September 30, 2025 • 22 mins
You know that “Oh crap, the year's almost over” feeling? The pressure to squeeze twelve months of progress into three? If you're a human, chances are you've had some version of that pressure at some point in your life. In this episode, I’m breaking down what’s actually possible to accomplish in 90 days…and what’s not worth stressing over. Spoiler: it’s not about magically curing burnout or rewriting your entire identity. It’s about momentum, self-trust, and setting up rhythms that actually stick.
Whether you’re closing out the year or just craving a reset, this one’s for you.
What You’ll Learn:
- How to reframe the pressure of the “final 90 days” so it works for you, not against you
- The difference between unrealistic overhaul vs. realistic, sustainable shifts
- My 3-step process to make the most out of your 90 days
- Why building momentum (not perfection) is the smartest goal you can set
- The surprising mindset shift that makes the last stretch of the year feel lighter
If This Resonates…
If this hit home, I’d love to help you map out your own 90-day plan—one that doesn’t involve burnout, judgment, or chasing every shiny object. Book a free consult, hop into the FB group, and let’s keep this conversation going.
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Theresa (00:00):
Hey podcast listeners, welcome back to the show.
This is episode 119.
I'm recording this episode on aFriday.
It's the end of a week.
It's the end towards the end ofa month.
Actually, when you listen tothis episode, it will be the end
of the month if you'relistening when it is released,
and we're coming up on the finalthree months of the year, so I
(00:25):
wanted to talk about.
This time of year as theOctober, November, December
season is approaching.
But I wanted to talk about thisin a way that number one is a
little bit different than whatyou might.
Here when people are talkingabout how to plan out your month
(00:46):
or plan out your quarter, orhow to have a, you know, happy
and productive end to the year,which is all good and great, but
I've kind of talked about thatbefore and I wanna talk about
this.
Similar topic, but from adifferent angle.
And I also want you to knowthat if you're listening to this
episode and it's not thebeginning of a new quarter or
(01:08):
the beginning of a new month ornew year or whatever, that's
okay.
You can take this informationand apply it.
At any time of the year,anytime that you are working to
create a new habit, a newroutine, a new goal, some sort
of change that you are workingto implement or that you want to
(01:31):
implement, whether that'spersonally, professionally, or
both, this episode will behelpful regardless of when
you're listening.
Okay?
So.
With that in mind, I'm gonna goahead and dig in and I will
tweak, you know, I will, uh, inthis episode I will talk a
little bit about, um, thisspecific time of year.
(01:54):
But again, you know, take whatworks as always, take what
works, leave what doesn't.
Okay, so when you think aboutthe final three months of 2025,
which is pretty crazy.
I'm wondering what comes up inyour mind if you are anything
like me or any of the SLPs who Icoach, or my friends and
(02:15):
colleagues who are in our field.
Or even just humans, right?
People will often say somethinglike, I'm holding my breath,
like, it's the end of the yearand this is a crazy time of
year.
It's like the busiest time ofyear, and I'm just bracing for
impact holding my breath, right?
Or maybe you're hoping for amiracle.
I don't know.
I hear it all the time.
And I recognize that the final90 days of a year can feel like
(02:41):
a special brand of pressure,like a special flavor of
pressure, right?
There's this sense of, if Idon't do this now, I've wasted
the whole year.
Or oh my gosh, what was it evenwanting to accomplish this
year?
I don't even remember where Istarted in January, and here we
are in October, right?
(03:02):
But I want you to know thatthat is not.
Serving you.
And not only is it not servingyou, it's just not sustainable
for you to feel like I've gottamake a year's worth of progress
in three months worth of time.
That's not the goal here.
Okay?
So take a deep breath and we'regonna work through a plan for
you that actually supports you.
(03:23):
Maybe when you think about thefinal three months of 2025,
you're thinking like, okay, wellit's just three months and I
wasted the last nine months.
Didn't get much done.
So what can really change in 90days?
Can anything actually change?
The short answer is yes, butthe longer answer is that we
(03:44):
need to define change the rightway.
What exactly is it that you aretrying to change?
