
And that's when, Chubbs the, mentor guy the figure in
his movie, that there's likesome coach guiding him or some
mentor.
That's like some wise, sage manthat's gonna, help him with
this.
And he discovers him and islike, oh, he could be a good
golfer for the open and mm-hmm.
but, you know, along the way wesee Adam, I'm sorry, Adam, um,
(10:07):
happy, happy, happy.
Same thing.
You know, he's, he's pretty muchhis characters.
Same difference.
Yeah.
But happy is, is just, you know,he really has difficulty
controlling his emotions and hecan, you know, really hit this
golf ball, but he just has atough time when people say
things or heckle him.
And this slowly is becoming kindof like his, his downfall and
(10:30):
his play.
Chubbs is realizing that andsaying like, Ugh, you know, like
he's really, we gotta, we gottakind of train him to not be such
a hothead.
I think he even gets like, isn'tthere like some sort of coach he
gets in to kind of like helpwith, to be like, Hey, you
gotta, you gotta be calm.
No,
Erin (10:48):
what happens is to say they team each other up.
Like, so I guess like whenyou're in the golf open
tournament yeah.
Tournaments, whatever.
I guess they go against aperson.
'cause it always seems likethere's two people.
So one of his people that he wasplaying with, like who was his,
I guess not even partner, butjust playing next to was very
zen he was the one who was like,so you just gotta do this and do
(11:10):
that.
and so he was the one who wascoaching him through the whole
thing.
But he wasn't the coach.
He was just the person that was.
Kind of almost like stuck nextto him while he was doing all
this.
He was like trying
Tanya (11:20):
to get to calm down.
And it was just enraging himfurther because he's, it's just
like,
Erin (11:24):
He's like, dude, stop.
Tanya (11:26):
enough.
It just didn't work with him.
Yeah.
and then he meets the,journalist?
Virginia?
She's like a, she's a, she's a,
Erin (11:33):
I think she's the marketing or social,'cause there
wasn't social media back then,but she was like the PR person.
There was no social media in 96.
Yeah, so she's the PR person forthe tour, for the whole, the
whole tour.
So that's why she was like atfirst standing next to, next to
shooter because, you know, he'sthe.
Up and coming.
You know, everyone's expectinghim to get the yellow jacket at
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the end.
Shooter?
Shooter.
Shooter McGee or something?
Mcg Gavin?
Yeah.
Mcg
Tanya (12:03):
shooter McGee is better, but yeah, I think it was Shooter
mcg, shooter McGee.
Erin (12:10):
But yeah, so she, that's why she was standing with him
and the other guy because it waslike, I think they probably all
expected him to win'cause he'sgonna get all the publicity
That's also why she was liketalking to her boss, like, oh
no, let's keep happy.
Look at all the people that arenow watching and interested in
golf, because they never, youknow,'cause it's interesting.
It's like a draw.
Tanya (12:29):
Yeah.
It's a draw for the people.
Yeah.
He is not just this boring golf,it like brings about some
attention to it.
Yeah.
And then he of course, you know,thinks she's, hot and wants to,
Date her or whatever.
And so they start a littleromance there.
Mm-hmm.
and she also is kind of tryingto keep him to be like, Hey, you
(12:50):
can't keep playing.
Like, I kind of saved your butt.
You know, like, you gotta calm,yeah.
Calm down, you know, calmyourself down.
and then Chubb is also workingwith him to be like.
at the mini golf range.
And he basically, you know, waskind of trying to give him some
techniques and he ends up givinghim visualization.
He is like, go to your happyplace.
Mm-hmm.
(13:10):
And that's, very, verytherapeutic and very helpful.
It's a lot of athletesapparently.
use that, to kind of clear theirminds or focus and, yeah.
Visualize his happy place is,the PR lady, Julie Bowen,
Virginia.
and his grandma winning at acasino and a little person on a
unicycle or something.
(13:31):
Like he's just so random.
And Adam Sandler Rusk.
Yeah.
Yeah.
How his mind works.
Yeah.
And, Yeah.
And, and so I really memorablescenes that I loved were the,
the Bob Barker scene because heends up having to team up with
him at the masters ortournament, whatever that is.
Erin (13:48):
someone who's a professional golfer
Tanya (13:52):
and Yeah.
Erin (13:53):
Yeah.
I guess it was to earn money'cause I think he got his 7,000,
well, not little'cause all hischecks, he made them make the
big checks.
Remember, like at, he's like, ohyeah, yeah.
Just because they're like, oh,we can't give you a check and
it'll be a couple weeks.
He's like, what?
Just make, what about the bigcheck?
They're, and so that's why heended up with like a whole car
full of big checks because hedidn't want, you know, but,
(14:14):
yeah.
But like with Bob Barker, yeah,I think they were just put
together because, you know,celebrity, professional golfer,
you know, it's just like random.
Tanya (14:22):
Yeah.
Like they, that was like howthey paired them up and Bob
Barker, I guess was getting kindof angry at, at happy for he
wasn't playing a good game andhe was getting heckled by, the
shooter had hired some guy to belike, you suck jackass, you
know?
Oh yeah.
And like, yeah, sit there andcall him like, get Jackass, like
right before he would shoot and.
Bob Barker gets mad, sayssomething kind of nasty to, to
(14:44):
happy and happy.
He's like, what?
And then they just take eachother out and Bob Barker gets
the best of that exchange.
Erin (14:51):
Yeah, because that was the first thing, like when they
first met Bob Barker's, like,okay, I won last year.
I, or came in first or secondlast year, I expect to do the
same.
And then they were dead last.
Tanya (15:02):
And then, yeah, that's where the signature for me.
Like that's what I alwayspicture with Adam Sandler, that
signature yelling of like, oh,come on.
The price is wrong.
You know?
He's like, price is wrong, Bob.
Oh my gosh.
It's just so that scene justcracks me up because then, you
know, Bob Barker rather thanjust being startled and like,
(15:23):
kind of like, oh my gosh, hejust fights him right back and
pushes into the retention pondor whatever the heck that is.
yeah.
And then, he also gets into afight with an alligator, which
is the one that took.
Chub's arm and the one eyedalligator that Chub's got his
eye, he like wrestles him in thewater.
