September 18, 2024 • 19 mins
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Bets Danko (00:00):
Bets, Danko, it's time to combine a guilty little
(00:05):
pleasure with a new healthyhabit. Kick up your feet and
listen in. This is wisdom andchocolate.
This is bets Danko, and you arelistening to wisdom and
chocolate, and today we're goingto be talking about organizing
your life, and I know that mightbe an overwhelming topic for
(00:26):
you. There are a lot of peopleout there who have a lot to
organize, and I am one of thosepeople. I think that it's part
of being human, actually havingthings to organize and
reorganize and revisit toorganize throughout your life.
Now I recognize that this couldbe also a dry subject for some
(00:48):
people, like, I don't want tohear about organizing my life,
right? Maybe it's something youjust don't want to do. And I get
that, but stick with me, becausethere are going to be some
really easy things that we'regoing to talk about that can
really change your life. Sowe're going to be going beyond
(01:08):
the planner today. Yes, I am allfor using a planner and making
sure you're blocking out timeand getting things done by
understanding what exactly needsto be done. I'm all about that,
but there are things that can bedone outside of your planner,
things that you can make ashabits, so that you can just get
(01:29):
them done automatically that weneed to talk about and we need
to get in your life. The thingthat we need to recognize is
that that old saying about amessy house is an indication of
a messy mind. However, thephrase goes right is so true.
Most of the people that I knowwho have a mess in their homes,
(01:52):
they got a lot going onupstairs, and it's not always
something that is helpful forthem. In fact, many times what's
going on in their minds isactually what causes the mess
that is in their homes and theiroffices and their cars. When
you've got a lot of stuff goingon in your head, you're
(02:14):
constantly thinking and worryingand wondering and not
understanding where you stand,where you're headed when all of
that stuff is always going onyour your home and your car are
going to reflect that. So ifyou're feeling like life is out
of control, life will be out ofcontrol in your living spaces
and your workspaces. If you'refeeling like you never seem to
(02:38):
be able to zero in on anyparticular task, then there are
going to be 50 million taskssitting in front of you in the
form of a mess that prove whatit is that you're thinking. See,
here's another thing about thehuman mind. We have this lovely
way of proving ourselves right.
In fact, everything we do inlife is sort of for the end of
feeling as though we knowexactly what's going on, because
(03:02):
we've just proven that we'reright. So if you say to
yourself, my life is a mess,well then you're going to create
a mess so that you can provethat you're right. We all have a
need to feel as though we are anexpert at something, that we're
right about something, and evenif it's not healthy, we'll go
out of our way to proveourselves, right? But if you're
(03:23):
looking at your life right now,and you're looking at the mess
that's going on externally, it'stime to look internally and
figure out what is going on.
That mess in front of you is amirror of your mind, right? This
is something you really need tolook at. Now, I just getting
(03:45):
over a bunch of constructiondone, reconstruction done in my
office. There was a lot of waterdamage. There was a wall that
was totally ripped apart, subflooring that had to come out.
There was a leaking pipe,basically. And so mold became an
issue throughout the wholebuilding, so we had to get rid
of the source, and in gettingrid of the source, we needed to
(04:07):
protect me so that I couldcontinue working. So there was a
lot of plastic that was put up.
There were a lot of fans thatwere used. There was, there was
a lot going on to make sure thatI wasn't exposed to all of that
mold, and the exposure that Imight get was absolutely
minimal, but in doing that, wealso need to make sure that the
(04:28):
things that I work with that arenormally kept in the back of the
building were kept safe and asmold free as they possibly could
be. And I phrase it that way,because mold took hold before we
knew it was there. That meantthat spores were already on the
things that were in thisbuilding. So even as I moved
(04:49):
things forward, it was more sothey wouldn't get worse, not to
make sure that they never gotthe mold. So my life was. Chaos.