If you're trying to magicallycure yourself from burnout that
has set in over the course of,you know, 9, 6, 9 months, or if
you're looking to set up aprivate practice and have an
(04:07):
entirely full caseload and hireyour first, uh, contractor or
employee and have a profit everymonth.
That's probably not realistic,right?
That's not gonna happen.
But you can build momentum.
You absolutely can, and you canstop making yourself feel like
(04:28):
crap for not having done it allyet.
Okay, so that's your permissionto.
Release any of that pressure orexpectation or judgment, and
that alone can be game changingand can help you go into the
final three months or this nextphase with a lot more positive
(04:49):
energy and sustainable energyand have actual results.
Maybe when you think about thefinal three months, maybe you're
listening to this and you'relike, I just wanna feel proud.
I just wanna feel proud of howI closed out the year and.
Clapping for you, if that iswhat you are saying, right?
That is gold.
That's what, to me, what it isabout.
(05:11):
Feeling proud of how I closedout the year.
I have reflected.
You know, today as just today,as I've been thinking about this
podcast episode, I've reflectedon this past year for myself
and sort of just informally whatI had thought I would
accomplish, what I wanted toaccomplish, what I did, what I
didn't do.
And there was definitely somejudgment happening of like, oh,
(05:33):
you didn't do that, or youdidn't do this.
Like for example, July, themonth of July, I killed it.
In the Facebook group, I wasshowing up regularly.
I was posting, I was doingFacebook Lives every day.
Monday through Friday, I showedup and I provided value, and I
connected with the group in away like I never have.
And I was super proud ofmyself.
(05:54):
But then my brain went toAugust and September, which were
pretty dismal if I'm beinghonest.
I mean, I just really did notshow up and in the same way, and
I'm not.
Proud or happy with the way,like the value that I provided
in the group for these past twomonths.
So it would be super easy forme to think about that, focus on
(06:15):
that, and chuck this whole yearup as a waste.
But it's like, no, zoom out,right?
Overall net positive.
If I zoom out, look at thewhole year overall.
I feel proud of the changesthat I have made.
I have made progress in lots ofdifferent areas in my
professional life as a coach, asan executive functioning coach,
(06:37):
a DHD coach, productivitycoach, right?
And in my personal life with myfamily, with, with our
household and routines andthings like that.
Okay.
That's, to me, what it isabout, is that overall net
positive.
Okay, so let's talk about this.
What can actually shift in 90days, right?
(06:58):
Without you completelyoverhauling your life or having
a lobotomy and giving yourself anew personality or without, you
know.
Moving away to an island whereyou don't have any of your kids
that you have to take care of,you don't have to make dinner
every night.
You're not juggling a crazycaseload, right?
That's just not realistic.
So let's think about what isrealistic, what is possible,
(07:21):
especially if your work as anSLP is demanding.
If you have a DHD or aneurodivergent brain and you
have a life that just doesn'tstop when you have a goal like.
I can imagine that at least oneof those applies to everyone
who is listening to thispodcast.
(07:41):
Okay?
So what you can do is create astructure or a rhythm routine
that sticks.
You can start showing upconsistently, and I have
thoughts about that word, butwe're not gonna go there right
now.
You get to decide what thatmeans.
You can start showing upconsistently for one thing.
(08:04):
Not all the things, but it ispossible to start focusing on
showing up for one thing.
You can find, make, create,take 30 to 60 minutes a day, a
week, whatever works for you tocreate better systems and
rhythms.
Okay?
And it's, this can be supersimple and.
(08:27):
The process, you can rebuild orcontinue building your self
trust.
This is not about perfection.
We're aiming for progress.
I always say progress, notperfection.
Okay.
So, for example, I'll tell youone of my focuses, like my main
focus for the next 90 days is toshow up consistently in my
(08:50):
business.
And within that it is to have aweekly sort of flow in terms
of.
Podcast episodes related topicsfor Facebook Lives, social
media posts in the group, andtouching base with my email list
as well.
Now, I'm not going to holdmyself to every single piece of
(09:12):
that per se.
But I have outsourced a wholelot of this to, or I should say
with, I work on this with mycoach and I work my own coach
and with my, with chat bt withtechnology and figuring out how
I can do this simply, okay?