And he's like playing with himlike he's playing fetch with a
(15:43):
dog.
Erin (15:45):
And, um,
Tanya (15:46):
yeah, I wasn't,
Erin (15:47):
sure how he killed him, I guess, like just punching him,
killed him.
Tanya (15:50):
Yeah.
I mean, I don't know if thatwould actually work.
You can clearly see it's likesuch a, it's like a rubber
alligator right now.
The TVs that we have now, butcause it's like bobbing along,
like so, like rubber rubbery.
Yeah,
Erin (16:03):
it's like a pool.
Tanya (16:03):
No C, no c,
Erin (16:05):
no CGI back then.
Tanya (16:07):
But yeah, I think he, I think he like punched him'cause
he just like attacked, attackedthe, the alligator.
but, and then he gives Chubbsthe gift of like his, his head
and then that ultimately killsChubbs.
'cause he gets so scared he.
Backs up and falls out a window.
So, yeah, he should have warnedhim.
Happy's like so upset and he'slike, oh, I always, people that
get close to me die.
(16:28):
You should, you should get awayVirginia.
You know, and he's like, gotthat, that trauma of like, oh,
people die around me, like hisdad and yeah, Chubbs, Yeah, he's
like, takes on that, thattrauma.
But ultimately, you know, happyis able to use his visualization
and calm down and, you know, notwithout a few hi jinks and, you
(16:48):
know, some, the, the heckler guydriving a Volkswagen through and
running him down.
Erin (16:52):
Yeah.
Well, and it even goes back to,you know, when Chubbs brought
him to the mini golf, you know,he is like, okay.
'cause when the tower falls, heis like, okay, this reminds me
of.
That weird shot that I had todo, and it goes back to Chubbs
Strange Coaching
Tanya (17:09):
and the fact that they just like kept that there.
They're like, well, this is partof the golf course now you Gotta
shoot off of that in the subwaysign.
Erin (17:15):
Yeah.
so much product placement withSubway.
It is like having another subwaysandwich.
Oh, wait, now I'm gonnaadvertise for Subway and
Subway's gonna be,
Tanya (17:23):
yeah, it's a classic, hilarious movie.
the shouts and the way that AdamSandler.
You know, his characters the wayhe just is unhinged and so
ridiculous.
Yeah.
Classic Adam.
Erin (17:36):
Yeah, he, that's just his trademark I think in all of his,
probably all his movies.
Tanya (17:41):
Yeah, I think he kind of like matured more, but he still
kind of can lose it a littlebit.
and some of them are like justkind of shouting that way and it
just kind of brings back, bringsto mind some of Those old movies
and the way he would act.
but.
I just think this is honestlyjust hilarious to me.
even though I understand likethe humor behind it, it's just
when the grandma gets put in anursing home and she's just
(18:04):
being abused, like, it just, itgets to me and I can't laugh at
that.
'cause I'm like, oh, like I havea soft spot for Yeah, because
it's, because it's kind
Erin (18:11):
of, because you're like, okay, Ben Stiller.
Nurse spend stiller whateveryou're, you know, like, it's
like you, you like, okay, so Iunderstand like, he's like,
okay, gonna make some money,making them make quilts and do
this, all their other stuff.
Tanya (18:24):
But the hotline,
Erin (18:26):
Sex hotline.
it's just so strange.
And, but yeah, I'm sure theyjust, he is like, okay, where
can I put my buddy Ben Stillerin the movie?
He's like, he looks like anabusive orderly.
Sure.
grow this mustache.
Or let me, let's glue, let'sglue this mustache on you.
Tanya (18:41):
Oh my gosh.
Yeah.
And also, Norman, Norman, Ican't, why am I blanking on his
name?
Norman, the one that he alwayshas in, in his movies.
The one that was on SNL Norman.
I can't think of his name, buthe, he always has them in his
movies too, but when he's justlike, one of his, like, goof
around buddies, Uhhuh, and he islike, you know, kind of, kind of
(19:03):
just, you know, like, kind of,kind of just like, I, I think
they're throwing like, oh wait.
Erin (19:09):
actually.
Know what I think you'rethinking,'cause you said you
watched Big Daddy recently and Ithink that he was in big Daddy,
so,
Tanya (19:15):
I saw some clips of, Billy Madison.
Oh, okay.
Where they throw the dog poop upon the porch, whatever.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
That is not, we'll have to doBilly Madison sometime too.
Yeah, Billy Madison is anotherone of my favorites.
I'm mixing that up.
But, yeah, it's, it's just, Imean, his friends that are kind
of in all his movies,
Erin (19:34):
I was trying to think.
Like, I don't, I don't know ifthere's too many SNL people.
Kevin Neen was in the, in HappyGilmore.
I don't know.
Oh, okay.
Doesn't look like there was tonsof others.
There's one person that lookedlike, I thought it was, what's
his name?
Kevin, oh my God.
The, the guy who was in King ofQueens.
Tanya (19:52):
We can't think of anyone you all know who we're talking
about.
So he was,
Erin (19:55):
yeah.
Anyway, Kevin James.
Kevin James.
So there's one guy that lookedlike Kevin James, who I was
thinking was Kevin James inHappy Gilmore, but it was not.
Tanya (20:04):
there's just, there's a lot of his, his gang around and
they're mm-hmm.
They're, they're just kind ofhilarious.
Yeah.
They, they also had some moviesor went on to have some movies
and, you know, they, they justwere kind of the, the funny,
funny guys Yeah.
At that time.
and still I think they still,yeah, they still are, you know,
but, yeah, it was just a time Ijust thought it was such a good
(20:24):
movie and such, you know, just away of, I guess just from the
mental health perspective, justthe anger management.
Mm-hmm.
And trying to control, I.
anger impulses and learningabout visualization and Right.
You know, being able to adaptAlso, also adaptability.
Yeah.
Like, you know, he, he had toadapt between hockey and Yeah.
(20:45):
And golf and pivot and also
Erin (20:47):
he had to slow down, you know, like with the breathing
and everything like that.
And tried to, he couldn't justbe a hothead just because that's
what he wanted to do.
'cause there was a couple timesafter.
