December 11, 2024 • 22 mins
If you're afraid of the becoming, you're going to stifle yourself. You're going to stop yourself from becoming who you are supposed to be. If you're afraid of the becoming, you'll never know what you're capable of. Ouch. It's time for you to stop resisting change. It's time for you to understand and to trust who you are. It's time for you to let go of the fear and allow the cell memory to be reprogrammed so that you can really live up to your potential. Stop allowing other people to tell you that you don't have the mind that it takes to get to where you need to be. Stop allowing other people to tell you that you are anything less than what you actually are.
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Highlights:
Fears can be small but significant
Learning to face and manage fear can lead to positive outcomes
Experience new things to avoid stagnation and to make stronger, more impactful choices
Positivity as a role in achieving a competitive edge in any aspect of life
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Bets Danko (00:03):
Bets. It's time to combine a guilty little pleasure
with a new healthy habit. Kickup your feet and listen in. This
is wisdom and chocolate. This isbets. Danko and you are
listening to wisdom andchocolate. So fear is? It all in
your mind. Where does fear comefrom? What exactly is going on
(00:27):
when you have fear? So if youthink back to a situation where
you felt fearful, and let's makeit simple, let's make it
something that's sort of benign,because there are definitely
some fearful situations thatpeople can be put in that you
know, can be pretty rough. Solet's think of something small,
(00:49):
fear. What did that feel like?
Was it a fear of a spider? Fearof losing your shoe? Was it fear
of, I don't know fear of a newfood that you've never tried
before. Maybe it's squid. You'venever tried squid before. And
you thought, oh my gosh, what inthe world? There's no way this
is going to be any good. I don'tknow fear. It's something that
(01:10):
we face pretty frequently,actually, even if you're a
person who's pretty wellbalanced and and you feel as
though fear is not somethingthat can keep you down? Of
course, of course, it's notsomething that could keep you
down, because it has to do withyour mindset. It has to do with
how you're thinking about thefear. But let's look at the
(01:32):
regular, everyday human and whatfuels us with fear. I know this
one young man who is deathlyafraid of stink bugs. And if
you're not from this part of thecountry where I'm recording this
podcast, here in the UnitedStates, you may not be aware of
what stink bugs are, but theyare exactly as they imply.
(01:53):
They're bugs, and they stink,and they don't always stink you
right away, they stink you Ifyou bother them. And they sort
of walk around with this armoron them. Their shells are really
hard. They're actually kind ofcute. When they're young,
they're like a brightfluorescent green and they're
really, really cute. But as theyget older, yeah, no, they're not
(02:16):
as cute. And they like to getinto your sink. They like to get
into your food. They like to beexactly where you're about to
put your hand, and so where,wherever you are, if you touch a
stink bug, or you bother it withsome hot water, or you go to
take a bite of your food, oh,god forbid, right? It stinks
you. It It sprays. It stink onyou. Now, when I first got
(02:41):
familiar with stink bugs, Ithought that they sort of had a
pine sort of smell. But now,like the longer I'm exposed to
them, the more I just have toget away. I can't handle them.
But this particular young man,he was actually afraid of them.
Now maybe it was associated withthe smell. Maybe it was just the
(03:01):
fact that they end upeverywhere, where you don't want
them to be. But anytime he wasaround a stink bug, he would
just sort of get chills and sickto his stomach, and the fear
would kick in. I also knew a manonce who was terrified of eating
apples, because at one point hetook a bite of an apple, and
there was indeed a worm in it.
(03:24):
So there was sort of this bodyreaction, a full body reaction
to the thought of eating anapple. So sometimes the fears
that we have are pretty small,but how we got to the point of
having those fears could havebeen pretty significant at the
time that they developed. Like,taking a bite of an apple and
(03:47):
finding a worm can really coloryou, because at that point
you're like, ah, yeah. This isdisgusting. This is gross. Maybe
you allow it to come out of yourmouth. Maybe you've had a few
bites. So a few, uh, a few ofthose bites come out all at
once, like you're reacting toit, your body, your cells.
(04:07):
Remember that this has happened,and now anytime you come in
contact with an apple, that'swhere you're at, you end up with
a state of fear. So what is thefear? Is it just the fact that
something gross happened? No.