It was chaos on a physicallevel, as I'm fighting off my
immune response to all of thismold. And then chaos in a
physical way, because all ofthis stuff was moved into this
part of the building, and Icouldn't do my regular photo
(05:13):
shoots. It was difficult to geta lot of my work done, because
every time I needed to dosomething, I had to move it out
of the view of the camera, andso my life became chaotic, and
of course, it stemmed from meneeding to react to what was
going on at the back of thebuilding. So sometimes the mess
(05:34):
that's going on in your head iscaused by external factors. It's
not just you, right, but thatdoesn't change how it plays out
in your everyday life. It canstill be disruptive, and
certainly it was, but now, aswe've opened everything up, I'm
able to shift and move things sothat it feels more open, so that
(05:57):
I feel as though my mind is lesscluttered, and so I am actually
feeling clearer in my mind andmore motivated to get things
done. So these two things workhand in hand, and it's important
not to discount either side.
What's going on in your home orin your business needs to be
(06:21):
tended to. What's going on inyour mind needs to be tended to,
because when you are moremotivated and empowered, you are
more likely to get things done.
So as we take ourselves awayfrom the planner, recognize the
planner stuff isn't going towork if the messy mind is still
there, or if the mess is stilleverywhere else. In fact, the
(06:41):
chances of you accomplishing thethings on that planner diminish
with every new mess that goes oninside your head. Now I want to
tell you a little bit about whatmy life has been like lately.
This whole last month has beenunusual in that I've had a lot
of traveling that I've beendoing. I've been getting a lot
(07:05):
of guests here at the house, andthere have been so many things
going on inside the family, alot of changes and transitions.
And so this was not a normalmonth, but I chose to take part
in the craziness, because Iwanted to see friends, I wanted
to see family. I wanted to bearound some of the transitions
(07:26):
to make sure that everybody wasokay, like I made choices to get
myself in the fray and get mymind in a more messy state. But
there was also a good thing thatcame out of this. You see,
sometimes when there's somethingto do, it seems very small, and
so we sort of push it aside. Noproblem, it's a small thing.
(07:48):
I'll get it done later. But thenanother small thing comes about,
and you're pushing that to theside, and then another thing,
and you're pushing that to theside until you've got this whole
mountain of things that need toget done, and then all of a
sudden, this tiny little taskbecomes something altogether too
big to finish in an afternoon.
(08:10):
But now you've got guestscoming, or if this was a work
situation, now, you've got avery big meeting coming up, or
the team is headed out in orderto analyze what's going on with
the work, right? There is a bigevent that makes it so that
you've got a deadline to getthings done. So because I had
company in my home, I'll go withthat example. There's a room
(08:35):
that is used for storage for allof the things that are used at
my live retreats. And this roomis mildly clean. I mean, it's
not like a huge mess all thetime, but when there's been an
event, all of a sudden thingshave come out of the closet, and
things have gotten spread outand then moved out to the event
and then brought back. And sothings kind of get in disarray.
(08:58):
To build on that it is a guestroom, or at least it has been,
historically a guest room. Butthis year, because of
differences going on inside thehouse, there were actually two
mattresses in the room and abigger bed than normal, and
extra blankets and extra pillowsand extra this and extra that.
And so when I needed to prepthis particular room for one of
(09:19):
the guests, it was not just amatter of put on new sheets and
vacuum the floor. This was afive hour endeavor get all of
the things put away from theretreats, this broken shelf that
we haven't attended to thatneeds to be fixed, the bed needs
to be put together. Sobasically, in the long run,
having a deadline made it sothat I actually got the room
(09:43):
clean and got all of thebusiness stuff taken care of,
and all of the extra littlethings that were saved for later
were finally done. Having adeadline is absolutely a miracle
for finding success when you'retrying. To clear up the messy
mind or the messy work area. Sowhen you don't have people
(10:06):
coming to visit, or you don'thave a big meeting coming, what
do you do? So this is when yougo back to the planner, and you
actually put on the plannersomething that needs to be done,
like invite people over, planthe meeting, get it on the
planner so that you have to getthese tasks done. And here's the
(10:26):
deal, maybe even choose the onearea that needs the most work so
that you get a huge amount ofaccomplishment done in a short
amount of time. Think of howempowered that will make you.