You know, after he is talked toyou about like, okay, you can't
really act like that, you'regonna get kicked off.
You could tell he wanted to flipout, but he is like, okay, this
is, this is who I need to beright now.
(21:07):
I need to slow, slow down andjust call.
Yeah.
And he uses as the goal
Tanya (21:13):
of like, grandma, remember
Erin (21:14):
grandma like her house?
Yeah.
Grandma, grandma, grandma.
Tanya (21:16):
Yeah.
And like he's so, I mean, he'sdefinitely a very caring person.
He cares about his grandma.
That's who basically raised
Erin (21:21):
Yeah.
Even has her, picture in his carinstead of.
Car dice.
He just has grandma pictures.
Do you remember grandma?
I remember people used to havethat, my mom had something like
that in her car.
she had a car where she wouldhave a box, like one of those
picture box things.
hanging under the rear viewmirror,
Tanya (21:38):
think I remember them.
Like, I don't think my mom hadit, but I think, yeah, I do
remember that.
That was kind of a big thing.
Yeah.
Very eighties or something.
this was A hilarious movie.
where, there was just a lot ofpoints we thought were,
interesting.
You know, with mental health andanger management, and also kind
of growing up focusing on otherpeople pivoting in your career.
(21:58):
And in your life and dealingwith adversity and having to.
You know, manage that.
And, he actually does have alot, you know, and I know he
doesn't, he doesn't focus onthis, of course, we're just
focusing on it.
But he does have to learn that.
And he learns that through golfand through people helping him
out and supporting him.
So that is
Erin (22:17):
a
Tanya (22:17):
plus in our books.
Erin (22:19):
Yeah.
And staying true to who he is atthe end.
his love for his family, hisgrandma,
Tanya (22:24):
you know, it's, yeah.
Yeah.
And keeping his, his familytogether and, and his, his
house, the house that hisgrandfather built, keeping that
in the family and everything.
Mm-hmm.
So, yeah, if you have not seenthat movie, go check it out.
Especially if you're kind of aGen X or late millennial, I
think you'll appreciate it.
(22:45):
I'm just saying like, that was atime and so maybe you kind of
remember that.
But it definitely was justreally funny.
Mm-hmm.
Again, very not politicallycorrect in a lot of ways
nowadays.
Right.
But I think there were a lot ofmovies that definitely were not
That's okay.
At that point.
It's okay to
Erin (22:59):
have silliness every once in a while and not worry about
being completely politicallycorrect.
Tanya (23:03):
Yeah.
I think we still, I mean, that'sjust kind of how, that's what we
grew up seeing.
Yeah.
So the non-PC nature isnostalgia.
Erin (23:10):
no, I'm curious for, happy Gilmer too.
How many of the same people willbe in it?
'cause you know, a lot of peoplehave passed away, but a lot of
people are still alive.
Or if he's gonna add new peopleor if it's still gonna be
related to golf or if he's gonnaactually play hockey,
Tanya (23:26):
Yeah.
I think it definitely is kindof, up for grabs.
I don't know.
I think they've said some peopleare gonna be in the movie,
they've kind of announced it,but they haven't really put much
out there about it.
At least as far as I could see.
Right.
Yeah.
They're probably keeping ithidden.
Yeah.
But it's exciting.
that'll be fun to look forwardto because that's, been almost
30 years.
(23:47):
1996.
Oh my God, that's, yeah, thatmakes me.
I was very cognizant and awareduring that time, and the fact
that it was 30 years ago makesme feel very old.
but it is what it is.
Erin (24:01):
I know it's one of my favorites.
I forgot how much I really likedit.
I mean, I thought it was funny,but I watched it last night with
the family It was their firsttime seeing it.
There was so much laughterhappening.
So that was good.
Tanya (24:13):
That's good.
Yeah, it is.
It is really, really funny.
Just everything about it.
Just the ridiculousness, thesilliness, the Adam Sandlers
Yeah.
the nineties of it all.
Even like when
Erin (24:24):
the, when he is bringing grandma, grandma to the nursing
home and the one lady.
Jumps on the car because he islike, oh grandma, this is such a
nice place.
You know, he's trying to sell itto her.
look at the grass.
It's like a resort.
Look at the grass.
You know, maybe they have apool.
And then this lady jumps on,help me get me outta here.
Tanya (24:42):
And then the air conditioner ends up falling on
her.
He's like, I think I killed her.
Yeah.
He is like, all right, see ya.
Yeah, that's, that's that.
Yeah.
go check it out again.
I was able to find it for free,I think it was, I don't know if
it was on Prime or whatever, butyou can pretty much find it
anywhere Nowadays.
So, yeah, go watch it again orwatch it for the first time and,
(25:06):
hopefully you'll be able to, uh,laugh, relive some of the funny
laughs that we did.
Mm-hmm.
And the nostalgia of it all.
Yeah.
yeah, I did wanna come to the,the question Okay.
To ask you.
So if you had your choicebetween hockey or golf that you,
would want to play and had some,maybe some talent leading into
(25:28):
it, That could possibly, get youmaybe somewhere, what would you
choose?
Okay.
Would you rather be talented atice hockey or golf?
Erin (25:36):
Well, I'll be honest.
I don't know how to ice skate.
I think I've gone like twice inmy life, but of the two, I think
I'd rather play hockey.
It looks more fun, you know,like even though there's chances
I'd probably lose my teeth orget punched in the face, it
just, once I learned how toskate and I wasn't afraid, and
you have all this equipment, itlooks like hockey might be more
(26:00):
fun.
But I know a lot of people lovegolf, so I think I would choose
hockey.
Tanya (26:04):
I think I would do the same.
I think because it, I agree.
I think it seems more fun and Idon't know, the golf just does
not appeal to me at all.
Yeah.
And it's just not something Inormally do.
Yeah.
It just looks blah I think thatit would be more fun, more
challenging, and it wouldprobably just be, more
interesting.
Erin (26:22):
a team and it seems like you're, you know, like there's
not really a team with golf,which I know a lot of, there's a
lot of nice things doingindividual sports, but I don't
know if those are the only twothings you could do.
I think I would figure outhockey.
Tanya (26:36):
I think so too.
Me too.