Fear is actually a reaction thatyou have to something that was
(04:29):
unexpected. And if you didexpect it, you didn't give
yourself enough warning, enoughenough thought before it
occurred, and perhaps you evencreated the fear because it was
something unknown before youactually experienced it. So fear
is something that comes aboutwhen you feel that there is no
(04:52):
trust, when your faith in thesituation is a little assault.
You fear is something hap thathappens when you have
separation.
So I read this book recently.
It's called the monk who soldhis Ferrari, Robin Sharma, I
believe, is the the writer ofthat book. And I have to say, I
(05:14):
love his concepts. I love thethe the content of his books,
but I'm not completely a fan ofhow the books are written, but
because I know that the contentis going to be pretty strong and
pretty amazing, I definitely getinvolved with his books. So in
this book, he was talking aboutfear, and he was talking about
(05:38):
how there's no need for fearwhen you have trust and when you
have faith, when you trust thateverything's fine, then anything
that could be bringing you fearis just a learning experience,
or is just an experience whenyou experience your life, Even
the moments when you're facingfear you're working through
(06:00):
those moments without the wholebody reaction or the mind
getting completely out ofcontrol. And so what this
implies is that your mind is thepart of you that is in control
of how you react to thesituation. If you choose to
trust, if you exercise yourfaith, you are less apt to
(06:24):
experience the fear. Instead,you've got curiosity about the
situation. Now, there are times,as I said, where fear is
definitely warranted. It'ssomething that threatens your
life, it's something thatthreatens your livelihood. You
know, whatever the thing is, itthreatens something about you.
And so the fear can bewarranted. But even in those
(06:47):
situations, if you allowyourself to let go of some of
the fear and just experience themoment so that you can learn
from it, it will allow you toexpand. It will allow you to
face things on a more positivelevel, so that you can gain
understanding, rather thanfeeling as though your life is
completely out of control. Now,as I mentioned, fear can create
(07:12):
a cell memory, meaning everycell in your body will have the
memory of the reaction towhatever. The thing is, if it's
the worm in the apple, thenseeing an apple will make you
tense up, and every single cellinside your body will take part
in that tensing up. So how doyou control that? If your mind
(07:32):
is in control of how you react,what is it that you can do when
your body when your cells arereacting. Well, here's the
thing, the mind has control overthat as well. You can reprogram
your cells so if your initialinstinct is to tense up and get
frightened, you can tellyourself, everything's safe,
(07:54):
everything's good. I don't needto react this way, like you
basically talk yourself off theledge. You basically give
yourself a pep talk in midreaction, so that your cells
start recognizing Everything'scool, everything's all right.
It's like training a dog. Ifyou've ever seen some of the
videos of people working withdogs who are considered
(08:15):
troubled, dogs who you knowother people don't even want to
deal with because they growl,they bark, they bite when
they're in situations. Andreally what it comes down to is
the dog is frightened, and whenyou get the dog to recognize
they're safe, when you get themto recognize that they don't
have to be the alpha all thetime, they can trust their human
(08:36):
to be the alpha, so that theydon't have to be pulled down by
all the stress. When you get thedog to that point, they stop
reacting that way. When theystart associating getting pets
and getting love with situationsthat normally would cause them
stress, when you get them to sitand relax, then they start
(08:57):
realizing, oh, it's not such abig deal. When a plastic bag is
like floating across thebackyard, it's not such a big
deal. When a person I don't knowwalks up, I can be on alert, but
I don't have to attack them,right? You start getting all of
their cells to start recognizingit's cool to be calm. It's the
same thing with all of yourcells and with your mind, talk
(09:21):
yourself off the ledge. Remindyourself that you don't have to
be the alpha in every situation.
Allow yourself to learn andexperience in the moment when
you're normally experiencingfear. Now I haven't done this in
a couple weeks, but I'm gonnahead and gonna go ahead and talk
(09:43):
to you about some chocolate. Andthis is the Endangered Species
chocolate. I've talked aboutthis brand many times before.
Some of their proceeds go towardhelping endangered species. So I
really love the concept of thecompany, but I also really love
the chocolate and this.