Think of how that will motivateyou to get even more done. This
is a beautiful way of keepingyourself on task and making sure
(10:48):
that you get things done. But ifyou can also try making it a
promise that you make toyourself and you can live up to
that, then you prove to yourselfthat you're trustworthy, that
you can get things done, thatyou are worthy of the
responsibility of taking care ofyour own life. Now I call that
(11:12):
the house guest edge. When youget a little bit of an edge,
because you know that people arecoming and you got to take care
of it. So when you're whenyou're promising yourself,
that's the personal promiseedge, but you have to prove to
yourself that you'retrustworthy, or else that edge
doesn't exist. So make sure whenyou're putting it on your
(11:34):
planner, or you're planning toget it done outside of your
planner block time, that youactually do it. You actually
take the time. I want to talkabout the L O, V O, or lovo
Swiss made coconut milkchocolate. I don't know if I've
talked about this before, to behonest with you, this is a
(11:57):
chocolate that was a completesurprise for me. I had no idea
it was going to taste so good.
This is vegan, non GMO, myClimate Neutral chocolate. It
comes with not just the coconutmilk, but you can get it in
almond milk, you can get it withoat milk. And it is so creamy.
It is so good. It's one of thosechocolate bars you just don't
(12:19):
want to put down. And not onlythat, when you put the chocolate
in your mouth, you savor it. Youhold on to it. You don't just
go, Okay, I'm eating chocolate,and just chow down. You want it
to last like, this is an amazingchocolate. Now, this is, like,
way up on on the top of my listof yummy chocolates and and it
(12:43):
definitely is one that we needto look at as we continue to
talk about organization. And thereason I'm saying we need to
keep this in mind is becauseit's the perfect way to reward
yourself to have the yummiest,creamiest, healthiest chocolate
you can at the end of a day whenyou've accomplished something.
(13:03):
Now, there might be some whosay, No, it needs to be all day
long. I just need to chow downon chocolate to keep myself
going. But no, save it to besavored. Save it as a way to
reward. Save it as a way to showyourself that you can accomplish
things. You can get things donesimply because you want to, not
(13:25):
because you're trying to get thehouseguest edge on your side.
Now I want to talk about gettingthings done simply for the
approval or the comfort ofothers. And the thing I want to
bring up is actually a question,why would you not be doing these
things for the comfort of orapproval of yourself? What is it
(13:49):
that makes it so that you'retrying harder when other people
are involved like this issomething that you really need
to look at you really need tounderstand what is it about the
other people that you're notrecognizing in yourself? Because
here's the deal, you are otherpeople to someone else. When
(14:10):
you're doing the blockorganizing on your planner,
stick to it. Do it. Make acommitment and really follow
through. One of the things thatI've been doing is adding tasks
to things that already aregetting done, like brushing my
teeth in the morning. I'm goingto share this with you. I brush
my teeth with an electrictoothbrush. It goes for two
(14:33):
minutes before it gives me anotification that, okay, you've
got two minutes done. That's 30seconds on each quadrant of my
mouth. So that's a good amountof brushing, right? And what I
do is I do leg lifts while thatbrushing is going on. It's a
good solid 60 leg lifts on eachside, so that two minutes pass,
(14:53):
and I've not only brushed myteeth, but I've worked my.
Glutes and my legs andeverything just feels really
great in my lower back before Ieven start my day, and then
again, at the end of the day, Ijust added a task that's healthy
for me to an everyday activitythat I needed to get done. This
is a great way to accomplishmore than if you're just going
(15:17):
for one task at a time withoutoverworking yourself. It's
important that we don't do toomuch, but that we do enough. The
other thing is that grab anddrop method, where you're
picking something up on your wayto doing something else, making
sure that you're settingyourself up for success as
you're going on to your nexttask. And I call it that because
(15:41):
say, you've got something youneed to take upstairs, but you
don't want to go upstairs yet.