I think that would be more, morefun.
so that is, that is HappyGilmore and we are heading down
the, the Adam Sandler pipeline,so there's probably gonna be
more in the next couple weeks.
Erin (26:50):
at least three more after this one.
Yeah.
At least I say, because we mighteven discover other ones that,
who knows, maybe we'll dogrownups.
Tanya (26:58):
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Erin (26:59):
grown us one, two, there's a lot of other things we can do.
Tanya (27:03):
Yeah.
So let us know what you think,if you went back and watched it,
if it was kind of differentseeing it.
I know we both thought it washilarious again.
Revisiting it.
or, if it's not really yourfavorite, but you still like
Adam Sandler.
We're always happy to hear whatyou think and engage with that.
let us know.
Connect with us on socials.
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Erin (27:24):
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Tanya (27:25):
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Tanya (27:27):
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Mm-hmm.
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Erin (27:32):
don't forget, stay wicked and keep your mind well.
All right.
Have a great week.
Bye-bye.
Tanya (27:38):
Bye guys.
You are listening to WickedPsychotherapists, a podcast
where two psychotherapists showyou that taking care of and
learning about mental healthdoesn't have to be wicked hat.
Erin (00:31):
Hey guys, it's Tanya.
Hi, it's Erin, and welcome toWicked Psychotherapists.
Tanya (00:36):
Yeah, welcome.
So we are doing, today we're,we're going down the Adam
Sandler pipeline.
We're, we're just, obsessed withhim.
I think we've talked about thismany times before, but we love
Adam Sandler and we're goingback to some of the classics.
but this is one of my favorites.
It's from 1996.
happy Gilmore.
So we are going to be talkingabout some good stuff.
(01:00):
Hopefully you all.
Like this movie as well too, ifyou're tuning in or you just
wanna relive some of themoments.
also we wanted to do somethingon this because there is a Happy
Gilmore two coming out.
we don't, I don't know therelease state yet, but it should
be, Not too far away.
maybe in the summer 25 or end of25 but we'll find out.
(01:22):
we'll definitely do another,episode around that too, So,
let's get into Happy Gilmore.
So we have, happy Gilmore, whois a, avid hockey player.
He gets this love of hockey fromhis dad.
They're always playing, they'realways going to games, and happy
(01:43):
is.
you know, pretty, his, his dadis pretty intense around it.
and happy kind of says, I thinkin the first scene he talks
about, ah, I wasn't really goodwith like skating, but I had a
nice, you know, a nice like,what do they call it?
Like a hook shot?
Mm-hmm.
Or, you know, kind of the, the,the shot into the goal.
I'm sorry if I'm butchering thatpeople, I don't know the lingo.
but yeah.
And so that was kind of hissaving grace and that was what
(02:05):
he.
You know, he always, he always,loved hockey and him and his
dad, that was the bond betweenthem.
He said his mom didn't love itso much and she ended up moving
to Egypt.
Yeah, because where there's noice hockey rinks and doesn't
seem like she became much partof his
Erin (02:20):
No,
Tanya (02:20):
she wasn't really a part of his life after that.
Which is, is sad already.
It's kind of sad.
but he presents it in such afunny way.
So, It's such an Adam Sandlerway too, right?
He's kind of just going down theline naming all these funny
things, you know, having thesefunny shots of him hitting his
dad with a puck, when they'repracticing.
And, but ultimately we learnthat happy, happy his dad passes
(02:47):
away because he gets.
Hit with a, a hockey puck at agame.
Yeah.
and so, and then he's, he has togo live with his sweet little
grandma who, who dresses up as,as Gene Simmons Yeah.
To greet him, of kiss.
And, so she seems pretty, prettycool.
Mm-hmm.
that, I don't know what it isabout that grandma, that
actress, but she, she justplayed such Yeah.
(03:08):
Great little cute grandmafigures that were also pretty
hilarious.
Erin (03:12):
Yeah.
I mean, the one I always thinkof is.
On Seinfeld when?
Is it Jerry trying to get like,is it the rye bread or something
like that?
It's the rye bread.
Yep.
Tanya (03:22):
He's like, he steals it from a burger.
She's like, help, help.
And then she recognizes himlater when she moves to Florida
and his father's running forlike condo president or
something, and she's like, itwas you.
He just like, he steals it likea madman running down the
street.
Like who does that?
Who steals bread from an oldlady?
Erin (03:41):
Gotta have it.
It's the last one.
Tanya (03:43):
Yeah.
But she's pretty great.
and he Happy Gilmore does say atthis point he kind of starts to
develop a short fuse.
Because he is kind of got, youknow, and it's no wonder You
know, his therapist, that's kindof the, I don't know if your
ears kind of parked up where Iwas like, oh,'cause the dad
died.
He doesn't know his mom.
And he even
Erin (03:58):
says that too.
He says like, I, you know,'causehe talks about the one thing at
the birthday party or something.
He is like.
You know, then I kind of had ashort fuse because, I angry
about my, you know, lost my dad,didn't have, you know, his mom
had already abandoned him.
And then what I like though islike, he beat up this kid and
then afterwards he's like, youknow what?
(04:18):
I, I screwed up.
let me go apologize, give you aweird back rub and give you some
cake.
We're friends now.
Tanya (04:25):
The kid just looks.
Really confused and scared.
I don't know of which part more,but I'm sure that stuck in his
memory.
That was a traumatic memory forhim.
he develops a really odd.
Way of coping with his anger.
He doesn't have great copingskills, so he just kind of lets
it all out he's got no impulsecontrol and then feels bad and
apologizes quickly after.
(04:46):
He does that with his girlfriendwhere.
Oh yeah, it's another part thatI love.
Oh my gosh, this movie could notbe made.
I mean, like, it couldn't bemade in the same way.
Yeah.
As it, it was then.
I mean, I don't know, maybe thatthe second one will be, and
they'll just keep to that, butthere's just so many, so many
things that we just could not,you know, condone now I think,
you know, that, but it, this wasthe nineties of it all.
(05:08):
So, and Adam Sandler, but he, Iguess that the girlfriend breaks
up with him and.
He's like, yeah, and he startsto say all these insults to her
and he is like, well, you're,you're, you know what?