But what's not going to changein the next 90 days is I'm not
(09:35):
going to become a full-timecoach, nor do I want to quite
frankly love coaching, love myclients, love the art of
coaching, the science ofcoaching.
But I don't wanna be doing itfull time.
That's, that's not my goal.
I don't need to fully rewritemy identity as a fully booked
coach who has a booming Facebookgroup with lots of people who
(09:56):
are engaged and, and gettingsupport from the topics I'm
covering.
Right?
I don't need to, these are justsome examples.
I don't need to createcompletely new systems in my
home or get like major houseprojects done.
I have a bunch that arefloating through my brain.
But that's not realistic.
(10:17):
It's not necessary, and I'mcertainly not going to, and
neither are you cure your A DHDor cure your perfectionism or
cure your procrastination orcure your, I dunno, fill in the
blank, right?
None of that is going to happenin 90 days, but that's okay.
(10:38):
That's okay.
Just because you can't do thosethings in 90 days doesn't mean
that you can make progress andtake steps towards it.
Okay, so this is hopefullygoing to help you really hone in
on what is realistic right now.
I've got three steps for you ofhow you can actually come up
(11:05):
with your.
90 day plan.
I'm gonna call it a 90 dayplan.
This is not a 90 day schedule.
This is not a, you know, taskor habit or checklist for the
next three months.
No, this is like a broadstrokes, top level.
I don't know, uh, overview, Iguess would be a good word.
(11:30):
Of where you wanna focus yourenergy, your attention, and your
time over the next threemonths.
All right?
So this is a step-by-stepdoable process for you.
All right?
So if you're in, if you arelike, yes, I wanna focus on
something, I do want to see achange in my life in the next 90
(11:55):
days.
Stay with me.
Here we go.
This is for you.
You ready?
Three.
Steps.
Number one is to choose yourfocus area.
Now, some of you might bethinking, how the hell do I do
that?
Because I have a million ideasthat are floating through my
brain right now, and I don'tknow how to prioritize.
I don't know if this is toobig, too small, too broad, too
(12:16):
specific.
Okay, well here, dear listener,I've got some steps, some
substeps for you that will helpyou choose a focus area.
This is not one of the steps,but bonus, I guess, is don't
overthink this.
Truly, don't overthink this.
Let it be easy.
If you are so worried aboutchoosing the wrong thing, you're
(12:40):
not setting yourself up forsuccess.
Your mindset is not alignedwith the way that it needs to be
in order to see progress in thenext 90 days.
So keep that in mind.
Okay?
So.
Let's call this step one A.
This is, these are sort of thethree steps to help you choose
(13:00):
your focus area.
Okay?
Hopefully you're with me.
So when you are choosing yourfocus area, number one, do a
brain dump.
You know me, I love a goodbrain dump.
Maybe you don't know me.
Maybe you're new here, but Ilove a good brain dump.
So brain dump, all those ideasthat are floating through your
head of what you wanna seehappen in the next 90 days.
So do a brain dump and then.
(13:22):
The next step would be askyourself these questions.
Now you can fill in anyquestion that works for you.
I'm just gonna give you acouple that I would ask if you
were my coaching client, numberone, what would make the biggest
impact?
Which of these would make thebiggest impact on your life?
(13:45):
If it got easier, you couldthink about this as the one that
means the most to you, or wouldhave the biggest effect on the
other areas of your life.
I think about these sometimesas dominoes as domino goals or
domino focuses where if youchange this thing, it's going to
be this domino effect or thisripple effect where other
(14:06):
things, maybe even other thingson your list are gonna get
easier.
On your brain dump list, right?
So one of these might actuallysolve for some of the other ones
on your list.
So that's one thing you can askyourself.
Which of these would make thebiggest impact, if it got
easier, or which of these wouldhave a ripple effect or domino
(14:30):
effect on the others?
Another question you can ask,what would my future self thank
me for doing now?
I think about my future self alot, but what would your future
self be grateful for?
What would your future self bethankful for, proud of at the
(14:50):
end of the 90 days?
And then third question, whatfeels doable with my current
energy levels and with somerealistic ideas of what these
three months look like?