When you take it, you grab it,bring it with you, and you just
drop it at the bottom of thestairs. It's there for you when
you're ready to go up. And thatwas really super helpful. When I
was cleaning that extra guestroom. I didn't want to have to
(16:02):
keep going up and down thestairs, but it was, you know,
difficult to really focus ongetting everything together at
once, because there were othertasks that need to be done. So
when I was dropping as I went, Iwas setting myself up for being
able to just grab everything, goupstairs and get everything done
at once. It was super, superhelpful. The other thing that
(16:23):
you can do is phone reminders,set your phone to tell you when
you need to get certain thingsdone. Phone reminders, planner
reminders, your your computer,reminding you notes that you put
up inside your home or insideyour office. All of these things
are really helpful for keepingyourself on track and organized
(16:47):
so you are in control of things.
You are the one who makes achoice of whether or not you're
going to stick to your tasks.
It's totally up to you. You canbe your own superhero. You can
be the person that you canalways trust, or you can be the
person who drops the ball. It'stotally up to you, but don't you
(17:09):
think it'll feel much better ifyou live up to the commitments
you make to yourself, and ifyou're not just waiting to give
yourself that houseguest edge,you're getting things done
because they need to get done.
How motivated you will be whenyou get the first thing done?
How motivated you will be whenyou realize that doing tasks for
you holds more value than justgetting things done. It helps
(17:33):
you to realize you can trustyourself. It helps you to
realize that what you say istrue, and when you can do that
with yourself, it amplifies therelationships you have with
other people. With that don'twait for company. Do things for
(17:53):
you. Make sure that you're notjust blocking time out on your
planner, but you're givingyourself extra things to do on
top of the stuff that's alreadygetting done, like leg lifts
while you are brushing yourteeth, or other exercises while
you're getting ready to fallasleep, little things like that,
just adding tiny tasksthroughout the day can really
(18:14):
make the difference in gettingyourself to a place of
motivation and empowerment bygetting the tasks done.
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hear the chocolate tune intowisdom and chocolate weekly you.
Bets, Danko, it's time to combine a guilty little
(00:05):
pleasure with a new healthyhabit. Kick up your feet and
listen in. This is wisdom andchocolate.
This is bets Danko, and you arelistening to wisdom and
chocolate, and today we're goingto be talking about organizing
your life, and I know that mightbe an overwhelming topic for
(00:26):
you. There are a lot of peopleout there who have a lot to
organize, and I am one of thosepeople. I think that it's part
of being human, actually havingthings to organize and
reorganize and revisit toorganize throughout your life.
Now I recognize that this couldbe also a dry subject for some
(00:48):
people, like, I don't want tohear about organizing my life,
right? Maybe it's something youjust don't want to do. And I get
that, but stick with me, becausethere are going to be some
really easy things that we'regoing to talk about that can
really change your life. Sowe're going to be going beyond
(01:08):
the planner today. Yes, I am allfor using a planner and making
sure you're blocking out timeand getting things done by
understanding what exactly needsto be done. I'm all about that,
but there are things that can bedone outside of your planner,
things that you can make ashabits, so that you can just get
(01:29):
them done automatically that weneed to talk about and we need
to get in your life. The thingthat we need to recognize is
that that old saying about amessy house is an indication of
a messy mind. However, thephrase goes right is so true.
Most of the people that I knowwho have a mess in their homes,
(01:52):
they got a lot going onupstairs, and it's not always
something that is helpful forthem. In fact, many times what's
going on in their minds isactually what causes the mess
that is in their homes and theiroffices and their cars. When
you've got a lot of stuff goingon in your head, you're
(02:14):
constantly thinking and worryingand wondering and not
understanding where you stand,where you're headed when all of
that stuff is always going onyour your home and your car are
going to reflect that. So ifyou're feeling like life is out
of control, life will be out ofcontrol in your living spaces
and your workspaces. If you'refeeling like you never seem to
(02:38):
be able to zero in on anyparticular task, then there are
going to be 50 million taskssitting in front of you in the
form of a mess that prove whatit is that you're thinking. See,
here's another thing about thehuman mind. We have this lovely
way of proving ourselves right.