Because she says like, you know,you're kind of listless, you're
not really doing much with yourlife.
and he is like, yeah, well Iseen those finger paintings of
your students and they aintnothing great.
Erin (05:29):
Those
Tanya (05:29):
kindergarters
Erin (05:30):
don't even know what they're doing.
Tanya (05:31):
And then like, as soon as he yells, he's like, don't
leave.
Don't leave, come back.
I love you.
And she's like, no.
And he's like, I don't you know,therapeutically, we see this
kind of like, really avoidantmixed attachment style where he
pushes people away, but then islike, no, I need you.
it's kind of borderline ish,
Erin (05:49):
yeah.
Tanya (05:50):
Mixed attachment style.
But it follows
Erin (05:51):
too with, you know, if we go back to his childhood, his
mom abandoned him and then hewas raised by his dad.
And his dad, even though he wascomforting, was still kind of
like hostile at times exceptrelated to hockey.
Yeah, and he die in a violentway, and so he has that.
He has a lot of abandonment andis like, okay, you know, how do
I latch onto people or what do Ido?
(06:13):
How do I get'em to stay or do Iwant'em to stay?
It hurts when they stay.
You know?
Tanya (06:17):
Yeah, he definitely has some emotional difficulties
going on there, and I mean, I'msure his grandma's trying the
best she can, but she's kind ofolder.
She probably couldn't look outfor all those things.
maybe that wasn't even a part ofwhat she would even consider,
you know, probably just thebasics of taking care of him,
making sure he is okay kind ofthing.
Erin (06:33):
Yeah.
She started taking care of himat like, I don't know, eight or
nine, whatever he was.
Tanya (06:38):
Yeah,
Erin (06:38):
yeah,
Tanya (06:39):
yeah.
So he kind of, carries that withhim throughout his life.
Mm-hmm.
And he still holds to his loveof hockey.
He still tries out for this,amateur kind of team.
Every time.
And he just is really violentand really like, you know,
checking people against the walland being like, that's my p you
know, kind of just really,really angry and upset.
(07:02):
He doesn't know how toemotionally, he's a hothead on
the ice it's just kind of, youknow, he never makes the team
because of this and because hereally can't focus on his
skills.
Instead he's just, kind ofreacting to all the stuff he's
doing wrong or that he can't getRight.
Yeah.
Erin (07:18):
and breaking the glass where the two coaches Oh yeah.
That probably didn't, which islike so impossible.
Tanya (07:24):
Mm-hmm.
Erin (07:25):
Then beating up the coach after that, he didn't get on the
team.
Tanya (07:28):
Yeah, he is really, he's got some anger issues from you.
Very, very lightly.
but yeah, it, and instead, Ithink is kind of that time where
people would, be like, oh, let'sstay away.
Rather than realizing like, oh,he is got some issues.
Or maybe they just,'cause he wasan adult by that point, right?
They were like, I don't knowwhat to do with him.
But definitely a product of hisupbringing and abandonment and
(07:48):
also just not having any angermanagement or coping skills.
Mm-hmm.
Towards upset and disappointmentand not winning and not getting
what he needs.
but yeah, so he, he then comesto, to realize that.
He, his, his grandmother'shouse, all her stuff is being
taken because she has all these,like, what is it, like$270,000
(08:10):
in back taxes that she hasn'tpaid?
So the, the bank is trying totake her house and he's trying
to figure out a way to, to saveit.
And then he, you know, somebodysees him Shooting the, golf
ball.
Erin (08:23):
the stuff.
Well, they start betting himthe,'cause the two guys are
like, just being like, oh, theyfound his grandfather's clubs
and they're just like shooting,you know, hitting, shooting or
whatever, hitting the ball.
How, how's sports?
How's sports sportsy?
Am I, no, but they start hittingthe ball and you know, just like
they're thinking they're reallygreat and then he is like, oh,
this is so dumb.
(08:45):
You know, golf and blah, blah,blah.
And they're like, oh, but youcan't do it.
So then he is like, oh, wait.
So then they start betting himand I think he made like$60 from
that after, you know, after heis shooting it all the way down
the road.
And then they, then they, he'slike, huh, maybe I can start
making money at the drivingrange and start doing different
things.
So that's pretty much how, how Ithink he started thinking like,
(09:07):
okay, this could actually.
Be a job or I can start hustlingpeople.
Tanya (09:12):
Yeah.
And then he, and then he like isat the driving range and all
these people are like, youshould try.
'cause he shoots all these like,magnificent, just far, far
reaching, you know, heights withthe golf ball.
I think he's playing with ahockey.
Stick or maybe, hisgrandfather's, I don't know what
he is playing with, but he'sreally just making these really
far shots and everyone's like,you should be in the Waterbury
(09:35):
Inn.
'cause he's in Waterbury,Connecticut, which is just so
funny to me.
they're dressed like suchWaterbury, Connecticut, like
just Connecticut.
Yeah.
Erin (09:43):
But their sweaters.
Sweaters tied.
Tanya (09:44):
And that's when, Chubbs the, mentor guy the figure in
his movie, that there's likesome coach guiding him or some
mentor.
That's like some wise, sage manthat's gonna, help him with
this.
And he discovers him and islike, oh, he could be a good
golfer for the open and mm-hmm.
but, you know, along the way wesee Adam, I'm sorry, Adam, um,
(10:07):
happy, happy, happy.
Same thing.
You know, he's, he's pretty muchhis characters.
Same difference.
Yeah.
But happy is, is just, you know,he really has difficulty
controlling his emotions and hecan, you know, really hit this
golf ball, but he just has atough time when people say
things or heckle him.
And this slowly is becoming kindof like his, his downfall and
(10:30):
his play.
Chubbs is realizing that andsaying like, Ugh, you know, like
he's really, we gotta, we gottakind of train him to not be such
a hothead.
I think he even gets like, isn'tthere like some sort of coach he
gets in to kind of like helpwith, to be like, Hey, you
gotta, you gotta be calm.
No,
Erin (10:48):
what happens is to say they team each other up.
Like, so I guess like whenyou're in the golf open
tournament yeah.
Tournaments, whatever.
I guess they go against aperson.
'cause it always seems likethere's two people.