Particular bars, the coconut andalmond, 75% cocoa, oat, milk,
dark chocolate. That's a big,long title, right? But trust me,
(10:07):
it's worth the read because itgets you to trust the brand
right off the bat. This is nonGMO. They have fair trade
practices, and this is a productof the USA, so we really love
that, right? We love to supportour own economy and work within
our own country, to help supportsome lovely things going on
(10:28):
within the world. And on thisparticular candy bar, they are
featuring the koala. And one ofthe things that I really love
about this brand is it doesn'tjust have all the information on
the outside of the label. Butwhen you open it up, there's
this bunch of information aboutkoala bears, and also
information about theirphilosophy as a country, or,
(10:48):
sorry, as a company. And I just,I really love that you get to
know the brand, so you can trustthe brand, and you get to
recognize that you are takingpart in in continuing their
efforts to support endangeredwildlife. Now I'm going to
mention something I don'tnormally mention when I'm
(11:09):
talking about chocolate bars,and that is the whole bar has
about 540 calories in it. It's athree ounce bar, so it's kind of
big. It's kind of big candy bar.
And you know me, I'm a nibbler.
I'm not one to sit down and eatan entire candy bar that just it
is so not okay for my body. AndI listen to my body, right? But
(11:30):
if I were to sit down and do it,that's like half the calories of
my day.
So I think I'd rather eat someother foods, and maybe just have
a tiny square of this candy barand maybe keep it down to about
75 calories, right? But I'mgoing to also talk to you about
(11:52):
a different candy bar that islabeled similarly. This is the
Hershey's plant based oatchocolate. It's extremely
creamy. It says on the outsideof the labeling, and it's almond
and sea salt, so similar thefirst one the endangered species
was oat milk, dark chocolate,coconut and almonds. This is
(12:13):
almond and sea salt, right? Thewhole bar is 230 calories. And
what is important to note hereis that these bars are smaller,
so it's actually half the sizeof the Endangered Species bar.
It's vegan, non GMO, and it'spart of the Rainforest Alliance.
(12:34):
So there are a lot of reallycool things that are part of
eating this candy bar andhelping to support this company
in making healthier chocolates.
Now the flavor is different. Iappreciate the endangered
species a little bit more, butagain, I really appreciate that
Hershey is taking a stand andcreating some chocolates that
(12:55):
have their typical branding andflavoring in them, but are
healthier for the body. I reallylike that. And when you make
this bar about the same size,like double the chocolate bar,
the Hershey bar, it's about 460calories for the same size bar
as the other. So there are fewcalories per bite for this
(13:17):
particular bar. Now you maywonder why I'm talking about two
different candy bars in thisparticular episode, and the
reason is this, we're talkingabout fear, and a lot of times
people don't want to try a newchocolate or a new food because
they're afraid. They're afraidit's going to cost too much,
it's not going to taste the waythey want. The consistency isn't
(13:39):
going to be any good. You know,there are a number of reasons
why people won't try new things,but it's important that we do
and that in trying those newthings, we're comparing and
we're learning and we'reexperiencing so that we can make
wiser and stronger decisions forourselves moving forward, a wise
and strong decision for you maynot work for my body and my mind
(14:03):
and likewise, the other wayaround, I probably wouldn't go
for eating a lot of oatchocolate because I have a
situation where I'm sensitive tooats, but you may really dig the
oat chocolate and really go forit, and that might be the best
thing for your body, but youwon't know that unless you read
(14:25):
about it, unless you keepyourself calm, unless you make
choices to try new things. It'simportant that you allow
yourself to experience newthings so that you can make
stronger and wiser decisionsabout you and about your belief
systems and about your body. Sowhen we're talking about
(14:46):
experiencing new things, anotherthing comes into play, and that
is called expansion, when youexpand your mind and you expand
your horizons by experiencingnew things that can be coupled
with a little bit. Of anxiety aswell, because when we don't know
what lies ahead, we'll have atendency to react in fear, and
we'll have a tendency to makechoices that keep us safer. But
(15:09):
I use the quotes because thething is this, yeah, sure, safer