In fact, everything we do inlife is sort of for the end of
feeling as though we knowexactly what's going on, because
(03:02):
we've just proven that we'reright. So if you say to
yourself, my life is a mess,well then you're going to create
a mess so that you can provethat you're right. We all have a
need to feel as though we are anexpert at something, that we're
right about something, and evenif it's not healthy, we'll go
out of our way to proveourselves, right? But if you're
(03:23):
looking at your life right now,and you're looking at the mess
that's going on externally, it'stime to look internally and
figure out what is going on.
That mess in front of you is amirror of your mind, right? This
is something you really need tolook at. Now, I just getting
(03:45):
over a bunch of constructiondone, reconstruction done in my
office. There was a lot of waterdamage. There was a wall that
was totally ripped apart, subflooring that had to come out.
There was a leaking pipe,basically. And so mold became an
issue throughout the wholebuilding, so we had to get rid
of the source, and in gettingrid of the source, we needed to
(04:07):
protect me so that I couldcontinue working. So there was a
lot of plastic that was put up.
There were a lot of fans thatwere used. There was, there was
a lot going on to make sure thatI wasn't exposed to all of that
mold, and the exposure that Imight get was absolutely
minimal, but in doing that, wealso need to make sure that the
(04:28):
things that I work with that arenormally kept in the back of the
building were kept safe and asmold free as they possibly could
be. And I phrase it that way,because mold took hold before we
knew it was there. That meantthat spores were already on the
things that were in thisbuilding. So even as I moved
(04:49):
things forward, it was more sothey wouldn't get worse, not to
make sure that they never gotthe mold. So my life was. Chaos.
It was chaos on a physicallevel, as I'm fighting off my
immune response to all of thismold. And then chaos in a
physical way, because all ofthis stuff was moved into this
part of the building, and Icouldn't do my regular photo
(05:13):
shoots. It was difficult to geta lot of my work done, because
every time I needed to dosomething, I had to move it out
of the view of the camera, andso my life became chaotic, and
of course, it stemmed from meneeding to react to what was
going on at the back of thebuilding. So sometimes the mess
(05:34):
that's going on in your head iscaused by external factors. It's
not just you, right, but thatdoesn't change how it plays out
in your everyday life. It canstill be disruptive, and
certainly it was, but now, aswe've opened everything up, I'm
able to shift and move things sothat it feels more open, so that
(05:57):
I feel as though my mind is lesscluttered, and so I am actually
feeling clearer in my mind andmore motivated to get things
done. So these two things workhand in hand, and it's important
not to discount either side.
What's going on in your home orin your business needs to be
(06:21):
tended to. What's going on inyour mind needs to be tended to,
because when you are moremotivated and empowered, you are
more likely to get things done.
So as we take ourselves awayfrom the planner, recognize the
planner stuff isn't going towork if the messy mind is still
there, or if the mess is stilleverywhere else. In fact, the
(06:41):
chances of you accomplishing thethings on that planner diminish
with every new mess that goes oninside your head. Now I want to
tell you a little bit about whatmy life has been like lately.
This whole last month has beenunusual in that I've had a lot
of traveling that I've beendoing. I've been getting a lot
(07:05):
of guests here at the house, andthere have been so many things
going on inside the family, alot of changes and transitions.
And so this was not a normalmonth, but I chose to take part
in the craziness, because Iwanted to see friends, I wanted
to see family. I wanted to bearound some of the transitions
(07:26):
to make sure that everybody wasokay, like I made choices to get
myself in the fray and get mymind in a more messy state. But
there was also a good thing thatcame out of this. You see,
sometimes when there's somethingto do, it seems very small, and
so we sort of push it aside. Noproblem, it's a small thing.