So one of his people that he wasplaying with, like who was his,
I guess not even partner, butjust playing next to was very
zen he was the one who was like,so you just gotta do this and do
(11:10):
that.
and so he was the one who wascoaching him through the whole
thing.
But he wasn't the coach.
He was just the person that was.
Kind of almost like stuck nextto him while he was doing all
this.
He was like trying
Tanya (11:20):
to get to calm down.
And it was just enraging himfurther because he's, it's just
like,
Erin (11:24):
He's like, dude, stop.
Tanya (11:26):
enough.
It just didn't work with him.
Yeah.
and then he meets the,journalist?
Virginia?
She's like a, she's a, she's a,
Erin (11:33):
I think she's the marketing or social,'cause there
wasn't social media back then,but she was like the PR person.
There was no social media in 96.
Yeah, so she's the PR person forthe tour, for the whole, the
whole tour.
So that's why she was like atfirst standing next to, next to
shooter because, you know, he'sthe.
Up and coming.
You know, everyone's expectinghim to get the yellow jacket at
(11:57):
the end.
Shooter?
Shooter.
Shooter McGee or something?
Mcg Gavin?
Yeah.
Mcg
Tanya (12:03):
shooter McGee is better, but yeah, I think it was Shooter
mcg, shooter McGee.
Erin (12:10):
But yeah, so she, that's why she was standing with him
and the other guy because it waslike, I think they probably all
expected him to win'cause he'sgonna get all the publicity
That's also why she was liketalking to her boss, like, oh
no, let's keep happy.
Look at all the people that arenow watching and interested in
golf, because they never, youknow,'cause it's interesting.
It's like a draw.
Tanya (12:29):
Yeah.
It's a draw for the people.
Yeah.
He is not just this boring golf,it like brings about some
attention to it.
Yeah.
And then he of course, you know,thinks she's, hot and wants to,
Date her or whatever.
And so they start a littleromance there.
Mm-hmm.
and she also is kind of tryingto keep him to be like, Hey, you
(12:50):
can't keep playing.
Like, I kind of saved your butt.
You know, like, you gotta calm,yeah.
Calm down, you know, calmyourself down.
and then Chubb is also workingwith him to be like.
at the mini golf range.
And he basically, you know, waskind of trying to give him some
techniques and he ends up givinghim visualization.
He is like, go to your happyplace.
Mm-hmm.
(13:10):
And that's, very, verytherapeutic and very helpful.
It's a lot of athletesapparently.
use that, to kind of clear theirminds or focus and, yeah.
Visualize his happy place is,the PR lady, Julie Bowen,
Virginia.
and his grandma winning at acasino and a little person on a
unicycle or something.
(13:31):
Like he's just so random.
And Adam Sandler Rusk.
Yeah.
Yeah.
How his mind works.
Yeah.
And, Yeah.
And, and so I really memorablescenes that I loved were the,
the Bob Barker scene because heends up having to team up with
him at the masters ortournament, whatever that is.
Erin (13:48):
someone who's a professional golfer
Tanya (13:52):
and Yeah.
Erin (13:53):
Yeah.
I guess it was to earn money'cause I think he got his 7,000,
well, not little'cause all hischecks, he made them make the
big checks.
Remember, like at, he's like, ohyeah, yeah.
Just because they're like, oh,we can't give you a check and
it'll be a couple weeks.
He's like, what?
Just make, what about the bigcheck?
They're, and so that's why heended up with like a whole car
full of big checks because hedidn't want, you know, but,
(14:14):
yeah.
But like with Bob Barker, yeah,I think they were just put
together because, you know,celebrity, professional golfer,
you know, it's just like random.
Tanya (14:22):
Yeah.
Like they, that was like howthey paired them up and Bob
Barker, I guess was getting kindof angry at, at happy for he
wasn't playing a good game andhe was getting heckled by, the
shooter had hired some guy to belike, you suck jackass, you
know?
Oh yeah.
And like, yeah, sit there andcall him like, get Jackass, like
right before he would shoot and.
Bob Barker gets mad, sayssomething kind of nasty to, to
(14:44):
happy and happy.
He's like, what?
And then they just take eachother out and Bob Barker gets
the best of that exchange.
Erin (14:51):
Yeah, because that was the first thing, like when they
first met Bob Barker's, like,okay, I won last year.
I, or came in first or secondlast year, I expect to do the
same.
And then they were dead last.
Tanya (15:02):
And then, yeah, that's where the signature for me.
Like that's what I alwayspicture with Adam Sandler, that
signature yelling of like, oh,come on.
The price is wrong.
You know?
He's like, price is wrong, Bob.
Oh my gosh.
It's just so that scene justcracks me up because then, you
know, Bob Barker rather thanjust being startled and like,
(15:23):
kind of like, oh my gosh, hejust fights him right back and
pushes into the retention pondor whatever the heck that is.
yeah.
And then, he also gets into afight with an alligator, which
is the one that took.
Chub's arm and the one eyedalligator that Chub's got his
eye, he like wrestles him in thewater.
And he's like playing with himlike he's playing fetch with a
(15:43):
dog.
Erin (15:45):
And, um,
Tanya (15:46):
yeah, I wasn't,
Erin (15:47):
sure how he killed him, I guess, like just punching him,
killed him.
Tanya (15:50):
Yeah.
I mean, I don't know if thatwould actually work.
You can clearly see it's likesuch a, it's like a rubber
alligator right now.
The TVs that we have now, butcause it's like bobbing along,
like so, like rubber rubbery.
Yeah,
Erin (16:03):
it's like a pool.
Tanya (16:03):
No C, no c,
Erin (16:05):
no CGI back then.
Tanya (16:07):
But yeah, I think he, I think he like punched him'cause
he just like attacked, attackedthe, the alligator.
but, and then he gives Chubbsthe gift of like his, his head
and then that ultimately killsChubbs.
'cause he gets so scared he.
Backs up and falls out a window.
So, yeah, he should have warnedhim.
Happy's like so upset and he'slike, oh, I always, people that
get close to me die.
(16:28):
You should, you should get awayVirginia.
You know, and he's like, gotthat, that trauma of like, oh,
people die around me, like hisdad and yeah, Chubbs, Yeah, he's
like, takes on that, thattrauma.