In this case for the, at thetime I'm recording this, it is
(15:11):
the last three months of theyear.
Like I said before, it doesn'tmatter when you're doing this,
but think about what do the next90 days look like, just sort of
on paper, because I don't knowabout you, but for me, the final
three months of the year are alot more, they're a lot busier,
but there's a lot moreresponsibility.
There's a lot more on my mindof things that have to get done.
(15:35):
Outside of my work in my, formy family, for my, in my
household, and those threemonths don't offer the same sort
of space and availability assay, January, February, and
March would.
So think about what those threemonths look like for you so
that you can be realistic interms of, you know, what you
(15:59):
have going on and what yourcurrent energy levels are like.
All right.
So those were the questionsjust to sort of remind you of
where we're at.
You're choosing your focusarea, and if you need help
choosing your focus area, you'vedone a brain dump of things you
wanna focus on, and now you'relooking at that list and asking
yourself the questions I justshared domino effect, future
(16:22):
self, and doable and realistic.
And then step number three,once you have asked those
questions.
Choose one.
Choose the one that's coming upfor you and name it out loud.
Like say it out loud.
Okay.
My focus area is going to beproviding consistent value for
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the people in my Facebook group.
My focus area is going to be.
Completing the necessarycourses and education
requirements for a certaincoaching certification, whatever
that might be for you.
I'm just naming some of mine.
Okay?
All right, so hopefully thathelps you choose your focus
area.
Now I've got two othersuggestions or tips for you.
(17:10):
Because you've got your focusarea, but what do you do with
it?
Right?
So this is super simple.
Again, broad strokes.
Broad strokes, people.
Okay?
So once you've got that focusarea, I want you to create an
anchor.
A weekly anchor, a weeklyanchor.
(17:31):
You can think of this as arecurring moment or point of
time.
In your week where you're goingto be checking in with yourself
about this focus, because Idon't know if you're anything
like me.
If you are, you may have setlots of goals with lots of like
(17:53):
visions and plans, and then justforget all about them, right?
I think I talked about that alittle bit at the start of the
episode.
Or you might be locked in forthe first couple weeks and then
the novelty wears off.
That shiny object isn't soshiny anymore, and you have lost
focus, lost, you know,interest, and it's now feeling
(18:13):
like a chore.
And maybe it's outta sight.
And we know that when it'soutta sight, it's outta mind.
So by having this weeklyanchor, it's this rhythm that
you will check in that helps youto check in on your focus area
each week.
Okay, so you can think of thisas a way for you to sort of
catch up if you've fallen behindor to course correct.
(18:39):
If you notice that like it'snot going according to plan, you
might need to tweak somethingor change something.
And we're doing this withoutany judgment.
Okay.
It's just neutral.
All right, so you've cr come upwith a weekly anchor and then
some sort of way to track wins.
Do not overcomplicate this.
(19:00):
Do not overdo it.
Keep it simple.
For me, I like to, when itcomes to tracking wins, I've
thought of all different ways todo this.
I've tried all different sortsof ways, and I don't force
myself to pick one way and stickwith that one way.
For me, I'm like, okay, as longas I am regularly.
(19:21):
Checking in on those wins andI'm tracking them some way.
It's okay.
One week that might be a, uh, abrain dump of like just, I'm
journaling.
It might be a journal.
Uh, entry and maybe justwriting a journal entry about
that focus area and how I'mfeeling about it, what I
accomplished.
(19:42):
Maybe it's a success list.
I love keeping like a list inmy notes app on my iPhone of
like wins big moments, littlemoments.
That are wins that are movingme towards the, the goal or the
focus that I have.
Maybe it's an actual trackerwhere you're coloring in
something or checking somethingoff every time you do it again,
(20:03):
I like to have flexibility hereso that it happens.
It doesn't matter how ithappens, but it happens.
You might hear the dog barking.
I'm just gonna keep rollingwith this people.
I think my kids are home, soit's getting a little, gonna get
a little crazy here, but.
Bear with me.
Okay.
So we are wrapping this up now,hopefully to summarize what,
(20:25):
where we're at, and then I'mgonna give you a couple of, of,
uh, last final thoughts.