(07:48):
I'll get it done later. But thenanother small thing comes about,
and you're pushing that to theside, and then another thing,
and you're pushing that to theside until you've got this whole
mountain of things that need toget done, and then all of a
sudden, this tiny little taskbecomes something altogether too
big to finish in an afternoon.
(08:10):
But now you've got guestscoming, or if this was a work
situation, now, you've got avery big meeting coming up, or
the team is headed out in orderto analyze what's going on with
the work, right? There is a bigevent that makes it so that
you've got a deadline to getthings done. So because I had
company in my home, I'll go withthat example. There's a room
(08:35):
that is used for storage for allof the things that are used at
my live retreats. And this roomis mildly clean. I mean, it's
not like a huge mess all thetime, but when there's been an
event, all of a sudden thingshave come out of the closet, and
things have gotten spread outand then moved out to the event
and then brought back. And sothings kind of get in disarray.
(08:58):
To build on that it is a guestroom, or at least it has been,
historically a guest room. Butthis year, because of
differences going on inside thehouse, there were actually two
mattresses in the room and abigger bed than normal, and
extra blankets and extra pillowsand extra this and extra that.
And so when I needed to prepthis particular room for one of
(09:19):
the guests, it was not just amatter of put on new sheets and
vacuum the floor. This was afive hour endeavor get all of
the things put away from theretreats, this broken shelf that
we haven't attended to thatneeds to be fixed, the bed needs
to be put together. Sobasically, in the long run,
having a deadline made it sothat I actually got the room
(09:43):
clean and got all of thebusiness stuff taken care of,
and all of the extra littlethings that were saved for later
were finally done. Having adeadline is absolutely a miracle
for finding success when you'retrying. To clear up the messy
mind or the messy work area. Sowhen you don't have people
(10:06):
coming to visit, or you don'thave a big meeting coming, what
do you do? So this is when yougo back to the planner, and you
actually put on the plannersomething that needs to be done,
like invite people over, planthe meeting, get it on the
planner so that you have to getthese tasks done. And here's the
(10:26):
deal, maybe even choose the onearea that needs the most work so
that you get a huge amount ofaccomplishment done in a short
amount of time. Think of howempowered that will make you.
Think of how that will motivateyou to get even more done. This
is a beautiful way of keepingyourself on task and making sure
(10:48):
that you get things done. But ifyou can also try making it a
promise that you make toyourself and you can live up to
that, then you prove to yourselfthat you're trustworthy, that
you can get things done, thatyou are worthy of the
responsibility of taking care ofyour own life. Now I call that
(11:12):
the house guest edge. When youget a little bit of an edge,
because you know that people arecoming and you got to take care
of it. So when you're whenyou're promising yourself,
that's the personal promiseedge, but you have to prove to
yourself that you'retrustworthy, or else that edge
doesn't exist. So make sure whenyou're putting it on your
(11:34):
planner, or you're planning toget it done outside of your
planner block time, that youactually do it. You actually
take the time. I want to talkabout the L O, V O, or lovo
Swiss made coconut milkchocolate. I don't know if I've
talked about this before, to behonest with you, this is a
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chocolate that was a completesurprise for me. I had no idea
it was going to taste so good.
This is vegan, non GMO, myClimate Neutral chocolate. It
comes with not just the coconutmilk, but you can get it in
almond milk, you can get it withoat milk. And it is so creamy.
It is so good. It's one of thosechocolate bars you just don't
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want to put down. And not onlythat, when you put the chocolate
in your mouth, you savor it. Youhold on to it. You don't just
go, Okay, I'm eating chocolate,and just chow down. You want it
to last like, this is an amazingchocolate. Now, this is, like,
way up on on the top of my listof yummy chocolates and and it
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definitely is one that we needto look at as we continue to
talk about organization. And thereason I'm saying we need to
keep this in mind is becauseit's the perfect way to reward
yourself to have the yummiest,creamiest, healthiest chocolate
you can at the end of a day whenyou've accomplished something.