because you're only dealing withsomething you already know, but
what if the thing you alreadyknow is not the best choice for
you? What if it's not good foryou? What if it's not empowering
for you? You've got to allowyourself to expand so that you
(15:32):
can experience the new thingsand then make choices based on
that experience. When we expandour lives. It's exactly the way
it implies. You can live in asmall box and only experience
two or three things in a givenday, or you can allow yourself
to expand outside of the box andexperience life from a new
(15:53):
angle. You can look down on thelife and really analyze it. You
can stand to the side and reallyexperience it. You can be right
in the middle, but notice howfar it goes when you allow it to
but if you don't allow thatexpansion so that you can get
outside of the box, your life islimited, and you're not allowing
(16:14):
yourself to really move forwardand and experience everything
that life can bring to you. Soexpansion is really important,
but it comes down to trusting inthe learning. If you don't trust
yourself, and you don't trust inthe opportunities that you have
to learn, you're going to findyourself stagnating. And if
you're already there, if you'realready feeling like you're
(16:37):
stagnating, what got you to thispoint, what filled you with
fear, and why did you react theway that you did? And is this
something you can make adifferent, more powerful, more
impactful choice on, so that youcan get out of the box and move
forward? We've all hadexperiences in our lives that
have changed the way we've seenthe world. Is this something
(16:59):
that you can change back, or youcan take a powerful step where
you're still keeping yourselfsafe, but you're allowing
yourself to expand at the sametime, it's time to really
investigate that and figure itout. You need to trust in the
learning. You need to trust thatit's okay to allow yourself to
(17:19):
step out of the box. Now,positivity gives you a
competitive edge in anythingthat you do. If you're trying to
be a leader, if you're trying tobe a participant, if you're
trying to just be a spectator,if you're trying to be anything
in your life that has thosetypes of labels, recognize that
positivity is what really givesyou the edge up. You don't have
(17:42):
to be a person who's in chargeof a company. You don't have to
be a person who's leadingeverybody. You can still be
somebody, somebody who standsoff to the side and experiences
things by witnessing all of thatis okay. We don't all come into
this world with a mission tobecome a leader. That's not the
way it works. We all havedifferent skills, and we all
(18:06):
have different needs and wants.
So if you're a person who reallydesires to be a spectator,
recognize that you can stillface that situation and that
choice with positivity, so thatyou can have a competitive edge
within your own life. Followwhat I'm saying. You don't have
to be competitive with otherpeople. You can be competitive
(18:29):
with who you were yesterday oreven five minutes ago. You can
allow yourself the positivitythat allows you to expand and
trust as you do so. So now goingto the celebration moment, I
want to talk about becoming.
What is that when you arebecoming something, what does
that mean? I mean, youdefinitely can hear that word
(18:52):
and say, Oh, well, I knowbecoming. It's like you're one
thing, and then you become adifferent thing. And that
process of becoming that otherthing is the becoming. Like
that's a circular definition,but you know what I was saying?
You we have this understandingof what it means. But let's dig
deeper into that. Becoming isthe process. Becoming is all of
(19:13):
the stuff between the box andthe new version of you becoming
is one of the most beautifulprocesses that we have, because
in becoming, we get toexperience, and all of those
experiences are what make up whowe become. And we go through
(19:35):
this every stage of our life,where we're becoming every
moment of our lives. So if weexperience life in the real
time, we're allowing ourselvesto be the person we are, and
watching the experience as itgoes on, our lives are richer
that way. So don't allow.
(20:00):
Yourself to become withoutexperiencing the process, my
goodness, and don't allowyourself to stop yourself from
getting to that new person justbecause you're afraid, afraid of
all of the processes in themiddle. If you're afraid of the
becoming, you're going to stifleyourself. You're going to stop
(20:21):
yourself from becoming who youare supposed to be. If you're
afraid of the becoming, you'renever going to see who you are.
At point b, if you're afraid ofthe becoming, you'll never know
what you're capable of. Ouch.