You're choosing a focus area.
See my tips for how to do that.
You are creating that weeklyanchor and you're coming up with
a visible way to track thewins.
Okay, so now I am asking you,inviting you, challenging you to
(20:49):
come up with one thing thatyou're gonna commit to
experimenting with over the next90 days.
Not a should, but a want to.
Okay, want to, all right.
And if you want extra supportwith this, you can give me, uh,
send me a message, send me anemail, book a free consult.
The links are always in theshow notes.
(21:09):
I'm happy to help you any way Ican.
If you're not in the SLPsupport group on Facebook, get
in there 'cause that's wherewe're at, where we're at.
You can share wins in there andI'm be happy to have you in
that group with all of us.
All right, hope that this washelpful.
I will talk with you all soon.
Bye.
Hey podcast listeners, welcome back to the show.
This is episode 119.
I'm recording this episode on aFriday.
It's the end of a week.
It's the end towards the end ofa month.
Actually, when you listen tothis episode, it will be the end
of the month if you'relistening when it is released,
and we're coming up on the finalthree months of the year, so I
(00:25):
wanted to talk about.
This time of year as theOctober, November, December
season is approaching.
But I wanted to talk about thisin a way that number one is a
little bit different than whatyou might.
Here when people are talkingabout how to plan out your month
(00:46):
or plan out your quarter, orhow to have a, you know, happy
and productive end to the year,which is all good and great, but
I've kind of talked about thatbefore and I wanna talk about
this.
Similar topic, but from adifferent angle.
And I also want you to knowthat if you're listening to this
episode and it's not thebeginning of a new quarter or
(01:08):
the beginning of a new month ornew year or whatever, that's
okay.
You can take this informationand apply it.
At any time of the year,anytime that you are working to
create a new habit, a newroutine, a new goal, some sort
of change that you are workingto implement or that you want to
(01:31):
implement, whether that'spersonally, professionally, or
both, this episode will behelpful regardless of when
you're listening.
Okay?
So.
With that in mind, I'm gonna goahead and dig in and I will
tweak, you know, I will, uh, inthis episode I will talk a
little bit about, um, thisspecific time of year.
(01:54):
But again, you know, take whatworks as always, take what
works, leave what doesn't.
Okay, so when you think aboutthe final three months of 2025,
which is pretty crazy.
I'm wondering what comes up inyour mind if you are anything
like me or any of the SLPs who Icoach, or my friends and
(02:15):
colleagues who are in our field.
Or even just humans, right?
People will often say somethinglike, I'm holding my breath,
like, it's the end of the yearand this is a crazy time of
year.
It's like the busiest time ofyear, and I'm just bracing for
impact holding my breath, right?
Or maybe you're hoping for amiracle.
I don't know.
I hear it all the time.
And I recognize that the final90 days of a year can feel like
(02:41):
a special brand of pressure,like a special flavor of
pressure, right?
There's this sense of, if Idon't do this now, I've wasted
the whole year.
Or oh my gosh, what was it evenwanting to accomplish this
year?
I don't even remember where Istarted in January, and here we
are in October, right?
(03:02):
But I want you to know thatthat is not.
Serving you.
And not only is it not servingyou, it's just not sustainable
for you to feel like I've gottamake a year's worth of progress
in three months worth of time.
That's not the goal here.
Okay?
So take a deep breath and we'regonna work through a plan for
you that actually supports you.
(03:23):
Maybe when you think about thefinal three months of 2025,
you're thinking like, okay, wellit's just three months and I
wasted the last nine months.
Didn't get much done.
So what can really change in 90days?
Can anything actually change?
The short answer is yes, butthe longer answer is that we
(03:44):
need to define change the rightway.
What exactly is it that you aretrying to change?
If you're trying to magicallycure yourself from burnout that
has set in over the course of,you know, 9, 6, 9 months, or if
you're looking to set up aprivate practice and have an
(04:07):
entirely full caseload and hireyour first, uh, contractor or
employee and have a profit everymonth.
That's probably not realistic,right?
That's not gonna happen.
But you can build momentum.
You absolutely can, and you canstop making yourself feel like
(04:28):
crap for not having done it allyet.