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Now, there might be some whosay, No, it needs to be all day
long. I just need to chow downon chocolate to keep myself
going. But no, save it to besavored. Save it as a way to
reward. Save it as a way to showyourself that you can accomplish
things. You can get things donesimply because you want to, not
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because you're trying to get thehouseguest edge on your side.
Now I want to talk about gettingthings done simply for the
approval or the comfort ofothers. And the thing I want to
bring up is actually a question,why would you not be doing these
things for the comfort of orapproval of yourself? What is it
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that makes it so that you'retrying harder when other people
are involved like this issomething that you really need
to look at you really need tounderstand what is it about the
other people that you're notrecognizing in yourself? Because
here's the deal, you are otherpeople to someone else. When
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you're doing the blockorganizing on your planner,
stick to it. Do it. Make acommitment and really follow
through. One of the things thatI've been doing is adding tasks
to things that already aregetting done, like brushing my
teeth in the morning. I'm goingto share this with you. I brush
my teeth with an electrictoothbrush. It goes for two
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minutes before it gives me anotification that, okay, you've
got two minutes done. That's 30seconds on each quadrant of my
mouth. So that's a good amountof brushing, right? And what I
do is I do leg lifts while thatbrushing is going on. It's a
good solid 60 leg lifts on eachside, so that two minutes pass,
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and I've not only brushed myteeth, but I've worked my.
Glutes and my legs andeverything just feels really
great in my lower back before Ieven start my day, and then
again, at the end of the day, Ijust added a task that's healthy
for me to an everyday activitythat I needed to get done. This
is a great way to accomplishmore than if you're just going
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for one task at a time withoutoverworking yourself. It's
important that we don't do toomuch, but that we do enough. The
other thing is that grab anddrop method, where you're
picking something up on your wayto doing something else, making
sure that you're settingyourself up for success as
you're going on to your nexttask. And I call it that because
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say, you've got something youneed to take upstairs, but you
don't want to go upstairs yet.
When you take it, you grab it,bring it with you, and you just
drop it at the bottom of thestairs. It's there for you when
you're ready to go up. And thatwas really super helpful. When I
was cleaning that extra guestroom. I didn't want to have to
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keep going up and down thestairs, but it was, you know,
difficult to really focus ongetting everything together at
once, because there were othertasks that need to be done. So
when I was dropping as I went, Iwas setting myself up for being
able to just grab everything, goupstairs and get everything done
at once. It was super, superhelpful. The other thing that
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you can do is phone reminders,set your phone to tell you when
you need to get certain thingsdone. Phone reminders, planner
reminders, your your computer,reminding you notes that you put
up inside your home or insideyour office. All of these things
are really helpful for keepingyourself on track and organized
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so you are in control of things.
You are the one who makes achoice of whether or not you're
going to stick to your tasks.
It's totally up to you. You canbe your own superhero. You can
be the person that you canalways trust, or you can be the
person who drops the ball. It'stotally up to you, but don't you
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think it'll feel much better ifyou live up to the commitments
you make to yourself, and ifyou're not just waiting to give
yourself that houseguest edge,you're getting things done
because they need to get done.
How motivated you will be whenyou get the first thing done?
How motivated you will be whenyou realize that doing tasks for
you holds more value than justgetting things done. It helps
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you to realize you can trustyourself. It helps you to
realize that what you say istrue, and when you can do that
with yourself, it amplifies therelationships you have with
other people. With that don'twait for company. Do things for
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you. Make sure that you're notjust blocking time out on your
planner, but you're givingyourself extra things to do on
top of the stuff that's alreadygetting done, like leg lifts
while you are brushing yourteeth, or other exercises while
you're getting ready to fallasleep, little things like that,
just adding tiny tasksthroughout the day can really
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make the difference in gettingyourself to a place of
motivation and empowerment bygetting the tasks done.
Everyone has something beautifulto bring to the world. And with
that in mind, I designed energydaily. In Energy daily, I help
you slow down and pay attentionto what's going on in your life
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