It's time for you to stopresisting change. It's time for
you to understand who you areand to trust who you are. It's
(20:45):
time for you to let go of thefear and allow the cell memory
to be reprogrammed so that youcan really live up to your
potential. It's time for you toallow yourself to expand and let
go of the fear so that you canget out of the box. Stop
allowing other people to tellyou that you're oppressed. Stop
(21:06):
allowing other people to tellyou that you don't have the mind
that it takes to get to whereyou need to be. Stop allowing
other people to tell you thatyou are anything less than what
you actually are. You aresomething far bigger than what
you are experiencing right now.
(21:26):
You are capable of so much more.
So stop resisting the change.
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hear the chocolate tune intowisdom and chocolate weekly you.
Bets. It's time to combine a guilty little pleasure
with a new healthy habit. Kickup your feet and listen in. This
is wisdom and chocolate. This isbets. Danko and you are
listening to wisdom andchocolate. So fear is? It all in
your mind. Where does fear comefrom? What exactly is going on
(00:27):
when you have fear? So if youthink back to a situation where
you felt fearful, and let's makeit simple, let's make it
something that's sort of benign,because there are definitely
some fearful situations thatpeople can be put in that you
know, can be pretty rough. Solet's think of something small,
(00:49):
fear. What did that feel like?
Was it a fear of a spider? Fearof losing your shoe? Was it fear
of, I don't know fear of a newfood that you've never tried
before. Maybe it's squid. You'venever tried squid before. And
you thought, oh my gosh, what inthe world? There's no way this
is going to be any good. I don'tknow fear. It's something that
(01:10):
we face pretty frequently,actually, even if you're a
person who's pretty wellbalanced and and you feel as
though fear is not somethingthat can keep you down? Of
course, of course, it's notsomething that could keep you
down, because it has to do withyour mindset. It has to do with
how you're thinking about thefear. But let's look at the
(01:32):
regular, everyday human and whatfuels us with fear. I know this
one young man who is deathlyafraid of stink bugs. And if
you're not from this part of thecountry where I'm recording this
podcast, here in the UnitedStates, you may not be aware of
what stink bugs are, but theyare exactly as they imply.
(01:53):
They're bugs, and they stink,and they don't always stink you
right away, they stink you Ifyou bother them. And they sort
of walk around with this armoron them. Their shells are really
hard. They're actually kind ofcute. When they're young,
they're like a brightfluorescent green and they're
really, really cute. But as theyget older, yeah, no, they're not
(02:16):
as cute. And they like to getinto your sink. They like to get
into your food. They like to beexactly where you're about to
put your hand, and so where,wherever you are, if you touch a
stink bug, or you bother it withsome hot water, or you go to
take a bite of your food, oh,god forbid, right? It stinks
you. It It sprays. It stink onyou. Now, when I first got
(02:41):
familiar with stink bugs, Ithought that they sort of had a
pine sort of smell. But now,like the longer I'm exposed to
them, the more I just have toget away. I can't handle them.
But this particular young man,he was actually afraid of them.
Now maybe it was associated withthe smell. Maybe it was just the
(03:01):
fact that they end upeverywhere, where you don't want
them to be. But anytime he wasaround a stink bug, he would
just sort of get chills and sickto his stomach, and the fear
would kick in. I also knew a manonce who was terrified of eating
apples, because at one point hetook a bite of an apple, and
there was indeed a worm in it.
(03:24):
So there was sort of this bodyreaction, a full body reaction
to the thought of eating anapple. So sometimes the fears
that we have are pretty small,but how we got to the point of
having those fears could havebeen pretty significant at the
time that they developed. Like,taking a bite of an apple and
(03:47):
finding a worm can really coloryou, because at that point
you're like, ah, yeah. This isdisgusting. This is gross. Maybe
you allow it to come out of yourmouth. Maybe you've had a few
bites. So a few, uh, a few ofthose bites come out all at
once, like you're reacting toit, your body, your cells.
(04:07):
Remember that this has happened,and now anytime you come in
contact with an apple, that'swhere you're at, you end up with
a state of fear. So what is thefear? Is it just the fact that
something gross happened? No.
Fear is actually a reaction thatyou have to something that was
(04:29):
unexpected. And if you didexpect it, you didn't give
yourself enough warning, enoughenough thought before it
occurred, and perhaps you evencreated the fear because it was
something unknown before youactually experienced it. So fear
is something that comes aboutwhen you feel that there is no
(04:52):
trust, when your faith in thesituation is a little assault.