Okay, so that's your permissionto.
Release any of that pressure orexpectation or judgment, and
that alone can be game changingand can help you go into the
final three months or this nextphase with a lot more positive
(04:49):
energy and sustainable energyand have actual results.
Maybe when you think about thefinal three months, maybe you're
listening to this and you'relike, I just wanna feel proud.
I just wanna feel proud of howI closed out the year and.
Clapping for you, if that iswhat you are saying, right?
That is gold.
That's what, to me, what it isabout.
(05:11):
Feeling proud of how I closedout the year.
I have reflected.
You know, today as just today,as I've been thinking about this
podcast episode, I've reflectedon this past year for myself
and sort of just informally whatI had thought I would
accomplish, what I wanted toaccomplish, what I did, what I
didn't do.
And there was definitely somejudgment happening of like, oh,
(05:33):
you didn't do that, or youdidn't do this.
Like for example, July, themonth of July, I killed it.
In the Facebook group, I wasshowing up regularly.
I was posting, I was doingFacebook Lives every day.
Monday through Friday, I showedup and I provided value, and I
connected with the group in away like I never have.
And I was super proud ofmyself.
(05:54):
But then my brain went toAugust and September, which were
pretty dismal if I'm beinghonest.
I mean, I just really did notshow up and in the same way, and
I'm not.
Proud or happy with the way,like the value that I provided
in the group for these past twomonths.
So it would be super easy forme to think about that, focus on
(06:15):
that, and chuck this whole yearup as a waste.
But it's like, no, zoom out,right?
Overall net positive.
If I zoom out, look at thewhole year overall.
I feel proud of the changesthat I have made.
I have made progress in lots ofdifferent areas in my
professional life as a coach, asan executive functioning coach,
(06:37):
a DHD coach, productivitycoach, right?
And in my personal life with myfamily, with, with our
household and routines andthings like that.
Okay.
That's, to me, what it isabout, is that overall net
positive.
Okay, so let's talk about this.
What can actually shift in 90days, right?
(06:58):
Without you completelyoverhauling your life or having
a lobotomy and giving yourself anew personality or without, you
know.
Moving away to an island whereyou don't have any of your kids
that you have to take care of,you don't have to make dinner
every night.
You're not juggling a crazycaseload, right?
That's just not realistic.
So let's think about what isrealistic, what is possible,
(07:21):
especially if your work as anSLP is demanding.
If you have a DHD or aneurodivergent brain and you
have a life that just doesn'tstop when you have a goal like.
I can imagine that at least oneof those applies to everyone
who is listening to thispodcast.
(07:41):
Okay?
So what you can do is create astructure or a rhythm routine
that sticks.
You can start showing upconsistently, and I have
thoughts about that word, butwe're not gonna go there right
now.
You get to decide what thatmeans.
You can start showing upconsistently for one thing.
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Not all the things, but it ispossible to start focusing on
showing up for one thing.
You can find, make, create,take 30 to 60 minutes a day, a
week, whatever works for you tocreate better systems and
rhythms.
Okay?
And it's, this can be supersimple and.
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The process, you can rebuild orcontinue building your self
trust.
This is not about perfection.
We're aiming for progress.
I always say progress, notperfection.
Okay.
So, for example, I'll tell youone of my focuses, like my main
focus for the next 90 days is toshow up consistently in my
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business.
And within that it is to have aweekly sort of flow in terms
of.
Podcast episodes related topicsfor Facebook Lives, social
media posts in the group, andtouching base with my email list
as well.
Now, I'm not going to holdmyself to every single piece of
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that per se.
But I have outsourced a wholelot of this to, or I should say
with, I work on this with mycoach and I work my own coach
and with my, with chat bt withtechnology and figuring out how
I can do this simply, okay?
But what's not going to changein the next 90 days is I'm not
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going to become a full-timecoach, nor do I want to quite
frankly love coaching, love myclients, love the art of
coaching, the science ofcoaching.
But I don't wanna be doing itfull time.
That's, that's not my goal.
I don't need to fully rewritemy identity as a fully booked
coach who has a booming Facebookgroup with lots of people who
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are engaged and, and gettingsupport from the topics I'm
covering.