But ultimately, you know, happyis able to use his visualization
and calm down and, you know, notwithout a few hi jinks and, you
(16:48):
know, some, the, the heckler guydriving a Volkswagen through and
running him down.
Erin (16:52):
Yeah.
Well, and it even goes back to,you know, when Chubbs brought
him to the mini golf, you know,he is like, okay.
'cause when the tower falls, heis like, okay, this reminds me
of.
That weird shot that I had todo, and it goes back to Chubbs
Strange Coaching
Tanya (17:09):
and the fact that they just like kept that there.
They're like, well, this is partof the golf course now you Gotta
shoot off of that in the subwaysign.
Erin (17:15):
Yeah.
so much product placement withSubway.
It is like having another subwaysandwich.
Oh, wait, now I'm gonnaadvertise for Subway and
Subway's gonna be,
Tanya (17:23):
yeah, it's a classic, hilarious movie.
the shouts and the way that AdamSandler.
You know, his characters the wayhe just is unhinged and so
ridiculous.
Yeah.
Classic Adam.
Erin (17:36):
Yeah, he, that's just his trademark I think in all of his,
probably all his movies.
Tanya (17:41):
Yeah, I think he kind of like matured more, but he still
kind of can lose it a littlebit.
and some of them are like justkind of shouting that way and it
just kind of brings back, bringsto mind some of Those old movies
and the way he would act.
but.
I just think this is honestlyjust hilarious to me.
even though I understand likethe humor behind it, it's just
when the grandma gets put in anursing home and she's just
(18:04):
being abused, like, it just, itgets to me and I can't laugh at
that.
'cause I'm like, oh, like I havea soft spot for Yeah, because
it's, because it's kind
Erin (18:11):
of, because you're like, okay, Ben Stiller.
Nurse spend stiller whateveryou're, you know, like, it's
like you, you like, okay, so Iunderstand like, he's like,
okay, gonna make some money,making them make quilts and do
this, all their other stuff.
Tanya (18:24):
But the hotline,
Erin (18:26):
Sex hotline.
it's just so strange.
And, but yeah, I'm sure theyjust, he is like, okay, where
can I put my buddy Ben Stillerin the movie?
He's like, he looks like anabusive orderly.
Sure.
grow this mustache.
Or let me, let's glue, let'sglue this mustache on you.
Tanya (18:41):
Oh my gosh.
Yeah.
And also, Norman, Norman, Ican't, why am I blanking on his
name?
Norman, the one that he alwayshas in, in his movies.
The one that was on SNL Norman.
I can't think of his name, buthe, he always has them in his
movies too, but when he's justlike, one of his, like, goof
around buddies, Uhhuh, and he islike, you know, kind of, kind of
(19:03):
just, you know, like, kind of,kind of just like, I, I think
they're throwing like, oh wait.
Erin (19:09):
actually.
Know what I think you'rethinking,'cause you said you
watched Big Daddy recently and Ithink that he was in big Daddy,
so,
Tanya (19:15):
I saw some clips of, Billy Madison.
Oh, okay.
Where they throw the dog poop upon the porch, whatever.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
That is not, we'll have to doBilly Madison sometime too.
Yeah, Billy Madison is anotherone of my favorites.
I'm mixing that up.
But, yeah, it's, it's just, Imean, his friends that are kind
of in all his movies,
Erin (19:34):
I was trying to think.
Like, I don't, I don't know ifthere's too many SNL people.
Kevin Neen was in the, in HappyGilmore.
I don't know.
Oh, okay.
Doesn't look like there was tonsof others.
There's one person that lookedlike, I thought it was, what's
his name?
Kevin, oh my God.
The, the guy who was in King ofQueens.
Tanya (19:52):
We can't think of anyone you all know who we're talking
about.
So he was,
Erin (19:55):
yeah.
Anyway, Kevin James.
Kevin James.
So there's one guy that lookedlike Kevin James, who I was
thinking was Kevin James inHappy Gilmore, but it was not.
Tanya (20:04):
there's just, there's a lot of his, his gang around and
they're mm-hmm.
They're, they're just kind ofhilarious.
Yeah.
They, they also had some moviesor went on to have some movies
and, you know, they, they justwere kind of the, the funny,
funny guys Yeah.
At that time.
and still I think they still,yeah, they still are, you know,
but, yeah, it was just a time Ijust thought it was such a good
(20:24):
movie and such, you know, just away of, I guess just from the
mental health perspective, justthe anger management.
Mm-hmm.
And trying to control, I.
anger impulses and learningabout visualization and Right.
You know, being able to adaptAlso, also adaptability.
Yeah.
Like, you know, he, he had toadapt between hockey and Yeah.
(20:45):
And golf and pivot and also
Erin (20:47):
he had to slow down, you know, like with the breathing
and everything like that.
And tried to, he couldn't justbe a hothead just because that's
what he wanted to do.
'cause there was a couple timesafter.
You know, after he is talked toyou about like, okay, you can't
really act like that, you'regonna get kicked off.
You could tell he wanted to flipout, but he is like, okay, this
is, this is who I need to beright now.
(21:07):
I need to slow, slow down andjust call.
Yeah.
And he uses as the goal
Tanya (21:13):
of like, grandma, remember
Erin (21:14):
grandma like her house?
Yeah.
Grandma, grandma, grandma.
Tanya (21:16):
Yeah.
And like he's so, I mean, he'sdefinitely a very caring person.
He cares about his grandma.
That's who basically raised
Erin (21:21):
Yeah.
Even has her, picture in his carinstead of.
Car dice.
He just has grandma pictures.
Do you remember grandma?
I remember people used to havethat, my mom had something like
that in her car.
she had a car where she wouldhave a box, like one of those
picture box things.
hanging under the rear viewmirror,
Tanya (21:38):
think I remember them.
Like, I don't think my mom hadit, but I think, yeah, I do
remember that.
That was kind of a big thing.
Yeah.
Very eighties or something.
this was A hilarious movie.
where, there was just a lot ofpoints we thought were,
interesting.
You know, with mental health andanger management, and also kind
of growing up focusing on otherpeople pivoting in your career.