You fear is something hap thathappens when you have
separation.
So I read this book recently.
It's called the monk who soldhis Ferrari, Robin Sharma, I
believe, is the the writer ofthat book. And I have to say, I
(05:14):
love his concepts. I love thethe the content of his books,
but I'm not completely a fan ofhow the books are written, but
because I know that the contentis going to be pretty strong and
pretty amazing, I definitely getinvolved with his books. So in
this book, he was talking aboutfear, and he was talking about
(05:38):
how there's no need for fearwhen you have trust and when you
have faith, when you trust thateverything's fine, then anything
that could be bringing you fearis just a learning experience,
or is just an experience whenyou experience your life, Even
the moments when you're facingfear you're working through
(06:00):
those moments without the wholebody reaction or the mind
getting completely out ofcontrol. And so what this
implies is that your mind is thepart of you that is in control
of how you react to thesituation. If you choose to
trust, if you exercise yourfaith, you are less apt to
(06:24):
experience the fear. Instead,you've got curiosity about the
situation. Now, there are times,as I said, where fear is
definitely warranted. It'ssomething that threatens your
life, it's something thatthreatens your livelihood. You
know, whatever the thing is, itthreatens something about you.
And so the fear can bewarranted. But even in those
(06:47):
situations, if you allowyourself to let go of some of
the fear and just experience themoment so that you can learn
from it, it will allow you toexpand. It will allow you to
face things on a more positivelevel, so that you can gain
understanding, rather thanfeeling as though your life is
completely out of control. Now,as I mentioned, fear can create
(07:12):
a cell memory, meaning everycell in your body will have the
memory of the reaction towhatever. The thing is, if it's
the worm in the apple, thenseeing an apple will make you
tense up, and every single cellinside your body will take part
in that tensing up. So how doyou control that? If your mind
(07:32):
is in control of how you react,what is it that you can do when
your body when your cells arereacting. Well, here's the
thing, the mind has control overthat as well. You can reprogram
your cells so if your initialinstinct is to tense up and get
frightened, you can tellyourself, everything's safe,
(07:54):
everything's good. I don't needto react this way, like you
basically talk yourself off theledge. You basically give
yourself a pep talk in midreaction, so that your cells
start recognizing Everything'scool, everything's all right.
It's like training a dog. Ifyou've ever seen some of the
videos of people working withdogs who are considered
(08:15):
troubled, dogs who you knowother people don't even want to
deal with because they growl,they bark, they bite when
they're in situations. Andreally what it comes down to is
the dog is frightened, and whenyou get the dog to recognize
they're safe, when you get themto recognize that they don't
have to be the alpha all thetime, they can trust their human
(08:36):
to be the alpha, so that theydon't have to be pulled down by
all the stress. When you get thedog to that point, they stop
reacting that way. When theystart associating getting pets
and getting love with situationsthat normally would cause them
stress, when you get them to sitand relax, then they start
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realizing, oh, it's not such abig deal. When a plastic bag is
like floating across thebackyard, it's not such a big
deal. When a person I don't knowwalks up, I can be on alert, but
I don't have to attack them,right? You start getting all of
their cells to start recognizingit's cool to be calm. It's the
same thing with all of yourcells and with your mind, talk
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yourself off the ledge. Remindyourself that you don't have to
be the alpha in every situation.
Allow yourself to learn andexperience in the moment when
you're normally experiencingfear. Now I haven't done this in
a couple weeks, but I'm gonnahead and gonna go ahead and talk
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to you about some chocolate. Andthis is the Endangered Species
chocolate. I've talked aboutthis brand many times before.
Some of their proceeds go towardhelping endangered species. So I
really love the concept of thecompany, but I also really love
the chocolate and this.