Right?
I don't need to, these are justsome examples.
I don't need to createcompletely new systems in my
home or get like major houseprojects done.
I have a bunch that arefloating through my brain.
But that's not realistic.
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It's not necessary, and I'mcertainly not going to, and
neither are you cure your A DHDor cure your perfectionism or
cure your procrastination orcure your, I dunno, fill in the
blank, right?
None of that is going to happenin 90 days, but that's okay.
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That's okay.
Just because you can't do thosethings in 90 days doesn't mean
that you can make progress andtake steps towards it.
Okay, so this is hopefullygoing to help you really hone in
on what is realistic right now.
I've got three steps for you ofhow you can actually come up
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with your.
90 day plan.
I'm gonna call it a 90 dayplan.
This is not a 90 day schedule.
This is not a, you know, taskor habit or checklist for the
next three months.
No, this is like a broadstrokes, top level.
I don't know, uh, overview, Iguess would be a good word.
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Of where you wanna focus yourenergy, your attention, and your
time over the next threemonths.
All right?
So this is a step-by-stepdoable process for you.
All right?
So if you're in, if you arelike, yes, I wanna focus on
something, I do want to see achange in my life in the next 90
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days.
Stay with me.
Here we go.
This is for you.
You ready?
Three.
Steps.
Number one is to choose yourfocus area.
Now, some of you might bethinking, how the hell do I do
that?
Because I have a million ideasthat are floating through my
brain right now, and I don'tknow how to prioritize.
I don't know if this is toobig, too small, too broad, too
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specific.
Okay, well here, dear listener,I've got some steps, some
substeps for you that will helpyou choose a focus area.
This is not one of the steps,but bonus, I guess, is don't
overthink this.
Truly, don't overthink this.
Let it be easy.
If you are so worried aboutchoosing the wrong thing, you're
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not setting yourself up forsuccess.
Your mindset is not alignedwith the way that it needs to be
in order to see progress in thenext 90 days.
So keep that in mind.
Okay?
So.
Let's call this step one A.
This is, these are sort of thethree steps to help you choose
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your focus area.
Okay?
Hopefully you're with me.
So when you are choosing yourfocus area, number one, do a
brain dump.
You know me, I love a goodbrain dump.
Maybe you don't know me.
Maybe you're new here, but Ilove a good brain dump.
So brain dump, all those ideasthat are floating through your
head of what you wanna seehappen in the next 90 days.
So do a brain dump and then.
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The next step would be askyourself these questions.
Now you can fill in anyquestion that works for you.
I'm just gonna give you acouple that I would ask if you
were my coaching client, numberone, what would make the biggest
impact?
Which of these would make thebiggest impact on your life?
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If it got easier, you couldthink about this as the one that
means the most to you, or wouldhave the biggest effect on the
other areas of your life.
I think about these sometimesas dominoes as domino goals or
domino focuses where if youchange this thing, it's going to
be this domino effect or thisripple effect where other
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things, maybe even other thingson your list are gonna get
easier.
On your brain dump list, right?
So one of these might actuallysolve for some of the other ones
on your list.
So that's one thing you can askyourself.
Which of these would make thebiggest impact, if it got
easier, or which of these wouldhave a ripple effect or domino
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effect on the others?
Another question you can ask,what would my future self thank
me for doing now?
I think about my future self alot, but what would your future
self be grateful for?
What would your future self bethankful for, proud of at the
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end of the 90 days?
And then third question, whatfeels doable with my current
energy levels and with somerealistic ideas of what these
three months look like?
In this case for the, at thetime I'm recording this, it is
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the last three months of theyear.
Like I said before, it doesn'tmatter when you're doing this,
but think about what do the next90 days look like, just sort of
on paper, because I don't knowabout you, but for me, the final
three months of the year are alot more, they're a lot busier,
but there's a lot moreresponsibility.
There's a lot more on my mindof things that have to get done.
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Outside of my work in my, formy family, for my, in my
household, and those threemonths don't offer the same sort
of space and availability assay, January, February, and
March would.
So think about what those threemonths look like for you so
that you can be realistic interms of, you know, what you
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have going on and what yourcurrent energy levels are like.