(21:58):
And in your life and dealingwith adversity and having to.
You know, manage that.
And, he actually does have alot, you know, and I know he
doesn't, he doesn't focus onthis, of course, we're just
focusing on it.
But he does have to learn that.
And he learns that through golfand through people helping him
out and supporting him.
So that is
Erin (22:17):
a
Tanya (22:17):
plus in our books.
Erin (22:19):
Yeah.
And staying true to who he is atthe end.
his love for his family, hisgrandma,
Tanya (22:24):
you know, it's, yeah.
Yeah.
And keeping his, his familytogether and, and his, his
house, the house that hisgrandfather built, keeping that
in the family and everything.
Mm-hmm.
So, yeah, if you have not seenthat movie, go check it out.
Especially if you're kind of aGen X or late millennial, I
think you'll appreciate it.
(22:45):
I'm just saying like, that was atime and so maybe you kind of
remember that.
But it definitely was justreally funny.
Mm-hmm.
Again, very not politicallycorrect in a lot of ways
nowadays.
Right.
But I think there were a lot ofmovies that definitely were not
That's okay.
At that point.
It's okay to
Erin (22:59):
have silliness every once in a while and not worry about
being completely politicallycorrect.
Tanya (23:03):
Yeah.
I think we still, I mean, that'sjust kind of how, that's what we
grew up seeing.
Yeah.
So the non-PC nature isnostalgia.
Erin (23:10):
no, I'm curious for, happy Gilmer too.
How many of the same people willbe in it?
'cause you know, a lot of peoplehave passed away, but a lot of
people are still alive.
Or if he's gonna add new peopleor if it's still gonna be
related to golf or if he's gonnaactually play hockey,
Tanya (23:26):
Yeah.
I think it definitely is kindof, up for grabs.
I don't know.
I think they've said some peopleare gonna be in the movie,
they've kind of announced it,but they haven't really put much
out there about it.
At least as far as I could see.
Right.
Yeah.
They're probably keeping ithidden.
Yeah.
But it's exciting.
that'll be fun to look forwardto because that's, been almost
30 years.
(23:47):
1996.
Oh my God, that's, yeah, thatmakes me.
I was very cognizant and awareduring that time, and the fact
that it was 30 years ago makesme feel very old.
but it is what it is.
Erin (24:01):
I know it's one of my favorites.
I forgot how much I really likedit.
I mean, I thought it was funny,but I watched it last night with
the family It was their firsttime seeing it.
There was so much laughterhappening.
So that was good.
Tanya (24:13):
That's good.
Yeah, it is.
It is really, really funny.
Just everything about it.
Just the ridiculousness, thesilliness, the Adam Sandlers
Yeah.
the nineties of it all.
Even like when
Erin (24:24):
the, when he is bringing grandma, grandma to the nursing
home and the one lady.
Jumps on the car because he islike, oh grandma, this is such a
nice place.
You know, he's trying to sell itto her.
look at the grass.
It's like a resort.
Look at the grass.
You know, maybe they have apool.
And then this lady jumps on,help me get me outta here.
Tanya (24:42):
And then the air conditioner ends up falling on
her.
He's like, I think I killed her.
Yeah.
He is like, all right, see ya.
Yeah, that's, that's that.
Yeah.
go check it out again.
I was able to find it for free,I think it was, I don't know if
it was on Prime or whatever, butyou can pretty much find it
anywhere Nowadays.
So, yeah, go watch it again orwatch it for the first time and,
(25:06):
hopefully you'll be able to, uh,laugh, relive some of the funny
laughs that we did.
Mm-hmm.
And the nostalgia of it all.
Yeah.
yeah, I did wanna come to the,the question Okay.
To ask you.
So if you had your choicebetween hockey or golf that you,
would want to play and had some,maybe some talent leading into
(25:28):
it, That could possibly, get youmaybe somewhere, what would you
choose?
Okay.
Would you rather be talented atice hockey or golf?
Erin (25:36):
Well, I'll be honest.
I don't know how to ice skate.
I think I've gone like twice inmy life, but of the two, I think
I'd rather play hockey.
It looks more fun, you know,like even though there's chances
I'd probably lose my teeth orget punched in the face, it
just, once I learned how toskate and I wasn't afraid, and
you have all this equipment, itlooks like hockey might be more
(26:00):
fun.
But I know a lot of people lovegolf, so I think I would choose
hockey.
Tanya (26:04):
I think I would do the same.
I think because it, I agree.
I think it seems more fun and Idon't know, the golf just does
not appeal to me at all.
Yeah.
And it's just not something Inormally do.
Yeah.
It just looks blah I think thatit would be more fun, more
challenging, and it wouldprobably just be, more
interesting.
Erin (26:22):
a team and it seems like you're, you know, like there's
not really a team with golf,which I know a lot of, there's a
lot of nice things doingindividual sports, but I don't
know if those are the only twothings you could do.
I think I would figure outhockey.
Tanya (26:36):
I think so too.
Me too.
I think that would be more, morefun.
so that is, that is HappyGilmore and we are heading down
the, the Adam Sandler pipeline,so there's probably gonna be
more in the next couple weeks.
Erin (26:50):
at least three more after this one.
Yeah.
At least I say, because we mighteven discover other ones that,
who knows, maybe we'll dogrownups.
Tanya (26:58):
Oh, yeah, yeah.
Erin (26:59):
grown us one, two, there's a lot of other things we can do.
Tanya (27:03):
Yeah.
So let us know what you think,if you went back and watched it,
if it was kind of differentseeing it.
I know we both thought it washilarious again.
Revisiting it.
or, if it's not really yourfavorite, but you still like
Adam Sandler.
We're always happy to hear whatyou think and engage with that.
let us know.
Connect with us on socials.
We're on everything, includingYouTube.
Erin (27:24):
Just find us,
Tanya (27:25):
look at
Erin (27:25):
psychotherapist, and you'll find us.
Tanya (27:27):
leave us a review.
That helps us out a lot.
Mm-hmm.
and share with your friends.
Yes.
Erin (27:32):
don't forget, stay wicked and keep your mind well.
All right.
Have a great week.
Bye-bye.
Tanya (27:38):
Bye guys.
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