Particular bars, the coconut andalmond, 75% cocoa, oat, milk,
dark chocolate. That's a big,long title, right? But trust me,
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it's worth the read because itgets you to trust the brand
right off the bat. This is nonGMO. They have fair trade
practices, and this is a productof the USA, so we really love
that, right? We love to supportour own economy and work within
our own country, to help supportsome lovely things going on
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within the world. And on thisparticular candy bar, they are
featuring the koala. And one ofthe things that I really love
about this brand is it doesn'tjust have all the information on
the outside of the label. Butwhen you open it up, there's
this bunch of information aboutkoala bears, and also
information about theirphilosophy as a country, or,
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sorry, as a company. And I just,I really love that you get to
know the brand, so you can trustthe brand, and you get to
recognize that you are takingpart in in continuing their
efforts to support endangeredwildlife. Now I'm going to
mention something I don'tnormally mention when I'm
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talking about chocolate bars,and that is the whole bar has
about 540 calories in it. It's athree ounce bar, so it's kind of
big. It's kind of big candy bar.
And you know me, I'm a nibbler.
I'm not one to sit down and eatan entire candy bar that just it
is so not okay for my body. AndI listen to my body, right? But
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if I were to sit down and do it,that's like half the calories of
my day.
So I think I'd rather eat someother foods, and maybe just have
a tiny square of this candy barand maybe keep it down to about
75 calories, right? But I'mgoing to also talk to you about
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a different candy bar that islabeled similarly. This is the
Hershey's plant based oatchocolate. It's extremely
creamy. It says on the outsideof the labeling, and it's almond
and sea salt, so similar thefirst one the endangered species
was oat milk, dark chocolate,coconut and almonds. This is
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almond and sea salt, right? Thewhole bar is 230 calories. And
what is important to note hereis that these bars are smaller,
so it's actually half the sizeof the Endangered Species bar.
It's vegan, non GMO, and it'spart of the Rainforest Alliance.
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So there are a lot of reallycool things that are part of
eating this candy bar andhelping to support this company
in making healthier chocolates.
Now the flavor is different. Iappreciate the endangered
species a little bit more, butagain, I really appreciate that
Hershey is taking a stand andcreating some chocolates that
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have their typical branding andflavoring in them, but are
healthier for the body. I reallylike that. And when you make
this bar about the same size,like double the chocolate bar,
the Hershey bar, it's about 460calories for the same size bar
as the other. So there are fewcalories per bite for this
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particular bar. Now you maywonder why I'm talking about two
different candy bars in thisparticular episode, and the
reason is this, we're talkingabout fear, and a lot of times
people don't want to try a newchocolate or a new food because
they're afraid. They're afraidit's going to cost too much,
it's not going to taste the waythey want. The consistency isn't
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going to be any good. You know,there are a number of reasons
why people won't try new things,but it's important that we do
and that in trying those newthings, we're comparing and
we're learning and we'reexperiencing so that we can make
wiser and stronger decisions forourselves moving forward, a wise
and strong decision for you maynot work for my body and my mind
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and likewise, the other wayaround, I probably wouldn't go
for eating a lot of oatchocolate because I have a
situation where I'm sensitive tooats, but you may really dig the
oat chocolate and really go forit, and that might be the best
thing for your body, but youwon't know that unless you read
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about it, unless you keepyourself calm, unless you make
choices to try new things. It'simportant that you allow
yourself to experience newthings so that you can make
stronger and wiser decisionsabout you and about your belief
systems and about your body. Sowhen we're talking about
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experiencing new things, anotherthing comes into play, and that
is called expansion, when youexpand your mind and you expand
your horizons by experiencingnew things that can be coupled
with a little bit. Of anxiety aswell, because when we don't know
what lies ahead, we'll have atendency to react in fear, and
we'll have a tendency to makechoices that keep us safer. But
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I use the quotes because thething is this, yeah, sure, safer
because you're only dealing withsomething you already know, but
what if the thing you alreadyknow is not the best choice for
you? What if it's not good foryou? What if it's not empowering
for you? You've got to allowyourself to expand so that you
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can experience the new thingsand then make choices based on
that experience. When we expandour lives. It's exactly the way
it implies. You can live in asmall box and only experience
two or three things in a givenday, or you can allow yourself
to expand outside of the box andexperience life from a new
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angle. You can look down on thelife and really analyze it. You