All right.
So those were the questionsjust to sort of remind you of
where we're at.
You're choosing your focusarea, and if you need help
choosing your focus area, you'vedone a brain dump of things you
wanna focus on, and now you'relooking at that list and asking
yourself the questions I justshared domino effect, future
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self, and doable and realistic.
And then step number three,once you have asked those
questions.
Choose one.
Choose the one that's coming upfor you and name it out loud.
Like say it out loud.
Okay.
My focus area is going to beproviding consistent value for
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the people in my Facebook group.
My focus area is going to be.
Completing the necessarycourses and education
requirements for a certaincoaching certification, whatever
that might be for you.
I'm just naming some of mine.
Okay?
All right, so hopefully thathelps you choose your focus
area.
Now I've got two othersuggestions or tips for you.
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Because you've got your focusarea, but what do you do with
it?
Right?
So this is super simple.
Again, broad strokes.
Broad strokes, people.
Okay?
So once you've got that focusarea, I want you to create an
anchor.
A weekly anchor, a weeklyanchor.
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You can think of this as arecurring moment or point of
time.
In your week where you're goingto be checking in with yourself
about this focus, because Idon't know if you're anything
like me.
If you are, you may have setlots of goals with lots of like
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visions and plans, and then justforget all about them, right?
I think I talked about that alittle bit at the start of the
episode.
Or you might be locked in forthe first couple weeks and then
the novelty wears off.
That shiny object isn't soshiny anymore, and you have lost
focus, lost, you know,interest, and it's now feeling
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like a chore.
And maybe it's outta sight.
And we know that when it'soutta sight, it's outta mind.
So by having this weeklyanchor, it's this rhythm that
you will check in that helps youto check in on your focus area
each week.
Okay, so you can think of thisas a way for you to sort of
catch up if you've fallen behindor to course correct.
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If you notice that like it'snot going according to plan, you
might need to tweak somethingor change something.
And we're doing this withoutany judgment.
Okay.
It's just neutral.
All right, so you've cr come upwith a weekly anchor and then
some sort of way to track wins.
Do not overcomplicate this.
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Do not overdo it.
Keep it simple.
For me, I like to, when itcomes to tracking wins, I've
thought of all different ways todo this.
I've tried all different sortsof ways, and I don't force
myself to pick one way and stickwith that one way.
For me, I'm like, okay, as longas I am regularly.
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Checking in on those wins andI'm tracking them some way.
It's okay.
One week that might be a, uh, abrain dump of like just, I'm
journaling.
It might be a journal.
Uh, entry and maybe justwriting a journal entry about
that focus area and how I'mfeeling about it, what I
accomplished.
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Maybe it's a success list.
I love keeping like a list inmy notes app on my iPhone of
like wins big moments, littlemoments.
That are wins that are movingme towards the, the goal or the
focus that I have.
Maybe it's an actual trackerwhere you're coloring in
something or checking somethingoff every time you do it again,
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I like to have flexibility hereso that it happens.
It doesn't matter how ithappens, but it happens.
You might hear the dog barking.
I'm just gonna keep rollingwith this people.
I think my kids are home, soit's getting a little, gonna get
a little crazy here, but.
Bear with me.
Okay.
So we are wrapping this up now,hopefully to summarize what,
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where we're at, and then I'mgonna give you a couple of, of,
uh, last final thoughts.
You're choosing a focus area.
See my tips for how to do that.
You are creating that weeklyanchor and you're coming up with
a visible way to track thewins.
Okay, so now I am asking you,inviting you, challenging you to
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come up with one thing thatyou're gonna commit to
experimenting with over the next90 days.
Not a should, but a want to.
Okay, want to, all right.
And if you want extra supportwith this, you can give me, uh,
send me a message, send me anemail, book a free consult.
The links are always in theshow notes.
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I'm happy to help you any way Ican.
If you're not in the SLPsupport group on Facebook, get
in there 'cause that's wherewe're at, where we're at.
You can share wins in there andI'm be happy to have you in
that group with all of us.
All right, hope that this washelpful.
I will talk with you all soon.
Bye.
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