can stand to the side and reallyexperience it. You can be right
in the middle, but notice howfar it goes when you allow it to
but if you don't allow thatexpansion so that you can get
outside of the box, your life islimited, and you're not allowing
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yourself to really move forwardand and experience everything
that life can bring to you. Soexpansion is really important,
but it comes down to trusting inthe learning. If you don't trust
yourself, and you don't trust inthe opportunities that you have
to learn, you're going to findyourself stagnating. And if
you're already there, if you'realready feeling like you're
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stagnating, what got you to thispoint, what filled you with
fear, and why did you react theway that you did? And is this
something you can make adifferent, more powerful, more
impactful choice on, so that youcan get out of the box and move
forward? We've all hadexperiences in our lives that
have changed the way we've seenthe world. Is this something
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that you can change back, or youcan take a powerful step where
you're still keeping yourselfsafe, but you're allowing
yourself to expand at the sametime, it's time to really
investigate that and figure itout. You need to trust in the
learning. You need to trust thatit's okay to allow yourself to
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step out of the box. Now,positivity gives you a
competitive edge in anythingthat you do. If you're trying to
be a leader, if you're trying tobe a participant, if you're
trying to just be a spectator,if you're trying to be anything
in your life that has thosetypes of labels, recognize that
positivity is what really givesyou the edge up. You don't have
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to be a person who's in chargeof a company. You don't have to
be a person who's leadingeverybody. You can still be
somebody, somebody who standsoff to the side and experiences
things by witnessing all of thatis okay. We don't all come into
this world with a mission tobecome a leader. That's not the
way it works. We all havedifferent skills, and we all
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have different needs and wants.
So if you're a person who reallydesires to be a spectator,
recognize that you can stillface that situation and that
choice with positivity, so thatyou can have a competitive edge
within your own life. Followwhat I'm saying. You don't have
to be competitive with otherpeople. You can be competitive
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with who you were yesterday oreven five minutes ago. You can
allow yourself the positivitythat allows you to expand and
trust as you do so. So now goingto the celebration moment, I
want to talk about becoming.
What is that when you arebecoming something, what does
that mean? I mean, youdefinitely can hear that word
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and say, Oh, well, I knowbecoming. It's like you're one
thing, and then you become adifferent thing. And that
process of becoming that otherthing is the becoming. Like
that's a circular definition,but you know what I was saying?
You we have this understandingof what it means. But let's dig
deeper into that. Becoming isthe process. Becoming is all of
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the stuff between the box andthe new version of you becoming
is one of the most beautifulprocesses that we have, because
in becoming, we get toexperience, and all of those
experiences are what make up whowe become. And we go through
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this every stage of our life,where we're becoming every
moment of our lives. So if weexperience life in the real
time, we're allowing ourselvesto be the person we are, and
watching the experience as itgoes on, our lives are richer
that way. So don't allow.
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Yourself to become withoutexperiencing the process, my
goodness, and don't allowyourself to stop yourself from
getting to that new person justbecause you're afraid, afraid of
all of the processes in themiddle. If you're afraid of the
becoming, you're going to stifleyourself. You're going to stop
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yourself from becoming who youare supposed to be. If you're
afraid of the becoming, you'renever going to see who you are.
At point b, if you're afraid ofthe becoming, you'll never know
what you're capable of. Ouch.
It's time for you to stopresisting change. It's time for
you to understand who you areand to trust who you are. It's
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time for you to let go of thefear and allow the cell memory
to be reprogrammed so that youcan really live up to your
potential. It's time for you toallow yourself to expand and let
go of the fear so that you canget out of the box. Stop
allowing other people to tellyou that you're oppressed. Stop
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allowing other people to tellyou that you don't have the mind
that it takes to get to whereyou need to be. Stop allowing
other people to tell you thatyou are anything less than what
you actually are. You aresomething far bigger than what
you are experiencing right now.
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You are capable of so much more.
So stop resisting the change.
Everyone has something beautifulto bring to the world. And with
that in mind, I designed energydaily. In Energy daily, I help
you slow down and pay attentionto what's going on in your life
so that you can find value atevery turn and design a life
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that helps to motivate andempower you in relationships,
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